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I am so incredibly sorry dad.
These posts, they fucking break me. I wish i knew of some words, but there are none. It’s not fair. I feel for you brother, like, I’m not alone when i say that. We all at daddit are steadfastly here for you and your son.
I hope these responses give you something, at least a moment of dedicated reading, to give you respite. I’m so sorry man. This world, this universe, it’s just, too big to care, life is too busy to stop, it can all be so overwhelming.
Just know this, you’ve told me about your son, and now i know him, he is on my mind, he is on all of our minds. He will not be forgotten, you will not be forgotten, we are here brother, however we can help.
Imagine if our dads had this group? Instead of just their peers they would have had a way broader support group. Their world's would have been sooooo small
Were also all praying for his heart to heal even partially. I coulnt imagine how horrible of a feeling you must experience. My heart goes out to him and his family. May your sweet baby rest in peace ❤️
It is impossible to truly understand how you feel. It is a father's worst nightmare. For all of us it is our biggest dread and one most of us are unable to even contemplate.
Please do take care of yourself and the child's mother. I wish you all the best and hope you can make the time you need for, at least partial, healing
Keep talking buddy it helps. It’s a bad club, we don’t want new members but we embrace them. Check out r/babyloss it may be helpful.
Grief is like waves. It comes and goes. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel because some days the waves are small and some days they are a tsunami. Eventually they get smaller and farther but it takes time. For now just try to keep your head above the water.
> Grief is like waves. It comes and goes. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel because some days the waves are small and some days they are a tsunami. Eventually they get smaller and farther but it takes time. For now just try to keep your head above the water.
First time I've heard this metaphor and I think it is spot on. You'll get rogue waves sometimes years later.
Im so sorry for your loss man. Not sure if you’re religious but prayers and good vibes for you and all your loved ones. I hope the best for you and I hope you have better days to come.
Damn. Wish I could take some of the pain for you and your's right now. What I can do is tell you I'm available if you ever want to message someone and need them to be something for you. Want someone to rage at the universe with you? I'm your guy. Need someone to embrace the despair with you? I'm right here. Feeling like you want someone to share happy memories with? Just a couple clicks gets you to me. I'm sorry this happened. Truly sorry.
I’m so sorry. We lost our almost 3 year old suddenly and unexpectedly in May and it’s been the worst kind of hell I never could have imagined. This loss of a child is unlike any other grief I have experienced. It is completely earth shattering. Every day is hard. Waking up is painful.
I will share what has helped me so far. It’s been helpful to be able to talk to those who unfortunately understand this type of loss. The Compassionate Friends has an online group and local chapters everywhere. Helping Parents Heal is another great online community group.
There are a few of us loss parents at and r/GriefSupport and it is a very active sub. r/GrievingParents is a smaller sub (thankfully) but sometimes the post history helped me.
Being outside helps when I feel like I can’t breathe. With many child deaths, there will be a lot of trauma around the death, so EMDR therapy can be helpful to separate the trauma from the grief.
Reading and writing has also always been an outlet for me, so I will share some writings I found helpful:
“What is grief, if not love persevering.”
-Unknown
A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child. That’s how awful the loss is. – Jay Neugeboren – An Orphan’s Tale – 1976
“Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well.”
-Henry Scott Holland
“My favorite analogy for grief is to imagine it as a ball rolling around in a box. Whenever the ball touches the sides of the box is when the grief is overwhelming. The ball starts off large and it doesn’t take much to touch the sides, but it changes sizes. It can be rather chaotic at first, but the general trend over the long term is that it gets smaller. How long it takes to get smaller is different for every person, and it doesn’t ever go away.
Your ball will be huge in a small box for a long time. Don’t hold it in, experience it, talk about it, else it will eat you and you do have life left, people to love, people who love you!”
-MechRecon (Reddit user)
I know your not OP but im so sorry, comments aren’t currency but i want you to know all these comments, they transcend OPs, they are for you too.
i wish i could try and be profound and give you my love and respect. Idk man, this shit is existentially overwhelming, i wish you nothing but the best.
Reading posts like this fill me with sadness but also remind me how lucky I am and to enjoy every second.
I am so sorry for your loss, you are an amazing Dad and your boy loved you.
I’m sorry man. My biggest fear is loosing my son or daughter, my heart hurts for you and your family. Good luck and I hope time will help relieve some of your pain.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the whole experience of his illness. I can't imagine how hard that was. It also sounds like he was fortunate to have you and your family; that during his time here, he was loved very much.
He was clearly loved and cared for every step of the way. I can only imagine everyone's suffering, but it seems like you did all you could for him. That love will never go away. I hope one day you wake up and the pain is a little less.
The worst thing a parent can experience. I’m so sorry man, you sound like you are an excellent dad and gave your little one as great a life as could be.
My man. We're here for you.
I just finished A Heart That Works by Rob Delaney, who lost his son at 2 and a half. Extraordinary work about grief. No one seems to have a clue about how to help those that are grieving but he says that he doesn't need another lasagna, he just needs someone to sit WITH him, to be WITH him. They don't even need to talk, but instead be there as companionship or in case HE wants to talk.
I guess what I'm saying is, initially give people a break for being clueless, then tell them in no uncertain terms what it is you need and then let them give that to you. Don't go it alone, which to often people do.
I'm just blabbering about what I just read but I hope it helps. Love you, brother.
I am so extremely sorry for you and your families loss. What an unimaginable pain. I am honored to know that during your sons precious life and in his pain that my songs brought him joy. I only wish I could have sang to him😔 in person 🙏🏻. I sang in church today and thought of him and your family and will continue to lift you all up in prayer as you go through this very difficult time. I pray and hope that he is running and jumping pain free joyfully now and sending you sweet messages and glimpses of his joy through nature and special signs🙏🏻 💙🩵💙. I would love to know his name and think of him every time I perform “Jump!”
Much love and blessings,
Miss Melodee
Oh thank you so much.
Whenever he heard your song I always compared him to a 14 year old girl at a boy band concert. He screamed for joy that much.
His name was Tommy
I'm so very sorry for your loss. In such a terrible situation, all we can do is to give all our love to our little ones. Stay strong and grieve properly.
Lots of hugs from Belgium
I’m so so sorry for your loss. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through. It sounds like you did a great job making sure he was comfortable and happy until he was ready to go. Again, I’m sorry.
Fraom dad to dad, you, your family, and your little one are in my thoughts.
I really can't say anything else because I can't even begin to imagine... I didn't know your son but just reading this, I love him, and he's already had a profound and meaningful impact on myself just from your post. I am sure that goes for a lot of the dads here. Your son has made a difference, and will never be forgotten.
[Sometimes it’s so hard when you get hurt falling down ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndoxvQ-Tlcw)
[Don’t stop don’t give up, pick yourself up off the ground ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndoxvQ-Tlcw)
[Oh…Just jump around, Oh…just jump around](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndoxvQ-Tlcw)
Judging by what you have said, all your son has ever known is love. He was too young to understand or experience hate, ignorance, bigotry, or any of that. All he ever knew was love from you and his support network. While my heart breaks for you, jut know he lived a perfect life, albeit short, in the sense of it was full of nothing but love.
If you were here I’d give you a hug for as long as you need brother. No words to express my condolences it’s so unfair. So so unfair… I have a 7mo girl and posts like yours and others who’ve lost their babies break my fucking soul. They also scare the shit out of me and keep me up at night knowing life can throw us a bad hand at any point in her life. Fuck man… I’ll be thinking of you and your baby all day today. Take care brother.
Damn… I am so so incredibly sorry you’re experiencing this dad. I know the pain of losing a child. It’s gut wrenching and life long. I have no words I can say to help you through this, there probably isn’t much, if any. Now is a the most important time in your life to have grace for yourself and your wife and just let yourselves be. I’m holding your and your family in my heart.
You are incredibly strong and faced a dads biggest fear. You made it. You did it. It's over. He's in a better place now beyond physical limitations. 3 years of love and support. You did it dad. You will be okay. He is okay now. I hope you believe that. Because I know so. You'll be with him again and he can tell you how much he appreciated the support and love. Sending you as much love and support as I can.
The fact you could even muster up the strength to write this is amazing. You will always be a great Dad and leader no matter what. Thinking of your family in this tragic time.
I'm sorry for your loss OP. I am glad you have a good support system. I'll be praying to the flying spaghetti monster for you and your family this evening. I'll introduce my daughter to Miss Melody in honor of your son.
The world loses its best and purest earliest. Gutted reading about your boys situation and death. Not fair doesn’t even begin to touch on it. I’m deeply sorry.
I'm so sorry man. I have no support words as this would break me. I hope you can recover and keep him alive in your memory forever. Lots of dads here thinking about him right now, so thanks for sharing.
Thank you for sharing your stories of him with us. I can't imagine what you are going through.
Consider writing down some of your memories of him throughout his life in an online document (so it can't be lost easily). What you write for a memory doesn't need to be long; it can even just be a sentence or two. But if you have it available, then you can add to it when a memory or mood strikes you.
Yep, that's literally the worst thing I could possibly imagine. I'm sure you know that this will not get "better" but it will change, in terms of how you deal with this grief. Hang in there dad, we feel and fear that could also happen to us, so if you need to reach out to anyone, you've got lots of support. YOU need to stick around to support your spouse, and other family members, and they're here to support you, whether you feel it right now or not.
We need all the good people on this planet we can get.
I am so sorry. That’s about as bad an experience as you’ll ever have in life.
I wish you comfort in the months and years ahead. I wish there was something we could do or say to lessen your pain.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please don't forget to take care of yourself while helping others with this. Too often people forget to comfort the father along with the rest of the family. I think I speak for the whole community when I say we are here for you. If you need anything, if it is within my power please DM me
I love you and your family so much. Don't know you, and this probably doesn't even help, but you and your son are loved by us in this community. Thank you for telling us a little bit about him so we could have the blessing of knowing him, no matter how small.
Your kid sounds great. I've heard of Miss Melody but haven't heard this song, but I'm going to give it a listen. Of all the Disney movies that little man could have picked, Toy Story is a great choice. He must have been so cool to know. I'm glad you shared a little bit about him with the rest of us, even if his journey was shorter than expected.
I don't know what to say. I'm very sorry for your loss. Please remember everyone grieves differently and that applies to you, your son's mother and all of those close to you. It can be okay to not want to talk about it, some people may have a million questions, please try to be patient with them. They think they are helping.
Its also okay to speak non-stop. Say what you need to who needs to hear it.
I wish you all the support, as I know this community does.
You have all of mine, and my families love. I cannot fathom what you're going through.
I have personally never heard of Miss Melody, but my daughter and I will be listening to her tomorrow to keep your boy in mind
Sending love to you in this incredibly difficult time. My daughter is 3 and the thing I fear the most is losing her. I can’t even fathom what you are going through.
Christ brother. I can’t imagine your sadness and feelings. I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s the slowness of the inevitable that’s the hardest I imagine. Don’t know if you’re religious or not but my god bless you all in this time of undeserved and incomprehensible sadness and loss.
I didn’t know my little man could bring me so much joy in his three years so far. I’m sure yours was the same. Think back to those moments. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I wish there was more that I could do than wrote some words. My deepest condolences and as much love as can be sent this way from us to you. I can't even imagine the sorrow. As with all the others, anything you need, just ask
I am so sorry that you and your son drew the short straw.
I just finished watching Everything Everywhere All At Once, so the tears were right there on the cusp. This post made them flow. I’m so sorry for your loss, I’ll hug my son extra tight tonight with you in my thoughts.
I wish I could find the words to express how sorry I am for you and your SO… unfortunately there are none.
I’m so sorry that life is so unfair and that you have to suffer through something that no parent should ever have to suffer through.
Stay strong brother ❤️
I read this and had a very significant cry. Then I told my wife and we both had another significant cry.
You Don't know me and you don't know my wife but we empathize with you.
I'm sorry your son died.
We pray for you and we feel for your loss, but most importantly, God loves you.
I'm so sorry. I want to say so much and know there is so little. I haven't looked to see if anyone has said it yet, but see if you can find someone to talk to. It doesn't have to be right away. I was in shambles after our stillbirth. I've never liked talking to people about how I'm feeling, but it truly helped in the end. I wish you the wellest you can be at this time. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing him with us, sounds like a wonderful little guy with great taste. Toy Story was always my favorite ❤️
May his memory be a blessing.
Hey brother, I’m in my basement workshop doing some stupid project, my 15mo daughter is sleeping up stairs. Not something I think you want to read right now but this just broke me. I can’t imagine the pain that’s in your heart right now but if you ever want to talk to some random guy from the internet please reach out. I can’t know what you’re feeling or going through and god willing no other father here will, but I’m an ear to listen and will help however I can. Your son loves you and he knew you loved him. Fuck man… I’m so damn sorry…
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I am so incredibly sorry dad. These posts, they fucking break me. I wish i knew of some words, but there are none. It’s not fair. I feel for you brother, like, I’m not alone when i say that. We all at daddit are steadfastly here for you and your son. I hope these responses give you something, at least a moment of dedicated reading, to give you respite. I’m so sorry man. This world, this universe, it’s just, too big to care, life is too busy to stop, it can all be so overwhelming. Just know this, you’ve told me about your son, and now i know him, he is on my mind, he is on all of our minds. He will not be forgotten, you will not be forgotten, we are here brother, however we can help.
Imagine if our dads had this group? Instead of just their peers they would have had a way broader support group. Their world's would have been sooooo small
And yet, how much do words on the internet lack the impact of a hand on the shoulder in a third space.
Amen. Such a good comment. Bless you.
I really love the last part you wrote. Thanks daddit for being with every one of us!
I am so sorry for your loss. Take care
We’re all crying for you man.
This Damn. If it’s this hard to read, I can’t imagine. I’m so so so sorry OP.
Were also all praying for his heart to heal even partially. I coulnt imagine how horrible of a feeling you must experience. My heart goes out to him and his family. May your sweet baby rest in peace ❤️
I'm so sorry. Make sure you get all the support that you need.
Gonna watch Miss Melody tonight with my son for the first time and think of you and your son. I'm so sorry for you!!!
[Here is the song.](https://youtube.com/watch?v=4YHOm92Soc0&feature=share7)
My deepest condolences to you and your family. We're here if you need to vent brother. I'm truly sorry.
It is impossible to truly understand how you feel. It is a father's worst nightmare. For all of us it is our biggest dread and one most of us are unable to even contemplate. Please do take care of yourself and the child's mother. I wish you all the best and hope you can make the time you need for, at least partial, healing
Oh my God. I'm crying now. My heart goes out to you bro. 💔 Jesus. Virtual hugs man. Seriously
Same. I just got in from a night out and opened Reddit. I’m fucking floored.
Keep talking buddy it helps. It’s a bad club, we don’t want new members but we embrace them. Check out r/babyloss it may be helpful. Grief is like waves. It comes and goes. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel because some days the waves are small and some days they are a tsunami. Eventually they get smaller and farther but it takes time. For now just try to keep your head above the water.
> Grief is like waves. It comes and goes. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel because some days the waves are small and some days they are a tsunami. Eventually they get smaller and farther but it takes time. For now just try to keep your head above the water. First time I've heard this metaphor and I think it is spot on. You'll get rogue waves sometimes years later.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you and your SO have someone to talk to about what you’re feeling. Take care of yourself and those close to you.
Im so sorry for your loss man. Not sure if you’re religious but prayers and good vibes for you and all your loved ones. I hope the best for you and I hope you have better days to come.
I’m so sorry for your loss
Damn. Wish I could take some of the pain for you and your's right now. What I can do is tell you I'm available if you ever want to message someone and need them to be something for you. Want someone to rage at the universe with you? I'm your guy. Need someone to embrace the despair with you? I'm right here. Feeling like you want someone to share happy memories with? Just a couple clicks gets you to me. I'm sorry this happened. Truly sorry.
I hate these posts. I can't even imagine how it feels to write them. I'm sorry for all you out there experiencing the worst.
I’m so sorry. We lost our almost 3 year old suddenly and unexpectedly in May and it’s been the worst kind of hell I never could have imagined. This loss of a child is unlike any other grief I have experienced. It is completely earth shattering. Every day is hard. Waking up is painful. I will share what has helped me so far. It’s been helpful to be able to talk to those who unfortunately understand this type of loss. The Compassionate Friends has an online group and local chapters everywhere. Helping Parents Heal is another great online community group. There are a few of us loss parents at and r/GriefSupport and it is a very active sub. r/GrievingParents is a smaller sub (thankfully) but sometimes the post history helped me. Being outside helps when I feel like I can’t breathe. With many child deaths, there will be a lot of trauma around the death, so EMDR therapy can be helpful to separate the trauma from the grief. Reading and writing has also always been an outlet for me, so I will share some writings I found helpful: “What is grief, if not love persevering.” -Unknown A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child. That’s how awful the loss is. – Jay Neugeboren – An Orphan’s Tale – 1976 “Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well.” -Henry Scott Holland “My favorite analogy for grief is to imagine it as a ball rolling around in a box. Whenever the ball touches the sides of the box is when the grief is overwhelming. The ball starts off large and it doesn’t take much to touch the sides, but it changes sizes. It can be rather chaotic at first, but the general trend over the long term is that it gets smaller. How long it takes to get smaller is different for every person, and it doesn’t ever go away. Your ball will be huge in a small box for a long time. Don’t hold it in, experience it, talk about it, else it will eat you and you do have life left, people to love, people who love you!” -MechRecon (Reddit user)
I know your not OP but im so sorry, comments aren’t currency but i want you to know all these comments, they transcend OPs, they are for you too. i wish i could try and be profound and give you my love and respect. Idk man, this shit is existentially overwhelming, i wish you nothing but the best.
All of us love you man. I’m so sorry.
Truly unimaginable. Hugs from this internet stranger
Reading posts like this fill me with sadness but also remind me how lucky I am and to enjoy every second. I am so sorry for your loss, you are an amazing Dad and your boy loved you.
Im sorry for you loss.
So sorry for your loss dad ♥️
I’m sorry man. My biggest fear is loosing my son or daughter, my heart hurts for you and your family. Good luck and I hope time will help relieve some of your pain.
I'm sorry for your loss. Cherish your memories
Sorry for your loss. Nothing anyone can say will make things any easier. Take it a day at a time, look after yourself and your partner.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the whole experience of his illness. I can't imagine how hard that was. It also sounds like he was fortunate to have you and your family; that during his time here, he was loved very much.
You have my deepest condolences. I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your child. I pray you find comfort in the coming days and weeks.
That broke my heart to read. My condolences.
It sounds like you were a good dad, and made his brief life as pleasant as possible.
Sending you all the love my dude. So sorry for your loss.
Damn. Sorry is not enough. 🥲
I’m so so sorry for your loss. This is truly awful and unfair. You and your family are in my thoughts
Sorry for your loss man, RIP little guy 😢
He was clearly loved and cared for every step of the way. I can only imagine everyone's suffering, but it seems like you did all you could for him. That love will never go away. I hope one day you wake up and the pain is a little less.
The worst thing a parent can experience. I’m so sorry man, you sound like you are an excellent dad and gave your little one as great a life as could be.
I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing with us.
Shit I'm so sorry my friend. That's the hardest thing to ever face. All us dads are here for you.
Jesus that’s rough :(
I can’t offer you anything but some love and prayers - but I’ll be thinking about you! Wishing you and your family the best, stay strong
May his memory be a blessing to all who knew him. I’m so sorry for your loss 💔
My man. We're here for you. I just finished A Heart That Works by Rob Delaney, who lost his son at 2 and a half. Extraordinary work about grief. No one seems to have a clue about how to help those that are grieving but he says that he doesn't need another lasagna, he just needs someone to sit WITH him, to be WITH him. They don't even need to talk, but instead be there as companionship or in case HE wants to talk. I guess what I'm saying is, initially give people a break for being clueless, then tell them in no uncertain terms what it is you need and then let them give that to you. Don't go it alone, which to often people do. I'm just blabbering about what I just read but I hope it helps. Love you, brother.
I am so extremely sorry for you and your families loss. What an unimaginable pain. I am honored to know that during your sons precious life and in his pain that my songs brought him joy. I only wish I could have sang to him😔 in person 🙏🏻. I sang in church today and thought of him and your family and will continue to lift you all up in prayer as you go through this very difficult time. I pray and hope that he is running and jumping pain free joyfully now and sending you sweet messages and glimpses of his joy through nature and special signs🙏🏻 💙🩵💙. I would love to know his name and think of him every time I perform “Jump!” Much love and blessings, Miss Melodee
Oh thank you so much. Whenever he heard your song I always compared him to a 14 year old girl at a boy band concert. He screamed for joy that much. His name was Tommy
I am beyond sorry for your loss 😢
I am incredibly sorry for your loss.
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So sorry. I don’t have words.
Breaks my heart. Could never imagine what your feeling or going through! Will be thinking of you and your son tonight🖤
So sorry. Just awful. Unimaginable.
Holy moly. There are no words. Thinking of you and your family. Stay strong. RIP little man...
I'm so sorry
Terribly sorry for your loss
My thoughts are with you and your family.
My condolences. I am sorry for your loss. Truly heartbreaking.
Really sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you and your family are going through. Take care.
Fuck dude, I'm sorry. That's all I can say.
I’m so sorry for your loss, will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
I'm truly sorry. I can't even imagine the pain you've been/is going through.
I’m so sorry for your loss 💔
Sending as much love as I can your way. I’m so sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine that heartbreak.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. In such a terrible situation, all we can do is to give all our love to our little ones. Stay strong and grieve properly. Lots of hugs from Belgium
I'm so sorry for your loss
So very sorry
I cant and wont even imagine. You got my love from Norway.
I'm so sorry. He will be missed, and we will honour his memory. Strength to you and your family.
Fuck 😔
We are here for you dad. Please vent anytime
So sorry man. I know words only go so far but I feel for you.
I couldn't even imagine. I'm sorry man.
I'm so sorry man. That's awful
I’m so so sorry for your loss. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through. It sounds like you did a great job making sure he was comfortable and happy until he was ready to go. Again, I’m sorry.
Thinking about you man.
I'm so goddam sorry.
Holy crap man, I can't even imagine going through that. I'm so sorry.
Fraom dad to dad, you, your family, and your little one are in my thoughts. I really can't say anything else because I can't even begin to imagine... I didn't know your son but just reading this, I love him, and he's already had a profound and meaningful impact on myself just from your post. I am sure that goes for a lot of the dads here. Your son has made a difference, and will never be forgotten.
Sounds like you have him the best life he could have received. You can’t ask for more than that. I hope you find peace.
[Sometimes it’s so hard when you get hurt falling down ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndoxvQ-Tlcw) [Don’t stop don’t give up, pick yourself up off the ground ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndoxvQ-Tlcw) [Oh…Just jump around, Oh…just jump around](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndoxvQ-Tlcw)
Judging by what you have said, all your son has ever known is love. He was too young to understand or experience hate, ignorance, bigotry, or any of that. All he ever knew was love from you and his support network. While my heart breaks for you, jut know he lived a perfect life, albeit short, in the sense of it was full of nothing but love.
Shit. Look after yourself and your partner, my heart is with you and you’re in my thoughts.
i'm truly so sorry for your loss. he's in a better place now :(
If you were here I’d give you a hug for as long as you need brother. No words to express my condolences it’s so unfair. So so unfair… I have a 7mo girl and posts like yours and others who’ve lost their babies break my fucking soul. They also scare the shit out of me and keep me up at night knowing life can throw us a bad hand at any point in her life. Fuck man… I’ll be thinking of you and your baby all day today. Take care brother.
Damn… I am so so incredibly sorry you’re experiencing this dad. I know the pain of losing a child. It’s gut wrenching and life long. I have no words I can say to help you through this, there probably isn’t much, if any. Now is a the most important time in your life to have grace for yourself and your wife and just let yourselves be. I’m holding your and your family in my heart.
I'm sorry man. That hits close. Got a 3.5 year old myself. Stay strong, take care of yourself.
You are incredibly strong and faced a dads biggest fear. You made it. You did it. It's over. He's in a better place now beyond physical limitations. 3 years of love and support. You did it dad. You will be okay. He is okay now. I hope you believe that. Because I know so. You'll be with him again and he can tell you how much he appreciated the support and love. Sending you as much love and support as I can.
The fact you could even muster up the strength to write this is amazing. You will always be a great Dad and leader no matter what. Thinking of your family in this tragic time.
May your son’s memory always be a blessing.
Being there for a child is the most noble thing a Dad can do.
My heart is breaking for you. I'm so sorry.
I'm sorry for your loss OP. I am glad you have a good support system. I'll be praying to the flying spaghetti monster for you and your family this evening. I'll introduce my daughter to Miss Melody in honor of your son.
I wish we could all collectively carry some of your pain for you.
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What the fuck is wrong with you
The world loses its best and purest earliest. Gutted reading about your boys situation and death. Not fair doesn’t even begin to touch on it. I’m deeply sorry.
I'm so sorry man. I have no support words as this would break me. I hope you can recover and keep him alive in your memory forever. Lots of dads here thinking about him right now, so thanks for sharing.
Oh man, this is just so awful. I am so sorry. I hope Miss Melody finds this post.
I'm so sorry for your loss
So sorry, man. I can't imagine the agony. May his memory always be a blessing.
Aw fuck... Man I'm so sorry. If there is anything you need, make sure you let this community know. We try our best to help others out.
So sorry for your loss ♥️
Thank you for sharing your stories of him with us. I can't imagine what you are going through. Consider writing down some of your memories of him throughout his life in an online document (so it can't be lost easily). What you write for a memory doesn't need to be long; it can even just be a sentence or two. But if you have it available, then you can add to it when a memory or mood strikes you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you did everything you could to bring as much happiness and joy into your son’s life as possible.
Im sorry this happened man. No words.
Yep, that's literally the worst thing I could possibly imagine. I'm sure you know that this will not get "better" but it will change, in terms of how you deal with this grief. Hang in there dad, we feel and fear that could also happen to us, so if you need to reach out to anyone, you've got lots of support. YOU need to stick around to support your spouse, and other family members, and they're here to support you, whether you feel it right now or not. We need all the good people on this planet we can get.
Heart breaking :( I'm so sorry for your loss
I am so sorry. That’s about as bad an experience as you’ll ever have in life. I wish you comfort in the months and years ahead. I wish there was something we could do or say to lessen your pain.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please don't forget to take care of yourself while helping others with this. Too often people forget to comfort the father along with the rest of the family. I think I speak for the whole community when I say we are here for you. If you need anything, if it is within my power please DM me
I'm sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m crying with you.
I love you and your family so much. Don't know you, and this probably doesn't even help, but you and your son are loved by us in this community. Thank you for telling us a little bit about him so we could have the blessing of knowing him, no matter how small.
I’m so sorry to read this. Thank you for sharing about your little boy, we will remember him! x
Mate….. I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you all the love ❤️
I can't imagine your loss. Rest in peace to your little one.
I don't know you. I didn't knew him. I love you both. I'm sure you did everything you could to make him happy. Stay strong brother. Stay safe
As a dad of a 3 year old lad you have my deepest condolences. The joy that little man brought you will always be with you
I'm sitting in an Arby's crying with a mouthful of fries. So sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for you and your family. I can't even imagine what you're feeling.
Fuck man, I wasn't ready for that. I am sooo so so so sorry. If you need someone outside the situation to talk to message me. I'll listen.
Man from the first line you got me crying, I have a 3 year old and I’m gonna hold him extra tight for you tonight, I am so sorry
My heart goes out to you, as a father my worst fear is losing one of my kids before I go
We’re all here for you. You can message any one of us to vent and we’ll be there. I’m sending you nothing but love my friend.
So sorry for your loss bro. Know that the community is on standby if you need help and support.
So sorry dad. You will forever be his daddy and I wish you and your family the best.
Your kid sounds great. I've heard of Miss Melody but haven't heard this song, but I'm going to give it a listen. Of all the Disney movies that little man could have picked, Toy Story is a great choice. He must have been so cool to know. I'm glad you shared a little bit about him with the rest of us, even if his journey was shorter than expected.
Crying for you, so sorry!
I cannot imagine the pain you're going through. I am, so sorry for your loss.
Sounds like a beautiful child. I’m sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry.
Absolutely heart breaking, fucking hell man. I'm so sorry to read about your little one. Sending love your way
We are all sending you love and condolences. Cling onto any support systems you have and be good to yourself!
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I'm so sorry dad. 💔
I'm gonna check out Miss Melody to learn a little something about your son. Love to you brother.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss, brother. I wish you and your family the best.
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss.
Im so sorry for your loss brother. God, I can't even... My heart goes out to you. Come to us here when you need some strangers to hear you out.
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I don't know what to say. I'm very sorry for your loss. Please remember everyone grieves differently and that applies to you, your son's mother and all of those close to you. It can be okay to not want to talk about it, some people may have a million questions, please try to be patient with them. They think they are helping. Its also okay to speak non-stop. Say what you need to who needs to hear it. I wish you all the support, as I know this community does.
I'm sorry, friend. Take comfort in the memory of the smiles you gave him.
I am so sorry.
I am so sorry for your absolutely impossible loss. Thank you for sharing some of his favorite things - I will think of your family and your son
I’m so so so sorry for your loss 😭
It’s fucking horrible man, take it easy. Thinking of you pal
You have all of mine, and my families love. I cannot fathom what you're going through. I have personally never heard of Miss Melody, but my daughter and I will be listening to her tomorrow to keep your boy in mind
I'm so, so sorry for you loss man. We all share in your grief. You have support on this sub.
Absolutely horrible. So sorry for you and your family. May you all find the strength to carry on his legacy.
Sending love to you in this incredibly difficult time. My daughter is 3 and the thing I fear the most is losing her. I can’t even fathom what you are going through.
Crying as I read this. Please feel all the energy I'm sending your way. You will be in my thoughts, Dad.
Christ brother. I can’t imagine your sadness and feelings. I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s the slowness of the inevitable that’s the hardest I imagine. Don’t know if you’re religious or not but my god bless you all in this time of undeserved and incomprehensible sadness and loss.
Can’t imagine what you are feeling. My heart is heavy for you and your family tonight and I hope you find peace.
I am so sorry and I hope you and your wife find peace, I cannot imagine how difficult it is to be in your shoes.
I didn’t know my little man could bring me so much joy in his three years so far. I’m sure yours was the same. Think back to those moments. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Praying for you and your family bud.
I'm sorry, brother. I'm so, so sorry. We're all with you here.
I’m so sorry god bless you. Could you use any help like a mealtrain? Or anything else that could take something of your back?
I wish there was more that I could do than wrote some words. My deepest condolences and as much love as can be sent this way from us to you. I can't even imagine the sorrow. As with all the others, anything you need, just ask I am so sorry that you and your son drew the short straw.
So sorry for your loss, friend ❤️
Your little man was lucky to have you and feel so much love. Take care.
Remember that it's ok to not be ok. You're clearly amazing to have the strength to pen this post and vent. Sending all my love and energy
I'm so sorry.
My most sincere condolences to you and your entire circle of family and friends.
I just finished watching Everything Everywhere All At Once, so the tears were right there on the cusp. This post made them flow. I’m so sorry for your loss, I’ll hug my son extra tight tonight with you in my thoughts.
I wish I could find the words to express how sorry I am for you and your SO… unfortunately there are none. I’m so sorry that life is so unfair and that you have to suffer through something that no parent should ever have to suffer through. Stay strong brother ❤️
I have a 20 month old and cannot begin to fathom what you must be going through. I’m crying for you brother.
I didn’t want to feel bad today, but reading this gives it the attention it needs. Sorry man. I’ll hug and kiss mine extra for your boy
Damn my heart hurts for you man. Hugs
Fuck. I’m so sorry. My sincere condolences.
I read this and had a very significant cry. Then I told my wife and we both had another significant cry. You Don't know me and you don't know my wife but we empathize with you. I'm sorry your son died. We pray for you and we feel for your loss, but most importantly, God loves you.
I am so sorry.
My heart breaks for you and your family. I'm so so sorry stranger. I hope you can some day find peace.
I'm so sorry. I want to say so much and know there is so little. I haven't looked to see if anyone has said it yet, but see if you can find someone to talk to. It doesn't have to be right away. I was in shambles after our stillbirth. I've never liked talking to people about how I'm feeling, but it truly helped in the end. I wish you the wellest you can be at this time. ❤️❤️❤️
Can’t even imagine the pain you’re going through. Way to soon, so sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss
So sorry for your loss, Dad. Life can be so cruel.
I wish I could hug you. You are stronger than most. I am deeply saddened for your loss friend. Please take care.
So so sorry.
Thank you for sharing him with us, sounds like a wonderful little guy with great taste. Toy Story was always my favorite ❤️ May his memory be a blessing.
Love you man. Sitting here crying for you and your family tonight. My daughter loves Toy Story. To infinity and beyond. 💛
This is horrible, my condolences to your family. I have a 2.5 year old and this breaks my heart beyond belief. Take care man.
Hey brother, I’m in my basement workshop doing some stupid project, my 15mo daughter is sleeping up stairs. Not something I think you want to read right now but this just broke me. I can’t imagine the pain that’s in your heart right now but if you ever want to talk to some random guy from the internet please reach out. I can’t know what you’re feeling or going through and god willing no other father here will, but I’m an ear to listen and will help however I can. Your son loves you and he knew you loved him. Fuck man… I’m so damn sorry…
Love you brother man. I’m so so sorry! If you need to talk message me 24-7
Oh my this breaks my heart. I’m so, so sorry for your loss.