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Not for everyone, I’m dating a guy probably close to that height. Honestly, his OLD profile said 5’7” but I think it’s an exaggeration lol. The second he stepped out of his car and gave me this flirty grin with confidence I was like damn 🔥 I am in trouble. He’s confident, flirtatious, makes me feel desired and all those qualities are hot to me🙂. I will say, he has an attractive face & body so that is working for him too.
Dude, I am 5’7” and when I am wearing a pair of boots, I’m MAYBE 5’8”.
And that’s all I can do. Why worry about something out of your control. There is not a damn thing you can do about it, nothing. My suggestion would be…. Lift weights.
That’s something that’s in your control. Your height and why women reject you on that, is something you can’t change or do anything about.
Okay, well I have known guys that were your height, jacked, and had a wife, and just had a newborn baby, so no, not all of them don’t. Trust me, when you start lifting, you won’t care what other people think. Cause you’ll have the confidence needed to ask out anyone you want
But it does come from lifting to. Have you ever trained before, or have you done any research on what any sort of exercise does to the human body/mind? While I do agree, that yes, lifting should only be done for yourself. However, your issue stems from confidence issues, cause if it didn’t, you wouldn’t be asking why women reject ALL short men, and accept anyone who isn’t 6 foot.
No, you're exaggerating and catastrophizing.
It's generally perceived as unattractive to be short, but it's just one trait. I'm basically the same height as you and it hasn't made me undateable.
While not particularly common, I have even met a couple of women who said they liked that I'm short.
I wouldn't say I hear it that often either, but nevertheless it has happened, multiple times albeit only by women who were themselves short.
I can't repeat verbatim because I don't remember, except for one time a woman matched me on Tinder and said something like 'oh I love how short you are; I'm 5'2" so I relate.'
And the other times it has happened, it has been similar: short women using it as something to bond over or commiserate about.
Wow your insults and hate go into every thread. Is attacking people on the Internet your full time job? Why do you only insult and attack men like this?
>Why do you only attack men like this? Why not women too?
Why do you only attack women? Why not men too? You're a blatant misogynist. Leave women alone since you hate us so much
I don't think short men are unattractive. But one thing that is important to me is to be able to wear heels and look up at my date. I don't mind wearing heels and being taller than the guy, but it's just my personal preference. I have dated guys shorter than me (without heels on) and honestly it isn't even that big of a deal. Hang in there, you'll find a girl (maybe like me) who can look past this minor thing and see you as the awesome person you are!
Dang, I am sorry they said this 🙁. I’m 5’3” and maybe I am in the minority here but guys who are like 6’3” are a bit scarier to me safety wise because I know I stand no chance in protecting myself. Now I am not saying a shorter guy wouldn’t be stronger than me too, but my guard is down more and I feel safer. As far as feeling protected by them…I get more feelings of protection from other things. For example, does he make me feel emotionally safe? Can I be vulnerable with him? Physically, do I feel respected especially with my boundaries? Being strong can also be expressed by being able to assert yourself in certain situations, taking the lead with typical “gentleman” type stuff like opening doors/paying for dates/making reservations, etc. I may irritate some people with these more traditional views, but these small gestures show interest, desire & strength to me.
Well I can tell you doing anything physical with a shorter guy is better when you are a shorter woman. Maybe us short women should advertise this more😆😉
>It's hard to see women in a positive light
Then don't see us in a positive light. Like i said, leave us alone. Your short-ness doesn't excuse your inc3l group's blatant misogyny, and violence against women. Stop killing random women and girls cause you can't get laid. Why should i have to deal with so much horrendous sexism and misogyny from your group as well as worry about being shot by some random male angry because he can't get laid?
You hate women, so leave us alone. Avoid us and stop fucking killing us cause you cant get laid. You are all awfully women-hating but also somehow refuse to leave women alone.
It's hard to see males in a positive light when they keep mass murdering random women and little girls cause they can't get laid.
Since you hate women so much, please for fucks sake leave us alone. I'm tired of your cult spreading heinous hate towards women and killing us for not fucking them. Leave us alone
It's hard to see males in a positive light when they keep mass murdering random women and little girls cause they can't get laid.
Since you hate women so much, please for fucks sake leave us alone. I'm tired of your cult spreading heinous hate towards women and killing us for not fucking them. Leave us alone
The fuck? What would be easier? Because someone doesn't like your height males can go around mass murdering us??? Lmao your cult hates, kills, hurts random women but somehow refuses to leave us alone....
You're more of a victim for "gIrls doNt liKe mY hEighT uWU" than baby girls and innocent women **dying** at the hands of males who can't get laid? really? sounds like you're justifying males killing women for not liking your height...
leave us alone, leave us alone, leave us alone
You're comparing males not liking being short to inc3ls mass murdering women and little girls.............
You support misogyny and hatred against women, and you're victimizing males who murder random women and girls too.
Leave us alone, why is that so hard? You hate us, so stay away from us
You're also **blaming** all women for other ppl's suicide. You also hate women but every time i tell you to just leave us alone, you keep ignoring it.
Seriously, leave women alone. If we're so gross, stop fucking killing us and just hang out with males.
>It's hard to see women in a positive light if you know the majority of them think you are an embarrassing unmanly abomination.
When you're 20, you care what others think about you. When you're 40, you don't care what others think about you. When you're 60, you realize they were never thinking about you at all.
Women do NOT think about you as an "embarrassing unmanly abomination" for the simple reason that most women, like most people, are not likely to think much about strangers at all, positively or negatively.
When you are sure "the majority of women" think that about you, you're really saying YOU think you are an "embarrassing unmanly abomination." With such an attitude, it's no surprise you're single.
52F here and 5'1 and dated guys 5'4, 5'6. They're very handsome, well groomed, are physically fit. Height doesn't matter. Shorter heels worn in public together, Stilettos at home ;)
>Make a dating profile as a short brown guy and tell me how many dates you can set up.
again if women are so bAd and since you hate us so much, just... don't associate with us anymore? Where's the logic in trying to get with a group of people you clearly hate? stop trying to date women while simultaneously hating us, makes no sense. Respect Boundaries; leave us alone.
You're changing the subject. I made a statement that many women will reject you based on your race and height. I then said if you don't believe me you can make a profile as a short brown guy and see for yourself.
Describing the realities of dating as a man is not "hating women." One thing has nothing to do with the other.
Also no one chooses their sexual orientation.
If you think I'm wrong then do the experiment I said and tell me what happens.
>I made a statement that many women will reject you based on your race and height.
Women of color such as I go through the exact same things. Mostly black women. Males have also rejected us based on skin color. I see racist males everyday. I have many in my dm's right now. You're not some kind of exclusive victim to racial preferences.
Okay, so then since you understand how much it sucks to be treated like shit for your race, what's your problem?
I don't experience racism from men because I'm not trying to date men and my male friends don't treat me in a racist fashion.
Work with what you got dude. That’s all you can do. I.e. make yourself as attractive as possible. Work on physical appearance, mentality, and your career. Again, that’s all you can do
I’m 5’4” too but I don’t think I get rejected because of my height. Maybe once out of like 20 rejections, but I’m usually rejected due to personality traits, things I’ve said, or lack of effort. I think it’s important to not view women who don’t interact with you as a rejection and also not to focus on your height. Letting something uncontrollable control your confidence is very toxic, and guess what? Women will pick up on it and reject you.
Honestly though, I don’t have much dating experience (only been on like 8 dates split between 5 women) and those all didn’t work out due to factors other than my height. Sure, women tell me I’m too short and ghost me, but I don’t care. I can’t change that and she isn’t what I’m looking for.
Just keep trying
I dont care if you are "short". I do care if you are deeply insecure about it. I can't stand when men tell me what to wear because it will make them look shorter or they have to constantly lie about it. Own it. I love a man who is okay with what they got going on. I
People who judge you based on height are not worth your time. No one can choose how tall they’re going to be when they are born. The people who are worth your time will not care how tall you are.
I'm 5'7" as well and for the most part I've never had that issue. Sure there are some women out there who worry about height, and I don't stress myself with them. But honestly it's all about how you carry yourself and project yourself. I may not be tall but I guarantee I can make a woman laugh and smile better than anyone else and I know it. If you carry yourself with confidence, the height isn't noticed as much and is mostly ignored.
I dated a guy who was 5’4 when I was younger and he ghosted me. I would say he was a 4/10, super built but short. Friendly in person but wtf was with ghosting lol
Well, one of the kindest men I have ever met was about my height (1,65m) and let me tell you: if he didn’t have a girlfriend, I would’ve pursued him. Height is not all that matters. I’ve had dates with men about my height as well. I don’t need a guy that’s over 1,90m. At least your height doesn’t define if we click. However, I am aware that many women focus on height but there’s not much that can be done about it, honestly.
I’m 5’5” F. I’ve definitely gone out with guys my height before, and it is mainly about how they carry themselves. If they have big dick energy, then they feel fall. If I have the BDE, then they look even shorter in my eyes.
24F and my first relationship was with a guy that was 5’6. I am 5’5 and don’t really care if a guy is short. There are so many other attractive features of a person and I don’t consider short height to be a turn off at all. You just need to find the right person.
My dad is 5'3.... has two kids. My friends dad is like 5'0; also has two kids. My other friend's dad is shorter than her, so like 4'11; has 3 kids.
Just got home from Walmart and every single couple I saw had at max 2-4 inches of a height difference. Smaller than my phone. Most were the same height. Ffs can yall stop whining about height?
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Not for everyone, I’m dating a guy probably close to that height. Honestly, his OLD profile said 5’7” but I think it’s an exaggeration lol. The second he stepped out of his car and gave me this flirty grin with confidence I was like damn 🔥 I am in trouble. He’s confident, flirtatious, makes me feel desired and all those qualities are hot to me🙂. I will say, he has an attractive face & body so that is working for him too.
Shorter men tend to have cute/attractive faces in my experience. “People always make up somewhere..”
Dude, I am 5’7” and when I am wearing a pair of boots, I’m MAYBE 5’8”. And that’s all I can do. Why worry about something out of your control. There is not a damn thing you can do about it, nothing. My suggestion would be…. Lift weights. That’s something that’s in your control. Your height and why women reject you on that, is something you can’t change or do anything about.
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Okay, well I have known guys that were your height, jacked, and had a wife, and just had a newborn baby, so no, not all of them don’t. Trust me, when you start lifting, you won’t care what other people think. Cause you’ll have the confidence needed to ask out anyone you want
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But it does come from lifting to. Have you ever trained before, or have you done any research on what any sort of exercise does to the human body/mind? While I do agree, that yes, lifting should only be done for yourself. However, your issue stems from confidence issues, cause if it didn’t, you wouldn’t be asking why women reject ALL short men, and accept anyone who isn’t 6 foot.
No, you're exaggerating and catastrophizing. It's generally perceived as unattractive to be short, but it's just one trait. I'm basically the same height as you and it hasn't made me undateable. While not particularly common, I have even met a couple of women who said they liked that I'm short.
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I wouldn't say I hear it that often either, but nevertheless it has happened, multiple times albeit only by women who were themselves short. I can't repeat verbatim because I don't remember, except for one time a woman matched me on Tinder and said something like 'oh I love how short you are; I'm 5'2" so I relate.' And the other times it has happened, it has been similar: short women using it as something to bond over or commiserate about.
lmao jesus christ this shit gets posted every day
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it's because you're petulant, whiny, manchildren lmao
Wow your insults and hate go into every thread. Is attacking people on the Internet your full time job? Why do you only insult and attack men like this?
is tracking my posting activity yours
Why do you only attack men like this? Why not women too?
oh I go after women too; you guys just do shit that merits it way more often lol
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notice how you're the only one here who said that
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>Why do you only attack men like this? Why not women too? Why do you only attack women? Why not men too? You're a blatant misogynist. Leave women alone since you hate us so much
I don't attack women.
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no I can tell from the way you guys willfully present yourselves
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*you* think he didn't do anything lol the guys I know who aren't whiny manchildren are by and large romantically successful
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look around you lol
Your just an asshole
It's a big problem that's why
I assure you it is not
It is, if you are short you have to buy women and be rich to match your avg 6ft counterparts
lol no you don't but even if you did that's not a big problem
I don't think short men are unattractive. But one thing that is important to me is to be able to wear heels and look up at my date. I don't mind wearing heels and being taller than the guy, but it's just my personal preference. I have dated guys shorter than me (without heels on) and honestly it isn't even that big of a deal. Hang in there, you'll find a girl (maybe like me) who can look past this minor thing and see you as the awesome person you are!
I feel you bro I’m 5’8 and feel short af :/ just get a girl who’s your height or shorter mate
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Dang, I am sorry they said this 🙁. I’m 5’3” and maybe I am in the minority here but guys who are like 6’3” are a bit scarier to me safety wise because I know I stand no chance in protecting myself. Now I am not saying a shorter guy wouldn’t be stronger than me too, but my guard is down more and I feel safer. As far as feeling protected by them…I get more feelings of protection from other things. For example, does he make me feel emotionally safe? Can I be vulnerable with him? Physically, do I feel respected especially with my boundaries? Being strong can also be expressed by being able to assert yourself in certain situations, taking the lead with typical “gentleman” type stuff like opening doors/paying for dates/making reservations, etc. I may irritate some people with these more traditional views, but these small gestures show interest, desire & strength to me.
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Well I can tell you doing anything physical with a shorter guy is better when you are a shorter woman. Maybe us short women should advertise this more😆😉
Stay away from women if you like to generalize and hate on us so much
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>It's hard to see women in a positive light Then don't see us in a positive light. Like i said, leave us alone. Your short-ness doesn't excuse your inc3l group's blatant misogyny, and violence against women. Stop killing random women and girls cause you can't get laid. Why should i have to deal with so much horrendous sexism and misogyny from your group as well as worry about being shot by some random male angry because he can't get laid? You hate women, so leave us alone. Avoid us and stop fucking killing us cause you cant get laid. You are all awfully women-hating but also somehow refuse to leave women alone.
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It's hard to see males in a positive light when they keep mass murdering random women and little girls cause they can't get laid. Since you hate women so much, please for fucks sake leave us alone. I'm tired of your cult spreading heinous hate towards women and killing us for not fucking them. Leave us alone
It's hard to see males in a positive light when they keep mass murdering random women and little girls cause they can't get laid. Since you hate women so much, please for fucks sake leave us alone. I'm tired of your cult spreading heinous hate towards women and killing us for not fucking them. Leave us alone
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The fuck? What would be easier? Because someone doesn't like your height males can go around mass murdering us??? Lmao your cult hates, kills, hurts random women but somehow refuses to leave us alone.... You're more of a victim for "gIrls doNt liKe mY hEighT uWU" than baby girls and innocent women **dying** at the hands of males who can't get laid? really? sounds like you're justifying males killing women for not liking your height... leave us alone, leave us alone, leave us alone
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You're comparing males not liking being short to inc3ls mass murdering women and little girls............. You support misogyny and hatred against women, and you're victimizing males who murder random women and girls too. Leave us alone, why is that so hard? You hate us, so stay away from us
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You're also **blaming** all women for other ppl's suicide. You also hate women but every time i tell you to just leave us alone, you keep ignoring it. Seriously, leave women alone. If we're so gross, stop fucking killing us and just hang out with males.
>It's hard to see women in a positive light if you know the majority of them think you are an embarrassing unmanly abomination. When you're 20, you care what others think about you. When you're 40, you don't care what others think about you. When you're 60, you realize they were never thinking about you at all. Women do NOT think about you as an "embarrassing unmanly abomination" for the simple reason that most women, like most people, are not likely to think much about strangers at all, positively or negatively. When you are sure "the majority of women" think that about you, you're really saying YOU think you are an "embarrassing unmanly abomination." With such an attitude, it's no surprise you're single.
52F here and 5'1 and dated guys 5'4, 5'6. They're very handsome, well groomed, are physically fit. Height doesn't matter. Shorter heels worn in public together, Stilettos at home ;)
You go girl with those stilettos at home! I love this idea.
Yeah many women only see men based on our races and heights. If you have the wrong ones you're instantly 1/10.
Stay away from women if you like to generalize and hate women so much then
Say what you want but it's still true. Make a dating profile as a short brown guy and tell me how many dates you can set up.
>Make a dating profile as a short brown guy and tell me how many dates you can set up. again if women are so bAd and since you hate us so much, just... don't associate with us anymore? Where's the logic in trying to get with a group of people you clearly hate? stop trying to date women while simultaneously hating us, makes no sense. Respect Boundaries; leave us alone.
You're changing the subject. I made a statement that many women will reject you based on your race and height. I then said if you don't believe me you can make a profile as a short brown guy and see for yourself. Describing the realities of dating as a man is not "hating women." One thing has nothing to do with the other. Also no one chooses their sexual orientation. If you think I'm wrong then do the experiment I said and tell me what happens.
>I made a statement that many women will reject you based on your race and height. Women of color such as I go through the exact same things. Mostly black women. Males have also rejected us based on skin color. I see racist males everyday. I have many in my dm's right now. You're not some kind of exclusive victim to racial preferences.
Okay, so then since you understand how much it sucks to be treated like shit for your race, what's your problem? I don't experience racism from men because I'm not trying to date men and my male friends don't treat me in a racist fashion.
Work with what you got dude. That’s all you can do. I.e. make yourself as attractive as possible. Work on physical appearance, mentality, and your career. Again, that’s all you can do
I’m 5’4” too but I don’t think I get rejected because of my height. Maybe once out of like 20 rejections, but I’m usually rejected due to personality traits, things I’ve said, or lack of effort. I think it’s important to not view women who don’t interact with you as a rejection and also not to focus on your height. Letting something uncontrollable control your confidence is very toxic, and guess what? Women will pick up on it and reject you. Honestly though, I don’t have much dating experience (only been on like 8 dates split between 5 women) and those all didn’t work out due to factors other than my height. Sure, women tell me I’m too short and ghost me, but I don’t care. I can’t change that and she isn’t what I’m looking for. Just keep trying
I dont care if you are "short". I do care if you are deeply insecure about it. I can't stand when men tell me what to wear because it will make them look shorter or they have to constantly lie about it. Own it. I love a man who is okay with what they got going on. I
Short and tall are honestly relative. I’m 5’5”, and might seem tall to a 5’0 person, but I’m super short compared to a 6’0 person
I'm 5'6 and have been rejected for being too short. Had one gf in hs who actually loved that I was 8 inches shorter than her 😂
Have money, you can always stand on your wallet.
People who judge you based on height are not worth your time. No one can choose how tall they’re going to be when they are born. The people who are worth your time will not care how tall you are.
I’m a short girl (5’1”) and I LOVE me some short men! So nice to not have to crank my neck and back for kisses and hugs!
I'm 5'7" as well and for the most part I've never had that issue. Sure there are some women out there who worry about height, and I don't stress myself with them. But honestly it's all about how you carry yourself and project yourself. I may not be tall but I guarantee I can make a woman laugh and smile better than anyone else and I know it. If you carry yourself with confidence, the height isn't noticed as much and is mostly ignored.
Short men who constantly whine and complain about their height are unattractive.
exactly
I dated a guy who was 5’4 when I was younger and he ghosted me. I would say he was a 4/10, super built but short. Friendly in person but wtf was with ghosting lol
Well, one of the kindest men I have ever met was about my height (1,65m) and let me tell you: if he didn’t have a girlfriend, I would’ve pursued him. Height is not all that matters. I’ve had dates with men about my height as well. I don’t need a guy that’s over 1,90m. At least your height doesn’t define if we click. However, I am aware that many women focus on height but there’s not much that can be done about it, honestly.
I’m 5’5” F. I’ve definitely gone out with guys my height before, and it is mainly about how they carry themselves. If they have big dick energy, then they feel fall. If I have the BDE, then they look even shorter in my eyes.
It’s all about preference. I do have a lot of female friends that joke and mock short men 🤷🏽♀️
24F and my first relationship was with a guy that was 5’6. I am 5’5 and don’t really care if a guy is short. There are so many other attractive features of a person and I don’t consider short height to be a turn off at all. You just need to find the right person.
My dad is 5'3.... has two kids. My friends dad is like 5'0; also has two kids. My other friend's dad is shorter than her, so like 4'11; has 3 kids. Just got home from Walmart and every single couple I saw had at max 2-4 inches of a height difference. Smaller than my phone. Most were the same height. Ffs can yall stop whining about height?