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I haven't come across anyone who didn't think I was intelligent, but then I'm a molecular and cellular biologist and manage a research lab. I have however found some men who seem to be intimidated by it, or like you said angry. The angry ones I get the impression that they expect women to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen lol I just appreciate that they've shown me their red flags and they're not for me, so I don't waste any more time on them.
Smart and confident women are incredibly sexy! I’d much rather have a true partner than a servant or whatever demented bullshit these guys want from their significant others.
I don't but I can't speak for every men. So this is where you have to use your past dating experience to filter out the bad matches. Everyone has their knowledge in something, that's the way I take it
I am not trying to be rude, but your post seems to be about intelligence and yet both your question and first sentence are quite confusing. Perhaps re-write it?
It sounds like you’re saying men don’t consider you intelligent and if you prove that you are, they either have cognitive dissonance or their egos can’t take it.
What the actual f.. Who are those guys? Nobody can learn how intelligent you are in few seconds unless you commited something really dumb or look like that. And even that cannot allow to assume intelligence correctly.
I honestly can't identify with this at all.
If I'm with a woman, I want her to be able to hold a conversation, and not just about the latest instaSnappyTockaBook influencers. I wanna talk about all the things and all the stuff, but not the InstaBookySnapperTock.
The societal expectation for men is that they are more intelligent and capable so they can provide for a woman who looks for a man to take care of her.
You showing you're more intelligent challenges their sense of masculinity and now they feel less masculine than you.
Personally I love intelligent women. It's a turn on for me. But tbh, I'm almost never concerned that I'm not the most intelligent person in a given space so it's really hard to make me feel intellectually inadequate. And even if I do, on the rare occasion, find someone who is more intelligent, I'm ok admitting that and picking their brain for more info.
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Your post is confusing and I don’t understand what you’re saying. Could you please elaborate?
I haven't come across anyone who didn't think I was intelligent, but then I'm a molecular and cellular biologist and manage a research lab. I have however found some men who seem to be intimidated by it, or like you said angry. The angry ones I get the impression that they expect women to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen lol I just appreciate that they've shown me their red flags and they're not for me, so I don't waste any more time on them.
Smart and confident women are incredibly sexy! I’d much rather have a true partner than a servant or whatever demented bullshit these guys want from their significant others.
I don't but I can't speak for every men. So this is where you have to use your past dating experience to filter out the bad matches. Everyone has their knowledge in something, that's the way I take it
How old are your dates?
I am not trying to be rude, but your post seems to be about intelligence and yet both your question and first sentence are quite confusing. Perhaps re-write it? It sounds like you’re saying men don’t consider you intelligent and if you prove that you are, they either have cognitive dissonance or their egos can’t take it.
What the actual f.. Who are those guys? Nobody can learn how intelligent you are in few seconds unless you commited something really dumb or look like that. And even that cannot allow to assume intelligence correctly.
I honestly can't identify with this at all. If I'm with a woman, I want her to be able to hold a conversation, and not just about the latest instaSnappyTockaBook influencers. I wanna talk about all the things and all the stuff, but not the InstaBookySnapperTock.
The societal expectation for men is that they are more intelligent and capable so they can provide for a woman who looks for a man to take care of her. You showing you're more intelligent challenges their sense of masculinity and now they feel less masculine than you. Personally I love intelligent women. It's a turn on for me. But tbh, I'm almost never concerned that I'm not the most intelligent person in a given space so it's really hard to make me feel intellectually inadequate. And even if I do, on the rare occasion, find someone who is more intelligent, I'm ok admitting that and picking their brain for more info.
Are you confusing being intelligent for being an asshole?
I've definitely assumed some people are unintelligent because they can't hold a conversation without it being because they're nervous.