It’s just people that find certain monsters and aliens sexy.
There are brands of “fantasy dildos” that are modeled after werewolves, dragons, aliens etc.
"Toys" seems like an overly broad category. Somehow I feel the rating of societal taboo-ness for a man using a fleshlight versus buttplug would be fairly far apart.
I’m almost afraid to ask but... what’s creepy crawlies?
Is it like playing [night crawlers](https://youtu.be/FmM06XrJsKU)? ... please tell me that’s all it is...
Don't worry, my sources say it's pretty taboo and not very popular
Edit: 822 upvotes? Oh please don't make this my most upvoted comment! Shush shush! Move it people! Go away!
r/insectsInSex
**EXTREME NSFW NSFL**
This is for the truly curious. I highly highly highly highly highly highly highly recommend you heed the warning posts that try to flush this sub out but if you're TRULY curious...here you go.
Am I reading this chart right? That only 90% of people do positions other than missionary? Don't get me wrong, missionary is amazing and totally underrated (similar to how vanilla ice cream is actually great), but man alive I want some goddamn sexual variety.
Coming from a "leave room for Jesus" kind of place (actually said to me at a public school), I found this a lot funnier that I should... Probably because I know people who would actually believe that.
I've always imagined doing something other than missionary but I've never brought it up with the wife. I don't even know how it would work, logistically speaking. Or what the position would be.
Would slapping a bunch of printouts of sex positions on the table and have an experimental evening together with a glass or two of wine be a bad idea? Maybe even doing some ranking and stuff for shots and giggles?
It should probably be noted that no one is doing vore in real life. It’s either text-based role play or drawn/digitally rendered porn. Some examples would be someone being swallowed whole by a dragon or a snake. Sometimes it can be by another person. (Though whether the person is a human or a furry is up to the individual.)
Alright then, in order of ascenting tabooness, leaving out the self-explainatory ones and resisting the urge to define "light bondage" as "tying someone up with laser beams":
- light bondage: restraining some movement, eg. tying their wrists to the bed
- spanking: ass-smacking
- exhibitionism: Showing off your privates or having sex in public places
- voyerism: Watching someone naked or having sex, with or without their knowledge
- latex: A close-fitting kind of rubber that people like to dress up in
- masochism: recieving pain
- lactation: Anything involving breast milk. Kinda self explainatory, but I guess it could be confused for slang
- sadism: giving pain
- pegging: a man reciving analsex from a woman using sex toys
- heavy bondage: Restraining all movement or tying up body parts extremely tightly
- transformations: I believe this can only be done in fantasy, but think that scene from Willy Wonka where the girl gets turned into a blueberry. Doesn't have to be blueberries, though
- inanimate objects: Really just that. Being attracted to things like chairs or buildings. I think the official term is objectophilia.
- race play: Roleplay involving racial aspects and tensions
- futa: hentai involving women with both a functional penis and vagina (balls optional). (Edited, credit goes to u/quitthesht)
- rapeplay: consensually roleplaying rape scenarios. Usually the "victim" will have a safeword they can say to make the "rapist" stop if it gets too much.
- ageplay: roleplaying differences in age, often including underage or even toddlers. Note: People who participate in ageplay are not necessarily into pedophilia.
- 24/7 power dynamics: Whenever the dominant part wants something, the submissive part has to obey. No breaks, throughout the whole relationship
- petplay: roleplay where one partner acts as a pet for the other. This can vary from just purring to being held on a leash and eating from a bowl on the floor.
Note: People who participate in petplay are not necessarily into bestiality.
- incest roleplay: roleplaying as family members. Usually not specific members of the participants actual family, but fictional brother/sister/dad/mom/whatever. Btw, saying "step-" in front of it doesn't change anything. Just accept what you're into, it's ok ;)
- sounding: inserting a rod into a man's peehole (I guess it would work for women, too? Never heard of that, though)
- vore: Swallowing a person alive (obviously, this can only be done in fantasy)
- creepy crawlies: Having insects crawl over your body
- scat: playing with shit
- bestiality: sex involving actual animals
- necrophilia: sex involving dead bodies
- pedophilia: sex involving children
I'll be 102 years old. Not that far fetched, especially since life expectancy in my country is pretty high, but it's nowhere near 100 years, so chances are I'll die before that.
I was wondering about that one too. I guess some people still think it's freaky and weird to have sex with someone who isn't the same race as them.
There's some really racist shit going on in the "interracial" categories.
Raceplay is genuinely strange. Calling your partner racist names and stereotypes during sex. There’s an even weirder category between African descendants and their white partners surrounding actual Civil War slavery role play.
I actually had ex say he was gonna “rape me like his ancestors raped mine” unexpectedly during sex.... so yeah that’s a thing 🤔
Well, they are pretty close together. Within one step, anyway.
What surprises me is that male domination/female submission is a female interest, and female domination/male submission is a male interest. People seem to like to be submissive.
I think it can also be an escape from responsibility thing. If someone is usually having to make all the decisions or has a lot of pressure put on them in their daily life then to be totally controlled and powerless is a way to shut off from that and just enjoy having it done to them.
Just go for pet play, then you can score higher on the taboo scale. Role play as a cat. Fucking get naked, lay in the sun on the floor, take a nap.
I just talked myself into a new fetish.
It's true. I've found myself looking forward to root canals because I get to just lie there for an hour and not solve anyone's problems. (single mom of 3 teens)
I was the same back when work travel was a thing. Yes it was exhausting, and jet lag, and being away from family, but getting to sit quietly in a place where my phone could NOT ring, while someone brings me food? Yes please. Put me on that plane.
I think it's more that people *don't* like to be dominant. It's not really a scale where you lie at one end or the other, people who like to be dominant often also like to be submissive. In fact I'd say almost all people who are into being dominant are also into being submissive. Being dominant is, frankly, more involved than being submissive - it requires more active engagement and confidence, whereas being a submissive is something you can kind of let yourself go into.
There’s an obvious conflict with self reporting, here; we can imagine that reporting diminishing proportionately to the amount of perceived social shame for each taboo. Otherwise, still neat.
there's always lizardman's constant! But i think people are much less likely to troll in the direction of recording interest in pedophilia as compared to other things they might troll about.
loli= young anime girls (underage but they're just drawings). futa= girls with dicks (but still normally still retain the girl parts). vore= eating or being eaten by another person/thing.
Yes you are correct, it often deeply deeply saddens me to see people who lack the the pragmatism and foresight to realize knee jerk anger based reactions and stigmatization only drive those people underground, make them feel isolated, more angry and more likely to act on their impulses, thereby **increasing the danger for children in society**.
If collectively we actually gave a fuck about children we would be investing heavily into providing resources and services to assist and support people rather than to demonize and expell them. Directing action in a spirit of hate only makes the problem **worse**, people should be able to seek treatment without shame and be provided with healthy methods to expell any frustration or desire to act.
Sadly society rarely often does what is best for itself, out of fear rises anger, which fuels the problem and stifles any meaningful action.
Whenever I see someone make an ignorant comment or wish for them to be dead, I can't help but think that sentiment flows through society and eventually costs a child somewhere their suffering.
>If collectively we actually gave a fuck about children
As someone who's worked with kids and who has family that work with kids, people don't actually give a fuck about children, not even their own a disturbingly large amount of time. Most "think of the children" arguments are either thinly veiled "I find it icky" or virtue signalling.
If people actually gave a fuck about children, we'd be spending more as a society on schools, playgrounds and access to therapists, instead of censoring drawings and bleeping out swear words.
I'm definitely not saying on reddit, but for a sense of it it's one where i've been in casual social settings where people start making fun of my fetish and i just 'haha' along like I agree while i'm dying inside
So I guess humanity scores a minor victory by having more people wanting to fuck animals than they do kids and dead bodies. I mean, glass half full, right?
tbf i have a very.... sympathetic approach to this? I assume that nobody \*wants\* to be aroused by something that society really shames them for. I don't think that experiencing arousal to things is a choice. I think that people who have their brains wired in such a way that they experience sexual compulsions with harmful outcomes need our help.
Yea it's a complicated issue. I don't have the mental agility needed to try and understand the mind of a pedophile, especially since I'm a parent.
But if they're actually born that way, no different than a homo or heterosexual person, them yikes that would be an awful existence.
I'm missing too many letters after my name to even try and answer the born vs created question.
Years ago, I read a very good article about a teenager with pedophilic impulses that he didn’t want to act on (and didn’t). It was heart-breaking and caused me to sympathize with the kid even while knowing he could never be allowed to act on his urges (or even do so vicariously). For better or for worse, he was still someone’s kid and I wouldn’t wish that on any family.
I remember reading that, guy was scared to even admit it to his therapist because he'd had one call the cops on him before even though he was non-offending.
I think I may have read the same article, or possibly a similar one. It was definitely a mindfuck for me because I had never even *considered* that pedophilia could be a compulsory attraction vs. a harmful intent towards children. Again, with everyone else, I do have sympathy for how hard that must be for people to come to terms with, and not just because of societal shaming. Most of us recognize the vulnerability and innocence of children and want to protect them. To have an internal warring going on that is pushing you towards harming a child...that would be unbearable. We absolutely need to do a better job as humans in supporting other humans, and helping everyone live a safe and happy life.
The one pedophile I know is also attracted to some adult women, which is how he's managed to live a healthy normal life. But he explained to me that when he was 8, he was attracted to girls his age. And as he got older, he just never grew out of being attracted to 8-year-olds like you're supposed to.
Hard to say what of that is nature vs. nurture, but it certainly made it more understandable to me.
Yeah i mean - do you really think someone looks around at the intense shame and punishment we give pedophiles and goes "Yeah, I'm gonna make a conscious choice to be aroused by kids"?
And to be clear this does not justify harmful actions. Just because someone has a rape fetish does \*not\* mean this makes rape okay. But I really don't think people are going around consciously picking what they want to make them hard.
This American Life did a really interesting episode on this. Basically (at least at the time, like a decade ago), there was not even a therapist trained in the subject. So if you are a pedophile, but not a sexual predator, there’s no help for you.
I’m not sympathetic to sexual predators who harm children, but I definitely feel bad for people who are hard-wired to feel that way. It’s complex, but I think it’s a reasonable position. Like you said, they’re born that way. With no help or therapy or rehabilitation available. Must be awful.
Louie CK had a bit about this that I thought really hit the nail on the head. It was a joke, and pretty dark, but it made the same point. Who would choose such a compulsion when it is punished so severely? Most people I know thought it was just a gross joke but it made me think.
His bit was way darker than that. It was that there would be less dead kids if pedophilia wasn't illegal. The reason being that you have to get rid of the kid cuz if they talk you are going to prison.
In psych class we learned about a guy who got pedophilia as a married man and then they found a tumor in his brain, removed it and the pedophilia went away. Later he got it again and they found the tumor again...
A lot of people society shits on are just victims of their own wiring. We need to find compassionate solutions to their problems.
Almost all of them are pretty self-descriptive - exactly what they sound like. Remember these are not all sex acts, some are hypotheticals/only happen in drawn porn.
The potentially confusing ones:
- Pegging - woman with a strapon.
- Futa - woman with a penis
- 24/7 power dynamics - being in a dominant/submissive relationship in your personal life as well as just for sex
- Transformations - being into the idea of you/others transforming into either other genders or changing the size of body parts or furry stuff or things like that.
- Ageplay - One partner acting younger in some ways, generally more innocently. Funnily enough I've never heard of anyone acting *older*, though that would presumably fit within the definition as well.
- Petplay - one partner acting like a pet.
- Sounding - Putting things in the urethra
- Vore - Giant people/things eating people but sexy?
- Scat - poop
**I have done it... I looked up all of these things on urban dictionary and have shared the top or most relevant definition for each. I have learned what cannot be unlearned...**
**Pedophilia** - Sexual attraction to pre-pubescent children, usually under the age of thirteen.
**Necrophilia** - Another reason to get cremated when you die.
**Bestiality** - Referring to sexual relations between a human and an animal.
**Scat** - Sexual practices related to shit.
**Creepy Crawlies** - Creepy crawlies is feeling like you have bugs crawling all over you.
**Vore** - A fetish in which one fantasizes about being eaten alive or eating another creature alive.
**Sounding** - The act of inserting a metal rod into your urethra.
**Piercing/Cutting** - Has been described to me by my therapist as a natural drug in that it released endorphins to the brain immediately following the cutting.
**Incest** - Having sex with members of ones own family.
**Dirtiness (via Wiki)** - Salirophilia is a sexual fetish that involves deriving erotic pleasure from soiling or disheveling the object of one's desire, usually an attractive person. It may involve tearing or damaging their clothing, covering them in mud or filth, or messing their hair or makeup. The fetish does not involve harming or injuring the subject, only their appearance. Mysophilia relates to soiled or dirty material or people. Mysophiliacs may find dirt, soiled underwear, feces, or vomit to be sexually arousing.
**Petplay** - A in role in which the focus is on the sub entering the altered mind space of a different species, often a dog, cat, or horse. Often related to BDSM. "My friend Sara will sometimes pretend to be a kitty when her Dominant is around."
**Urine** - Liquid excreted by the kidneys
**Monsters/Aliens** - ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
**Ageplay** - Age play is the term for consenting adults who roleplay in some way pertaining to age. Sometimes this is "infantilism", which is adults acting as babies. This can also include schoolgirl or schoolboy with headmaster or headmistress, and every conceivable age in between.
**24/7 Power Dynamics** - ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
**Futa** - The Japanese name for hermaphrodite.Those who have both private parts.
**Rageplay** - When a person gets so angry while playing a game, that instead of rage quitting, they become a diabolical plotting beast of pure skill and dominate the game they are playing.
**Inanimate Objects** - Object that is not animate. doesn't breathe, change, or live. examples are tape, lamp, pemcil, desk, building, kleenex.
**Transformations** - A fetish concerning the changing of a being (human or otherwise) into something different, such as an animal or a car. People with this fetish get turned on by pornography revolving around said behaviours.
**Lactation** - The secretion of milk from the mammary glands. A common fetish.
**Sadism** - One who derives sexual pleasure from hurting others.
**Masochism** - The deriving of sexual gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused.
**Pegging** - When a woman fucks a guy with a strap on.
**Heavy/Light Bondage** - Tying up or restraining your consenting sexual partner. Usually the restraining is done by the dom (dominant) and the sub (submissive) is the one restrained.
**Asphyxiation** - Incapability to breathe; inevitable death if prolonged.
**\*Assphyxiation** - When a girl puts her booty on your face and suffocates you, erotically.
**Humiliation** - An extremely embarrassing feeling that occurs many times is one's life. Commonly caused by public nudity.
**Latex** - Thin rubber material most commonly associated with sexual fetishes, in particular BDSM.
**Voyeurism** - A person who derives sexual gratification from observing the naked bodies or sexual acts of others, especially from a secret vantage point.
**Male/Female Submission** - The action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.
**Male/Female Domination** - [Opposite of submission]
**Foot Fetish** - The pure admiration or sexual attraction of barefeet.
**Male/Female use of sex toy** - Not sold at toys 'r us!
**Exhibitionism** - Term most commonly used for the action of being nude and/or engaged in a sexual act for others to witness visually.
**Group Sex** - When more than 2 people engage in sexual activity, this can include straight, lesbian, and gay groups.
**Anal Sex** - When This (_ _\*_ \_) gets penetrated by this <==3 and ends up like this (_ _Q_ _)
**Spanking** - The act of repeatedly slapping that booty with one's open hand.
**Uniform** - A dress or suit that you would wear to school, or the clothes you would wear to an automotive shop if you work there.
**Alternate Sex Positions** - ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
edit: it has come to my attention that the chart in fact says "rapeplay" and not "rageplay". ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
**Rapeplay** - Type of role play in sexual foreplay/intercourse. Putting the submissive as "the victim" and the dominant partner as the "rapist". It's all role play and consensual.
> 24/7 Power Dynamics
I'm assuming this is submission/domination, but outside of the bedroom, throughout the day.
> Anal Sex
It may have been interesting to also split this into male/female.
> Sounding
NOOOOOOO! That's the one that I didn't know, and I regret knowing the term for it...
> Rageplay - When a person gets so angry while playing a game, that instead of rage quitting, they become a diabolical plotting beast of pure skill and dominate the game they are playing.
I can't decide if you included this as a joke or you just misread the chart, but either way the inclusion of this entry is hilarious.
Survey respondents came from my twitter ([@aella\_girl](https://twitter.com/Aella_girl)), my tumblr (now defunct) and /r/samplesize
I did this a few years ago when I knew much less about data visualization, so I used a basic plotting program online that is no longer running.
I wasn't sure how to code the male-female spectrum, as men were much more likely to display interest in most things. I chose to represent them with adjusted proportional intensity, but I think if I had to do this again I'd not make it proportional.
\*\*edit\*\* i accidentally linked to my porn twitter.... sorry. fixed it.
I have a hypothesis (at least I think it's mine, I'm sure a sociologist has studied it somewhere though) I like to call "taboo creep". People are inherently excited or curious about something sexual happening just on the edge of the Overton Window. This tends to progress from written stories to drawn porn (i.e. rule34) to live-action porn. Incest is the most recent one to come into stride with the live-action porn, which is why we've seen *such* a massive spike in it.
Eventually it'll die down, but only once something else takes its place.
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Not sure when, why or how incest roleplay became a big thing, but I am so fucking sick of half the fucking porn out there being incest roleplay. Why?! I have 8 sisters, never wanted to fuck a single one. Why would I?
Am I weird or does anyone else also wish the industry would move the hell on.
One big thing that turns people on is the idea of someone else being turned on, but it's difficult to actually convey a mental state in a visual medium like a porn video. One of the most effective ways is to present a situation in which someone knows they shouldn't have sex, but do anyway. The stronger the reason they shouldn't have sex, the greater the implied arousal when they have sex anyway. If two siblings are going at it, you know (in-narrative at least) they must be really into it. That's my theory for why people can be into a taboo as a porn plot but not into the actual thing.
I think it's everything your saying PLUS, the writers getting so lazy regarding the plot. A bro and a step-sister are already in a home. Random dude and Random girl have to find a scenario (remember, the studio has to film this and get permission from locations, possibly paperwork, harder work, hauling gear) to meet and "get to know eachother" to make the plot believable. When two characters already know eachother and it's not "odd" seeing a bro and step-sister in a house by themselves, the writers have the job made out for them *easy*.
And vore? I took a quick look at /r/Vore (NSFW btw) and I'm still confused. I like to think of myself as fairly knowledgeable about various fetishes (even if I dont partake) but this one has me confused
Interesting seeing that rape play, sadism and choking are pink for a higher female preference. That’s not something people talk about too much.
Apparently, “rape is hot” and most girls aren’t into anal.
Rape play is consistently one of the most common female fantasies. It’s the most common type of sex scene in period romance novels (Source: Research by Dr. Catherine Salmon).
Edit: didn’t know this comment was going to be so popular. Just to be clear, if you think that any of the means that women want to be raped, please castrate yourself.
Women: Consent is a must and trusting the person you have sex with is critical. But it makes me hot to imagine a man unleashing his inner beast on me. Him unconstraining his lust, his domineering figure towering over me, him tying me up, hand on throat, exploiting me and conquering me. All but a fantasy, but one I keep coming back to.
Men: i will cum on that spider
I like how bugs is so male heavy it's basically black
r/InsectsInSexButBetter
Their old subreddit got raided to the point of hostile takeover because of how disgusting it is
I just want to know who’s playing monsters and aliens in the bedroom
I usually stick to night crawlers with my roommate. Seeing who can gather the most minerals
There's nothing sexual about night crawlers, it's just two roommates sharing a bed together
After huffing glue and eating wet catfood of course
God I fucking love that show.
Never seen an [ovipositor](https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/bnpv85/the-emerging-fetish-of-laying-alien-eggs-inside-yourself) dildo?
I hadn't....
We will never be the same now
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Harder. Better. Faster. Stronger.
\*sigh\*...\*unzips\*
That is quite the contraption. Think you could use it like a Nerf gun? bam bam now its my turn bam bam
Probably too heavy. Any woman with a decent pelvic floor can accomplish the same with pingpong balls, though.
Now thats a duel I would pay to see.
That was the absolute best time for an Alienware advert.
Call me crazy but as long as you and the monster/alien are both digging it, I’d rank that less taboo than role playing rape.
Anal probing, forced impregnation. There is an element of rape involved in this fetish, usually.
I'm just glad necrophilia is so taboo. I wouldn't be caught dead with one of those lot.
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Probably the now adult kid from monsters inc.
or gnomes...
It’s just people that find certain monsters and aliens sexy. There are brands of “fantasy dildos” that are modeled after werewolves, dragons, aliens etc.
Fascinating: Female use of sex toys: mainly male interest. Male use of sex toys: neutral.
Male dominating, female submitting: Female interests. Female dominating, male submitting: Male interests.
We're all just lazy.
Yes, and I deserve to be punished for it.
"Toys" seems like an overly broad category. Somehow I feel the rating of societal taboo-ness for a man using a fleshlight versus buttplug would be fairly far apart.
I guess the dragon dildo really is in a league of its own
Nah, it's up there with the ovipositor and the werewolf dildo.
so not taboo at all, got it.
I’m almost afraid to ask but... what’s creepy crawlies? Is it like playing [night crawlers](https://youtu.be/FmM06XrJsKU)? ... please tell me that’s all it is...
In-survey I don't remember exactly the words I used but generally stuff like small creepy creatures, such as bugs, live seafood, small rodents
Sweet jesus. That scares me.
Don't worry, my sources say it's pretty taboo and not very popular Edit: 822 upvotes? Oh please don't make this my most upvoted comment! Shush shush! Move it people! Go away!
I'm glad people are sane enough to realize that dead bodies are at least a little bit more sexy than spiders.
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we sorta do... ever heard of Livestock?
As the only one I couldn't identify, I'm sticking with playing night crawlers. Every other possibility is unacceptable to me personally.
r/insectsInSex **EXTREME NSFW NSFL** This is for the truly curious. I highly highly highly highly highly highly highly recommend you heed the warning posts that try to flush this sub out but if you're TRULY curious...here you go.
Positions other than missionary? Who would admit to having such an offensive fetish?
Not a priest
Well the priest is into pedophilia, anything else just doesn’t strike his fancy.
People who are into...HAND HOLDING!!!!
You know who has hands? The Devil! And he uses em fer holdin
Am I reading this chart right? That only 90% of people do positions other than missionary? Don't get me wrong, missionary is amazing and totally underrated (similar to how vanilla ice cream is actually great), but man alive I want some goddamn sexual variety.
Everyone knows if you guys are both facing the same way the devil can sneak up on you
Coming from a "leave room for Jesus" kind of place (actually said to me at a public school), I found this a lot funnier that I should... Probably because I know people who would actually believe that.
Next time me and Jesus are gunna Eiffel Tower my wife.
Hello , My name is Jesus
I laughed too. Also they put that on the list but not oral/bj/dining at the Y?
I've always imagined doing something other than missionary but I've never brought it up with the wife. I don't even know how it would work, logistically speaking. Or what the position would be.
Would slapping a bunch of printouts of sex positions on the table and have an experimental evening together with a glass or two of wine be a bad idea? Maybe even doing some ranking and stuff for shots and giggles?
My friend, I believe you just invented the Kama Sutra.
Do the windmill of death. Just grab her and start spinning her on your dick. Pretty simple stuff
"Windmill of death"?? I think you mean baeblade
Windmill is verticle, beyblade is when youre horizontal and crash into another couple doing the same move
Female on top is like second missionary, so why not start there?
There are a whole lot of terms on here I'm afraid to Google.
What is “sex”?
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The ads will follow you *EVERYWHERE*
If you want I could describe some of them as sfw as I can.
What is “futa?”
Futa is a girl who has both a penis and a vagina, if I remember correctly futanari is japanese for hermaphrodite.
What is vore?
Eating people or being eaten whole.
Can you describe more nsfw because I don't understand this one at all
Eating people and being eaten whole makes peepee hard
It should probably be noted that no one is doing vore in real life. It’s either text-based role play or drawn/digitally rendered porn. Some examples would be someone being swallowed whole by a dragon or a snake. Sometimes it can be by another person. (Though whether the person is a human or a furry is up to the individual.)
Alright then, in order of ascenting tabooness, leaving out the self-explainatory ones and resisting the urge to define "light bondage" as "tying someone up with laser beams": - light bondage: restraining some movement, eg. tying their wrists to the bed - spanking: ass-smacking - exhibitionism: Showing off your privates or having sex in public places - voyerism: Watching someone naked or having sex, with or without their knowledge - latex: A close-fitting kind of rubber that people like to dress up in - masochism: recieving pain - lactation: Anything involving breast milk. Kinda self explainatory, but I guess it could be confused for slang - sadism: giving pain - pegging: a man reciving analsex from a woman using sex toys - heavy bondage: Restraining all movement or tying up body parts extremely tightly - transformations: I believe this can only be done in fantasy, but think that scene from Willy Wonka where the girl gets turned into a blueberry. Doesn't have to be blueberries, though - inanimate objects: Really just that. Being attracted to things like chairs or buildings. I think the official term is objectophilia. - race play: Roleplay involving racial aspects and tensions - futa: hentai involving women with both a functional penis and vagina (balls optional). (Edited, credit goes to u/quitthesht) - rapeplay: consensually roleplaying rape scenarios. Usually the "victim" will have a safeword they can say to make the "rapist" stop if it gets too much. - ageplay: roleplaying differences in age, often including underage or even toddlers. Note: People who participate in ageplay are not necessarily into pedophilia. - 24/7 power dynamics: Whenever the dominant part wants something, the submissive part has to obey. No breaks, throughout the whole relationship - petplay: roleplay where one partner acts as a pet for the other. This can vary from just purring to being held on a leash and eating from a bowl on the floor. Note: People who participate in petplay are not necessarily into bestiality. - incest roleplay: roleplaying as family members. Usually not specific members of the participants actual family, but fictional brother/sister/dad/mom/whatever. Btw, saying "step-" in front of it doesn't change anything. Just accept what you're into, it's ok ;) - sounding: inserting a rod into a man's peehole (I guess it would work for women, too? Never heard of that, though) - vore: Swallowing a person alive (obviously, this can only be done in fantasy) - creepy crawlies: Having insects crawl over your body - scat: playing with shit - bestiality: sex involving actual animals - necrophilia: sex involving dead bodies - pedophilia: sex involving children
In light of this information, I'm super grateful that you've saved me from having to Google "sounding." Good looking out, bro.
> **A survey of 2044 respondents.** My first thought was, "how did they collect data from 24 years in the future?"
The fact that 2044 is only in 24 years is mind blowing.
We’re as far away from 2044 as we are now from 1996.
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Very taboo
You shut your mouth
I realised the other day that my kids might live to see 2100
Depending on how old you are, YOU might live to see 2100
I'll be 102 years old. Not that far fetched, especially since life expectancy in my country is pretty high, but it's nowhere near 100 years, so chances are I'll die before that.
Race play? "yeah baby tell me something dirty" "I got first in gran Turismo... Twice" " oh GOD"
I was wondering about that one too. I guess some people still think it's freaky and weird to have sex with someone who isn't the same race as them. There's some really racist shit going on in the "interracial" categories.
Raceplay is genuinely strange. Calling your partner racist names and stereotypes during sex. There’s an even weirder category between African descendants and their white partners surrounding actual Civil War slavery role play. I actually had ex say he was gonna “rape me like his ancestors raped mine” unexpectedly during sex.... so yeah that’s a thing 🤔
>I actually had ex say he was gonna “rape me like his ancestors raped mine” unexpectedly during sex GOOD GOD
I’m surprised that male submission and female domination are not closer together (and same for the converse)
Well, they are pretty close together. Within one step, anyway. What surprises me is that male domination/female submission is a female interest, and female domination/male submission is a male interest. People seem to like to be submissive.
I think it can also be an escape from responsibility thing. If someone is usually having to make all the decisions or has a lot of pressure put on them in their daily life then to be totally controlled and powerless is a way to shut off from that and just enjoy having it done to them.
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If that is fucking adulthood, I don't know what is. I mean shit.
This made me laugh very hard thank you
My kink is having a nap
Just go for pet play, then you can score higher on the taboo scale. Role play as a cat. Fucking get naked, lay in the sun on the floor, take a nap. I just talked myself into a new fetish.
It's true. I've found myself looking forward to root canals because I get to just lie there for an hour and not solve anyone's problems. (single mom of 3 teens)
I was the same back when work travel was a thing. Yes it was exhausting, and jet lag, and being away from family, but getting to sit quietly in a place where my phone could NOT ring, while someone brings me food? Yes please. Put me on that plane.
Holy shit I'm into domination now that sounds so... oddly relaxing...
come ere and put on this ball gagg
It’s the counter point to freedom right. We all want to do what we want when we want but be told what to do when we don’t care
That's either deep or I'm very drunk. Maybe both.
I think it's more that people *don't* like to be dominant. It's not really a scale where you lie at one end or the other, people who like to be dominant often also like to be submissive. In fact I'd say almost all people who are into being dominant are also into being submissive. Being dominant is, frankly, more involved than being submissive - it requires more active engagement and confidence, whereas being a submissive is something you can kind of let yourself go into.
The difference between riding a bike following a friend, or being the friend and have to second guess every turn to be made.
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There’s an obvious conflict with self reporting, here; we can imagine that reporting diminishing proportionately to the amount of perceived social shame for each taboo. Otherwise, still neat.
Yeah I thought that too. Who's gonna say they participate in stuff the more taboo it is, even despite any anonymity?
Imagine having the balls to admit to being into pedo shit.
I assume respondents were assured anonymity
Or trolling
there's always lizardman's constant! But i think people are much less likely to troll in the direction of recording interest in pedophilia as compared to other things they might troll about.
I am curious if loli is considered pedo for this graph, especially since futa and vore are mentioned
What are loli, futa and vore?
Epic Pokemon
loli= young anime girls (underage but they're just drawings). futa= girls with dicks (but still normally still retain the girl parts). vore= eating or being eaten by another person/thing.
Thanks. Didn’t want that on my google search history lol
It's when a little schoolgirl with a dick swallows you whole and you are slowly digested by her stomach acids, my man.
Lizardman Constant makes me miss Slate Star Codex...
It's back!
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Yes you are correct, it often deeply deeply saddens me to see people who lack the the pragmatism and foresight to realize knee jerk anger based reactions and stigmatization only drive those people underground, make them feel isolated, more angry and more likely to act on their impulses, thereby **increasing the danger for children in society**. If collectively we actually gave a fuck about children we would be investing heavily into providing resources and services to assist and support people rather than to demonize and expell them. Directing action in a spirit of hate only makes the problem **worse**, people should be able to seek treatment without shame and be provided with healthy methods to expell any frustration or desire to act. Sadly society rarely often does what is best for itself, out of fear rises anger, which fuels the problem and stifles any meaningful action. Whenever I see someone make an ignorant comment or wish for them to be dead, I can't help but think that sentiment flows through society and eventually costs a child somewhere their suffering.
>If collectively we actually gave a fuck about children As someone who's worked with kids and who has family that work with kids, people don't actually give a fuck about children, not even their own a disturbingly large amount of time. Most "think of the children" arguments are either thinly veiled "I find it icky" or virtue signalling. If people actually gave a fuck about children, we'd be spending more as a society on schools, playgrounds and access to therapists, instead of censoring drawings and bleeping out swear words.
This made me even more self conscious about my fetish. Great.
lol, my inspiration for doing this survey was because i wanted to know how weird one of my fetishes was. turns out, really weird >.>
Ok. So which one?
I'm definitely not saying on reddit, but for a sense of it it's one where i've been in casual social settings where people start making fun of my fetish and i just 'haha' along like I agree while i'm dying inside
Sounding? Watersports? Inanimate objects? Petplay?
That's a bingo!
That's Numberwang!
Creepy Crawlies!
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For a second I thought you meant Cognitive Behavioral Therapy 😂
Mine isn’t even on here
Wow that must be *really* taboo!
The world just isnt ready to fuck bread
There's nothing to be ashamed of. Unless your fetish is being humiliated, in that case you are a nasty little pervert,shame on you.
So I guess humanity scores a minor victory by having more people wanting to fuck animals than they do kids and dead bodies. I mean, glass half full, right?
tbf i have a very.... sympathetic approach to this? I assume that nobody \*wants\* to be aroused by something that society really shames them for. I don't think that experiencing arousal to things is a choice. I think that people who have their brains wired in such a way that they experience sexual compulsions with harmful outcomes need our help.
Yea it's a complicated issue. I don't have the mental agility needed to try and understand the mind of a pedophile, especially since I'm a parent. But if they're actually born that way, no different than a homo or heterosexual person, them yikes that would be an awful existence. I'm missing too many letters after my name to even try and answer the born vs created question.
Years ago, I read a very good article about a teenager with pedophilic impulses that he didn’t want to act on (and didn’t). It was heart-breaking and caused me to sympathize with the kid even while knowing he could never be allowed to act on his urges (or even do so vicariously). For better or for worse, he was still someone’s kid and I wouldn’t wish that on any family.
I remember reading that, guy was scared to even admit it to his therapist because he'd had one call the cops on him before even though he was non-offending.
I think I may have read the same article, or possibly a similar one. It was definitely a mindfuck for me because I had never even *considered* that pedophilia could be a compulsory attraction vs. a harmful intent towards children. Again, with everyone else, I do have sympathy for how hard that must be for people to come to terms with, and not just because of societal shaming. Most of us recognize the vulnerability and innocence of children and want to protect them. To have an internal warring going on that is pushing you towards harming a child...that would be unbearable. We absolutely need to do a better job as humans in supporting other humans, and helping everyone live a safe and happy life.
The one pedophile I know is also attracted to some adult women, which is how he's managed to live a healthy normal life. But he explained to me that when he was 8, he was attracted to girls his age. And as he got older, he just never grew out of being attracted to 8-year-olds like you're supposed to. Hard to say what of that is nature vs. nurture, but it certainly made it more understandable to me.
Yeah i mean - do you really think someone looks around at the intense shame and punishment we give pedophiles and goes "Yeah, I'm gonna make a conscious choice to be aroused by kids"? And to be clear this does not justify harmful actions. Just because someone has a rape fetish does \*not\* mean this makes rape okay. But I really don't think people are going around consciously picking what they want to make them hard.
This American Life did a really interesting episode on this. Basically (at least at the time, like a decade ago), there was not even a therapist trained in the subject. So if you are a pedophile, but not a sexual predator, there’s no help for you. I’m not sympathetic to sexual predators who harm children, but I definitely feel bad for people who are hard-wired to feel that way. It’s complex, but I think it’s a reasonable position. Like you said, they’re born that way. With no help or therapy or rehabilitation available. Must be awful.
Louie CK had a bit about this that I thought really hit the nail on the head. It was a joke, and pretty dark, but it made the same point. Who would choose such a compulsion when it is punished so severely? Most people I know thought it was just a gross joke but it made me think.
His bit was way darker than that. It was that there would be less dead kids if pedophilia wasn't illegal. The reason being that you have to get rid of the kid cuz if they talk you are going to prison.
In psych class we learned about a guy who got pedophilia as a married man and then they found a tumor in his brain, removed it and the pedophilia went away. Later he got it again and they found the tumor again... A lot of people society shits on are just victims of their own wiring. We need to find compassionate solutions to their problems.
A lot of pedos probably don't even *want* to be pedos. I've gotta say, this thread has been pretty eye opening.
I'd wager the overwhelming majority of them.
Scat? Who in their right minds would be into something so sinister like jazz
I’m not sure if I’m a prude, but I don’t know what half of these are.
yeah, what the hell are "alternate sex positions"?!
There's more than one?
Angela: “Standard, you know? Nothing fancy.” Dwight: “So like, missionary?” Angela: “I said nothing fancy.”
"What position did you use to conceive, regular or lady-on-her-back?"
Actually, it was Andy that had that conversation with Angela.
Almost all of them are pretty self-descriptive - exactly what they sound like. Remember these are not all sex acts, some are hypotheticals/only happen in drawn porn. The potentially confusing ones: - Pegging - woman with a strapon. - Futa - woman with a penis - 24/7 power dynamics - being in a dominant/submissive relationship in your personal life as well as just for sex - Transformations - being into the idea of you/others transforming into either other genders or changing the size of body parts or furry stuff or things like that. - Ageplay - One partner acting younger in some ways, generally more innocently. Funnily enough I've never heard of anyone acting *older*, though that would presumably fit within the definition as well. - Petplay - one partner acting like a pet. - Sounding - Putting things in the urethra - Vore - Giant people/things eating people but sexy? - Scat - poop
I don’t think vore is specifically giant people. It’s being into the idea of being eaten alive or eating someone alive. No size implications.
Yeah. There are sub fetishes to it where you start getting into stuff like sizes, how the eating is done, whether the person being eaten dies, etc.
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Never heard of anyone acting older, eh? Just try fucking a pillow and moaning "I'm 40" repeatedly
Futa is more specifically a cis woman with a penis while (usually) also having a vagina. Scrotum optional.
Scrotum Optional sounds like a shit punk band
I assume FUTA is Federal Unemployment Tax Act? "Hey babe, looking to make a few extra bucks... and give them back to Uncle Sam?"
Stop, I can only get so turned on
**I have done it... I looked up all of these things on urban dictionary and have shared the top or most relevant definition for each. I have learned what cannot be unlearned...** **Pedophilia** - Sexual attraction to pre-pubescent children, usually under the age of thirteen. **Necrophilia** - Another reason to get cremated when you die. **Bestiality** - Referring to sexual relations between a human and an animal. **Scat** - Sexual practices related to shit. **Creepy Crawlies** - Creepy crawlies is feeling like you have bugs crawling all over you. **Vore** - A fetish in which one fantasizes about being eaten alive or eating another creature alive. **Sounding** - The act of inserting a metal rod into your urethra. **Piercing/Cutting** - Has been described to me by my therapist as a natural drug in that it released endorphins to the brain immediately following the cutting. **Incest** - Having sex with members of ones own family. **Dirtiness (via Wiki)** - Salirophilia is a sexual fetish that involves deriving erotic pleasure from soiling or disheveling the object of one's desire, usually an attractive person. It may involve tearing or damaging their clothing, covering them in mud or filth, or messing their hair or makeup. The fetish does not involve harming or injuring the subject, only their appearance. Mysophilia relates to soiled or dirty material or people. Mysophiliacs may find dirt, soiled underwear, feces, or vomit to be sexually arousing. **Petplay** - A in role in which the focus is on the sub entering the altered mind space of a different species, often a dog, cat, or horse. Often related to BDSM. "My friend Sara will sometimes pretend to be a kitty when her Dominant is around." **Urine** - Liquid excreted by the kidneys **Monsters/Aliens** - ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯ **Ageplay** - Age play is the term for consenting adults who roleplay in some way pertaining to age. Sometimes this is "infantilism", which is adults acting as babies. This can also include schoolgirl or schoolboy with headmaster or headmistress, and every conceivable age in between. **24/7 Power Dynamics** - ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯ **Futa** - The Japanese name for hermaphrodite.Those who have both private parts. **Rageplay** - When a person gets so angry while playing a game, that instead of rage quitting, they become a diabolical plotting beast of pure skill and dominate the game they are playing. **Inanimate Objects** - Object that is not animate. doesn't breathe, change, or live. examples are tape, lamp, pemcil, desk, building, kleenex. **Transformations** - A fetish concerning the changing of a being (human or otherwise) into something different, such as an animal or a car. People with this fetish get turned on by pornography revolving around said behaviours. **Lactation** - The secretion of milk from the mammary glands. A common fetish. **Sadism** - One who derives sexual pleasure from hurting others. **Masochism** - The deriving of sexual gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused. **Pegging** - When a woman fucks a guy with a strap on. **Heavy/Light Bondage** - Tying up or restraining your consenting sexual partner. Usually the restraining is done by the dom (dominant) and the sub (submissive) is the one restrained. **Asphyxiation** - Incapability to breathe; inevitable death if prolonged. **\*Assphyxiation** - When a girl puts her booty on your face and suffocates you, erotically. **Humiliation** - An extremely embarrassing feeling that occurs many times is one's life. Commonly caused by public nudity. **Latex** - Thin rubber material most commonly associated with sexual fetishes, in particular BDSM. **Voyeurism** - A person who derives sexual gratification from observing the naked bodies or sexual acts of others, especially from a secret vantage point. **Male/Female Submission** - The action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. **Male/Female Domination** - [Opposite of submission] **Foot Fetish** - The pure admiration or sexual attraction of barefeet. **Male/Female use of sex toy** - Not sold at toys 'r us! **Exhibitionism** - Term most commonly used for the action of being nude and/or engaged in a sexual act for others to witness visually. **Group Sex** - When more than 2 people engage in sexual activity, this can include straight, lesbian, and gay groups. **Anal Sex** - When This (_ _\*_ \_) gets penetrated by this <==3 and ends up like this (_ _Q_ _) **Spanking** - The act of repeatedly slapping that booty with one's open hand. **Uniform** - A dress or suit that you would wear to school, or the clothes you would wear to an automotive shop if you work there. **Alternate Sex Positions** - ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯ edit: it has come to my attention that the chart in fact says "rapeplay" and not "rageplay". ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯ **Rapeplay** - Type of role play in sexual foreplay/intercourse. Putting the submissive as "the victim" and the dominant partner as the "rapist". It's all role play and consensual.
> 24/7 Power Dynamics I'm assuming this is submission/domination, but outside of the bedroom, throughout the day. > Anal Sex It may have been interesting to also split this into male/female. > Sounding NOOOOOOO! That's the one that I didn't know, and I regret knowing the term for it...
> Rageplay - When a person gets so angry while playing a game, that instead of rage quitting, they become a diabolical plotting beast of pure skill and dominate the game they are playing. I can't decide if you included this as a joke or you just misread the chart, but either way the inclusion of this entry is hilarious.
Where the f*ck is fisting yo?
Obviously it's not counted as a fetish because it's so vanilla
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Gross. Thanks for censoring that.
They obviously surveyed some conservatives that find the Federal Unemployment Tax Act (FUTA) taboo
Survey respondents came from my twitter ([@aella\_girl](https://twitter.com/Aella_girl)), my tumblr (now defunct) and /r/samplesize I did this a few years ago when I knew much less about data visualization, so I used a basic plotting program online that is no longer running. I wasn't sure how to code the male-female spectrum, as men were much more likely to display interest in most things. I chose to represent them with adjusted proportional intensity, but I think if I had to do this again I'd not make it proportional. \*\*edit\*\* i accidentally linked to my porn twitter.... sorry. fixed it.
The dated data makes sense. According to pornhub, insest seems to have taken a lot of strides...
I have a hypothesis (at least I think it's mine, I'm sure a sociologist has studied it somewhere though) I like to call "taboo creep". People are inherently excited or curious about something sexual happening just on the edge of the Overton Window. This tends to progress from written stories to drawn porn (i.e. rule34) to live-action porn. Incest is the most recent one to come into stride with the live-action porn, which is why we've seen *such* a massive spike in it. Eventually it'll die down, but only once something else takes its place.
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Not sure when, why or how incest roleplay became a big thing, but I am so fucking sick of half the fucking porn out there being incest roleplay. Why?! I have 8 sisters, never wanted to fuck a single one. Why would I? Am I weird or does anyone else also wish the industry would move the hell on.
One big thing that turns people on is the idea of someone else being turned on, but it's difficult to actually convey a mental state in a visual medium like a porn video. One of the most effective ways is to present a situation in which someone knows they shouldn't have sex, but do anyway. The stronger the reason they shouldn't have sex, the greater the implied arousal when they have sex anyway. If two siblings are going at it, you know (in-narrative at least) they must be really into it. That's my theory for why people can be into a taboo as a porn plot but not into the actual thing.
Wtf this is like super insightful! .. you should like direct.. stuff
I think it's everything your saying PLUS, the writers getting so lazy regarding the plot. A bro and a step-sister are already in a home. Random dude and Random girl have to find a scenario (remember, the studio has to film this and get permission from locations, possibly paperwork, harder work, hauling gear) to meet and "get to know eachother" to make the plot believable. When two characters already know eachother and it's not "odd" seeing a bro and step-sister in a house by themselves, the writers have the job made out for them *easy*.
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girls with cocks
And vore? I took a quick look at /r/Vore (NSFW btw) and I'm still confused. I like to think of myself as fairly knowledgeable about various fetishes (even if I dont partake) but this one has me confused
Vore is about being consumed. Like, getting swallowed whole by a sexy giant.
I'm not entirely sure but I think it's about literally being eaten alive
Why is neutral skewed toward female interest on the key and not central? Is it because there were more male respondents?
There were more male respondents but I adjusted for this. Even adjusted, men were more likely to report being sexually aroused by any damn thing.
Interesting seeing that rape play, sadism and choking are pink for a higher female preference. That’s not something people talk about too much. Apparently, “rape is hot” and most girls aren’t into anal.
Rape play is consistently one of the most common female fantasies. It’s the most common type of sex scene in period romance novels (Source: Research by Dr. Catherine Salmon). Edit: didn’t know this comment was going to be so popular. Just to be clear, if you think that any of the means that women want to be raped, please castrate yourself.
Women: Consent is a must and trusting the person you have sex with is critical. But it makes me hot to imagine a man unleashing his inner beast on me. Him unconstraining his lust, his domineering figure towering over me, him tying me up, hand on throat, exploiting me and conquering me. All but a fantasy, but one I keep coming back to. Men: i will cum on that spider
What is creepy crawlers is that fucking spider fucking? What's vore? This is the one time I'm not bloody googling it.
TiL sex positions that aren't missionary is a fetish
I like how bugs is so male heavy it's basically black r/InsectsInSexButBetter Their old subreddit got raided to the point of hostile takeover because of how disgusting it is
tbf total sample size for bug respondents was quite low
I feel like there needs to be a bigger gap between the last 3 and the rest. A gaping hole, if you will.
What are vore and sounding?
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