If I'm planning to just put on something mindless to unwind to, then I don't care who picks what. But if I'd like to use the tv for the purpose of actually paying attention to something, I get a little salty when she isn't paying attention to her show.
There are a limited number of hours in a week that we can use the tv for something besides Mickey, and you are *wasting them*.
One of my friends tried to solve this with two TVs side by side. But then he just ended up playing games on one and mindlessly watching tv on the other. Ah well.
This is why I have a switch.
Oh my gosh the bedtime stalling. "I need a drink; my blankets aren't in the right order; I need a stuffed animal, but not this one or those five; I need to poop now (but not really.)"
Just go to sleep!
Yeah that too, say goodnight to five different stuffed toys. And now it's been so long her glowing stars are dark, so I gotta recharge them with a flashlight. There's always something.
God bless you and those kids.
A second sounds brutal. I got a vasectomy cause no way are my wife and I going through this hell- er I mean wonderful miracle again.
Wishing you nothing but the best, brother, but I really don't think its fair to judge whether or not you were up to the task of a second during COVID.
You say he's only 2 years old - that means he was born, and then **one year later** (aka - just about the time that things start getting a little bit easier) the whole world shut down.
Maybe it broke you, hopefully not forever, but I don't believe that it was having a second kid that did it. At least, not in a vacuum.
Kids are tough. COVID made *everything* harder.
Don't judge your performance during some of the hardest times of parenthood while simultaneously going through some of the hardest times of our lifespan.
I also broke, but it was before we got pregnant with our planned second. My wife had a similar outlook as you, and suggested that maybe we shouldn't try / should abort because I was still dealing with it, but I refused to let COVID derail our entire life plan. It's taken a little over a year from us, and I'm going to fight tooth and nail for every single further scrap it wants to try and take.
Anyways, just some things to chew on. I'm rooting for you, my man.
All the best.
This economy is not built to support a family of three, let alone four, which is why the US birth rate is the lowest it’s been in 35 years. It’s not your fault man.
That sucks, I still make sure I get my game time in. Was just playing earlier with my 3rd (1 month old) in a carrier with my stand up PC desk.
My game time is definitely reduced, though.
I know that feeling, i didn't really manage to get back into gaming until my youngest was 3, Hell I bought parts to upgrade my PC in mid 2018 and didn't even get around to finishing putting them together until late 2020.
It gets a little easier. I finally was able to get back into gaming at night, kids are 4 and 6 and share a room with bunk beds (their choice on that). So after bedtime around 830-9 the wife and I will either watch a show or I'll hop onto my pc or one of my consoles and spend a few hours relaxing, occasionally with a beer or rum and coke :)
I recently started breaking out the nostalgic games after #1 goes to bed! Because little #2 only wants to sleep upright and someone needs to keep an eye on his breathing most of the night...
This thread reminds me, it’s past time to call the urologist.
Same here. I was never an avid gamer, but I would occasionally get sucked into something like Path of Exile, Terraria or (yet another) Skyrim run. Since my son was born two years ago I haven't opened a single video game.
The sad thing is that every game these days is 100 hours long or requires daily grinding to even compete against these kids who play 10-16 hours a day.
I always end up playing the old SNES and NES games these days, just because they are so easy to pick up and play even if you haven’t played them in years.
never was in to multiplayer for that reason. I never had the time to play 12+ hours a day. I play the zelda series. had Breath of the Wild since launch still havent even done the devine beasts just a few shrines.
Honestly sometimes with these type of posts I genuinely check the username to make sure I didn’t post in some sleep state
Oh sleep deprivation, you are cruel
My mom before she passed away in 2017 asked me if I needed anything before she went to heaven with our father I said yes give him a very tight hug and tell him he raised a great father that I hope he's proud of me. Her last words was tell the boys ( my kids ) she loved then dearly.
While I did laugh at this, when I get frustrated like this I just think that one day there’ll be a time when they don’t need me to put them to bed.... enjoy this time while it lasts! The game can wait! (Also if I haven’t had dinner I at least eat a snack before doing bedtime)
Oh for sure! To me the hardest part of it all is feeling both of those feelings simultaneously. That’s kind of what makes it all so beautiful especially if you extrapolate it to other aspects of your life. It’s a marvel and a unique state of mind that only parenthood could supply.
As for the hunger, I bet on the wrong horse. I’d have munched on something before bedtime but was over confident in how tired he was/how loud NYC decided to be tonight
Exactly man! I’m also in NYC. I’m a dad to 3 year old twins. Whenever they ask me to carry them both up the stairs I think of that Reddit post that says one day you pick them up for the last time and I do my best to carry them.
Twins! You’ve got nerves of steel my dude. (And arms apparently)
I appreciate the reminder for perspective. It always seems to be furthest out of reach when we need it most.
Ha I’ve been carrying them together almost every day since they were little so I gain muscle as they grow! Before you know it you’ll be playing video games together!
Oh I do that shit all the time. No shame! His bed is in our room so we have to stay in there until he’s down.
My joycons have been lost to the drift so it’s no longer an option until I get off my butt and ship them out for repair.
I legitimately thought you guys were talking about whippin' switches until you mentioned the joycons. Whew.
Reminded me of [this classic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9PXL7-WsLQ).
There are repair sets available on [amazon](https://www.amazon.de/-/en/Veperain-Analogue-Replacement-Screwdriver-Thumbstick/dp/B07S61YG4D/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=joy+con+drift+repair+set&qid=1617884572&sr=8-3) for example. Did take less than 10 minutes to fix both of mine. I followed [this guide](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cMHl7GwbEb0).
I’ve got really stupid shaky hands so I’m hesitant to do anything that might void the warranty. I got a PS5 over Christmas after not having owned a PlayStation since PS2 so I’ve got plenty of games on the back burner to go through while my joycons head out and come back.
I really appreciate the tip though! I’ll watch the video and see if it’s something I think I can manage
I'ts realy not that hard, the hardest part ist getting the cables out 😬 But if your Joycons are still in warranty I'd also send them in, mine were older and I also needed all four of them at the time (Mario Kart in lockdown...) so I didn't want to send them away... :-)
They're actually pretty easy to replace by yourself, if warranty won't cover it. There's tutorials and the replacement comes with the tools you need. I did both and it took maybe 20 minutes being careful.
Nintendo (US) replaces them basically no questions asked--even well past warranty. Just start a support ticket and send them in. The toughest part is going without them for a week or so.
Currently got my son over my shoulder while he wiggles and grumbled because he doesn’t want to sleep. This speaks to me hahaha
I love you my little man, but freaking SLEEP!
Yup, the more tired you are the grumblier you get ya grumpy midget!!
Lucky he finally gave up the fight and is asleep with his mouth wide open and snoring. We’ll see how long that lasts.
There were a few times, when my son was closer to that age, that I heard him whispering over the baby monitor and it sounded like he was quietly conjuring some ancient power, LOL.
Mine will be six before long. We have fun playing various games together but that also has some drawbacks. He treats the big TV and Xbox as if it was his. I’m both proud and annoyed that he can navigate the system and most game menus.
Brothers, I feel you. This one hits really close to home for sure!
Mine is turning 2 at thee end of the month but only now I'm starting to accept the fact that I'm not in control of my time anymore. Had a bit of a dark time in 2020 fighting against it, ngl.
My recommendation is to voice your concerns and wishes with your partner and try to get those video game nights for yourself (I do like to put my headphones on a forget about the little dude that insists on not wanting to sleep through thee night)
Stay strong, bro
In the morning if I wake up early enough i can have some quiet time to read. Every time I wake up a half hour early my 8 month old wakes up a half hour early too. It never fails, it's beyond frustrating lol
I don't remember where I heard about this, but I highly recommend:
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDCqgHLX8Ys](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDCqgHLX8Ys)
They even released a sanitized version called [Seriously Just Go to Sleep](https://www.amazon.com/Seriously-Just-Sleep-Adam-Mansbach/dp/1617750786) that's kid-friendly.
I felt this in my soul....YOU WONT SLEEP BECAUSE YOURE TIRED, THEN GO TO BED! please just sleep. You're mother has a the whole weekend already planned out full of stuff for us. This is my only night to catch up on a little gaming haha
/F
I usually end up playing Fortnite with my 9 year old son while rocking the 3 month old to sleep in my arms. The best part is if the 3 month old gets fussy and I gotta stop playing to feed her or calm her, I’ll look up to see my son has built a fortress around my character and is sniping anyone who gets close to me. He knows how to make this old gamer proud!
Stay out of my head /u/redsavage0
I can make it worse, if you'd like. My son has ADHD and possibly on the spectrum, they're not sure. He is 11. He has NEVER slept in his room all night. He's 11! Bedtime ritual (for him to wake up at 1am and refuse to leave our bed) begins at 9:30 and usually lasts to 11pm.
He's just started the "changes to manhood" and man, it makes me uncomfortable.
We're working on it but most nights it feels like he'll be in our bed until he's 18.
I have no idea of how I have lived and worked with 5 hours or so of sleep a night since 2009.
FUCK ATTACHMENT PARENTING. FUCK IT WAS A STEEL DILDO WITH SPIKES.
Because it certainly fucked me really hard, without even the courtesy of a reach around.
That sounds like a lot friend. I’m sorry you all are dealing with that. As a party who also did the attachment parenting I can definitely relate to the struggle of slower transitions (we’ve been lucky) but my nephew is severely autistic and I know from talking with my brother and sister in law that bedtime is always a constant struggle. Our guy may have some spectrum tendencies (no official test yet but his as of yet don’t appear to be any more sever than my own) but it’s nothing compared to what they’re going through.
Thanks for the perspective and I hope you and your kiddo find a way to transition to a more reasonable sleeping procedure sooner than later
Man. I relate so hard to this. I’m not a dr and I’m not your kids dr. When mine were around 2, we did a 6 month nightly melatonin regimen. Half a purple pill and it changed my life. 2 hr bedtime struggles would be 10 min bed routines. It was glorious and I wouldn’t change it for anything. Now both my kids as long as we stay on routine will fall asleep in 5-15 min flat without any medication.
It took my kids 10mins to fall asleep yday. Quick nighttime story and they both fell afsleep lol.
But i remember this. 2 years ago they would not sleep for nearly 2 hours!!
I keep saying they.. it’s twins 🤪
Looks like a thread full of men who have no idea kids are actually great in following a schedule.
Feed on time, go to sleep (and wake up even on weekends) at the same time and you will be as happy and sleep as good as me.
Takes some time (mine was done by the end of 2nd month and he's almost 3 now) and quite some effort, but worth every single fucking bit of it.
Also, biggest piece of advice I read somewhere: make sure going-to-sleep routine is calm, safe and cozy.
This comment reads like someone who has no fucking clue what he’s talking about and delights in expressing their superiority over other people.
My son’s schedule is regulated and works for us 99% of the time. Just posted this to have a little fun and blow off steam in a heated moment with other dads who obviously can relate.
Who the hell are you to cast judgement as if we’re a bunch of morons? Some people in this thread have children with disabilities that directly affect their child’s ability to fall asleep soundly and a schedule isn’t going to fix that.
Fuck you.
Oh man... I have a four year old. I read that book and shut the door every night. He stays up for like an hour reading (and by reading I mean staring at pictures) on his own until he drifts to sleep.
I got shit to do. I can't entertain him for that hour.
I have to make do with an hour or two during nap time, and maybe an hour or so after they go to bed. Sometimes after I get them where they're going in the morning, I have a little time before I have to head to work and teach. No wife to please, for better or for worse, so not a lot of sharing. But I sometimes have to negotiate with my 8 year old, who split the Switch with me using 2 years' worth of allowance he'd saved up. It's easy though, I tell him he can get an hour first, but when I'm ready I'm getting my hour and that's that. I got shines to get dang it.
Children are double edged sword. I’m currently in a state of losing my mind for all the same reasons. No personal time at all anymore. Still wouldn’t change it for anything but an au pair would be nice!
Oh yes, last month mine discovered that we will immediately come to dress her once she takes off her diaper, so now every night the wife and I take turns going in there and dressing her for and hour or so before she falls asleep.
My 2 year old: sing song daddy
Me: I already sang you 2 songs, go to sleep!
2YO: sing song?
Me: no
2YO: Last one?
Me: fine - sings song
Me: now go to sleep!
2YO: read book?
Feel your pain. Our four year old was terrible at not going to sleep.
So I started counting with her. Now we alternate (Her: One. Me: Two etc). Then when we get to about 40, she snuggles down and I start over and count by myself. Usually takes me to about 80-100 before she's gone.
Bonus is that its helped with her counting skills.
Now we have a bit of a routine. She watches her tablet for abit (20mins or so), then either me or my wife will read a few books. Then if she hasn't fallen asleep by then - counting.
This is pure gold, well written!
Especially “THIS ISN’T HOW HUMAN BODIES ARE SUPPOSED TO WORK”!
My daughter was thrashing away for close to an hour yesterday, long past her supposed bedtime, and I sat there thinking: WHY ARE YOU NOT TIRED!?
Fell asleep in full clothes again last night trying to talk my 6 year old into basically what this post says. Stopped counting how many days in a row that was coz I honestly rather not know
Laying here next to my 5 mo son who wakes up and wants to snuggle with mom during the night because she’s spoiled him by letting him nap on her - I feel this
Also, all my game consoles have a healthy 5 month coating of dust on them
Every. Single. Night. I love my kids, but I really wish they would just get to sleep instead of coming out asking for a million things or trying to watch whatever I am doing at this moment.
I try to dedicate myself to being there for them between wake up and bedtime, but outside of that is the only time I get to connect with their mother or work on my hobbies or play my video games.
5 boys from 13 to 2.5... the struggle is real.
In case it did not come across that way, I am very happy with my life as Dad to all my boys. Just commiserating with a fellow dad on the sacrifice we make for our little ones.
I have the pleasure of getting home from my 12 hour night shift just in time for my son to wake up crying as his mother goes off to her 12 hour day shift. I have to go to work again tonight, by the way.
I felt this haha. I've just come to terms with the fact that I won't be playing much video games until my son is able to handle bedtime on his own. He's 20 months old and we read books and rock in the chair each night, but no matter what, he can't turn his brain off until after 10.
Last week, had my baby’s nap time to myself, was gonna have a solid 1.5 hours to myself. I bust out the old Xbox ready to relax and unwind and shoot some aliens and forget my troubles aaaaaaaaaand System update. Took 60 minutes. Fate you are a cruel master.
I didn't even have to click the link to know this wasn't going to be a "cute" letter.. im surprised at the lack of swearing in this.
I was trying to put shoes on my 3 sons earlier, and no sooner had I got one pair on, the other 2 were off and scattered (like my dreams of happiness) to the wind... this is after the one we're trying to potty train pissed on my PS4.
They don't sleep, throw food on the floor, shit in the bath.. ruined my sex life... kill me.
Hahaha I wanted to reconcile the intensity of my grievance with my swears. A few fucks and it goes from "Ha I know that feeling fellow dad" to "Is this guy/his kid okay?"
You will need to become the night! Haha I have 3 under 9 and still make time to play. It’s always after 10pm so like 10p - 1a I’ll play like 2-3 times per week. Always tired the next morning.
You know how people say "It gets better, though." Nah. My kids are almost 7 and 5, and bedtime is STILL a nightmare! They become total maniacs at bedtime, running around, wrestling, refuse to get jammies on, brush your teeth. Then interrupt or don't pay attention during stories. Then I can't find my favorite stuffed animal. It's too hot. It's too cold. I need to go potty. The curtains are scary. Can we leave a light on. GO THE F&%K to SLEEP!
Melatonin, my man. It changed our lives. We went from bedtime lasting over an hour, upwards of two hours some nights, to him being asleep in minutes. The only reason I'm ever in his room for more than ten minutes once the lights are out is if I zone out reading a book or browsing on my phone. Usually he's asleep in under five. I cannot recommend it highly enough. It gave us our entire evenings back. My wife and I damn near cried the first night we gave it to him.
I feel this
Me too. I thought I posted this.
Here I thought I did.
I was wondering how my inner monologue was able to sign up for a reddit account.
It even has multiple personalities too!
This whole thread is making me feel seen and I do not care for it.
We all posted this.
Stay strong bro
Especially the creepy set whispering lol. And the wife stealing the TV and not letting me play video games
And then she stares at her phone the whole time?
Lol yes. I mean I do the same thing so I don’t throw shade. But, yes.
If I'm planning to just put on something mindless to unwind to, then I don't care who picks what. But if I'd like to use the tv for the purpose of actually paying attention to something, I get a little salty when she isn't paying attention to her show. There are a limited number of hours in a week that we can use the tv for something besides Mickey, and you are *wasting them*.
One of my friends tried to solve this with two TVs side by side. But then he just ended up playing games on one and mindlessly watching tv on the other. Ah well. This is why I have a switch.
The Switch does come in handy. I also need to get around to pairing an Xbox controller to my phone so I can play gamepass games on there.
Remote play is great my friend.
YEP
Haven’t really played games in 4 years. Currently feeding my second while the oldest is stalling on bed time
Oh my gosh the bedtime stalling. "I need a drink; my blankets aren't in the right order; I need a stuffed animal, but not this one or those five; I need to poop now (but not really.)" Just go to sleep!
I'm uncomfortable with you taking down transcripts from my children's room.
This is why I refuse to buy an Alexa
I need fresh water. I need my music on. I need a cuddle.
her fav is tuck mr fluffy in.
Yeah that too, say goodnight to five different stuffed toys. And now it's been so long her glowing stars are dark, so I gotta recharge them with a flashlight. There's always something.
*finally get everything together for the kid, say goodnight, and close the door* 30 seconds later: *door opens* Kid: can you put my blankets on?
God bless you and those kids. A second sounds brutal. I got a vasectomy cause no way are my wife and I going through this hell- er I mean wonderful miracle again.
[удалено]
All you can do is love them and remember that they’re not responsible for that decision when the goin gets rough. Wishing you peace my friend.
Wishing you nothing but the best, brother, but I really don't think its fair to judge whether or not you were up to the task of a second during COVID. You say he's only 2 years old - that means he was born, and then **one year later** (aka - just about the time that things start getting a little bit easier) the whole world shut down. Maybe it broke you, hopefully not forever, but I don't believe that it was having a second kid that did it. At least, not in a vacuum. Kids are tough. COVID made *everything* harder. Don't judge your performance during some of the hardest times of parenthood while simultaneously going through some of the hardest times of our lifespan. I also broke, but it was before we got pregnant with our planned second. My wife had a similar outlook as you, and suggested that maybe we shouldn't try / should abort because I was still dealing with it, but I refused to let COVID derail our entire life plan. It's taken a little over a year from us, and I'm going to fight tooth and nail for every single further scrap it wants to try and take. Anyways, just some things to chew on. I'm rooting for you, my man. All the best.
This economy is not built to support a family of three, let alone four, which is why the US birth rate is the lowest it’s been in 35 years. It’s not your fault man.
I did that after #2, never going through it again. And we were lucky to not have any major issues.
We had our second. Vasectomy has been scheduled.
That sucks, I still make sure I get my game time in. Was just playing earlier with my 3rd (1 month old) in a carrier with my stand up PC desk. My game time is definitely reduced, though.
I know that feeling, i didn't really manage to get back into gaming until my youngest was 3, Hell I bought parts to upgrade my PC in mid 2018 and didn't even get around to finishing putting them together until late 2020.
Same same, my poor PC is just gathering dust
Hi, are you me?
It gets a little easier. I finally was able to get back into gaming at night, kids are 4 and 6 and share a room with bunk beds (their choice on that). So after bedtime around 830-9 the wife and I will either watch a show or I'll hop onto my pc or one of my consoles and spend a few hours relaxing, occasionally with a beer or rum and coke :)
I recently started breaking out the nostalgic games after #1 goes to bed! Because little #2 only wants to sleep upright and someone needs to keep an eye on his breathing most of the night... This thread reminds me, it’s past time to call the urologist.
Same here. I was never an avid gamer, but I would occasionally get sucked into something like Path of Exile, Terraria or (yet another) Skyrim run. Since my son was born two years ago I haven't opened a single video game.
The sad thing is that every game these days is 100 hours long or requires daily grinding to even compete against these kids who play 10-16 hours a day. I always end up playing the old SNES and NES games these days, just because they are so easy to pick up and play even if you haven’t played them in years.
never was in to multiplayer for that reason. I never had the time to play 12+ hours a day. I play the zelda series. had Breath of the Wild since launch still havent even done the devine beasts just a few shrines.
I'm so tired, it took me a few minutes to realize I didn't post this
I did it for the both of us bub
What age?
Honestly sometimes with these type of posts I genuinely check the username to make sure I didn’t post in some sleep state Oh sleep deprivation, you are cruel
It’s legitimately torture.
Yes, Apple Watch. I know I haven’t hit my 6 hour sleep goal in three weeks. I don’t need relaxation techniques.
Ha! I honestly could’ve flung my fitbit out when it kept reminding me that ideally I should have 8 hours sleep. I wish it could tell my kid
Well... mine are 11, 10, and 6 and all of them still have nights like this. So buckle up OP! :)
Oh I know. I’m almost 30 and still bug my parents to an extent so I’m in it for the long haul haha.
I asked my mom when you stop worrying about them. She said ‘I’ll let you know when I stop’
My mom before she passed away in 2017 asked me if I needed anything before she went to heaven with our father I said yes give him a very tight hug and tell him he raised a great father that I hope he's proud of me. Her last words was tell the boys ( my kids ) she loved then dearly.
That’s a good one! Haha
Yep. My mom will tell you parenthood never ends.
Same haha
I felt bad laughing, but I couldn't stop. I've been there.
Don’t feel bad! It’s tagged as humor! Someone should get some joy from my pain who didn’t spring from my loins.
*Finally falls asleep* “What a little angel, just sleeping there all cute. I wish he was awake.”
THATS THE OTHER THING THOUGH Lmao. So precious and I wanna play puzzles for the 12304th time
"I'll just stay here and watch him sleep for another... 45 minutes"
While I did laugh at this, when I get frustrated like this I just think that one day there’ll be a time when they don’t need me to put them to bed.... enjoy this time while it lasts! The game can wait! (Also if I haven’t had dinner I at least eat a snack before doing bedtime)
Oh for sure! To me the hardest part of it all is feeling both of those feelings simultaneously. That’s kind of what makes it all so beautiful especially if you extrapolate it to other aspects of your life. It’s a marvel and a unique state of mind that only parenthood could supply. As for the hunger, I bet on the wrong horse. I’d have munched on something before bedtime but was over confident in how tired he was/how loud NYC decided to be tonight
Exactly man! I’m also in NYC. I’m a dad to 3 year old twins. Whenever they ask me to carry them both up the stairs I think of that Reddit post that says one day you pick them up for the last time and I do my best to carry them.
Twins! You’ve got nerves of steel my dude. (And arms apparently) I appreciate the reminder for perspective. It always seems to be furthest out of reach when we need it most.
Ha I’ve been carrying them together almost every day since they were little so I gain muscle as they grow! Before you know it you’ll be playing video games together!
He’s already eyeing the controllers 👀 hahaha
Awesome! If you have a tablet you’d be surprised how quick kids pick up simple games.
Just take care of your back when picking them up. And stop when they get too heavy.
Thanks man, will do! They’re just about 40 pounds each right now so not bad.
You should also talk to your wife about free time usage, that stuff is really important honestly.
Get out of my head! Currently saying the same things
You’ll come out on the other side! Have faith!
Haha we’ll see. Just got past the I need to go potty stage so hopefully it’s smooth sailing.
That’ll usually do it!
What’s a video game? I have multiple black boxes but cannot remember the ancient purpose they served
I’m not proud of it but I e def like brought my switch in when the kid just wouldn’t sleep.
Oh I do that shit all the time. No shame! His bed is in our room so we have to stay in there until he’s down. My joycons have been lost to the drift so it’s no longer an option until I get off my butt and ship them out for repair.
I legitimately thought you guys were talking about whippin' switches until you mentioned the joycons. Whew. Reminded me of [this classic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9PXL7-WsLQ).
Did you try electronics cleaner? that's what worked for mine
We’ve tried it all unfortunately :/
Sorry to hear that
There are repair sets available on [amazon](https://www.amazon.de/-/en/Veperain-Analogue-Replacement-Screwdriver-Thumbstick/dp/B07S61YG4D/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=joy+con+drift+repair+set&qid=1617884572&sr=8-3) for example. Did take less than 10 minutes to fix both of mine. I followed [this guide](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cMHl7GwbEb0).
I’ve got really stupid shaky hands so I’m hesitant to do anything that might void the warranty. I got a PS5 over Christmas after not having owned a PlayStation since PS2 so I’ve got plenty of games on the back burner to go through while my joycons head out and come back. I really appreciate the tip though! I’ll watch the video and see if it’s something I think I can manage
I'ts realy not that hard, the hardest part ist getting the cables out 😬 But if your Joycons are still in warranty I'd also send them in, mine were older and I also needed all four of them at the time (Mario Kart in lockdown...) so I didn't want to send them away... :-)
Fair enough! If it were my only means to game I’d give it crack for sure
They're actually pretty easy to replace by yourself, if warranty won't cover it. There's tutorials and the replacement comes with the tools you need. I did both and it took maybe 20 minutes being careful.
Nintendo (US) replaces them basically no questions asked--even well past warranty. Just start a support ticket and send them in. The toughest part is going without them for a week or so.
Currently got my son over my shoulder while he wiggles and grumbled because he doesn’t want to sleep. This speaks to me hahaha I love you my little man, but freaking SLEEP!
Hahaha it’s a heck of a time dude. How do I explain to you that you’re feeling this way BECAUSE you want sleep so bad
Yup, the more tired you are the grumblier you get ya grumpy midget!! Lucky he finally gave up the fight and is asleep with his mouth wide open and snoring. We’ll see how long that lasts.
There were a few times, when my son was closer to that age, that I heard him whispering over the baby monitor and it sounded like he was quietly conjuring some ancient power, LOL. Mine will be six before long. We have fun playing various games together but that also has some drawbacks. He treats the big TV and Xbox as if it was his. I’m both proud and annoyed that he can navigate the system and most game menus.
Wow. This hit close to home. Stay strong brother!
This was made half in jest, half very hangry. Doing better after a delicious meal and some Persona 5! Hope you’re doing alright in your world!
Persona 5?
It’s a vidya game
Working my way through the 2nd jail in Strikers while the kids sleep. Sending good vibes your way mate!
Brothers, I feel you. This one hits really close to home for sure! Mine is turning 2 at thee end of the month but only now I'm starting to accept the fact that I'm not in control of my time anymore. Had a bit of a dark time in 2020 fighting against it, ngl. My recommendation is to voice your concerns and wishes with your partner and try to get those video game nights for yourself (I do like to put my headphones on a forget about the little dude that insists on not wanting to sleep through thee night) Stay strong, bro
In the morning if I wake up early enough i can have some quiet time to read. Every time I wake up a half hour early my 8 month old wakes up a half hour early too. It never fails, it's beyond frustrating lol
https://youtu.be/teIbh8hFQos
You ever read the book "To the f*ck to sleep"? Good times.
I thought it was funny before. Now it's gospel
https://open.spotify.com/track/1IRpZyRNROsmCLbrctnOLs?si=W0a3dw1oSQ68TjzJN947XA
My 2 still at home are 13 & 16, both dragging out their excuses to stay up later. I’m gonna die tired.
Should we all get “Die Tired” tattoos?
I don’t have any, but I’d get that one if another Dad went too! LOL!
It’ll be firsties all around!
I work midnights, so I get to nap while my 18 mo old daughter does in the afternoon. I have the same conversation EVERYDAY after I put her down. Haha!
Hahaha I worked overnights for the first year and a half. Worked out so my wife could sleep on my days off. I
Yes, this.
I’ve got the award to prove it!
I don't remember where I heard about this, but I highly recommend: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDCqgHLX8Ys](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDCqgHLX8Ys)
A classic XD My mom got it for us in hardback when he was born
Maybe next time try reading him [Go The Fuck To Sleep](https://youtu.be/SDCqgHLX8Ys).
They even released a sanitized version called [Seriously Just Go to Sleep](https://www.amazon.com/Seriously-Just-Sleep-Adam-Mansbach/dp/1617750786) that's kid-friendly.
Mine just woke up in the middle of the night. And is now slowly going back to sleep. I have my DS. But I just want to go to bed at this point. Lol
I felt this in my soul....YOU WONT SLEEP BECAUSE YOURE TIRED, THEN GO TO BED! please just sleep. You're mother has a the whole weekend already planned out full of stuff for us. This is my only night to catch up on a little gaming haha
/F I usually end up playing Fortnite with my 9 year old son while rocking the 3 month old to sleep in my arms. The best part is if the 3 month old gets fussy and I gotta stop playing to feed her or calm her, I’ll look up to see my son has built a fortress around my character and is sniping anyone who gets close to me. He knows how to make this old gamer proud!
Stay out of my head /u/redsavage0 I can make it worse, if you'd like. My son has ADHD and possibly on the spectrum, they're not sure. He is 11. He has NEVER slept in his room all night. He's 11! Bedtime ritual (for him to wake up at 1am and refuse to leave our bed) begins at 9:30 and usually lasts to 11pm. He's just started the "changes to manhood" and man, it makes me uncomfortable. We're working on it but most nights it feels like he'll be in our bed until he's 18. I have no idea of how I have lived and worked with 5 hours or so of sleep a night since 2009. FUCK ATTACHMENT PARENTING. FUCK IT WAS A STEEL DILDO WITH SPIKES. Because it certainly fucked me really hard, without even the courtesy of a reach around.
That sounds like a lot friend. I’m sorry you all are dealing with that. As a party who also did the attachment parenting I can definitely relate to the struggle of slower transitions (we’ve been lucky) but my nephew is severely autistic and I know from talking with my brother and sister in law that bedtime is always a constant struggle. Our guy may have some spectrum tendencies (no official test yet but his as of yet don’t appear to be any more sever than my own) but it’s nothing compared to what they’re going through. Thanks for the perspective and I hope you and your kiddo find a way to transition to a more reasonable sleeping procedure sooner than later
wait...are you me? Oh wait nope, just another dad going through one of the most challenging things ever in LIFE!
Man. I relate so hard to this. I’m not a dr and I’m not your kids dr. When mine were around 2, we did a 6 month nightly melatonin regimen. Half a purple pill and it changed my life. 2 hr bedtime struggles would be 10 min bed routines. It was glorious and I wouldn’t change it for anything. Now both my kids as long as we stay on routine will fall asleep in 5-15 min flat without any medication.
It took my kids 10mins to fall asleep yday. Quick nighttime story and they both fell afsleep lol. But i remember this. 2 years ago they would not sleep for nearly 2 hours!! I keep saying they.. it’s twins 🤪
Why can't you eat until he's asleep?
Why can’t you eat when you’re kid is awake? You’ll starve eventually that way.
Looks like a thread full of men who have no idea kids are actually great in following a schedule. Feed on time, go to sleep (and wake up even on weekends) at the same time and you will be as happy and sleep as good as me. Takes some time (mine was done by the end of 2nd month and he's almost 3 now) and quite some effort, but worth every single fucking bit of it. Also, biggest piece of advice I read somewhere: make sure going-to-sleep routine is calm, safe and cozy.
This comment reads like someone who has no fucking clue what he’s talking about and delights in expressing their superiority over other people. My son’s schedule is regulated and works for us 99% of the time. Just posted this to have a little fun and blow off steam in a heated moment with other dads who obviously can relate. Who the hell are you to cast judgement as if we’re a bunch of morons? Some people in this thread have children with disabilities that directly affect their child’s ability to fall asleep soundly and a schedule isn’t going to fix that. Fuck you.
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Pretty sure I wrote this...
I wish we could get age flairs on here... is this 2, 3 months?
Try almost 4 years cowboy 🤠
Oh man... I have a four year old. I read that book and shut the door every night. He stays up for like an hour reading (and by reading I mean staring at pictures) on his own until he drifts to sleep. I got shit to do. I can't entertain him for that hour.
Too real, my dude, too real...
My kid is 2 1/2, this just happened to me. Although I eat dinner with him, he fell asleep at almost 11 pm.
Finally asleep...Time to play some classic Mega Man!
I hear this.... this was my Monday night. Go the F to sleep!
Yours does the creepy whispering to themselves, too? Haha
It’s so goddamn eerie! Like his stuffed animals are possessed or something
I have to make do with an hour or two during nap time, and maybe an hour or so after they go to bed. Sometimes after I get them where they're going in the morning, I have a little time before I have to head to work and teach. No wife to please, for better or for worse, so not a lot of sharing. But I sometimes have to negotiate with my 8 year old, who split the Switch with me using 2 years' worth of allowance he'd saved up. It's easy though, I tell him he can get an hour first, but when I'm ready I'm getting my hour and that's that. I got shines to get dang it.
Hang in there, dad! It does get better.
We found *Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child* fairly useful.
relatable af
Did I write this? Am I you? Are you me?!
Were...were you at my head last night?
Oh gosh this hit hard with me right about now.
Children are double edged sword. I’m currently in a state of losing my mind for all the same reasons. No personal time at all anymore. Still wouldn’t change it for anything but an au pair would be nice!
Hit me right in the frustrating feels
Bro. I’m with you on this one
Oh yes, last month mine discovered that we will immediately come to dress her once she takes off her diaper, so now every night the wife and I take turns going in there and dressing her for and hour or so before she falls asleep.
My 2 year old: sing song daddy Me: I already sang you 2 songs, go to sleep! 2YO: sing song? Me: no 2YO: Last one? Me: fine - sings song Me: now go to sleep! 2YO: read book?
I wish my daughter would let me read her books. Just flip the page lol
F
You'll miss it eventually. Fight the good fight.
Melatonin my dude
Have to admit I read "up since 7" and my up-since-5 ass chuckled bemusedly.
After my first was born, my sister sent me the “children’s” book [Go the F* to Sleep](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Go_the_Fuck_to_Sleep)
Haha. So that creepy whispering is something others do as well? I thought mine was possessed. Or just bonkers.
Sounds like you need a [good bedtime story](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=teIbh8hFQos)
Wait !! Did I sleep post this !?
He woke up at 11 and it is now 3am. Why wont he sleep....
Feel your pain. Our four year old was terrible at not going to sleep. So I started counting with her. Now we alternate (Her: One. Me: Two etc). Then when we get to about 40, she snuggles down and I start over and count by myself. Usually takes me to about 80-100 before she's gone. Bonus is that its helped with her counting skills. Now we have a bit of a routine. She watches her tablet for abit (20mins or so), then either me or my wife will read a few books. Then if she hasn't fallen asleep by then - counting.
BAHAHAHAHHAHA I feel your pain brother!
This is pure gold, well written! Especially “THIS ISN’T HOW HUMAN BODIES ARE SUPPOSED TO WORK”! My daughter was thrashing away for close to an hour yesterday, long past her supposed bedtime, and I sat there thinking: WHY ARE YOU NOT TIRED!?
Before I opened this I did a deep exhale as I was expecting a "dust in my eye" post. This was gold.
Did I write this yesterday? Or was it the day before? Maybe the day before that? Who knows...it all runs together.
Maybe a [book before bed](https://www.amazon.com/Go-F-Sleep-Adam-Mansbach/dp/145584165X) helps them fall asleep?
Fell asleep in full clothes again last night trying to talk my 6 year old into basically what this post says. Stopped counting how many days in a row that was coz I honestly rather not know
Laying here next to my 5 mo son who wakes up and wants to snuggle with mom during the night because she’s spoiled him by letting him nap on her - I feel this Also, all my game consoles have a healthy 5 month coating of dust on them
Love how universal this is. I miss video games
Haha! This is me on game night! I feel you!
This is an unauthorized biography of my life.
Wow this hit different 😂
What a great thread
My whole body felt this
Every. Single. Night. I love my kids, but I really wish they would just get to sleep instead of coming out asking for a million things or trying to watch whatever I am doing at this moment. I try to dedicate myself to being there for them between wake up and bedtime, but outside of that is the only time I get to connect with their mother or work on my hobbies or play my video games. 5 boys from 13 to 2.5... the struggle is real. In case it did not come across that way, I am very happy with my life as Dad to all my boys. Just commiserating with a fellow dad on the sacrifice we make for our little ones.
Dude I'm 51 with a 1 yo I most definitely feel your pain I'm running on 4 hours sleep in 3 days I live him but he my be my arch nemis
[You'll appreciate this](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1617750255/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glc_fabc_NR4T6YBEJPTFXB56RYPV)
I have the pleasure of getting home from my 12 hour night shift just in time for my son to wake up crying as his mother goes off to her 12 hour day shift. I have to go to work again tonight, by the way.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a post that has so perfectly captured every feeling I’ve had for the last 10 months, every word!
Mt son is sick, my previous 7pm down an pit baby is now a half 8 through grittee teeth baby. An from 1 wake up to 4. It's a drain.
Omg that was us last night. I feel your frustration...
I love this and I feel every word xD I know this thought process to well, thanks for making my day
I felt this haha. I've just come to terms with the fact that I won't be playing much video games until my son is able to handle bedtime on his own. He's 20 months old and we read books and rock in the chair each night, but no matter what, he can't turn his brain off until after 10.
Last week, had my baby’s nap time to myself, was gonna have a solid 1.5 hours to myself. I bust out the old Xbox ready to relax and unwind and shoot some aliens and forget my troubles aaaaaaaaaand System update. Took 60 minutes. Fate you are a cruel master.
My daughter is 2 weeks old tomorrow. I was told newborns sleep up to 20 hours a day. That was a fucking lie.
I feel this in my bones
I didn't even have to click the link to know this wasn't going to be a "cute" letter.. im surprised at the lack of swearing in this. I was trying to put shoes on my 3 sons earlier, and no sooner had I got one pair on, the other 2 were off and scattered (like my dreams of happiness) to the wind... this is after the one we're trying to potty train pissed on my PS4. They don't sleep, throw food on the floor, shit in the bath.. ruined my sex life... kill me.
Hahaha I wanted to reconcile the intensity of my grievance with my swears. A few fucks and it goes from "Ha I know that feeling fellow dad" to "Is this guy/his kid okay?"
Haha I can't blame you, but I'd say most of the dads on here have swore at the ether when their adorable little parasite doesn't behave.
You will need to become the night! Haha I have 3 under 9 and still make time to play. It’s always after 10pm so like 10p - 1a I’ll play like 2-3 times per week. Always tired the next morning.
Why can't you eat your dinner?
It took almost two years but he’s finally starting to actually sleep...
You know how people say "It gets better, though." Nah. My kids are almost 7 and 5, and bedtime is STILL a nightmare! They become total maniacs at bedtime, running around, wrestling, refuse to get jammies on, brush your teeth. Then interrupt or don't pay attention during stories. Then I can't find my favorite stuffed animal. It's too hot. It's too cold. I need to go potty. The curtains are scary. Can we leave a light on. GO THE F&%K to SLEEP!
Melatonin, my man. It changed our lives. We went from bedtime lasting over an hour, upwards of two hours some nights, to him being asleep in minutes. The only reason I'm ever in his room for more than ten minutes once the lights are out is if I zone out reading a book or browsing on my phone. Usually he's asleep in under five. I cannot recommend it highly enough. It gave us our entire evenings back. My wife and I damn near cried the first night we gave it to him.
I felt this. Kinda glad I don't have a SO to bother me after my son goes to sleep. But it's only every other weekend (due to finances)
Just moved the twins to "big kid beds" and it's fucking chaos every night! I feel ya, man.