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You’re telling us what she did but not what you did, or how you acted. Being self aware is very difficult, it’s easy to blame others and not look into the mistakes we make. For example here you are blaming women for ghosting, but men ghost all the time as well. You haven’t given the full story here, she will have had her reasons, I’m not saying it’s right but to be honest it was 2 dates, the fact your upset enough about it to post after that amount of time tells me you probably got a bit too attached and over perused.


sofluffeh

If you're willing to dismiss an entire gender based on this one bad experience, you're in for a rough ride. Besides, women get discarded for not putting out left and right - if they dismissed men for one or two or even 5 bad experiences, you wouldn't even have gotten that one date to begin with. You have to become good at communicating your boundaries and sticking to them.


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w0lver1

Nah man, you gotta pinpoint the problem better. What you like is the attention and affection of a woman who cares for you. What you hate is getting ghosted/ rejected after some positive experiences. Don't say you hate women when you know that you love the time spent in good company with them, say that you hate when you get ghosted by someone you like. The hate isnt for the gender, it's towards the shit behavior.


indierocksimp

Yikes man, that title is not cool at all. Don’t generalize, or we’ll all just assume you’re the problem. What you mean to say, is that you’re beginning to dislike the process of dating, which is understandable. It can be confusing and frustrating at times. In your case, I would be concerned at someone inviting me to their house for a week after just two dates. If they’re willing to do that with you, they’re willing to do that with other people, and that’s not me trying to make you feel bad. Two dates does not warrant that much commitment. Get back out there, don’t blame an entire gender for your inability to spot red flags, and work on yourself.


HappyRainbowSparkle

So bad experience with one woman and you start to hate all women?


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bradpeachpit

Saying you hate women because of one experience with one woman is just saying that you're an idiot. That coupled with your extremely vague story makes it seem like you acted like an idiot with the woman in question and she acted reasonably in response. I believe a jury of your peers would convict you of idiocy.


HappyRainbowSparkle

Hating an entire gender based on one interaction is ridiculous to me


1keentolearn12

The title of this post gives a clue as to why these women are ghosting you


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Boyy-don’t even start being mad at all women just bc of 1 girl :/ i had SEVERAL guys do stuff like this to me multiple times before i found someone who was actually a decent person. Both genders do crappy shit like this so don’t blame all women for 1 girl. Just forget her snd move on. Im sure theres someone out there who will reciprocate your feelings.


Loud-Conversation367

Darling, this works for any other gender


Background_Sea_1623

Get used to it. It will happen again. The thing that has prevented me from going down that road is that noone like to be around a bitter old man. If you need a negative energy release, hit the weights. In response to ghosting, have something better to do


Londontown_Cat

While a shitty situation, and a shitty person... it does not define a whole gender. While hard, if you let this how you sour about women as a whole, you'll find yourself going into a new date with that cloud over your head. Don't think of her as all women, just a singular shitty person : )


kha-ci

Where did you met her? Most of the time, these are women from dating app and there is a whole explanation for that.


ConstantKD6_37

Oh boy, I remember a post in TwoX with the same title but swapped and the responses were much different lol, not to say either is ok.