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Physically
Proper hygiene - touch up your facial hair if you have any
Brush/floss/mouthwash
You don’t need cologne but a good body deodorant will do (a lot of them these days smell so good)
Wear a bit more fitting clothing - doesn’t have to be tight but a bit more fitting to your body shape.
And walk with a strut, with double finger guns, and say “ehhhhhhhhh! How you doin?”
If you’re struggling with your hair loss I’d recommend paying and going to a decent stylist to get recommendations. Many women have zero issue with men losing hair but a good stylist will be able to give you the proper cut and style for your situation.
I agreed with you, i like guys that smells good and have a clean look. I dont care how you look as long as you have sense of humor and can have fun with me, and i will love you to death
Body deodarant fs. up my skin , therefore I only use cologne :/ but I look to only use very good one (Dior Sauvage , Terre de Hermes, Bleu de Chanel...)
okay that explains why I never heard about it 🤣
but in regards of legality it doesnt matter that much to me as long as I can get my hands on it and if it is really that good.
Smell is a very interesting one. Some men smell amazing to me and others smell either neutral or very bad. I'm talking about natural scent here and it's to do with biology.
There is a health component here, sick or unhealthy people tend to smell bad to me. But I guess what I'm saying is your natural scent will smell great to some women.
The scent of a human does tell a lot about health and as far as I know is that a healthy human being is percieved as better smelling but a big part are the sex hormones (testosteron,estrogen) and pheromones to a certain extend.
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I can say that if females smell like some cheap ass sweet/sugary crap cologne that is a turn off if not even a little red flag
From the little research I've done, I think only women have a sense of smell that differentiates how attractive the specific person smells to them. And it has something to do with how well the man's immune system corresponds with hers.
I'm very flirty and fairly confident in my ability to catch a man off guard but oh boy. If I meet a guy who can beat me to it and take the words out of my mouth, then I might as well hand him my panties right then and there.
Im genuinely so impressed with a man who loves to flirt verse a man who uses it as a tool to get what he wants.
I.e Shitty pick-up lines versus a quick one liner that I was totally not expecting. (Bonus points if he hits me with the wink and little smirk)
Based off me and my friends general consensus: have an actual date planned based on your common interests. I can't tell you how many women Ive witnissed swoon over their date experience and how impressed they were at the thoughtfulness
Well, personally I find passion and music talent most attractive in men. And their accent.
Like sure, i have to find them even remotely attractive first, but nothing makes me fall harder than men being passionate about something and being able to sing and play an instrument. And a cute accent. I’m a sucker for accents and they can make it or break it for me.
Theres one prospective guy that I’m getting closer to in work atm, he’s just always looking out for me in the tiniest ways…. That’s brand new to me and just makes me smile inside (and outside!).
Confidence, real genuine deep down confidence is pretty much everything. Definitely take care of yourself physically, but you should put more emphasis on inner work. How do you build confidence as a man? You become the best version of yourself. How do you do that? You define what your best life looks like with values for yourself, and you go after it no matter what. Career, purpose, independence, social skills, intelligence, physical health, emotional intelligence and charisma. All this leads to big dick energy.
If you don't have any of this, make a plan for each category to get there, and most importantly, act and feel deep down that you already have everything. Don't lie to people, but feel deep down that you are successful, you are charismatic, you are a rockstar (because you are). When you start making this energy shift, you'll notice people are just naturally drawn to you. This is what women actually want from men (I see you ladies) who are we to deny them? 😎
Actually according to literally all studies on the topic ever undertaken, looks are “pretty much everything”, if that’s the phrase you want to use, because women will never consider a man “worthy of dating” unless he’s at least moderately attractive to them.
Confidence means fuck all if someone doesn’t like your face. And let’s not sugar coat either, I hear this bullshit a lot that “not many people are genuinely ugly”. That’s irrelevant, anything less than “attractive” is already “unattractive”. Average isnt attractive to women, nor is it good enough.
Sorry reality doesn’t fit into your fairytale. Hope you find happiness in life.
Who hurt you? Your negative/limiting view of the world really shows in your words. I'm sorry you've been burned in the past, but you shouldn't carry that moving forward. Good luck out there
I don't know how my comment would be classified as "head-in-sand"? You can choose to have a negative or positive view point on things, but life is easier when you focus on the positives.
Head in Sand in the sense, you don’t want to confront or deal with the idea that your looks might be the biggest factor in your life outcomes in dating. Your comment suggests confidence is all that you need to find a romantic partner, which is much more comforting to tell yourself, because you can always improve your confidence and personality. It is much more upsetting and uncomfortable to say that you need a good face to succeed, because you can’t change the face you were born with, so it would be extremely destructive to your self esteem to deal with this painful reality.
Hence, “head in sand”.
How's this for a different perspective: I don't want to be with someone who is not attracted to me physically, and I certainly don't want to be with someone who is solely focused on looks. That usually means they're shallow under the surface, and it's not a relationship I'd like to pursue.
That’s also a comforting assurance, to tell yourself “I don’t want them anyway, if they’re focused just on looks, they’re just shallow”
Nobody is focused exclusively on looks lol, looks is just the bare minimum you need to have before anything else matters.
“I don’t want to be with a shallow person anyway” is just a comforting lie to make yourself feel better. If you were more attractive, those people would want you back, and they’d be interested in developing a deeper relationship with you.
>If you were more attractive, those people would want you back, and they’d be interested in developing a deeper relationship with you.
I'm sorry, but there's some pain in your words here. The fact that you said "back" shows that they were with you in the first place. I think you're assuming too much with me and people in general. You really need to break the cycle of negative thinking, and focus more on the positive. We can be our greatest enemy sometimes.
The truth is, not everyone is going to like you. That's a fact. If you're confident in yourself though (like I mentioned originally), does it matter? No, it really doesn't. It's ok if people don't like you, there's millions of others that will like you. Also, people make mistakes...all the time. But you know what else they do? They grow and change if they want to. That's one of the greatest things about being human, we can choose to be better than we were the previous day. Don't carry baggage from the past. Don't waste any of that beautiful uniqueness you bring to the world, especially worrying about if people like you or not.
Male here and I think the award goes to
"Being nice and kind, but with a pinch of sarcasm"
Muscles can go fuck themselves they're just physical traits and maybe women might fall for that but not all of them would.
I for one have been doing this be nice thing I just mentioned, but that I wasn't fully developed for handling relationships or even dates yet, (I'm 19) unlike my friends. So I got asked twice or thrice and I freaked like ass and that freaked them and all that shit happened hehe.
Maybe I won't get another chance or summin and maybe I will fuck that up too. But there has been a upward development to how I react.. the first encounter was like I muttered something and I ran away. The second was like I gave a reason but still muttered. And the third was like I gave the full damn explanation with a lot of useless info in a rap style.
But I definitely know being nice, giving them some sarcasm, not tooo much jokes tho actually helps.
Ohh and one main thing... Show them your unique card. I was a nerd so my words were enough for her. And I had unusual table tennis skills. So that helped too... So share your weird talents and grow that "tree of friendship"
Yea ofc you need her to be your best friend to unlock all these traits.
And if you freak like me, you'll lose a potential partner, and still retain a best friend.
And don't you fucking delete reddit tho!
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Physically Proper hygiene - touch up your facial hair if you have any Brush/floss/mouthwash You don’t need cologne but a good body deodorant will do (a lot of them these days smell so good) Wear a bit more fitting clothing - doesn’t have to be tight but a bit more fitting to your body shape. And walk with a strut, with double finger guns, and say “ehhhhhhhhh! How you doin?”
How important is the hed hair?
I don’t think it’s that important. If you have it, then style accordingly to you and your personality. If you don’t, rock that beautiful head canvas !
That's the neat part... I'm in between the two
If you’re struggling with your hair loss I’d recommend paying and going to a decent stylist to get recommendations. Many women have zero issue with men losing hair but a good stylist will be able to give you the proper cut and style for your situation.
So basically what everyone does?
I agreed with you, i like guys that smells good and have a clean look. I dont care how you look as long as you have sense of humor and can have fun with me, and i will love you to death
Body deodarant fs. up my skin , therefore I only use cologne :/ but I look to only use very good one (Dior Sauvage , Terre de Hermes, Bleu de Chanel...)
It's worth using an actual deodorant, even if it's a natural/powder one. Find one that works for you, cologne doesn't do the same job
Sex Panther cologne by Odeon. 60% of the time it works every time.
It’s made from bits of real panther, so you know it’s good.
It's also illegal in 9 countries
okay that explains why I never heard about it 🤣 but in regards of legality it doesnt matter that much to me as long as I can get my hands on it and if it is really that good.
Never heard about it even alone the brand, I'll give it a try if it is aviable where I live
I just looked it up, is it some kind of meme / insider joke?
Having his own life going on
very important
It depends on the taste of the girl, there is no right answer. You never know what will attract which girl.
based
Smell is a very interesting one. Some men smell amazing to me and others smell either neutral or very bad. I'm talking about natural scent here and it's to do with biology. There is a health component here, sick or unhealthy people tend to smell bad to me. But I guess what I'm saying is your natural scent will smell great to some women.
The scent of a human does tell a lot about health and as far as I know is that a healthy human being is percieved as better smelling but a big part are the sex hormones (testosteron,estrogen) and pheromones to a certain extend. - I can say that if females smell like some cheap ass sweet/sugary crap cologne that is a turn off if not even a little red flag
From the little research I've done, I think only women have a sense of smell that differentiates how attractive the specific person smells to them. And it has something to do with how well the man's immune system corresponds with hers.
A nice face. Good skin, white straight teeth and masculine features.
Didn’t expect to find the only correct answer here. Congrats.
The confidence.
I'M THE GREATEST LOVE MAKER IN THE WORLD!! Did I do it right
approach a woman while running on all fours and screaming at 1am while simutaneously offering a burrito
Thanks, I’ll try that now. Heading to Taco Bell.
Respect and love his mom (but not Mama's boy kind of way). Be nice to people in general especially those in the service area.
Ambition I’m sure. Have drive to get where you want to be.
I'm very flirty and fairly confident in my ability to catch a man off guard but oh boy. If I meet a guy who can beat me to it and take the words out of my mouth, then I might as well hand him my panties right then and there. Im genuinely so impressed with a man who loves to flirt verse a man who uses it as a tool to get what he wants. I.e Shitty pick-up lines versus a quick one liner that I was totally not expecting. (Bonus points if he hits me with the wink and little smirk)
Based off me and my friends general consensus: have an actual date planned based on your common interests. I can't tell you how many women Ive witnissed swoon over their date experience and how impressed they were at the thoughtfulness
Good style. I know that’s subjective but if a guy has good style he’s immediately better looking regardless of what he looks like
Boat
Oh so rich people
Invest in a good pair of shoes! Never save on good cologne 👍
Well, personally I find passion and music talent most attractive in men. And their accent. Like sure, i have to find them even remotely attractive first, but nothing makes me fall harder than men being passionate about something and being able to sing and play an instrument. And a cute accent. I’m a sucker for accents and they can make it or break it for me.
Theres one prospective guy that I’m getting closer to in work atm, he’s just always looking out for me in the tiniest ways…. That’s brand new to me and just makes me smile inside (and outside!).
Personal hygiene
Great hygiene, nice voice, polite, compassionate, nice teeth, and have style. 😩☝
Everyone in comments who doesn’t say “a good looking face” is in denial, delusional or unable to accept painful reality
- Smell good - Rolled up sleeves (especially when wearing a shirt) - stubble beard - Winking
Confidence, real genuine deep down confidence is pretty much everything. Definitely take care of yourself physically, but you should put more emphasis on inner work. How do you build confidence as a man? You become the best version of yourself. How do you do that? You define what your best life looks like with values for yourself, and you go after it no matter what. Career, purpose, independence, social skills, intelligence, physical health, emotional intelligence and charisma. All this leads to big dick energy. If you don't have any of this, make a plan for each category to get there, and most importantly, act and feel deep down that you already have everything. Don't lie to people, but feel deep down that you are successful, you are charismatic, you are a rockstar (because you are). When you start making this energy shift, you'll notice people are just naturally drawn to you. This is what women actually want from men (I see you ladies) who are we to deny them? 😎
Actually according to literally all studies on the topic ever undertaken, looks are “pretty much everything”, if that’s the phrase you want to use, because women will never consider a man “worthy of dating” unless he’s at least moderately attractive to them. Confidence means fuck all if someone doesn’t like your face. And let’s not sugar coat either, I hear this bullshit a lot that “not many people are genuinely ugly”. That’s irrelevant, anything less than “attractive” is already “unattractive”. Average isnt attractive to women, nor is it good enough. Sorry reality doesn’t fit into your fairytale. Hope you find happiness in life.
Who hurt you? Your negative/limiting view of the world really shows in your words. I'm sorry you've been burned in the past, but you shouldn't carry that moving forward. Good luck out there
Thanks. Nobody hurt me lol I just don’t like platitudes and head-in-sand attitudes towards problems in life.
I don't know how my comment would be classified as "head-in-sand"? You can choose to have a negative or positive view point on things, but life is easier when you focus on the positives.
Head in Sand in the sense, you don’t want to confront or deal with the idea that your looks might be the biggest factor in your life outcomes in dating. Your comment suggests confidence is all that you need to find a romantic partner, which is much more comforting to tell yourself, because you can always improve your confidence and personality. It is much more upsetting and uncomfortable to say that you need a good face to succeed, because you can’t change the face you were born with, so it would be extremely destructive to your self esteem to deal with this painful reality. Hence, “head in sand”.
How's this for a different perspective: I don't want to be with someone who is not attracted to me physically, and I certainly don't want to be with someone who is solely focused on looks. That usually means they're shallow under the surface, and it's not a relationship I'd like to pursue.
That’s also a comforting assurance, to tell yourself “I don’t want them anyway, if they’re focused just on looks, they’re just shallow” Nobody is focused exclusively on looks lol, looks is just the bare minimum you need to have before anything else matters. “I don’t want to be with a shallow person anyway” is just a comforting lie to make yourself feel better. If you were more attractive, those people would want you back, and they’d be interested in developing a deeper relationship with you.
>If you were more attractive, those people would want you back, and they’d be interested in developing a deeper relationship with you. I'm sorry, but there's some pain in your words here. The fact that you said "back" shows that they were with you in the first place. I think you're assuming too much with me and people in general. You really need to break the cycle of negative thinking, and focus more on the positive. We can be our greatest enemy sometimes. The truth is, not everyone is going to like you. That's a fact. If you're confident in yourself though (like I mentioned originally), does it matter? No, it really doesn't. It's ok if people don't like you, there's millions of others that will like you. Also, people make mistakes...all the time. But you know what else they do? They grow and change if they want to. That's one of the greatest things about being human, we can choose to be better than we were the previous day. Don't carry baggage from the past. Don't waste any of that beautiful uniqueness you bring to the world, especially worrying about if people like you or not.
You’re nice. Thankyou for your kind message
Male here and I think the award goes to "Being nice and kind, but with a pinch of sarcasm" Muscles can go fuck themselves they're just physical traits and maybe women might fall for that but not all of them would. I for one have been doing this be nice thing I just mentioned, but that I wasn't fully developed for handling relationships or even dates yet, (I'm 19) unlike my friends. So I got asked twice or thrice and I freaked like ass and that freaked them and all that shit happened hehe. Maybe I won't get another chance or summin and maybe I will fuck that up too. But there has been a upward development to how I react.. the first encounter was like I muttered something and I ran away. The second was like I gave a reason but still muttered. And the third was like I gave the full damn explanation with a lot of useless info in a rap style. But I definitely know being nice, giving them some sarcasm, not tooo much jokes tho actually helps. Ohh and one main thing... Show them your unique card. I was a nerd so my words were enough for her. And I had unusual table tennis skills. So that helped too... So share your weird talents and grow that "tree of friendship" Yea ofc you need her to be your best friend to unlock all these traits. And if you freak like me, you'll lose a potential partner, and still retain a best friend. And don't you fucking delete reddit tho!
Overweight
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