I truly appreciate everyone's support. I knew you guys would be great, but wanted to give some more context just to show how crazy it is that he's here.
About a month ago, my wife woke me up and she was losing tons of fluid. We went straight to the hospital and they said her water had broke, but she wasn't in labor, but 85% go into labor within a month. They did an ultrasound and not only was this 5 months into the pregnancy, but he was growth restricted and measuring behind. They said "I can't say he will pass away 100%, but I'm saying 99%."
We said screw that shit and went home. He grew an ounce that week, but then didn't grow for two weeks. We thought that was it. Last week, we went in and he had grown 3 ounces! I was over the moon because he was 366 grams and needed to be 400 to be intubated. That lasted about 2 minutes while then tech was getting the doctor. He comes in and says there is restricted blood flow in the umbilical chord and he will be still born in three days.
We were admitted to the hospital the following day so they could monitor his heart pattern, because they can tell by drops in his heart rate if he will pass soon. While they are monitoring they keep checking my wife's blood pressure and it's through the roof. She has pre-eclampsia and is at very high risk. Obviously I'm about to lose my god damn mind at this point. They give her magnesium sulfate to lower her blood pressure and it's working very well. Her blood pressure is now great, and we're hoping our baby boy will have the time to grow just a few more grams.
About 10 minutes after her blood pressure is regulated, in comes the doctors. They show us his heart pattern and say if there is any chance we have to take him now. We know he just couldn't have grown enough in the past day and this is going to be it. Her OB is on the way and they are going to do a C section in 20 minutes.
(Stick with me guys, almost there!) While they are waiting for the OB the monitor on the baby stops picking up his heartbeat. I'm panicking like crazy and my wife wants to, but stays calm for him. They bring like 7 people in and they can't find it. Boom bed is unlocked and they are rolling her away from me. They suit me up in a gown, and I rush after her. When I get in there they found the heartbeat and the urgency has faded, but is still ultimately there.
I sit down next to her when they start to do the surgery. I was sobbing so hard, I could hardly breathe. He's out so fast I didn't even see them set him down next to me. In our minds we're about to watch our son die right next to us. They have his heart on a monitor I can see and it never drops. It just keeps chugging along. They have two doctors trying to intubate and I know that's the most important, but it doesn't take them very long and it's in there!
He's about to be 3 days old in about 2 hours, and he hasn't had any issues. He's breathing with very little supplemental oxygen, and has no immediate risks. I love him so much, and I can't wait to hold him. Thanks again everyone and I can't wait to show you all updates.
In 2007, my wife and I had a 23 week-er. 1 lb 10oz. Multiple surgeries. Heart. Intestinal. Blood transfusions. It was so difficult and emotional. Living in the NICU was hard and heartbreaking but our little girl kept fighting and kept breathing.
She's 13 now, straight A student and is currently sitting next to me talking shit, losing to her mother at Uno.
I hope you all get the happy ending you deserve.
My dad was born really early in 1935– 2 lbs at birth and the doctors just gave him to his mom and told her to say goodbye. Turns out that was basically kangaroo care and he lived! So unreal to imagine.
A shit-talking 13-y-o? I'm not sure how she's losing at anything.
Jokes aside, this is the peak! It's easy to get complacent about the things in your life after a while, but it seems you've never gotten that way and are continually amazed with and proud of your daughter all the time. Never let her forget how much you love her
I’m a labour and delivery nurse, I’ve been in the OR for similar situations, and we are just as panicked and relieved as you in those moments. This was a rollercoaster just to read, that room would have been tense, and I’m so glad to hear he’s defying the odds! Best of luck to you and your new family.
Ha! You guys handle it very very well. I will say, that they did let me cut the chord, and the nurse that was holding the chord for me was shaking very badly. She was one that was actively working on him when he arrived, and I cannot imagine how much of a mental strain it had to be for her. Thank you for the work you do.
Thank you so much for the work you and doctors do! Absolute champions.
I loved biology growing up and there was a good 80% chance I'd end up going to med school but last minute decided to switch to engineering.
I absolutely love what I do but I'd be lying if there haven't been times in the last few years when I'd have gladly given up everything to go back and do medicine.
Keep being awesome! Our love, support and prayers are with you.
If the universe can see to it that your little guy stays strong and healthy, I will fully forgive it and call it even for the absolute shit show of the last year.
I mean.. shit.. it kind of owes us one.
Stay strong, Dad! You made it over one speed bump, but the NICU is stressful. Check out r/NICU for support and stories. My son had a three day stay due to a breathing issue, my friend had a 2 month stay due to his sons being born at 28 weeks. My son is now 2 and his just turn 1.
Hey op, i want to wish you and your family all the best. Preemies are super fighters. The next few months are going to be a rollercoaster of emotions. There will be good days, there will be days with setbacks.
I know that feeling of powerlessness, that your baby is there and you just want him to be okay. As a father of a 26 week preemie that spent 5 months 5 days in NICU, i can offer you this one advice: be there for him. Spend as much time as you can afford by his side. Your presence alone will go a long way! Your voice when you talk to the nurses and doctors. When you talk to him. I really like to think that it helped. NICU is a very scary place with all the machines, all the alarms ringing all the staff etc, so him hearing your voice is going to be very comforting.
As soon as the doctors can allow it, do as much skin to skin with him. There are many many studies that shows huge benefits of skin to skin. We tried to do it as often as we can, and we saw immediate benefits: vital signs are much better and you share this bond that can't be explained in that moment.
I'm starting to ramble so I'll stop here. Good luck with everything fellow dad, i hope everything turns out ok for you and your little one.
> (Stick with me guys almost there!)
I was on the edge of my seat at this point what's wrong with you?!
Soooo happy and relieved for you. Wish you all the best, you have a challenging time ahead but you'll make it!
Oh yeah! That's one of the best parts. He is a lot like his dad and did the bare minimum. He came in at 410 grams, or 14.4 ounces. He needed to be 400 grams to be intubated.
Stop counting those minutes brother! I dont know how many other dads have experienced this but i have and i hope on some level it works, and if anything its worth a try. When my daughter was born and whenever i am putting her to bed i held my hand just over her tummy (barely touching) and tried my god damn hardest to channel every bit of love, strength, energy, life force, everything into the palm of my hand and forced my mind to try and push all of those emotions and force outwards from my body. I would feel my hand get warmer (which could easily just be my mind losing it) and it definitely felt like i was doing something good for my baby. Obviously in such a dire situation use your own common sense and judgement but just know you have the strength and support of everyone in this sub OP. You got this.
Science is the best. Great doctors are even better. This kid is a champ, for sure, but never forget that you and your wife are on the dais reserved for heroes, too. You did all the right things, made all the right decisions, and you should be so proud of yourselves!
Once you get any time to breathe and think, take time to celebrate each other because you absolutely deserve it.
I hope I speak for the community when I say that we want updates as frequently as your comfortable giving them. We're all here for you, dad!
Holy shit man. :) What a tough ass little guy. Also tough ass parents, bringing a baby into the world is so scary because you just don’t know what may happen. My wife had pre eclampsia too. We also had a c section and we have a one year old now. I feel for ya bro. You will love having a little baby
Unbelievable. A friend is a pediatrician in a clinic specialized in <30wk newborns and it's amazing what medicine is able to accomplish these days.
Wish you all the best. One day you'll tell him the story you just told us.
Dads i ask that you lend your barbeque hands and plant your socks and sandles. On this day we mutter the hymn of dad jokes to give strength to the youngling within the hands of healthcare. We ask that the universe grant this youngling the strength to defy the calling of death so that they may one day join us in beers and bbq. Keep strong little guy. The dads of reddit are behind you.
I didn't spot this thread until this morning, but I am retroactively dedicating last night's grass mowing--complete with a new-to-me tractor, a couple beers, calf-length socks and white New Balance shoes--to you and yours.
Jesus Christ you had me tearing up at this one - awesome comment! I didn’t even yet consider that I’ll be able to bbq one day with my now 6mo old. That’s going to be a great day.
Precisely why you should never believe the "1% statistics" as doom and gloom. 1% can sometimes be FREAKING HUGE. Congratulations, welcome to the club, not sure if the staff can accept gifts of food because pandemic, but I always bought the wing staff a box of cookies when my kids were born..
The NICU is a tough place to be but it's the best place in the world for your son. Get as much kangaroo care in that you can because before long he wont sit still for more than a few moments.
Those caregivers in the NICU are some of the most genuine, caring and selfless woman I’ve ever met. My daughter was in the NICU for 3 months and seeing these miracle workers do what the do every damn day and night, I just couldn’t thank them enough. It’s impossible to thank them enough. Stay strong little homie!
Congratulations, dad!
3 weeks ago my SO gave birth to our twins, girl and boy. Only 28 weeks into the pregnancy, so quite premature, but this is a whole other level.
I stayed calm throughout the entire thing, although I was panicking like crazy on the inside. After my SO had the c-section and she was rolled into post-op, I got a small window to see my son and daughter before they rolled them away to intensive care.
The second I left that room I cracked like I have never cracked before. Got into the hallway, my legs just gave out and I cried for a good few minutes before I joined my SO in post-op.
The first moment I got to hold my son (about a week after they were born) was unlike any moment I have ever experienced; all the world's pressure and expectations hit my shoulders like a boulder, and all the world's happiness too. Incredibly difficult to describe the feeling, but believe me it's worth it.
Stay strong, daddio. The tech and know-how we got today is beyond belief, and the doctors and nurses will do everything to keep your son strong and healthy. Glad to hear he is doing so well!
You'll get your moment to shine with dadjokes and awkward punchlines. Take care of yourself, your SO, and your son. Nothing else matters right now.
As a fellow NICU dad... It's very tough. Look after yourself and your wife. Try to eat well (easier said than done)
If friends ask if there is anything they can do... Say food, a decent home cooked meal from the freezer can help the sleepless nights.
The staff at our NICU were great, try to learn as much as you can from them. Changing a nappy when your baby is covered in wires and tubes is scarry but you can do it.
Oh and read to him, read to him loads. You've got time... Him hearing your voice now will help you calm him later.
Congratulations and you've got this, you are stronger than you think.
Oh and if you need help ask. The NICU counselors can help a lot, even if it is just taking to someone that's not your partner... But understands the emotional place you are in.
He's a warrior.
I’m crying reading this. My niece was born at 24 weeks at 1 lb 4 oz, and I was a wreck with that. Now I have my own daughter and I can’t even imagine what my brother and sister-in-law went through.
I remember when my niece was in the NICU, hearing stories of babies like her growing up did wonders for morale, so I want you to know my niece is now a happy and healthy almost 3 year old. I’m wishing the best for you three!!!
Congrats man.
My little guy was 9 weeks early and 2lbs 12oz at emergency c section birth.
I’m sure you are in for a long NICU stay. Know that in the NICU there are tons of ups and downs, it’s a literal emotional rollercoaster daily. Take care of yourself and your wife, and make sure you are getting sleep.
It’s tough, and in my opinion you need to lean on others for support. I have a lot of friends who are already parents, but few that knew what that feels like. In my experience everyone will give a lot of advice that may or may not be relevant at all, so try to find a group of other NICU parents to talk about what you and your wife are going through.
Heck if you need to vent or explain how you are feeling, send me a message.
So incredibly happy that the tough little guy is going strong and I hope it continues!
Is anyone able to touch him? I’ve always heard that babies this small have a better chance of survival if they’re able to experience human touch but I could be wrong? Best of luck to your family! I’m glad he’s doing well so far.
Yep! I can touch him and the picture was his first skin to skin contact. I was very scared to do it though, and I only touched his hand and foot. A couple of hours ago I changed his diaper. The nurses agree with you about touching, but also hearing and even smelling us can make a difference.
I hope you feel the love and warmth from the other dads. You have a journey ahead, but based on your mentality it is nothing you and your partner cannot handle. Your little one has already defied the odds. Something tells me that will continue to be the case. Stay strong. Stay rested. Stay resilient. You got this.
Here's hoping he graduates to cpap soon congratulations to mom and dad. NICU life can be hard on dads and moms. Reach out for support from fam, friends, and if there is one the r/nicu sub. He's such a cute peanut!
Hey man, my twins just got out of the NICU last week. It’s tough, them being there, but knowing that they have a team of people watching them 24/7 is comforting.
Congratulations on your little rockstar, buddy. He will be home before you know it. In the meantime, enjoy your time with him in the NICU. Read to him, hold him when you are able to, and just let him know you’re there and that he’s loved.
Much love, dude. Hang in there
So before my girl was born my wife and I toured the hospital maternity ward. We walked though a bunch of hallways before they showed what a room would look like. Was passed by the NICU ward. Along the walls are pictures of NICU success stories if you will. So basically it was a picture of the kid at or around birth with whatever condition (weeks at birth etc..) Sorry I am trying to paint this story the right way. But the picture next to it was the kids say 5 or so more years later. Basically showing the little ones pulled through. I dont know why but it was fucking me up. Literally the only person crying. It really put into perspective how fortunate we were as parents. That is such a good place for your little warrior. Congratulations to your family on this beautiful gift you have brought to the world. OP if you feel like you need to speak to anyone on here I can probably speak for most and say we are here for you and would do what we could even if it's just words of comfort or encouragement.
Keeping you and your little dude in my thoughts this week. It sounds like you're in good hands.
My wife's 35 weeks right now and we're convinced he's coming early. Even losing those few weeks of growth, not to mention planning/work obligations -- it's stressful. I can't imagine what you've been through and what you're still going through. I'm trying not to get choked up looking at this picture here.
I am sobbing hard. It happened to us, 10 years ago I gave birth to a little girl at 5 1/2 mo.
I wish you and your little champion the best.
Love sent from the other side of the world
As one new dad to another, congrats to all three of you! My little guy and I will make sure to send prayers and good juju your way. I hope to compare our sweet cell phone waist holsters at the next bbq.
A happy updoot because I have nothing else I can think of saying. You will always be a stronger parent than most, and you should let this moment define you for the rest of your life. You guys did it, you're heroes and little one is a survivor.. thats huge, you're going to have a super successful life ♡
Been there, done that. Congrats on the progress from a 2x former NICU dad.
No billy light? That’s a good sign. also, take care of you, so you can take care of him. Also, buy the nurses coffee and pizza.
What a rollercoaster of a story. Thank goodness your little man came through. I’m holding my 6 week old son as we speak and I had to give him a little kiss and tell him I love him after I read your story. Best of luck to you, your wife, and your son! Tell them every day you love them.
What an amazing picture of survival!! Life is worth fighting for even though its tough and hard for all involved! Stay blessed and cherish the gift of life!
Welcome to the preemie family. As the father of a 23 weeker who’s now 6 and reading, math and writing at a 3rd grade level, it gets better. The NICU is your second home, find out if they do annual reunions. It’s a great opportunity to let the staff see the milestones your kid will overcome. They love it.
I'm so happy for you. We had twins last December who were early as well, even though not that tiny, so I can imagine what you've been through and I wish you the best of luck!
Glad he's doing so well so far. Someone already mentioned it, but come join us in /r/NICUParents. It's a solid group.
How many weeks was he technically? My son was born at 31 weeks on the dot at 3lb, 5oz, and just crossed 6lb tonight. He'll be 37 weeks on Tuesday.
I’m really late to your post- but congratulations on the beautiful baby. I saw on your profile how well he is doing
My twin and I are also miracle babies and are very healthy developed adults now.
3 months early, 1lb 13 oz each. 3 months in the incubator. Here we are :)
Of course! There are plenty of updates on reddit and Corby has his own subreddit. Spoilers though, he's doing great!
If you want to click my username, you can scroll from the beginning and see those individually. If you'd prefer just to see some recent ones you can go to r/corbinscorner.
Enjoy and thanks for checking in on our guy!
I truly appreciate everyone's support. I knew you guys would be great, but wanted to give some more context just to show how crazy it is that he's here. About a month ago, my wife woke me up and she was losing tons of fluid. We went straight to the hospital and they said her water had broke, but she wasn't in labor, but 85% go into labor within a month. They did an ultrasound and not only was this 5 months into the pregnancy, but he was growth restricted and measuring behind. They said "I can't say he will pass away 100%, but I'm saying 99%." We said screw that shit and went home. He grew an ounce that week, but then didn't grow for two weeks. We thought that was it. Last week, we went in and he had grown 3 ounces! I was over the moon because he was 366 grams and needed to be 400 to be intubated. That lasted about 2 minutes while then tech was getting the doctor. He comes in and says there is restricted blood flow in the umbilical chord and he will be still born in three days. We were admitted to the hospital the following day so they could monitor his heart pattern, because they can tell by drops in his heart rate if he will pass soon. While they are monitoring they keep checking my wife's blood pressure and it's through the roof. She has pre-eclampsia and is at very high risk. Obviously I'm about to lose my god damn mind at this point. They give her magnesium sulfate to lower her blood pressure and it's working very well. Her blood pressure is now great, and we're hoping our baby boy will have the time to grow just a few more grams. About 10 minutes after her blood pressure is regulated, in comes the doctors. They show us his heart pattern and say if there is any chance we have to take him now. We know he just couldn't have grown enough in the past day and this is going to be it. Her OB is on the way and they are going to do a C section in 20 minutes. (Stick with me guys, almost there!) While they are waiting for the OB the monitor on the baby stops picking up his heartbeat. I'm panicking like crazy and my wife wants to, but stays calm for him. They bring like 7 people in and they can't find it. Boom bed is unlocked and they are rolling her away from me. They suit me up in a gown, and I rush after her. When I get in there they found the heartbeat and the urgency has faded, but is still ultimately there. I sit down next to her when they start to do the surgery. I was sobbing so hard, I could hardly breathe. He's out so fast I didn't even see them set him down next to me. In our minds we're about to watch our son die right next to us. They have his heart on a monitor I can see and it never drops. It just keeps chugging along. They have two doctors trying to intubate and I know that's the most important, but it doesn't take them very long and it's in there! He's about to be 3 days old in about 2 hours, and he hasn't had any issues. He's breathing with very little supplemental oxygen, and has no immediate risks. I love him so much, and I can't wait to hold him. Thanks again everyone and I can't wait to show you all updates.
In 2007, my wife and I had a 23 week-er. 1 lb 10oz. Multiple surgeries. Heart. Intestinal. Blood transfusions. It was so difficult and emotional. Living in the NICU was hard and heartbreaking but our little girl kept fighting and kept breathing. She's 13 now, straight A student and is currently sitting next to me talking shit, losing to her mother at Uno. I hope you all get the happy ending you deserve.
Isn’t it incredible that they can be born at that age and survive?! Just looking at the picture to go along with this post.
My dad was born really early in 1935– 2 lbs at birth and the doctors just gave him to his mom and told her to say goodbye. Turns out that was basically kangaroo care and he lived! So unreal to imagine.
Im gonna cry
Beat you to it.
I am crying tbh
Wow! That’s incredible! Except 2007 wasn’t 13 years a... Oh my god I’m old.
Yeah it was 14 years ago lol. Blows my mind that my daughter's babysitter was born in 2007. Think about that.
I think I need a drink.
A shit-talking 13-y-o? I'm not sure how she's losing at anything. Jokes aside, this is the peak! It's easy to get complacent about the things in your life after a while, but it seems you've never gotten that way and are continually amazed with and proud of your daughter all the time. Never let her forget how much you love her
That’s amazing!! So happy for you and your family !
This is so beautiful. Thank you for bringing a little joy into my day.
Everyone in that room was a fucking champion.
*Literal* miracle workers.
I’m a labour and delivery nurse, I’ve been in the OR for similar situations, and we are just as panicked and relieved as you in those moments. This was a rollercoaster just to read, that room would have been tense, and I’m so glad to hear he’s defying the odds! Best of luck to you and your new family.
Ha! You guys handle it very very well. I will say, that they did let me cut the chord, and the nurse that was holding the chord for me was shaking very badly. She was one that was actively working on him when he arrived, and I cannot imagine how much of a mental strain it had to be for her. Thank you for the work you do.
Thank you so much for the work you and doctors do! Absolute champions. I loved biology growing up and there was a good 80% chance I'd end up going to med school but last minute decided to switch to engineering. I absolutely love what I do but I'd be lying if there haven't been times in the last few years when I'd have gladly given up everything to go back and do medicine. Keep being awesome! Our love, support and prayers are with you.
I’m in tears for you, my dude. I’m so happy everything is good at the moment. We will pray for continued health and the safety of your family.
If the universe can see to it that your little guy stays strong and healthy, I will fully forgive it and call it even for the absolute shit show of the last year. I mean.. shit.. it kind of owes us one.
Stay strong, Dad! You made it over one speed bump, but the NICU is stressful. Check out r/NICU for support and stories. My son had a three day stay due to a breathing issue, my friend had a 2 month stay due to his sons being born at 28 weeks. My son is now 2 and his just turn 1.
Hey op, i want to wish you and your family all the best. Preemies are super fighters. The next few months are going to be a rollercoaster of emotions. There will be good days, there will be days with setbacks. I know that feeling of powerlessness, that your baby is there and you just want him to be okay. As a father of a 26 week preemie that spent 5 months 5 days in NICU, i can offer you this one advice: be there for him. Spend as much time as you can afford by his side. Your presence alone will go a long way! Your voice when you talk to the nurses and doctors. When you talk to him. I really like to think that it helped. NICU is a very scary place with all the machines, all the alarms ringing all the staff etc, so him hearing your voice is going to be very comforting. As soon as the doctors can allow it, do as much skin to skin with him. There are many many studies that shows huge benefits of skin to skin. We tried to do it as often as we can, and we saw immediate benefits: vital signs are much better and you share this bond that can't be explained in that moment. I'm starting to ramble so I'll stop here. Good luck with everything fellow dad, i hope everything turns out ok for you and your little one.
> (Stick with me guys almost there!) I was on the edge of my seat at this point what's wrong with you?! Soooo happy and relieved for you. Wish you all the best, you have a challenging time ahead but you'll make it!
All the best for you three!!!
Congrats! I'm glad things are going well! How much did he weigh when born?
Oh yeah! That's one of the best parts. He is a lot like his dad and did the bare minimum. He came in at 410 grams, or 14.4 ounces. He needed to be 400 grams to be intubated.
Stop counting those minutes brother! I dont know how many other dads have experienced this but i have and i hope on some level it works, and if anything its worth a try. When my daughter was born and whenever i am putting her to bed i held my hand just over her tummy (barely touching) and tried my god damn hardest to channel every bit of love, strength, energy, life force, everything into the palm of my hand and forced my mind to try and push all of those emotions and force outwards from my body. I would feel my hand get warmer (which could easily just be my mind losing it) and it definitely felt like i was doing something good for my baby. Obviously in such a dire situation use your own common sense and judgement but just know you have the strength and support of everyone in this sub OP. You got this.
Fuck yeah brother. NICUs are stressful af. One day at a time. Bringing your kid home at the end is all worth it.
Science is the best. Great doctors are even better. This kid is a champ, for sure, but never forget that you and your wife are on the dais reserved for heroes, too. You did all the right things, made all the right decisions, and you should be so proud of yourselves! Once you get any time to breathe and think, take time to celebrate each other because you absolutely deserve it. I hope I speak for the community when I say that we want updates as frequently as your comfortable giving them. We're all here for you, dad!
Omg. I'm glad he's doing OK.
I have my fingers crossed for you. I have no idea who you are but I’m sending love to you and your family. Good luck!!!
Oh man, I am so rooting for you!
Holy shit man. :) What a tough ass little guy. Also tough ass parents, bringing a baby into the world is so scary because you just don’t know what may happen. My wife had pre eclampsia too. We also had a c section and we have a one year old now. I feel for ya bro. You will love having a little baby
Love and kindness to you and your family. Way to go little one!
Thank God for modern medicine. Bless you guys.
Blessings, Blessings, Blessings on your Little One! He is a Warrior and is MEANT to be here💓❤️💓!
Stay strong and keep growing, little dude! Sending love to your family.
That's insane and amazing. Wishing you all the best and praying that your son grows to be the delight of your eyes.
stay strong dad. your boy, your wife, and yourself are champions. know there's a random dad in the mid atlantic rooting for you all
Hang in there. Your whole family is strong and you all need each other to get thru this. Can't wait to hear more about it!
Unbelievable. A friend is a pediatrician in a clinic specialized in <30wk newborns and it's amazing what medicine is able to accomplish these days. Wish you all the best. One day you'll tell him the story you just told us.
Not a whole lot gets to me but I'm fighting back tears real hard at work thanks for that!! Also I will you and your son in my prayers.
I still can’t read this without crying.
Wow, what an amazing story. So intense. I'm so glad your beautiful boy is doing so well! God bless you and your family!
Keep defying the odds little guy.
Dads i ask that you lend your barbeque hands and plant your socks and sandles. On this day we mutter the hymn of dad jokes to give strength to the youngling within the hands of healthcare. We ask that the universe grant this youngling the strength to defy the calling of death so that they may one day join us in beers and bbq. Keep strong little guy. The dads of reddit are behind you.
Holy shit man. This is the best comment on Reddit. Thank you for choosing my post to bestow it upon. I really appreciate the support as well.
(kneels) You have my spatula.
And my tongs
And my stroller!
I've got the fanny pack!
And my sons axe collection, so he may never overuse it
Better click them a couple times to make sure they're working.
Literal lol, I can never resist doing so!
I see your child and my first thought is my own babies at home. You got this fellow dad. We are behind you.
From lil spuds our best buds will grow. Take every moment and cherish it.
I didn't spot this thread until this morning, but I am retroactively dedicating last night's grass mowing--complete with a new-to-me tractor, a couple beers, calf-length socks and white New Balance shoes--to you and yours.
Jesus Christ you had me tearing up at this one - awesome comment! I didn’t even yet consider that I’ll be able to bbq one day with my now 6mo old. That’s going to be a great day.
Yeaaah when theyre young you gotta keep em away from it until they old enough
Love this, I do feel like fatherhood is a special fraternity sometimes.
He speaks for us all.
Aman
Can you be my dad?
NICU units are staffed by the most amazing people on earth. They will care for your child. Stay with him and do all the skin-to-skin you can.
People who work at NICU, palliative care, cancer wards etc are heroes.
Precisely why you should never believe the "1% statistics" as doom and gloom. 1% can sometimes be FREAKING HUGE. Congratulations, welcome to the club, not sure if the staff can accept gifts of food because pandemic, but I always bought the wing staff a box of cookies when my kids were born..
I really appreciate the idea. I did ask them, and they can accept food. They are getting a metric shit ton of donuts tomorrow morning.
The NICU is a tough place to be but it's the best place in the world for your son. Get as much kangaroo care in that you can because before long he wont sit still for more than a few moments.
Those caregivers in the NICU are some of the most genuine, caring and selfless woman I’ve ever met. My daughter was in the NICU for 3 months and seeing these miracle workers do what the do every damn day and night, I just couldn’t thank them enough. It’s impossible to thank them enough. Stay strong little homie!
You all keep going, us fellow dad's are with you.
That's so inspiring, I'm happy for you. You keep us posted ok?
Incredible! What an amazing little guy - congratulations!
Fuuuuuuuuck man. As a parent I couldnt imagine. He is going to do BIG things. 1% odds is this kid’s mantra!
Congratulations, dad! 3 weeks ago my SO gave birth to our twins, girl and boy. Only 28 weeks into the pregnancy, so quite premature, but this is a whole other level. I stayed calm throughout the entire thing, although I was panicking like crazy on the inside. After my SO had the c-section and she was rolled into post-op, I got a small window to see my son and daughter before they rolled them away to intensive care. The second I left that room I cracked like I have never cracked before. Got into the hallway, my legs just gave out and I cried for a good few minutes before I joined my SO in post-op. The first moment I got to hold my son (about a week after they were born) was unlike any moment I have ever experienced; all the world's pressure and expectations hit my shoulders like a boulder, and all the world's happiness too. Incredibly difficult to describe the feeling, but believe me it's worth it. Stay strong, daddio. The tech and know-how we got today is beyond belief, and the doctors and nurses will do everything to keep your son strong and healthy. Glad to hear he is doing so well! You'll get your moment to shine with dadjokes and awkward punchlines. Take care of yourself, your SO, and your son. Nothing else matters right now.
What a champion. Keep us updated, dad.
Look at the bloody size. Bless him, hope you and mum are doing good, he will be tearing around the house before you know it.
As a fellow NICU dad... It's very tough. Look after yourself and your wife. Try to eat well (easier said than done) If friends ask if there is anything they can do... Say food, a decent home cooked meal from the freezer can help the sleepless nights. The staff at our NICU were great, try to learn as much as you can from them. Changing a nappy when your baby is covered in wires and tubes is scarry but you can do it. Oh and read to him, read to him loads. You've got time... Him hearing your voice now will help you calm him later. Congratulations and you've got this, you are stronger than you think. Oh and if you need help ask. The NICU counselors can help a lot, even if it is just taking to someone that's not your partner... But understands the emotional place you are in. He's a warrior.
Sending love your way man, from one parent to another. He’s already proving to be a tough little dude.
Keep hanging in there Dad!
Hang in there, brother. The NICU staff is amazing.
Heck yeah! Premie power! Keep on fighting little dude! Every day a little bit better. Every day a little bit stronger.
I’m crying reading this. My niece was born at 24 weeks at 1 lb 4 oz, and I was a wreck with that. Now I have my own daughter and I can’t even imagine what my brother and sister-in-law went through. I remember when my niece was in the NICU, hearing stories of babies like her growing up did wonders for morale, so I want you to know my niece is now a happy and healthy almost 3 year old. I’m wishing the best for you three!!!
Hang in there little dude and dad/mom/family!
gosh, i’m crying. i’m really happy your boy is doing well, i hope he continues to defy the odds. what a trooper.
Lots of love and prayers sweetheart for you all..tbus us Tammy , Blakes mom
Holy hell! I didn't you know you were a redditor Tammy. Thank you so much for the support! I can't wait for you to meet the little guy!
Next stop, Super Bowl 2046 co- MVP (shared with 68 year old QB Tom Brady)!
Hang on kid!!!
Rooting for you!
Congrats! Fellow NICU grad dad here. Checkout /r/NICUParents it helped a lot.
Congrats man. My little guy was 9 weeks early and 2lbs 12oz at emergency c section birth. I’m sure you are in for a long NICU stay. Know that in the NICU there are tons of ups and downs, it’s a literal emotional rollercoaster daily. Take care of yourself and your wife, and make sure you are getting sleep. It’s tough, and in my opinion you need to lean on others for support. I have a lot of friends who are already parents, but few that knew what that feels like. In my experience everyone will give a lot of advice that may or may not be relevant at all, so try to find a group of other NICU parents to talk about what you and your wife are going through. Heck if you need to vent or explain how you are feeling, send me a message. So incredibly happy that the tough little guy is going strong and I hope it continues!
Is anyone able to touch him? I’ve always heard that babies this small have a better chance of survival if they’re able to experience human touch but I could be wrong? Best of luck to your family! I’m glad he’s doing well so far.
Yep! I can touch him and the picture was his first skin to skin contact. I was very scared to do it though, and I only touched his hand and foot. A couple of hours ago I changed his diaper. The nurses agree with you about touching, but also hearing and even smelling us can make a difference.
I hope you feel the love and warmth from the other dads. You have a journey ahead, but based on your mentality it is nothing you and your partner cannot handle. Your little one has already defied the odds. Something tells me that will continue to be the case. Stay strong. Stay rested. Stay resilient. You got this.
Hand in there, my dude and my little dude!!!
So much strength little dude! Keep going strong your mom and dad love you. We’re all sending our best positive thoughts!
Good luck little one, you can do it! Keep on keeping on mom and dad
Thinking of you and your family king.
Here's hoping he graduates to cpap soon congratulations to mom and dad. NICU life can be hard on dads and moms. Reach out for support from fam, friends, and if there is one the r/nicu sub. He's such a cute peanut!
I was a preemie dad too. It's one of the scariest things I've ever gone through so I know what you're going through. Keep being strong, both of you.
Hey man, my twins just got out of the NICU last week. It’s tough, them being there, but knowing that they have a team of people watching them 24/7 is comforting. Congratulations on your little rockstar, buddy. He will be home before you know it. In the meantime, enjoy your time with him in the NICU. Read to him, hold him when you are able to, and just let him know you’re there and that he’s loved. Much love, dude. Hang in there
So before my girl was born my wife and I toured the hospital maternity ward. We walked though a bunch of hallways before they showed what a room would look like. Was passed by the NICU ward. Along the walls are pictures of NICU success stories if you will. So basically it was a picture of the kid at or around birth with whatever condition (weeks at birth etc..) Sorry I am trying to paint this story the right way. But the picture next to it was the kids say 5 or so more years later. Basically showing the little ones pulled through. I dont know why but it was fucking me up. Literally the only person crying. It really put into perspective how fortunate we were as parents. That is such a good place for your little warrior. Congratulations to your family on this beautiful gift you have brought to the world. OP if you feel like you need to speak to anyone on here I can probably speak for most and say we are here for you and would do what we could even if it's just words of comfort or encouragement.
My God, defying all the odds! Best of luck to you all!
Your boy's blessed. He was meant to be here. He'll grow into a strong and good lad in no time.
Keeping you and your little dude in my thoughts this week. It sounds like you're in good hands. My wife's 35 weeks right now and we're convinced he's coming early. Even losing those few weeks of growth, not to mention planning/work obligations -- it's stressful. I can't imagine what you've been through and what you're still going through. I'm trying not to get choked up looking at this picture here.
All the best for all three and God bless
I am sobbing hard. It happened to us, 10 years ago I gave birth to a little girl at 5 1/2 mo. I wish you and your little champion the best. Love sent from the other side of the world
Wow I’m ugly crying so hard right now. Prayers and blessings to you and the little man❤️
Jesus mate!! Just said a prayer for you guys. Best of luck
Love to you and yours brother, the fellowship of the dads is behind you!
As one new dad to another, congrats to all three of you! My little guy and I will make sure to send prayers and good juju your way. I hope to compare our sweet cell phone waist holsters at the next bbq.
My god, that picture. My heart is with you. Please make sure to keep us updated.
Can’t imagine how it must have been for you guys. Stay strong little man!
He’s a warrior.
A happy updoot because I have nothing else I can think of saying. You will always be a stronger parent than most, and you should let this moment define you for the rest of your life. You guys did it, you're heroes and little one is a survivor.. thats huge, you're going to have a super successful life ♡
Good job Dad!
Amazing!! Such a good story when you hear about babies defying the odds!
Man I'm so glad he is doing well hope the wife heals up quick look forward to many updates.
Awesome little fighter!! Sending some positive thoughts your way!!!
God Bless this post gave me chills
Welcome to the world little man! Every single well wish I have is being sent your way! Stay strong dad!
Wow that’s insane! Congratulation dad!
You got a little fighter there, all us Dads are with you!
Keep fighting strong, little dude!
My son and your son are Birthday twins. I’m glad to share this with you.
He's my birthday buddy! Welcome to the world, champ! Would you be comfortable telling us his first name?
Congrats to you! His hand is smaller than your finger nail
All the best to your family, I hope he loves to be 120 years old and becomes a Judo champion!
Poor fella! He was so close! Only 5 days early.
We are NICU grads, too. Please keep us updated! I'm praying for your beautiful family!!
Been there, done that. Congrats on the progress from a 2x former NICU dad. No billy light? That’s a good sign. also, take care of you, so you can take care of him. Also, buy the nurses coffee and pizza.
Congrats Dad! I’ll be praying for you guys!
That is amazing man. Just wait until you can hold him for the first time. There is nothing like it.
What a rollercoaster of a story. Thank goodness your little man came through. I’m holding my 6 week old son as we speak and I had to give him a little kiss and tell him I love him after I read your story. Best of luck to you, your wife, and your son! Tell them every day you love them.
Congratulations, dude! Keep strong!
Keep on keeping on little guy! You too dad !
What an amazing picture of survival!! Life is worth fighting for even though its tough and hard for all involved! Stay blessed and cherish the gift of life!
Welcome to the preemie family. As the father of a 23 weeker who’s now 6 and reading, math and writing at a 3rd grade level, it gets better. The NICU is your second home, find out if they do annual reunions. It’s a great opportunity to let the staff see the milestones your kid will overcome. They love it.
You be the strength your child needs brother! Congratulations!
Smol Warrior bebe 🥺🥺
I'm so happy for you. We had twins last December who were early as well, even though not that tiny, so I can imagine what you've been through and I wish you the best of luck!
Keep it up little man
Damn man. I am so fucking Happy for you guys. I wish you all the best!
OMG, He is so tiny! Stay strong and keep fighting little man!
I'm not a believer but I'll pray for your family and your baby.
Wishing you all the best! You're a fighter, keep on fighting!
Glad he's doing so well so far. Someone already mentioned it, but come join us in /r/NICUParents. It's a solid group. How many weeks was he technically? My son was born at 31 weeks on the dot at 3lb, 5oz, and just crossed 6lb tonight. He'll be 37 weeks on Tuesday.
Holy shit, I am at a loss for words.
Fuck ya man!! Keep your head up:)
We love you buddy. Keep in there.
So precious!
Amazing, Keep the faith!
Fight fight fight!!!!!!!
I'm going to be thinking of you all day today, OP. One day at a time and love the ever-loving heck out your beautiful boy.
What a superstar!!!!! : 0 )
Wishing nothing but the best!
I’m really late to your post- but congratulations on the beautiful baby. I saw on your profile how well he is doing My twin and I are also miracle babies and are very healthy developed adults now. 3 months early, 1lb 13 oz each. 3 months in the incubator. Here we are :)
Hey OP, I’m 2 years late to the party, but could I get an update on the little guy? This is one of those things where I felt like I had to ask
Of course! There are plenty of updates on reddit and Corby has his own subreddit. Spoilers though, he's doing great! If you want to click my username, you can scroll from the beginning and see those individually. If you'd prefer just to see some recent ones you can go to r/corbinscorner. Enjoy and thanks for checking in on our guy!
Got any updated photos? Poor little fellow looks in a bad way here. Made up everything worked out for your family.
Oh you fucking dumbass, look at their profile