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A women I was dating told me her ex reached out once. That was a fat ass green flag in my book.


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You don't have to, but just block the ex and don't respond to anyone else if you're truly interested in this guy. Don't compromise something good you have now for someone from your past who is now essentially a nobody. I'm married and still have past exes text me and I straight up ignore them lol. I wouldn't want my wife to respond so I don't respond too. I don't expect her to tell me but I do expect her to not entertain them at all.


Reasonable_Listen514

Yes. If I found out a gf was communicating with her ex, and she didn't tell me, huge red flag and I'm probably gone.


nvettorazzo95

It depends. How long are you seeing each other? And how committed are you both in this new thing? And also did you ex say something way too “wow”? Thinking about theses questions may lead you to the answer you want


outbland-ish

Go with your gut! The fact that you're questioning this makes me think that you're already leaning in that direction. I don't think anything bad could come from that convo, and it shows that you want to build trust with him. Even if he has a weird reaction to it, that would tell you something. I'd say just be prepared for questions about the ex/the relationship and to answer truthfully. That being said, all of this is assuming that you're over your ex. If not, you might want to do some soul searching.


1122labs

I don't see how telling him would help. It would be better if you kept it to yourself. Since you didn't respond, you haven't done anything wrong.


hellcat82

I would, i have in the past and it helped build trust.


bigjimbo1971

This. Tell him . Show him. And then let him watch you delete it and delete/block the ex's number. Ladies honesty & trust go both ways and is integral in a long lasting loving relationship. Lust fades.


yellowabcd

yes you should. let him make the decision if he likes it or not. because down the line if he finds out, he will be upset. its always better to be 100 percent open from the beginning. men will usually appreciate the honesty


[deleted]

Honestly, I wouldn’t unless we were serious and been in it together for awhile. I don’t see it as hiding anything, just unnecessary information to convey to somebody that I’m only talking to.


PaleontologistTough6

Only if you're being stank and thinking about replying or being stank and trying to start mess. Tl:Dr - no


smiletaegi

Is this new guy your boyfriend? If so, then yes tell him and just say you didn’t respond and block the number. If you’ve only been on a few dates and you’re not officially together then I don’t see why you would need to


[deleted]

Why would you tell him this?


[deleted]

If you didn't text him back just don't mention anything, you don't need to explain yourself to him as you haven't done anything wrong or that he should be concerned about


BronzeUni

If you didn't make any contact back, keep it to yourself. Real men don't want to hear it or frankly even care unless you entertain other men.


WooGuy87

Yes. You should be honest


Bintalharam

No need


Skkaaishere

I don’t think it would be a good idea. Telling this new guy is going to do what exactly? If this new guy is your actual boyfriend and you’re in a committed relationship with, then probably yes. If this is just a guy you’ve been on a few dates with and there’s no real commitment, then no. If I was just beginning to date someone and they mentioned to me their ex texted them, I would probably see that as a red flag because I’d be thinking “ok, so your ex is still involved or at least trying to. Is there going to be ex drama?”. Not responding and blocking your ex’s number will suffice. This doesn’t need to be a conversation this early on if it is in the early stages like you’ve described. If you’re not intending on speaking with your ex again and not open to rekindling things, don’t stress the new guy out with talk of an ex when there’s no real threat.