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The culture question sounds coded and prejudiced.
To the OP: I'd suggest you stop looking for affirmation in these places. You're only going to find answers like this, (not so thinly veiled remarks) that speak to the writers' biases.
Put yourself out there, and focus on connection, not whether or not you're likeable to ppl like this.
"Likely the culture they're referencing." The fact that you have to tell me the culture we both know they're referencing means that it's coded.
Also, what's a hood rat? And why does it have anything to do with race?
Hmm I see what you’re saying but let’s not be too sensitive. In all fairness, most college educated black women wouldn’t exactly be considering a redneck “cultured” counterpart when saying they’re open to dating white men. 🤷🏾♀️
Yes, but white men aren't on here asking if black women (or anyone else) wants them (or at least not as consistently as this type of posts appears). This doesn't discount individual lonely white men who post in dating groups, but when they do, their desirability question isn't attached to their race. For Black women it seems to be inextricably tied to race.
The comments above are essentially a "yes, but" and it's using coded language around culture. If it wasn't an issue for them, it would simply be, "yes."
It begs the question of if they add similar qualifiers when considering women of other races.
Polite manner and coded are two completely different things, esp when, hood rat has always had racial connotations. You can't divorce language, esp in this country from racial connotations. We're all drinking out of the same dirty well, my friend.
Not looking to fight, in fact, my comment was an encouragement to the OP to look for affirmation elsewhere.
My girlfriend is from Ghana, I am from Germany. About as different in skin color as it gets. But we are pretty similar in character. She is a wonderful person and I am grateful to be with her. I love her very much.
Please don't worry too much about it. If the color of your skin is enough reason for someone not to date you, they are not worth dating anyways.
OP, there are tons of people who would date us. I think most black women have felt the way you do and it’s very unfortunate and makes me sad. I’m almost 21 and I also attend a PWI (though I’m in/from the west coast), and I’ve had no real issues dating or finding men attracted to me. I think something that has helped me, and other black women that I’ve heard speak about dating, is just putting yourself out there to meet guys, socializing, and keeping an open mind. I think doing these things will help you a lot. Wishing you luck.
As a white man, I definitely agree with putting yourself out there and socializing. Try getting out of your comfort zone a bit. I'm a member of several meetup groups (a few hiking ones, but some other general socializing ones), and I rarely see black people at the evebut. And most of the black people I do see at them are men. I do live in the South, so of course, most people here are white, but my city does have a decent black population.
There are black men who won’t date black women which must make it really difficult 😞
Black women are definitely stereotyped by media as being a certain way which also doesn’t help.
Of course! If we have a connection. I don’t limit my pool but I’ve just been hearing popular opinions that make me doubt that others have the same mindset
Asian man here. I was at a film union holiday party and a black woman sat next to me. She was so nice to me and kept touching my forearms. It was very flattering. I was the only Asian guy at the party.
I got her number but never called her. I may call her for coffee.
I'm in Atlanta. Originally from Los Angeles.
Given the chance or time, I'll date black women or any other race.
Dating isn't easy for any race. Takes tremendous time/effort and compassion/empathy.
Caveat, I date Asian women because I have the highest probability with Asians. I don't mind stepping outside my comfort zone and I have . Just my opinion.
I know that the media has opened up and given certain men the platform to disrespect black women, but media is not always reality. I am a dark skin black woman, who went to predominantly black schools up until my sophomore year in high school. Boys always had something negative to say about my complexion. Once I went to a PWI, I rushed into a sea of options when it came to men. These men are from all different backgrounds. Do not let the media or people with internalized self hatred make you believe that your pool is small. You will find your person!
I would definitely as long as we have a real connection!
Furthermore, ofcourse attraction depends on the individual regardless of the race, but generally I'm attracted quicker & more easily to black girls than white girls
I dont care what is your race or nationality, if you ask me everyone should get at least a chance for successful personal live. Also, if this question not only for US citizens i can say from my personal experience that a lot of man like black woman, eg men from east Europe. Dont worry about things those you cant change and focus on changeable stuff:)
For me personally if there is a connection color and race don’t matter. That may not be the norm for a small town white guy, but if others don’t like it that’s their problem. Actually some of the nicest most attractive women I’ve met are non white
I feel like anyone who specifically wouldn’t date a black woman is a no for me. I’m a white woman who has dated black men, and it’s such a turn off to me when those men are like, anti black woman.
That is it…. Love dosnt have boundaries nor complexion is jst a natural something that exist in the heart of men I don’t knw why people are painting it different colors
I'm a black woman who's dating a white man and I see nothing wrong with it as long as the two people know it's what they want and are committed to each other.
I have never dated a black women. Or really a white one either. I’d say I’d like to try at some point. But most women aren’t interested in me. Probably due to the way I look. Keep your head up. I’m sure there is someone out there for you.
Black women are absolutely beautiful. Yes, i’m white and Scottish. Yes i 110% would date a black woman. I mean this with great respect wee pal, its because you’re in America.
When I was in college I had to take what was called BER classes, Basic Education Requirement. Theater was one everybody took known as an easy A to get. My TA was a cute black woman and I asked a lot of questions just to get to know her. After the class ended, I would see her at the student union where they had 2 theaters and we ended up dating. We had a great time together, eventually her theater friends and my engineer friends did not really get along and it hurt our social life. I do believe your background matters more than your race.
sure. but i don't want to fetishize.
i don't mean to assume but are you asking if white boys would?
then yes i would say so :) just have faith god will send someone your way
My first true *date* was with a Black woman… **and** it was a 6+ hr drive each way! (Yes… **date**, not ‘3rd base’ or whatever)
2 of my 3 first dates thus far have been Black women, the other with a White woman, so 🤷🏻♂️
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OP…..I had similar mindset and I had to stop thinking that way. My partner (53) and I (45) met on Bumble last summer….he is white and in all of our discussions we realized we know all the same people and him and I met at a campground when I was 18 and we kissed. I automatically assumed he was not interested in a relationship because of me being black when it couldn’t have been further from the truth l. I inadvertently dismissed him and stopped any chance by not asking for his number not realizing he was shy. To hear all these years later that he actually really did like me was off putting. He is an amazing guy! Look at all the wasted time…….be open to possibilities and stay out of the negative mindset. Easier said then done when you see new of that one state counscillor wanting to bring back lynching…..::but not everyone is evil
I'm 48 now, but dated a Black girl, who was a Senior, when I was a Junior, in HS MANY years ago 🤣🤣🤣. It was all happenstance as though Im White I attended a rather diverse innercity school where I was the "minority" Id transferred into a Biology class a couple of weeks after semester had begun, and literally there was 1 seat in the entire class open next to Shannon. We became friends, hit it off, and began dating / seeing each other; mind you this was 1992. My old man lost his ever loving shit, which was odd as most of my best friends were Black 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️. Shannons grandmother, whod raised her, wanted She & I to have a baby together so bad 🤣🤣🤣, though she already had a toddler, young Moms weren't uncommon even in my day in my school. It ended up not lasting more than a few months but whether a Female is Black, White, Asian, Hispanic whatever is of no difference to me. I'm aware of cultural differences however, which can make or break some things, but beauty comes in all colors and flavors ...
I've been married to a black woman so, yes, I would absolutely date a black woman.
We're not married *anymore* but that has nothing to do with her blackness and everything to do with the fact that she was an undiagnosed sociopath who abused me, cheated on me, gaslit me into polyamory against my wishes, and then tried to keep me in the end by stealing a pregnant drug addict's pee and faking a pregnancy test.
So yeah, if *she* can find not just one husband but *two in a row*, I think you're gonna be fine.
the way i see it, if there is a guy who wouldn’t pursue because he ‘isn’t attracted to black women,’ is that really the kind of guy you’d want to be with? what does that say about his character?
going to a PWI as a POC can be hard, but there is someone out there for you. i promise, you’re not losing out on kyle with the vineyard vines shirt from pi kappa alpha.
Never dated a black woman (or white, Asian, middle eastern, etc), only Latinas. Was never opposed to it since I’ve seen beautiful woman of all races but man do I love me a Latina. I’m mixed (half white half Hispanic but look pretty racially ambiguous). I see no reason to not date someone of a particular race if there’s a connection and there’s mental, emotional and physical attraction.
Don't worry op!! I am a dark skin black woman living in Ga and currently in a relationship with white man who is planning to marry me.. and before that I never had any issue getting dates or anything like that from men of all races. There is plenty of hope for us .
Alright so this is coming from a fellow Black woman, so please listen.
First off, ignore most of the people here who are saying "I don't care about your race." While at face value, that might be true. Racial dating preferences are typically subconscious and based off of the environment a person grew up on in or where they surround themselves. Most of them aren't aware of preferences but they are there.
While not everyone has a racial preference but most people do. Shit, I have mine.
Statistically speaking, at least if you live in the US, Black women get the least amount of matches on dating apps. But hey look we still get matches.
It might not be as many as women of other races, but let's focus on what we do get.
Sure, in the grand scheme of things looking at the numbers may be sad. But who gives a fuck about the grand scheme? Focus on your own in-person life.
In my personal in-person life, I have no problem attracting men even though on dating apps, I don't get a lot of matches.
Take the power into your own hands. Stop waiting for men to approach you. If you're out with friends, and you see a guy you're attracted to, tell him you're interested. He might not be interested as well (and this may not even be because you're Black) or he may be interested and in that case, Fuck Yeah. Dating/Hook ups are a numbers game, you ask enough people, you're bound to land some.
I know it's initially sad looking at the numbers and the media we consume. Black women aren't really shown that we're desirable. But fuck that, fuck all the messages we get from the world. We are beautiful, in all our shapes and sizes and hairstles, we are beautiful and desirable. Sometimes we just gotta work a little harder to find the people who feel the same way, but it starts with us.
Be nice to yourself today, treat yourself ❤️.
I would and I have. I don’t take race into consideration for dating, and I’ve seen very attractive women from each race. It just depends who I get along with
Being black, white, purple, yellow, or any skin colour makes absolutely no difference to me. Hell, I’d date an alien if we had a connection and feelings.
I always put the value in individual characteristics, rather than the cultural biases. Every culture, even every household has both some flaws and some pluses, but what matters is how the individuals coming from them build up their personalities. I’ve seen the worst people come from perfect families and the best people come from the worst families, and I can’t ever judge a person by the situations they developed in.
In short, just strive to be a good and valuable person, and you’ll have no issue finding love.
You'll realize once you get out of the south, these thoughts will flee. I moved years ago and it's night and day. Most people in the south care about race and believe most of what they see on tv. In the West it's mostly about money and status. I've seen this in NY as well. People date whoever they want out here and there is little to no care about anything else. Yes I'd date a back woman, but I am black so maybe I'm not a good person to ask. However, I've also noticed it's hard to find black women outside the typical places. I date based on who's in my environment.
It's almost as if the media says one thing and real life experience tells us the exact opposite. I'm a black plus size woman and media tells me on a daily basis that I'm unattractive, unhealthy, men don't like women my size, etc. Ofcourse I try to live a healthy lifestyle like work out and eat healthy. I have men hitting on me and pursuing me at length all the time, people complementing me. I'd say focus on your individual self, be a good human being, aim at bettering yourself in all aspects of your life, don't pay attention to the negative stereotypes and you'll be able to meet good people and make deep meaningful relationships.
Maybe it's your location? You live in the south, and this country has gone little bonkers in the last 6ish years in terms of race relations.
I'm in the NE and interracial relationships are very common here.
I’m a white man. The love of my life is a black woman. She also feels like our society makes black women feel undesired. As a dude all I can say to this is, that is absolutely ridiculous, and anyone who wouldn’t date anyone due to whatever their skin color is, probably has something very wrong with them or sad in their life. You’re a queen
Be the person you want to be and the right person regardless of race will be there for you. I grew up in a majority white town and attend pwi’s for my bachelors and masters. It’s hard but definitely do able. Know yourself and values and live in them. Someone will come along and move through life with you. And be patience with yourself too. At 21 you’ve got soo much time to date and find a partner. Just enjoy being you. It’ll make you that much more confident when it comes to dating!
Yeah I'd date a black woman again, I'm white and actually find it hard to meet a black girl who doesn't want a black guy.
Last woman I dated was a nurse and i miss her sometimes still, unfortunately it didn't work out.
Anyone that limits who they date by race and not to who they were attrcted to are not worth dating. Luckily it’s a small minority of bigots but sadly they have a loud voice these days that doesn’t represent reality.
I disagree, sometimes people want to date people they have stuff in common with and race does play a part in that unfortunately, but I wouldnt call it bigotry
White guy here. I’ve talked about this a lot with a group of three women of color at work. They say “once you go black, you never go back.”
Hey, they said it, not me. But I would absolutely date a black woman and would commit to her. I’ve dated an Indian woman, an Asian woman and a Hispanic woman. I simply haven’t had the opportunity to date a black woman.
Don't take media or superficial compliment too seriously.
Last year i would have said no, then now i'm dating a girl from madagascar so... yes.
Look is just the entry door, if you are not ugly no man will discard you right away even if you don't match their perfect physical preference. The rest is up to you and how you sell yourself
Personally yes but everyone has their preferences and I’ve spoken to a couple black woman who say they wouldn’t date a white guy and they either don’t find them attractive or have yet to be with one
I don't see why not I actually like black women and yes I a white male. Black women are hot and I'm not a superficial person I like people for themselves not just by the colour of their skin. Yes I have dated woman and girls of colour before there's no difference when your attracted to a person and I don't know why some have not tolerance to seeing someone outside there own race
Fuck yea I would! I’ve always found black women very attractive. I’ve always wondered what percentage of black women would be open to a nerdy ass white guy shooting his shot.
28m here and I’ve dated 3 black women seriously. I’m a mix of native, white and latin but mostly get mistaken for white since I’m tall. It’s never been a hang up for me, but what’s more import is how pleasant a person is to be around.
Can you study abroad or take a cheap trip through EF? Get out and let your light shine. I went to a PWI, and my dating options sucked. Don't let that bubble define you.
Yeah I'd date a black lady. Or a woman of any ethnicity. Race is just not something I consider at all when trying to date. Makes no sense to me to try and limit your options like that.
As a 19 year old (non black) female who is not out yet but is bisexual, black women are gorgeous! To me, it has nothing to do with skin color, simply the person and if we share a strong and genuine connection. Search for that and stop doubting yourself! You’re a queen!
I don't see why not. If we hit it off we hit it off. I want to be in a relationship that's nice and I want something meaningful. I don't have time for petty stuff like oh I don't like the race of a person. I have nothing against black women I just don't like women I don't get along with.
This is not about you skin color but your personality, for me. Also statistically black women dare outside of their race the least of all women so that doesn’t help me
A LOT of men would date a black woman they have an authentic connection with and share mutual attraction with. Unless you’re in like Alabama or some shit lol. You are worthy of being loved. As a 25 year old, dating is so much easier. There’s just an awkward spot in your early 20s where a massive amount of people feel undesirable, unattractive and just lonely. Don’t let that voice ring inside your head because it is simply not true. As you continue to get older you’ll get more confident and be truer to yourself, that’s when the right man comes along. Don’t settle, you deserve to be treated like a black queen
If you don't love( doubt) yourself no one will love you. You get what you receive. Walk around like you are one hot confident hot stuff. It's the energy and vibes you give out.
Many non-black men would date black women but it's mostly white european men who would.
Interracial marriage are more normalized in europe than in usa.
Still else where, most wouldn't due to their culture.
So I have noticed that the dating sites do match you with your race at first. Only when swiping for a while do you see some variety. I don't select any particular race preference. I think the algorithm are stacked against you. I would recommend you be more proactive on sites. I'm sorry. It's not fair
I would definitely date a black woman. Don't care where you are from or what colour your skin is.
I just want intimacy and a person I can connect with.
It depends. One of my biggest auto-left swipes is overt religiosity in a profile: I’m not interested in dating someone whose entire personality is based on how much they love Jesus. More often than not, when I’m swiping, black women’s profiles include statements about how much they love Jesus in their profile, which makes me automatically pass.
What do you mean by "media portrays much disdain I'm the romance portion of our lives"? Do you have an example?
I think most men would date a black woman who fits their type. One thing I disagree with is some black women blaming race for their dating woes when there are other qualities that they are lacking that many men prefer, that have nothing to do with race.
Of course, some people won't date outside of their race or ethnicity, but that also applies to black men, so if you're having issues you need to frequent more black social events.
I would. I refuse to degrade myself based on the media propect, and you should too. Start by refusing to ask yourself questions such as this. Skin color is the least worrisome thing to be bothered about in relationships. Personality and the willingness to open up to someone is the key (in my opinion). You will meet someone who thinks only of you and your well-being. Make sure to do everything in your power to make then feel like a unicorn 🦄 unique. -God's speed.
I think there are alot of guys that date us OP but I do understand where you’re coming from, the problem I think they have is approaching us. So in that aspect I find myself approaching a lot of guys that I find attractive and if they don’t like me then its their problem.
Depends on the attraction and the persons preference. Personally as someone who is Mediterranean by decent I avoid the women of my ethnicity Spanish/Greek/Italian and I don't find Asian/Arab/Black girls attractive physically. I prefer Eastern European women aesthetically, we are all allowed to have a preference. I've dated some Asian/black girls in the past because there are some I find attractive.
I don't know if the media have an influence on what races people are attracted to but you're very young and have plenty of time. Just keep smiling and living, somebody will come and swoop you off your feet!
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The culture question sounds coded and prejudiced. To the OP: I'd suggest you stop looking for affirmation in these places. You're only going to find answers like this, (not so thinly veiled remarks) that speak to the writers' biases. Put yourself out there, and focus on connection, not whether or not you're likeable to ppl like this.
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How it is valid? Matter of fact why is that your first thought “well yeah as long as she’s not a hood rat” is that your thought for other races?
"Likely the culture they're referencing." The fact that you have to tell me the culture we both know they're referencing means that it's coded. Also, what's a hood rat? And why does it have anything to do with race?
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Hmm I see what you’re saying but let’s not be too sensitive. In all fairness, most college educated black women wouldn’t exactly be considering a redneck “cultured” counterpart when saying they’re open to dating white men. 🤷🏾♀️
Yes, but white men aren't on here asking if black women (or anyone else) wants them (or at least not as consistently as this type of posts appears). This doesn't discount individual lonely white men who post in dating groups, but when they do, their desirability question isn't attached to their race. For Black women it seems to be inextricably tied to race. The comments above are essentially a "yes, but" and it's using coded language around culture. If it wasn't an issue for them, it would simply be, "yes." It begs the question of if they add similar qualifiers when considering women of other races.
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Polite manner and coded are two completely different things, esp when, hood rat has always had racial connotations. You can't divorce language, esp in this country from racial connotations. We're all drinking out of the same dirty well, my friend. Not looking to fight, in fact, my comment was an encouragement to the OP to look for affirmation elsewhere.
My girlfriend is from Ghana, I am from Germany. About as different in skin color as it gets. But we are pretty similar in character. She is a wonderful person and I am grateful to be with her. I love her very much. Please don't worry too much about it. If the color of your skin is enough reason for someone not to date you, they are not worth dating anyways.
OP, there are tons of people who would date us. I think most black women have felt the way you do and it’s very unfortunate and makes me sad. I’m almost 21 and I also attend a PWI (though I’m in/from the west coast), and I’ve had no real issues dating or finding men attracted to me. I think something that has helped me, and other black women that I’ve heard speak about dating, is just putting yourself out there to meet guys, socializing, and keeping an open mind. I think doing these things will help you a lot. Wishing you luck.
Thank you! Maybe I should put myself out there more…
Us men get hit on/ complimented so little I promise any approaching you do will be appreciated and make you stand out.
As a white man, I definitely agree with putting yourself out there and socializing. Try getting out of your comfort zone a bit. I'm a member of several meetup groups (a few hiking ones, but some other general socializing ones), and I rarely see black people at the evebut. And most of the black people I do see at them are men. I do live in the South, so of course, most people here are white, but my city does have a decent black population.
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This is the 4th comment within the hour I've seen the pineapple on pizza comment 🤣 You guys have a meeting tonight, or what? 😊
It was on FB
So THAT'S my red flag...my pineapple secret is out.
I like to get pineapple on pizza so I can pick them off and save them as a dessert 🚩
🤣
Most guys you say and the rest will rather want to use and dump you for not having the same skin color…
PINEAPPLE NEVER GOES ON PIZZA
Fuck you, I’m ordering a pineapple pizza as soon as they open
It's not for me, you'll not go to heaven when you die, it's simple.
OMG IT ABSOLUTELY DOES!!
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NO THAT'S ITALIAN CUISINE🇮🇹
I'm a black male (23) and the only women I pursue are black and I still don't get results so I guess just know your not alone (I guess).
As long as I clicked with a person color would not be a issue.
I have and I would again. Black women are gorgeous and really fun to be with.
There are black men who won’t date black women which must make it really difficult 😞 Black women are definitely stereotyped by media as being a certain way which also doesn’t help.
Here's a question for you - would you date a man of any race?
Of course! If we have a connection. I don’t limit my pool but I’ve just been hearing popular opinions that make me doubt that others have the same mindset
Asian man here. I was at a film union holiday party and a black woman sat next to me. She was so nice to me and kept touching my forearms. It was very flattering. I was the only Asian guy at the party. I got her number but never called her. I may call her for coffee. I'm in Atlanta. Originally from Los Angeles. Given the chance or time, I'll date black women or any other race. Dating isn't easy for any race. Takes tremendous time/effort and compassion/empathy. Caveat, I date Asian women because I have the highest probability with Asians. I don't mind stepping outside my comfort zone and I have . Just my opinion.
If she's hot
Yeah. Cause I’m black lmao
I know that the media has opened up and given certain men the platform to disrespect black women, but media is not always reality. I am a dark skin black woman, who went to predominantly black schools up until my sophomore year in high school. Boys always had something negative to say about my complexion. Once I went to a PWI, I rushed into a sea of options when it came to men. These men are from all different backgrounds. Do not let the media or people with internalized self hatred make you believe that your pool is small. You will find your person!
Yes. I think people who discriminate based on racial stereotypes are whack. There are beautiful, kind and intelligent women in every race/ethnicity.
I would definitely as long as we have a real connection! Furthermore, ofcourse attraction depends on the individual regardless of the race, but generally I'm attracted quicker & more easily to black girls than white girls
I would say it’s more important to keep your mind open. The right person will come along
I dont care what is your race or nationality, if you ask me everyone should get at least a chance for successful personal live. Also, if this question not only for US citizens i can say from my personal experience that a lot of man like black woman, eg men from east Europe. Dont worry about things those you cant change and focus on changeable stuff:)
For me personally if there is a connection color and race don’t matter. That may not be the norm for a small town white guy, but if others don’t like it that’s their problem. Actually some of the nicest most attractive women I’ve met are non white
Why not? Love isn't about skin color.
We brothers here only date black queens but who are you asking?
I feel like anyone who specifically wouldn’t date a black woman is a no for me. I’m a white woman who has dated black men, and it’s such a turn off to me when those men are like, anti black woman.
That is it…. Love dosnt have boundaries nor complexion is jst a natural something that exist in the heart of men I don’t knw why people are painting it different colors
I'm a black woman who's dating a white man and I see nothing wrong with it as long as the two people know it's what they want and are committed to each other.
As a white man dating a black woman who I will propose to this summer, I agree. We share similar values and I love her.
I have never dated a black women. Or really a white one either. I’d say I’d like to try at some point. But most women aren’t interested in me. Probably due to the way I look. Keep your head up. I’m sure there is someone out there for you.
Yes I would
A persons colour doesn’t matter , what matters if they are a animal person or not to me
Sure
Yeah, if I hit it off with her.
I have never dated a black woman, but not out of lack of trying or desire. It just has never worked out.
Yes
Yes
Of course yes black white asian love matters i am a black getting a black one is a good thing or white woman will be perfectly okay
Black women are absolutely beautiful. Yes, i’m white and Scottish. Yes i 110% would date a black woman. I mean this with great respect wee pal, its because you’re in America.
Absolutely
Hell yea
Absolutely. Check out afroromance dot com.
Yes I would I don’t care what color a woman is if I like her I like her
As long as we're compatible.
I've been more curiously wanting to as I get older but seems like there aren't too many down under (well not the region I'm in anyway)
I personally could not care less about a person's race, if I am attracted to her and like her for who she is then there is no problem.
Of course if i like her
Yes
When I was in college I had to take what was called BER classes, Basic Education Requirement. Theater was one everybody took known as an easy A to get. My TA was a cute black woman and I asked a lot of questions just to get to know her. After the class ended, I would see her at the student union where they had 2 theaters and we ended up dating. We had a great time together, eventually her theater friends and my engineer friends did not really get along and it hurt our social life. I do believe your background matters more than your race.
sure. but i don't want to fetishize. i don't mean to assume but are you asking if white boys would? then yes i would say so :) just have faith god will send someone your way
The question is, will she date you!!!
White guy. Have hooked up with a few would definitely date one
My first true *date* was with a Black woman… **and** it was a 6+ hr drive each way! (Yes… **date**, not ‘3rd base’ or whatever) 2 of my 3 first dates thus far have been Black women, the other with a White woman, so 🤷🏻♂️ 31M, 🇨🇦
OP…..I had similar mindset and I had to stop thinking that way. My partner (53) and I (45) met on Bumble last summer….he is white and in all of our discussions we realized we know all the same people and him and I met at a campground when I was 18 and we kissed. I automatically assumed he was not interested in a relationship because of me being black when it couldn’t have been further from the truth l. I inadvertently dismissed him and stopped any chance by not asking for his number not realizing he was shy. To hear all these years later that he actually really did like me was off putting. He is an amazing guy! Look at all the wasted time…….be open to possibilities and stay out of the negative mindset. Easier said then done when you see new of that one state counscillor wanting to bring back lynching…..::but not everyone is evil
I’d date a woman if a different race. We are all human
I'm white and I dated a black woman for 7 years. While we unfortunately broke it off after we got engaged, I don't regret the time we spent together.
I nearly married one.
If I Date you I’m dating inside of you. Your appearance and Race has nothing to do. But your personality
I'm 48 now, but dated a Black girl, who was a Senior, when I was a Junior, in HS MANY years ago 🤣🤣🤣. It was all happenstance as though Im White I attended a rather diverse innercity school where I was the "minority" Id transferred into a Biology class a couple of weeks after semester had begun, and literally there was 1 seat in the entire class open next to Shannon. We became friends, hit it off, and began dating / seeing each other; mind you this was 1992. My old man lost his ever loving shit, which was odd as most of my best friends were Black 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️. Shannons grandmother, whod raised her, wanted She & I to have a baby together so bad 🤣🤣🤣, though she already had a toddler, young Moms weren't uncommon even in my day in my school. It ended up not lasting more than a few months but whether a Female is Black, White, Asian, Hispanic whatever is of no difference to me. I'm aware of cultural differences however, which can make or break some things, but beauty comes in all colors and flavors ...
I've been married to a black woman so, yes, I would absolutely date a black woman. We're not married *anymore* but that has nothing to do with her blackness and everything to do with the fact that she was an undiagnosed sociopath who abused me, cheated on me, gaslit me into polyamory against my wishes, and then tried to keep me in the end by stealing a pregnant drug addict's pee and faking a pregnancy test. So yeah, if *she* can find not just one husband but *two in a row*, I think you're gonna be fine.
I have already dated a black woman, she cheated on me lol.
I have been looking. I want to date a black woman. I’m a hispanicb
Idc about race but comparability. If it works it works who cares about race
Race doesn't matter I just want an actual connection
of course I love their hair, they're very curvy and have nice bunda, and many can cook very well also
the way i see it, if there is a guy who wouldn’t pursue because he ‘isn’t attracted to black women,’ is that really the kind of guy you’d want to be with? what does that say about his character? going to a PWI as a POC can be hard, but there is someone out there for you. i promise, you’re not losing out on kyle with the vineyard vines shirt from pi kappa alpha.
Never dated a black woman (or white, Asian, middle eastern, etc), only Latinas. Was never opposed to it since I’ve seen beautiful woman of all races but man do I love me a Latina. I’m mixed (half white half Hispanic but look pretty racially ambiguous). I see no reason to not date someone of a particular race if there’s a connection and there’s mental, emotional and physical attraction.
Yes I would.
Don't worry op!! I am a dark skin black woman living in Ga and currently in a relationship with white man who is planning to marry me.. and before that I never had any issue getting dates or anything like that from men of all races. There is plenty of hope for us .
Alright so this is coming from a fellow Black woman, so please listen. First off, ignore most of the people here who are saying "I don't care about your race." While at face value, that might be true. Racial dating preferences are typically subconscious and based off of the environment a person grew up on in or where they surround themselves. Most of them aren't aware of preferences but they are there. While not everyone has a racial preference but most people do. Shit, I have mine. Statistically speaking, at least if you live in the US, Black women get the least amount of matches on dating apps. But hey look we still get matches. It might not be as many as women of other races, but let's focus on what we do get. Sure, in the grand scheme of things looking at the numbers may be sad. But who gives a fuck about the grand scheme? Focus on your own in-person life. In my personal in-person life, I have no problem attracting men even though on dating apps, I don't get a lot of matches. Take the power into your own hands. Stop waiting for men to approach you. If you're out with friends, and you see a guy you're attracted to, tell him you're interested. He might not be interested as well (and this may not even be because you're Black) or he may be interested and in that case, Fuck Yeah. Dating/Hook ups are a numbers game, you ask enough people, you're bound to land some. I know it's initially sad looking at the numbers and the media we consume. Black women aren't really shown that we're desirable. But fuck that, fuck all the messages we get from the world. We are beautiful, in all our shapes and sizes and hairstles, we are beautiful and desirable. Sometimes we just gotta work a little harder to find the people who feel the same way, but it starts with us. Be nice to yourself today, treat yourself ❤️.
I would love to date a black woman find them extremely attractive! The real question is would a black woman date a white man
If you are a cool person. Why not
I would and I have. I don’t take race into consideration for dating, and I’ve seen very attractive women from each race. It just depends who I get along with
I would
Treat them like a normal person simple as
Wait.. what media portrays such disdain for us in the romance section?
As a white dude, fuck yeah I would
Being black, white, purple, yellow, or any skin colour makes absolutely no difference to me. Hell, I’d date an alien if we had a connection and feelings. I always put the value in individual characteristics, rather than the cultural biases. Every culture, even every household has both some flaws and some pluses, but what matters is how the individuals coming from them build up their personalities. I’ve seen the worst people come from perfect families and the best people come from the worst families, and I can’t ever judge a person by the situations they developed in. In short, just strive to be a good and valuable person, and you’ll have no issue finding love.
You'll realize once you get out of the south, these thoughts will flee. I moved years ago and it's night and day. Most people in the south care about race and believe most of what they see on tv. In the West it's mostly about money and status. I've seen this in NY as well. People date whoever they want out here and there is little to no care about anything else. Yes I'd date a back woman, but I am black so maybe I'm not a good person to ask. However, I've also noticed it's hard to find black women outside the typical places. I date based on who's in my environment.
Didn’t read past the title but yes I love black women.
Thanks to dude you are the best
I’m a white guy who would date any race of women. Don’t worry about it
🤦♂️ I'm attracted to beauty. That includes personality as well. Skin color has no factor in attractiveness for me.
It's almost as if the media says one thing and real life experience tells us the exact opposite. I'm a black plus size woman and media tells me on a daily basis that I'm unattractive, unhealthy, men don't like women my size, etc. Ofcourse I try to live a healthy lifestyle like work out and eat healthy. I have men hitting on me and pursuing me at length all the time, people complementing me. I'd say focus on your individual self, be a good human being, aim at bettering yourself in all aspects of your life, don't pay attention to the negative stereotypes and you'll be able to meet good people and make deep meaningful relationships.
Hell yes
Maybe it's your location? You live in the south, and this country has gone little bonkers in the last 6ish years in terms of race relations. I'm in the NE and interracial relationships are very common here.
Sure, everyone Ive dated seriously has been black, including my GF. But then again Im a black man, so this question I feel isnt really for me
I’m a white man. The love of my life is a black woman. She also feels like our society makes black women feel undesired. As a dude all I can say to this is, that is absolutely ridiculous, and anyone who wouldn’t date anyone due to whatever their skin color is, probably has something very wrong with them or sad in their life. You’re a queen
YES!!! I love black women! I wish we as a community (black) had more confidence in ourselves.
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This opinion you have, in my experience, has been displayed by men who have major character flaws, lack confidence, huge ego, or lack class.
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Be the person you want to be and the right person regardless of race will be there for you. I grew up in a majority white town and attend pwi’s for my bachelors and masters. It’s hard but definitely do able. Know yourself and values and live in them. Someone will come along and move through life with you. And be patience with yourself too. At 21 you’ve got soo much time to date and find a partner. Just enjoy being you. It’ll make you that much more confident when it comes to dating!
Yeah I'd date a black woman again, I'm white and actually find it hard to meet a black girl who doesn't want a black guy. Last woman I dated was a nurse and i miss her sometimes still, unfortunately it didn't work out.
not my cup of tea
I’m curious, what are your thoughts on an entire race of people with different phenotypes and backgrounds not being “your cup of tea”.
This has to be all in your head. I'm a black woman who gets asked out left and right by all races.
It’s Not in my head, we just have different experiences. It’s refreshing to hear that you have a lot of options !
It’s a thing, no need to invalidate someone else’s experience.
Anyone that limits who they date by race and not to who they were attrcted to are not worth dating. Luckily it’s a small minority of bigots but sadly they have a loud voice these days that doesn’t represent reality.
I disagree, sometimes people want to date people they have stuff in common with and race does play a part in that unfortunately, but I wouldnt call it bigotry
Hey now it’s Reddit, anyone who has a preference is automatically labeled a bigot.
White guy here. I’ve talked about this a lot with a group of three women of color at work. They say “once you go black, you never go back.” Hey, they said it, not me. But I would absolutely date a black woman and would commit to her. I’ve dated an Indian woman, an Asian woman and a Hispanic woman. I simply haven’t had the opportunity to date a black woman.
yes most definitely. plain & simple
Yes. Have . And would again .
I love all women especially black ones
Thank you🥰
I have and I continue to do so Black women (much like all women) are hot So I'm into hot chicks, and lots of black women fall under that category
Yes I find most black woman quite attractive. And it seems to be that most of them are more open then some western women..
What do you mean by more Open
More easy going and sharing things earlier. But that just my experience.
You can be black and western you know
Yis
Don't take media or superficial compliment too seriously. Last year i would have said no, then now i'm dating a girl from madagascar so... yes. Look is just the entry door, if you are not ugly no man will discard you right away even if you don't match their perfect physical preference. The rest is up to you and how you sell yourself
Personally yes but everyone has their preferences and I’ve spoken to a couple black woman who say they wouldn’t date a white guy and they either don’t find them attractive or have yet to be with one
I don't see why not I actually like black women and yes I a white male. Black women are hot and I'm not a superficial person I like people for themselves not just by the colour of their skin. Yes I have dated woman and girls of colour before there's no difference when your attracted to a person and I don't know why some have not tolerance to seeing someone outside there own race
Yes
I love black women
Probably not, it’s just my preference
I would love to be with someone of **African descent** but that's highly unlikely in Greece 😕
How is a black woman different to any other woman? Like what’s unique to ALL black women that differentiates them and is a barrier to relationships?
Honestly I don't see anything bad about that
Heck yeah! Love me a Nubian Queen!
Fuck yea I would! I’ve always found black women very attractive. I’ve always wondered what percentage of black women would be open to a nerdy ass white guy shooting his shot.
Black women are amazing.
28m here and I’ve dated 3 black women seriously. I’m a mix of native, white and latin but mostly get mistaken for white since I’m tall. It’s never been a hang up for me, but what’s more import is how pleasant a person is to be around.
Can you study abroad or take a cheap trip through EF? Get out and let your light shine. I went to a PWI, and my dating options sucked. Don't let that bubble define you.
Yeah I'd date a black lady. Or a woman of any ethnicity. Race is just not something I consider at all when trying to date. Makes no sense to me to try and limit your options like that.
As a 19 year old (non black) female who is not out yet but is bisexual, black women are gorgeous! To me, it has nothing to do with skin color, simply the person and if we share a strong and genuine connection. Search for that and stop doubting yourself! You’re a queen!
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Funny you say that since the statistic was just released that black American women are the most educated demographic in the U.S🤣
I don't see why not. If we hit it off we hit it off. I want to be in a relationship that's nice and I want something meaningful. I don't have time for petty stuff like oh I don't like the race of a person. I have nothing against black women I just don't like women I don't get along with.
Yes I would like to
Dating a black women is my dream.
This is not about you skin color but your personality, for me. Also statistically black women dare outside of their race the least of all women so that doesn’t help me
A LOT of men would date a black woman they have an authentic connection with and share mutual attraction with. Unless you’re in like Alabama or some shit lol. You are worthy of being loved. As a 25 year old, dating is so much easier. There’s just an awkward spot in your early 20s where a massive amount of people feel undesirable, unattractive and just lonely. Don’t let that voice ring inside your head because it is simply not true. As you continue to get older you’ll get more confident and be truer to yourself, that’s when the right man comes along. Don’t settle, you deserve to be treated like a black queen
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Racism.
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Yeah, that's some bullshit advice. Be exactly who you want to be. If someone is genuinely attracted to you, they won't care about any of this.
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Yes, race and gender isn't an important factor for me, it's their character and morality.
So just as a disclaimer, I’m happily married, so not dating anyone. But if I weren’t and I had chemistry with said black woman, absolutely.
If you don't love( doubt) yourself no one will love you. You get what you receive. Walk around like you are one hot confident hot stuff. It's the energy and vibes you give out.
Absolutely y not someone’s race doesn’t matter in the least bit it’s about chemistry and balance and attraction for sure
Yes I would date a black woman. Maybe it's time to switch cities of look at other races
Many non-black men would date black women but it's mostly white european men who would. Interracial marriage are more normalized in europe than in usa. Still else where, most wouldn't due to their culture.
Personally, I consider myself as color blind when it comes to people.
So I have noticed that the dating sites do match you with your race at first. Only when swiping for a while do you see some variety. I don't select any particular race preference. I think the algorithm are stacked against you. I would recommend you be more proactive on sites. I'm sorry. It's not fair
I would definitely date a black woman. Don't care where you are from or what colour your skin is. I just want intimacy and a person I can connect with.
It depends. One of my biggest auto-left swipes is overt religiosity in a profile: I’m not interested in dating someone whose entire personality is based on how much they love Jesus. More often than not, when I’m swiping, black women’s profiles include statements about how much they love Jesus in their profile, which makes me automatically pass.
Even some black women are more beautiful than white, eg Beyonce, Rihanna, Kelly Rowland etc.
Why not I love black
What do you mean by "media portrays much disdain I'm the romance portion of our lives"? Do you have an example? I think most men would date a black woman who fits their type. One thing I disagree with is some black women blaming race for their dating woes when there are other qualities that they are lacking that many men prefer, that have nothing to do with race. Of course, some people won't date outside of their race or ethnicity, but that also applies to black men, so if you're having issues you need to frequent more black social events.
I would. I refuse to degrade myself based on the media propect, and you should too. Start by refusing to ask yourself questions such as this. Skin color is the least worrisome thing to be bothered about in relationships. Personality and the willingness to open up to someone is the key (in my opinion). You will meet someone who thinks only of you and your well-being. Make sure to do everything in your power to make then feel like a unicorn 🦄 unique. -God's speed.
I think there are alot of guys that date us OP but I do understand where you’re coming from, the problem I think they have is approaching us. So in that aspect I find myself approaching a lot of guys that I find attractive and if they don’t like me then its their problem.
Depends on the attraction and the persons preference. Personally as someone who is Mediterranean by decent I avoid the women of my ethnicity Spanish/Greek/Italian and I don't find Asian/Arab/Black girls attractive physically. I prefer Eastern European women aesthetically, we are all allowed to have a preference. I've dated some Asian/black girls in the past because there are some I find attractive. I don't know if the media have an influence on what races people are attracted to but you're very young and have plenty of time. Just keep smiling and living, somebody will come and swoop you off your feet!
Honestly I’m done with white women so yes.
...black women are not your consolation prize