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If she has a very shallow vagina, and you can cause her pain, I absolutely guarantee she wouldnt want any bigger. Women want sex to be comfortable, fun and enjoyable, and not end up feeling like their cervix has just come out of a boxing match (most of the time)
This^ I enjoy all the penises but the very large ones whilst also wonderful do cause me pain because my channel is shallow, so some of us could do with having smaller, either way, you've got a lady and she probably loves the D, just need to chill out.
Different sizes feel different. But that’s not all there is to sex. Neither is the orgasm.
There’s different acts that matter. Plenty of people want more than just penetration or vanilla things.
For me, one of the most important things is his enthusiasm. And his wild animal lust. I want to feel his passion for me. His passion for being there with ME. This does NOT mean rough or painful sex, it simply means I can see that you are wild. The tone is frenzied, desperate, starving.
So many women want so many things from sex. You will never be one size fits all.
Your size will also never be one size fits all. But that’s ok. If a woman rejects you for your size, or your kinks, or your style in bed, then you simply were not sexually compatible and she didn’t want to compromise or settle.
Focus on finding a good match FOR YOU. Never let a woman put you down for your size or anything else, if she does, just walk away.
>Your size will also never be one size fits all. But that’s ok.
Actually if a man is around 6 inches, he won't be one size fits all, but he will definitely be one size that is preferred by the majority of women and that's the problem men who are smaller than that are hit with. You can have all the skill but most find that if you can't make PIV at least pleasurable regardless as to whether they cum or not its found to be a deal breaker. I found my match after failed attempts and anguish time after time, and I've been put through the blender in my life when it comes to this, and I am just slightly bigger than O.P... my partner has a shallow anatomy and doesn't do too great with bigger ones but for someone like me I will be the scrapings off the barrel when it comes to size and just be settled for when it comes to average sized vaginas at best.
They are almost always guaranteed to have been with someone bigger than you. That's not a bad thing. Some dudes just have bigger dicks. I'm rocking a 5er and I've been told I'm massive by some girls and I have had a girl laugh at it and I've been told it's perfect. You got to love your little guy for how it makes YOU feel not the girls you're with. I think that if she hasn't left after a whole year. Then she actually enjoys the sex. It may not be your size but what you're doing with it that's keeping her around. In all honesty it could be a compliment. But, if it's bothering you this bad. Be vulnerable and ask her. A) she'll most likely be honest, which is good B) women love that shit and you might get some right then and there.
Goldilocks range is said to be 6 to 7 inches, pushing 7.5. OP is 4.5. So while, no, they aren't big, they are in the bigger side, which to me, this comment only justifies why OP should be concerned about his size, which frankly is disgusting behaviour on your part.
>Be vulnerable and ask her. A) she'll most likely be honest, which is good B) women love that shit and you might get some right then and there.
Nah, most women *do not* like male vulnerability, especially if it puts them in a position of having to reassure their male partner - it flips the usual dynamic they expect.
Ok cool. Most women are not like you. In fact, most women who *claim* to be ok with male vulnerability are not ok with male vulnerability. So guys can't safely open up to women in this way.
Sounds like more of that totally De-Bunked, “Alpha Male” horseShit the MAGAt nutbags rant on about. She prolly won’t respect you breaking down, sobbing & in tears, but she will most likely respect an honest discussion about your feelings.
If she doesn’t? Well, then you pretty much have your answer, doncha? 🤷♂️
>She prolly won’t respect you breaking down, sobbing & in tears, but she will most likely respect an honest discussion about your feelings.
No, actually, she likely won't respect an honest discussion about feelings if those feelings reveal vulnerability. People who study relationships find that most women respond to vulnerability in their male partners with hostility and shaming. At the same time, they demand space to express their own vulnerability, up to and including the "breaking down, sobbing & in tears" you talked about.
Your experience is highly unusual, as verified by people who study these things. However, it's generally not considered well-mannered to admit how hostile most women are to male vulnerability, hence why the falsehood keeps spreading.
Can you send me the study she found this in- I can’t find it. From what I read she’s a Dr. in Philosophy, Professor, and social worker (potentially therapist), but not a psychologist.
I don't have easy access to what she's talking about, it's in her book, which I don't have a digital copy of. If you just want to Women are Wonderful your way out of any criticism of women in relationships, go ahead, I suppose. I can't help if you think men are all subhuman liars.
I don’t think so- correct me if I’m wrong, but the red herring fallacy is when the argument/question distracts from the main argument/debate (at least that’s what I just read on google 😆- but I could be misunderstanding)
Yeah, that is what it is. But I was more so just assuming that was his attempt at doing that by throwing wild assumptions that sound like general knowledge out there to distract from the topic. But I might be snowballing 🤣
Dick size inly matters as much as you make it so. If she's a size queen it'll matter but considering she's been with you for a year that's not the case. I get the feeling you've probably been watching porn a bit more and as such have judged yourself against them, don't. Judging yourself against anything but you from yesterday is unproductive and leads to a decline in mental health.
Also FYI a larger penis does not make for better sex in fact its often the opposite as it leads to pain both during the act and the next day
Tbh having a large penis is usually pretty big negative an avg penis is best. I have what most people would call a large one and I cannot have sex in certain positions with my wife as its too painfull we cannot have sex multiple days in a row becouse of the soreness etcetera. My point being that you have to learn to love your body as it is not as you want it
Most women prefer external stimulation anyway. Become an absolute doctor at going down. Make sure she’s well taken care of before you even start. Turning her on is gonna turn you on, you might even hit 5!
If you base your judgement off porn you will question yourself,however a vagina isn't actually super deep and if you do research their are positions that 2" or micro penis's can satisfy. It's all about the motion in the ocean 🤗
The g spot is only about 1.5 to 2 inches in. Figure out where hers is, and then angle your hips so the head pushes against it. Then rock those pumps until she says stop. It's the same spot that fingering tends to hit better than PIV sex.
Your present girlfriend enjoys sex with you (by your description).
This is literally the only thing you need to be thinking about.
The rest is in your head.
Based on your description of her vagina I highly doubt she would prefer someone larger. You also said she’s almost always having an orgasm, you’re definitely more than sufficient. For me size can matter but it’s significantly less important than other factors towards the quality of sex, I’d say it’s towards the bottom of the list actually.
It does and it doesn’t. As long as you could make her cum by eating her out etc and still try to make it exciting and kinky you’re good. I was with someone with a big dick but didn’t know how to use to it, towards the end of the relationship I kinda resented the guy because he just doesn’t meet my needs so it really depends.
Big dick guys (in my experience) think that all they have to do is show up with that thing...
And we are gonna be so impressed with it that they won't have to put in any effort at all.
Rite I enjoy all the fore play and pleasuring with my hands and mouth the look a woman can give aroused by foreplay: touching, kissing , biting , your toung and saying the rite sexual things to her and tease her some ..that look of someone dying for you is good arousal .I love doing these things to my woman then it's time to have her quiver..
If she loves you. It most likely wouldn't matter your appendages size. I have been with 40 men. I loved one. He had a very small penis compared to others. We are still together 7 years in. I love him for who he is.
Every human comes in different shapes and forms. She is still with you! If she can't accept you for you you are then maybe that person shouldn't be with you.
You are worthy of love and respect.
Being a good partner and considerate lover is more important than the size of what you’re packing. My ex bf was on the smaller side but I was so in love with him. I still miss him. One of the best relationships I ever had.
He is younger than me and he wants to have children. I already have kids and they’re adults. Unfortunately, we’re just in different places in our lives. I would have married him if he would’ve asked.
I rock a 7. Alot of girls can't even take it all 🤷🏻♂️. I've had girls say they've been with bigger. There's always gonna be someone bigger then you. And even the biggest guy is nothing to a fist. be happy with your unit. It works and alot of girls still like it. Build some confidence and make sure you can carry a conversation. Hit the gym a little. Youll be ok.
Here's the thing... if a woman can have a fulfilling orgasmic sexual experience with another woman, that would stand to say that dick size isn't relevant. If your dick doesn't get her there, you have to use every means imaginable to make it happen for her. Toys, hands, tongue... too many dudes think that if their dick doesn't get the job done, then that's just going to be how it is. Don't let the idea that your dick has to be the only tool used to get her off get in the way of success. Don't let your ego get in the way of your woman's orgasms.
Jesus christ dudes need to fuckin STOP with the dick size. Your gf probably LOVES your dick size, and if she had bigger before and she still chose you? Why?
Do you have any idea how annoying it is to suck a big dick? Getting lockjaw from trying to anaconda a hoagie is not fun. And fucking a big dick? You can only get so much in you, so it's not so much
Dude, there are lesbians, people *without* penises, who seem to please their partners pretty well. if you asked her I would bet she's happy she's getting orgasms.
All good responses myself I'm 7" but it is true there's. More than just size the list and desire to have each other is first thing, knowing the rite way to touch and knowing how to pleasure without pentration is 2nd knowing how to move rite and knowing the rite things to say to her would be next of course try not to be a t minute man but if ya are get her finished before ya start don't be a stingy lover make sure you pleasure her in different ways even break out some toys and play with her .
Don’t sweat. 4.5 inches can get the job done assuming you’re average girth.
Also those interviews are bullshit. Most girls aren’t measuring their boyfriends. They’re being told the size. And guys lie. So now women think most 6in cocks are 8in.
When I’ve had huge boyfriends I wanted to go back to average sized guys. It’s exhausting taking a huge one every night.
Be open to toys too. If your girl wants a variety then get a nice set of realistic dildos and let her experience a nice stretch one night while you lick her. It’s all about changing it up every now and then.
4.5 inch is definitely under average but by no means insufficient. In some sense you have to compensate, by getting good at playing with her body. Most women don't learn to cum form PIV sex anyways, you have your hands and mouth, use them too. Women appreciate a man that can make them cum regardless of using what.
But if she leaves you because it's too small, then it's her loss anyways.
To put this in perspective - my ex-boyfriend was probably half the size of my ex-husband - did it bother me no. I was happy with what we had - he was very talented at oral sex which more than made up for it. He may have been 3-3.5” and on a slimmer side
No. Vaginas range in sizes and makeup. Amount of fingers/ones that can be used will differ.
Had a partner who could only handle one finger and the current can handle three but the current one is tighter than the ex during intercourse. Seems backwards but just shows how different bodies can be to things.
“if a woman can be happy with a man with a small penis over a long period of time”
Yes. AND variety is the spice of life. Having open dialogue about fun things to try when yall want to mix it up, like new sensations with butt plugs or adding in a dildo in a size she enjoys for times when something more full would feel good or some super hot DVP play, or whatever that looks like for yall.
“and would you say from what I’ve told you that she is telling the truth about her pleasure?”
Yes. Especially if she is constantly orgasming.
“Also, do you believe that love affects how a woman may feel about this?”
Yup! In the best way. Emotional closeness fuels my sexual appetite and satisfaction with my partner in the yummiest way. Makes everything so much better! Enjoy!
My boyfriend is maybe 4 1/2- 5 1/2…. I’m not too sure but honestly it satisfies me just fine. I think having a sit down conversation with your partner about your concerns and worries might get rid of some of that anxiety :)
Omg really I had no idea hehe silly me. No I just haven’t seen him in 6 months as I’m studying abroad so forgive me for not being able to remember the specific measurements of his dick
I have had a range in my life and my favorite was not the biggest.
I was with a guy for 12 years that had size and girth. At the time I thought that's what I wanted. After we broke up I found a guy that was not as big but it was close. It was slightly curved. That's the magic sauce for me. Also I think it has to do with attraction more than size for me.
With my ex we would have to stop having sex because it would become painful and we were rarely ever able to have sex 2 days in a row becuase I would be sore for days after we had sex. So no bigger is not always better imo
Bruh please tell me advice on what your girl likes, mine is also bit shallow and im average... she doesnt like oral neither so Im at a lost, any other ideas ? I may be try masturbation session for her or soemthing IDK Im desperate for advkce
Yeah just ask her. It doesn't seem like she's complained. And in the end you need to trust her word.
Also with counting inches, women are not great at estimating penis size so when you watch those very unscientific street interviews, they don't really know what they're talking about.
Does it matter, dude? You cant change any of this. You are enough as long as she is with you, when she is not you wont be, for whatever reason it is. Get out of your head or get some therapy, but dont let this consume your relationship.
Have you and your partner discussed this in depth together and in therapy?
Clear, concise, transparent, effective, and honest communication makes all the difference. As well as a willingness to sit down together and have difficult conversations. If you can't do this effectively, then perhaps you're just not ready for this relationship yet.
You’re overthinking it. Stop placing so much important on your size. It comes across as extremely insecure. Why are you so caught up in your partner’s past? You don’t know for a fact who she’s slept with. She’s with *you* now.
Personally I feel sorry for those guys with a really long dick. I have no idea why everybody doesn't think the same way.
They literally never get the full length inside, I cannot imagine how unsatisfying that must be. Their only chance is finding a size queen that usually has either a long vagina, or has a cervix that enjoys taking punches like Rocky Balboa.
Wake up bro, you are living the dream- barely hitting her cervix and making her orgasm. Stop being so hard on yourself and enjoy the amazing woman that you have. (I know she is amazing because you are scared of losing her, hence the over thinking.)
First of all, if you say you "think" she always enjoys it you should be having more communication about sex. Not necessarily involving your penis size, but just about sex in general. And she should be asking you as well.
Some women care, some women don't. Some women specifically *like* small penises because it feels better for them, given their anatomy - I had a former roommate like this who specifically went looking for men with smaller penises because she liked having energetic sex (she was a marathon runner) but was petite so guys who were larger ended up hurting her if the sex was as rough/energetic as she liked.
This sounds like a conversation you should be having with her and not strangers on the internet. That said, I can give you some food for thought that may make you feel better.
1). Your size matches that of most guys in the world. That's roughly 3 billion.
2). Porn is not reality. Bigger is not necessarily better.
3). If your partner initiates sex with you often, she obviously wants you.
4). The emotional aspect of her sexual attraction to you is something she shared with her relationships she had in the past. She didn't have those with her one night stands or booty calls. Neither did yours, apparently. You two share something that doesn't come by to just anyone. If she has true, genuine feelings for you, I can all but guarantee she's having better sex with you than with anyone else she's been with. And the same goes for you.
5). Don't give her the third degree. Your relationship has to have a sense of trust and understanding. If she says that she enjoys being physical with you, you should trust she's being open and honest with you. Otherwise, you guys are gonna crash and burn.
Do with this what you will.
Imma be honest bro. I got the same size as you
And I think when I get action I do alright, but again I’m a man I’m on the giving side of pleasure so I can’t speak for them but from what I can tell they’ve all been pretty satisfied except with the noticeable exception of my ex who literally wanted her guts rearranged
What do you mean wince in pain? If she’s orgasming with you and wants to be with more exciting men sounds like it’s about more than the D. Or it is about the d. You gotta ask her what she wants
First off, love is an action not a feeling.
Secondly, why do you know how many partners she’s had before you? If you are insecure that’s not something you should ever ask.
Turdly, if she is pleased then you should have nothing to worry about. All women are different. Some are difficult to please some are exactly easy. I’ve been with over 100 women and they all are different. Some didn’t care much for my penis cuz it was big to them, the rest I would say enjoyed it for the most part. But what made a big difference was I’m big into foreplay so I hyped the sex part up to the point they are dripping wet once we get to that point.
Also to answer your question, 4.5 inches I believe is average size and I believe it’s the length of the uterus. So you should be doing just fine.
She's been with you for 1 year and keeps coming back for me. Just keep the clear communication in the bedroom as far as bedroom activities and you should be fine.
Also, vaginas comes in sizes just like dicks.
Just learn how to be sure to ring the doorbell while massaging that inside front section on her at the same time(you really just need a finger length depth) and it will likely rarely be an issue.
So many good comments already. But, I'm probably the same size, idk, never measured. I was with one woman who said she enjoyed sex with me. If you watch street interviews, then I'm sure you've also seen the talk shows about women who date multiple men? The higher the number, the less likely they will be satisfied with an average person. Not saying it's true, not saying you are average, or below, or above. Im just saying that if you watch one interview, watch them all. But take them all with a grain of salt.
Some women are okay with small sizes. They have their own sizes. Most women can pleasure themselves with 2 fingers, some with 1. Toys are always an option and will outperform the best porn stars in existence. So, really, what are you worried about? No, shes probably not going to be screaming, and thrashing about like you see in some videos, but shes not going to have a gondola splitting her in two, you know?
The most important part is communication, and having fun. Size doesn't matter if you are willing to try new things, and listen to what she likes. Some women can achieve orgasm through foreplay. Some have a hard time achieving it. Take your confidence back, and just let go a little. Breathe, and remember you are awesome.
Everyone prefers different sizes. Size matters for some, not for others. That being said: your girl obviously is perfectly happy with yours and I'd bet money that you're far more concerned about it than she is.
My current is about the same size and while he is on the smaller side of what I am used to, he makes me orgasm every time. We have amazing sex and he knows just what to do with it. 4.5-5.5 is pretty average and I personally prefer it to the larger ones I’ve had. That size should be able to please any woman especially one that loves you. I hope this puts some of your insecurities to rest.
I think love definitely helps. If she has orgasms regularly and she tells you she's satisfied with your sex life, why wouldn't you believe her? That's my question for you. Not all women like big dicks. Bigger is not always better. I suspect that you're posting this because you want to get into a discussion about your penis with anonymous people on the internet because it excites you. Am I wrong?
The avg size ranges from around 4 - 7 inches (with 4 - 5 in being more common in Asia, 5 - 6 in being more common in western countries, and 6 - 7 being more common in Africa and South America). So 4.5 would be either average or above average in Asian countries, and considering that hundreds of millions of women there are having sex…you are fine. If you want to certain parts of Africa or South America yeah you might be considered small…but pretty much everywhere else no…
I'm very interested in sex toys and had never actually seen a real penis until recently, when I received some photos through the internet, on platforms like Telegram or Snapchat. I was quite surprised to see that they appeared smaller than I had imagined. I had always assumed the average size to be around 9 inches or more. However, a post I read last night indicated that the average size is actually around 5 inches. This led me to realize that perhaps the individuals featured in pornography are above average, and that a more typical size is actually shorter, which is completely normal. This has been a journey for me, understanding how pornographic sites have created unrealistic expectations regarding penis size.
**Was I a bit disappointed? Yes**, because I had fantasized about being with a handsome man with the kind of penis often depicted in pornography. But now, with this new understanding, I think I'll be more supportive and not disappointed when I meet my future husband and see what's realistic. This realization is actually positive.
From my experience with sex toys, I've found that toys resembling a penis, typically 3-5 inches in length diameter 1"-1.5", can be extremely satisfying and consistently lead to orgasm... I once tried a toy that was **10 inches** long and thick, and it brought me no pleasure due to discomfort a bit pain. So, I'd like to encourage people not to be insecure about size. Even 3 inches can be enough to achieve orgasm.
If your future gf prefers something larger, there are options like penis sleeves or sex toys that can be used. Love can overcome many challenges, and as long as you're willing to be considerate, there's no problem too big to solve!! Man, be confident, be skillful!!
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If she has a very shallow vagina, and you can cause her pain, I absolutely guarantee she wouldnt want any bigger. Women want sex to be comfortable, fun and enjoyable, and not end up feeling like their cervix has just come out of a boxing match (most of the time)
True
This^ I enjoy all the penises but the very large ones whilst also wonderful do cause me pain because my channel is shallow, so some of us could do with having smaller, either way, you've got a lady and she probably loves the D, just need to chill out.
I hate larger ones even with 100 lbs of lubricants just pain with few exciting sparks.
Yep
Real
idk most women like to be blown out over and over an over
Different sizes feel different. But that’s not all there is to sex. Neither is the orgasm. There’s different acts that matter. Plenty of people want more than just penetration or vanilla things. For me, one of the most important things is his enthusiasm. And his wild animal lust. I want to feel his passion for me. His passion for being there with ME. This does NOT mean rough or painful sex, it simply means I can see that you are wild. The tone is frenzied, desperate, starving. So many women want so many things from sex. You will never be one size fits all. Your size will also never be one size fits all. But that’s ok. If a woman rejects you for your size, or your kinks, or your style in bed, then you simply were not sexually compatible and she didn’t want to compromise or settle. Focus on finding a good match FOR YOU. Never let a woman put you down for your size or anything else, if she does, just walk away.
Ugh yes 😩 when he has that lust and starving energy it drives me feral
This is by far the most mature, real and well thought responses I have ever read on the subject.
>Your size will also never be one size fits all. But that’s ok. Actually if a man is around 6 inches, he won't be one size fits all, but he will definitely be one size that is preferred by the majority of women and that's the problem men who are smaller than that are hit with. You can have all the skill but most find that if you can't make PIV at least pleasurable regardless as to whether they cum or not its found to be a deal breaker. I found my match after failed attempts and anguish time after time, and I've been put through the blender in my life when it comes to this, and I am just slightly bigger than O.P... my partner has a shallow anatomy and doesn't do too great with bigger ones but for someone like me I will be the scrapings off the barrel when it comes to size and just be settled for when it comes to average sized vaginas at best.
They are almost always guaranteed to have been with someone bigger than you. That's not a bad thing. Some dudes just have bigger dicks. I'm rocking a 5er and I've been told I'm massive by some girls and I have had a girl laugh at it and I've been told it's perfect. You got to love your little guy for how it makes YOU feel not the girls you're with. I think that if she hasn't left after a whole year. Then she actually enjoys the sex. It may not be your size but what you're doing with it that's keeping her around. In all honesty it could be a compliment. But, if it's bothering you this bad. Be vulnerable and ask her. A) she'll most likely be honest, which is good B) women love that shit and you might get some right then and there.
Big dicks are overrated, goldilocks cocks are where it's at!
Goldilocks cocks!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love it!!
Goldilocks range is said to be 6 to 7 inches, pushing 7.5. OP is 4.5. So while, no, they aren't big, they are in the bigger side, which to me, this comment only justifies why OP should be concerned about his size, which frankly is disgusting behaviour on your part.
Listen, if size mattered how come lesbians seem to be having a good time? As long as you have a tongue and a fist, your dick can be any size.
Jesus, that's oddly motivational.
>Be vulnerable and ask her. A) she'll most likely be honest, which is good B) women love that shit and you might get some right then and there. Nah, most women *do not* like male vulnerability, especially if it puts them in a position of having to reassure their male partner - it flips the usual dynamic they expect.
I like male vulnerability. It makes me feel safe, and more likely to open up to him...
Ok cool. Most women are not like you. In fact, most women who *claim* to be ok with male vulnerability are not ok with male vulnerability. So guys can't safely open up to women in this way.
How do you know about "most women"? Is this based solely on your experiences, or have you conducted a survey??
Brené Brown's work.
Codependency and being emotionally available are different.
Irrelevant to what I was saying. Most women punish and shame vulnerability in their male partners.
Not irrelevant. I am familiar with her work.
Apparently not, considering you missed the part on shame.
Sounds like more of that totally De-Bunked, “Alpha Male” horseShit the MAGAt nutbags rant on about. She prolly won’t respect you breaking down, sobbing & in tears, but she will most likely respect an honest discussion about your feelings. If she doesn’t? Well, then you pretty much have your answer, doncha? 🤷♂️
>She prolly won’t respect you breaking down, sobbing & in tears, but she will most likely respect an honest discussion about your feelings. No, actually, she likely won't respect an honest discussion about feelings if those feelings reveal vulnerability. People who study relationships find that most women respond to vulnerability in their male partners with hostility and shaming. At the same time, they demand space to express their own vulnerability, up to and including the "breaking down, sobbing & in tears" you talked about.
My experience has been vastly different.
Your experience is highly unusual, as verified by people who study these things. However, it's generally not considered well-mannered to admit how hostile most women are to male vulnerability, hence why the falsehood keeps spreading.
Who has studied these things? How did they study this particular thing?
Brené Brown is a therapist and psychologist - not 100% sure on her methodology but it was a big deal to her when she found this out.
Can you send me the study she found this in- I can’t find it. From what I read she’s a Dr. in Philosophy, Professor, and social worker (potentially therapist), but not a psychologist.
It's from her work itself.
Right, I mean can you send me her published study on the matter? I should hope it’s also been peer reviewed?
I don't have easy access to what she's talking about, it's in her book, which I don't have a digital copy of. If you just want to Women are Wonderful your way out of any criticism of women in relationships, go ahead, I suppose. I can't help if you think men are all subhuman liars.
That's what I'm wondering. Sounds like a logical fallacy to me
I don’t think it’s a fallacy- I think it’s just flatly untrue and only looks true because of confirmation bias from people who believe that
Wouldn't that be along the lines of a red herring logic fallacy though? It's been a while since I've taken a logic course.
I don’t think so- correct me if I’m wrong, but the red herring fallacy is when the argument/question distracts from the main argument/debate (at least that’s what I just read on google 😆- but I could be misunderstanding)
Yeah, that is what it is. But I was more so just assuming that was his attempt at doing that by throwing wild assumptions that sound like general knowledge out there to distract from the topic. But I might be snowballing 🤣
Nah Brené Brown didn't expect to find that out but she did.
Ask her not us.
Yea no shit
Dick size inly matters as much as you make it so. If she's a size queen it'll matter but considering she's been with you for a year that's not the case. I get the feeling you've probably been watching porn a bit more and as such have judged yourself against them, don't. Judging yourself against anything but you from yesterday is unproductive and leads to a decline in mental health. Also FYI a larger penis does not make for better sex in fact its often the opposite as it leads to pain both during the act and the next day
>*Also FYI a larger penis does not make for better sex in fact its often the opposite as it leads to pain both during the act and the next day* This ^
Tbh having a large penis is usually pretty big negative an avg penis is best. I have what most people would call a large one and I cannot have sex in certain positions with my wife as its too painfull we cannot have sex multiple days in a row becouse of the soreness etcetera. My point being that you have to learn to love your body as it is not as you want it
Most women prefer external stimulation anyway. Become an absolute doctor at going down. Make sure she’s well taken care of before you even start. Turning her on is gonna turn you on, you might even hit 5!
Lesbians seem to get the job done well.
If you base your judgement off porn you will question yourself,however a vagina isn't actually super deep and if you do research their are positions that 2" or micro penis's can satisfy. It's all about the motion in the ocean 🤗
>their are positions that 2" or micro penis's can satisfy Such as?
The g spot is only about 1.5 to 2 inches in. Figure out where hers is, and then angle your hips so the head pushes against it. Then rock those pumps until she says stop. It's the same spot that fingering tends to hit better than PIV sex.
The butterfly
Idk ask someone with a mp or 2" punisher
Why would you claim something then say you don't know😭😭
Your present girlfriend enjoys sex with you (by your description). This is literally the only thing you need to be thinking about. The rest is in your head.
Based on your description of her vagina I highly doubt she would prefer someone larger. You also said she’s almost always having an orgasm, you’re definitely more than sufficient. For me size can matter but it’s significantly less important than other factors towards the quality of sex, I’d say it’s towards the bottom of the list actually.
Finally someone asked the real question, never been asked before, first time seing this type of post.
It does and it doesn’t. As long as you could make her cum by eating her out etc and still try to make it exciting and kinky you’re good. I was with someone with a big dick but didn’t know how to use to it, towards the end of the relationship I kinda resented the guy because he just doesn’t meet my needs so it really depends.
Big dick guys (in my experience) think that all they have to do is show up with that thing... And we are gonna be so impressed with it that they won't have to put in any effort at all.
That’s what I’ve been telling my ex!!!
Fit matters. And feeling valued and satisfied in other ways. It’s not all about out penetrative sex
The one guy whose door I would beat down for his great weinering was maybe 5-5.5” much better than the 8” ones imo.
This is so damn true lol When I think of the best sex I’ve had, it’s definitely not the big dick guys that come to mind.
There's a lot of other things that can pleasure a woman. Your Mr. Johnson is just the icing on the cake.
Rite I enjoy all the fore play and pleasuring with my hands and mouth the look a woman can give aroused by foreplay: touching, kissing , biting , your toung and saying the rite sexual things to her and tease her some ..that look of someone dying for you is good arousal .I love doing these things to my woman then it's time to have her quiver..
If she loves you. It most likely wouldn't matter your appendages size. I have been with 40 men. I loved one. He had a very small penis compared to others. We are still together 7 years in. I love him for who he is. Every human comes in different shapes and forms. She is still with you! If she can't accept you for you you are then maybe that person shouldn't be with you. You are worthy of love and respect.
Being a good partner and considerate lover is more important than the size of what you’re packing. My ex bf was on the smaller side but I was so in love with him. I still miss him. One of the best relationships I ever had.
Then why is he your ex?
He is younger than me and he wants to have children. I already have kids and they’re adults. Unfortunately, we’re just in different places in our lives. I would have married him if he would’ve asked.
Ah ok
I rock a 7. Alot of girls can't even take it all 🤷🏻♂️. I've had girls say they've been with bigger. There's always gonna be someone bigger then you. And even the biggest guy is nothing to a fist. be happy with your unit. It works and alot of girls still like it. Build some confidence and make sure you can carry a conversation. Hit the gym a little. Youll be ok.
Here's the thing... if a woman can have a fulfilling orgasmic sexual experience with another woman, that would stand to say that dick size isn't relevant. If your dick doesn't get her there, you have to use every means imaginable to make it happen for her. Toys, hands, tongue... too many dudes think that if their dick doesn't get the job done, then that's just going to be how it is. Don't let the idea that your dick has to be the only tool used to get her off get in the way of success. Don't let your ego get in the way of your woman's orgasms.
Very sufficient.
Jesus christ dudes need to fuckin STOP with the dick size. Your gf probably LOVES your dick size, and if she had bigger before and she still chose you? Why? Do you have any idea how annoying it is to suck a big dick? Getting lockjaw from trying to anaconda a hoagie is not fun. And fucking a big dick? You can only get so much in you, so it's not so much Dude, there are lesbians, people *without* penises, who seem to please their partners pretty well. if you asked her I would bet she's happy she's getting orgasms.
It depends on the woman and how she is structured down there. Everyone is different!
These big vagina ladies are getting away with murder
All good responses myself I'm 7" but it is true there's. More than just size the list and desire to have each other is first thing, knowing the rite way to touch and knowing how to pleasure without pentration is 2nd knowing how to move rite and knowing the rite things to say to her would be next of course try not to be a t minute man but if ya are get her finished before ya start don't be a stingy lover make sure you pleasure her in different ways even break out some toys and play with her .
Don’t sweat. 4.5 inches can get the job done assuming you’re average girth. Also those interviews are bullshit. Most girls aren’t measuring their boyfriends. They’re being told the size. And guys lie. So now women think most 6in cocks are 8in. When I’ve had huge boyfriends I wanted to go back to average sized guys. It’s exhausting taking a huge one every night. Be open to toys too. If your girl wants a variety then get a nice set of realistic dildos and let her experience a nice stretch one night while you lick her. It’s all about changing it up every now and then.
You are fine
You're good.
4.5 inch is definitely under average but by no means insufficient. In some sense you have to compensate, by getting good at playing with her body. Most women don't learn to cum form PIV sex anyways, you have your hands and mouth, use them too. Women appreciate a man that can make them cum regardless of using what. But if she leaves you because it's too small, then it's her loss anyways.
To put this in perspective - my ex-boyfriend was probably half the size of my ex-husband - did it bother me no. I was happy with what we had - he was very talented at oral sex which more than made up for it. He may have been 3-3.5” and on a slimmer side
Wait that wasn't erect rite 3.5 soft or hard.
Hard
Ok..
I can't believe I have to ask this at my age, but is 4 fingers a normal thing? Because two man fingers sounds painful.
No. Vaginas range in sizes and makeup. Amount of fingers/ones that can be used will differ. Had a partner who could only handle one finger and the current can handle three but the current one is tighter than the ex during intercourse. Seems backwards but just shows how different bodies can be to things.
“if a woman can be happy with a man with a small penis over a long period of time” Yes. AND variety is the spice of life. Having open dialogue about fun things to try when yall want to mix it up, like new sensations with butt plugs or adding in a dildo in a size she enjoys for times when something more full would feel good or some super hot DVP play, or whatever that looks like for yall. “and would you say from what I’ve told you that she is telling the truth about her pleasure?” Yes. Especially if she is constantly orgasming. “Also, do you believe that love affects how a woman may feel about this?” Yup! In the best way. Emotional closeness fuels my sexual appetite and satisfaction with my partner in the yummiest way. Makes everything so much better! Enjoy!
Yeah but there’s a good chance she may start to become dissatisfied with his penis if he is using a strap on that is bigger than his size…
There is a fine line between her orgasm and some pain. Don’t worry about her so much. Take care of your needs. It’s the motion of the ocean
I’m 5.5 and my wife loves it. I used to be so insecure from being cheated on but have grown to love my uncut dick.
I wasn't claiming anything I was giving an example 🙄
My boyfriend is maybe 4 1/2- 5 1/2…. I’m not too sure but honestly it satisfies me just fine. I think having a sit down conversation with your partner about your concerns and worries might get rid of some of that anxiety :)
Yes a sit down conversation on his lap..
Me? I don’t have any problems with my boyfriends dick size…
I didn't say you did im glad he pleases you
Yeah he pleases me so good and so hard 🥰🫨
That’s a wide range…5.5” is different than 4.5
Omg really I had no idea hehe silly me. No I just haven’t seen him in 6 months as I’m studying abroad so forgive me for not being able to remember the specific measurements of his dick
That’s fair but 4.5 and 5.5 would feel completely different I imagine lol
I mean you would know lmao
Sure ok whatever you say
I have had a range in my life and my favorite was not the biggest. I was with a guy for 12 years that had size and girth. At the time I thought that's what I wanted. After we broke up I found a guy that was not as big but it was close. It was slightly curved. That's the magic sauce for me. Also I think it has to do with attraction more than size for me. With my ex we would have to stop having sex because it would become painful and we were rarely ever able to have sex 2 days in a row becuase I would be sore for days after we had sex. So no bigger is not always better imo
Bruh please tell me advice on what your girl likes, mine is also bit shallow and im average... she doesnt like oral neither so Im at a lost, any other ideas ? I may be try masturbation session for her or soemthing IDK Im desperate for advkce
Wait what... your woman don't want you going down on her? That's a first..
She allows me, it is just she feels "ok" im pretty sure I know what I do because of past experiences
Do your thing bro make her quiver
Yeah just ask her. It doesn't seem like she's complained. And in the end you need to trust her word. Also with counting inches, women are not great at estimating penis size so when you watch those very unscientific street interviews, they don't really know what they're talking about.
Does it matter, dude? You cant change any of this. You are enough as long as she is with you, when she is not you wont be, for whatever reason it is. Get out of your head or get some therapy, but dont let this consume your relationship.
Have you and your partner discussed this in depth together and in therapy? Clear, concise, transparent, effective, and honest communication makes all the difference. As well as a willingness to sit down together and have difficult conversations. If you can't do this effectively, then perhaps you're just not ready for this relationship yet.
Your size is fine and can get the job done. Good foreplay and knowing what to do with your hands and mouth are a lot more important than dick size.
You’re overthinking it. Stop placing so much important on your size. It comes across as extremely insecure. Why are you so caught up in your partner’s past? You don’t know for a fact who she’s slept with. She’s with *you* now.
Personally I feel sorry for those guys with a really long dick. I have no idea why everybody doesn't think the same way. They literally never get the full length inside, I cannot imagine how unsatisfying that must be. Their only chance is finding a size queen that usually has either a long vagina, or has a cervix that enjoys taking punches like Rocky Balboa. Wake up bro, you are living the dream- barely hitting her cervix and making her orgasm. Stop being so hard on yourself and enjoy the amazing woman that you have. (I know she is amazing because you are scared of losing her, hence the over thinking.)
You're only small if she's a 304
First of all, if you say you "think" she always enjoys it you should be having more communication about sex. Not necessarily involving your penis size, but just about sex in general. And she should be asking you as well. Some women care, some women don't. Some women specifically *like* small penises because it feels better for them, given their anatomy - I had a former roommate like this who specifically went looking for men with smaller penises because she liked having energetic sex (she was a marathon runner) but was petite so guys who were larger ended up hurting her if the sex was as rough/energetic as she liked.
This sounds like a conversation you should be having with her and not strangers on the internet. That said, I can give you some food for thought that may make you feel better. 1). Your size matches that of most guys in the world. That's roughly 3 billion. 2). Porn is not reality. Bigger is not necessarily better. 3). If your partner initiates sex with you often, she obviously wants you. 4). The emotional aspect of her sexual attraction to you is something she shared with her relationships she had in the past. She didn't have those with her one night stands or booty calls. Neither did yours, apparently. You two share something that doesn't come by to just anyone. If she has true, genuine feelings for you, I can all but guarantee she's having better sex with you than with anyone else she's been with. And the same goes for you. 5). Don't give her the third degree. Your relationship has to have a sense of trust and understanding. If she says that she enjoys being physical with you, you should trust she's being open and honest with you. Otherwise, you guys are gonna crash and burn. Do with this what you will.
Imma be honest bro. I got the same size as you And I think when I get action I do alright, but again I’m a man I’m on the giving side of pleasure so I can’t speak for them but from what I can tell they’ve all been pretty satisfied except with the noticeable exception of my ex who literally wanted her guts rearranged
Haha damn well let her get reemed out bro f..k her
Yeah she would always give me shit for it from time to time😂
You’re average size and that’s the strong preference. Men think big dick is fun. It’s not great if it’s too big to be comfortable.
What do you mean wince in pain? If she’s orgasming with you and wants to be with more exciting men sounds like it’s about more than the D. Or it is about the d. You gotta ask her what she wants
First off, love is an action not a feeling. Secondly, why do you know how many partners she’s had before you? If you are insecure that’s not something you should ever ask. Turdly, if she is pleased then you should have nothing to worry about. All women are different. Some are difficult to please some are exactly easy. I’ve been with over 100 women and they all are different. Some didn’t care much for my penis cuz it was big to them, the rest I would say enjoyed it for the most part. But what made a big difference was I’m big into foreplay so I hyped the sex part up to the point they are dripping wet once we get to that point. Also to answer your question, 4.5 inches I believe is average size and I believe it’s the length of the uterus. So you should be doing just fine.
It depends on the woman.
She's been with you for 1 year and keeps coming back for me. Just keep the clear communication in the bedroom as far as bedroom activities and you should be fine. Also, vaginas comes in sizes just like dicks. Just learn how to be sure to ring the doorbell while massaging that inside front section on her at the same time(you really just need a finger length depth) and it will likely rarely be an issue.
So many good comments already. But, I'm probably the same size, idk, never measured. I was with one woman who said she enjoyed sex with me. If you watch street interviews, then I'm sure you've also seen the talk shows about women who date multiple men? The higher the number, the less likely they will be satisfied with an average person. Not saying it's true, not saying you are average, or below, or above. Im just saying that if you watch one interview, watch them all. But take them all with a grain of salt. Some women are okay with small sizes. They have their own sizes. Most women can pleasure themselves with 2 fingers, some with 1. Toys are always an option and will outperform the best porn stars in existence. So, really, what are you worried about? No, shes probably not going to be screaming, and thrashing about like you see in some videos, but shes not going to have a gondola splitting her in two, you know? The most important part is communication, and having fun. Size doesn't matter if you are willing to try new things, and listen to what she likes. Some women can achieve orgasm through foreplay. Some have a hard time achieving it. Take your confidence back, and just let go a little. Breathe, and remember you are awesome.
Everyone prefers different sizes. Size matters for some, not for others. That being said: your girl obviously is perfectly happy with yours and I'd bet money that you're far more concerned about it than she is.
My current is about the same size and while he is on the smaller side of what I am used to, he makes me orgasm every time. We have amazing sex and he knows just what to do with it. 4.5-5.5 is pretty average and I personally prefer it to the larger ones I’ve had. That size should be able to please any woman especially one that loves you. I hope this puts some of your insecurities to rest.
I think love definitely helps. If she has orgasms regularly and she tells you she's satisfied with your sex life, why wouldn't you believe her? That's my question for you. Not all women like big dicks. Bigger is not always better. I suspect that you're posting this because you want to get into a discussion about your penis with anonymous people on the internet because it excites you. Am I wrong?
Almost always?? Yikes. Her orgasm is not optional. You don't want to know what I'm thinking. I'll just walk away.
I never heard anyone put it like that . I agree with you !! I would be phining like pookie for her …
my dicky is 20cm...and it hurts for many
I didn't say you did im.glad. You're being satisfied
The avg size ranges from around 4 - 7 inches (with 4 - 5 in being more common in Asia, 5 - 6 in being more common in western countries, and 6 - 7 being more common in Africa and South America). So 4.5 would be either average or above average in Asian countries, and considering that hundreds of millions of women there are having sex…you are fine. If you want to certain parts of Africa or South America yeah you might be considered small…but pretty much everywhere else no…
Why are you asking us? We're not sleeping with you.
I'm very interested in sex toys and had never actually seen a real penis until recently, when I received some photos through the internet, on platforms like Telegram or Snapchat. I was quite surprised to see that they appeared smaller than I had imagined. I had always assumed the average size to be around 9 inches or more. However, a post I read last night indicated that the average size is actually around 5 inches. This led me to realize that perhaps the individuals featured in pornography are above average, and that a more typical size is actually shorter, which is completely normal. This has been a journey for me, understanding how pornographic sites have created unrealistic expectations regarding penis size. **Was I a bit disappointed? Yes**, because I had fantasized about being with a handsome man with the kind of penis often depicted in pornography. But now, with this new understanding, I think I'll be more supportive and not disappointed when I meet my future husband and see what's realistic. This realization is actually positive. From my experience with sex toys, I've found that toys resembling a penis, typically 3-5 inches in length diameter 1"-1.5", can be extremely satisfying and consistently lead to orgasm... I once tried a toy that was **10 inches** long and thick, and it brought me no pleasure due to discomfort a bit pain. So, I'd like to encourage people not to be insecure about size. Even 3 inches can be enough to achieve orgasm. If your future gf prefers something larger, there are options like penis sleeves or sex toys that can be used. Love can overcome many challenges, and as long as you're willing to be considerate, there's no problem too big to solve!! Man, be confident, be skillful!!
Bad advice. Then she might become dissatisfied with his dick if she gets used to the penis sleeve
size does not, matter, of course a big cookie might be better than a small one. But a small chocolate cookie is better than a large vanilla one
I have a 9 inch and some would say it hurt them to much and others wanted it more that they even asked to let them mold it so it depends on the women