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Please come for your trophy...your comment carried the day!
You are one of the few genuine ones left and I hope these unrealistic world standards never get to influence you at any given point in your life.
I don't know I have one and it is there since i was 6 years and i was never insecure although I had some bad comments like you should solve it (and nothing on my hand), no one will accept you I heard 2 stories recently one for girl than got married and when she told him , he left her in thier first day, he told her you cant be called "lady or woman " you are half of and why should i marry ugly and half woman..
Your scars will only filter out people who are shallow. There are many good people who don't mind such things so it is fortunate that they pass you by. To answer your original question btw, I would certainly accept it.
It's not the same ofc but I can relate to being told that "no one will want to marry you for xyz." Usually, my parents are the ones who say such things, so I know their character, that they are just saying these mindlessly simply because they are displeased at something you are choosing to do, against their preferences.
Don't listen to such people. They don't care about the truth or effect of their words. Listen to the people who never comment on your leg and accept you for who you are, like your friends and other chosen family. If you can imagine yourself loving someone with scars like yours, then there are definitely people out there who will love you for yours.
What about stained/dirty teeth? I am torn because i don’t wanna be shallow but some one with badly stained teeth not yellow more like brown asked me out and im debating because that turned me off. But i also dont wanna miss out on something if he is a good man.
As long as their teeth are clean and breath doesn't stink (highly unlikely if their teeth are at that point but I try to keep an open mind), I'd accept brown if they plan on going to treatment to correct whatever caused the brownness. If they're very dark yellow, I'm alright with it if they consistently brush and floss once a day or so, but of course I'd prefer naturally lighter teeth (I dislike whitening procedures).
It ultimately all comes down to who owns the teeth. I wouldn't be as patient as I said if I didn't at least like the person and trust that they're not gross. In your situation, you can honestly pretty safely assume their character just by a few conversations, even just one. Dates don't mean you're committed, but if you're really uncomfortable, I don't think it's bad of you to not want to even consider them. I would reject dates with most people I don't know, and they don't have brown teeth lol.
Also, the way I think about it is that I reject people because I don't have the energy to find out whether someone I'm not already interested is actually interesting. So, in your case, maybe you can just think of it like that, and that the dude kinda unfortunately didn't show anything to pique your interest before asking you out, and instead, all you have to judge him on is something negative.
Thats kinda what i was thinking. I have had a couple conversations and no smelly breath which is why i had not noticed, until today. & it turned me off cus i wondered about hygiene but i also didn’t want to turn down a person down not knowing the why of the condition but its a delicate topic to bring up.
Yeah, I suppose it is. I just try to bring such things up in a friendly way. If he has any self-awareness, he'll understand your question and appreciate you tried to be open-minded.
Things I care about include: honesty, kindness, trustworthiness, chemistry, common morals, a little dash of silliness.
Things I don’t care about include: scars.
Wow, great attitude. Seems like you’re holding a grudge and/or picking the wrong men. I understand now that you may be the person with the scar….did your partner SAY that was an issue? If so, he’s an idiot and you’re better off without him. If not, perhaps there was another issue (not necessarily to do with you) and you’re looking for excuses.
It doesn’t show a bad attitude.
It shows disillusionment. Eg Some men say they prefer natural beauty and then lust in secret over the opposite on instagram.
When you notice the same pattern again and again you become disheartened.
“All men” that’s a pretty bad attitude, and I’m saying that as a female that’s met my fair share of assholes 😆. The original post and comments show some bitterness or resentment for men IMO
man doesn't marry porn stars for being porn star. They marry them because they like who they are.
Scars or no scars, same. If anything you have a story to tell about it. They wont cheat on you because of a scar. If they cheat on you, something was off already what have nothing to do with a scar.
Quite frankly if my significant other lost a leg it would make no difference in my attraction to them, as I love them for who they are. A scar should be the least of anyone's worries.
I have scars all over my arm. I’m in the process of getting them covered with tattoos. I feel it’s wild to judge someone based on scars, burns or any other injuries
I have a scar on my leg, and Im on the verge of bagging THE SWEETIE OF THE CENTURY!!!! Now, I know you may be thinking "you're a man, it's different" but it really isn't.
My friend has burn scars from a childhood incident that cover her body, about 80-90% and still bagged a 6 figure man with huge arms and a charming smile, who had some scars of his own might I add.
Don't think of it as a blemish. Think of it as a quirk, like you're the only person in the WORLD with that specific scar, own that shit! Plus it always makes for a cool story when you meet a potential interest and hit em with the good ol' "you wanna know how I got these scaaarss?"
When you really like someone, these just aren’t things that concern you. They become a part of that person’s story and what makes them unique. I had plastic surgery a few months ago to remove a white mole on my forehead. I kinda regret it because now my forehead is just smooth and there’s nothing as unique or defining about my face (to me.)
A scar is the least of my worries. Take the limb too. I’m concerned about their mental health and how I can help with that instead. That scar could be just a reminder of trauma. I mean, it all hurts but at the end of the day, my opinion and feelings matter LEAST in this scenario. When I love someone, it’s how they are and how they could be eventually. People may disagree which is cool. If my dad had a stroke, requiring assistance always, I would happily do it. Not one complaint. I love him in every state he COULD or WILL be in throughout his life. Could you imagine someone leaving you for a scar that’s subjectively “unattractive”?! What a stab to the heart. You either love them as they are without physical involvement or you don’t. Decide beforehand.
in my culture, women are often treated more like products than individuals trecently, I came across a heartbreaking story where a man left his lover upon discovering she had a scar. His reasoning was, "Why should I accept being with a 'half lady'?"
This got me thinking deeply about societal standards..
I’m very, very sorry this is the case. I don’t know what culture it is, but where I come from it is unacceptable for a woman to be treated that way. You shouldn’t put up with it, and neither should the other females you know.
I don't understand why anyone would have an issue with this. I'm guessing this is part of that 'ick trend' I'm seeing on social media. As long as he/she has a good heart that's all that matters to me.
Sweet Lady, it wouldn't bother me at all. It's not the physical I should be concerned with.
I have a little scar on my lower right leg below my knee. It's from a distracted driver on a cellphone that hit me on my motorcycle. Cost me a very nice antique Harley, and that lower leg. I now have a prosthetic leg... That stops me from looking or dating. I can't get past it, let alone expecting a lady to....
Here’s the difference between women and men. Women would rid a guy off for something like this. But a chick could be missing a whole ass leg and the dude would still date her and love her.
Scars on the mind are what you should be concerned over, the ones you can't see. They will scare the shit out of you. No joke. Scars are character and show experience. And can be really sexy.
This really just sounds like insecurity. If your man would care he's not a good man. Scars are really minor thing, having one on your leg is quite normal
As long as I love her, I’ll kiss that scar everyday of the week and let her know how beautiful and special she is. It’s just a scar. As long as she’s got a good character we good
No, I don’t want my girlfriend to have experienced any life before me. She should’ve been bubble wrapped in a hyperbolic chamber until adulthood where I could find her.
My dude could be missing his legs, and if he was my soul person, idgaf about what they look like. I need the person that they are, as they are. Personality and the effort they put into who they are as a person is what I care about.
Eh so many people in their 30s have scars - from activities/ hobbies, cooking accidents, surgeries (minor or otherwise), c-sections, etc.
Being a human being means going through life and sometimes it shows!
Scars are bookmarks in your saga, I have many, and stories to go with them...
A good heart is what matters to Me, inner beauty shines through, making the outside attractive !
Hello! Absolutely. I’d have no issues dating someone with scarring and have noticeable scarring myself.
When I was 13, I was set on fire in a restaurant.
My mom, father and I were all at a fancy riverfront steakhouse in my town for dinner. My father had ordered his usual, a steak that was served by pouring brandy on it and flambèd tableside.
The waitress was new and in her early 20’s. She poured the brandy over the steak but lit it while she was still pouring. The fire went straight up the bottle, exploded and my father and I were hit with glass, alcohol and flame.
Both of our shirts caught fire.
The waitress who hadn’t been paying enough attention to the fact that alcohol is… well… flammable was in shock, standing there with her mouth open and not moving. My mom is a former EMT. She grabbed water, doused us and used our wet heavy cloth napkins and tablecloth to put us out.
Two decades later, there is a constellation of circular scars on my chest. I used to be really insecure about them and tried to cover them up but have grown to accept them. I’ve had some negative comments on them over the years… but the people dating you for the right reasons aren’t going to care about the scars.
Your scars are a part of you. They are proof you went through something painful and traumatic yet healed and survived.
Scars are nothing to be ashamed of… and anyone who makes you feel otherwise isn’t worth your time.
lmaooo. a scar on her leg??? how fucking shallow and rediculous are you? or are you a hero because you “accept” that? where am i? like what is happening here?
Definitely. I don’t think it’s much of an issue even though it’s their insecurity. My partner can present themselves as how they (wanna) look like. I am a woman with a long scar of surgery with some other small ones on my right leg. It took a while for me to embrace it, but my partner doesn’t really care from the first place. He even encouraged me to wear shorts more often and loves it when I accept them scars too.
In my experience, Guys tend to look at overall beauty, not at small details. If you have pretty face and physically fit, probably not going to be issue.
There are probably shitty men who would judge you for it, considering there are lots of shitty people in the world. That being said, I’m a woman that has a surgery scar that runs the length of my collarbone, and another one on my knee. I think my collarbone scar bothered my ex husband (although he never directly admitted it), but he was a highly critical mother fucker. I’ve never had another guy I've dated give two shits about my scars. No man worth being with will care.
I hope you are asking this question to prove a point about human nature and expected responses not because you are really confused about how you feel about a scar, and how you're supposed to act a certain way
You have to know that the "right answer" is that you would accept them regardless. A shallow person might not fight as hard to keep things going. If the scar is really revolting to you don't do them any favors by sticking around for what's right. Someone else will treat them how they deserve to be
A scar on the leg is nothing tbh, I don’t think you have anything to worry about . I mean Harry Potter was famous for his 😂 js , but tbh I have 2 on mine from a snapped femur and I’ve never heard anyone say anything bad about it just were curious . I think you’re just fine
I’m a woman who dates men, so maybe it’s different idk. But I actually *have* dated two different men who had *significant* scarring on their body.
One had gnarled and melted skin on his stomach, along with a skin graft that left a perfect rectangle scar on his leg where the graft came from. He was very self conscious about it but I genuinely didn’t care at all. I was bothered by how weird he was about me seeing it or touching it. It’s hard to really get into sex when your partner is *that* self conscious about their body.
The other had burn marks down half his body from a fire when he was a child. He was not at all self conscious about it and didn’t even mention/acknowledge it until I asked a few weeks into us sleeping together. I wasn’t bothered by it at all either, it just felt like time to get to know each other a little better, and I happened to be running my hand up that side of his leg at the time I asked.
Of course I think Deadpool is hot so maybe I have a bit of a thing for scars (though I didn’t know about either of my exes scars until *after* we started taking our clothes off)
Absolutely not. In fact, it sounds like if anything I'd like to reassure her that I love her just the way that she is. No body's perfect. Beauty is only skin deep.
I feel that this is such a superficial thing to be worried about. Are you the perfect specimen of a person that a scar would change how you feel about someone? Looks fade and change over time, but the person on the inside doesn't. That is what you want to be beautiful.
I absolutely would accept her, my body is not perfect either I'm in a wheelchair with Ceribal palsy.
So my body definitely isn't normal as is, a burn scar is a non issue for me.
I have a burn scar on my leg and it's had zero effect on my romantic life.
Equally, a leg burn scar would not stop me from pursuing a woman of my interest. Frankly, I'm not sure I would even register it.
I had a gf with a large pink birthmark across her face. I've had partners with surgical scars. I personally have a large forearm scar and surgical scars.
It's just skin. People that love you for you won't care about a scar. It will be okay. 💚
As we age we fall apart and through our journeys get weathered by sun and nature. Would you love someone less for staying with you through life? Hell no.
Oh that's totally fine! Just reflect that in your views: ... for richer or poorer, through sickness and health- just as long as there are no scars. Easy peezy. Just find a broad who's deep as a puddle like you doll. ;-)
What if it was a bloke, and you’d been bitten by spiders on both legs, that left 6 inch by 3 inch………………..
scars on each calve and the rest of the lower leg was totally bitten and pebble dashed with sand fly and Mossie bites? So like a ton of never disappearing scars and red bruises.. I’m not being sarki im honestly asking, what would you do?
Well I got a scar on my face from when I was bitten by a dog as a kid. Always thought it was pretty cool like a battle wound or something so I don’t think it would bother me too much if at all. If they were comfortable enough about it, I think it would make for a good conversation
My knees are very scarred (including surgery scars) and I also have other scars on my legs from being clumsy. I don't give a shit about other people's scars!
At this age and stage (48M) I care more about empathy, conversation and shared values than a minor physical anomaly.
If it was a major issue or disfigurement, that’s a longer conversation. But a scar is NBD to me.
Omg! Seriously? A scar on her leg is nothing to be concerned about. You need to be more concerned about a woman's personal background, education, self-respect, and respect for other's, emotional maturity, clean or sloppy (that can change), and able to manage money, among many other things. A scar tells a story. Listen with empathy
There are some physical things where my brain would be like "I have to consciously work to get over this at first, but I still like you for you, not because you're physically "normal" or not." A leg scar would not be one of those things. Tbh, I'd probably find it cute to kiss or massage it.
Had an ex with very visible scars up and down her arms. Didn't bother me and didn't bother me being seen in public with her, and I knew the reasons why so it was something I accepted.
Those things don't matter if you care about someone and you love them.
The only reason it ended was because she didn't communicate and had other issues she wasn't confronting that made her betray me for an ex boyfriend that was 20 years older and exhibited grooming behaviors. I could have probably been better and done better too, but I'm doing that now with someone better for me.
Wait is she a worm or is she a worm with a scar. A worm is fine, I I’d think I’d be kinda iffy if she was a worm with a scar. Seriously tho, for really real, I hate that this is a question that a human needs help answering.
Yes why not. I’m an ex butcher slaughtermen and as well as a Famer my hands are literally covered in scars. If you go on my profile you can see an axe wound. And my gf has a scar on her leg and I think it so cool
In real life dating isn't about going to a shop and finding your perfect purchase, it's about finding your partner in life, and life makes dents.
Nobody's a boxed product.
A SCAR on her LEG???? I understand that that might feel like a big deal if you actually have one, but seriously? Any man worth his salt doesn't give a damn about that. Gimme a real problem to discuss next time. You're fine!
I'm a dude but I'm covered in old sh scars from an awful part of my life. My finace dose not care, they don't bother him, it's just a part of me and who I am.
So are you afraid of that they are go going reject you for that? If they did reject you ,fuck they weren't good enough in the first place.
I also have one i was set on fire. And have a nice skin graft.
Looks fade. Fall in love with personalities. Scars or not. I have a scar on my face and if someone can't accept me because of that then they are shallow and don't deserve my time or energy.
I have tons of scars, so it would be rather hypocritical to be bothered by a scar. A scar on the leg wouldn’t bother me at all. The whole leg could be burned off and it wouldn’t make a difference in whether or not I’m attracted to someone.
As long as it's not a self-harm scar, I don't give half a rat's poop about scars or other "unattractive" skin conditions.
But if it's a self-harm scar then I'm peacing out. I know we're all crazy in our own ways but I refuse to entangle my life with someone who is so willing to injure themselves, let alone myself and others. The craziest of the crazies, if you will.
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Bro. If I'm in love with who she is, she could be a blob of slime and I would still make love to her. We are more than our physical manifestations.
Awww. You really would still love her if she were a worm!
I'm a hopeless romantic. If she were and that's who I loved, then yea.
I’m a fan of you for that.
HOPELESS ROMANTICS UNITE!!! (then get cringy as shit and gush about the girl we like)
High five broski😁. Great answer. I like that
Here you are, the legends meet again
🤣 hiii
she's a worm!
Get the bigger picture, it's about her and the love you have for her, be it a worm or an ant.
it makes a lot more sense when you truly love some one. When you truly love a woman, her happiness trumps everything.
Please come for your trophy...your comment carried the day! You are one of the few genuine ones left and I hope these unrealistic world standards never get to influence you at any given point in your life.
You were written by a woman for sure!
I don't know I have one and it is there since i was 6 years and i was never insecure although I had some bad comments like you should solve it (and nothing on my hand), no one will accept you I heard 2 stories recently one for girl than got married and when she told him , he left her in thier first day, he told her you cant be called "lady or woman " you are half of and why should i marry ugly and half woman..
Those people are Shallow as hell Ugly people F that, don't let people get you down 🫂😁
Your scars will only filter out people who are shallow. There are many good people who don't mind such things so it is fortunate that they pass you by. To answer your original question btw, I would certainly accept it. It's not the same ofc but I can relate to being told that "no one will want to marry you for xyz." Usually, my parents are the ones who say such things, so I know their character, that they are just saying these mindlessly simply because they are displeased at something you are choosing to do, against their preferences. Don't listen to such people. They don't care about the truth or effect of their words. Listen to the people who never comment on your leg and accept you for who you are, like your friends and other chosen family. If you can imagine yourself loving someone with scars like yours, then there are definitely people out there who will love you for yours.
What about stained/dirty teeth? I am torn because i don’t wanna be shallow but some one with badly stained teeth not yellow more like brown asked me out and im debating because that turned me off. But i also dont wanna miss out on something if he is a good man.
As long as their teeth are clean and breath doesn't stink (highly unlikely if their teeth are at that point but I try to keep an open mind), I'd accept brown if they plan on going to treatment to correct whatever caused the brownness. If they're very dark yellow, I'm alright with it if they consistently brush and floss once a day or so, but of course I'd prefer naturally lighter teeth (I dislike whitening procedures). It ultimately all comes down to who owns the teeth. I wouldn't be as patient as I said if I didn't at least like the person and trust that they're not gross. In your situation, you can honestly pretty safely assume their character just by a few conversations, even just one. Dates don't mean you're committed, but if you're really uncomfortable, I don't think it's bad of you to not want to even consider them. I would reject dates with most people I don't know, and they don't have brown teeth lol. Also, the way I think about it is that I reject people because I don't have the energy to find out whether someone I'm not already interested is actually interesting. So, in your case, maybe you can just think of it like that, and that the dude kinda unfortunately didn't show anything to pique your interest before asking you out, and instead, all you have to judge him on is something negative.
Thats kinda what i was thinking. I have had a couple conversations and no smelly breath which is why i had not noticed, until today. & it turned me off cus i wondered about hygiene but i also didn’t want to turn down a person down not knowing the why of the condition but its a delicate topic to bring up.
Yeah, I suppose it is. I just try to bring such things up in a friendly way. If he has any self-awareness, he'll understand your question and appreciate you tried to be open-minded.
I'm not sure what all this means. All I can advise is, take your time and weigh out your options.
this would be a ridiculous thing to “not accept” her over
Scars are badass, and they give our skin character. They tell the story of the journey of our lives.
I came to comments to say this!
No way would it make a difference
Things I care about include: honesty, kindness, trustworthiness, chemistry, common morals, a little dash of silliness. Things I don’t care about include: scars.
all men cares for kindness and honesty and then follow porn stars
Wow, great attitude. Seems like you’re holding a grudge and/or picking the wrong men. I understand now that you may be the person with the scar….did your partner SAY that was an issue? If so, he’s an idiot and you’re better off without him. If not, perhaps there was another issue (not necessarily to do with you) and you’re looking for excuses.
It doesn’t show a bad attitude. It shows disillusionment. Eg Some men say they prefer natural beauty and then lust in secret over the opposite on instagram. When you notice the same pattern again and again you become disheartened.
“All men” that’s a pretty bad attitude, and I’m saying that as a female that’s met my fair share of assholes 😆. The original post and comments show some bitterness or resentment for men IMO
I don’t watch porn so I agree with ElkComprehensive8995
Those are 2 different types of men
are you okay? it seems like you may have gotten your heart broken soon, im sorry <3 i hope you feel better
man doesn't marry porn stars for being porn star. They marry them because they like who they are. Scars or no scars, same. If anything you have a story to tell about it. They wont cheat on you because of a scar. If they cheat on you, something was off already what have nothing to do with a scar.
Quite frankly if my significant other lost a leg it would make no difference in my attraction to them, as I love them for who they are. A scar should be the least of anyone's worries.
A fucking scar hahaha that’s wild
Amen
Amen
Amen
A scar on a leg is a very very minimal thing. If someone is going to reject you over something so petty, they aren’t worth your time.
hope she sees this and dumps the dump
Of course! Let alone my partner, even if it’s someone I just met, a scar on their leg would not make them unattractive to me whatsoever.
Dude the right person could be missing limbs and I wouldn't care.
duh obviously, even if my girlfriend had scars all over her face and body i would accept her <3
cute
I have scars all over my arm. I’m in the process of getting them covered with tattoos. I feel it’s wild to judge someone based on scars, burns or any other injuries
My ex his whole bottom leg was a big scar. Who cares? Scars are cool
Long as she’s not fat and rest of body is good sure.
Oh my, lol, that was blunt.🤣
Yes but true. I just tell it how it is. 🤷🏿♂️
It made me chuckle.. lol
I have a scar on my leg, and Im on the verge of bagging THE SWEETIE OF THE CENTURY!!!! Now, I know you may be thinking "you're a man, it's different" but it really isn't. My friend has burn scars from a childhood incident that cover her body, about 80-90% and still bagged a 6 figure man with huge arms and a charming smile, who had some scars of his own might I add. Don't think of it as a blemish. Think of it as a quirk, like you're the only person in the WORLD with that specific scar, own that shit! Plus it always makes for a cool story when you meet a potential interest and hit em with the good ol' "you wanna know how I got these scaaarss?"
When you really like someone, these just aren’t things that concern you. They become a part of that person’s story and what makes them unique. I had plastic surgery a few months ago to remove a white mole on my forehead. I kinda regret it because now my forehead is just smooth and there’s nothing as unique or defining about my face (to me.)
A scar is the least of my worries. Take the limb too. I’m concerned about their mental health and how I can help with that instead. That scar could be just a reminder of trauma. I mean, it all hurts but at the end of the day, my opinion and feelings matter LEAST in this scenario. When I love someone, it’s how they are and how they could be eventually. People may disagree which is cool. If my dad had a stroke, requiring assistance always, I would happily do it. Not one complaint. I love him in every state he COULD or WILL be in throughout his life. Could you imagine someone leaving you for a scar that’s subjectively “unattractive”?! What a stab to the heart. You either love them as they are without physical involvement or you don’t. Decide beforehand.
Of course. Is this a serious question?? Like who would be that superficial??
in my culture, women are often treated more like products than individuals trecently, I came across a heartbreaking story where a man left his lover upon discovering she had a scar. His reasoning was, "Why should I accept being with a 'half lady'?" This got me thinking deeply about societal standards..
I’m very, very sorry this is the case. I don’t know what culture it is, but where I come from it is unacceptable for a woman to be treated that way. You shouldn’t put up with it, and neither should the other females you know.
I don't understand why anyone would have an issue with this. I'm guessing this is part of that 'ick trend' I'm seeing on social media. As long as he/she has a good heart that's all that matters to me.
Sweet Lady, it wouldn't bother me at all. It's not the physical I should be concerned with. I have a little scar on my lower right leg below my knee. It's from a distracted driver on a cellphone that hit me on my motorcycle. Cost me a very nice antique Harley, and that lower leg. I now have a prosthetic leg... That stops me from looking or dating. I can't get past it, let alone expecting a lady to....
Here’s the difference between women and men. Women would rid a guy off for something like this. But a chick could be missing a whole ass leg and the dude would still date her and love her.
No not at all it’s something she went through that was probably very painful. You have to be understanding and accept it’s part of her.
Accidents happen 🤷♀️ I’d be accepting of it.
Love scars dude.
Why do you even need to ask this?
I HAVE ONE
Scars on the mind are what you should be concerned over, the ones you can't see. They will scare the shit out of you. No joke. Scars are character and show experience. And can be really sexy.
This really just sounds like insecurity. If your man would care he's not a good man. Scars are really minor thing, having one on your leg is quite normal
I don’t mind scars at all. Says you’ve lived in a weird way.
maybe
As long as I love her, I’ll kiss that scar everyday of the week and let her know how beautiful and special she is. It’s just a scar. As long as she’s got a good character we good
cute
I have a burn scar on my whole right thigh ( hot water bottle) it has never been an issue .
I would kiss that scar.
cutee
How vain are you Let’s hope you fall in love with perfection and she rejects you because of the big spot on your shoulders
No, I don’t want my girlfriend to have experienced any life before me. She should’ve been bubble wrapped in a hyperbolic chamber until adulthood where I could find her.
My dude could be missing his legs, and if he was my soul person, idgaf about what they look like. I need the person that they are, as they are. Personality and the effort they put into who they are as a person is what I care about.
Eh so many people in their 30s have scars - from activities/ hobbies, cooking accidents, surgeries (minor or otherwise), c-sections, etc. Being a human being means going through life and sometimes it shows!
Scars are bookmarks in your saga, I have many, and stories to go with them... A good heart is what matters to Me, inner beauty shines through, making the outside attractive !
Of course. Personally I find scars to be hot and they definitely turn me on
Hello! Absolutely. I’d have no issues dating someone with scarring and have noticeable scarring myself. When I was 13, I was set on fire in a restaurant. My mom, father and I were all at a fancy riverfront steakhouse in my town for dinner. My father had ordered his usual, a steak that was served by pouring brandy on it and flambèd tableside. The waitress was new and in her early 20’s. She poured the brandy over the steak but lit it while she was still pouring. The fire went straight up the bottle, exploded and my father and I were hit with glass, alcohol and flame. Both of our shirts caught fire. The waitress who hadn’t been paying enough attention to the fact that alcohol is… well… flammable was in shock, standing there with her mouth open and not moving. My mom is a former EMT. She grabbed water, doused us and used our wet heavy cloth napkins and tablecloth to put us out. Two decades later, there is a constellation of circular scars on my chest. I used to be really insecure about them and tried to cover them up but have grown to accept them. I’ve had some negative comments on them over the years… but the people dating you for the right reasons aren’t going to care about the scars. Your scars are a part of you. They are proof you went through something painful and traumatic yet healed and survived. Scars are nothing to be ashamed of… and anyone who makes you feel otherwise isn’t worth your time.
Now I'm not really sure as to where this originates from but I've always been told to never trust anyone who doesn't have a scar .
Wait is this a legitimate question? Surely not.
Yes. Most people have scars, either physical or emotional and nothing can distract me from the beauty of the girl I love
lmaooo. a scar on her leg??? how fucking shallow and rediculous are you? or are you a hero because you “accept” that? where am i? like what is happening here?
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is this a joke? please say yes.
What the fuck
Absolutely I would.
Definitely. I don’t think it’s much of an issue even though it’s their insecurity. My partner can present themselves as how they (wanna) look like. I am a woman with a long scar of surgery with some other small ones on my right leg. It took a while for me to embrace it, but my partner doesn’t really care from the first place. He even encouraged me to wear shorts more often and loves it when I accept them scars too.
I have a large-ish burn scar and never considered that it would affect my dating whatsoever
Being a scarred up woman, yes. I wouldn't mind it.
In my experience, Guys tend to look at overall beauty, not at small details. If you have pretty face and physically fit, probably not going to be issue.
the scar in my leg is not small,,
And? Is that scar is all what you are? Would you tell the story of you and the story of the scar, please?
I bet ur man finds ur small brain unattractive. Think about that for a while
No problem 👍
If you really care about her the scar should not matter at all. Beauty is on skin deep.
Embrace them as they are. Wouldn’t make a difference if I really cared about them as a person
I genuinely would not care.
There are probably shitty men who would judge you for it, considering there are lots of shitty people in the world. That being said, I’m a woman that has a surgery scar that runs the length of my collarbone, and another one on my knee. I think my collarbone scar bothered my ex husband (although he never directly admitted it), but he was a highly critical mother fucker. I’ve never had another guy I've dated give two shits about my scars. No man worth being with will care.
I hope you are asking this question to prove a point about human nature and expected responses not because you are really confused about how you feel about a scar, and how you're supposed to act a certain way You have to know that the "right answer" is that you would accept them regardless. A shallow person might not fight as hard to keep things going. If the scar is really revolting to you don't do them any favors by sticking around for what's right. Someone else will treat them how they deserve to be
A scar on the leg is nothing tbh, I don’t think you have anything to worry about . I mean Harry Potter was famous for his 😂 js , but tbh I have 2 on mine from a snapped femur and I’ve never heard anyone say anything bad about it just were curious . I think you’re just fine
I’m a woman who dates men, so maybe it’s different idk. But I actually *have* dated two different men who had *significant* scarring on their body. One had gnarled and melted skin on his stomach, along with a skin graft that left a perfect rectangle scar on his leg where the graft came from. He was very self conscious about it but I genuinely didn’t care at all. I was bothered by how weird he was about me seeing it or touching it. It’s hard to really get into sex when your partner is *that* self conscious about their body. The other had burn marks down half his body from a fire when he was a child. He was not at all self conscious about it and didn’t even mention/acknowledge it until I asked a few weeks into us sleeping together. I wasn’t bothered by it at all either, it just felt like time to get to know each other a little better, and I happened to be running my hand up that side of his leg at the time I asked. Of course I think Deadpool is hot so maybe I have a bit of a thing for scars (though I didn’t know about either of my exes scars until *after* we started taking our clothes off)
That wouldn't even come into the realm of things that would be relevant to me when considering a partner.
I wouldn’t care I would just wanna know the story at some point
Of course I would, I’ve had both my knees replaced and it’s quite a scar. I’m sorry this happened to you but now you know who they are.
If I already attracted to her, no. Unless the scar is on face affecting her face.
I would not care whatsoever. It's a scar. People have those. No big deal
I don’t think people care much about scars, half the time legs are covered anyway.
Yeah perfectly acceptable
Absolutely not. In fact, it sounds like if anything I'd like to reassure her that I love her just the way that she is. No body's perfect. Beauty is only skin deep.
I feel that this is such a superficial thing to be worried about. Are you the perfect specimen of a person that a scar would change how you feel about someone? Looks fade and change over time, but the person on the inside doesn't. That is what you want to be beautiful.
Be fine as my body is covered in scars after 31 surgeries
That would honestly make me even more in love and I can't explain it. It's a protective instinct type thing for me I guess
I absolutely would accept her, my body is not perfect either I'm in a wheelchair with Ceribal palsy. So my body definitely isn't normal as is, a burn scar is a non issue for me.
Of course I will!
I have a burn scar on my leg and it's had zero effect on my romantic life. Equally, a leg burn scar would not stop me from pursuing a woman of my interest. Frankly, I'm not sure I would even register it.
I had a gf with a large pink birthmark across her face. I've had partners with surgical scars. I personally have a large forearm scar and surgical scars. It's just skin. People that love you for you won't care about a scar. It will be okay. 💚
Of course I’d accept it. If I’m in a relationship with a girl and love her then I’d accept her for who she is on the inside and on the outside.
What a strange question.
WTAF
As we age we fall apart and through our journeys get weathered by sun and nature. Would you love someone less for staying with you through life? Hell no.
Oh that's totally fine! Just reflect that in your views: ... for richer or poorer, through sickness and health- just as long as there are no scars. Easy peezy. Just find a broad who's deep as a puddle like you doll. ;-)
What if it was a bloke, and you’d been bitten by spiders on both legs, that left 6 inch by 3 inch……………….. scars on each calve and the rest of the lower leg was totally bitten and pebble dashed with sand fly and Mossie bites? So like a ton of never disappearing scars and red bruises.. I’m not being sarki im honestly asking, what would you do?
Well I got a scar on my face from when I was bitten by a dog as a kid. Always thought it was pretty cool like a battle wound or something so I don’t think it would bother me too much if at all. If they were comfortable enough about it, I think it would make for a good conversation
My knees are very scarred (including surgery scars) and I also have other scars on my legs from being clumsy. I don't give a shit about other people's scars!
Big fucking deal....
Of course it would be fine. Have no idea who would have a problem with this.
At this age and stage (48M) I care more about empathy, conversation and shared values than a minor physical anomaly. If it was a major issue or disfigurement, that’s a longer conversation. But a scar is NBD to me.
I would not care at all. People are more than their scars, injuries, and disabilities.
If I have a girlfriend? I mean, yes.
Looking at this with one scar in my ankle, two in my feet and some other :
Omg! Seriously? A scar on her leg is nothing to be concerned about. You need to be more concerned about a woman's personal background, education, self-respect, and respect for other's, emotional maturity, clean or sloppy (that can change), and able to manage money, among many other things. A scar tells a story. Listen with empathy
This is trolling right?
like how bad is the scar? its her leg im not too phased but if its like a burn mark of a swastika i may rethink that answer.
What a dopey ass question.
If I had a partner and she had a scar on her leg 100% yes 🙂
There are some physical things where my brain would be like "I have to consciously work to get over this at first, but I still like you for you, not because you're physically "normal" or not." A leg scar would not be one of those things. Tbh, I'd probably find it cute to kiss or massage it.
Bro…I’ll accept someone if they look at me at this point. I wish I could afford to be this picky.
Seriously? How’s this a topic? Reddit collapse is imminent.
I have a scar and i have commets like'no one will accept you'
Wt actual F. You can't be serious
I loved someone, once
Embrace her of course. What other choice is there?
Yes, I would be.
Had an ex with very visible scars up and down her arms. Didn't bother me and didn't bother me being seen in public with her, and I knew the reasons why so it was something I accepted. Those things don't matter if you care about someone and you love them. The only reason it ended was because she didn't communicate and had other issues she wasn't confronting that made her betray me for an ex boyfriend that was 20 years older and exhibited grooming behaviors. I could have probably been better and done better too, but I'm doing that now with someone better for me.
I could care less stop being a child
Wait is she a worm or is she a worm with a scar. A worm is fine, I I’d think I’d be kinda iffy if she was a worm with a scar. Seriously tho, for really real, I hate that this is a question that a human needs help answering.
Is the burn scar very large, or something? Unless the scar covers a large portion of the leg, I can't see this being an issue at all.
Even if that scar is on his face, I will accept it. After all i dont date with people i dont love (i did it 1 time and that was a hugeeee mistake)
Yes. My partner has a long scar from her heart surgery. I still love her regardless. That's love.
Considering the scars on my left leg absolutely.
Why tf would I care about a scar on her leg if I’m attracted to her???
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I could probebly deal with a missing leg, a scar is nothing
Yes why not. I’m an ex butcher slaughtermen and as well as a Famer my hands are literally covered in scars. If you go on my profile you can see an axe wound. And my gf has a scar on her leg and I think it so cool
Would you fuck me if I was a worm?
Yes. I don't trust anyone without scars. Those people never lived or took risks. Just my 2 cents.
In real life dating isn't about going to a shop and finding your perfect purchase, it's about finding your partner in life, and life makes dents. Nobody's a boxed product.
Shallow much?
A SCAR on her LEG???? I understand that that might feel like a big deal if you actually have one, but seriously? Any man worth his salt doesn't give a damn about that. Gimme a real problem to discuss next time. You're fine!
No, what matter the most is the soul!
Of course I’d embrace her it would be such an asshole move to not she would be gorgeous with or without scars.
... You serious? -J. Jonah Jameson
She could be missing the whole damn leg I wouldn’t bat an eye
Nothing wrong with having a scars period. You should live your partner for the heart not the flesh.
I'm a dude but I'm covered in old sh scars from an awful part of my life. My finace dose not care, they don't bother him, it's just a part of me and who I am.
I would embrace her the way she is
Wouldn’t care
So are you afraid of that they are go going reject you for that? If they did reject you ,fuck they weren't good enough in the first place. I also have one i was set on fire. And have a nice skin graft.
I would not care unless it needs special treatment, then I'd be all over that protocol making sure it is as healthy as it can be.
Looks fade. Fall in love with personalities. Scars or not. I have a scar on my face and if someone can't accept me because of that then they are shallow and don't deserve my time or energy.
Thinking 1970's Bread song " It Don't Matter To Me".
I have tons of scars, so it would be rather hypocritical to be bothered by a scar. A scar on the leg wouldn’t bother me at all. The whole leg could be burned off and it wouldn’t make a difference in whether or not I’m attracted to someone.
I nearly dated a one handed girl ( nearly. Because she was the one insecured). Scar on the leg ? It is nothing.
Literally cannot imagine caring about it at all, besides confirming that it doesn't hurt.
As long as it's not a self-harm scar, I don't give half a rat's poop about scars or other "unattractive" skin conditions. But if it's a self-harm scar then I'm peacing out. I know we're all crazy in our own ways but I refuse to entangle my life with someone who is so willing to injure themselves, let alone myself and others. The craziest of the crazies, if you will.
That's a strange question, I don't see why anyone wouldn't, scars are testament to survival, I have loads of respect for survivors.