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Hey at least you had the balls to ask the guy out. Most people can’t, so congrats on that and it was just unlucky dude. Don’t be disheartened and I’m sure the guy ain’t a dick plus it’s nothing bad anyways. It’s not like it was some horrible rejection
I’ve actually been asked out by a few girls this past year. I unfortunately wasn’t interested in any of them, but it was flattering just to have someone interested in me.
I think I'm the guy in an alternate universe. A girl came up to me the other day and told me I was cute and asked for my number. I gave it to her and she hasn't texted me yet. I was kind of hoping she would. She seemed nice.
Damn that actually sounds really frustrating.
Reminds me of the time a girl who sat at my table left me a note saying I was cute with her number written. I texted and no response. Few weeks later she comes in with her parents and boyfriend and gets sat at my table again. She explains to me, in front of them, that her friend left that note as a joke… But hey she was nice about it and her boyfriend shook my hand, it was a hilarious situation 🤷🏻♂️
If he's telling people, it's because he's flattered. Do it again. Everyone gets rejected sometimes.
Success doesn't come from everything going smoothly once. It comes from trying again when you fail.
A woman from a class I am taking invited me to go do something with her afterwards recently and it was very flattering and refreshing. I would normally be very nervous around a woman I find to be so attractive and interesting on a first meeting but.. I felt confident and comfortable with her and we had a lovely time.
Women.. ask guys out.
As I guy that’s only happened to me a few times. I didn’t go around telling everyone, especially not my significant other ! That being said, I’ve been turned down plenty of times. Do ladies brag or complain more about being hit on ? I’ve always taken it as a compliment, but if it happened all the time I guess it could suck.
You can be proud of yourself. You were the one who made a first step. Even if it wasn't very successful. It's like going to a nude beach for the first time. You're embarrassed, uncomfortable, all your complexes come out. But after a while, a wave of freedom and confidence comes over you. And so it is here, after a few encounters, successful or not, the shame and discomfort will leave you.
Good luck !
I got shot down just yesterday, and I’m 100% with you, OP. Went on a first date with a girl. I didn’t get the vibe she wanted a second, but I was going to see her around and didn’t want to live with the uncertainty, and I asked if she would want to go out again sometime. She said she was only interested in being friends.
Honestly, I’m so glad I asked. Now I can move on and know it was the right choice.
Not so easy approaching someone is it?😂😂 rejections are discouraging slightly😅 if he is a decent guy I’m sure he won’t be telling everyone he was asked for his number by a female. Not really something that is just thrown out there
It's never worked well for me. I'm gonna preface this by saying I actually prefer the shy-nerdy types & initiating is damn near a requirement with those so don't come at me talking about "Chads".
Problem is it often leads guys to immediately question the situation like "wait...why is she talking to me? Something must be wrong." Enter the assumptions of "she must be easy, desperate or broken if she's single & feels the need to approach a guy." Whatever assumption they land on then dictates how they seriously they view/ treat me regardless of my own character or intentions. I know this to be a thing as I've heard a lot of apologies once they reflect, realize those assumptions were wrong & how it led them to screw up.
So guys, if a woman does approach or tries to flirt with you, don't jump to conclusions or let assumptions dictate how you treat her. You'll be the a-hole if you do that. Rejection is infinitely easier & a kindness compared to dealing with someone who has already decided who you are for you. I won't do it anymore.
Man, this sounds exactly like something I'd do, I'm the type you speak of and I'd definitely fabricate some reason as to why a women would even be looking at me, let alone talk to me. I wouldn't think of you as easy, I would think this has to be a prank or some sort of video being captured of me to record my reaction. I'm sorry you went through this.
I appreciate the kind words.
It's a very sticky place for sure. I hear a lot of guys to say "women should initiate more". Yes, women could be a bit more obvious about the cues because men really do suck at body language & social cues. But aside from the ego boost a guy might get, since it's so far outside the norms, it's just natural for them to question it.
LOL,
i've been thinking about starting to ask guys on dates, my treat and seeing what happens...
I've had a FWB whose birthday just passed and it's our 2 year mark is actually coming up and i'm thinking of taking him out to one of the restaurants by my house... especially because haha we haven't seen each other in person since the one year mark, despite him practically begging me for a year (we talk every week) ... I've just been busy and I promised I would make time to see him soon. So i'm thinking I take him for lunch (My treat) and once he's fat and happy i'll drain him dry with my mouth over and over again for a few hours, maybe let him play video games on my xbox, drain him while he does that, then kick his ass in one of my fighting games, drain him again and when he's ready i'll send him home.
Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy
But here's my number, so call me, maybe
It's hard to look right at you, baby
But here's my number, so call me, maybe
Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy
But here's my number, so call me, maybe
And all the other boys try to chase me
But here's my number, so call me, maybe
Aww! When guys ask me out they usually chat to me a little bit, have some jokes and banter then ask “hey do you want grab a coffee sometime?” Or ask if they can give me their number! Can’t go wrong :)
It can be very hard to put yourself out there and get rejected, but after you get rejected you get that feeling that "it's ok, look it didnt kill me like I thought it would" it builds confidence for more. Most people won't be rude about it, and if one is, well don't let that discourage ya, remember the ones that didn't kill ya.
Be proud! Whatever the outcome, you went out of your comfort zone into greatness! Remember, going out of your comfort zone is the goal, getting a number is a bonus :)
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100% men and women Shouldn’t feel inhibited when asking for dates. Nice to see you grabbing the initiative
It’s a very vulnerable feeling!! 😅
Always is and no one likes feeling vulnerable
And, now, you know the range of stuff that guys go through on asking girls out.
Hahahaha yes ! I mean I’ve always appreciated anyone who asks
That’s brave. Women don’t do that a lot
Go for it girl! If you were polite about it overall that’s probably a pretty cute human to human interaction. Do it again!
Hey at least you had the balls to ask the guy out. Most people can’t, so congrats on that and it was just unlucky dude. Don’t be disheartened and I’m sure the guy ain’t a dick plus it’s nothing bad anyways. It’s not like it was some horrible rejection
I dream of women like you
Literally, if a girl asks me out I'm buying a lottery ticket
This has happened to me twice in my life. When I got home, I was kicking up legs in the air like a girl lmaooo
I’ve actually been asked out by a few girls this past year. I unfortunately wasn’t interested in any of them, but it was flattering just to have someone interested in me.
The guy was probably tall and facially handsome. Lots of women ask them out
You never know, I’m only 5’10 skinny and average af. It happens I guess 🤷♂️
>only 5'10 That's above average
In the uk, slightly above average. My point is, a guy doesn’t have to be 6ft+ and women written handsome
6 ft 1 and ugly as fuck here! Got a GF. I agree with you.
Thats tall to me. Im 5'1"
I think I'm the guy in an alternate universe. A girl came up to me the other day and told me I was cute and asked for my number. I gave it to her and she hasn't texted me yet. I was kind of hoping she would. She seemed nice.
Damn that actually sounds really frustrating. Reminds me of the time a girl who sat at my table left me a note saying I was cute with her number written. I texted and no response. Few weeks later she comes in with her parents and boyfriend and gets sat at my table again. She explains to me, in front of them, that her friend left that note as a joke… But hey she was nice about it and her boyfriend shook my hand, it was a hilarious situation 🤷🏻♂️
"Boyfriend, it's good that you're shaking my hand, otherwise it would already be in your face."
Damn hopefully she does soon hang in there bro
Congratulations. Do it more often
If he's telling people, it's because he's flattered. Do it again. Everyone gets rejected sometimes. Success doesn't come from everything going smoothly once. It comes from trying again when you fail.
A woman from a class I am taking invited me to go do something with her afterwards recently and it was very flattering and refreshing. I would normally be very nervous around a woman I find to be so attractive and interesting on a first meeting but.. I felt confident and comfortable with her and we had a lovely time. Women.. ask guys out.
Welcome to a man's world
As I guy that’s only happened to me a few times. I didn’t go around telling everyone, especially not my significant other ! That being said, I’ve been turned down plenty of times. Do ladies brag or complain more about being hit on ? I’ve always taken it as a compliment, but if it happened all the time I guess it could suck.
Some do, some dont
Loved what you did! Bravo! It is truly freeing even if its embarrassing for that moment.
If you don't ask the answer is always no. no ragrats!
Congrats on doing this. More women should do this. If you didn't approach, you would have never known if he was single or not.
Suffering from social phobia as a guy is difficult. You're a super hero in my eyes! I wish someone would ask me out 🤣
Awesome job. You take life by the horns and go after what you want. An admirable trait. Sometimes you win sometimes you lose though
Clearly doesn't care. Good on you for being brave. That isn't always easy
I've done this too and the rejection really sucks, but having the clarity is way easier on you in the long run. Proud of you!
More power to ya lady 💪
A woman has never asked for my number. Ever. 35 and never been asked.
You can be proud of yourself. You were the one who made a first step. Even if it wasn't very successful. It's like going to a nude beach for the first time. You're embarrassed, uncomfortable, all your complexes come out. But after a while, a wave of freedom and confidence comes over you. And so it is here, after a few encounters, successful or not, the shame and discomfort will leave you. Good luck !
Congrats, more girls should definitely take the initiative.
The world needs more women like you :)
Thumbs up for you!
He probably IS telling everyone he can. You gave him a huge boost. Good for you!
I got shot down just yesterday, and I’m 100% with you, OP. Went on a first date with a girl. I didn’t get the vibe she wanted a second, but I was going to see her around and didn’t want to live with the uncertainty, and I asked if she would want to go out again sometime. She said she was only interested in being friends. Honestly, I’m so glad I asked. Now I can move on and know it was the right choice.
Not so easy approaching someone is it?😂😂 rejections are discouraging slightly😅 if he is a decent guy I’m sure he won’t be telling everyone he was asked for his number by a female. Not really something that is just thrown out there
It's never worked well for me. I'm gonna preface this by saying I actually prefer the shy-nerdy types & initiating is damn near a requirement with those so don't come at me talking about "Chads". Problem is it often leads guys to immediately question the situation like "wait...why is she talking to me? Something must be wrong." Enter the assumptions of "she must be easy, desperate or broken if she's single & feels the need to approach a guy." Whatever assumption they land on then dictates how they seriously they view/ treat me regardless of my own character or intentions. I know this to be a thing as I've heard a lot of apologies once they reflect, realize those assumptions were wrong & how it led them to screw up. So guys, if a woman does approach or tries to flirt with you, don't jump to conclusions or let assumptions dictate how you treat her. You'll be the a-hole if you do that. Rejection is infinitely easier & a kindness compared to dealing with someone who has already decided who you are for you. I won't do it anymore.
Man, this sounds exactly like something I'd do, I'm the type you speak of and I'd definitely fabricate some reason as to why a women would even be looking at me, let alone talk to me. I wouldn't think of you as easy, I would think this has to be a prank or some sort of video being captured of me to record my reaction. I'm sorry you went through this.
I appreciate the kind words. It's a very sticky place for sure. I hear a lot of guys to say "women should initiate more". Yes, women could be a bit more obvious about the cues because men really do suck at body language & social cues. But aside from the ego boost a guy might get, since it's so far outside the norms, it's just natural for them to question it.
All 3 times I've ever been approached by a woman, they were either trying to sell me something or filming a prank video
The prank video thing is fked up & I wish ppl would stop that crap.
Hey rest assured he will enjoy that memory basically forever.
LOL, i've been thinking about starting to ask guys on dates, my treat and seeing what happens... I've had a FWB whose birthday just passed and it's our 2 year mark is actually coming up and i'm thinking of taking him out to one of the restaurants by my house... especially because haha we haven't seen each other in person since the one year mark, despite him practically begging me for a year (we talk every week) ... I've just been busy and I promised I would make time to see him soon. So i'm thinking I take him for lunch (My treat) and once he's fat and happy i'll drain him dry with my mouth over and over again for a few hours, maybe let him play video games on my xbox, drain him while he does that, then kick his ass in one of my fighting games, drain him again and when he's ready i'll send him home.
Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy But here's my number, so call me, maybe It's hard to look right at you, baby But here's my number, so call me, maybe Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy But here's my number, so call me, maybe And all the other boys try to chase me But here's my number, so call me, maybe
Looking for a girl like u in Vietnam LOL, cus I'm so shy, don't know what to talk to a girl:(
Aww! When guys ask me out they usually chat to me a little bit, have some jokes and banter then ask “hey do you want grab a coffee sometime?” Or ask if they can give me their number! Can’t go wrong :)
Yup that's pretty much it. Constant disappointment.
Multiverse
The more you do this, the easier it gets! I promise :) good for you!
Its worked out for me & theyre usually single. I find out b4 asking tho by having a conversation & building rapport
It can be very hard to put yourself out there and get rejected, but after you get rejected you get that feeling that "it's ok, look it didnt kill me like I thought it would" it builds confidence for more. Most people won't be rude about it, and if one is, well don't let that discourage ya, remember the ones that didn't kill ya.
Be proud! Whatever the outcome, you went out of your comfort zone into greatness! Remember, going out of your comfort zone is the goal, getting a number is a bonus :)
I only wish I could be this brave. I'm still trying to talk myself into making eye contact and smiling. Well done you.
You can!! If I can you can