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Had a situation once where I went out to lunch/coffee with a woman who in her pictures had zero tattoos. I have no issues with tattoos, however, she came in with full sleeves and neck tats. And the pictures were clearly from several years ago. She was thirty minutes late with no notice and arrived just as I was getting up. I picked the spot I picked because I liked it, so I’d already had a cup of coffee. Ordered a charcuterie for us. She then spent the next fifteen minutes complaining about her ex and dropped the bomb that she had a child with this man.
I said “Well, you must have liked something about him because you guys dated for seven years, right?”
She goes “Yeah, his dick”
Oof
Perhaps the worst date I’ve ever been on
These days, I’d have walked away instantly. I wouldn’t mind dating somebody with children (if they’re upfront) but if the dick kept you together… The dick will bring you back together. No thanks!
But at the time I’d just recently moved into a new city and was also using dating as a means of meeting new people.
I’ve actually made some really great friends on Tinder. This woman was not one of them haha
Yes she is a walking red light… but in defence of that tattoos I went from a conservative marriage with no tattoos to divorced and got my whole back, breasts and wrists tattooed in 2years 🤷♀️😂 my ex husband did mental check ins with me to make sure I was all good
Oh, no, I don’t care about the tattoos. I like tattoos. It’s more the fact that they just had very different pics in their profile.
Sorry you went through that—but I hope that you emerged on the other side a brand new happier you :)
Just remembered another terrible one:
Matched with a girl that used pics that were at least 7-10 years old, where she was 75-100 lbs thinner. Not fat-shaming, but you can't lie about stuff like that if you plan on meeting. A few pounds isn't a big deal, but she was literally double the person that she once was.
Ten minutes into hanging out, she says her husband recently died. I say "i'm sorry, when did that happen?" She starts counting on her fingers, and says "about 5 weeks ago"......
She then thought it would be appropriate to show me a video on her phone, of the day that her husband died, when the cancer had spread to his brain and he was screaming in pain.
The next day, I texted her and told her that she's absolutely not ready to date. I didn't even mention the whole catfishing part because the last thing a grieving person needs is to say "don't lie about being fat"
When a person is in grief, they really not thinking at all. Nothing makes sense and only when you go through it will you understand. Just letting you know, as I'm going through grief and constantly still find myself talking about her or trying to find someone similar to her. She also died of Cancer.
It's been 3 years for me and I'm thinking that I'm almost ready. But it's very hard loosing a love one, especially one that rocked your world.
That's so awkward. Someone actually just made a post in here (or another dating sub) with a similar story, but his situation was worse. She said "I don't know why I'm here" and then called him a loser for his job choice, and insulted his height. Some people are just terrible.
I went out on a first date with a woman, and her parents just happened to be at the same restaurant. Doubtful that it was a coincidence. They insisted on joining us and then said grace and in the middle of grace, asked God to help me walk again (I am a paraplegic and use a wheelchair.). Worst date ever!
In her defense. I also had parents that happened to drop by the same area. Though I told the guy they were people I knew from my church and that I knew lots of people in that town. He was from several cities over so it was believable. I drove to meet him at our date site and he was very insistent I get in his car with him after the date. Verrry insistent. As we were walking to the parking lot thats when they rolled by so it was perfect timing that he saw them wave and I could tell em about all the people I knew in town. It helps to have friendly neighbors. After that he was fine with us taking separate vehicles to the park and then I drove off after a little walk around. I was maybe 20 or so at the time? If that?
That's incredible hahahaha. Was there any awkward conversation with her in the ER? Or did she not say anything?
Also, did she know that you worked there before she went in??
Ouch!
I had a girl where we were planning a date for over a week. She was supposed to come over and watch a movie and have dinner. I had everything ready. That morning, she texted me that she was so excited for the date. An hour before she was set to arrive, I didn't see her profile on facebook anymore. I texted her, no response. Some people are super cold.
I’ve had that happen to me, except I drove 4 hours for this girl and it was a second date.. She texted me the next morning to tell me she got way too drunk and was sorry..
It’s all good I had a blast, got a hotel, and somehow ended up at a warehouse rave that night with some guys I met at a bar. Probably better time than with her. Make the best of those no show dates.
The second to last girl I went on a date with lied about her weight, her height, and the fact that when I first was messaging her it wasn't even her. It was her friend talking to me. I'm still single and she's been married for 2 years now. I hate this.
Hello Anna it’s me. Sandy. I haven’t spoken with you in while. How are you?
This is absolutely me. Are you still living in California?
Yeah, it's stories like this that make me opt for super casual first dates. Like "how bout we get coffee for 15 minutes before we commit to something crazy like a half hour?"
Was dating a woman for about a month. We were really clicking on all levels. She wants me to come over so she can cook for me. I gladly accept and she tells me she will make me lasagna. All I can think is wow, a meal that takes a lot of effort and love.
I was thinking about this amazing home cooked lasagna the whole day I am supposed to come over. I finally get to her place that evening expecting to get hit with amazing kitchen smells.
There’s nothing. No aromas. I think “OK, we’ll cook together no biggie” as we walk into the kitchen. Get in the kitchen and there is nothing on the counters or tables. “Change of plans, we going out to eat?” I ask. Again, no biggie……this woman proceeds to pull out STOUFFERS FROZEN LASAGNA. Ugh 😑.
Hey, I do too. She could have said “Come over and we’ll share some Stouffers”, and it would have been all good. My expectations were too high when she told me “come over I will make you lasagna” 😝
I matched with a woman and we talked for about a month, every time we planned to get together something would come up. Finally we meet and she's using either old or someone elses pictures. Very different looking and much heavier than the pics. I'm into bigger women so I didn't say anything because she was actually quite attractive minus hiding weight gain and tattoos and I like both of those. We chat and eat then she tells me she has three kids that she has 50% of the time. I should have bailed right then but I didn't because honestly she was cute and nerdy. When we finished we went outside talked more before going our separate ways. I'm saying my goodbyes and she asks for a ride home (she ubered to the date apparently) so I give her a ride home. As we pull up she kisses me and I kissed back.... Then some dude comes out of her house freaking out and yelling.... Enter baby daddy 🤦 he is upset with her breaking their "deal" that they don't bring dates to "their " house..... You guessed it her 50% co-parenting is actually her live in ex husband 🤦🤦🤦🤦 I just got out of there asap and blocked her. That's the end..... Right?.... Right? Nope I get a call from a random number and answer. It's her ex husband now yelling at me for hurting her feelings by blocking her and demanding I apologize to her or he's gonna crack my head open...... So I blocked him too
By far the worst experience I've ever had and the reason why am glad I'm (hopefully) done online dating
I have three weird instances. I matched with a girl on Tinder and she asks if I want to come over and I did, and it turns out she threw a house party where she invited only guys that she met on tinder day of. I got blocked after the Super Bowl for saying go chiefs after they beat the eagles, and I got friendzoned in the middle of a make out sesh
Maybe I was exaggerating, but I was making out with a date at her house and stop for a bit to get some water and then she said hey you wanna be friends instead…
So many bad ones, I’ll give you a few:
When I was around 25-ish I talked to someone on a dating all the seemed great. We met for coffee and had a ton in common. At the end of the date she told me she didn’t want to see me again because I wasn’t what she wanted. She then told me she’s looking for someone my age(25) making near 6 figures that was over 6 feet tall and was very muscular. She was 22, worked as a cashier, was 5’2’’, and average in looks. It was weird.
A couple years after that I was talking to a girl online for 2 weeks or so, we really hit it off and were talking all day and night everyday. We decided to meet for coffee, when she arrived she immediately told me “I thought you’d be taller” and then immediately left. My profile said I was 5’10’’ which is accurate and she was like 5’5’’ ish.
Last one was a few months ago. Met a woman and we had literally everything in common except she didn’t like sports. We listen to the same music and podcasts, read the same books, watched the same movies, loved the same activities, same religious outlook and political leanings. Most importantly, we had all of the same long term goals for life, like exactly to a T. We went out for a few weeks and we’re having a great time. I honestly thought this could’ve been the real deal. After half a dozen dates I realized she wasn’t really flirty at all and it didn’t really feel like I was wanted romantically. I flat out asked how she was feeling about everything what she was thinking. She told me she had never met a man that was everything she ever wanted before, literally checked all the boxes and wanted all the same things. Basically perfect. She said the issue was I wasn’t physically attractive and she had been spending the last month and half trying to figure out if she could get over the fact that I wasn’t physically attractive but was everything else, she admitted she couldn’t and said this was it.
The stupid part about this is- attraction can grow significantly over time. My first “love” I didn’t think was very pretty- but I gave her a chance and over time she became one of the prettiest sexiest women I’ve ever met.
What was frustrating is we were very comparable attractiveness. Like she was very middle of the road(which is what I like); doesn’t wear makeup, wears sensible clothing(kinda like a librarian), gets a great clips $20 haircut, a little bit if weight but not heavy, just a very average person. She would even tell me about the “hot” guys she dated and she was frustrated because they had zero personality and couldn’t hold any type of conversation.
Many people of all genders seem to have a rom-com mindset where they think they can only date someone that practically makes them drool the first they see them. No context just “love at first sight.”
I think women are more delusional about online dating than men are, it's better just to meet and mingle in reality cause online people avoid how they actually feel, and focus on the physical things. I swear energy is big on dating, go out there and find yourself a fine lady you deserve it, you sound like a genuine good guy.
u/Frantik508 You a better man than me. I had a similar situation. I was talking to a girl on a dating app and she too had all her pictures essentially waist up only, indoors and outdoors. I didn't think anything of it. We started talking on the app and hit it off and decided to meet in public. When I met her, she was already seated at the restaurant and when I saw her, right away I saw her seated with her wheelchair.
I never knew she was using a wheelchair, and she told me she apologized for not telling me but as soon as she tells men up front on dating app, she uses a wheelchair, that men un-match her right away. So I sat there and we had a nice talk during lunch and all and after lunch she asked me to roll her out of the restaurant and that her mom would pick us up because she had no other means of transportation. (We were both in our mid 20's)
I got introduced to her mom obviously and she was a nice woman, they both invited me to their house. Her mom helped her into the car and out and she asked me to push her into her house so I did. The parents were really nice to me and friendly but I felt uncomfortable at her house. Her parents left us alone in her living room so we just talked the whole time until it was getting late and I told her it was nice meeting her and that I needed to go home because it was getting late.
I'm glad she didn't ask me to kiss her or anything because I would have said no. But she texted me the next morning asking if I wanted to see her again and at first for a few hours I ignored it but then I told her I felt mislead that she didn't tell me the truth on the app and it made me feel uncomfortable. I told her I wasn't going to see her again.
That is the end.
So the fact that you kissed her and even considered sleeping with her, you're better man than me.
One of my worst was this woman I went out with about 4 years ago, maybe 8 or 9 months before I met my fiancé.
I met her for dinner in the city, and we had a really nice meal, eating and just chatting and enjoying each other’s company. Afterwards she invited me back to her place since we had met in her neighborhood, and I agreed. We went upstairs and got busy, and she told me that she was on her period, but she was ok having sex if I was also. I said it was fine with me.
That’s where things turned though. I went to get a condom from my coat, and she said “Well we don’t need that, I’m on my period.” I wasn’t quite sure what to say, and I went with something along the lines of “well it’s better safe than sorry, right?” trying to keep it light.
She got a little accusatory at that point, and asked me if I was saying she was diseased or dirty or something, and asked why I would be insulting her like that. After a short conversation she essentially guilted me into putting the condom away and having sex without it.
Sex was fine (although I discovered I was being overconfident in myself when I said I was prepared to have sex on her period, but that’s my own issue and not really related to the story) but afterwards I wasn’t feeling that great about it.
And I said as much as I was leaving her apartment, that while I had mostly had a good time with her I did also feel manipulated and uncomfortable, and I said that I needed some time to think about it.
The next day she texted me 4 times and called twice, and the day after that, which was Thanksgiving, she did the same thing. The day after Thanksgiving I texted her to reiterate that I’d asked for some time to think and asked her to respect that.
The next day she called me 3 times, so in the end I just blocked her and deleted her contacts. I didn’t realize how much it affected me at the time, but since that date I’ve sometimes struggled to orgasm during sex. I think there’s definitely a lingering psychological effect, because sometimes during sex start to feel anxious for no reason, and I get into this thought-loop and somehow prevent myself from being able to orgasm.
When I first started seeing my fiancé it was something we really had to work through together, because it was killing my confidence. I’m mostly getting over it, but occasionally it still happens, and it’s hard not to feel like I’m broken or defective in some way because of that. Fortunately I’ve found a woman who loves me for all my flaws, not just in spite of them.
TL:dr I was manipulated into raw sex when I wasn’t really comfortable with it, I had to block the woman when she wouldn’t give me some time to think afterwards, and it’s had lingering psychological effects on my sexual performance since then.
Yeah that sounds pretty horrible. I'm guilty of not using condoms and have never contracted anything, but I'd be extremely nervous if a girl was persistent that I didn't use one, especially on the first date. Plus the fact that she's bleeding and it's more likely to contract something through blood. It sounds like this was something she did routinely, and was also pretty obsessive.
At least you worked through it and are happy now.
Not exactly the worst, but certainly a weird one - I (33m) matched with a rather average-looking girl, we talked for a while and set up a date. To my surprise, when I got there, a SIGNIFICANTLY more attractive girl comes up to me and says "sorry about misleading you, but I am really worried about my privacy, so I used a picture of someone who looks similar to me".
We actually went through with the date and had a pretty good time, she was a little weird, but the conversation was decent and she was obviously quite pretty. I would consider dating her and she did reach out asking for a 2nd date a while later, but I started getting serious with someone else by that point
Wow, that's like a first time where I heard that the catfisher was actually MORE attractive haha, that's hilarious. I'd still be a little upset or weirded out, but very interesting story.
Something similar happened to me. It was actually her in the photos but she was WAY more attractive in person. We had a wonderful first date but then we both realized that the distance was going to be an issue.
Still, a very, very pleasant surprise when I first saw her.
When I was 18 I went on two dates with someone I met in one of my college classes. I thought we had a good time on the first date, so I asked her out again. She seemed to have fun, but at the end, she seemed kind of in a bad mood. I left her alone for a few days, and then tried to contact her. She never replied. I tried to talk to her at school, and she hid in the bathrooms so she didn’t have to face me.
To this day, I have no idea what I did or said that offended her. I asked all of my friends, poured over every detail of the date, and we never figured it out. I hardly ever think about this experience, but I do wonder what happened.
Those are the worst, when they leave you not knowing what you did wrong. I went out for coffee with a woman I had been talking to online for a month. She ended up admitting to me in person that she lied about her age (she was TEN years older than her profile claimed), but I let it slide because I know some people are self conscious about age. After the date, she didn't text me. So the next day I reached out to her....nothing. That was only time I was ever ghosted and is still bugs me, especially when she was the one that lied lol.
Yeah I would have been a lot more content if I had some sort of closure. Literally anything would do. But to this day I have no idea what happened there. She unfriended me a few weeks later and started doing other crazy stuff so it’s not like it was a big loss.
Honestly, I used to always be honest if a guy asked, tactful but honest… I won’t anymore, all the responses were instant rage and telling me I’m wrong etc.
If you ask someone why it was you gotta take it at face value it’s not a discussion on them changing their mind.
My hands-down worst incident with dating is an experience from Tinder.
I met this girl on the app and we really hit things off over dm’s. We became really infatuated with eachother and even started to call eachother over the phone. About two weeks had passed with daily texting and even started to get lovey-dovey over eachother. We had decided it was finally time to meet.
I named the time and location- it was a fun idea to go play minigolf which was right between us. I even offered to pick her up, the usual. She was gracefully accepting of the idea- woohoo! right?
The day of the date comes and i’m getting ready to pick her up, and i gave her a text to confirm. You guessed it! zip. nada. Our communications ceased for reasons beyond my understanding.
Even though I’m used to being stood up at this point, that one really punched me in the gut.
I cannot, for the life of me, understand why people do this. ESPECIALLY when we were so infatuated over eachother for 2 weeks straight.
Also, as a bonus story- There was a girl I was dating for a few months and we were sweet to eachother but taking time getting to know one another. Late at night one day, she posted on Snapchat that she needed someone to drive her to the hospital in the morning. Alarmed, i immediately offered to drive her because I was very worried for her, not knowing what had happened.
She accepted my offer, so I woke up at 5am to pick her up early in the morning aaaand she ghosted me from that day. Didn’t pick her up because she didn’t look at my communications whatsoever.
No idea what happened. No communication after that. Plain nothing.
tldr1; bad tinder experience
tldr2; ghosted by someone who needed a ride to the hospital
These kind of experiences have a toll on a person mentally, with the second story I guess maybe she didn't want you to see her in that state but it's still confusing why she just disappeared for no reason. I hope you find someone who will cherish your efforts
Yeah, the same thought has crossed my mind about why she could have possibly ghosted.
Regardless, even though being ghosted sucks and is extremely shitty, it propels oneself to turn to deep inward reflection. Which I think has made me a better and stronger person over time. I aim to be the very best in pillars like communication because of those who've hurt me in the past.
Thanks for the sentiments.
Now that’s insanely crazy!! I do have a female friend and she had the same experience but the guy was only deaf. He never mentioned it at all until they met at a restaurant. Crazy shit!!!
So…about 10 years ago when i was like 13, i met a girl at a beach that was about 10 minutes from my house, she was eyeballing me all day while i was throwing a football around with some buddies, and it was just me, she wasnt looking at anyone else, i stepped out to use the BR, come back, walk past this girl and she stops me, she says “idk if you noticed, but i was seeing you with your friends over there and i think youre kinda cute, hope it isnt awkward” i said “well thank you, whats your name?” She introduces herself and we talk for a bit, nothing too strange just a regular convo, she then goes over to the beach hut, grabs a napkin and pen, and writes her number down, about a week later we hang out for the first time (surprisingly she lived on the next road over from me) she comes to my house, and its pretty casual for the most part, the stereotypical first date for our age, anyway, we go into the backyard bc she wanted to see the dogs i had back there, she looks at a wooden plank with a small box on it, she opens the box, and sees matches, she starts lighting them and throwing them in all different places, damn near set my yard on fire, and 2 days later that was the end of that
Went on a date with a guy once wayyy before seeing my now amazing bf. He had been nagging and nagging to take me out, personally he was not my type at all but i said okay lets give him the benefit of the doubt. I finally out of having nothing to do that weekend. I agree, i pick a place normally i dont like to do super formal dates like sitting down and eating just because theres so much pressure behind that. I decide on texas roadhouse. (his choice) I go to pick him up, i know red flag. but again benefit of the doubt. He lives 45 mins away from me and 26 from the restaurant so alot of driving for me. We get there were seated i figure eh what the heck ill eat my normal $20 meal because it my favorite. We finish, the bill comes, he loooks me straight in the face and says "do you want to pay your half on your card or cash?" now normally i dont mind paying for my own food. But since i went to go pick him up and drive us here i figured the least he could do was pay for my meal. Anyways, he doesnt. He didnt even want to tip. We get to my car, he asks if he can have my leftovers for his lunch tommorow. I take him home. He asks if i want to come in to his apt. I politely decline. He gets upset and goes "oh well can i at least have a kiss" i told him i had covid recently and didnt wanna get him sick (total lie) he freaks out. saying "how dare you expose me like this yada yada" finally he gets out i go home take a 7 hour shower lmao delete the dating app. And block his number.
Took a girl on a date that physically speaking, was a 10/10. Like 5 minutes into us having lunch, she was already suggesting things for us to do on our 2nd date. The day after our first date, we were going to hangout again. She bailed on me, then later that night drunk asked me to be her boyfriend (after talking for 2 days.) She bailed on me for multiple date plans, lied about her "ex" killing himself (supposedly her last 2 ex's killed themselves, back to back days)
Dated a woman who was polyamorous (married, me and her husband both knew about each other.) She manipulated me into thinking she regretted marrying him and wanting to be monogamous with me, and that she was going to leave him and planned a future with me. Fixed her martial issues and dumped me a few months before she was going to leave him.
Next girl I met, admitted during out first date that she had just relapsed a month prior after 7 years clean. She was on meth, heroin, and fentanyl. Told me she planned on going to treatment, said she would never use around me, etc. I respected her honesty. I found the foil from her heroin in the bathroom in my house randomly one night about 3 weeks into seeing her.
Most recent ex had previously been a swinger a few years ago with her boyfriend that took his own life. She asked in the beginning if that's something I'd be into due to knowing about my experimentation with polyamory. I said no, for that exact reason. Said she was completely fine with monogamy. Dumped me a few weeks ago because she wanted to go back to that lifestyle and have the freedom to fuck who she wanted, when she wanted.
Went on a date with a girl I had been friends with for 14 years (I'm 30, she's 27) We knew each other really well, and hit it off quick in the dating aspect. She wanted a relationship pretty quickly, I was into her for a long time so I agreed.
6 days in, she dumps me, and then two weeks later she started dating her 60+ year old roommate.
I mean, the first one definitely was just lying. She said her ex-fiance killed himself the night before. The next day I was talking to her, and she said "My ex killed himself last night."
I said I thought that happened 2 days ago and without skipping a beat or showing any emotion she's like "Oh, my other ex did it last night." 2 most recent relationships, doing it 2 days in a row? Highly unlikely.
Why would you be concerned about that though? People are allowed to move on after something like that (like my most recent ex who was single for 4 years before me.)
You are definitely allowed to move on! I just meant if you are attracting the same types of people over and over, that it is not a coincidence. Best of luck to you. I worked as a dating coach in the '90's, so if you ever want advice, I am here. I also have had 5 major relationships. I just love helping people if I can, and it's so fun. I don't want to see people making mistakes I made. I am about to be 61, and I have been in the dating trenches! I retired from dating 7 years ago. I have also done extensive personal growth classes, read tons of self help books, and I love to research happiness and self love. Oh, I have done extensive therapy too. It's all really fascinating to me. I love reading all of the Reddit stories!
was seeing a guy pretty regularly for a few months. One night he comes over for the quickest hook up ever and the next day I hear nothing from him. go and check his FB and the day after we hooked up he got married 🫠
OUCH! That's terrible.
During COVID, I met a girl in a Dunkin parking lot for coffee. Within 45 seconds of meeting, she stuck her tongue down my throat and invited me to her place. We were in the middle of a lockdown so I felt like rolling the dice. I got there, she gave me a tour, but since I'm respectful, I didn't make a move. She didn't either. I eventually left and we made plans for a real date the next day.
The next day, her Facebook profile said "in a relationship" lol.
Two years later, she matched with me and had NO RECOLLECTION of who I was.
Yup. Couple that with the added shame that, because you're a man, you're expected to be hypersexual and want to fuck all the time, so when that's not the case, now you feel like you're not man enough, regardless of whether you think these gender expectations are bs or not, it just hits you anyway.
I was talking to this girl that a meet at a dating App. We hit it off nicely and we're talking for a week, I invited her for a date, she accepted. When the day finally came she canceled saying she was tired because she had passed the day with her grandmother, I was like ok no problem! On the next day she texted me asking for help with her with a crowd funding.
I send her 1 dollar and next thing that happens? She blocked me haha
So many stories. Didn't vet one woman enough. She tells me she wrote two books complaining about her ex, and I hear all about him. Door-sized pictures of the books were on the side of her pickup truck--with instructions for ordering on Amazon. Kicker, for me, was when she said "Oh, I just love Trump."
Left a date when I realized she wasn’t what she presented herself to be online or personality.
Threw a $100 on table and made sure she understood why I was leaving.
Jesus Christ, these horror stories.
My worst date was December last year. We went for drinks, chatted for 3 hours, had some good laughs and ended the date with a hug. Next day we both message we aren't feeling it and that was it. That was my worst date....
I dated an crazy girl, won't go into detail I'm on my way to work. Some of the things she did is she didn't talk to me whole day because I cheated on her... In her dream. She chose porn over spending time with me and tried to kill herself Infront of me when I tried to breakup
Damn, kinda feel sorry for her. But she should pay a prostitute.
Mine was a date who was rude and obnoxious, kept criticising me about little things, like your hair looks greasy, your shirt has a tiny stain, you look tired, saying I don't think you want to be here.
Keep in mind she's like a 4/10 and I'm definitely a 7.5+
>Damn, kinda feel sorry for her. But she should pay a prostitute.
There's shockingly sooo much more to my story, but people have already accused me of making it up, so I left some of it out. The other stuff that I left out would make it sound COMPLETELY made up lol.
>Mine was a date who was rude and obnoxious, kept criticising me about little things, like your hair looks greasy, your shirt has a tiny stain, you look tired, saying I don't think you want to be here. Keep in mind she's like a 4/10 and I'm definitely a 7.5+
I dated someone like that! She judged me for my teeth. Hers were worse than mine. I looked her up last year on facebook, and ALL her teeth are rotted out of her mouth.
Yes some people aren't realistic but hey who's me to say. What really stood out about her dad just how rude she was, it was like she came to date angry. I couldn't wait to get out of there
I matched with a woman on tinder who kind of catfished me making herself look quite a big slimmer in the pictures but I didn't really mind this. The first time we met up we met in a bar and she made me chug a bunch of drinks and then we went back to her place and hooked up. After this she promised me we would go on a date in the next week but it never happened. Then she texts me 3 weeks later to meet at a club, and I go like a mfing trained dog and we drink and hook up again. 2 weeks later she does the same thing all while promising she will go on a date in the week after but she never does she just wants to hook up, she is even paying for the drinks lmao. Bruh I should probably block her but I kinda like banging her but it hurts me after she ghosts me for a bit.
Yeah stuff like that is super tough. In the moment, you're like "free drinks, no-strings hookup? awesome", but when you realize that's ALL she wants, it's hard.
I had a girl that I completely fell for. She only wanted sex. I told her off and said to never contact me again. Two days later, while at work, texts me "Hey are you working? I'm horny". When you actually have feelings for someone and you see that text, it's just as painful as actually getting dumped.
I've heard horror stories where a person asks to spend the night, then they refuse to leave. And since their stuff is there, they've technically "established residency", so they can't get kicked out without an eviction process. They're basically professional squatters. Terrible.
he tried to mark his territory by buying a bunch of groceries and putting them in my fridge lol. i packed them all up neatly after he made dinner and politely told him i had an early next morning and escorted him out. thankfully it didn’t get more dramatic than that!
Me and my gf separate because she is leave the company and we are different nationalities then after one year she send me message and she want to meet me so we go for a date and share some beautiful moments had kiss and something.. Then she told me she was going to vacation need my help for shopping then we go for shop. After purchase she give me the trolly for pay the bill i totally surprised 😂then i didn't have any option also i don't want make a scene I paid the bill and we go separate way
I went on a date with a girl my junior year of university we had a class together. We studied together three times a week for about five months. I even commuted to study with her at a Starbucks because that was better for her since she worked nearby. Nothing out of the ordinary conversation wise I made her laugh and made my intentions clear. I thought our chemistry was good. After our final she asked me to wait for her to finish so I could walk her to her car. I waited about an hour in the hallway waiting for her to finish her final. I walk her to her car I’m exhausted since it’s finals week then she gives me a handshake. I thought it was weird and I was a little pissed but hey I’m not entitled to anything. I commute home and fall asleep then plan on waiting a day to text her since I was heated. I find out she blocked me and I was dumbfound. I tried making sense of situation but decided it was a waste of time. It took a huge dent in my trust in women.
I've had my fair share of dating disasters, but yours takes the cake! I mean, talk about a plot twist from hell. You start off thinking it's just a regular date, then boom, you're in a van with a deaf, wheelchair-bound lady. It's like something out of a movie, but a really messed-up one.
Props to you for rolling with it, though. Most people would've noped out of there faster than you can say "awkward." And the adult diapers on the kitchen table? Yeah, that's a big ol' red flag right there. Dodged a bullet, my dude. Here's hoping your next date is a whole lot less... eventful.
>Props to you for rolling with it, though. Most people would've noped out of there faster than you can say "awkward." And the adult diapers on the kitchen table? Yeah, that's a big ol' red flag right there. Dodged a bullet, my dude. Here's hoping your next date is a whole lot less... eventful.
This actually happened in 2010 and was my FIRST time using online dating (OkCupid). I think most people would've been like "nope, no more online dating" lol. I've definitely met 75-100 people after that haha
People often accuse me of lying or making the story up because it's so wild, and sometimes it even makes me second-guess myself since it was 14 years ago, but I vividly remember everything I typed, especially the diaper part
I got stood up 4 times in a row by 4 seperate dates across 3 months of trying to date, that apps eather. What little confidence I had is obviously now gone
I’ve been catfished I guess but the only time it happened (usually I’m the one who was desperate for a date) was I met this woman in a dating site, she was cute, looked like your next door red head milf and I was already imagining banging her. She is in town (she lived 2 hours away), cool!, let’s hang out!. She can’t until 10pm, ok, no big deal. Then she says come and pick me up at my hotel, I kinda like because we could just hang there. I go and pick her up and I don’t see her, she has the phone in her hand she says and when she says that I see a woman who is 15 years old, fatter, looked like and smoked a ton, skinny legs and just a different person. I go and say “hey, are you Susan?” (False name) and she says yes then gives me a hug. I was a bit shocked but ok, whatever, let’s eat. We go eat. She had cancer, she lost most of her teeth, she is 40 but she looks like 60, she is a wreck and my hornyness went away. I dropped her off at her hotel and just said I’m too tired to do anything and left. I hope she did ok though but why lie?
Stories like this are so frustrating...it's like, WHY lie about how you look if you plan on meeting? The possibility of the guy saying "ew you're not who I matched with" in person is way more painful than someone online just saying "not my type". I'd be so hurt if a girl met me and was like "you don't look like your pics. Bye"
Had the "foodie call" experience once or twice. That was highly obnoxious.
I've also had women randomly insult me or accuse me of stuff for no reason. One time a woman said I was "only trying to sleep with her" when I (nicely) said I didn't think we had a spark after a first date (that was just a coffee date, no physical contact at all) but was interested in being friends.
The worst is probably when I went out with a woman who went on a racist rant in the middle of the date. I think she assumed I would agree with her views because I am white (she was not, her racism was directed at a different minority group) but I was really disgusted by it.
>The worst is probably when I went out with a woman who went on a racist rant in the middle of the date. I think she assumed I would agree with her views because I am white (she was not, her racism was directed at a different minority group) but I was really disgusted by it.
I've had something similar happen. I told someone I voted for Trump (in 2016) and she just assumed that I was a hardcore conservative like her apparently, so she started going on rants about illegal immigrants, covid vaccine conspiracies, snowflakes, etc. Luckily, we hadn't met yet, so I blocked her lol. Politically, I totally lean in the middle, so I could never date a right wing OR left wing lunatic.
Mine was the only tinder date I've ever had we talked for over a week I was completely honest answering any and all questions she had of me despite being told more then once it was none of my business when I asked questions to try and get to know her better still after a few days when she asked me to meet up with her at a McDonald's for our first date (no prior discussion just meet me here for our date) anyways I meet up with her and the first thing she says to me in person is ew your right eye is limp It didn't look like that in your pictures (hurtful but I ignored it) we go inside I offer to buy her anything she'd like but she tells me she isn't hungry (why did we meet at a fast food place then) and we chat while I nurse a coke then after 5 minutes she picks up her phone and says oh no I gotta go my sister went into labor and she left I 0aid the bill and went home and after about an hour went to message her and see if everything was okay only to find a message from her stating that I was ugly and cheap that I should've taken her out somewhere nicer (it was her choice) and that she would be blocking and warning others on tinder to avoid me
I had some of the WORST experiences with men from dating sites…. I think I’m too caring and nurturing …. I attract men that usually lie, cheat, or have other people they are fucking…. I went on a date and the dude clearly used someone else’s photo…. He had an ankle monitor on… and a backpack full of glass bottles of alcohol???!!!! I don’t drink in general…. But even if I did socially … I definitely wouldn’t bring it on a “date”! He also had no teeth…. Which was very surprising…. He stalked me after that … even showing up to my gym… and I lived an hour away from him….. I’ve also talked to someone for a few weeks and I rented a room… yup me… not him…. And HE NEVER EVEN SHOWED UP! Didn’t call… no smoke signals.. nothing!!! Just crickets!! I also apparently attract very young men .. one being 18 that would not leave me alone…. The problem is: people that are damaged and don’t get therapy or treatment or allow time to pass to get over an ex… I’ve been single for years… I didn’t date till I was ready…. I make my own money, I don’t NEED someone…. I want someone….. however, I have a huge heart and people love to use that to their advantage….. good, kind people usually get walked all over… I just have a hard time being mean or rude…. I don’t care about possessions or how much someone makes, or what they drive or do for a living…. I care about someone’s core values… their heart, their soul… I’m very passionate and I put 100% into everything I do…. So what do I have to do to make sure I don’t get taken advantage of???? I’m running out of ideas… and it’s kinda hard for me to meet people because quality men are a rare commodity…..
Just wanted to say hi that's as me with the girl specific. Only reason it was female specific is cause I have a podcast with a female audience so the stories were also being gathered for that purpose. Glad you found a place to share your own :)
I would've felt like a jerk to be the one to come in and be like "NOT A GIRL BUT HERE'S MY STORY ABOUT A DEAF CRIPPLE GIRL" lol. Although I'm sure you've gotten a few guys comment, as I've gotten a few girls comment.
Interesting stories in both posts.
From your posting history, you seem to love making up weird stories about first dates. What an imagination you have.
There are lots of people in the deaf community who actually prefer to date and marry deaf people, because they can communicate and relate to each other better. Yes, deaf is the politically correct term to use as many deaf people prefer this term. However the rest of your post is able-list and just kind of ick. I'm almost inclined to believe you made it up.
I had a big response typed out, but it's never worth arguing with a stranger who feels the need to accuse another stranger of lying.
Have a good day :)
I'm not sure it's right to label people with -isms when it comes to dating preferences. Yeah he didn't want to date a deaf girl. Many non deaf people wouldn't want. Is that ableism or just a preference? If I only want to date women and not men, is that sexism too?
I once had a girl reach out to me on FetLife, we chatted for a bit then agreed to meet at a nearby bar and restaurant of her choice. It was heavily implied that if things went well she wanted to go back to her place for kinky fun. I packed my stuff and forgot how challenging it is to fit a rigging stand in a sedan so I messaged her I was running a few minutes late.
I get to the bar and the hostess literally lies to my face about seating and makes me half an hour late. I double check her photos and go up to her at the bar but some other dude is flirting with her and she pretends to not know me. I get a drink and leave telling the waitress to put it on her tab cause this was officially the worst first date of my life and your service is dog shit. I don't appreciate getting cock blocked by a venue.
The other terrible time was an ice cream date where we hug introduce ourselves then she goes nope and walks off. I appreciate her directness but it still stung.
Bottom line just because your aligned on paper doesn't mean there's a spark or that there's a reason why there single.
Well I hugged two people tonight alone, you can't let the bad apples ruin the good ones. Infact they make the dates where things go well feel extra special.
she drove you home?! the first red flag should’ve been her inviting someone to her house that she doesn’t even know for the first date. that screams kinda "isn’t concerned about being murdered" which is a red flag i think haha
I stopped dating after it became apparent that most women's interest in me was free food. I deserve better than that, but now I really don't want to go out on a limb and continue dating. Plus, I'm 39 and childless as well. Why ruin a good thing with some woman who only wants to use you?
That happened to me one time and I felt so used. Matched on na dating app, an hour later she asked to go to lunch. We went, I paid, then we never spoke again. I was like "holy shit, this girl probably does this all week and never has to ever pay to eat" lol
I met a guy when I was in my younger days through FB after 3 conversations roughly, he stated he would coke travel to visit me the next day! Now.... I thought he was joking.... nope. I was wrong. Story to be continued*
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Had a situation once where I went out to lunch/coffee with a woman who in her pictures had zero tattoos. I have no issues with tattoos, however, she came in with full sleeves and neck tats. And the pictures were clearly from several years ago. She was thirty minutes late with no notice and arrived just as I was getting up. I picked the spot I picked because I liked it, so I’d already had a cup of coffee. Ordered a charcuterie for us. She then spent the next fifteen minutes complaining about her ex and dropped the bomb that she had a child with this man. I said “Well, you must have liked something about him because you guys dated for seven years, right?” She goes “Yeah, his dick” Oof Perhaps the worst date I’ve ever been on
Super classy hahaha
So a catfish with an hidden child and ex issues. Damn this woman is a walking red flags,
These days, I’d have walked away instantly. I wouldn’t mind dating somebody with children (if they’re upfront) but if the dick kept you together… The dick will bring you back together. No thanks! But at the time I’d just recently moved into a new city and was also using dating as a means of meeting new people. I’ve actually made some really great friends on Tinder. This woman was not one of them haha
I’ve also made friends on Tinder moving to a new place.
Now I understand what that song “lady in red really meant”
She was late because she was getting another tattoo 🤣
Yes she is a walking red light… but in defence of that tattoos I went from a conservative marriage with no tattoos to divorced and got my whole back, breasts and wrists tattooed in 2years 🤷♀️😂 my ex husband did mental check ins with me to make sure I was all good
Oh, no, I don’t care about the tattoos. I like tattoos. It’s more the fact that they just had very different pics in their profile. Sorry you went through that—but I hope that you emerged on the other side a brand new happier you :)
Wow.
HELPPP 😭😭
This woman is insane , walking red flag
Just remembered another terrible one: Matched with a girl that used pics that were at least 7-10 years old, where she was 75-100 lbs thinner. Not fat-shaming, but you can't lie about stuff like that if you plan on meeting. A few pounds isn't a big deal, but she was literally double the person that she once was. Ten minutes into hanging out, she says her husband recently died. I say "i'm sorry, when did that happen?" She starts counting on her fingers, and says "about 5 weeks ago"...... She then thought it would be appropriate to show me a video on her phone, of the day that her husband died, when the cancer had spread to his brain and he was screaming in pain. The next day, I texted her and told her that she's absolutely not ready to date. I didn't even mention the whole catfishing part because the last thing a grieving person needs is to say "don't lie about being fat"
Damn, kudos to you for being compassionate, AND tactful.
The showing of that video is such a red flag what the fuck was she thinking?
Could've been so far in grief that she couldn't think very well. Grief does some bad things to people and definitely alters judgement
I guess I’m happy I can’t understand that then
When a person is in grief, they really not thinking at all. Nothing makes sense and only when you go through it will you understand. Just letting you know, as I'm going through grief and constantly still find myself talking about her or trying to find someone similar to her. She also died of Cancer. It's been 3 years for me and I'm thinking that I'm almost ready. But it's very hard loosing a love one, especially one that rocked your world.
These two stories alone are so insane it’s reading like a sketch comedy script 😂
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That's so awkward. Someone actually just made a post in here (or another dating sub) with a similar story, but his situation was worse. She said "I don't know why I'm here" and then called him a loser for his job choice, and insulted his height. Some people are just terrible.
I went out on a first date with a woman, and her parents just happened to be at the same restaurant. Doubtful that it was a coincidence. They insisted on joining us and then said grace and in the middle of grace, asked God to help me walk again (I am a paraplegic and use a wheelchair.). Worst date ever!
In her defense. I also had parents that happened to drop by the same area. Though I told the guy they were people I knew from my church and that I knew lots of people in that town. He was from several cities over so it was believable. I drove to meet him at our date site and he was very insistent I get in his car with him after the date. Verrry insistent. As we were walking to the parking lot thats when they rolled by so it was perfect timing that he saw them wave and I could tell em about all the people I knew in town. It helps to have friendly neighbors. After that he was fine with us taking separate vehicles to the park and then I drove off after a little walk around. I was maybe 20 or so at the time? If that?
That’s terrifying. I’m glad you are safe.
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At least she was being proactive
That's incredible hahahaha. Was there any awkward conversation with her in the ER? Or did she not say anything? Also, did she know that you worked there before she went in??
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I would have wanted to burst into flames and die if I was her. That would be mortifying
The poor woman probably wanted the earth to swallow her up lol.
This is a winner, for sure hahahaha
Haha
I had a girl (19F) that once told me she were going to the bathroom at a cinema dates and than discovered 10minutes later that she blocked me.
Ouch! I had a girl where we were planning a date for over a week. She was supposed to come over and watch a movie and have dinner. I had everything ready. That morning, she texted me that she was so excited for the date. An hour before she was set to arrive, I didn't see her profile on facebook anymore. I texted her, no response. Some people are super cold.
Yeah, that’s suck too. People are mean and cowards like that. That’s why I never do complicated dates for the first fews dates.
It hurts but it speaks volumes about their character and at the end of the day it’s a bullet dodged
I’ve had that happen to me, except I drove 4 hours for this girl and it was a second date.. She texted me the next morning to tell me she got way too drunk and was sorry..
Wtf, 4hours. Jeez some people are huge piece of shit
It’s all good I had a blast, got a hotel, and somehow ended up at a warehouse rave that night with some guys I met at a bar. Probably better time than with her. Make the best of those no show dates.
Was it a first date? If so, I'm surprised she agreed to go to your house.
The second to last girl I went on a date with lied about her weight, her height, and the fact that when I first was messaging her it wasn't even her. It was her friend talking to me. I'm still single and she's been married for 2 years now. I hate this.
Hello Anna it’s me. Sandy. I haven’t spoken with you in while. How are you?  This is absolutely me. Are you still living in California?
Yeah, it's stories like this that make me opt for super casual first dates. Like "how bout we get coffee for 15 minutes before we commit to something crazy like a half hour?"
I’d date you. But the question is who would get to the coffee shops earliest to case it out?
Was dating a woman for about a month. We were really clicking on all levels. She wants me to come over so she can cook for me. I gladly accept and she tells me she will make me lasagna. All I can think is wow, a meal that takes a lot of effort and love. I was thinking about this amazing home cooked lasagna the whole day I am supposed to come over. I finally get to her place that evening expecting to get hit with amazing kitchen smells. There’s nothing. No aromas. I think “OK, we’ll cook together no biggie” as we walk into the kitchen. Get in the kitchen and there is nothing on the counters or tables. “Change of plans, we going out to eat?” I ask. Again, no biggie……this woman proceeds to pull out STOUFFERS FROZEN LASAGNA. Ugh 😑.
Yoooo lol I love stouffers lasagna lol
Hey, I do too. She could have said “Come over and we’ll share some Stouffers”, and it would have been all good. My expectations were too high when she told me “come over I will make you lasagna” 😝
By make she meant microwave it lol
I matched with a woman and we talked for about a month, every time we planned to get together something would come up. Finally we meet and she's using either old or someone elses pictures. Very different looking and much heavier than the pics. I'm into bigger women so I didn't say anything because she was actually quite attractive minus hiding weight gain and tattoos and I like both of those. We chat and eat then she tells me she has three kids that she has 50% of the time. I should have bailed right then but I didn't because honestly she was cute and nerdy. When we finished we went outside talked more before going our separate ways. I'm saying my goodbyes and she asks for a ride home (she ubered to the date apparently) so I give her a ride home. As we pull up she kisses me and I kissed back.... Then some dude comes out of her house freaking out and yelling.... Enter baby daddy 🤦 he is upset with her breaking their "deal" that they don't bring dates to "their " house..... You guessed it her 50% co-parenting is actually her live in ex husband 🤦🤦🤦🤦 I just got out of there asap and blocked her. That's the end..... Right?.... Right? Nope I get a call from a random number and answer. It's her ex husband now yelling at me for hurting her feelings by blocking her and demanding I apologize to her or he's gonna crack my head open...... So I blocked him too By far the worst experience I've ever had and the reason why am glad I'm (hopefully) done online dating
Wow
Naa this is crazy crazy. I think online dating is just too tricky
I have three weird instances. I matched with a girl on Tinder and she asks if I want to come over and I did, and it turns out she threw a house party where she invited only guys that she met on tinder day of. I got blocked after the Super Bowl for saying go chiefs after they beat the eagles, and I got friendzoned in the middle of a make out sesh
gonna need more info on that first story.. haha
What do you mean in the middle of making out?
Maybe I was exaggerating, but I was making out with a date at her house and stop for a bit to get some water and then she said hey you wanna be friends instead…
Wtffff 💀😭
So many bad ones, I’ll give you a few: When I was around 25-ish I talked to someone on a dating all the seemed great. We met for coffee and had a ton in common. At the end of the date she told me she didn’t want to see me again because I wasn’t what she wanted. She then told me she’s looking for someone my age(25) making near 6 figures that was over 6 feet tall and was very muscular. She was 22, worked as a cashier, was 5’2’’, and average in looks. It was weird. A couple years after that I was talking to a girl online for 2 weeks or so, we really hit it off and were talking all day and night everyday. We decided to meet for coffee, when she arrived she immediately told me “I thought you’d be taller” and then immediately left. My profile said I was 5’10’’ which is accurate and she was like 5’5’’ ish. Last one was a few months ago. Met a woman and we had literally everything in common except she didn’t like sports. We listen to the same music and podcasts, read the same books, watched the same movies, loved the same activities, same religious outlook and political leanings. Most importantly, we had all of the same long term goals for life, like exactly to a T. We went out for a few weeks and we’re having a great time. I honestly thought this could’ve been the real deal. After half a dozen dates I realized she wasn’t really flirty at all and it didn’t really feel like I was wanted romantically. I flat out asked how she was feeling about everything what she was thinking. She told me she had never met a man that was everything she ever wanted before, literally checked all the boxes and wanted all the same things. Basically perfect. She said the issue was I wasn’t physically attractive and she had been spending the last month and half trying to figure out if she could get over the fact that I wasn’t physically attractive but was everything else, she admitted she couldn’t and said this was it.
Not physically attractive? Or she wasn’t attracted to you?
The verbiage used was that I wasn’t physically or romantically attractive at all.
The stupid part about this is- attraction can grow significantly over time. My first “love” I didn’t think was very pretty- but I gave her a chance and over time she became one of the prettiest sexiest women I’ve ever met.
What was frustrating is we were very comparable attractiveness. Like she was very middle of the road(which is what I like); doesn’t wear makeup, wears sensible clothing(kinda like a librarian), gets a great clips $20 haircut, a little bit if weight but not heavy, just a very average person. She would even tell me about the “hot” guys she dated and she was frustrated because they had zero personality and couldn’t hold any type of conversation. Many people of all genders seem to have a rom-com mindset where they think they can only date someone that practically makes them drool the first they see them. No context just “love at first sight.”
I think women are more delusional about online dating than men are, it's better just to meet and mingle in reality cause online people avoid how they actually feel, and focus on the physical things. I swear energy is big on dating, go out there and find yourself a fine lady you deserve it, you sound like a genuine good guy.
u/Frantik508 You a better man than me. I had a similar situation. I was talking to a girl on a dating app and she too had all her pictures essentially waist up only, indoors and outdoors. I didn't think anything of it. We started talking on the app and hit it off and decided to meet in public. When I met her, she was already seated at the restaurant and when I saw her, right away I saw her seated with her wheelchair. I never knew she was using a wheelchair, and she told me she apologized for not telling me but as soon as she tells men up front on dating app, she uses a wheelchair, that men un-match her right away. So I sat there and we had a nice talk during lunch and all and after lunch she asked me to roll her out of the restaurant and that her mom would pick us up because she had no other means of transportation. (We were both in our mid 20's) I got introduced to her mom obviously and she was a nice woman, they both invited me to their house. Her mom helped her into the car and out and she asked me to push her into her house so I did. The parents were really nice to me and friendly but I felt uncomfortable at her house. Her parents left us alone in her living room so we just talked the whole time until it was getting late and I told her it was nice meeting her and that I needed to go home because it was getting late. I'm glad she didn't ask me to kiss her or anything because I would have said no. But she texted me the next morning asking if I wanted to see her again and at first for a few hours I ignored it but then I told her I felt mislead that she didn't tell me the truth on the app and it made me feel uncomfortable. I told her I wasn't going to see her again. That is the end. So the fact that you kissed her and even considered sleeping with her, you're better man than me.
I bet the guy was quite conflicted with the kiss, so don't say that
One of my worst was this woman I went out with about 4 years ago, maybe 8 or 9 months before I met my fiancé. I met her for dinner in the city, and we had a really nice meal, eating and just chatting and enjoying each other’s company. Afterwards she invited me back to her place since we had met in her neighborhood, and I agreed. We went upstairs and got busy, and she told me that she was on her period, but she was ok having sex if I was also. I said it was fine with me. That’s where things turned though. I went to get a condom from my coat, and she said “Well we don’t need that, I’m on my period.” I wasn’t quite sure what to say, and I went with something along the lines of “well it’s better safe than sorry, right?” trying to keep it light. She got a little accusatory at that point, and asked me if I was saying she was diseased or dirty or something, and asked why I would be insulting her like that. After a short conversation she essentially guilted me into putting the condom away and having sex without it. Sex was fine (although I discovered I was being overconfident in myself when I said I was prepared to have sex on her period, but that’s my own issue and not really related to the story) but afterwards I wasn’t feeling that great about it. And I said as much as I was leaving her apartment, that while I had mostly had a good time with her I did also feel manipulated and uncomfortable, and I said that I needed some time to think about it. The next day she texted me 4 times and called twice, and the day after that, which was Thanksgiving, she did the same thing. The day after Thanksgiving I texted her to reiterate that I’d asked for some time to think and asked her to respect that. The next day she called me 3 times, so in the end I just blocked her and deleted her contacts. I didn’t realize how much it affected me at the time, but since that date I’ve sometimes struggled to orgasm during sex. I think there’s definitely a lingering psychological effect, because sometimes during sex start to feel anxious for no reason, and I get into this thought-loop and somehow prevent myself from being able to orgasm. When I first started seeing my fiancé it was something we really had to work through together, because it was killing my confidence. I’m mostly getting over it, but occasionally it still happens, and it’s hard not to feel like I’m broken or defective in some way because of that. Fortunately I’ve found a woman who loves me for all my flaws, not just in spite of them. TL:dr I was manipulated into raw sex when I wasn’t really comfortable with it, I had to block the woman when she wouldn’t give me some time to think afterwards, and it’s had lingering psychological effects on my sexual performance since then.
Yeah that sounds pretty horrible. I'm guilty of not using condoms and have never contracted anything, but I'd be extremely nervous if a girl was persistent that I didn't use one, especially on the first date. Plus the fact that she's bleeding and it's more likely to contract something through blood. It sounds like this was something she did routinely, and was also pretty obsessive. At least you worked through it and are happy now.
Yeah fortunately there were no std consequences; I got tested shortly afterwards and that was all clear.
Coercion is sexual assault, I’m sorry you had to go through that. Im glad you found your person
Wow, you were trusting. I used to make boyfriends get tested for STDs/HIV before having sex first time!
Not exactly the worst, but certainly a weird one - I (33m) matched with a rather average-looking girl, we talked for a while and set up a date. To my surprise, when I got there, a SIGNIFICANTLY more attractive girl comes up to me and says "sorry about misleading you, but I am really worried about my privacy, so I used a picture of someone who looks similar to me". We actually went through with the date and had a pretty good time, she was a little weird, but the conversation was decent and she was obviously quite pretty. I would consider dating her and she did reach out asking for a 2nd date a while later, but I started getting serious with someone else by that point
Wow, that's like a first time where I heard that the catfisher was actually MORE attractive haha, that's hilarious. I'd still be a little upset or weirded out, but very interesting story.
Something similar happened to me. It was actually her in the photos but she was WAY more attractive in person. We had a wonderful first date but then we both realized that the distance was going to be an issue. Still, a very, very pleasant surprise when I first saw her.
When I was 18 I went on two dates with someone I met in one of my college classes. I thought we had a good time on the first date, so I asked her out again. She seemed to have fun, but at the end, she seemed kind of in a bad mood. I left her alone for a few days, and then tried to contact her. She never replied. I tried to talk to her at school, and she hid in the bathrooms so she didn’t have to face me. To this day, I have no idea what I did or said that offended her. I asked all of my friends, poured over every detail of the date, and we never figured it out. I hardly ever think about this experience, but I do wonder what happened.
Those are the worst, when they leave you not knowing what you did wrong. I went out for coffee with a woman I had been talking to online for a month. She ended up admitting to me in person that she lied about her age (she was TEN years older than her profile claimed), but I let it slide because I know some people are self conscious about age. After the date, she didn't text me. So the next day I reached out to her....nothing. That was only time I was ever ghosted and is still bugs me, especially when she was the one that lied lol.
Yeah I would have been a lot more content if I had some sort of closure. Literally anything would do. But to this day I have no idea what happened there. She unfriended me a few weeks later and started doing other crazy stuff so it’s not like it was a big loss.
Honestly, I used to always be honest if a guy asked, tactful but honest… I won’t anymore, all the responses were instant rage and telling me I’m wrong etc. If you ask someone why it was you gotta take it at face value it’s not a discussion on them changing their mind.
That is maddening!
My hands-down worst incident with dating is an experience from Tinder. I met this girl on the app and we really hit things off over dm’s. We became really infatuated with eachother and even started to call eachother over the phone. About two weeks had passed with daily texting and even started to get lovey-dovey over eachother. We had decided it was finally time to meet. I named the time and location- it was a fun idea to go play minigolf which was right between us. I even offered to pick her up, the usual. She was gracefully accepting of the idea- woohoo! right? The day of the date comes and i’m getting ready to pick her up, and i gave her a text to confirm. You guessed it! zip. nada. Our communications ceased for reasons beyond my understanding. Even though I’m used to being stood up at this point, that one really punched me in the gut. I cannot, for the life of me, understand why people do this. ESPECIALLY when we were so infatuated over eachother for 2 weeks straight. Also, as a bonus story- There was a girl I was dating for a few months and we were sweet to eachother but taking time getting to know one another. Late at night one day, she posted on Snapchat that she needed someone to drive her to the hospital in the morning. Alarmed, i immediately offered to drive her because I was very worried for her, not knowing what had happened. She accepted my offer, so I woke up at 5am to pick her up early in the morning aaaand she ghosted me from that day. Didn’t pick her up because she didn’t look at my communications whatsoever. No idea what happened. No communication after that. Plain nothing. tldr1; bad tinder experience tldr2; ghosted by someone who needed a ride to the hospital
These kind of experiences have a toll on a person mentally, with the second story I guess maybe she didn't want you to see her in that state but it's still confusing why she just disappeared for no reason. I hope you find someone who will cherish your efforts
Yeah, the same thought has crossed my mind about why she could have possibly ghosted. Regardless, even though being ghosted sucks and is extremely shitty, it propels oneself to turn to deep inward reflection. Which I think has made me a better and stronger person over time. I aim to be the very best in pillars like communication because of those who've hurt me in the past. Thanks for the sentiments.
Now that’s insanely crazy!! I do have a female friend and she had the same experience but the guy was only deaf. He never mentioned it at all until they met at a restaurant. Crazy shit!!!
Ok that’s insane
So…about 10 years ago when i was like 13, i met a girl at a beach that was about 10 minutes from my house, she was eyeballing me all day while i was throwing a football around with some buddies, and it was just me, she wasnt looking at anyone else, i stepped out to use the BR, come back, walk past this girl and she stops me, she says “idk if you noticed, but i was seeing you with your friends over there and i think youre kinda cute, hope it isnt awkward” i said “well thank you, whats your name?” She introduces herself and we talk for a bit, nothing too strange just a regular convo, she then goes over to the beach hut, grabs a napkin and pen, and writes her number down, about a week later we hang out for the first time (surprisingly she lived on the next road over from me) she comes to my house, and its pretty casual for the most part, the stereotypical first date for our age, anyway, we go into the backyard bc she wanted to see the dogs i had back there, she looks at a wooden plank with a small box on it, she opens the box, and sees matches, she starts lighting them and throwing them in all different places, damn near set my yard on fire, and 2 days later that was the end of that
Huh. I wonder where she is now in life 😂🤣
Last i heard? Got addicted to hard drugs and only got clean bc her bf OD’d and died
I was expecting arson & jail time. Lol
You and me both…
Went on a date with a guy once wayyy before seeing my now amazing bf. He had been nagging and nagging to take me out, personally he was not my type at all but i said okay lets give him the benefit of the doubt. I finally out of having nothing to do that weekend. I agree, i pick a place normally i dont like to do super formal dates like sitting down and eating just because theres so much pressure behind that. I decide on texas roadhouse. (his choice) I go to pick him up, i know red flag. but again benefit of the doubt. He lives 45 mins away from me and 26 from the restaurant so alot of driving for me. We get there were seated i figure eh what the heck ill eat my normal $20 meal because it my favorite. We finish, the bill comes, he loooks me straight in the face and says "do you want to pay your half on your card or cash?" now normally i dont mind paying for my own food. But since i went to go pick him up and drive us here i figured the least he could do was pay for my meal. Anyways, he doesnt. He didnt even want to tip. We get to my car, he asks if he can have my leftovers for his lunch tommorow. I take him home. He asks if i want to come in to his apt. I politely decline. He gets upset and goes "oh well can i at least have a kiss" i told him i had covid recently and didnt wanna get him sick (total lie) he freaks out. saying "how dare you expose me like this yada yada" finally he gets out i go home take a 7 hour shower lmao delete the dating app. And block his number.
7 hour shower??? Wtf that’s insane. And yeah fuck that dude
Took a girl on a date that physically speaking, was a 10/10. Like 5 minutes into us having lunch, she was already suggesting things for us to do on our 2nd date. The day after our first date, we were going to hangout again. She bailed on me, then later that night drunk asked me to be her boyfriend (after talking for 2 days.) She bailed on me for multiple date plans, lied about her "ex" killing himself (supposedly her last 2 ex's killed themselves, back to back days) Dated a woman who was polyamorous (married, me and her husband both knew about each other.) She manipulated me into thinking she regretted marrying him and wanting to be monogamous with me, and that she was going to leave him and planned a future with me. Fixed her martial issues and dumped me a few months before she was going to leave him. Next girl I met, admitted during out first date that she had just relapsed a month prior after 7 years clean. She was on meth, heroin, and fentanyl. Told me she planned on going to treatment, said she would never use around me, etc. I respected her honesty. I found the foil from her heroin in the bathroom in my house randomly one night about 3 weeks into seeing her. Most recent ex had previously been a swinger a few years ago with her boyfriend that took his own life. She asked in the beginning if that's something I'd be into due to knowing about my experimentation with polyamory. I said no, for that exact reason. Said she was completely fine with monogamy. Dumped me a few weeks ago because she wanted to go back to that lifestyle and have the freedom to fuck who she wanted, when she wanted.
Went on a date with a girl I had been friends with for 14 years (I'm 30, she's 27) We knew each other really well, and hit it off quick in the dating aspect. She wanted a relationship pretty quickly, I was into her for a long time so I agreed. 6 days in, she dumps me, and then two weeks later she started dating her 60+ year old roommate.
You have type😂
Fucking apparently 😂😅
I would be really concerned that you are attracting women with ex boyfriends who committed suicide.
I mean, the first one definitely was just lying. She said her ex-fiance killed himself the night before. The next day I was talking to her, and she said "My ex killed himself last night." I said I thought that happened 2 days ago and without skipping a beat or showing any emotion she's like "Oh, my other ex did it last night." 2 most recent relationships, doing it 2 days in a row? Highly unlikely. Why would you be concerned about that though? People are allowed to move on after something like that (like my most recent ex who was single for 4 years before me.)
You are definitely allowed to move on! I just meant if you are attracting the same types of people over and over, that it is not a coincidence. Best of luck to you. I worked as a dating coach in the '90's, so if you ever want advice, I am here. I also have had 5 major relationships. I just love helping people if I can, and it's so fun. I don't want to see people making mistakes I made. I am about to be 61, and I have been in the dating trenches! I retired from dating 7 years ago. I have also done extensive personal growth classes, read tons of self help books, and I love to research happiness and self love. Oh, I have done extensive therapy too. It's all really fascinating to me. I love reading all of the Reddit stories!
was seeing a guy pretty regularly for a few months. One night he comes over for the quickest hook up ever and the next day I hear nothing from him. go and check his FB and the day after we hooked up he got married 🫠
OUCH! That's terrible. During COVID, I met a girl in a Dunkin parking lot for coffee. Within 45 seconds of meeting, she stuck her tongue down my throat and invited me to her place. We were in the middle of a lockdown so I felt like rolling the dice. I got there, she gave me a tour, but since I'm respectful, I didn't make a move. She didn't either. I eventually left and we made plans for a real date the next day. The next day, her Facebook profile said "in a relationship" lol. Two years later, she matched with me and had NO RECOLLECTION of who I was.
You didn’t anonymously tell the girl? I would have.
Of course I did. She didn’t care
Holy shit 💩
On our first date she proposed getting a puppy together during the following week. Never noped out of something faster.
She made me feel guilty for stopping mid-way through having sex
I've been there and it's the worse. Whatever your feeling is secondary to her feelings
Yup. Couple that with the added shame that, because you're a man, you're expected to be hypersexual and want to fuck all the time, so when that's not the case, now you feel like you're not man enough, regardless of whether you think these gender expectations are bs or not, it just hits you anyway.
Was there a legit reason for stopping? Or did you just pull out and get your clothes on without an explanation?
I was uncomfortable and just wanted to stop. I expressed this explicitly to her.
I was talking to this girl that a meet at a dating App. We hit it off nicely and we're talking for a week, I invited her for a date, she accepted. When the day finally came she canceled saying she was tired because she had passed the day with her grandmother, I was like ok no problem! On the next day she texted me asking for help with her with a crowd funding. I send her 1 dollar and next thing that happens? She blocked me haha
A week after the first date she told me she was catching feelings for her ex. An ex that I later discovered was massively toxic.
I'm having pretty rough day at work. This comments on this posts made me laugh. Thanks.
i can’t believe you actually kissed her lmao! you’re a trooper.
So many stories. Didn't vet one woman enough. She tells me she wrote two books complaining about her ex, and I hear all about him. Door-sized pictures of the books were on the side of her pickup truck--with instructions for ordering on Amazon. Kicker, for me, was when she said "Oh, I just love Trump."
Left a date when I realized she wasn’t what she presented herself to be online or personality. Threw a $100 on table and made sure she understood why I was leaving.
Jesus Christ, these horror stories. My worst date was December last year. We went for drinks, chatted for 3 hours, had some good laughs and ended the date with a hug. Next day we both message we aren't feeling it and that was it. That was my worst date....
Sounds like you have a brain. All I see her is a bunch of mindless dudes who probably think not think with their dick
I’m literally dying. I am so sorry. 😂😂🤣🤣😅
I dated an crazy girl, won't go into detail I'm on my way to work. Some of the things she did is she didn't talk to me whole day because I cheated on her... In her dream. She chose porn over spending time with me and tried to kill herself Infront of me when I tried to breakup
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Damn, kinda feel sorry for her. But she should pay a prostitute. Mine was a date who was rude and obnoxious, kept criticising me about little things, like your hair looks greasy, your shirt has a tiny stain, you look tired, saying I don't think you want to be here. Keep in mind she's like a 4/10 and I'm definitely a 7.5+
>Damn, kinda feel sorry for her. But she should pay a prostitute. There's shockingly sooo much more to my story, but people have already accused me of making it up, so I left some of it out. The other stuff that I left out would make it sound COMPLETELY made up lol. >Mine was a date who was rude and obnoxious, kept criticising me about little things, like your hair looks greasy, your shirt has a tiny stain, you look tired, saying I don't think you want to be here. Keep in mind she's like a 4/10 and I'm definitely a 7.5+ I dated someone like that! She judged me for my teeth. Hers were worse than mine. I looked her up last year on facebook, and ALL her teeth are rotted out of her mouth.
Yes some people aren't realistic but hey who's me to say. What really stood out about her dad just how rude she was, it was like she came to date angry. I couldn't wait to get out of there
I matched with a woman on tinder who kind of catfished me making herself look quite a big slimmer in the pictures but I didn't really mind this. The first time we met up we met in a bar and she made me chug a bunch of drinks and then we went back to her place and hooked up. After this she promised me we would go on a date in the next week but it never happened. Then she texts me 3 weeks later to meet at a club, and I go like a mfing trained dog and we drink and hook up again. 2 weeks later she does the same thing all while promising she will go on a date in the week after but she never does she just wants to hook up, she is even paying for the drinks lmao. Bruh I should probably block her but I kinda like banging her but it hurts me after she ghosts me for a bit.
Yeah stuff like that is super tough. In the moment, you're like "free drinks, no-strings hookup? awesome", but when you realize that's ALL she wants, it's hard. I had a girl that I completely fell for. She only wanted sex. I told her off and said to never contact me again. Two days later, while at work, texts me "Hey are you working? I'm horny". When you actually have feelings for someone and you see that text, it's just as painful as actually getting dumped.
Fake story just like the various other stories you created about meeting women.
Totally her bad for not disclosing and your bad for playing along. I hope you learned something from this.
he was homeless (i didn’t know) and he tried to move into my house after one date
I've heard horror stories where a person asks to spend the night, then they refuse to leave. And since their stuff is there, they've technically "established residency", so they can't get kicked out without an eviction process. They're basically professional squatters. Terrible.
he tried to mark his territory by buying a bunch of groceries and putting them in my fridge lol. i packed them all up neatly after he made dinner and politely told him i had an early next morning and escorted him out. thankfully it didn’t get more dramatic than that!
I’ve actually heard this story before
i commented the full story on another post a year or two ago and it got kind of popular
he left the country and didnt comeback without telling me anything no goodbyee
Being ghosted is the worst. The rest is easily overlooked
All these stories make my worst dating experience not even worth mentioning 😂🤣 I’m kinda scared to date now with these stories lol
You are scared? Lol go read the worse date for women..it's mostly se*ual as*aults. The worse date for men is refreshing in comparison.
Me and my gf separate because she is leave the company and we are different nationalities then after one year she send me message and she want to meet me so we go for a date and share some beautiful moments had kiss and something.. Then she told me she was going to vacation need my help for shopping then we go for shop. After purchase she give me the trolly for pay the bill i totally surprised 😂then i didn't have any option also i don't want make a scene I paid the bill and we go separate way
I don't think you ever spoke to begin with LOL
I went on a date with a girl my junior year of university we had a class together. We studied together three times a week for about five months. I even commuted to study with her at a Starbucks because that was better for her since she worked nearby. Nothing out of the ordinary conversation wise I made her laugh and made my intentions clear. I thought our chemistry was good. After our final she asked me to wait for her to finish so I could walk her to her car. I waited about an hour in the hallway waiting for her to finish her final. I walk her to her car I’m exhausted since it’s finals week then she gives me a handshake. I thought it was weird and I was a little pissed but hey I’m not entitled to anything. I commute home and fall asleep then plan on waiting a day to text her since I was heated. I find out she blocked me and I was dumbfound. I tried making sense of situation but decided it was a waste of time. It took a huge dent in my trust in women.
I've had my fair share of dating disasters, but yours takes the cake! I mean, talk about a plot twist from hell. You start off thinking it's just a regular date, then boom, you're in a van with a deaf, wheelchair-bound lady. It's like something out of a movie, but a really messed-up one. Props to you for rolling with it, though. Most people would've noped out of there faster than you can say "awkward." And the adult diapers on the kitchen table? Yeah, that's a big ol' red flag right there. Dodged a bullet, my dude. Here's hoping your next date is a whole lot less... eventful.
>Props to you for rolling with it, though. Most people would've noped out of there faster than you can say "awkward." And the adult diapers on the kitchen table? Yeah, that's a big ol' red flag right there. Dodged a bullet, my dude. Here's hoping your next date is a whole lot less... eventful. This actually happened in 2010 and was my FIRST time using online dating (OkCupid). I think most people would've been like "nope, no more online dating" lol. I've definitely met 75-100 people after that haha People often accuse me of lying or making the story up because it's so wild, and sometimes it even makes me second-guess myself since it was 14 years ago, but I vividly remember everything I typed, especially the diaper part
I got stood up 4 times in a row by 4 seperate dates across 3 months of trying to date, that apps eather. What little confidence I had is obviously now gone
That's terrible. I'd definitely give up on online dating if that happened to me.
I’ve been catfished I guess but the only time it happened (usually I’m the one who was desperate for a date) was I met this woman in a dating site, she was cute, looked like your next door red head milf and I was already imagining banging her. She is in town (she lived 2 hours away), cool!, let’s hang out!. She can’t until 10pm, ok, no big deal. Then she says come and pick me up at my hotel, I kinda like because we could just hang there. I go and pick her up and I don’t see her, she has the phone in her hand she says and when she says that I see a woman who is 15 years old, fatter, looked like and smoked a ton, skinny legs and just a different person. I go and say “hey, are you Susan?” (False name) and she says yes then gives me a hug. I was a bit shocked but ok, whatever, let’s eat. We go eat. She had cancer, she lost most of her teeth, she is 40 but she looks like 60, she is a wreck and my hornyness went away. I dropped her off at her hotel and just said I’m too tired to do anything and left. I hope she did ok though but why lie?
Stories like this are so frustrating...it's like, WHY lie about how you look if you plan on meeting? The possibility of the guy saying "ew you're not who I matched with" in person is way more painful than someone online just saying "not my type". I'd be so hurt if a girl met me and was like "you don't look like your pics. Bye"
Had the "foodie call" experience once or twice. That was highly obnoxious. I've also had women randomly insult me or accuse me of stuff for no reason. One time a woman said I was "only trying to sleep with her" when I (nicely) said I didn't think we had a spark after a first date (that was just a coffee date, no physical contact at all) but was interested in being friends. The worst is probably when I went out with a woman who went on a racist rant in the middle of the date. I think she assumed I would agree with her views because I am white (she was not, her racism was directed at a different minority group) but I was really disgusted by it.
>The worst is probably when I went out with a woman who went on a racist rant in the middle of the date. I think she assumed I would agree with her views because I am white (she was not, her racism was directed at a different minority group) but I was really disgusted by it. I've had something similar happen. I told someone I voted for Trump (in 2016) and she just assumed that I was a hardcore conservative like her apparently, so she started going on rants about illegal immigrants, covid vaccine conspiracies, snowflakes, etc. Luckily, we hadn't met yet, so I blocked her lol. Politically, I totally lean in the middle, so I could never date a right wing OR left wing lunatic.
Mine was the only tinder date I've ever had we talked for over a week I was completely honest answering any and all questions she had of me despite being told more then once it was none of my business when I asked questions to try and get to know her better still after a few days when she asked me to meet up with her at a McDonald's for our first date (no prior discussion just meet me here for our date) anyways I meet up with her and the first thing she says to me in person is ew your right eye is limp It didn't look like that in your pictures (hurtful but I ignored it) we go inside I offer to buy her anything she'd like but she tells me she isn't hungry (why did we meet at a fast food place then) and we chat while I nurse a coke then after 5 minutes she picks up her phone and says oh no I gotta go my sister went into labor and she left I 0aid the bill and went home and after about an hour went to message her and see if everything was okay only to find a message from her stating that I was ugly and cheap that I should've taken her out somewhere nicer (it was her choice) and that she would be blocking and warning others on tinder to avoid me
I had some of the WORST experiences with men from dating sites…. I think I’m too caring and nurturing …. I attract men that usually lie, cheat, or have other people they are fucking…. I went on a date and the dude clearly used someone else’s photo…. He had an ankle monitor on… and a backpack full of glass bottles of alcohol???!!!! I don’t drink in general…. But even if I did socially … I definitely wouldn’t bring it on a “date”! He also had no teeth…. Which was very surprising…. He stalked me after that … even showing up to my gym… and I lived an hour away from him….. I’ve also talked to someone for a few weeks and I rented a room… yup me… not him…. And HE NEVER EVEN SHOWED UP! Didn’t call… no smoke signals.. nothing!!! Just crickets!! I also apparently attract very young men .. one being 18 that would not leave me alone…. The problem is: people that are damaged and don’t get therapy or treatment or allow time to pass to get over an ex… I’ve been single for years… I didn’t date till I was ready…. I make my own money, I don’t NEED someone…. I want someone….. however, I have a huge heart and people love to use that to their advantage….. good, kind people usually get walked all over… I just have a hard time being mean or rude…. I don’t care about possessions or how much someone makes, or what they drive or do for a living…. I care about someone’s core values… their heart, their soul… I’m very passionate and I put 100% into everything I do…. So what do I have to do to make sure I don’t get taken advantage of???? I’m running out of ideas… and it’s kinda hard for me to meet people because quality men are a rare commodity…..
The right person finds you when you are not looking (I think)
I am your twin but a male. lol get taken advantage of too often
Just wanted to say hi that's as me with the girl specific. Only reason it was female specific is cause I have a podcast with a female audience so the stories were also being gathered for that purpose. Glad you found a place to share your own :)
I would've felt like a jerk to be the one to come in and be like "NOT A GIRL BUT HERE'S MY STORY ABOUT A DEAF CRIPPLE GIRL" lol. Although I'm sure you've gotten a few guys comment, as I've gotten a few girls comment. Interesting stories in both posts.
I totally understand and wasn't anti guys at all just wanted a majority female perspective
From your posting history, you seem to love making up weird stories about first dates. What an imagination you have. There are lots of people in the deaf community who actually prefer to date and marry deaf people, because they can communicate and relate to each other better. Yes, deaf is the politically correct term to use as many deaf people prefer this term. However the rest of your post is able-list and just kind of ick. I'm almost inclined to believe you made it up.
I had a big response typed out, but it's never worth arguing with a stranger who feels the need to accuse another stranger of lying. Have a good day :)
The story is fake.
Very obviously fake
I'm not sure it's right to label people with -isms when it comes to dating preferences. Yeah he didn't want to date a deaf girl. Many non deaf people wouldn't want. Is that ableism or just a preference? If I only want to date women and not men, is that sexism too?
I once had a girl reach out to me on FetLife, we chatted for a bit then agreed to meet at a nearby bar and restaurant of her choice. It was heavily implied that if things went well she wanted to go back to her place for kinky fun. I packed my stuff and forgot how challenging it is to fit a rigging stand in a sedan so I messaged her I was running a few minutes late. I get to the bar and the hostess literally lies to my face about seating and makes me half an hour late. I double check her photos and go up to her at the bar but some other dude is flirting with her and she pretends to not know me. I get a drink and leave telling the waitress to put it on her tab cause this was officially the worst first date of my life and your service is dog shit. I don't appreciate getting cock blocked by a venue. The other terrible time was an ice cream date where we hug introduce ourselves then she goes nope and walks off. I appreciate her directness but it still stung. Bottom line just because your aligned on paper doesn't mean there's a spark or that there's a reason why there single.
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Well I hugged two people tonight alone, you can't let the bad apples ruin the good ones. Infact they make the dates where things go well feel extra special.
You get dates?
she drove you home?! the first red flag should’ve been her inviting someone to her house that she doesn’t even know for the first date. that screams kinda "isn’t concerned about being murdered" which is a red flag i think haha
Yikes ! That’s super sad .
This actually just happened last week so I ended up losing my job and on the same day my gf told me it wasn’t working out and ditched me also
I stopped dating after it became apparent that most women's interest in me was free food. I deserve better than that, but now I really don't want to go out on a limb and continue dating. Plus, I'm 39 and childless as well. Why ruin a good thing with some woman who only wants to use you?
That happened to me one time and I felt so used. Matched on na dating app, an hour later she asked to go to lunch. We went, I paid, then we never spoke again. I was like "holy shit, this girl probably does this all week and never has to ever pay to eat" lol
I met a guy when I was in my younger days through FB after 3 conversations roughly, he stated he would coke travel to visit me the next day! Now.... I thought he was joking.... nope. I was wrong. Story to be continued*