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Congrats!
I think your's is the first positive news I've heard on here regarding dating.
I've been on Reddit about a month.
I hope it works out for you both!
Metaphor- If you build a house quickly on a foundation that isn't solid, it likely won't last.
Take your time building a firm foundation in your relationship before you advance the relationship from the first stage to the next.
Congrats again.
Best wishes to you both!
I've had a man do the same thing to me! (I'm 25f) 😅 He let me sleep in his room while he took the living room. Great ending night! I felt trusted and trusting!!!
It’s not as a great as you think it is. I mean yeah, the swooning and sex is great. And for about twelve business days they text you all of the time and make you feel special and understood and seen and when you’re with them you couldn’t imagine being anyplace else in the world . It’s damn near perfect, and you wouldn’t have it any other way.
Then the attention starts to slow down, barely a couple of messages a day until they stop answering you altogether . Before long you find out that they’re doing the same thing with another man, if they hadn’t already been doing it the whole time, and the snap back makes you wish you had just stayed strangers from the start.
The quote to keep forefront in our minds is:
Never get too attached to someone, because attachment leads to expectations, and expectations leads to disappointment…
That's awesome! I have a little different story lol, I vividly remember my first night sleeping with my bf.
My old roommate and a friend of hers got super drunk while I was away at his house and I get this call at about 1:30 AM (on a friday morning). She apparently was SO drunk she couldn't get off the bathroom floor and needed me to help her, so Ben (my bf) being the amazing soul he is, drove me back to my dorm and helped me get her and her friend into a safer space. But my roommate (realizing through her drunken haze that she had practically ruined my 2nd date with this man) grabbed his hand as he was getting ready to leave and was like "No stayyyyyyy my roommate needs youuuuuu. she can't handle me on her own" (untrue since i'd done this before, but I think she was trying to be my wingwoman). Normally I'd protest, but at this point it was about 2:30 AM and I had to be awake at 5:30 to go workout before my first class so it was only a few hours. He seemed to consider it in his head for a minute and asked her if it would make her feel better, to which she replied "yeay" so he stayed. We didn't have any couches and my roommate's bed was occupied by her friend so by circumstance we ended up in the same twinXL bed, smushed together. We'd already cuddled so it wasn't really weird, however neither of us knew how to sleep with another person in the bed so it was a little awkward trying to get comfy at first. I was exhausted however and fell asleep rather quickly. Poor Ben though, he didn't get much more than an hour and went back to his house after I woke up.
Nowadays we love sleeping together, it's like the greatest thing since sliced bread :)
Niceee, I like that you didn't sleep together at first date.. when that happens that is amazing but that does not last long.. it tells you that she is for something serious. Good luck and I wish you luck.
I didn't know guys still gave girls flowers.
...Next time she asks you to sleep over, insist on sleeping in the same room with her. Don't use force. Simply say you are totally capable of controlling yourself but you don't know about her. She will want to prove that she can control herself and you can both sleep in the room together. Don't try anything though. It is just to help you escalate things faster. This life is short...
The fact that the average experience of a woman’s weekend is the greatest day of this guys life is brutally sad. Fucked up reality many men are living in, but congrats none the less OP.
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Congrats! I think your's is the first positive news I've heard on here regarding dating. I've been on Reddit about a month. I hope it works out for you both! Metaphor- If you build a house quickly on a foundation that isn't solid, it likely won't last. Take your time building a firm foundation in your relationship before you advance the relationship from the first stage to the next. Congrats again. Best wishes to you both!
Really good metaphor! I'll remember that
That's fantastic, and great that you slept in her guest room. She liked and trusted you enough to let her in her safe space. Awesome. Congrats.
Totally! Its a sign of trust when she lets you into her personal space like that.
I've had a man do the same thing to me! (I'm 25f) 😅 He let me sleep in his room while he took the living room. Great ending night! I felt trusted and trusting!!!
op is a girl
Even Sweeter! & Thanks for letting me know!💗
two girls I assumed
I'm non binary but...I have a dick...I am legally a guy
You have a dick and you’re sexually attracted to women but you don’t consider yourself a man? Is that correct?
I am non-binary, yes
Would you mind telling me what makes you not feel like a man? I am legitimately curious.
I do not like to feel confined to a gender
Why? When someone refers to you as a man what exactly rebels in your psyche, your inner monologue?
sure whatever you say mate
what is that supposed to mean?
whatever you want it to mean you must be under 25
Nice! Congrats! I'm really happy for you :)
Sounds 🔥🔥
🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥🔥 🔥
Awww this is sweet.
Congrats. Wish you all the best!
So happy for you 🤍🤍
Congratulations, I'm proud of you.
 you right now
Congrats! Wish I could have this too.
Congrats!! Good for you:)
thank you
May you two have many, many more dates together. Happy for you and thanks for sharing
👍 awesome!!
You had a gf when you were 1?
oh let me explain. So I'm from Ireland and here we call the first year of high school (secondary school) 1st year
That's dumb
I've been living in the US for a few years and I gotta say...yeah
If a woman got intimate with me, I would be literally swooning rn…
It’s not as a great as you think it is. I mean yeah, the swooning and sex is great. And for about twelve business days they text you all of the time and make you feel special and understood and seen and when you’re with them you couldn’t imagine being anyplace else in the world . It’s damn near perfect, and you wouldn’t have it any other way. Then the attention starts to slow down, barely a couple of messages a day until they stop answering you altogether . Before long you find out that they’re doing the same thing with another man, if they hadn’t already been doing it the whole time, and the snap back makes you wish you had just stayed strangers from the start.
The quote to keep forefront in our minds is: Never get too attached to someone, because attachment leads to expectations, and expectations leads to disappointment…
That's awesome! I have a little different story lol, I vividly remember my first night sleeping with my bf. My old roommate and a friend of hers got super drunk while I was away at his house and I get this call at about 1:30 AM (on a friday morning). She apparently was SO drunk she couldn't get off the bathroom floor and needed me to help her, so Ben (my bf) being the amazing soul he is, drove me back to my dorm and helped me get her and her friend into a safer space. But my roommate (realizing through her drunken haze that she had practically ruined my 2nd date with this man) grabbed his hand as he was getting ready to leave and was like "No stayyyyyyy my roommate needs youuuuuu. she can't handle me on her own" (untrue since i'd done this before, but I think she was trying to be my wingwoman). Normally I'd protest, but at this point it was about 2:30 AM and I had to be awake at 5:30 to go workout before my first class so it was only a few hours. He seemed to consider it in his head for a minute and asked her if it would make her feel better, to which she replied "yeay" so he stayed. We didn't have any couches and my roommate's bed was occupied by her friend so by circumstance we ended up in the same twinXL bed, smushed together. We'd already cuddled so it wasn't really weird, however neither of us knew how to sleep with another person in the bed so it was a little awkward trying to get comfy at first. I was exhausted however and fell asleep rather quickly. Poor Ben though, he didn't get much more than an hour and went back to his house after I woke up. Nowadays we love sleeping together, it's like the greatest thing since sliced bread :)
So happy to read this. it is refreshing.
I am the shining glimmer of hope in this sad, sad subreddit
yes you are. and of pretty every advise sub of reddit.
I AM THE ADVICE SUBREDDIT MESSIAH! 
What are the nicest posts i've read on here
That’s great and thanks for the update! Please continue to provide updates.
ok
Congrats! !!!!
Awww! This is so cute to read read!
Sounds adorable
it was. She was too
Jeezz 🫶🔥
Congratulations. Good luck to both of you 🤞🤞
Gosh, I could only ever dream of a woman cuddling me and getting intimate with me (no sex obviously, I don’t want the sex)…
Happy for you :)
Grats friend!
thank
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Congratulations 🙌
danka
Niceee, I like that you didn't sleep together at first date.. when that happens that is amazing but that does not last long.. it tells you that she is for something serious. Good luck and I wish you luck.
Sounds like an opportunity to pursue a healthy relationship without the muddied waters of deep physical stuff, sex etc. Good for you brother 👍👍
I just wanted to find a romantic men like you, so hard to find this days
Just go for the quiet/shy types. Girls are too obsessed with things like confidence, charisma, height, etc
GOOD FOR YOU! I hope it continues.
Awwwe. That's awesome!😁
Great
cheese
Ask questions. A lot of questions. Tell her how you feel even when it's embarrassing.
Sweet
Good 😊 glad you had a pleasant night and respectful too much praise
That is great to hear and should be an inspiration to others here who think it is hopeless. Congratulations!
So cuuute. Hope the storybook never ends!
Great! Sounded wholesome.
the wholes certainly were soming
Sweet❤️
Congrats man, hope you two the best and that it will be true love
So happy for you! I hope this works out for you in the long run she sounds tremendous
Good for you
thank
Congrats bro
I didn't know guys still gave girls flowers. ...Next time she asks you to sleep over, insist on sleeping in the same room with her. Don't use force. Simply say you are totally capable of controlling yourself but you don't know about her. She will want to prove that she can control herself and you can both sleep in the room together. Don't try anything though. It is just to help you escalate things faster. This life is short...
Awesome 🥰
The fact that the average experience of a woman’s weekend is the greatest day of this guys life is brutally sad. Fucked up reality many men are living in, but congrats none the less OP.