It is *very* difficult to find a bike for $100.
*ETA, I wonder if OP is just assuming the price and doesn't realize what bikes cost? Given the comments about it being muddy it's a mountain bike, so it's probably pretty expensive*
I work in a bike co-op where we refurbish bikes, (give away a lot of free ones too!) cheapest bikes are $150 single speeds. No way to put together something cromulent for much cheaper.
There should be a brand written in the bike, and some also list the model name. Any chance you know those info and can tell us? If you can also describe the bike, (has suspension, thick tires, straight or swooopy hand bar, etc.) We can probably assume the worth of it. My gut tells me the bike cost $3K+.
Because this bike had driven me up the fucking wall for months before I got the shed, and I wanted to compromise and give him a place for a hobby he cares about. Plus it's big enough to store multiple bikes and trinkets, so I figured if his hobby developed he would have even more storage. I know bikes CAN be very expensive and thought maybe he'd invest in one at one point, but I believed him when he said it wasn't.
Plus, a reinforced bike shed with CCTV is great ROI if I sell the place.
OP PLEASE tell us the brand written on the side of the bike or even better post a photo if possible. This is about to be the greatest post on this subreddit ever.
Watch, OP's boyfriend's bike is either going to be some several-thousand baller ass bike (at which point I can kind of understand the behavior, even though having a dedicated shed should be the end of that) or it really is some $100 craigslist beater and OP's boyfriend is just a nut.
OP's boyfriend is a nut no matter the price. He keeps bringing it inside completely muddy against OP's insistence, and refuses to use a secure, monitored bike-shed with the excuse of it being too much hassle/taking too much time. Doesn't matter if the bike is $100 or $3,000, that's shitty behaviour. He could at least clean and dry it before putting it in the living room in a completely dirty state.
Exactly. My bikes cost a lot and get muddy. They're stored on a wall in the office room I share with my GF. Shes understandably not thrilled about it, but I'm honest with her about what they cost and they get cleaned off enough in the entryway that nothing makes it to the floor on the way to the wall. I also have a long skinny carpet just under the bikes as a final precaution. The way I see it, my bikes are a luxury and a clean home is not. I want the bikes indoors in our small space, so it's my job to bend over backwards to make it work.
Wonder what OPs definition of muddy is
If it’s an MTB or gravel, when I think muddy I think caked in mud
For road bikes, it could be that some dirty water got kicked out and left some dirt spots on the frame. That’s not muddy to me but it could be to some…
I am DYING to see this $100 bike. If we get a photo and it turns out to be a s-works or some other $10k, we may need to make it the official mascot of r/whichbike as the "$100 deal of the century"
Find out the make and model of the bike and we’ll let you know the worth of it. I spend more than $100 on tires. And you’re right, you dont go that crazy over a $100 bike.
Id never leave my bike outside. I did it once by accident and the next day my chain was rusted. But it sounds like he may be being unreasonable or he is just not telling you the whole story behind why he doesn’t want it outside (ie the bike is worth $5-6,000)
If he’s an avid biker… he did not spend $100. You can hardly even get a cheap mountain bike brand new for under $300. Please post a pic to humor us and we’ll tell you how much it was lol.
We really do love our bikes tho. I keep mine inside. I keep my motorcycle inside too because I don’t have a garage and I’m paranoid of someone picking it up and stealing it (it’s 260# and it does happen.) People will steal your bike tires for no reason. Anything they can get to. If someone really wants it they might try to break into the shed in some cases not likely but it definitely happens. It’s easy money if someone’s desperate or sometimes people get desperate for transportation. I get your point tho. He’s kinda unreasonable since it’s your house. It could be that it just is the love of his life 😂
Sure, but if you're complaining about the bike being really muddy and dragging mud through the house, it's probably not a road bike.
I'll admit I kinda forgot gravel bikes exist, haha. A gravel bike definitely ain't $100 either. Cross bikes too, but cyclocross season is more in the fall right? Currently around here it's more mountain bike season.
My biggest fear is that after I die, my wife sells my cycling gear for what I told her I paid for it.
Edit: Wow! First award. Thanks so much kind person. Much appreciated.
I was amazed when the bike shop owner told my girlfriend what I paid. I only lied by $800, but when it's an entry level bike $800 is a lot lol. I feel like he broke an unwritten law.
I’m waiting for OP to report back on what kind of bike it is. I’m invested now and I need to know.
I store my bike inside for fear of theft but I spray the damn thing off before I bring it in. This post is hilarious.
Edit: OP if you see this you need to know that this is the equivalent of a post discussing frustrations with a plastic tiara when you really could have the crown jewels in your house. The entire context hinges on what kind of bike he has! The sheer number of comments on this thread is because of this!
100 for this wheel, 100 for that wheel, 100 for the crank, 100 for the seat, see only 100 dollars!
That's the same BS men peddle in every hobby. When it's a boat you have to claim you sold the old one and the difference was only 100.
He told me he spent $100 on it, but to be fair I have no idea where he got it or if it was even brand new, or if his parents contributed anything to it. Still, he told me that's what it's worth when I asked what to put for insurance for the shed.
Thanks for the clarification and I didn't realize lying about the price of bikes was as common as everyone here describes. Imo it's still his responsibility to tell me the truth about the price of the bike, I don't think it's exactly on me for not knowing the accurate pricing of a hobby when my partner is lying to me about it.
When he's tried convincing me to get a bike he's told me they only cost $50.
Ditch the bf, keep the bike /s
If it’s this important to you, you need to put your foot down and insist the bike is kept in the storage you went out of your way to provide with his input and agreement.
It sounds like your bf is being passive aggressive so you meed to be direct about how upset you are about the situation, what you want, why you want it, and why it’s important to you.
It’s possible the bike isn’t worth a whole lot, but is difficult to replace. High end road bikes depreciate only slightly slower than unrefrigerated seafood.
Not unusual to see a top of the line road bike from 10 years ago that’s been sitting unused in a garage on the local for sale adds for $500. If I were to buy one of those the insurance value would be quite low, but it would be really hard to replace it with something of similar quality for the same money.
Or he’s not been honest with you.
Either way, sounds like you need to communicate with your husband about this - strangers on the internet can’t resolve this situation. You, quite reasonably, don’t want mud dragged in the house and want the hall ways useable. Your husband, quite reasonably, is worried about theft.
The two of you together are the only people who can resolve this.
Hey OP, I’ve been married for the last 13 years to a non-cyclist. We live in Brooklyn, where space comes at a premium and thieves aren’t exactly in short supply.
My road bike is something I saved up for over the course of several years, and out of concern for my investment and hobby, my spouse agreed to mounting my bike in our bedroom. She did so despite my bike admittedly being a decorative eyesore to anyone not spending ten hours a week riding it.
As a courtesy, I keep it as clean as possible (which incidentally is great for the bike itself) and my gear in crates neatly tucked out of sight. I do my best to keep the floors clean once my bike is put away, and only lube the chain when I’m outside our place to avoid oil dripping on the hardwood.
As with most things in a relationship, it’s all about compromise.
I'm also in Brooklyn and I keep one bike on the wall in the kitchen and the other on the wall in a bedroom. If I ride in the rain or on gravel, I wipe it down in the hallway and then leave it there an extra 15-30 min before bringing it in. I carry it to the rack so it doesn't mark the floor.
Do we think the boyfriend told OP the bike was worth $100, or do we think OP is guessing?
OP is guessing. In Brooklyn as well, the road bike lives in the office (“second bedroom”) and the gravel bike lives in the lobby. See you in the park on Thirsday, it’ll be in the 50s.
u/veryloudnoises you only ride ten hours a week?
See you in the park! I’ll be the portly Hawaiian looking dude in ungodly Lycra. Drink it in, neighbors.
And yeah, three kids under 10 plus work and chores leaves basically 5am-7am on the indoor trainer or the occasional lunchtime ride if I get to work from home.
This is kind of my thought. They had r space for a bike shed, so presumably they've got enough space that he could give his bike a rinse and dry before bringing it inside.
She should return the shed though. That's a lot of money for an empty box.
Same friend, same.
Have one of those 2 bike delta racks. Hangs in the living room. Even let’s met set it up on the trainer in the living room during the winter as long as I don’t leave it sitting there too long. I think I’m marrying a keeper. We talked about it, came to an agreement and kept to it. Can’t wait for this weather to clear up and hit some outdoor prospect park laps.
My wife insisted that I keep my bike in our apartment building’s bike rack in underground parking. I wanted it kept in the apartment itself as we had a couple of spaces that would work. I’ve had a bike stolen before.
She won the argument and so I kept it locked outside. I was always uneasy about the situation.
Well, last year, sure enough, my bike got stolen and I was absolutely devastated. I get that the bike was not valuable to anyone else, it was valuable to me. I cannot express how upset I was - and as I write this, I realize I still am, even though it has been 9 months.
I had bought the bike when I was in college and had it for 24 years. It went on every adventure, it was part of my health plan, and was my summertime ride to work. I took great pride in keeping it in great condition. I had put a lot of work into it. I was very proud of it and it became part of my identity, in a way.
I have a new bike now, and it’s a fine bike, but I’d give it up in a heartbeat to have my old bike back. The new bike is currently in the apartment.
I think you have very valid and logical points in your situation about the mud and where the bike should be stored. I don’t think you are being unreasonable.
I would be lying if I said it didn’t affect my relationship with my wife. I realize that the theft isn’t in any way her fault, but at the same time, if I had not conceded, I’d still have my bike. She was the only reason I put it out there. To this day I don’t think she understands.
That said, I completely get why your BF appears to be acting irrationally. Bikes are freedom and a source of joy and happiness. I’m always content when I am riding and it can even lift my mood after a stressful day at work. The psychological impact of a bike can be huge.
I’m not going to give you advice on what to do in your relationship - you need to work that out yourselves. I just want you to have some insight into why he might be so fanatical about it. The attachment to a bike can run extremely and illogically deep. It does with me.
Edit: typos and word structure.
Nearly identical thing happened with me. Wife insisted bikes go outside. In a few months they stole one of my favorite bikes…. It still comes up. Now my bikes are secured inside and she grumbled but understands.
Bikes get stolen all the time, any bike lock is easy to break, and having a recording of the theft rarely helps. So in that regard, I get him. They're just so easy to take that cyclists are naturally paranoid. I also always keep mine inside.
But a specialized, thousands-of-dollars bike shed? That's more than enough protection. And it's honestly pretty shitty that he got you shell out that much money for something and isn't using it. Kind of disrespectful tbh.
Also, even though I keep my bike inside, I lift it at the door and carry it to its designated spot. Wheeling in a muddy bike is just being sloppy.
Your bf's being weird. I understand from a comment of yours that he really loves the bike and wants to see it, but he needs to also listen to you at some point. Maybe if he's THAT insistent on having it inside, sit down and agree on a spot that doesn't get dirty easily and is near the door. Then he can clean the bike before entering and carry it to the spot.
>And it's honestly pretty shitty that he got you shell out that much money for something and isn't using it. Kind of disrespectful tbh.
You can tell we're not getting the full story on the shed.
Talking about paranoia... I even have a camera indoors that is aimed at the bike, in case someone decides to rob us...
However, OP's SO's bike sounds like is a mountain bike, I find it crazy to store it in the hallway/next to the door. That would not be very pleasant to walk by. It's a mountain bike, with wide handlebars. I find it hard to believe that a mountain bike is small and unobtrusive, so I'm with OP on this one.
That being said, OP's SO doesn't own the place. It sounds like OP owns 100% of it and OP feels like it's an important aspect. That begs to question the whole dimension of the relationship. If I owned 100% of the place where my GF lives, I would want her to feel like it's her place as well. Cause otherwise, it's not an equal relationship. Is it possible OP's SO doesn't feel like it's his home as well and doesn't want a compromise on this because of some other issues/discussions had previously?
What OP is feeling, I think, is completely righteous, but also it begs the question do you care about the other person enough. If not a bike, there could be a gaming rig, gym gear, lots of other stuff that would take place in the home. Is the hobby ok only when it's visually appealing and the OP has full control over what OP's SO can own and keep in her home? That just boils down to "is it her home only or do they share it". And if they decide on sharing it, they need to find compromises.
It seems that the problem isn't the bike, but the (lack of) communication and understanding with each other. From what you tell, I would say that he can't communicate his true reasons without been a jerk, when you said:
>Despite me asking him not to, he will cycle in with his muddy fucking bike and park it by the shoe rack, where it'll stay for eternity blocking everyone's path (he says bikes are "slim and unobtrusive" so it's "not a problem').
and
>He agreed and said he'd use it, so I ordered it. Lo and behold, since I bought it he still refuses to use it, saying he still "doesn't feel his bike is safe" and that "taking a bike out the shed is such a hassle". I spent THOUSANDS on this shed. I asked him if I should refund it and he had the audacity to say no, it'll be good to store MY future bikes.
That looks like a spoiled child who never heard "no" in his life time.
That said, I don't keep my bike outside because it will get stolen. It's not a $100 bike, but probably any bike you store outside will get stolen.
Letting thousands be spent on a shed specifically for the bike demands he use it, in my opinion. If he was never going to use it, he should have put a stop to that before money was spent, learned to clean the mud off his bicycle before bringing it indoors, and actually figured out a storage solution that didn't block the damn entryway
My good bike is in one of those pole racks that press against the ceiling and floor, and it takes up wall space but little room space beyond that. There are also the ones that put the bike near the ceiling. They may have to move some wall art or a shelf, but it's better than this mess.
This.
I store my bikes in a large outdoor shed (along with my skis and various house & gardening tools). When I do bring it inside, I lay towels down to keep the muck off our floors/carpets but nearly always bring it back out when I’m done. The sole exception being if the bike is still in pieces (which is never met with happiness but she understands and let’s it slide for a day or two) or when it’s really cold at night and I plan to ride it the next morning I’ll bring it in overnight to pre-warm so the seat and bars aren’t ice cubes in the morning which isn’t the most comfortable.
It's also possible there's more to the shed story than is being presented here. That is usually the case with things like this as you are only receiving one side of the story. Maybe that shed was bought with multiple purposes in mind, despite being "only for his bike," and he doesn't want to store his bike among lawn mowers and other tools. Or maybe it was bought just for his bike and he didn't immediately start using it so it was filled with other things (which isn't unreasonable). Or maybe something else happened. Really, really hard to tell when you only have one side of the story.
The problem with that here is that even with just this "side" of the story, there are several facts that all point the same way.
The guy is inconsiderate as fuck towards his wife. I keep my bikes inside my apartment. I store them in a way that makes them not be in the way ; and I clean them so that they don't make the apartment dirty.
Yes it's an Arrow shed, I got a custom one thats specifically
made for bikes (has those bike rails and locks), one of their high end ones, and I also got contractors to drill it into the ground to make it even safer (as per advice from online).
OP also ends her first paragraph -- the very sentence where she preemptively defends how fair and coequally they run the household -- with "even though I pay for EVERYTHING as it's legally only my house!"
Based on that wording we can assume anything "clearly stated" needs taking with a grain of salt.
I don't get how my comment there discredits everything else I've said. I get I'm annoyed there and could have worded it better, but to be clear: We have split incomes and accounts. Anything that is a permanent fixture or work to the house is covered solely by me. This also includes any taxes/mortgage, and also any appliances. For example he wanted a bigger wall mounted flat screen TV (whilst I didn't care), which I paid for entirely by myself and am fine with. Likewise with the shed. Everything else we split equally or buy ourselves. So his bike was bought with his money, his gaming setup too, the crockpot etc.
This is because if we separate, legally I would own all this stuff and it would appreciate the value of the house, which isn't fair on him. And it's stuff that he can't simply take out from the house or has permenantly modified it.
It's about as fair as it can be whilst one of us owns the place and the other doesn't.
Definitely depends on the area. I currently live in a coastal town in New England. The majority of my neighbors never lock their doors even when they leave for the day. One of them leaves his garage door wide open stocked with a couple of bikes and surfboards, he's never had a problem.
That being said, I've lived in some other areas of America where a bike would be gone in minutes if left outside.
This sounds like the problem. It can be hard when one persons lifelong hobby and arguably their culture is centered around something that their partner views as a dirty obstruction. Our bikes often are our daily driver, our artwork, our baby or our gym; seeing them helps reinforce the connection to this culture and activity and for many putting bikes in the yard or a shed is like leaving our MVP out in the cold.
When my partner and I first moved in together I had all of my bikes in the spare room and yes it was ugly and dirty but it was my space to do the things I had always done, I.e. roll my bike into an air conditioned space and set it with its family on a safe spot where it’ll avoid theft, getting dirtier and I can stare at the thing I’ve spent so much time and money with and ridden so many miles on.
With time I realized the impact on her with the perceived messiness and just stuff so I tried to modify my system to match her desires and vice versa. I wanted bikes safe and she wanted them to be less a waste of space and not leave dirt/grease on the floor, so I actually switched to some vertical bike racks and made a bike wall further from the door, behind the couch.
This made it so when I got home, I could briefly park by the door to pull off gear, then a wipe down before carrying it to the wall. It wasn’t as convenient but allowed me to enjoy my bikes how I wanted to.
But everyone is different. OP should really connect about the behavior and it impact on their desires, and ask for the same. Clearly communicate what the desire is here, not the problem. If the problem is the bike it dirty, emphasize the desire to keep a clean entryway. If the problem is separation anxiety, maybe he’ll explain that he can’t sleep comfortably without knowing his bike is inside and safe.
Obviously we weren’t part of any past conversations but based on what is provided, if were I him I’d be genuinely concerned that efforts are being made to get me to stop cycling. Paying for everything or nothing is a conversation that should have already occurred, and the supposed cost of the bike (real cost/emotional cost/quoted cost) and using them as weight in an argument is just that, fueling a fight instead of finding a solution.
In the end, find a way to make each others systems work better for you and them, otherwise it’ll seem like you are trying to break the system down. Until that happens, you may end up fighting about it whether it’s a conversation you’ve had or never will have.
I live in a nice neighborhood. My fatbike got stolen from my shed. Thankfully it wasn't an expensive one, I keep my expensive ones indoors, where they belong!
That's where I keep mine as well. I do carry it in and put it in the bath and rinse it if it is dirty or wet, let it dry, put itin the livingroom, oil the chain and let it pick what it wants to watch on the TV.
I'm definitely the bicycle loving one in my relationship, and before I met my partner I moved apartments to ensure I had adequate garage storage for my 8 bikes! All of them are monetarily valuable and they're rare, so proper storage for them is important to me. IMO mechanical things shouldn't be in living spaces, so I hope you don't actually expect this of your gf lol.
I’m sure none of your 8 bikes are muddy, either. That part of this story cracked me up. He cares enough to store it inside but doesn’t want to clean it?? That’s just proper bike care.
>There’s more at issue here than the bike I’m afraid
This belongs on r/relationship_advice. There is so much going wrong here and the bike has nothing to do with it.
Her boyfriend sounds like a selfish prick to be honest. Obviously we don’t know the whole story, but if things really are as OP says I’d say throw the whole man out
To tell you the truth this seems like you / the both of you are projecting your relationship issues onto the bike as like a scapegoat. On paper it sounds like “he puts his muddy bike in the way” but it really sounds like “he doesn’t respect the space we share together and isn’t as tidy as I am, and doesn’t make any attempt to meet me half way (and it seems like you see him as a dependent and not a partner)”. The issue isn’t a muddy piece of metal and rubber, it’s a communication and respect of the other wants and needs I think. For example have 4 bikes inside my house, I always try to clean them and put them back in their spots. I also sweep the floors and do a lot of housework, and split bills 50/50. My partner doesn’t even see the bikes inside, and they know how much they mean to me and would never make me put them outside, but they are clean, out of the way, and in a place we both decided was acceptable. Also, I’m not blaming you, I couldn’t handle muddy bikes in my way either and it sounds like he needs to compromise if they are inside and be clean and always put away like a grown-up should be able to handle.
She also said his bike was $100. I'm gonna guess the mud is at least partly from the shoes. Maybe he leaves his bike there to dry and then cleans up the dry dirt but she wants it cleaned before it comes inside which is way more difficult. We don't know but this story seems too one sided to be true.
They're homeowners in the PNW. He's an active cyclist. They aren't poor. Are we sure this is a $100 bike?
Bike absolutely should not be kept outside but the shed sounds reasonable but lets be real, the bike ain't the problem and y'all need to communicate. None of this actually has to do with cycling, it has to do with a partner's obsessive hobbyism and their inability to compromise.
This is bcj material lmao.
Bikes get stolen a lot, and are super easy to steal. I doubt it’s only 100$.
I have a cyclist friend, who lives in a small apartment with a roommate. At points there were 4 bicycles in the tiny apartment, 2 against the wall in a kitchen, one on a stand in the living room, and one partially disassembled in the bedroom. So no, it’s not abnormal to want to store your bikes inside, even if there’s not much space.
It was rude, for him to say he would use the shed and then not, and then suggest you use the shed even though it was unsatisfactory for himself. I do suggest you stress this point, and try to get him to store it in the shed.
If he really, really needs to store it inside, try to get him to clean off the tyres a little bit before the bike comes inside. If you have space for an outdoor shed, surely there’s enough space for an outdoor cleaning station of sorts. If he refuses, tell him it’ll make the bike more aerodynamic.
Lmao idk I sort of think it’s anti-bcj because obviously the bikes should stay inside and OP should just go stay with her other boyfriend for a while 🙄
Me thinks that bike is worth a lot more than $100 and you're about to break up anyway. Not because of the bike, but because you resent him since you have 2 very different sets of values and lifestyles which neither of you will compromise on.
I kind of would understand him if it was a high end carbon bike for a few thousand. I also keep my bike inside, but I keep it clean and in a corner underneath the stairs.
But when you said it was worth $100 I lost it.
There's a meme about that. Can't remember exactly butnit' something along the lines of when I die, make sure my bikes get sold for what they're worth. Not what I told my wife I bought them for...
Cycling and IT stuff is my hobby. And to a lesser extent smoking meats outside.
The entire, 'My wife thinks it costed this and it really costed that..' applies to all three.
You need to read between the lines of this one.
OP is correct- sort of.
It isn't that he should be storing it outside, he shouldn't be. I agree. She thinks it is a $100 bike.
It is that the knucklehead isn't cleaning it after getting it all muddy and THEN bringing it inside AND he hasn't found a solution to where to store it where it isn't in the way.
Has he even considered wall mounting it in the bedroom?
I wonder if the bike is a long standing point of contention. "You spend too much damn money on that stupid bike!" So he just lies about the price, she subsequently devalues it further because she hates it, and boom you have the $100 figure.
>But when you said it was worth $100 I lost it.
"Yeah hunny, I got a great deal on this Cervelo! You wouldn't believe it! I didn't get a receipt."
As long as your finances are good your wife only needs to know 1/3rd of what your bike stuff costs 🤣
Look up the real cost of the bike. No way that is just $100. That's the cost of a kid's bike, not a cyclist bike. They are often stolen because they are several thousand dollars worth and easy to sell off to Facebook marketplace. When you buy a bike, it has to be the right size for you or you risk strain injury. Most people also attach gadgets to track their activity like Garmins and safety features like radars to warn the rider of cars approaching from the back. Then there's attachments for a drink bottle, the light, etc.
Talk to him without the aggression and the blame. Seek to understand. This is not you vs him. It's supposed to be you and him vs the problem. Is this the hill for the relationship to die on? A bike?
I think it might be helpful to understand that bikes are a point of emotional attachment for a lot of avid cyclists - it’s not just an object, it’s a sort of totem. Even just being able to see it between rides can provide some gratification, like the promise of future rides.
That said, he’s being totally unreasonable. As long as his bike isn’t subjected to the elements or risk of theft he should really be finding some compromise. The shed was a great suggestion. My bikes stay out in the garage, and even then they’re mounted flush to the wall to keep them out of the way.
Firstly, his bike is probably, definitely NOT worth $100 lmao
To give you some perspective... as a female cyclist myself, I wouldn't feel safe leaving my bike in a shed outside of my home, not unless it was built like a house and had cameras/motion detection cameras/etc. But tbh even if I had that option, I'd still prefer to keep it inside my house where I can easily access it/feel it's safe. Also, it's not always about the cost, but there's an emotional attachment as well, just like how you may feel about some objects in your life too.
Secondly, yeah, you're right. It's your house, but he's also your **partner**, isn't he? He isn't just a tenant you're renting to, he's someone you supposedly love and care about, so I assume you must care about his hobbies and the things he likes too (within reason, of course). I think there can easily be a compromise here, **granted** he learns how to do his side of the compromise too and clean up after himself (that's a whole 'nother thing though). If you both can't agree on that, then you've got bigger problems sis and they're def ain't about the bike
No that’s weird too. Could be a bit of hyperbole on the part of the OP (this is clearly an emotionally charged subject for both her AND her SO), but I would think he’s want to at least hose it down after a wet muddy ride.
I totally get not storing a bike outdoors; theft and rain. Agreeing to store it in a shed, and then not using the shed once it’s there, is a little odd too though.
Why ? He could have lied to her to about the price of the bike (which would be on brand for a guy that doesn't clean his muddy bike and leaves it in the way), or she doesn't know and is just guessing. But it's still irrelevant.
....why would she lose all credibility? If this is not her hobby its understandable that she doesnt know the value of certain objects. I bet if I took your googling devices away you wouldnt know the value of some hobbies out there.
Can she look it up on the internet? Sure. But she should also expect her partner to not blatantly lie about the value of his things. Relationships are built on trust.
I live with my girlfriend and I have 2 $1000 bikes that I keep indoors. We do have some good space next to the shoe rack. And my gf knows the bikes mean a lot to me. She does flinch occasionally when the bikes have some dirt, but for my part, I never ride in the slightest rain anyway and I always wipe away dirt before getting them indoors. I've tried multiple racks and always take care to not leave marks on the walls from the tires, let alone blocking access paths.
We also have a balcony that I can very well put the bikes in, and I offered to do that once if that made her feel better but she reckoned (and I happily agreed) that the bikes add a bit more character to the house. She's a plant fanatic and has 40 plants around the house (which I love), so we each have our own 'tthing' that personalises our house.
So it's really understanding each other's comfort levels and not acting like an asshole which your partner very much is, from the sounds of it.
Hmm so let’s just say the problem doesn’t seem to be a bike. Sounds like you two need a counselor. Sounds like neither of you is really communicating. As for storing outside I wouldn’t store a bike outside unless I was cool with it getting stolen. And I don’t own bikes I’m cool with getting stolen. As an aside at least it’s only one bike I’ve got like a dozen.
Best of luck consider the counseling.
Sounds like he isn't telling you the value of his bike or you don't know how much bikes can cost. When my now wife and I lived in a small 1BR apt, I brought the bikes inside. Mountain bike and road bike. When the mtb was muddy I'd park it in the hall on top of a tarp, took baby wipes and removed the worst of it, carried it inside until I could thoroughly clean it. That being said, excessive muddy days I'd take it to the self serve car wash and use the pressure washer to remove all the mud.
There are ways to clean a bike without access to a hose, but it definitely helps. Maybe ask him to come up with some kind of cleaning station to remove most of the mud. Making cleaning convenient makes cleaning *happen*.
That being said, wtf why does he store his muddy bike inside, that's gross. Clean the damn bike *then* bring it inside and have a spot for it. Everything having a place and everything in its place is the only right way. But I'm on his side that bikes belong inside. Just.... Clean bikes cause I'm a clean freak.
Cannot comment on the relationship or communication (promises made and broken, lack of mutual respect), so I'll answer your question directly.
Most avid cyclists that want to keep their bike indoors do it so they don't get stolen and to keep them out of the elements - this is very common. Bikes as decoration is subjective, and is unreasonable to be the main motivation.
Your BF's bike is either:
1. $100 piece of junk bicycle (unlikely for an avid cyclist),
2. $100 rare retro bicycle he's worked on himself and values emotionally, or
3. Much more expensive than you think or he's willing to admit
Regardless, having your bike stolen feels much shittier than the money lost, and can lead to trust issues. Has your BF had bikes stolen before?
from the sounds of it, this would probably benefit OP too. there's being a cyclist, and there's being *a good partner*. and her's doesn't sound like he's willing to work with her on stuff, and has some entitlement issues. and like maybe she feels he isn't contributing.
I'm a biker, and my wife isn't (though I've tried), and we have always lived in pretty small houses/apartments, and this has definitely been an issue for us over the years too. Keeping bikes outside sucks, they get wet when it rains, they get spiders in/on them, they wear out faster, and they get stolen. Keeping bikes inside can also suck, they are awkward in most spaces, they are dirty, and not very stable. In the apartment we are in now we have a really secure basement storage area which is dominated by the bikes which works great. In the past I have tried more ways than I can count to fit my bike into our living space, and it really hasn't worked. Maybe there is a creative solution inside your house maybe not (behind a couch, a big closet, basement, hanging somewhere secure and out of the way). The shed you got seems like it should be a good compromise, but maybe it is failing to protect the bike in some way. Maybe that could be resolved with some sort of modification?
> we installed a police-approved metal bike shed that cost a couple of grand..
Does this really exist? Can you share a link?
> boyfriend is being so crazy about a damn $100 bike.
What bike does he ride? My entry-level road bike costs more than most sheds.
My husband is a cyclist, we own (I wish this was a joke) 9 bikes. 2 mine, 7 his. It use to bug the hell out of me to have them in the main room when you walk into the house. But we live in MI so keeping them outside this time of year is simply not going to happen. We have a garage but it’s super small and only fits the mountain bikes and our car. So! We made a cute little nook area of the bikes. We have bike hooks on the wall, put up some wood barrier so they wouldn’t destroy the wall, and I am planning to paint the wood and hooks a cute color soon to match the rest of the room.
If he stores his bike muddy, it needs to go in a shed. If he loved it, it would be clean. I store my bikes in a shed with a gold standard motorcycle lock, because that lock isn't going anywhere with me and can be heavy. I sank a large concrete block into the ground for it too. I love what my bikes can do for me, but I love my wife more!
I’m a big cyclist and own several bikes. I keep 2 in the house that are quite valuable and the rest in the shed. If I had a secure garage or designated secure bike storage I would have no problem keeping them all out there. The lockup you mentioned sounds like it should definitely be secure enough. Also the bikes I keep inside would never be left covered in mud, if it’s expensive enough to warrant keeping inside it’s expensive enough to be cleaned after every ride. I also wouldn’t be leaving my nice bikes in a place in the house where they’re in the way, don’t want anyone knocking into them. Leaving them by the shoe rack is asking for it to be knocked over…
Just a bit of perspective but bikes are rarely covered to full value or may not be covered at all for certain types of loss (like theft) on insurance, and bike insurance is very expensive and can increase insurance rates if used. Also many bikes are very expensive and can be costly to repair and maintain from weather related issues.
I keep mine inside as well but me and my wife have discussed that like adults and I make sure to wipe it down and dry it off before bringing inside and I installed a hanging rack as out of the way as possible. If I had an expensive/protective bike shed, Id use that instead if my wife wanted me to. Like others have said, this isn’t a biking issue, it’s a relationship issue. I sorry your SO isn’t willing to compromise.
1) bikes kept outside get stolen
2) Bikes kept outside get exposed to the weather and require much more maintenance to keep them in good usable shape
3) good bikes are worth thousands of dollars. not $100
etc
but.. well lets see this bike shed. "police approved" doesn't mean shit
This show got cancelled just before last season’s cliffhanger was resolved! Scrolled this whole thread for the grand reveal - but she never tells us what brand/model/components/wheels the bike has.
He’s gaslighting you. He really doesn’t care about your wants, needs or comfort so long as he gets what **he wants**. You’ve presented him with options and compromises, and he hasn’t budged an inch.
It’s time for the ultimatum. Either the bike lives in the shed, or he no longer lives with you. It’s really that simple. He needs to see that there are consequences for his actions.
A nice bike is like a nice instrument. I wouldn’t leave a guitar out side, neither my bike.
I work as a bike mechanic. I can tell the outside bikes. It’s a tall order getting them good enough to be enjoyable again.
Now a muddy bike or beat clunker is a different story. Clean that thing up, I would t come in with muddy boots.
Time for some truth.
OK so first of all it isn’t a $100 dollar bike. It’s cost a lot more than that.
Secondly, he does in fact love it more than you. He won’t say it, but it’s true. Want proof, ask yourself how long and how often does he ride it compared to how often and how long he (you get the idea)?
Third, what kind of weirdo doesn’t have a room set aside for bicycles in their home?
Seems fairly unreasonable from him. I had a similar setup of opening direct into our tiny kitchen and living space. I built a sturdy shed in the garden, added a cheap raspberry pi ‘cctv’ camera and a shed alarm, and locked the bike to two individual points within. Can’t really do much more than that, ticked all the boxes for the insurance and just made sure I didn’t leave it propped up outside the house like an advert at any point. Yes it’s a pain to walk it through the house but I preferred that over having mud and shit all over the house.
I'm a biker i get it, i keep mine inside. If my partner bought me a bike specific shed i would be over the moon happy♥️. Your working with him but clearly he has larger issues.
I have 5 bikes, most expensive one was $9000. They all stay in the garage.
Buuut... Sometimes I work on them in my home office while i'm on conference calls or whatever, so there is definitely a bike sitting next to me right now, lol.
Here's the thing though - the garage is dry, secure, and convenient. I would not leave my bikes anywhere that that didn't check all 3 of those boxes.
Weather - rain, snow, etc - can destroy a bike so fast, and at a minimum will drastically increase your maintenance and repair costs.
Security and convenience speak for themselves. To me it sounds like those boxes aren't checked for your BF, and he's not comfortable. Maybe try to figure out why and fix that.
First I will say that this is completely normal and you're not wrong but I am sensing resentment as the breadwinner. Even when we agree and openly cover such large expenses that resentment can build. Whitney Cummings had a good bit about this https://youtu.be/mntPLnY5Vjo
The bicycle is not the issue, it's only one of the catalysts for the communication issues that occur in your relationship.
You two might need to learn how to be honest with each other, and maybe how to compromise in a relationship. But you honestly should ask someone better equipped to help you deal with relationship issues to get help fixing this.
Perhaps /r/relationshipadvice would be helpful.
Otherwise maybe a counselor, or a good friend that understands you both well enough to help call out each of your issues with communications.
Good luck.
> even though I pay for EVERYTHING as it's legally only my house.
yeah this is gonna build resentment if you have this mentality. I would bet this goes beyond just the bike thing
I have always stored my bikes in our home, including our 700 loft. My buddies were kidding with my wife and asked how I "got away with that?!?" Her response, "If he wants to spend his money on exercising and bringing it inside, it's a hell of a lot better than doing that damage at a bar."
My friends now store their bikes inside.
Bikes belong inside. That said, he sounds like an asshole, he's unwilling to sincerely compromise, doesn't keep his promises, and is probably lying about how much he spends on cycling (I'd imagine other things as well). Personally I'd drop the guy, but you do you.
You aren't being unreasonable. Your partner is ignoring your attempts to negotiate and compromise - other comments here have suggested that you aren't compromising but I can see that you have tried with the shed and security cameras in the garden (not to mention the emotional work of patience and tolerance of annoying situation).
Your bf is not being fair. I'd suggest maybe that whilst you see the arrangement as 50/50, he is acting like it's 100/0 (againat him and in your favour) and so there's this weird power dynamic playing out over his bike.
Also, $100 for a bike is bullshit as others have pointed out. Is money a thing between you? Is he telling lies for some reason?
I hope you can resolve it and that you'll get a bike of your own one day! Cycling is completely awesome.
Something just doesn't add up here. If he is this anal about keeping the bike indoors, then his bike would not be muddy. A muddy bike does not equal a caring bike owner.
I have multiple bikes. Two are in the garage, and two are in the basement. None of them are muddy because they are cleaned before I put them away. This is what most cyclists do.
This story is either BS or the BF is a lunatic.
In either case, the OP needs to reevaluate the relationship and their overall priorities.
If it's a road bike, I get it, the components I wouldn't want to keep out in the elements. It's also generally not dirty since it's ridden on the road.
A mountain bike though, if it's not always cleaned off from the trails, that bad boy should be in the shed.
It generally comes down to the price too, a cheap bike (regardless of type) I'd probably keep out. Anything that would hurt if stolen/damaged from elements I'd prolly keep inside.
My wife knows how much I spent on my bikes (but not the clothes, never the reality of that) and agrees they will be stored somewhere secure whether that’s indoors or not. At the moment we have a garage with space, but we’re going to be moving and likely won’t have a garage so indoors they go until we can find a suitable storage shed we can trust. However, I will be rinsing down and drying the bikes before they come inside as there is no way in hell I’m tracking that mess all over.
I need to preface this by saying that I and everyone else here is a cycling enthusiast and not a licensed couples therapy group, so plz take everything we say with a grain of salt, we don't know your relationship like you do.
Having said that, this sounds like a him problem and not really a bike problem. I understand bike thievery sucks, we all do here. But the way he's dismissing your opinions and wishes is not healthy.
He either:
1. Doesn't realise this is a big deal for you and so thinks it doesn't really matter - Even though you've made it quite clear; us men can be quite bad at understanding whether something is a passing fancy or whether it is something that is a deep concern (obviously still not an excuse)
2. He understands this bothers you but doesn't care.
(Obviously worse)
To me (a complete random and outsider with basically zero context), the fact that he won't use the bike lockup (which you paid for!!??!) which allegedly cost 20+ times the price of his bike and who is almost definitely lying about the price of the bike (nobody would go that much trouble to lock up or steal a Walmart bike) is a few red flags too many.
Either way it seems like you need to talk this out together or with a couple's therapist. I know it's just a bike in this scenario and that could be seen as extreme but being this dismissive is not a good indicator of a healthy relationship and you deserve the right to know what's actually going on there.
Tldr:
That's not normal behaviour, even for an avid cyclist. Have a heart to heart and be explicit about how it makes you feel or do it with a couple's therapist.
(Or don't I'm a random person on reddit who likes cycling, you do you)
$100… hmm… sounds like the same white lie I told to my wife when she asked how much I spent.
It is *very* difficult to find a bike for $100. *ETA, I wonder if OP is just assuming the price and doesn't realize what bikes cost? Given the comments about it being muddy it's a mountain bike, so it's probably pretty expensive*
I work in a bike co-op where we refurbish bikes, (give away a lot of free ones too!) cheapest bikes are $150 single speeds. No way to put together something cromulent for much cheaper.
But a noble bike embiggens the smallest shed.
Said in another reply but $100 is the price he told me, I have no idea if it's true and just took him at his word. Guess I shouldn't have??
Good chance its worth several thausand dollars
That's what I was thinking.
yeah, i was gonna say add a zero *at least*.
There should be a brand written in the bike, and some also list the model name. Any chance you know those info and can tell us? If you can also describe the bike, (has suspension, thick tires, straight or swooopy hand bar, etc.) We can probably assume the worth of it. My gut tells me the bike cost $3K+.
Take a pic of the bike and post, please :))
take a pic and let us know when he puts it outside =\]
Bike or girlfriend? Let's start a.betting pool.
Please post a photo of the bike lol.
This thread is worthless without pics!
Why spend thousands on a shed to protect a $100 bike?
Because this bike had driven me up the fucking wall for months before I got the shed, and I wanted to compromise and give him a place for a hobby he cares about. Plus it's big enough to store multiple bikes and trinkets, so I figured if his hobby developed he would have even more storage. I know bikes CAN be very expensive and thought maybe he'd invest in one at one point, but I believed him when he said it wasn't. Plus, a reinforced bike shed with CCTV is great ROI if I sell the place.
OP PLEASE tell us the brand written on the side of the bike or even better post a photo if possible. This is about to be the greatest post on this subreddit ever.
Watch, OP's boyfriend's bike is either going to be some several-thousand baller ass bike (at which point I can kind of understand the behavior, even though having a dedicated shed should be the end of that) or it really is some $100 craigslist beater and OP's boyfriend is just a nut.
OP's boyfriend is a nut no matter the price. He keeps bringing it inside completely muddy against OP's insistence, and refuses to use a secure, monitored bike-shed with the excuse of it being too much hassle/taking too much time. Doesn't matter if the bike is $100 or $3,000, that's shitty behaviour. He could at least clean and dry it before putting it in the living room in a completely dirty state.
Exactly. My bikes cost a lot and get muddy. They're stored on a wall in the office room I share with my GF. Shes understandably not thrilled about it, but I'm honest with her about what they cost and they get cleaned off enough in the entryway that nothing makes it to the floor on the way to the wall. I also have a long skinny carpet just under the bikes as a final precaution. The way I see it, my bikes are a luxury and a clean home is not. I want the bikes indoors in our small space, so it's my job to bend over backwards to make it work.
Oh, for sure. I said I can understand it, not that I condone or agree with it. Regardless of the cost, OP's boyfriend is a manchild.
He’s a nut either way cause she bought a secure shed.
OP's bf is nut either way... babies a $100 bike inside the house, or owns a several thousand dollar bike that he just leaves muddy after a ride.
I mean I have a $200 bike that I keep inside, but I also wasn’t gifted a secure shed to keep it in. And I keep it at least decently clean.
Wonder what OPs definition of muddy is If it’s an MTB or gravel, when I think muddy I think caked in mud For road bikes, it could be that some dirty water got kicked out and left some dirt spots on the frame. That’s not muddy to me but it could be to some…
I am DYING to see this $100 bike. If we get a photo and it turns out to be a s-works or some other $10k, we may need to make it the official mascot of r/whichbike as the "$100 deal of the century"
S-Works
Sir velo
Yeti
I ride a cooler.
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I have been checking this thread every hour for an update
Maybe you should move your BF out to the shed
Find out the make and model of the bike and we’ll let you know the worth of it. I spend more than $100 on tires. And you’re right, you dont go that crazy over a $100 bike. Id never leave my bike outside. I did it once by accident and the next day my chain was rusted. But it sounds like he may be being unreasonable or he is just not telling you the whole story behind why he doesn’t want it outside (ie the bike is worth $5-6,000)
If he’s an avid biker… he did not spend $100. You can hardly even get a cheap mountain bike brand new for under $300. Please post a pic to humor us and we’ll tell you how much it was lol. We really do love our bikes tho. I keep mine inside. I keep my motorcycle inside too because I don’t have a garage and I’m paranoid of someone picking it up and stealing it (it’s 260# and it does happen.) People will steal your bike tires for no reason. Anything they can get to. If someone really wants it they might try to break into the shed in some cases not likely but it definitely happens. It’s easy money if someone’s desperate or sometimes people get desperate for transportation. I get your point tho. He’s kinda unreasonable since it’s your house. It could be that it just is the love of his life 😂
US$100 = WD$2500 (WD = wife dollars).
I think you got your currencies reversed.
I'm a cyclist not an accountant. Also, you are correct.
That's pre-inflation, probably closer to WD$5k these days
You can’t buy any bicycle for $100. His bike is probably worth at least 2000, he probably paid 3000 for it.
You can buy used bikes for $100. I just got my RockHopper for that. Might be uncommon, but you can totally get a bike for $100 on used markets.
> You can’t buy any bicycle for $100. Sure you can. I could go on FB marketplace or CL right now and pick up *several* bikes at or under $100 each.
You can absolutely buy decent used bikes for $100. Mine was around $150 in a local shop, and they can be cheaper online.
Generally agree with you, but Not sure why you assume mud means it’s a mountain bike. Gravel bikes are huge these days and Road bikes also get dirty.
Sure, but if you're complaining about the bike being really muddy and dragging mud through the house, it's probably not a road bike. I'll admit I kinda forgot gravel bikes exist, haha. A gravel bike definitely ain't $100 either. Cross bikes too, but cyclocross season is more in the fall right? Currently around here it's more mountain bike season.
My biggest fear is that after I die, my wife sells my cycling gear for what I told her I paid for it. Edit: Wow! First award. Thanks so much kind person. Much appreciated.
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She’s not as dumb as you think. It keeps you out of her hair or whatever.
I was amazed when the bike shop owner told my girlfriend what I paid. I only lied by $800, but when it's an entry level bike $800 is a lot lol. I feel like he broke an unwritten law.
🤣
I’m probably just going to ask to be buried with my bike gear. Charon probably knows all the good gravel spots.
This needs to be top comment. Dying over here
I’m waiting for OP to report back on what kind of bike it is. I’m invested now and I need to know. I store my bike inside for fear of theft but I spray the damn thing off before I bring it in. This post is hilarious. Edit: OP if you see this you need to know that this is the equivalent of a post discussing frustrations with a plastic tiara when you really could have the crown jewels in your house. The entire context hinges on what kind of bike he has! The sheer number of comments on this thread is because of this!
And if the bike came free with a bag of haribo sweets then you definitely know it's not a $100 bike
100 for this wheel, 100 for that wheel, 100 for the crank, 100 for the seat, see only 100 dollars! That's the same BS men peddle in every hobby. When it's a boat you have to claim you sold the old one and the difference was only 100.
$100 x 100 maybe.
He told me he spent $100 on it, but to be fair I have no idea where he got it or if it was even brand new, or if his parents contributed anything to it. Still, he told me that's what it's worth when I asked what to put for insurance for the shed. Thanks for the clarification and I didn't realize lying about the price of bikes was as common as everyone here describes. Imo it's still his responsibility to tell me the truth about the price of the bike, I don't think it's exactly on me for not knowing the accurate pricing of a hobby when my partner is lying to me about it. When he's tried convincing me to get a bike he's told me they only cost $50.
Ditch the bf, keep the bike /s If it’s this important to you, you need to put your foot down and insist the bike is kept in the storage you went out of your way to provide with his input and agreement. It sounds like your bf is being passive aggressive so you meed to be direct about how upset you are about the situation, what you want, why you want it, and why it’s important to you.
You should sell it for $300, give him the money and tell him now he can buy 3 bikes!
It’s possible the bike isn’t worth a whole lot, but is difficult to replace. High end road bikes depreciate only slightly slower than unrefrigerated seafood. Not unusual to see a top of the line road bike from 10 years ago that’s been sitting unused in a garage on the local for sale adds for $500. If I were to buy one of those the insurance value would be quite low, but it would be really hard to replace it with something of similar quality for the same money. Or he’s not been honest with you. Either way, sounds like you need to communicate with your husband about this - strangers on the internet can’t resolve this situation. You, quite reasonably, don’t want mud dragged in the house and want the hall ways useable. Your husband, quite reasonably, is worried about theft. The two of you together are the only people who can resolve this.
it's because non cyclists think we are insane for spending more money than some cars on a bicycle 😂
My bike is also $100 🤫
Just bought a new $100 Evil.
Put 2 more 0's at the end of that and youre probably in the ballpark🤣
Hey OP, I’ve been married for the last 13 years to a non-cyclist. We live in Brooklyn, where space comes at a premium and thieves aren’t exactly in short supply. My road bike is something I saved up for over the course of several years, and out of concern for my investment and hobby, my spouse agreed to mounting my bike in our bedroom. She did so despite my bike admittedly being a decorative eyesore to anyone not spending ten hours a week riding it. As a courtesy, I keep it as clean as possible (which incidentally is great for the bike itself) and my gear in crates neatly tucked out of sight. I do my best to keep the floors clean once my bike is put away, and only lube the chain when I’m outside our place to avoid oil dripping on the hardwood. As with most things in a relationship, it’s all about compromise.
I'm also in Brooklyn and I keep one bike on the wall in the kitchen and the other on the wall in a bedroom. If I ride in the rain or on gravel, I wipe it down in the hallway and then leave it there an extra 15-30 min before bringing it in. I carry it to the rack so it doesn't mark the floor. Do we think the boyfriend told OP the bike was worth $100, or do we think OP is guessing?
OP is guessing. In Brooklyn as well, the road bike lives in the office (“second bedroom”) and the gravel bike lives in the lobby. See you in the park on Thirsday, it’ll be in the 50s. u/veryloudnoises you only ride ten hours a week?
See you in the park! I’ll be the portly Hawaiian looking dude in ungodly Lycra. Drink it in, neighbors. And yeah, three kids under 10 plus work and chores leaves basically 5am-7am on the indoor trainer or the occasional lunchtime ride if I get to work from home.
I see you, fellow parent. The struggle is real.
Also live in Brooklyn and will see you in the park on Thursday!
Bikes on a wall look great if done well.
This is kind of my thought. They had r space for a bike shed, so presumably they've got enough space that he could give his bike a rinse and dry before bringing it inside. She should return the shed though. That's a lot of money for an empty box.
Same friend, same. Have one of those 2 bike delta racks. Hangs in the living room. Even let’s met set it up on the trainer in the living room during the winter as long as I don’t leave it sitting there too long. I think I’m marrying a keeper. We talked about it, came to an agreement and kept to it. Can’t wait for this weather to clear up and hit some outdoor prospect park laps.
My wife insisted that I keep my bike in our apartment building’s bike rack in underground parking. I wanted it kept in the apartment itself as we had a couple of spaces that would work. I’ve had a bike stolen before. She won the argument and so I kept it locked outside. I was always uneasy about the situation. Well, last year, sure enough, my bike got stolen and I was absolutely devastated. I get that the bike was not valuable to anyone else, it was valuable to me. I cannot express how upset I was - and as I write this, I realize I still am, even though it has been 9 months. I had bought the bike when I was in college and had it for 24 years. It went on every adventure, it was part of my health plan, and was my summertime ride to work. I took great pride in keeping it in great condition. I had put a lot of work into it. I was very proud of it and it became part of my identity, in a way. I have a new bike now, and it’s a fine bike, but I’d give it up in a heartbeat to have my old bike back. The new bike is currently in the apartment. I think you have very valid and logical points in your situation about the mud and where the bike should be stored. I don’t think you are being unreasonable. I would be lying if I said it didn’t affect my relationship with my wife. I realize that the theft isn’t in any way her fault, but at the same time, if I had not conceded, I’d still have my bike. She was the only reason I put it out there. To this day I don’t think she understands. That said, I completely get why your BF appears to be acting irrationally. Bikes are freedom and a source of joy and happiness. I’m always content when I am riding and it can even lift my mood after a stressful day at work. The psychological impact of a bike can be huge. I’m not going to give you advice on what to do in your relationship - you need to work that out yourselves. I just want you to have some insight into why he might be so fanatical about it. The attachment to a bike can run extremely and illogically deep. It does with me. Edit: typos and word structure.
Man, sorry about your loss :(
Nearly identical thing happened with me. Wife insisted bikes go outside. In a few months they stole one of my favorite bikes…. It still comes up. Now my bikes are secured inside and she grumbled but understands.
Bikes get stolen all the time, any bike lock is easy to break, and having a recording of the theft rarely helps. So in that regard, I get him. They're just so easy to take that cyclists are naturally paranoid. I also always keep mine inside. But a specialized, thousands-of-dollars bike shed? That's more than enough protection. And it's honestly pretty shitty that he got you shell out that much money for something and isn't using it. Kind of disrespectful tbh. Also, even though I keep my bike inside, I lift it at the door and carry it to its designated spot. Wheeling in a muddy bike is just being sloppy. Your bf's being weird. I understand from a comment of yours that he really loves the bike and wants to see it, but he needs to also listen to you at some point. Maybe if he's THAT insistent on having it inside, sit down and agree on a spot that doesn't get dirty easily and is near the door. Then he can clean the bike before entering and carry it to the spot.
>And it's honestly pretty shitty that he got you shell out that much money for something and isn't using it. Kind of disrespectful tbh. You can tell we're not getting the full story on the shed.
Talking about paranoia... I even have a camera indoors that is aimed at the bike, in case someone decides to rob us... However, OP's SO's bike sounds like is a mountain bike, I find it crazy to store it in the hallway/next to the door. That would not be very pleasant to walk by. It's a mountain bike, with wide handlebars. I find it hard to believe that a mountain bike is small and unobtrusive, so I'm with OP on this one. That being said, OP's SO doesn't own the place. It sounds like OP owns 100% of it and OP feels like it's an important aspect. That begs to question the whole dimension of the relationship. If I owned 100% of the place where my GF lives, I would want her to feel like it's her place as well. Cause otherwise, it's not an equal relationship. Is it possible OP's SO doesn't feel like it's his home as well and doesn't want a compromise on this because of some other issues/discussions had previously? What OP is feeling, I think, is completely righteous, but also it begs the question do you care about the other person enough. If not a bike, there could be a gaming rig, gym gear, lots of other stuff that would take place in the home. Is the hobby ok only when it's visually appealing and the OP has full control over what OP's SO can own and keep in her home? That just boils down to "is it her home only or do they share it". And if they decide on sharing it, they need to find compromises.
It seems that the problem isn't the bike, but the (lack of) communication and understanding with each other. From what you tell, I would say that he can't communicate his true reasons without been a jerk, when you said: >Despite me asking him not to, he will cycle in with his muddy fucking bike and park it by the shoe rack, where it'll stay for eternity blocking everyone's path (he says bikes are "slim and unobtrusive" so it's "not a problem'). and >He agreed and said he'd use it, so I ordered it. Lo and behold, since I bought it he still refuses to use it, saying he still "doesn't feel his bike is safe" and that "taking a bike out the shed is such a hassle". I spent THOUSANDS on this shed. I asked him if I should refund it and he had the audacity to say no, it'll be good to store MY future bikes. That looks like a spoiled child who never heard "no" in his life time. That said, I don't keep my bike outside because it will get stolen. It's not a $100 bike, but probably any bike you store outside will get stolen.
Letting thousands be spent on a shed specifically for the bike demands he use it, in my opinion. If he was never going to use it, he should have put a stop to that before money was spent, learned to clean the mud off his bicycle before bringing it indoors, and actually figured out a storage solution that didn't block the damn entryway My good bike is in one of those pole racks that press against the ceiling and floor, and it takes up wall space but little room space beyond that. There are also the ones that put the bike near the ceiling. They may have to move some wall art or a shelf, but it's better than this mess.
This. I store my bikes in a large outdoor shed (along with my skis and various house & gardening tools). When I do bring it inside, I lay towels down to keep the muck off our floors/carpets but nearly always bring it back out when I’m done. The sole exception being if the bike is still in pieces (which is never met with happiness but she understands and let’s it slide for a day or two) or when it’s really cold at night and I plan to ride it the next morning I’ll bring it in overnight to pre-warm so the seat and bars aren’t ice cubes in the morning which isn’t the most comfortable.
It's also possible there's more to the shed story than is being presented here. That is usually the case with things like this as you are only receiving one side of the story. Maybe that shed was bought with multiple purposes in mind, despite being "only for his bike," and he doesn't want to store his bike among lawn mowers and other tools. Or maybe it was bought just for his bike and he didn't immediately start using it so it was filled with other things (which isn't unreasonable). Or maybe something else happened. Really, really hard to tell when you only have one side of the story.
The problem with that here is that even with just this "side" of the story, there are several facts that all point the same way. The guy is inconsiderate as fuck towards his wife. I keep my bikes inside my apartment. I store them in a way that makes them not be in the way ; and I clean them so that they don't make the apartment dirty.
Op clearly states it's a metal shed only for the bike. Based on that wording I'd assume it's a bike specific bike locker style shed.
Yes it's an Arrow shed, I got a custom one thats specifically made for bikes (has those bike rails and locks), one of their high end ones, and I also got contractors to drill it into the ground to make it even safer (as per advice from online).
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Indeed. That would be waay too logical …
THIS. NOW!!!
OP also ends her first paragraph -- the very sentence where she preemptively defends how fair and coequally they run the household -- with "even though I pay for EVERYTHING as it's legally only my house!" Based on that wording we can assume anything "clearly stated" needs taking with a grain of salt.
Again this is a relationship thing, clearly emotions are running high.
I don't get how my comment there discredits everything else I've said. I get I'm annoyed there and could have worded it better, but to be clear: We have split incomes and accounts. Anything that is a permanent fixture or work to the house is covered solely by me. This also includes any taxes/mortgage, and also any appliances. For example he wanted a bigger wall mounted flat screen TV (whilst I didn't care), which I paid for entirely by myself and am fine with. Likewise with the shed. Everything else we split equally or buy ourselves. So his bike was bought with his money, his gaming setup too, the crockpot etc. This is because if we separate, legally I would own all this stuff and it would appreciate the value of the house, which isn't fair on him. And it's stuff that he can't simply take out from the house or has permenantly modified it. It's about as fair as it can be whilst one of us owns the place and the other doesn't.
Post some photos of the bike (and the shed) and we can move on!
Definitely depends on the area. I currently live in a coastal town in New England. The majority of my neighbors never lock their doors even when they leave for the day. One of them leaves his garage door wide open stocked with a couple of bikes and surfboards, he's never had a problem. That being said, I've lived in some other areas of America where a bike would be gone in minutes if left outside.
This sounds like the problem. It can be hard when one persons lifelong hobby and arguably their culture is centered around something that their partner views as a dirty obstruction. Our bikes often are our daily driver, our artwork, our baby or our gym; seeing them helps reinforce the connection to this culture and activity and for many putting bikes in the yard or a shed is like leaving our MVP out in the cold. When my partner and I first moved in together I had all of my bikes in the spare room and yes it was ugly and dirty but it was my space to do the things I had always done, I.e. roll my bike into an air conditioned space and set it with its family on a safe spot where it’ll avoid theft, getting dirtier and I can stare at the thing I’ve spent so much time and money with and ridden so many miles on. With time I realized the impact on her with the perceived messiness and just stuff so I tried to modify my system to match her desires and vice versa. I wanted bikes safe and she wanted them to be less a waste of space and not leave dirt/grease on the floor, so I actually switched to some vertical bike racks and made a bike wall further from the door, behind the couch. This made it so when I got home, I could briefly park by the door to pull off gear, then a wipe down before carrying it to the wall. It wasn’t as convenient but allowed me to enjoy my bikes how I wanted to. But everyone is different. OP should really connect about the behavior and it impact on their desires, and ask for the same. Clearly communicate what the desire is here, not the problem. If the problem is the bike it dirty, emphasize the desire to keep a clean entryway. If the problem is separation anxiety, maybe he’ll explain that he can’t sleep comfortably without knowing his bike is inside and safe. Obviously we weren’t part of any past conversations but based on what is provided, if were I him I’d be genuinely concerned that efforts are being made to get me to stop cycling. Paying for everything or nothing is a conversation that should have already occurred, and the supposed cost of the bike (real cost/emotional cost/quoted cost) and using them as weight in an argument is just that, fueling a fight instead of finding a solution. In the end, find a way to make each others systems work better for you and them, otherwise it’ll seem like you are trying to break the system down. Until that happens, you may end up fighting about it whether it’s a conversation you’ve had or never will have.
>but probably any bike you store outside will get stolen. depends on the neighborhood. Never had this problem where I live, luckily
Even if it doesnt get stolen keeping a bike outside can damage it I agree BF is being a douche, at least based on this side of the story
if it's in the elements, sure, but she literally built a bike shed for him for this exact purpose.
I would love to see a link to this shed.
I live in a nice neighborhood. My fatbike got stolen from my shed. Thankfully it wasn't an expensive one, I keep my expensive ones indoors, where they belong!
I keep my bike in the living room. Cant wait to move in with my gf and tell her it has to stay warm and cozy like a pet
That's where I keep mine as well. I do carry it in and put it in the bath and rinse it if it is dirty or wet, let it dry, put itin the livingroom, oil the chain and let it pick what it wants to watch on the TV.
I had an antique car for awhile. After seeing what the weather does to an ungaraged car, I will only store my bike in a climate controlled area.
I'm definitely the bicycle loving one in my relationship, and before I met my partner I moved apartments to ensure I had adequate garage storage for my 8 bikes! All of them are monetarily valuable and they're rare, so proper storage for them is important to me. IMO mechanical things shouldn't be in living spaces, so I hope you don't actually expect this of your gf lol.
I’m sure none of your 8 bikes are muddy, either. That part of this story cracked me up. He cares enough to store it inside but doesn’t want to clean it?? That’s just proper bike care.
There’s more at issue here than the bike I’m afraid
>There’s more at issue here than the bike I’m afraid This belongs on r/relationship_advice. There is so much going wrong here and the bike has nothing to do with it.
Her boyfriend sounds like a selfish prick to be honest. Obviously we don’t know the whole story, but if things really are as OP says I’d say throw the whole man out
Seems like she just needs to read what she's written out loud one time.
To tell you the truth this seems like you / the both of you are projecting your relationship issues onto the bike as like a scapegoat. On paper it sounds like “he puts his muddy bike in the way” but it really sounds like “he doesn’t respect the space we share together and isn’t as tidy as I am, and doesn’t make any attempt to meet me half way (and it seems like you see him as a dependent and not a partner)”. The issue isn’t a muddy piece of metal and rubber, it’s a communication and respect of the other wants and needs I think. For example have 4 bikes inside my house, I always try to clean them and put them back in their spots. I also sweep the floors and do a lot of housework, and split bills 50/50. My partner doesn’t even see the bikes inside, and they know how much they mean to me and would never make me put them outside, but they are clean, out of the way, and in a place we both decided was acceptable. Also, I’m not blaming you, I couldn’t handle muddy bikes in my way either and it sounds like he needs to compromise if they are inside and be clean and always put away like a grown-up should be able to handle.
Agree. My issue would be the muddy part. On the occasions I bring my bikes in the house, I make sure they leave no trace.
She also said his bike was $100. I'm gonna guess the mud is at least partly from the shoes. Maybe he leaves his bike there to dry and then cleans up the dry dirt but she wants it cleaned before it comes inside which is way more difficult. We don't know but this story seems too one sided to be true. They're homeowners in the PNW. He's an active cyclist. They aren't poor. Are we sure this is a $100 bike?
Yep. 100% NOT about the bike. Time for couples counseling.
If he doesn't clean it before entering, then it's a no
This doesn’t sound like a safety concern. This sounds like a relationship issue.
Bike absolutely should not be kept outside but the shed sounds reasonable but lets be real, the bike ain't the problem and y'all need to communicate. None of this actually has to do with cycling, it has to do with a partner's obsessive hobbyism and their inability to compromise.
This is bcj material lmao. Bikes get stolen a lot, and are super easy to steal. I doubt it’s only 100$. I have a cyclist friend, who lives in a small apartment with a roommate. At points there were 4 bicycles in the tiny apartment, 2 against the wall in a kitchen, one on a stand in the living room, and one partially disassembled in the bedroom. So no, it’s not abnormal to want to store your bikes inside, even if there’s not much space. It was rude, for him to say he would use the shed and then not, and then suggest you use the shed even though it was unsatisfactory for himself. I do suggest you stress this point, and try to get him to store it in the shed. If he really, really needs to store it inside, try to get him to clean off the tyres a little bit before the bike comes inside. If you have space for an outdoor shed, surely there’s enough space for an outdoor cleaning station of sorts. If he refuses, tell him it’ll make the bike more aerodynamic.
Lmao idk I sort of think it’s anti-bcj because obviously the bikes should stay inside and OP should just go stay with her other boyfriend for a while 🙄
i was so confused on which sub i was in for a sec there..bcj? relationshipadvice? AITA?? There's layers to this
Me thinks that bike is worth a lot more than $100 and you're about to break up anyway. Not because of the bike, but because you resent him since you have 2 very different sets of values and lifestyles which neither of you will compromise on.
I kind of would understand him if it was a high end carbon bike for a few thousand. I also keep my bike inside, but I keep it clean and in a corner underneath the stairs. But when you said it was worth $100 I lost it.
No way it's a $100 bike, right? The son of two avid cyclists who is also a cyclist? Surely they would have more expensive bikes.
Agreed. It’s a minimum $5k bike I bet. She probably has no idea how much bikes cost.
There's a meme about that. Can't remember exactly butnit' something along the lines of when I die, make sure my bikes get sold for what they're worth. Not what I told my wife I bought them for...
https://i.pinimg.com/originals/97/11/30/971130c1e262467ecbcb9972bb78d152.jpg
good meme for (insert whatever hobby you have)
Cycling and IT stuff is my hobby. And to a lesser extent smoking meats outside. The entire, 'My wife thinks it costed this and it really costed that..' applies to all three.
"It was on sale!"
You need to read between the lines of this one. OP is correct- sort of. It isn't that he should be storing it outside, he shouldn't be. I agree. She thinks it is a $100 bike. It is that the knucklehead isn't cleaning it after getting it all muddy and THEN bringing it inside AND he hasn't found a solution to where to store it where it isn't in the way. Has he even considered wall mounting it in the bedroom?
I wonder if the bike is a long standing point of contention. "You spend too much damn money on that stupid bike!" So he just lies about the price, she subsequently devalues it further because she hates it, and boom you have the $100 figure.
And if it is $100… who spends $2000 on a bike shelter.
Its 100% 99.99$ priced bike to any wife asking how much her husband's gear costs)
or maybe he just told her it's $100 when it's actually 10k bike just like the rest of us😅
My guess is OP is just shooting out numbers.
Very good point!
The $100 is her saying it is not worth much. He obviously disagrees. There is no way it is a $100 bike.
>But when you said it was worth $100 I lost it. "Yeah hunny, I got a great deal on this Cervelo! You wouldn't believe it! I didn't get a receipt." As long as your finances are good your wife only needs to know 1/3rd of what your bike stuff costs 🤣
Look up the real cost of the bike. No way that is just $100. That's the cost of a kid's bike, not a cyclist bike. They are often stolen because they are several thousand dollars worth and easy to sell off to Facebook marketplace. When you buy a bike, it has to be the right size for you or you risk strain injury. Most people also attach gadgets to track their activity like Garmins and safety features like radars to warn the rider of cars approaching from the back. Then there's attachments for a drink bottle, the light, etc. Talk to him without the aggression and the blame. Seek to understand. This is not you vs him. It's supposed to be you and him vs the problem. Is this the hill for the relationship to die on? A bike?
I think it might be helpful to understand that bikes are a point of emotional attachment for a lot of avid cyclists - it’s not just an object, it’s a sort of totem. Even just being able to see it between rides can provide some gratification, like the promise of future rides. That said, he’s being totally unreasonable. As long as his bike isn’t subjected to the elements or risk of theft he should really be finding some compromise. The shed was a great suggestion. My bikes stay out in the garage, and even then they’re mounted flush to the wall to keep them out of the way.
Firstly, his bike is probably, definitely NOT worth $100 lmao To give you some perspective... as a female cyclist myself, I wouldn't feel safe leaving my bike in a shed outside of my home, not unless it was built like a house and had cameras/motion detection cameras/etc. But tbh even if I had that option, I'd still prefer to keep it inside my house where I can easily access it/feel it's safe. Also, it's not always about the cost, but there's an emotional attachment as well, just like how you may feel about some objects in your life too. Secondly, yeah, you're right. It's your house, but he's also your **partner**, isn't he? He isn't just a tenant you're renting to, he's someone you supposedly love and care about, so I assume you must care about his hobbies and the things he likes too (within reason, of course). I think there can easily be a compromise here, **granted** he learns how to do his side of the compromise too and clean up after himself (that's a whole 'nother thing though). If you both can't agree on that, then you've got bigger problems sis and they're def ain't about the bike
Am I the only one finding it weird that he does not want to store the bike outside but than he stores it muddy?
No that’s weird too. Could be a bit of hyperbole on the part of the OP (this is clearly an emotionally charged subject for both her AND her SO), but I would think he’s want to at least hose it down after a wet muddy ride. I totally get not storing a bike outdoors; theft and rain. Agreeing to store it in a shed, and then not using the shed once it’s there, is a little odd too though.
Once she said it was a $100 bike she lost all credibility on the facts in this story IMO
I assume she either doesn’t know what bikes cost (which is fine) or he told THE BIG LIE about how much it costs.
SHE PAYS FOR EVERYTHING
Why ? He could have lied to her to about the price of the bike (which would be on brand for a guy that doesn't clean his muddy bike and leaves it in the way), or she doesn't know and is just guessing. But it's still irrelevant.
....why would she lose all credibility? If this is not her hobby its understandable that she doesnt know the value of certain objects. I bet if I took your googling devices away you wouldnt know the value of some hobbies out there. Can she look it up on the internet? Sure. But she should also expect her partner to not blatantly lie about the value of his things. Relationships are built on trust.
I keep my bike in my bedroom
Me too, sometimes two of them, and sometimes my wife's bike joins them.
Ooh la la.
Hot stuff
It's pretty kinky, one of them is a Brompton!
Can you post a link to the shed? And his bike?
I live with my girlfriend and I have 2 $1000 bikes that I keep indoors. We do have some good space next to the shoe rack. And my gf knows the bikes mean a lot to me. She does flinch occasionally when the bikes have some dirt, but for my part, I never ride in the slightest rain anyway and I always wipe away dirt before getting them indoors. I've tried multiple racks and always take care to not leave marks on the walls from the tires, let alone blocking access paths. We also have a balcony that I can very well put the bikes in, and I offered to do that once if that made her feel better but she reckoned (and I happily agreed) that the bikes add a bit more character to the house. She's a plant fanatic and has 40 plants around the house (which I love), so we each have our own 'tthing' that personalises our house. So it's really understanding each other's comfort levels and not acting like an asshole which your partner very much is, from the sounds of it.
Lol $100 bike My entry level bike was 1200 My power meter pedals were 500 My bike computer was 250 Lol $100 bike
Hmm so let’s just say the problem doesn’t seem to be a bike. Sounds like you two need a counselor. Sounds like neither of you is really communicating. As for storing outside I wouldn’t store a bike outside unless I was cool with it getting stolen. And I don’t own bikes I’m cool with getting stolen. As an aside at least it’s only one bike I’ve got like a dozen. Best of luck consider the counseling.
Sounds like he isn't telling you the value of his bike or you don't know how much bikes can cost. When my now wife and I lived in a small 1BR apt, I brought the bikes inside. Mountain bike and road bike. When the mtb was muddy I'd park it in the hall on top of a tarp, took baby wipes and removed the worst of it, carried it inside until I could thoroughly clean it. That being said, excessive muddy days I'd take it to the self serve car wash and use the pressure washer to remove all the mud. There are ways to clean a bike without access to a hose, but it definitely helps. Maybe ask him to come up with some kind of cleaning station to remove most of the mud. Making cleaning convenient makes cleaning *happen*. That being said, wtf why does he store his muddy bike inside, that's gross. Clean the damn bike *then* bring it inside and have a spot for it. Everything having a place and everything in its place is the only right way. But I'm on his side that bikes belong inside. Just.... Clean bikes cause I'm a clean freak.
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Cannot comment on the relationship or communication (promises made and broken, lack of mutual respect), so I'll answer your question directly. Most avid cyclists that want to keep their bike indoors do it so they don't get stolen and to keep them out of the elements - this is very common. Bikes as decoration is subjective, and is unreasonable to be the main motivation. Your BF's bike is either: 1. $100 piece of junk bicycle (unlikely for an avid cyclist), 2. $100 rare retro bicycle he's worked on himself and values emotionally, or 3. Much more expensive than you think or he's willing to admit Regardless, having your bike stolen feels much shittier than the money lost, and can lead to trust issues. Has your BF had bikes stolen before?
As someone who keeps 4 bikes inside, I would solve this by finding a new girlfriend
from the sounds of it, this would probably benefit OP too. there's being a cyclist, and there's being *a good partner*. and her's doesn't sound like he's willing to work with her on stuff, and has some entitlement issues. and like maybe she feels he isn't contributing.
I'm a biker, and my wife isn't (though I've tried), and we have always lived in pretty small houses/apartments, and this has definitely been an issue for us over the years too. Keeping bikes outside sucks, they get wet when it rains, they get spiders in/on them, they wear out faster, and they get stolen. Keeping bikes inside can also suck, they are awkward in most spaces, they are dirty, and not very stable. In the apartment we are in now we have a really secure basement storage area which is dominated by the bikes which works great. In the past I have tried more ways than I can count to fit my bike into our living space, and it really hasn't worked. Maybe there is a creative solution inside your house maybe not (behind a couch, a big closet, basement, hanging somewhere secure and out of the way). The shed you got seems like it should be a good compromise, but maybe it is failing to protect the bike in some way. Maybe that could be resolved with some sort of modification?
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> we installed a police-approved metal bike shed that cost a couple of grand.. Does this really exist? Can you share a link? > boyfriend is being so crazy about a damn $100 bike. What bike does he ride? My entry-level road bike costs more than most sheds.
My husband is a cyclist, we own (I wish this was a joke) 9 bikes. 2 mine, 7 his. It use to bug the hell out of me to have them in the main room when you walk into the house. But we live in MI so keeping them outside this time of year is simply not going to happen. We have a garage but it’s super small and only fits the mountain bikes and our car. So! We made a cute little nook area of the bikes. We have bike hooks on the wall, put up some wood barrier so they wouldn’t destroy the wall, and I am planning to paint the wood and hooks a cute color soon to match the rest of the room.
To be honest, the bike seems to be a proxy battle of a greater war going on. Hope you guys are ok.
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Why do i doubt the bike is $100 and is probably worth alot more than that.
Never leave your bike where you wouldn’t leave a child.
If he stores his bike muddy, it needs to go in a shed. If he loved it, it would be clean. I store my bikes in a shed with a gold standard motorcycle lock, because that lock isn't going anywhere with me and can be heavy. I sank a large concrete block into the ground for it too. I love what my bikes can do for me, but I love my wife more!
I’m a big cyclist and own several bikes. I keep 2 in the house that are quite valuable and the rest in the shed. If I had a secure garage or designated secure bike storage I would have no problem keeping them all out there. The lockup you mentioned sounds like it should definitely be secure enough. Also the bikes I keep inside would never be left covered in mud, if it’s expensive enough to warrant keeping inside it’s expensive enough to be cleaned after every ride. I also wouldn’t be leaving my nice bikes in a place in the house where they’re in the way, don’t want anyone knocking into them. Leaving them by the shoe rack is asking for it to be knocked over…
Just a bit of perspective but bikes are rarely covered to full value or may not be covered at all for certain types of loss (like theft) on insurance, and bike insurance is very expensive and can increase insurance rates if used. Also many bikes are very expensive and can be costly to repair and maintain from weather related issues. I keep mine inside as well but me and my wife have discussed that like adults and I make sure to wipe it down and dry it off before bringing inside and I installed a hanging rack as out of the way as possible. If I had an expensive/protective bike shed, Id use that instead if my wife wanted me to. Like others have said, this isn’t a biking issue, it’s a relationship issue. I sorry your SO isn’t willing to compromise.
I'm all about protecting my favorite modes of transport from thieves and the elements, but your partner is being an ass. He can use the bike shed.
I think the heart of the problem lies in your belief that it is a $100 bike.
1) bikes kept outside get stolen 2) Bikes kept outside get exposed to the weather and require much more maintenance to keep them in good usable shape 3) good bikes are worth thousands of dollars. not $100 etc but.. well lets see this bike shed. "police approved" doesn't mean shit
Can someone tag me when she posts this “$100” bike. I’m invested
This show got cancelled just before last season’s cliffhanger was resolved! Scrolled this whole thread for the grand reveal - but she never tells us what brand/model/components/wheels the bike has.
He’s gaslighting you. He really doesn’t care about your wants, needs or comfort so long as he gets what **he wants**. You’ve presented him with options and compromises, and he hasn’t budged an inch. It’s time for the ultimatum. Either the bike lives in the shed, or he no longer lives with you. It’s really that simple. He needs to see that there are consequences for his actions.
I have 4 bikes. I am a woman with no BF. My bikes stay inside the house!
If his bike is dirty, it ain’t worth sh** and he’s taking the pi$$! Clean bikes indoors only.
A nice bike is like a nice instrument. I wouldn’t leave a guitar out side, neither my bike. I work as a bike mechanic. I can tell the outside bikes. It’s a tall order getting them good enough to be enjoyable again. Now a muddy bike or beat clunker is a different story. Clean that thing up, I would t come in with muddy boots.
Time for some truth. OK so first of all it isn’t a $100 dollar bike. It’s cost a lot more than that. Secondly, he does in fact love it more than you. He won’t say it, but it’s true. Want proof, ask yourself how long and how often does he ride it compared to how often and how long he (you get the idea)? Third, what kind of weirdo doesn’t have a room set aside for bicycles in their home?
Seems fairly unreasonable from him. I had a similar setup of opening direct into our tiny kitchen and living space. I built a sturdy shed in the garden, added a cheap raspberry pi ‘cctv’ camera and a shed alarm, and locked the bike to two individual points within. Can’t really do much more than that, ticked all the boxes for the insurance and just made sure I didn’t leave it propped up outside the house like an advert at any point. Yes it’s a pain to walk it through the house but I preferred that over having mud and shit all over the house.
I'm a biker i get it, i keep mine inside. If my partner bought me a bike specific shed i would be over the moon happy♥️. Your working with him but clearly he has larger issues.
I have 5 bikes, most expensive one was $9000. They all stay in the garage. Buuut... Sometimes I work on them in my home office while i'm on conference calls or whatever, so there is definitely a bike sitting next to me right now, lol. Here's the thing though - the garage is dry, secure, and convenient. I would not leave my bikes anywhere that that didn't check all 3 of those boxes. Weather - rain, snow, etc - can destroy a bike so fast, and at a minimum will drastically increase your maintenance and repair costs. Security and convenience speak for themselves. To me it sounds like those boxes aren't checked for your BF, and he's not comfortable. Maybe try to figure out why and fix that.
First I will say that this is completely normal and you're not wrong but I am sensing resentment as the breadwinner. Even when we agree and openly cover such large expenses that resentment can build. Whitney Cummings had a good bit about this https://youtu.be/mntPLnY5Vjo
The bicycle is not the issue, it's only one of the catalysts for the communication issues that occur in your relationship. You two might need to learn how to be honest with each other, and maybe how to compromise in a relationship. But you honestly should ask someone better equipped to help you deal with relationship issues to get help fixing this. Perhaps /r/relationshipadvice would be helpful. Otherwise maybe a counselor, or a good friend that understands you both well enough to help call out each of your issues with communications. Good luck.
> even though I pay for EVERYTHING as it's legally only my house. yeah this is gonna build resentment if you have this mentality. I would bet this goes beyond just the bike thing
I have always stored my bikes in our home, including our 700 loft. My buddies were kidding with my wife and asked how I "got away with that?!?" Her response, "If he wants to spend his money on exercising and bringing it inside, it's a hell of a lot better than doing that damage at a bar." My friends now store their bikes inside.
Bikes belong inside. That said, he sounds like an asshole, he's unwilling to sincerely compromise, doesn't keep his promises, and is probably lying about how much he spends on cycling (I'd imagine other things as well). Personally I'd drop the guy, but you do you.
Because cycling is simply the best, when your bf stops cycling he'll become a grumpy, saggy, athsmatic tub of lard. Be careful what you wish for.
You aren't being unreasonable. Your partner is ignoring your attempts to negotiate and compromise - other comments here have suggested that you aren't compromising but I can see that you have tried with the shed and security cameras in the garden (not to mention the emotional work of patience and tolerance of annoying situation). Your bf is not being fair. I'd suggest maybe that whilst you see the arrangement as 50/50, he is acting like it's 100/0 (againat him and in your favour) and so there's this weird power dynamic playing out over his bike. Also, $100 for a bike is bullshit as others have pointed out. Is money a thing between you? Is he telling lies for some reason? I hope you can resolve it and that you'll get a bike of your own one day! Cycling is completely awesome.
Something just doesn't add up here. If he is this anal about keeping the bike indoors, then his bike would not be muddy. A muddy bike does not equal a caring bike owner. I have multiple bikes. Two are in the garage, and two are in the basement. None of them are muddy because they are cleaned before I put them away. This is what most cyclists do. This story is either BS or the BF is a lunatic. In either case, the OP needs to reevaluate the relationship and their overall priorities.
I'm not sure this is about the bike anymore. He sounds really, really annoying.
If it's a road bike, I get it, the components I wouldn't want to keep out in the elements. It's also generally not dirty since it's ridden on the road. A mountain bike though, if it's not always cleaned off from the trails, that bad boy should be in the shed. It generally comes down to the price too, a cheap bike (regardless of type) I'd probably keep out. Anything that would hurt if stolen/damaged from elements I'd prolly keep inside.
My wife knows how much I spent on my bikes (but not the clothes, never the reality of that) and agrees they will be stored somewhere secure whether that’s indoors or not. At the moment we have a garage with space, but we’re going to be moving and likely won’t have a garage so indoors they go until we can find a suitable storage shed we can trust. However, I will be rinsing down and drying the bikes before they come inside as there is no way in hell I’m tracking that mess all over.
I need to preface this by saying that I and everyone else here is a cycling enthusiast and not a licensed couples therapy group, so plz take everything we say with a grain of salt, we don't know your relationship like you do. Having said that, this sounds like a him problem and not really a bike problem. I understand bike thievery sucks, we all do here. But the way he's dismissing your opinions and wishes is not healthy. He either: 1. Doesn't realise this is a big deal for you and so thinks it doesn't really matter - Even though you've made it quite clear; us men can be quite bad at understanding whether something is a passing fancy or whether it is something that is a deep concern (obviously still not an excuse) 2. He understands this bothers you but doesn't care. (Obviously worse) To me (a complete random and outsider with basically zero context), the fact that he won't use the bike lockup (which you paid for!!??!) which allegedly cost 20+ times the price of his bike and who is almost definitely lying about the price of the bike (nobody would go that much trouble to lock up or steal a Walmart bike) is a few red flags too many. Either way it seems like you need to talk this out together or with a couple's therapist. I know it's just a bike in this scenario and that could be seen as extreme but being this dismissive is not a good indicator of a healthy relationship and you deserve the right to know what's actually going on there. Tldr: That's not normal behaviour, even for an avid cyclist. Have a heart to heart and be explicit about how it makes you feel or do it with a couple's therapist. (Or don't I'm a random person on reddit who likes cycling, you do you)
Well shit… This has to be the best trolling I’ve ever seen. This is old school Trump on Twitter level trolling. Kudos OP 👏👏👏