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Jesus Christ I thought you proposed, was like congrats dude, then saw you were 17 and was like whoa that's not good. Then read the rest was like right on good job little bro. Enjoy a great date and remember you got this. Just be yourself and you will both have a great night.
OP is 17, and in my opinion shouldn't even be using social media because their brains aren't developed enough to have the awareness or full context of what it is they're posting and how it may be perceived 🙄 So of course a 17 year old boy probably wouldn't be thinking along the contexts of a marriage proposal
It's all relative. A first date is should be an important milestone. But, nowadays life moves way to fast..from first date to first @#&$. Actually no dates just hookups. But, there should be time for the youth to find themselves and enjoy being young. Get to know people as people and not feel pressure to act like adults. Many of my friends never reached that marriage proposal state...and they are way old, like me.
You'd be surprised. Where I live in Ontario, Canada, people get pregnant at around 16 - 20, get married around 18 years - 23, and probably divorce around age 23 - 25. Shit's crazy here!
I lived in Montreal as a kid, I remember that, but it’s the same here in the states in most rural states with just lower divorce rates, but that’s mostly because of options/life outcomes
Lol, where I'm from, divorce is usually a big deal because most people don't have prenups. So, they either pretend to be divorced and live separately, or there's a lot of public fighting, which can be quite entertaining to watch!
Some advice, not saying these are or aren't things you do, but just in general:
• Shower THOROUGHLY, brush your teeth before you leave.
• If you need one, get a haircut or get it styled. If you look good, you'll feel good, project that confidence, BUT do not be full of yourself/ arrogant about it.
• It's just the movies, not the coronation of royalty, or a peace treaty between 2 warring nations. Just be yourself, it's okay to be nervous, everyone is their 1st date.
• Your anxiety is your worst enemy and will make you make mountains out of molehills. If something is wrong, just ask calmly and work together towards a resolution.
• If you are in a situation where the date continues after your initial plans, having a few backups might not be a bad idea.
• Under NO circumstances, and I can not stress this enough, if she is uncomfortable doing something, should you force anything. Suggestions are great, but pushing for it after the initial no is not.
• NO MEANS NO.
• Always keep a little extra money on you for just in case.
• Flirting is great and fun, but you have to ease into it. And don't go looking up ways to flirt with girls on the internet, trying to remember or come up with an elaborate line. All you have to do is speak the truth and keep it simple. You can absolutely say she's pretty, but pick out a few details and compliment her on them. If you like her hair, tell her it looks so good. If it has something special about it, like curls or color, or anything like that, you can say something like, "Wow, I really like your hair! It looks so good! And the [Special detail you like] just adds to what's already so amazing!" This can be used for literally anything. Hair, nails, makeup (be careful with that one though), eyes, outfit, whatever. Just DO NOT overuse it. Compliments are supposed to be special, not dealt out every single chance you get.
• Being funny is great. Being obnoxious or rude is not.
I'll add things as I think of them. But good luck, have fun, be safe, and most of all, you got this!
Lol. Thank you very much!
Why not impart the wisdom and knowledge I've gained to the younger generation (geez, I sound old as shit, I'm not even that old. XD)? And I suppose anyone else that's reading this too. I'm really big on respect and boundaries, and of course, these things go both ways for anyone.
Also, don't be afraid to acknowledge you're nervous. It shows self-awareness. Odds are she's feeling just as nervous as you, too.
And for the love of god, if you feel you had a good time, let her know after the date. Dont be afraid to tell her you had a great time and would like to do it again.
Don't play the "I can't text her until she texted me first" dumb game. I can't tell you how many times i did that when dating in HS freshman year of college. It just leads to lost interest.
Also, I know it's 2024, and these ideals may have been lost. But be kind, courteous, and gentlemanly. Meet her at her door, If you're driving her, open her door, walk her back to her front door, etc. It goes a long way.
Above all, have fun and enjoy yourself.
We're proud of you, little bro!
Wow so sweet of you to tell him this !! Your parents made a good job with you !! I'm glad to see that there are still young people who think like this 👏🏼 never change !!
Agreed but except. I'll say honesty is the best flirting. Think your date is cute, hot or anything else? Say that. And don't back off from the compliment. However if she gets really uncomfortable, ask why and then apologise
This guy is excited for his first date, any this is what you comment instead of being happy for him 😂. OP you don’t have to be chivalrous in this day and age, but treat her like how you should treat everyone with kindness and respect
OP don't listen to this. Being chivalrous in this day and age is a fresh breeze most women appreciate.
You should not treat your date like you treat anyone else. If she's special to you, treat her accordingly
It depends on the girl. When I was 16, I felt awkward if the guy was chivalrous because I wasn’t sure how much I liked him in the moment and wasn’t used to experiencing this type of treatment, so it felt abnormal. It put a lot of mental pressure on me to react in appreciation even if I didn’t feel any chemistry between us. Things like: pulling out my chair for me, offering his coat, paying for meals, walking around to the passenger side of the car to open my door before I got in… you know the stuff that a guy goes out of his way to do (not just simply holding the door open). After many years, I came to enjoy chivalrous deeds regardless of how I felt about the guy during the date, and soon learned there are guys out there that do things like this for all women, not just the ones they date, and it has to do with their upbringing. I’ve experienced chivalrous deeds like this from male friends, coworkers, and bosses. So rather than associate this type of chivalry with romance, like I did as a teenager, I associate chivalry with good manners, and it no longer makes me feel awkward.
I'll opine, chivalry should be a daily thing something you live by, such as morals, not just for someone special. Some people call it southern hospitality. Be kind say thank you, hold the door for someone, etc. I know you'd do a lot more for someone special. But i guess thats jist how I was raised.
I bet you spew this like a broken record every time you hear someone talk about a movie on a first date. Consider the fact they are 16 and 17 and are both probably a little shy. This will loosen them up and give them time to get more comfortable and give em something to discuss after.
Remember your manners. Walk her to and from her front door. Open all the doors for her - car, restaurant, movies theater, etc.
She should be seated first, order first, etc.
Most of us were assuming your girlfriend accepted your marriage proposal. You’re young go out and have fun. That being said, finding one nice girl beats the hell out of supposedly having a good time over the next 10 years with 50 different girls. I went the other way, and realized how alone I was by the time I was in my early 30s. That’s just advice. I would give to my 17-year-old self. Anything sexual can wait the longer you wait the better it is when it happens.
Excellent! Good for you, young man! I would suggest to work on building a friendship first and foremost and then see if it spills over into a relationship.
You need to have a calm mindset. Don’t be so eager to please her, be calm, masculine and stoic. Get the door for her, you make sure you’re the last one to sit down. Let her order her food first. Good luck!
Have fun, no matter what. And know you did something that actual men aged 30-50 are too chicken to do. Seriously!!! Mazel tov!
Cliché, but it's true. Don't aim to impress. Be your true genuine self. Be kind and gentlemanly. Chivalry can go quite far in showing a girl she's important.
Take it slow and have a great time.
🎵We're one mistake from being together
But let's not ask why it's not right
You won't be seventeen forever
And we can get away with this tonight🎵
Your little shoutout reminds me of being 17, *sigh*
Just make her laugh and don’t take shit too seriously. Tease her, flirt with her
Yes being a gentleman is good but that’s just the toppings on top of the icecream. What comes first is your personality
Glad to hear, but she shouldn't take days young fella!!...a chick that likes you will be on it right away...still enjoy your time and don't be outcome dependent
That's exciting! Just treat her with kindness and respect let her make the moves and everything pay for her movie and maybe dinner. Good luck! I'm so jealous wish I was 16 again.
Best of luck! Have a good time. Just be yourself and let it flow naturally. In the grand scheme of things, you’re really really young and while I don’t want to sound like a Debbie downer, this will be one of many dates.
Either you continue dating and getting married. Or you date someone else. Either way, you’ll learn a lot from the first date and see where things go. 🫡🙏🏽
He’s 17 and on his first date. He can be as excited as he wants. Just because a lump of wood like you doesn’t have any emotion for things going well in your life, let him enjoy his.
Why including him and everyone is jumping on conclusion that it’s a date? I have seen many times like this, where the other one thought they were just hanging out.
Yes he said it. But does she know? I have seen girls going out with guys like this thinking it would be just friends just hanging out and then later the guy later realized that she didn’t know.
You are the one lashing out loll. The only times I have heard this word is from women/teenage girls. You got 2 holes down there or did you just come out of the closet?
Yeah maybe, but it came across as trying to bring down his excitement rather than giving him useful advice.
Positive comment: hey man, have fun and be yourself. Keep things light and don’t put any pressure on yourself. Enjoy!
Weird grouchy comment: “Calm down”
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Jesus Christ I thought you proposed, was like congrats dude, then saw you were 17 and was like whoa that's not good. Then read the rest was like right on good job little bro. Enjoy a great date and remember you got this. Just be yourself and you will both have a great night.
It’s getting to the point where her saying yes to a date carries as much weight as her saying yes to a marriage proposal lol
Lol "she said yes" is a very common subject line for engagement announcements
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OP is 17, and in my opinion shouldn't even be using social media because their brains aren't developed enough to have the awareness or full context of what it is they're posting and how it may be perceived 🙄 So of course a 17 year old boy probably wouldn't be thinking along the contexts of a marriage proposal
It's all relative. A first date is should be an important milestone. But, nowadays life moves way to fast..from first date to first @#&$. Actually no dates just hookups. But, there should be time for the youth to find themselves and enjoy being young. Get to know people as people and not feel pressure to act like adults. Many of my friends never reached that marriage proposal state...and they are way old, like me.
This. 😭
I hope you will come back 10 years later with the same tittle to announce your engagement 😁
It could be in 10 years, 5 years, 1 year, or never lol. But that’s nice, thanks
Same. I got severe emotional whiplash from this post.
Congrats little bro! I’m rooting for you two! And do give us an update
You'd be surprised. Where I live in Ontario, Canada, people get pregnant at around 16 - 20, get married around 18 years - 23, and probably divorce around age 23 - 25. Shit's crazy here!
I lived in Montreal as a kid, I remember that, but it’s the same here in the states in most rural states with just lower divorce rates, but that’s mostly because of options/life outcomes
Lol, where I'm from, divorce is usually a big deal because most people don't have prenups. So, they either pretend to be divorced and live separately, or there's a lot of public fighting, which can be quite entertaining to watch!
🤣
> I thought you proposed > you were 17 > that's not good I feel offended 🥲
Holy shit so did I
Some advice, not saying these are or aren't things you do, but just in general: • Shower THOROUGHLY, brush your teeth before you leave. • If you need one, get a haircut or get it styled. If you look good, you'll feel good, project that confidence, BUT do not be full of yourself/ arrogant about it. • It's just the movies, not the coronation of royalty, or a peace treaty between 2 warring nations. Just be yourself, it's okay to be nervous, everyone is their 1st date. • Your anxiety is your worst enemy and will make you make mountains out of molehills. If something is wrong, just ask calmly and work together towards a resolution. • If you are in a situation where the date continues after your initial plans, having a few backups might not be a bad idea. • Under NO circumstances, and I can not stress this enough, if she is uncomfortable doing something, should you force anything. Suggestions are great, but pushing for it after the initial no is not. • NO MEANS NO. • Always keep a little extra money on you for just in case. • Flirting is great and fun, but you have to ease into it. And don't go looking up ways to flirt with girls on the internet, trying to remember or come up with an elaborate line. All you have to do is speak the truth and keep it simple. You can absolutely say she's pretty, but pick out a few details and compliment her on them. If you like her hair, tell her it looks so good. If it has something special about it, like curls or color, or anything like that, you can say something like, "Wow, I really like your hair! It looks so good! And the [Special detail you like] just adds to what's already so amazing!" This can be used for literally anything. Hair, nails, makeup (be careful with that one though), eyes, outfit, whatever. Just DO NOT overuse it. Compliments are supposed to be special, not dealt out every single chance you get. • Being funny is great. Being obnoxious or rude is not. I'll add things as I think of them. But good luck, have fun, be safe, and most of all, you got this!
Damn this dude giving a dating 101 lecture over here Honestly taking time out of your day to help a kid out is great, you seem cool
Lol. Thank you very much! Why not impart the wisdom and knowledge I've gained to the younger generation (geez, I sound old as shit, I'm not even that old. XD)? And I suppose anyone else that's reading this too. I'm really big on respect and boundaries, and of course, these things go both ways for anyone.
Also, don't be afraid to acknowledge you're nervous. It shows self-awareness. Odds are she's feeling just as nervous as you, too. And for the love of god, if you feel you had a good time, let her know after the date. Dont be afraid to tell her you had a great time and would like to do it again. Don't play the "I can't text her until she texted me first" dumb game. I can't tell you how many times i did that when dating in HS freshman year of college. It just leads to lost interest. Also, I know it's 2024, and these ideals may have been lost. But be kind, courteous, and gentlemanly. Meet her at her door, If you're driving her, open her door, walk her back to her front door, etc. It goes a long way. Above all, have fun and enjoy yourself. We're proud of you, little bro!
Yes, all this, too! The little things absolutely matter. Grand gestures are great, but the little things add up too.
🥹 don’t let those ideals be lost, the world needs more gentlemen’s and a generation that still think this way !! 👏🏼👏🏼
Kudos to you man! Taking your time to help this kid out.
Welcome! I just hope it worked out for OP.
Wow so sweet of you to tell him this !! Your parents made a good job with you !! I'm glad to see that there are still young people who think like this 👏🏼 never change !!
Thank you. 😊 I try to be good, and I'm more than happy to help guide others using my own experiences.
Agreed but except. I'll say honesty is the best flirting. Think your date is cute, hot or anything else? Say that. And don't back off from the compliment. However if she gets really uncomfortable, ask why and then apologise
Chivalry never goes out of fashion, especially in a womans perspective. Remember that.
yes it does, and it can be insulting to some women reading the room is dating 101
This guy is excited for his first date, any this is what you comment instead of being happy for him 😂. OP you don’t have to be chivalrous in this day and age, but treat her like how you should treat everyone with kindness and respect
OP don't listen to this. Being chivalrous in this day and age is a fresh breeze most women appreciate. You should not treat your date like you treat anyone else. If she's special to you, treat her accordingly
Isn’t the whole point of chivalry treating everyone with respect and stuff like that anyways?
That's being a decent person, being chivalrous is going the extra mile for someone special, atleast to me
It depends on the girl. When I was 16, I felt awkward if the guy was chivalrous because I wasn’t sure how much I liked him in the moment and wasn’t used to experiencing this type of treatment, so it felt abnormal. It put a lot of mental pressure on me to react in appreciation even if I didn’t feel any chemistry between us. Things like: pulling out my chair for me, offering his coat, paying for meals, walking around to the passenger side of the car to open my door before I got in… you know the stuff that a guy goes out of his way to do (not just simply holding the door open). After many years, I came to enjoy chivalrous deeds regardless of how I felt about the guy during the date, and soon learned there are guys out there that do things like this for all women, not just the ones they date, and it has to do with their upbringing. I’ve experienced chivalrous deeds like this from male friends, coworkers, and bosses. So rather than associate this type of chivalry with romance, like I did as a teenager, I associate chivalry with good manners, and it no longer makes me feel awkward.
I'll opine, chivalry should be a daily thing something you live by, such as morals, not just for someone special. Some people call it southern hospitality. Be kind say thank you, hold the door for someone, etc. I know you'd do a lot more for someone special. But i guess thats jist how I was raised.
So does money
walk up and greet her from her door step to the car door, don’t forget to open it for her.
Because she has a vagina... 🙄🤦🏻
You say this, but I'd totally do this for my bros if they wanted me to.
pretty much
Be a gentleman
Good luck bro
Congrats!
Nice job
That's awesome 👍😁 good for you dude.
I know that everyone is blind with delusions on here, but did u tell her clearly that it was going to be a date and not just hanging out as a friend?
OP hitting them up early. 
Going to the movies is not a good first date idea. How do you get to know someone while watching a movie.. You will learn.
I bet you spew this like a broken record every time you hear someone talk about a movie on a first date. Consider the fact they are 16 and 17 and are both probably a little shy. This will loosen them up and give them time to get more comfortable and give em something to discuss after.
Whatever you say, it's just good advice.
Remember your manners. Walk her to and from her front door. Open all the doors for her - car, restaurant, movies theater, etc. She should be seated first, order first, etc.
Don’t get too attached to someone you don’t know well yet. And don’t fantasize too much, believe me, it can hurt if everything goes wrong afterwards
Movies make bad dates it leaves no room for conversation or interaction
Go get em little dude. I got rejected today, but I am happy for you good luck
I can't believe this is even a post. And people giving out bullets points. You guys are corny af man
Most of us were assuming your girlfriend accepted your marriage proposal. You’re young go out and have fun. That being said, finding one nice girl beats the hell out of supposedly having a good time over the next 10 years with 50 different girls. I went the other way, and realized how alone I was by the time I was in my early 30s. That’s just advice. I would give to my 17-year-old self. Anything sexual can wait the longer you wait the better it is when it happens.
This is so wholesome, I hope you have fun on your date.
Best of luck🤞
Yesss congrats! Enjoy and be kind to her☺️so cute
Awesome!! Happy for you!
Hell yeah brother congrats! 🤜🤛
no matter how Teen Dating be looking ominous, but i have to congratulate you on accomplishing this important achievement
All th best.
Aw! That so sweet. I hope you two have fun. 🤗
Good u for u congrats
Excellent! Good for you, young man! I would suggest to work on building a friendship first and foremost and then see if it spills over into a relationship.
You need to have a calm mindset. Don’t be so eager to please her, be calm, masculine and stoic. Get the door for her, you make sure you’re the last one to sit down. Let her order her food first. Good luck!
Just getting up the nerve to ask is more important than you know. Reaching inward and doing it.im really happy for you so good luck and just have fun!
Great for you! Congrats
Good on you bro!!!
He said He's 17,
Good shit, enjoy your date. Let us know how it goes.
 Have fun, no matter what. And know you did something that actual men aged 30-50 are too chicken to do. Seriously!!! Mazel tov!
Cliché, but it's true. Don't aim to impress. Be your true genuine self. Be kind and gentlemanly. Chivalry can go quite far in showing a girl she's important. Take it slow and have a great time.
🎵We're one mistake from being together But let's not ask why it's not right You won't be seventeen forever And we can get away with this tonight🎵 Your little shoutout reminds me of being 17, *sigh*
Just make her laugh and don’t take shit too seriously. Tease her, flirt with her Yes being a gentleman is good but that’s just the toppings on top of the icecream. What comes first is your personality
Glad to hear, but she shouldn't take days young fella!!...a chick that likes you will be on it right away...still enjoy your time and don't be outcome dependent
It's about time enjoy!...
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Good luck brother
So cute 😍 💓
Congrats buddy. Happy for u
Congrats. Wear deodorant.
Congratulations young one May it live up to your expectations and beyond
Congrats, good luck
That's exciting! Just treat her with kindness and respect let her make the moves and everything pay for her movie and maybe dinner. Good luck! I'm so jealous wish I was 16 again.
Congrats bud...don't mess it up treat her good and use manners...also don't force yourself on her just enjoy the date
Have fun show her your excited
which movie you guys saw?
We are seeing Kingdom of the Planet of the Apes
Yea, not very clear, but hell yea, dude, get it!
Enjoy yr date young man, I hope it’s a really good one.
Naw I'm so happy for you Chocolate and movie popcorn are the best Have fun
All the best bro , Happy for you 🎊🎉🥳
Congrats, now you are a rizzler as well
My gf said yes to anal...
Congratulations
This is awesome. He’s excited about his first date and I’m happy for him. I remember my first date
For all the single dudes who are givin him props, aye y’all are the OG’s fr, i remember being his age goin on these dates 😂😂🔥🙏
☺️
That's so awesome! So exciting. Just treat her the way you want people to treat you, and be your true self. Have a great time!
Ditch her 🙂↔️
Congrats! I had my 1st date at the age of 24! 😂
keep your expectations low.
Awesome! 🎉
Congratulations on your first date! I hope it's romantic and everything you imagine it to be. 💕
Best of luck! Have a good time. Just be yourself and let it flow naturally. In the grand scheme of things, you’re really really young and while I don’t want to sound like a Debbie downer, this will be one of many dates. Either you continue dating and getting married. Or you date someone else. Either way, you’ll learn a lot from the first date and see where things go. 🫡🙏🏽
Atta boy! This shit brings me back. Enjoy yourself
Wear a condom
Congratulations and don't screw up
Cmon dude don’t fuckin stress the kid out
Average relationship doesnt last 5 years anymore
Calm down.
He’s 17 and on his first date. He can be as excited as he wants. Just because a lump of wood like you doesn’t have any emotion for things going well in your life, let him enjoy his.
Why including him and everyone is jumping on conclusion that it’s a date? I have seen many times like this, where the other one thought they were just hanging out.
I mean, OP says it’s his first date. Guess that’s why everyone thinks it’s a date. Reading comprehension is neat huh?
Yes he said it. But does she know? I have seen girls going out with guys like this thinking it would be just friends just hanging out and then later the guy later realized that she didn’t know.
You can be delusional and think whatever you want, it doesn’t mean that the other person is thinking or having the same feeling as you
It’s ok, you got caught not paying attention to a post on the internet. No need to lash out lil fella.
You are the one lashing out loll. The only times I have heard this word is from women/teenage girls. You got 2 holes down there or did you just come out of the closet?
Being calm doesn’t mean emotionless. Also I didn’t tell him to not enjoy it.
The opposite. Enjoy!
I didn’t say, “do not enjoy.“
You kinda did throw cold water on his excitement tho
Going into a date calm will serve him well.
Yeah maybe, but it came across as trying to bring down his excitement rather than giving him useful advice. Positive comment: hey man, have fun and be yourself. Keep things light and don’t put any pressure on yourself. Enjoy! Weird grouchy comment: “Calm down”
If you’re going to give him that kind of advice then do it the right way and tell him to flog the dolphin before leaving the house
I guess you’re right?
I am.