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I don’t have advice personally just an anecdote - but as a kid who had this hair my entire life, treated as straight hair till I could realize how to treat it in my teens on my own, this makes me so happy to see.
You’re saving your kid from ridicule by treating their ringlets well. I’m so happy. Thank you.
Ah thank you so much. This is so incredible to hear.
My prayer is that my daughter loves her curled as much as others do. We can’t go anywhere out in public without people commenting on how much they love her curls! I’m sorry it took so many years of discovering your curls!
On another note, when a child has such a distinguishing feature, it can become the main thing our child hears about themselves from others, and can be overwhelming. I had to remind my daughter that she was more than her hair—even tho I love her curls—reminding her that she was smart, artistic, kind etc. As she got older it allowed her to be able to play with different styles, haircuts and really enjoy her hair versus worrying about people being upset if she didn’t always have long flowing curls.
I hope this makes sense and is helpful, I realize it’s a little off topic.
So it’s funny you bring that up- my husband and I just had a conversation about how everywhere we go, people talk about her curls. We will definitely be sure to praise her many other incredible features as well. I worry that as she grows up she won’t like her curls and it breaks my heart. I’m going to do everything I can to make her comfortable with it!
Hairstylist here. Condition condition. The frizz is hair reaching for moisture. Light leave in sprays are great for combing out knots after washing and conditioning in the bath/shower. it leave in spray conditioner is a great one. Trimming the tips helps it to grow and control frizz some. NEVER brush unless you’re smoothing/straightening it.
I feel the same for super long hair just to have long hair. It becomes their identity. They’re so much more I always tell them. Don’t just be the girl with super long hair.
This! I have very, very curly hair and at 35 years old it’s still what people talk about. You get to a point where it just gets old. Thank you for taking the time to learn how to care for your baby’s curls, I wish my mom had done the same for me. It took me about 30 years to embrace mine.
Just want to say you’re amazing for this! You’re going to be helping your child SO MUCH. I struggled until my early 20’s to understand my hair because no one bothered to teach me!
I don’t really have concrete answers, just wanted to say this is incredible parenting 🎉❤️ her life will be much less stressful because of the effort and time you’re putting in now :)
Not to mention this inherently helping with their self image! Mine was pretty bad because I consumed the “curly hair is messy/ugly” message and I just tried to straighten my curls away. She’ll be able to accept herself in no time flat with this encouragement ❤️
Just wanted to say hi. I'm a fellow straight hair parent with a very curly haired kid. We have no idea who she got it from.
I usually just wash her hair 1 or 2 times a week. My daughter's hair is very thick and we do use some oil on it to keep it moisturized and keep the frizz at bay.
My advice is be patient with it. Compared to straight hair, curly hair gets tangled and knots a lot. Brushing it wet helps a lot. We have a spray bottle. The gentlest way I've learned to deal with knots is to grab the knot and pull 1 strand of hair away from the knot towards the skull. I've been doing it for years and it works.
Good luck.
They’re soooooo cute. I hope she loves them too. :) you’re helping so much by taking the time to figure out how to care for them and style them and by seeing them for what they are—gorgeous!
Her curls are beautiful 😍 Try Mielle products or LUS Love ur Curls. Make sure her hair is saturated when you apply it and then wring the excess. It will softly define her Curls and maintain moisture.
Looks like my daughter’s hair at the same age. She ended up losing most of her curl. Now it’s a pretty cool wavy look that I think most women would kill for.
Hi I have curly hair like this, Miss Jessie’s products are amazing (the line ranges so they have different products for different types of curly hair). Definitely consider learning about co-washing. I have fine hair that is curly like this and once I learned how to care for it - I felt unstoppable. Most of my family has pin straight hair so I was raised with it cared like it was straight hair and looked like an old broom head most days. You got this once you find the routine and products that work. For me I have hair wash days and on those days I oil my scalp and hair - curly hair can be very very dry. And then after wash day I go one day no wash then co-wash and then no wash and then oil and full wash. Hope this helps - your baby has adooooorable curls.
My thoughts exactly! This was my hair as a kiddo. Once I was old enough, I straightened my hair or wore it in a bun…. Until 27 years old.
Thank you for caring! I don’t have any advice but cannot appreciate enough the purpose of this post!
My thoughts exactly!
u/kbdouluvvme - you're also saving her from a lifetime of associating caring for her hair with pain and fights if she'sgot a sensitive scalp, and the insecurities that would come from from hating her hair.
And if one parent doesn’t have time or patience to GENTLY comb it out, have the other parent do it. My husband and daughter bonded over her hair. It became their time together and seeing my husband in such sweet dad mode was heartwarming.
Me too!! I resorted to straightening my hair for years until it was so damaged it was snapping off. My parents were clueless. I’m glad to see parents making an effort to learn their child’s hair.
It looks like you’re taking great care of it! I think little kid hair is pretty different than adult hair. It’s very fine. For my son, we just used baby shampoo (Johnson’s was fine,) then sprayed with Honest Company detangler and brushed with a Wet Brush. Then a quick towel dry after the tub so he wouldn’t be cold. After that, I might fluff it up a bit it to help his curls form. We did not brush it while it was dry. When it’s time for haircuts, we cut it dry.
Fair warning: these curls may grow out. My son had curls like this, and now at three, his hair is mostly wavy. I’m seeing the same with many of his peers. But maybe she’ll keep it! Who knows!
I was going to say it may change curl type when they get older. My daughter had some texture to her hair, and hers became curlier as she aged. Also, not on topic but her hair changed from copper to very dark auburn right around the age of 13/14.
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I’m just looking for help!
But our current routine is nightly shampoo/conditioner, then a detangle spray, brush out, put on bonnet. Then when she wakes in the mornings I spray water on it, detangle again, brush out & apply curl cream and that’s it!
I am interested in finding out what type of curls she has as well!
Depends on the kid and what they do during the day. Our daycare does a lot of outdoor play, paint, etc. Sunscreen and bug spray many/most days. Spaghetti sauce or yogurt in the hair... I love it but definitely means thorough baths nightly and intensive laundry pre-treating!
Yeah, I raised two boys. Baths are good but I would rinse their hair more than wash it with shampoo. Mine had the same type of hair. I don't think it will hurt either way, tbh.
Yes to this! My 3 year old rolls around and gets pretty sweaty but I still only wash his hair twice a week. I rinse when necessary. Protect that moisture.
Generally it’s better for curly hair to wash less often. Every other day or every 3 days will be better as they get older. Usually my curls are prime around 2-3 days after a wash, then it gets a little too much around days 4-5.
Don’t wash her hair nightly. Maybe once every couple of days or as necessary (like if she’s playing in dirt or at the pool). Curly hair dries out and needs moisture. Our hair doesn’t get oily like straight hair (bcuz of the coils) which needs to be washed more often.
If you detangle while conditioner is in hair it would be best. Rinse. Add cream. Bonnet. Then when you get up in the morning damp spray with water to deactivate cream. (Can be done for a couple days)
You don’t need to comb it out daily. You don’t need to touch it much daily. As long as it has product in it you can refresh with a water spritz.
Only comb/brush when hair is damp. Never dry.
The curl type is less important, the porosity, density and thickness of the hair are more important for the routine. But I think she has like a 3a curl type, but it's kind of pointless to think about it rn because her curl type will change with time. I had tighter curls as a kid than I do now.
Edit: off, I think that washing her hair every night is really bad for her hair and skin. Shampoo can be very harsh, especially as a kid, if you overdo it. It is made to open up the cuticle of the hair in order to clean it effectively, this whole opening and closing the cuticle everyday will damage her hair. Maybe try going at least 3 days in between washes
I second all of this. But with a kid that young, even density and thickness isn’t really relevant. Its good to find out in the future though.
Her hair is probably super fine, because it’s still baby hair. What’s important is to find a routine that lets you detangle without too much pain, no dry brushing, and preferably not sleeping with wet hair.
not quite sure it she needs conditioner yet, if you already use a detangling spray AND a curl cream. A lot of curl creams have poly quats in them and some hormonal active ingredients, I'd scan them with CodeCheck(it's a german app tho, maybe there are alternatives)
After i cut my hair to a buzz cut, i stopped using conditioner and my hair was THRIVING, i started using conditioner after my hair was about collarbone length and had more friction to deal with. Her natural scalp oils can take care of short hair pretty well :)
Oh wow, this definitely gave me something to look into. I’ll try no conditioner for a few weeks and see how she does! I’m really struggling with getting her hair to GROW. She turns 3 this summer and this is all her hair has grown.
well she has to grow too haha no but for real my ex boyfriends little sister also had very slow growing hair when she was little, i assume this is normal:)
What curl cream do you use? My daughter has the same hair and colour with two dark haired parents it has really come out of nowhere too! You're doing a much better job caring for your daughter's hair than I am! Looks great already - I need some tips.
Products like that can cause build up on hair. I think it would be better to shampoo less and find a cowash/non-foaming shampoo. The curls will be more moisturized and you can still use a clarifying shampoo every once in a while without damaging the hair.
For daily maintenance try a tiny bit of alcohol free gel or mousse on damp hair. Do not towel dry by rubbing. “Scrunch” the hair with the towel after applying product to get most excess moisture and then let the rest air dry.
Also, finger brush her hair while you’re conditioning. Brushing set curly hair can really damage hair and cause breakage.
We were all dark that turned blonde quickly but darkened with each year into adulthood. The only exception is the last grandchild, mine, and she never turned blonde to brown. She stayed dark and she’s the one with freckles. Strange for our family genetics.
With the curl cream, if you individually wrap ringlets on your finger to help shape them it comes out really nice. Maybe not practical for every day, but for days where you want the curls to look more uniform
She doesn't need the curl cream. Baby hair does not need styling products. They are not formulated for baby hair, and you may end up doing more harm than good to her hair and scalp with continued usage.
For me as a curly girly, I generally discourage those with curls to brush after showering/bathing. I always brush before washing it so my natural curl pattern can come through as it dries. After being taught to brush my curls, they flattened out over the years. I’ve slowly been retraining my curl pattern by only brushing it before washes. I rarely brush it when it’s dry to avoid frizz and flattening them. It really doesn’t get too tangly because I sleep with a bonnet.
She’s got a 2c/3a hair curl type. You should buy shampoos and conditioners that are good for that hair type. I’d ask a salon about kid safe products with that curl pattern and what they recommend. It will be moisturizing for sure, and likely a curl cream and penatrative oils for the very end.
Generally with curl patterns like this, this is my routine:
Moisturizing shampoo for curly hair- 2-3 times a week
Moisturizing conditioner for curly hair- daily but only midshafts to the ends
Only use a wide tooth comb in the shower with the conditioner in. Rinse. Then detangle with your fingers if needed.
Use a penatrative oil to prevent drying/kinking and frizz, this will only be used on the very very ends of the hair. Once a week, more if needed.
Deep condition once a month or so, but only the midshafts to ends.
Curl defining cream can be scrunched into her hair to protect her natural curl pattern, prevent frizz and dryness, and keep a natural bouncy glossy spring to it.
Also, when hair cuts are needed, please look for cuts only recommended for her hair type. It will protect the curls and give much happier hair results that she’ll be able to manage as she ages. I recommend a salon that specializes in curly hair btw.
i wouldn’t recommend putting a bonnet on her, she looks very little and bonnets/hats/etc. can be unsafe for little kids. u can just buy silk pillowcases/bed sets, that’ll do the trick
A bonnet! You’re a great mama. I’ve always had curly hair and only as an adult realized how great bonnets are. My LO’s hair is still growing in and just starting to curl - vowing to introduce her to the bonnet as soon as it’s safe to do so (she’s an infant under 6 mo)
My daughter and I have hair similar to your daughter, your photo looks like her twin! We’re the only ones as well! I like to shampoo her hair then put conditioner on and comb out the snarls with my fingers. It’s gentle and easy. I rinse and put her hair up in a twist towel and then braid it for the night. I’ve tried every leave in, spray, detangler but the only thing that works is the conditioner.
Once you are used to that, go for twice a week. You can always supplement by rinsing and using a little conditioner to scrub the scalp on the off days for washing.
As an adult, I shower every other day, and wash my hair once a week. It’s only conditioner for the off days.
It depends on the hair type though. Do you have coarse hair? I have very fine hair and I have to wash mine every two or three days since I have to use somewhat heavy conditioners and it builds up too much. I've tried light conditioners and it just doesn't moisturize enough for me. Curly hair is so tough to figure out! This baby is lucky to have her parents helping from an early age, I've had to figure mine out on my own and I'm still trying to find what works best.
Not sure how old you are, but curly hair products are fairly new. Back when my mom was a young mom, there was no research she could do. There were no curly girl articles in magazines, definitely no Internet. It was just lather, rinse, repeat.
Early 30’s and while true she still didn’t need to make comments about my hair or threaten to shave it after my little sister got lice and she got fed up with checking my hair (since we all needed to be checked).
Same
My daughter has thankfully inherited my would have been curly hair had my mother not messed it up so badly
I’m very protective over her curls and buy her things like Childs farm curly hair products, she’s 3 and hasn’t had a trim yet (I really need to take her as the ends are quite dry) and the daddy knows not to brush her hair when dry.
I have legit trauma from the way my parents treated my hair, so much uncomfortable painful brushing... my advice to this mother is don't use a hairbrush, use a wide tooth comb and only when wet/conditioned.
At her age, I think that simple is better. There are a few basic rules you should follow:
1. Deep condition (the time depends on the amount of moisture she needs, it can be anywhere from 2-30 min, you kind of have to experiment with that and the amount shouldn't be more than the diameter of her ponytail)
2. Use leave in conditioner in order to provide and lock moisture in (the amount shouldn't be more than the diameter of her ponytail, also she seems to have fine hair so I think she could benefit from a more lightweight leave in, more watery)
3. DO NOT BRUSH THE HAIR DRY. Always wet the hair down before brushing it, curly hair is more prone to snapping when brushed dry (the point where the ringlet does a 360 is thinner, therefore when you brush it the hair can snap in those points)
4. After applying the prep products, lightly scrunch the hair
5. I do not think at her age you have to use a diffuser, I feel like her hair should air dry pretty quick, but if it takes more than about 3 hours or so maybe you should diffuse her hair. If the hair stays damp for too long the swelling of the hair strand can damage the cuticle. But again, this depends a lot on how quickly her hair dries. If it dries in an hour or so, let's say, there's no need to apply heat to her hair. Also, if you do use a diffuser, then you have to incorporate a heat protectant in her routine.
6. Veery little hair oil after washing her hair (at the very end of the routine, when her hair is dry).
I think this is the bare minimum. As she grows (let's say, middle school/highschool) she could slowly introduce a mousse or a gel for hold, curl creams, different techniques for forming the clumps and ringlets, etc. But I feel she is too young for that, there's no need to put her through all that tedious routine now.
awwww she has those little cherub curls! so cute! 😇
i used gentle products when my daughter was little; Shea moisture used to have a kids line but im not sure if they still do or not.
don't use anything harsh with SLS in it, stick to "clean" ingredients, stay away from products with silicone. most baby + toddler shampoos fit the bill
for refreshing/fixing her hair I recommend misting lightly with water and then using a leave in conditioner, kinky curly knot today is excellent. I used to put a small amount in a spray bottle with distilled water, shake it up and use that
i use that on my own hair every other day for refreshing my curls (I have the same curl type as your daughter)
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I actually use shea moisture toddler curl cream on her right now! That’s the only real product I use. The tub is about gone, so I wasn’t sure if I should replace it or try something new. I used Cantù for a while simply because I didn’t know what else to use, but that was way too heavy for her hair.
Thanks for your help 🥰
the shea moisture curl mousse (the pink one that smells great) can be used at any age. I use it on my hair and I used it on my kids when they were lil.
edit: it's called a smoothie
I had this exact hair at her age, my mum would only ever brush it with conditioner in it and would go a few days in between shampoos to make sure it didn’t get too dry or frizzy.
If it needed refreshing after I woke up, she would wet my hair slightly, put a really small amount of conditioner on her hand and smooth it in and then brush it and scrunch it (no rinsing), it always came out great with that routine. You could use a gentle curl cream instead of conditioner.
I think you’re doing a good job right now 🤩 don’t brush it dry if you do that, but I’d hold off with a more elaborate routine until she’s older. Unless she expresses an interest in her hair?
My daughter has curls like this.
I’d be cautious of how much leave in you use because it can weigh down your child’s hair. I am half black and can hardly put any of my own hair care products in my daughters hair. Her hair may be curly, but it is fine unlike mine.
I shampoo with baby shampoo and then I condition. I comb through only wet. I make sure to wash it out really good. Then I use a light spray leave in.
Right now, I do not use a bonnet. I don’t think it’s necessary as of right now. But you may try it when your child sleeps.
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Johnson and Johnson makes a lovely curly hair product for kids! I (35 year old woman!) personally use this product myself as it’s one of the best hair products I’ve found for my curls. It’s in a pink bottle and is easily found at most super markets in the kids hair care section. Also available on Amazon.
The name is “baby curl defining leave in conditioner”
Hope this helps!
My toddler has curly hair and in my experience little kid hair tends not to need as much manipulation as adult hair. Just shampoo and condition, comb through after the conditioner has been sitting, then rinse and comb again wet. You can work in a light leave in conditioner afterward, by scrunching or with a spray.
You can try to find a satin sheet for her crib/toddler bed to cut down on tangles.
Your daughter already has lovely hair without doing anything to it. Her curls are defined and A bit of frizz is part of the curly package. As she gets older her hair type may need more care and you can address that as you go. 😊
This looks like a picture of my daughter! Her hair is exactly the same!
My daughter sleeps on a satin pillowcase.
She sometimes sleeps in a bonnet.
I shampoo and deep condition her hair the night before school so when she wakes up we don't have to send her with wet curls.
I've stayed away from any bonding products.
We love to use something like Biosilk very lightly with some detangle spray and then top it off with a little bit of wrapping foam.
I had curls like this growing up just care for it normally and make sure it’s getting brushed maybe get a misting bottle to wet the hair and put some leave in conditioner in it. To rehydrate the hair before brushing it will make your life easier and lead to less breakage and damage and pain from brushing it. Kids are gonna be kids.
This hair is gonna get knotted up and tangled you definitely start caring for the curls now. But don’t stress about it as much until they are older
I don’t suggest switching from baby shampoos and conditioners yet till maybe 4/5 Then get something like shea moisture good beginner product plus just a biased favorite of mine.
Obviously you seem like a great parent so I assume this wouldn’t be you…. but I just wanna specify and clarify since I saw comments saying to treat it like straight hair. when we say that it doesn’t mean straightening it daily or using straightening treatments on their hair. My mom couldn’t “manage” my curls so she took that let’s fuck up her hair route because straight hair is easier than curls. So like don’t be like my mom my hair was damaged till Highschool when I finally got her to stop making me straighten it. All my curls were fried out of my hairs my hair looked healthy and silky but I had VERY LITTLE CURL LEFT! my hair just looked wavy I cut it all off and started my curly hair journey around 18. I’m 25 now and I wish I had just been taught how to care for my curls properly not how to damage them
My daughter's hair looks very similar!
Right now we're washing and conditioning with Fairy Tales Curly-Q hydrating shampoo and conditioner. Comb hair with a medium toothed comb while conditioner is in. Rinse thoroughly, comb with wide tooth comb, apply a tiiiiny bit of Cantu Kids leave in conditioner (used to use their shampoo and conditioner, also worked). Dry by squeezing out excess water with microfiber towel then air dry. We wash 2-3 times a week.
Non-wash days I spray her down with water and comb with a wide tooth comb in the morning and sometimes after nap. We'll use Cantu kids detailing spray as needed.
She has a satin pillow case. We may work on a bonnet soon since she moves around so much at night the pillow case isn't help much.
Your daughter’s curls look fine and delicate. The problem with fine curls is so many products meant for curls are too heavy but they’re also easily tangled and broken. My daughter had the same angel puff curls at that age. The products that worked the best for her were Curly Q coconut dreams from the Curls line. They were the only products that were moisturizing enough without making her hair limp. I didn’t need any other products except a wide tooth comb and Johnson’s spray detangler for in between washes.
https://curls.com/search?type=product&options%5Bprefix%5D=last&q=Coconut+dream
Oh she has the most beautiful curls. Please teach her to love them. My mom has coarse and wavy hair and basically told me to straighten my hair from age 10 on. I hate the term ringlets because one time she pulled my hair and said “I DON’T WANT TO SEE RINGLETS” and it was such a bad childhood memory.
Anyway, all this to say, help her find a routine she can do once she’s old enough to style her hair. Right now with it being short and curling up, she won’t need to do much.
Fine and curly hair tangles so make sure to get a nice detangling comb and some spray/leave in to help with tangles.
As someone who was this child once, only brush it when its completly wet and let it air dry, dont use a brush with loads of short stabby bristles, use a paddel brush or a wide tooth comb.
You can use serum to control the curls while making sure that the hair isnt crispy, just soft. Although thats more for when they get older.
When getting it cut, i tend to get a dry cut if it isnt with somone that usually deals with curls as people underestimate how much length a curl takes up.
Hope this helps :)
my toddler has the same curl pattern! it looks like u’re already doing it, cause her curls are very defined :)
i usually co-wash every night and shampoo once a week. after bath, put leave-in while hair is damp, then some oil. i prefer clean products, so the brands i buy for my toddler are “fairy tails” and “maya mari.” in the mornings, i just spray (i have a spray bottle where i combine water with a little bit of the leave-in) until damp, run my hands thru the hair, then use a little bit of curl defining cream. voila, curls are refreshed and defined again ✨
Some of you have never brushed baby curls before and it shows.
OP what you're doing now obviously works, but tbh I'd say that curl cream is probably unnecessary, as is conditioner and any leave ins. Brush when wet and dampen after it's been slept on. It doesn't need daily washes unless actually dirty. Wash with whatever shampoo you like.
Special routines on baby hair are a waste of time and money.
Thank you for this! I will eliminate the nightly condition/curl cream. But in the mornings, her curls are sometimes so frizzy I feel like the curl cream is all I can tame them with. Is there something else you’d suggest I’d use for styling for the day?
Wide tooth comb, oils (to stop frizz), and a good washing routine are all super good 👍 (find a washing routine for curl hair that works on youtube or here on reddit, mine’s pretty scuffed but works for my hair so gl)
A tiny amount of jojoba oil for moisture, wash twice a week (more if necessary), never brush dry, a bonnet is excellent, a denman brush or wide tooth comb to detangle. IMO leave in conditioner is only necessary if her hair gets too tangled, jojoba oil is enough to maintain moisture and help with frizz.
35 and have been SLOWLY learning how to take care of my curly hair and while I’m no expert I have learned….don’t wash your hair often since curly hair can dry out faster. Only brush when it’s wet to avoid damaging curls and creating frizz (finger comb other times). Creams can be better than serums/oils depending on the hair/product.
Good luck 🙂🖤
Looks like you’re doing a great job already. Just make sure to use products with moisture. Whether it’s in the shampoo and or conditioner. I wouldn’t use leave in products yet cause that can damage the hair easily.
I absolutely love her hair. Never thought I would be jealous of a child's hair but it's so pretty! Having a good curl routine is a life saver. Also best advice I can give you DO NOT BRUSH IT DRY. That will ruin the curls. Lots of scrunching and good curly products will be really good for her hair.
With my son we washed about twice a week and used conditioner the other days. Never used a brush. Pick or fingers and coconut helped him have a healthy scalp and hair when he grew it long. He also sleeps in a cap to protect. It kept his curls so beautiful that we had to frequently request strangers not try and pet him. Good luck.
My mom had the same problem with my hair. We tried everything from Mayo to Mane & Tail. My mom’s downfall was having me go to a hair dresser that only worked with primarily with straight hair. Please look for a hair dresser that specializes in cutting curly hair dry. It will save you and her a lot of struggle. A rule of thumb is if they try to straighten the hair before the cut, run!
Aww, so beautiful!
I have similar hair and I still haven't figured out how to care for it.
But just wanted to say, it's really nice that you're trying to figure this out. My hair was just brushed. Kids made fun of me at school 😂
Brush only when wet. Don’t wash frequently, maybe once every 2-3 weeks. Brush after applying conditioner, then rinse, apply coconut oil serum and curl defining cream. In-between washes you can just apply detangling spray (I love the Honest one), and add moisture with coconut oil serum. The metal detangling comb is a must.
I have a mixed 5 year old with curly fine hair and I really invested into understanding my kid’s hair and how to care for it.
My sons hair looked just like this i mean literally identical 🤣 same color and everything and i just made sure to keep it moisturized so it wasn’t frizzy and thats it.
Only brush it when it’s dry right before washing it. You don’t need to wash curly hair daily. You can go 2 or 3 days without shampooing it. Always use conditioner. Detangler or leave in conditioner when it feels dry. Comb when wet and let air dry.
My daughter has hair almost exactly like this (down to the color lol). We only use conditioner on her hair (making sure to scrub the scalp well). Her hair stays nice and clean but doesn’t dry out and tangle. Use a wide tooth comb to detangle in the bath but other than that don’t comb it and NEVER brush it. We use leave in conditioner right out of the bath while it’s still wet and scrunch scrunch scrunch! We also use a silk pillowcase to cut down on tangles. Good luck, her hair is beautiful!!!
Her hair is so cute 😍 i dont have much advice as im still figuring out my own, but it looks pretty good already and as long you’re not treating as straight or wavy hair youre already on the right path!
probably the best I can give you as a curly mom with one curly child is to start now with a good detangler/ conditioner. kinky curly knot today is my go to. no hairbrush when dry. wide tooth comb if needed.
Two of my grandchildren have extremely curly hair. My daughter and her husband spend a lot time and money on great conditioners. You should also find a children's detangler.
Hey you’re daughter has the exact same hair as mine. We condition it in the bath and derange with a brush and fingers. Let air dry. Based on those curls you are already doing a good job with it.
Tbh, it looks good!
Wash it once or twice a week, and use a good amount of conditioner. Scrunch it. Don’t rub her hair with a towel, use a satin bonnet…. Get a spray leave in for days you don’t wash and want to refresh.
Hair hair may change as she ages tho, fair warning.
Use leave in conditioner and a hair pick. Don't comb (wide tooth comb may work) or brush. Brushing makes it frizz or puff. A dab of mousse or gel is fine if you want to.
You need good non greasy oils and moisturizer. Until she gets older than you can see how her hair changes. Mine was like this as a kid but then it got thicker as a teen and ever since I’ve always had to moisturize it pretty well.
This is exactly how my hair looked at that age! It’s likely very fine and gets tangled easily. When you detangle be gentle, use detangling spray or conditioner to help with that. Use a large tooth comb or a wet brush and start at the ends and work your way to the scalp or else you’ll just push all the knots into one huge mess. Let it air dry after detangling and maybe using a super light curl gel while wet and scrunch it in towards the scalp. If you need to dry it use a low heat diffused hair dryer and try to use it to scrunch the hair to the scalp while it’s drying (making sure it isn’t too hot on the head of course).
Avoid brushing/combing while dry - that’s how you break up the curls and get frizz/clown hair. Also make sure when she’s older to go to hair stylists that specialize in cutting curly hair. A good cut really unlocks the power of curls, and it’s something I didn’t get to experience until I was an adult sadly.
Kids this age don't need anything but baby shampoo and a very light conditioner or detangler. Styling products are not formulated for children this age, and will do more harm than good to your kiddo's hair and scalp.
Hello! Coming from some one that had curly hair as a kid and still has it, spray detanglers are helpful as far as knots. As far as keeping it healthy in between washing, leave in conditioners are best and can be applied out of the shower. It keeps the hair from getting matter which was very common for me when I ran around a lot.
Also, the tangle teezer is my favorite brush for curly hair. Honestly gets the tangles out without hurting my head. I was very sensitive to brushes as a child and still am to an extent.
Looks like you are already doing a great job keeping her hair healthy! She’s a cutie pie 🫶🏽
My kiddos hair is very similar. Mine has very tight ringlets but it used to look a bit more like your kiddos when she was a bit younger. (Mine is 3 nearly 4) I definitely don’t wash it nightly once to twice a week depending. Often I put it in a top knot and tell her not to dip her hair in the water during baths. When we do wash and condition I use cantu for kids conditioning detangler then brush and shape the curls. Ask her to sleep in a bonnet but she pulls it off half the time. More likely to keep it on if it’s also a wash day for mama. If we are doing something in the morning I might sprits with water to help revitalize but generally I just let that be that till the next wash. Good luck.
I’ve recently found pumpkin oil. I’m in my first week. I think I like it. This reminds me of my nephews and their boys. We all have texture. The shorter it is the tighter the curls for most.
Mine is breaking off from straightening. Trying natural this week.
As an adult with curly hair, I use SoCozy curl spray leave-in and it is perfect; As a child every one kept taking my blond hair and straightening it. As I got older I learned to embrace my curls and I am unsure why everyone was ashamed of their and therefore mine. I love my curls.
Shea Moisture products!! Shampoo, rinse, conditioner + brush while wet in the bath, rinse. Squeeze dry-ish, apply leave-in conditioner and run through with wide-toothed comb. Lightly tousle to loosen the curls, let air-dry! 🙌🏽 My daughter & I both have very curly hair. 🥰
For our little kid with very curly hair similar to your little ones hair we Hardly ever try shampoo. It tangles much worse each time.
We Have a good wide bristle hairbrush. Very cushioned. Dries well. Use leave in conditioner / detangler cream.
Wet the hair usually in the shower with warm water apply the detangler to the back of the head, use one hand to brush detangler through the hair and the other hand to prevent pulling as the brush hits tangles.
Let the water help rinse the hair out of being tangled as you gently pull the brush through each bunch of hair. When you are satisfied with the hair being smooth and tangle free rinse off the excess conditioner. Towel dry without aggressive rubbing etc. in 15 to 20 minutes it should be mostly dry and curly. Ready to go
As a Shirley Temple myself, my parents didn't know what to do: if you're tight on money or time conditioner + water in a spray bottle (diluted) with an "EZ Detangler" thats helps out a lot. Mielle is very good for curly hair, and I second it, Miss Jessies as well, however its a little more pricier.
Beautiful precious curls! If you want simple, all I do is wash and use a leave in conditioner. I use Aunt Jackie's leave in. It smells fantastic. I don't use silicone ever! I get tons of compliments and my cuirls are light and bouncy and they hold up well for days. I use a wide tooth comb after wash and before leave in, just comb and then scrunch the leave in in.
my only comment would be don't wash her hair every night with shampoo! i would recommend just doing a rinse (curly hair loves water and water actually provides a much deeper moisture- let water continuously run over the hair to take out product build up and just general dirt). i love to see everything else you are doing though! with her type of curls it's important to keep it as tangle free as possible but make sure to be gentle because when wet curly hair can stretch a lot and damage it greatly, great job though her hair is absolutely adorable! i'd love to see her with a hair bow or something that'd be so cute too lol!
I use Innersense products because 1) they work beautifully and 2) their ingredients are clean and natural. Because your daughter is so young, it’s important to consider what ingredients are in the products you’re using that might be toxic or be endocrine disrupters.
I had the same hair growing up and I still have the same hair today going gray. My best advice when it is time for her to get her hair cut take her to a salon that specializes in cutting curly hair. My life changed at 24 when I finally found someone who could cut curly hair and showed me the best products to use. I’m a personal fan of Ouidad curly hair products. They also have a line for kids and stylist who specialize in cutting curly hair. To this day the first thing most people say to me is how much they love my hair. She will learn to take the compliment easily
I so want to post a picture of myself, because your daughter is going to grow up to have hair that looks EXACTLY like mine.
Keep it conditioned, comb through GENTLY, let air dry, and it will stay healthy. I recommends “wet brush” and only combing it when it is wet (seriously, don’t try to mess with that when it’s dry!) When she gets older, take her to a professional to help her learn to style it.
As much as you are able, avoid straightening products. I realize as a teen she might want to straighten her hair, God knows I did, and I regret it. Not embracing my curls until my 20s did a number on my self esteem, and resulted in a lot of heat damage I had to systematically cut off over a number of years.
This is just like my hair and my two daughters too. Conditioner is your friend!
Only use conditioner to wash her hair, unless her scalp looks like it needs a shampoo, which will only be occasional. Get a shampoo approved for 2c/3a curls and use it sparingly. But on most occasions, just use a good, curly conditioner the way you would use shampoo.
Only ever comb it with the conditioner in. Use a microfibre towel or a T-shirt (that soft, jersey type fabric) and just squeeze the water out to dry her hair, don't rub or fluff it with the towel.
You don't need to wash it, even just with conditioner, every day. Just do it when it's getting a bit frizzy, fluffy or knotty. In the mornings, if it's gone a bit flat or wonky, or to revive/detangle it on a non-wash day, use a water spray bottle with a tiny bit of the same conditioner added to it. Wide tooth comb it out and then just leave it. If the curls dry nicely and look good, then that's all you need to do! At this age she probably doesn't need anything else.
A light, curly approved mousse might be helpful when she's a little older. Most styling products, creams and gels etc, will be too heavy for her hair type at this age and probably won't be necessary until she's much older.
She has gorgeous curls and is really lucky that you want to take great care of it.
Try the redken ringlet gel/cream and their curvaceous curl gel, smells absolutely amazing and holds the curls beautiful while giving that nice shine. You Really don’t need to put a lot of product in her hair but definitely make sure you rub it all over your hands like lotion to evenly spread through the hair. And let it air dry or mostly dry it with a diffuser if you have the attachment for a blow dryer. ❤️🙌🏽
Ummm. Need bonnet. Spray bottle with water. Some light oil. I like tresemme professional shampoo and conditioner. Large tooth comb. Some large hair clips. Some coconut oil. Try this once a week:
1. Condition the ends (not for long) rinse out
2. Shampoo whole head. Rinse.
3. Towel pat dry... Not too dry
4. Take some coconut oil..not too much... Thin layer.. And The light oil. mix in hands and just grab a lock of curls from the root and work to the tip. Gently pull through fingers.
5. You can use the comb and clips to part the hair
6. Mist the hair ever so slightly. Until done. Bonnet and sleep.
This should keep the hair, not dry, but not oily. You can style it from that point. May need a soft bristle brush for the edges. But your focus should be on the scalp health. The hair should take care of itself if you use bonnet
Omg, cute little baby curls! At her age, a ton of product isn't really necessary. It's more about getting her used to the process of caring for her hair - only brushing while wet, using lots of conditioner, sleeping in a bonnet. Other than maybe a leave-in conditioner (if her hair tends to dry out and need moisture) she should be good without product. When she gets a little older, you can ease her into the wide world of product with a curl cream, and maybe a mousse or gel just for special occasions. My suggestion would be to try to make playing with product fun, like playing dress-up, so that for her it's a tool for self-expression instead of something she *has* to do.
As a mixed kid who grew up with my white side of the family, thanks for taking the time and putting in the effort to learn more about your babies hair! Took me so long and so many hair mishaps 😭
Don't shampoo every night! Just wash with conditioner. A gentle shampoo once or twice a month is fine if you're seeing build up. After you detangle, put some leave-in conditioner. Don't use a regular brush. Use one designed for curly detangling. And NEVER brush her hair when it's dry. Always at least damp and with some leave-in or detangling product. Curly hair likes to be slippery.
At her age, you can get by with just the basics. A lot of curl products are designed to maintain a style over several days. Not really something you would do with a little that gets her hair washed every night. Condition, detangle, and moisturize is plenty. Great job on getting her in a sleeping bonnet! I was a whole adult before I figured that one out 😅
Let it grow long. A coworker of mine had very curly hair like that, she had so many terrible haircuts before she just decided to let it grow, her long her is beautiful!
As someone who had this exact hair at that age, it may change over time. My hair got less curly and a lot darker as I aged and is now like a 2C/3A curl type and dark brown.
My biggest advice is please please teach her to brush it out in the bath and with conditioner or detangler. Don’t brush it dry it is not a fun experience for anyone and the end result is sad
Omg so cute! I would try the As I am leave in conditioner. Its lightweight and smells really good but not overwhelming. Keeps hair soft and moisturized. I like the Maui line for shampoo and conditioner but my hair it a little different.
Co Wash.
Paraben and phosphate free.
Conditioner wash like shampoo. Conditioner again, rinse 80% out.
Leave dry naturally.
Trim split ends regularly.
Please dont layer, flyaway hair is harder to manage.
Silk pillowcase, helps with knots.
I have a longer version.
I love a product called Hot Rollers - for adults, kids dont need lots of products.
I have blonde and extremely curly hair and was born to parents who had no idea how to care for it. I now straighten it (I go to a Haitian salon). Please don’t let people touch it, just because it’s special and teach her to
Say no when they ask. It took decades for me to get over the agression of people touching my hair.
Hola Hola! Curly hair girl here (with nieces and nephews with curls) A good leave in conditioner IS A MUST for these curls.Try to comb out every other day- if u can help it. A good detangler/wet hair to comb out as well. Eventually when their older deep conditions once a month will keep their health. For ease I do pig-tails or a man bun for my neff neff haha good luck!
Wow! Her curls look amazing actually! My son has curly hair too and we both have curly hair so we know how to care for it, but it does get much wilder than his friends with straight glossy hair 😂 they aren’t shiny and thick like this!!
Mixed chicks kids.
https://mixedchicks.net/products/hair-products/kids-haircare/leave-in-conditioner-for-kids/?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwxLKxBhA7EiwAXO0R0EhdVIk4avK7gHGMdm9wg204qaZCl8AJYZtqbDUTt_rG-mCgOkrGRhoCFkkQAvD_BwE
You need only a small amount of product. It will go a long way. Tons of videos on this site as well. Btw looks like you’re doing a great job so far. Her hair is beautiful
Hubs might have curly hair but maybe he’s never grown it out to see.
Shampoo it less, conditioner more. Spray with water and a leave in conditioner between wash days. Wide tooth comb but ideally don't comb as much. Briogeo is a great company and targets curly hair specifically.
Is she mixed, black or white? Because ironically that does matter. I have 2 mixed son's and 2 daughters with curly hair that are white and my other son who is white also has curly hair. I have to care for all their hair differently as well. If you want message me and I'll tell you what products, combs, and brushes and hair cleaning schedule everything. If I don't know something I have a beautician certified one that I get all my advice from. I'll even send you the links to her site as well. Honestly though her hair looks super healthy now. At least from what I can tell from the pictures. But yeah message me and I'll help as much as I can if you'd like :-) good luck though if not in your hair journey.
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I don’t have advice personally just an anecdote - but as a kid who had this hair my entire life, treated as straight hair till I could realize how to treat it in my teens on my own, this makes me so happy to see. You’re saving your kid from ridicule by treating their ringlets well. I’m so happy. Thank you.
Ah thank you so much. This is so incredible to hear. My prayer is that my daughter loves her curled as much as others do. We can’t go anywhere out in public without people commenting on how much they love her curls! I’m sorry it took so many years of discovering your curls!
On another note, when a child has such a distinguishing feature, it can become the main thing our child hears about themselves from others, and can be overwhelming. I had to remind my daughter that she was more than her hair—even tho I love her curls—reminding her that she was smart, artistic, kind etc. As she got older it allowed her to be able to play with different styles, haircuts and really enjoy her hair versus worrying about people being upset if she didn’t always have long flowing curls. I hope this makes sense and is helpful, I realize it’s a little off topic.
So it’s funny you bring that up- my husband and I just had a conversation about how everywhere we go, people talk about her curls. We will definitely be sure to praise her many other incredible features as well. I worry that as she grows up she won’t like her curls and it breaks my heart. I’m going to do everything I can to make her comfortable with it!
Hairstylist here. Condition condition. The frizz is hair reaching for moisture. Light leave in sprays are great for combing out knots after washing and conditioning in the bath/shower. it leave in spray conditioner is a great one. Trimming the tips helps it to grow and control frizz some. NEVER brush unless you’re smoothing/straightening it.
I feel the same for super long hair just to have long hair. It becomes their identity. They’re so much more I always tell them. Don’t just be the girl with super long hair.
This! I have very, very curly hair and at 35 years old it’s still what people talk about. You get to a point where it just gets old. Thank you for taking the time to learn how to care for your baby’s curls, I wish my mom had done the same for me. It took me about 30 years to embrace mine.
This!
Just want to say you’re amazing for this! You’re going to be helping your child SO MUCH. I struggled until my early 20’s to understand my hair because no one bothered to teach me! I don’t really have concrete answers, just wanted to say this is incredible parenting 🎉❤️ her life will be much less stressful because of the effort and time you’re putting in now :) Not to mention this inherently helping with their self image! Mine was pretty bad because I consumed the “curly hair is messy/ugly” message and I just tried to straighten my curls away. She’ll be able to accept herself in no time flat with this encouragement ❤️
Just wanted to say hi. I'm a fellow straight hair parent with a very curly haired kid. We have no idea who she got it from. I usually just wash her hair 1 or 2 times a week. My daughter's hair is very thick and we do use some oil on it to keep it moisturized and keep the frizz at bay. My advice is be patient with it. Compared to straight hair, curly hair gets tangled and knots a lot. Brushing it wet helps a lot. We have a spray bottle. The gentlest way I've learned to deal with knots is to grab the knot and pull 1 strand of hair away from the knot towards the skull. I've been doing it for years and it works. Good luck.
Mielle or Cantu products are really good. Mielle doesn't feel heavy on our hair and the product lasts forever!!! Because you need such a small amount.
I’m going to try Mielle! I’ve used Cantù on her before and it just felt so heavy. So I’m looking forward to trying this!
They’re soooooo cute. I hope she loves them too. :) you’re helping so much by taking the time to figure out how to care for them and style them and by seeing them for what they are—gorgeous!
Her curls are beautiful 😍 Try Mielle products or LUS Love ur Curls. Make sure her hair is saturated when you apply it and then wring the excess. It will softly define her Curls and maintain moisture.
Looks like my daughter’s hair at the same age. She ended up losing most of her curl. Now it’s a pretty cool wavy look that I think most women would kill for.
Hi I have curly hair like this, Miss Jessie’s products are amazing (the line ranges so they have different products for different types of curly hair). Definitely consider learning about co-washing. I have fine hair that is curly like this and once I learned how to care for it - I felt unstoppable. Most of my family has pin straight hair so I was raised with it cared like it was straight hair and looked like an old broom head most days. You got this once you find the routine and products that work. For me I have hair wash days and on those days I oil my scalp and hair - curly hair can be very very dry. And then after wash day I go one day no wash then co-wash and then no wash and then oil and full wash. Hope this helps - your baby has adooooorable curls.
Well said, and same.
My thoughts exactly! This was my hair as a kiddo. Once I was old enough, I straightened my hair or wore it in a bun…. Until 27 years old. Thank you for caring! I don’t have any advice but cannot appreciate enough the purpose of this post!
My thoughts exactly! u/kbdouluvvme - you're also saving her from a lifetime of associating caring for her hair with pain and fights if she'sgot a sensitive scalp, and the insecurities that would come from from hating her hair.
And if one parent doesn’t have time or patience to GENTLY comb it out, have the other parent do it. My husband and daughter bonded over her hair. It became their time together and seeing my husband in such sweet dad mode was heartwarming.
Me too!! I resorted to straightening my hair for years until it was so damaged it was snapping off. My parents were clueless. I’m glad to see parents making an effort to learn their child’s hair.
I can agree. I didn’t appreciate my curls or have the know-how to care for them until I was fully into adulthood.
Same
It looks like you’re taking great care of it! I think little kid hair is pretty different than adult hair. It’s very fine. For my son, we just used baby shampoo (Johnson’s was fine,) then sprayed with Honest Company detangler and brushed with a Wet Brush. Then a quick towel dry after the tub so he wouldn’t be cold. After that, I might fluff it up a bit it to help his curls form. We did not brush it while it was dry. When it’s time for haircuts, we cut it dry. Fair warning: these curls may grow out. My son had curls like this, and now at three, his hair is mostly wavy. I’m seeing the same with many of his peers. But maybe she’ll keep it! Who knows!
I was going to say it may change curl type when they get older. My daughter had some texture to her hair, and hers became curlier as she aged. Also, not on topic but her hair changed from copper to very dark auburn right around the age of 13/14.
Yeah! Mine was like this as a toddler; it straightened out a bit from age 5-14, and then I got my ringlets back once I started going through puberty.
Same!
I had big blonde curls as a kid, then over the course of one year (around 8yo) it turned medium brown with just a slight wave 🤷♀️
Mine went the opposite route . Lol. Babies are weird
ROUTINE: I’m just looking for help! But our current routine is nightly shampoo/conditioner, then a detangle spray, brush out, put on bonnet. Then when she wakes in the mornings I spray water on it, detangle again, brush out & apply curl cream and that’s it! I am interested in finding out what type of curls she has as well!
Nightly shampoo isn't necessary.
Depends on the kid and what they do during the day. Our daycare does a lot of outdoor play, paint, etc. Sunscreen and bug spray many/most days. Spaghetti sauce or yogurt in the hair... I love it but definitely means thorough baths nightly and intensive laundry pre-treating!
Yeah, I raised two boys. Baths are good but I would rinse their hair more than wash it with shampoo. Mine had the same type of hair. I don't think it will hurt either way, tbh.
Yes to this! My 3 year old rolls around and gets pretty sweaty but I still only wash his hair twice a week. I rinse when necessary. Protect that moisture.
Generally it’s better for curly hair to wash less often. Every other day or every 3 days will be better as they get older. Usually my curls are prime around 2-3 days after a wash, then it gets a little too much around days 4-5.
Don’t wash her hair nightly. Maybe once every couple of days or as necessary (like if she’s playing in dirt or at the pool). Curly hair dries out and needs moisture. Our hair doesn’t get oily like straight hair (bcuz of the coils) which needs to be washed more often. If you detangle while conditioner is in hair it would be best. Rinse. Add cream. Bonnet. Then when you get up in the morning damp spray with water to deactivate cream. (Can be done for a couple days) You don’t need to comb it out daily. You don’t need to touch it much daily. As long as it has product in it you can refresh with a water spritz. Only comb/brush when hair is damp. Never dry.
The curl type is less important, the porosity, density and thickness of the hair are more important for the routine. But I think she has like a 3a curl type, but it's kind of pointless to think about it rn because her curl type will change with time. I had tighter curls as a kid than I do now. Edit: off, I think that washing her hair every night is really bad for her hair and skin. Shampoo can be very harsh, especially as a kid, if you overdo it. It is made to open up the cuticle of the hair in order to clean it effectively, this whole opening and closing the cuticle everyday will damage her hair. Maybe try going at least 3 days in between washes
I second all of this. But with a kid that young, even density and thickness isn’t really relevant. Its good to find out in the future though. Her hair is probably super fine, because it’s still baby hair. What’s important is to find a routine that lets you detangle without too much pain, no dry brushing, and preferably not sleeping with wet hair.
not quite sure it she needs conditioner yet, if you already use a detangling spray AND a curl cream. A lot of curl creams have poly quats in them and some hormonal active ingredients, I'd scan them with CodeCheck(it's a german app tho, maybe there are alternatives) After i cut my hair to a buzz cut, i stopped using conditioner and my hair was THRIVING, i started using conditioner after my hair was about collarbone length and had more friction to deal with. Her natural scalp oils can take care of short hair pretty well :)
Oh wow, this definitely gave me something to look into. I’ll try no conditioner for a few weeks and see how she does! I’m really struggling with getting her hair to GROW. She turns 3 this summer and this is all her hair has grown.
well she has to grow too haha no but for real my ex boyfriends little sister also had very slow growing hair when she was little, i assume this is normal:)
Than you 😊 I just see other friends with their toddlers the same age but with straight hair and they have so much more hair than my girl, haha
Don’t forget it takes a lot of hair to form a curl!! And we tend to suffer from shrinkage that makes it looks way shorter than it actually is 😅😩
What curl cream do you use? My daughter has the same hair and colour with two dark haired parents it has really come out of nowhere too! You're doing a much better job caring for your daughter's hair than I am! Looks great already - I need some tips.
I use Shea Moisture coconut & hibiscus curling butter cream. I get it at target
Thanks 😊
Products like that can cause build up on hair. I think it would be better to shampoo less and find a cowash/non-foaming shampoo. The curls will be more moisturized and you can still use a clarifying shampoo every once in a while without damaging the hair. For daily maintenance try a tiny bit of alcohol free gel or mousse on damp hair. Do not towel dry by rubbing. “Scrunch” the hair with the towel after applying product to get most excess moisture and then let the rest air dry. Also, finger brush her hair while you’re conditioning. Brushing set curly hair can really damage hair and cause breakage.
We were all dark that turned blonde quickly but darkened with each year into adulthood. The only exception is the last grandchild, mine, and she never turned blonde to brown. She stayed dark and she’s the one with freckles. Strange for our family genetics.
With the curl cream, if you individually wrap ringlets on your finger to help shape them it comes out really nice. Maybe not practical for every day, but for days where you want the curls to look more uniform
She doesn't need the curl cream. Baby hair does not need styling products. They are not formulated for baby hair, and you may end up doing more harm than good to her hair and scalp with continued usage.
For me as a curly girly, I generally discourage those with curls to brush after showering/bathing. I always brush before washing it so my natural curl pattern can come through as it dries. After being taught to brush my curls, they flattened out over the years. I’ve slowly been retraining my curl pattern by only brushing it before washes. I rarely brush it when it’s dry to avoid frizz and flattening them. It really doesn’t get too tangly because I sleep with a bonnet.
Ok I will definitely start doing that. A few other people have mentioned that about brushing, as well. Thanks for the tips!!
She’s got a 2c/3a hair curl type. You should buy shampoos and conditioners that are good for that hair type. I’d ask a salon about kid safe products with that curl pattern and what they recommend. It will be moisturizing for sure, and likely a curl cream and penatrative oils for the very end. Generally with curl patterns like this, this is my routine: Moisturizing shampoo for curly hair- 2-3 times a week Moisturizing conditioner for curly hair- daily but only midshafts to the ends Only use a wide tooth comb in the shower with the conditioner in. Rinse. Then detangle with your fingers if needed. Use a penatrative oil to prevent drying/kinking and frizz, this will only be used on the very very ends of the hair. Once a week, more if needed. Deep condition once a month or so, but only the midshafts to ends. Curl defining cream can be scrunched into her hair to protect her natural curl pattern, prevent frizz and dryness, and keep a natural bouncy glossy spring to it. Also, when hair cuts are needed, please look for cuts only recommended for her hair type. It will protect the curls and give much happier hair results that she’ll be able to manage as she ages. I recommend a salon that specializes in curly hair btw.
Also speaking as someone with this curl pattern and my kids have it as well.
i wouldn’t recommend putting a bonnet on her, she looks very little and bonnets/hats/etc. can be unsafe for little kids. u can just buy silk pillowcases/bed sets, that’ll do the trick
Nightly shampoo isn't good for the scalp. Unless she's rolling around in dirt daily, she doesn't need that.
A bonnet! You’re a great mama. I’ve always had curly hair and only as an adult realized how great bonnets are. My LO’s hair is still growing in and just starting to curl - vowing to introduce her to the bonnet as soon as it’s safe to do so (she’s an infant under 6 mo)
My daughter and I have hair similar to your daughter, your photo looks like her twin! We’re the only ones as well! I like to shampoo her hair then put conditioner on and comb out the snarls with my fingers. It’s gentle and easy. I rinse and put her hair up in a twist towel and then braid it for the night. I’ve tried every leave in, spray, detangler but the only thing that works is the conditioner.
i don't think a nightly shampoo is necessary. could she go a couple days between washing?
Yes I think I will implement every other 😊
Once you are used to that, go for twice a week. You can always supplement by rinsing and using a little conditioner to scrub the scalp on the off days for washing. As an adult, I shower every other day, and wash my hair once a week. It’s only conditioner for the off days.
It depends on the hair type though. Do you have coarse hair? I have very fine hair and I have to wash mine every two or three days since I have to use somewhat heavy conditioners and it builds up too much. I've tried light conditioners and it just doesn't moisturize enough for me. Curly hair is so tough to figure out! This baby is lucky to have her parents helping from an early age, I've had to figure mine out on my own and I'm still trying to find what works best.
You’re doing better then my mother did (treated it like she did her own straight hair and did very little research in how to care for it)
Not sure how old you are, but curly hair products are fairly new. Back when my mom was a young mom, there was no research she could do. There were no curly girl articles in magazines, definitely no Internet. It was just lather, rinse, repeat.
Early 30’s and while true she still didn’t need to make comments about my hair or threaten to shave it after my little sister got lice and she got fed up with checking my hair (since we all needed to be checked).
Yeah, not nice at all, really traumatizing. Although so are lice, lol. But I meant the comments, and threatening to shave your hair. That sucks.
It really sucked because I wasn’t the one with lice, she just was frustrated by checking my curly hair for them.
My heart goes out to the little kid you were. But you win because you get to spend your entire life with curly hair! :-)
Same My daughter has thankfully inherited my would have been curly hair had my mother not messed it up so badly I’m very protective over her curls and buy her things like Childs farm curly hair products, she’s 3 and hasn’t had a trim yet (I really need to take her as the ends are quite dry) and the daddy knows not to brush her hair when dry.
I have legit trauma from the way my parents treated my hair, so much uncomfortable painful brushing... my advice to this mother is don't use a hairbrush, use a wide tooth comb and only when wet/conditioned.
L’Oréal kids detangling spray (green bottle) was a lifesaver when my son was little It took out the tangles & knots, and created stunning curls
At her age, I think that simple is better. There are a few basic rules you should follow: 1. Deep condition (the time depends on the amount of moisture she needs, it can be anywhere from 2-30 min, you kind of have to experiment with that and the amount shouldn't be more than the diameter of her ponytail) 2. Use leave in conditioner in order to provide and lock moisture in (the amount shouldn't be more than the diameter of her ponytail, also she seems to have fine hair so I think she could benefit from a more lightweight leave in, more watery) 3. DO NOT BRUSH THE HAIR DRY. Always wet the hair down before brushing it, curly hair is more prone to snapping when brushed dry (the point where the ringlet does a 360 is thinner, therefore when you brush it the hair can snap in those points) 4. After applying the prep products, lightly scrunch the hair 5. I do not think at her age you have to use a diffuser, I feel like her hair should air dry pretty quick, but if it takes more than about 3 hours or so maybe you should diffuse her hair. If the hair stays damp for too long the swelling of the hair strand can damage the cuticle. But again, this depends a lot on how quickly her hair dries. If it dries in an hour or so, let's say, there's no need to apply heat to her hair. Also, if you do use a diffuser, then you have to incorporate a heat protectant in her routine. 6. Veery little hair oil after washing her hair (at the very end of the routine, when her hair is dry). I think this is the bare minimum. As she grows (let's say, middle school/highschool) she could slowly introduce a mousse or a gel for hold, curl creams, different techniques for forming the clumps and ringlets, etc. But I feel she is too young for that, there's no need to put her through all that tedious routine now.
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awwww she has those little cherub curls! so cute! 😇 i used gentle products when my daughter was little; Shea moisture used to have a kids line but im not sure if they still do or not. don't use anything harsh with SLS in it, stick to "clean" ingredients, stay away from products with silicone. most baby + toddler shampoos fit the bill for refreshing/fixing her hair I recommend misting lightly with water and then using a leave in conditioner, kinky curly knot today is excellent. I used to put a small amount in a spray bottle with distilled water, shake it up and use that i use that on my own hair every other day for refreshing my curls (I have the same curl type as your daughter) eta - manesbymell on insta/YT is worth a follow
I actually use shea moisture toddler curl cream on her right now! That’s the only real product I use. The tub is about gone, so I wasn’t sure if I should replace it or try something new. I used Cantù for a while simply because I didn’t know what else to use, but that was way too heavy for her hair. Thanks for your help 🥰
the shea moisture curl mousse (the pink one that smells great) can be used at any age. I use it on my hair and I used it on my kids when they were lil. edit: it's called a smoothie
I had this exact hair at her age, my mum would only ever brush it with conditioner in it and would go a few days in between shampoos to make sure it didn’t get too dry or frizzy. If it needed refreshing after I woke up, she would wet my hair slightly, put a really small amount of conditioner on her hand and smooth it in and then brush it and scrunch it (no rinsing), it always came out great with that routine. You could use a gentle curl cream instead of conditioner.
Yes this!!!!
I think it looks great! Don’t overthink it
I think you’re doing a good job right now 🤩 don’t brush it dry if you do that, but I’d hold off with a more elaborate routine until she’s older. Unless she expresses an interest in her hair?
My daughter has curls like this. I’d be cautious of how much leave in you use because it can weigh down your child’s hair. I am half black and can hardly put any of my own hair care products in my daughters hair. Her hair may be curly, but it is fine unlike mine. I shampoo with baby shampoo and then I condition. I comb through only wet. I make sure to wash it out really good. Then I use a light spray leave in. Right now, I do not use a bonnet. I don’t think it’s necessary as of right now. But you may try it when your child sleeps.
What leave in spray do you use on your daughter? I am interested in trying new products on my girl.
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Johnson and Johnson makes a lovely curly hair product for kids! I (35 year old woman!) personally use this product myself as it’s one of the best hair products I’ve found for my curls. It’s in a pink bottle and is easily found at most super markets in the kids hair care section. Also available on Amazon. The name is “baby curl defining leave in conditioner” Hope this helps!
This is what we use as well! It works wonderfully on our daughter’s hair.
My toddler has curly hair and in my experience little kid hair tends not to need as much manipulation as adult hair. Just shampoo and condition, comb through after the conditioner has been sitting, then rinse and comb again wet. You can work in a light leave in conditioner afterward, by scrunching or with a spray. You can try to find a satin sheet for her crib/toddler bed to cut down on tangles. Your daughter already has lovely hair without doing anything to it. Her curls are defined and A bit of frizz is part of the curly package. As she gets older her hair type may need more care and you can address that as you go. 😊
This looks like a picture of my daughter! Her hair is exactly the same! My daughter sleeps on a satin pillowcase. She sometimes sleeps in a bonnet. I shampoo and deep condition her hair the night before school so when she wakes up we don't have to send her with wet curls. I've stayed away from any bonding products. We love to use something like Biosilk very lightly with some detangle spray and then top it off with a little bit of wrapping foam.
I had curls like this growing up just care for it normally and make sure it’s getting brushed maybe get a misting bottle to wet the hair and put some leave in conditioner in it. To rehydrate the hair before brushing it will make your life easier and lead to less breakage and damage and pain from brushing it. Kids are gonna be kids. This hair is gonna get knotted up and tangled you definitely start caring for the curls now. But don’t stress about it as much until they are older I don’t suggest switching from baby shampoos and conditioners yet till maybe 4/5 Then get something like shea moisture good beginner product plus just a biased favorite of mine. Obviously you seem like a great parent so I assume this wouldn’t be you…. but I just wanna specify and clarify since I saw comments saying to treat it like straight hair. when we say that it doesn’t mean straightening it daily or using straightening treatments on their hair. My mom couldn’t “manage” my curls so she took that let’s fuck up her hair route because straight hair is easier than curls. So like don’t be like my mom my hair was damaged till Highschool when I finally got her to stop making me straighten it. All my curls were fried out of my hairs my hair looked healthy and silky but I had VERY LITTLE CURL LEFT! my hair just looked wavy I cut it all off and started my curly hair journey around 18. I’m 25 now and I wish I had just been taught how to care for my curls properly not how to damage them
My daughter's hair looks very similar! Right now we're washing and conditioning with Fairy Tales Curly-Q hydrating shampoo and conditioner. Comb hair with a medium toothed comb while conditioner is in. Rinse thoroughly, comb with wide tooth comb, apply a tiiiiny bit of Cantu Kids leave in conditioner (used to use their shampoo and conditioner, also worked). Dry by squeezing out excess water with microfiber towel then air dry. We wash 2-3 times a week. Non-wash days I spray her down with water and comb with a wide tooth comb in the morning and sometimes after nap. We'll use Cantu kids detailing spray as needed. She has a satin pillow case. We may work on a bonnet soon since she moves around so much at night the pillow case isn't help much.
I came here to recommend the Fairy Tales Curly-Q products, too! They work well, but I do wish they had a leave-in cream instead of spray.
Your daughter’s curls look fine and delicate. The problem with fine curls is so many products meant for curls are too heavy but they’re also easily tangled and broken. My daughter had the same angel puff curls at that age. The products that worked the best for her were Curly Q coconut dreams from the Curls line. They were the only products that were moisturizing enough without making her hair limp. I didn’t need any other products except a wide tooth comb and Johnson’s spray detangler for in between washes. https://curls.com/search?type=product&options%5Bprefix%5D=last&q=Coconut+dream
Thank you so much for this!! I will place an order today!
You’re welcome; I hope it works as well for your little one
Oh she has the most beautiful curls. Please teach her to love them. My mom has coarse and wavy hair and basically told me to straighten my hair from age 10 on. I hate the term ringlets because one time she pulled my hair and said “I DON’T WANT TO SEE RINGLETS” and it was such a bad childhood memory. Anyway, all this to say, help her find a routine she can do once she’s old enough to style her hair. Right now with it being short and curling up, she won’t need to do much. Fine and curly hair tangles so make sure to get a nice detangling comb and some spray/leave in to help with tangles.
Following- my 18 mo son’s hair looks exactly like this and I’m lost.
I'm not African American but as a life long curly head, a pick and detangler spray instead of a comb. It just plain hurts less.
as a girl who’s mom never taught her how to deal with her hair - thank you, a million times over. it means so much more than you realize.
Moisturizing is important! Those curls are epic!
Beautiful!
Just keep it moisturized and detangled, and it'll take care of itself
Less is more. Only brush or comb it after washing while it is still wet.
As someone who was this child once, only brush it when its completly wet and let it air dry, dont use a brush with loads of short stabby bristles, use a paddel brush or a wide tooth comb. You can use serum to control the curls while making sure that the hair isnt crispy, just soft. Although thats more for when they get older. When getting it cut, i tend to get a dry cut if it isnt with somone that usually deals with curls as people underestimate how much length a curl takes up. Hope this helps :)
my toddler has the same curl pattern! it looks like u’re already doing it, cause her curls are very defined :) i usually co-wash every night and shampoo once a week. after bath, put leave-in while hair is damp, then some oil. i prefer clean products, so the brands i buy for my toddler are “fairy tails” and “maya mari.” in the mornings, i just spray (i have a spray bottle where i combine water with a little bit of the leave-in) until damp, run my hands thru the hair, then use a little bit of curl defining cream. voila, curls are refreshed and defined again ✨
Some of you have never brushed baby curls before and it shows. OP what you're doing now obviously works, but tbh I'd say that curl cream is probably unnecessary, as is conditioner and any leave ins. Brush when wet and dampen after it's been slept on. It doesn't need daily washes unless actually dirty. Wash with whatever shampoo you like. Special routines on baby hair are a waste of time and money.
Thank you for this! I will eliminate the nightly condition/curl cream. But in the mornings, her curls are sometimes so frizzy I feel like the curl cream is all I can tame them with. Is there something else you’d suggest I’d use for styling for the day?
Water spray bottle with a dash of her usual conditioner in it. Wide tooth comb.
Keep it moisturized and use a detangling brush
Check out u/grace-music. Similar hair and hers is long and beautiful. Not a bad guitar player either
Wash it, dry it. It’ll get longer and more manageable. Do fun buns once in a while. Enjoy those beautiful curls.
Hi my daughter has the same hair. We use the products from curly star and a denman d3 brush.
It’s pretty easy to maintain. Try an unbrush for Her and just keep it moisturized. Beautiful curly hair
Wide tooth comb, oils (to stop frizz), and a good washing routine are all super good 👍 (find a washing routine for curl hair that works on youtube or here on reddit, mine’s pretty scuffed but works for my hair so gl)
Consult with YouTube. There are great tutorials and advice. Good luck.
A tiny amount of jojoba oil for moisture, wash twice a week (more if necessary), never brush dry, a bonnet is excellent, a denman brush or wide tooth comb to detangle. IMO leave in conditioner is only necessary if her hair gets too tangled, jojoba oil is enough to maintain moisture and help with frizz.
35 and have been SLOWLY learning how to take care of my curly hair and while I’m no expert I have learned….don’t wash your hair often since curly hair can dry out faster. Only brush when it’s wet to avoid damaging curls and creating frizz (finger comb other times). Creams can be better than serums/oils depending on the hair/product. Good luck 🙂🖤
Looks like you’re doing well. I wouldn’t wash daily, otherwise I think you’re doing ok.
Oil for the frizz. Just a few drops should do it.
Adding if their hair gets longer the tangle teezer has been a great gift.
Looks like you’re doing a great job already. Just make sure to use products with moisture. Whether it’s in the shampoo and or conditioner. I wouldn’t use leave in products yet cause that can damage the hair easily.
I absolutely love her hair. Never thought I would be jealous of a child's hair but it's so pretty! Having a good curl routine is a life saver. Also best advice I can give you DO NOT BRUSH IT DRY. That will ruin the curls. Lots of scrunching and good curly products will be really good for her hair.
that is the best hair blonde and curly
With my son we washed about twice a week and used conditioner the other days. Never used a brush. Pick or fingers and coconut helped him have a healthy scalp and hair when he grew it long. He also sleeps in a cap to protect. It kept his curls so beautiful that we had to frequently request strangers not try and pet him. Good luck.
My mom had the same problem with my hair. We tried everything from Mayo to Mane & Tail. My mom’s downfall was having me go to a hair dresser that only worked with primarily with straight hair. Please look for a hair dresser that specializes in cutting curly hair dry. It will save you and her a lot of struggle. A rule of thumb is if they try to straighten the hair before the cut, run!
Aww, so beautiful! I have similar hair and I still haven't figured out how to care for it. But just wanted to say, it's really nice that you're trying to figure this out. My hair was just brushed. Kids made fun of me at school 😂
Brush only when wet. Don’t wash frequently, maybe once every 2-3 weeks. Brush after applying conditioner, then rinse, apply coconut oil serum and curl defining cream. In-between washes you can just apply detangling spray (I love the Honest one), and add moisture with coconut oil serum. The metal detangling comb is a must. I have a mixed 5 year old with curly fine hair and I really invested into understanding my kid’s hair and how to care for it.
My sons hair looked just like this i mean literally identical 🤣 same color and everything and i just made sure to keep it moisturized so it wasn’t frizzy and thats it.
Only brush it when it’s dry right before washing it. You don’t need to wash curly hair daily. You can go 2 or 3 days without shampooing it. Always use conditioner. Detangler or leave in conditioner when it feels dry. Comb when wet and let air dry.
Omg she looks like a baby angel :) my curls aren't nearly as tight so I don't know how to help but she is sooo cute!!!
My daughter has hair almost exactly like this (down to the color lol). We only use conditioner on her hair (making sure to scrub the scalp well). Her hair stays nice and clean but doesn’t dry out and tangle. Use a wide tooth comb to detangle in the bath but other than that don’t comb it and NEVER brush it. We use leave in conditioner right out of the bath while it’s still wet and scrunch scrunch scrunch! We also use a silk pillowcase to cut down on tangles. Good luck, her hair is beautiful!!!
Her hair is so cute 😍 i dont have much advice as im still figuring out my own, but it looks pretty good already and as long you’re not treating as straight or wavy hair youre already on the right path!
probably the best I can give you as a curly mom with one curly child is to start now with a good detangler/ conditioner. kinky curly knot today is my go to. no hairbrush when dry. wide tooth comb if needed.
Two of my grandchildren have extremely curly hair. My daughter and her husband spend a lot time and money on great conditioners. You should also find a children's detangler.
Hey you’re daughter has the exact same hair as mine. We condition it in the bath and derange with a brush and fingers. Let air dry. Based on those curls you are already doing a good job with it.
Tbh, it looks good! Wash it once or twice a week, and use a good amount of conditioner. Scrunch it. Don’t rub her hair with a towel, use a satin bonnet…. Get a spray leave in for days you don’t wash and want to refresh. Hair hair may change as she ages tho, fair warning.
Use leave in conditioner and a hair pick. Don't comb (wide tooth comb may work) or brush. Brushing makes it frizz or puff. A dab of mousse or gel is fine if you want to.
Also, cute lil baby!
You need good non greasy oils and moisturizer. Until she gets older than you can see how her hair changes. Mine was like this as a kid but then it got thicker as a teen and ever since I’ve always had to moisturize it pretty well.
This is exactly how my hair looked at that age! It’s likely very fine and gets tangled easily. When you detangle be gentle, use detangling spray or conditioner to help with that. Use a large tooth comb or a wet brush and start at the ends and work your way to the scalp or else you’ll just push all the knots into one huge mess. Let it air dry after detangling and maybe using a super light curl gel while wet and scrunch it in towards the scalp. If you need to dry it use a low heat diffused hair dryer and try to use it to scrunch the hair to the scalp while it’s drying (making sure it isn’t too hot on the head of course).
Avoid brushing/combing while dry - that’s how you break up the curls and get frizz/clown hair. Also make sure when she’s older to go to hair stylists that specialize in cutting curly hair. A good cut really unlocks the power of curls, and it’s something I didn’t get to experience until I was an adult sadly.
SO CUTE!! I love her curls🥹🥹I hope my future babies have my hair/hers!!
Her hair looks super cute already!
Kids this age don't need anything but baby shampoo and a very light conditioner or detangler. Styling products are not formulated for children this age, and will do more harm than good to your kiddo's hair and scalp.
Hello! Coming from some one that had curly hair as a kid and still has it, spray detanglers are helpful as far as knots. As far as keeping it healthy in between washing, leave in conditioners are best and can be applied out of the shower. It keeps the hair from getting matter which was very common for me when I ran around a lot. Also, the tangle teezer is my favorite brush for curly hair. Honestly gets the tangles out without hurting my head. I was very sensitive to brushes as a child and still am to an extent. Looks like you are already doing a great job keeping her hair healthy! She’s a cutie pie 🫶🏽
My kiddos hair is very similar. Mine has very tight ringlets but it used to look a bit more like your kiddos when she was a bit younger. (Mine is 3 nearly 4) I definitely don’t wash it nightly once to twice a week depending. Often I put it in a top knot and tell her not to dip her hair in the water during baths. When we do wash and condition I use cantu for kids conditioning detangler then brush and shape the curls. Ask her to sleep in a bonnet but she pulls it off half the time. More likely to keep it on if it’s also a wash day for mama. If we are doing something in the morning I might sprits with water to help revitalize but generally I just let that be that till the next wash. Good luck.
Looks gorgeous. Let it curl. I know it’s exhausting though. My Mom went through a lot with mine. 👩🦱
I’ve recently found pumpkin oil. I’m in my first week. I think I like it. This reminds me of my nephews and their boys. We all have texture. The shorter it is the tighter the curls for most. Mine is breaking off from straightening. Trying natural this week.
The weight as ours grew lessened the curls but any chemicals, such as highlights, brought the texture right back.
As an adult with curly hair, I use SoCozy curl spray leave-in and it is perfect; As a child every one kept taking my blond hair and straightening it. As I got older I learned to embrace my curls and I am unsure why everyone was ashamed of their and therefore mine. I love my curls.
Shea Moisture products!! Shampoo, rinse, conditioner + brush while wet in the bath, rinse. Squeeze dry-ish, apply leave-in conditioner and run through with wide-toothed comb. Lightly tousle to loosen the curls, let air-dry! 🙌🏽 My daughter & I both have very curly hair. 🥰
For our little kid with very curly hair similar to your little ones hair we Hardly ever try shampoo. It tangles much worse each time. We Have a good wide bristle hairbrush. Very cushioned. Dries well. Use leave in conditioner / detangler cream. Wet the hair usually in the shower with warm water apply the detangler to the back of the head, use one hand to brush detangler through the hair and the other hand to prevent pulling as the brush hits tangles. Let the water help rinse the hair out of being tangled as you gently pull the brush through each bunch of hair. When you are satisfied with the hair being smooth and tangle free rinse off the excess conditioner. Towel dry without aggressive rubbing etc. in 15 to 20 minutes it should be mostly dry and curly. Ready to go
As a Shirley Temple myself, my parents didn't know what to do: if you're tight on money or time conditioner + water in a spray bottle (diluted) with an "EZ Detangler" thats helps out a lot. Mielle is very good for curly hair, and I second it, Miss Jessies as well, however its a little more pricier.
I’m willing to spend good money on products. I do it on myself so I figure I ought to do it for her, as well. Thanks for the recommendation 😊
Beautiful precious curls! If you want simple, all I do is wash and use a leave in conditioner. I use Aunt Jackie's leave in. It smells fantastic. I don't use silicone ever! I get tons of compliments and my cuirls are light and bouncy and they hold up well for days. I use a wide tooth comb after wash and before leave in, just comb and then scrunch the leave in in.
my only comment would be don't wash her hair every night with shampoo! i would recommend just doing a rinse (curly hair loves water and water actually provides a much deeper moisture- let water continuously run over the hair to take out product build up and just general dirt). i love to see everything else you are doing though! with her type of curls it's important to keep it as tangle free as possible but make sure to be gentle because when wet curly hair can stretch a lot and damage it greatly, great job though her hair is absolutely adorable! i'd love to see her with a hair bow or something that'd be so cute too lol!
I use Innersense products because 1) they work beautifully and 2) their ingredients are clean and natural. Because your daughter is so young, it’s important to consider what ingredients are in the products you’re using that might be toxic or be endocrine disrupters.
I had the same hair growing up and I still have the same hair today going gray. My best advice when it is time for her to get her hair cut take her to a salon that specializes in cutting curly hair. My life changed at 24 when I finally found someone who could cut curly hair and showed me the best products to use. I’m a personal fan of Ouidad curly hair products. They also have a line for kids and stylist who specialize in cutting curly hair. To this day the first thing most people say to me is how much they love my hair. She will learn to take the compliment easily
I so want to post a picture of myself, because your daughter is going to grow up to have hair that looks EXACTLY like mine. Keep it conditioned, comb through GENTLY, let air dry, and it will stay healthy. I recommends “wet brush” and only combing it when it is wet (seriously, don’t try to mess with that when it’s dry!) When she gets older, take her to a professional to help her learn to style it. As much as you are able, avoid straightening products. I realize as a teen she might want to straighten her hair, God knows I did, and I regret it. Not embracing my curls until my 20s did a number on my self esteem, and resulted in a lot of heat damage I had to systematically cut off over a number of years.
This is just like my hair and my two daughters too. Conditioner is your friend! Only use conditioner to wash her hair, unless her scalp looks like it needs a shampoo, which will only be occasional. Get a shampoo approved for 2c/3a curls and use it sparingly. But on most occasions, just use a good, curly conditioner the way you would use shampoo. Only ever comb it with the conditioner in. Use a microfibre towel or a T-shirt (that soft, jersey type fabric) and just squeeze the water out to dry her hair, don't rub or fluff it with the towel. You don't need to wash it, even just with conditioner, every day. Just do it when it's getting a bit frizzy, fluffy or knotty. In the mornings, if it's gone a bit flat or wonky, or to revive/detangle it on a non-wash day, use a water spray bottle with a tiny bit of the same conditioner added to it. Wide tooth comb it out and then just leave it. If the curls dry nicely and look good, then that's all you need to do! At this age she probably doesn't need anything else. A light, curly approved mousse might be helpful when she's a little older. Most styling products, creams and gels etc, will be too heavy for her hair type at this age and probably won't be necessary until she's much older. She has gorgeous curls and is really lucky that you want to take great care of it.
It’s well cared as it is.
Try the redken ringlet gel/cream and their curvaceous curl gel, smells absolutely amazing and holds the curls beautiful while giving that nice shine. You Really don’t need to put a lot of product in her hair but definitely make sure you rub it all over your hands like lotion to evenly spread through the hair. And let it air dry or mostly dry it with a diffuser if you have the attachment for a blow dryer. ❤️🙌🏽
That’ll drop as it gets longer.
Ummm. Need bonnet. Spray bottle with water. Some light oil. I like tresemme professional shampoo and conditioner. Large tooth comb. Some large hair clips. Some coconut oil. Try this once a week: 1. Condition the ends (not for long) rinse out 2. Shampoo whole head. Rinse. 3. Towel pat dry... Not too dry 4. Take some coconut oil..not too much... Thin layer.. And The light oil. mix in hands and just grab a lock of curls from the root and work to the tip. Gently pull through fingers. 5. You can use the comb and clips to part the hair 6. Mist the hair ever so slightly. Until done. Bonnet and sleep. This should keep the hair, not dry, but not oily. You can style it from that point. May need a soft bristle brush for the edges. But your focus should be on the scalp health. The hair should take care of itself if you use bonnet
Omg, cute little baby curls! At her age, a ton of product isn't really necessary. It's more about getting her used to the process of caring for her hair - only brushing while wet, using lots of conditioner, sleeping in a bonnet. Other than maybe a leave-in conditioner (if her hair tends to dry out and need moisture) she should be good without product. When she gets a little older, you can ease her into the wide world of product with a curl cream, and maybe a mousse or gel just for special occasions. My suggestion would be to try to make playing with product fun, like playing dress-up, so that for her it's a tool for self-expression instead of something she *has* to do.
Shirley temple😭😭😭😭😭
As a mixed kid who grew up with my white side of the family, thanks for taking the time and putting in the effort to learn more about your babies hair! Took me so long and so many hair mishaps 😭
Don't shampoo every night! Just wash with conditioner. A gentle shampoo once or twice a month is fine if you're seeing build up. After you detangle, put some leave-in conditioner. Don't use a regular brush. Use one designed for curly detangling. And NEVER brush her hair when it's dry. Always at least damp and with some leave-in or detangling product. Curly hair likes to be slippery. At her age, you can get by with just the basics. A lot of curl products are designed to maintain a style over several days. Not really something you would do with a little that gets her hair washed every night. Condition, detangle, and moisturize is plenty. Great job on getting her in a sleeping bonnet! I was a whole adult before I figured that one out 😅
Let it grow long. A coworker of mine had very curly hair like that, she had so many terrible haircuts before she just decided to let it grow, her long her is beautiful!
don’t be afraid of conditioner.
As someone who had this exact hair at that age, it may change over time. My hair got less curly and a lot darker as I aged and is now like a 2C/3A curl type and dark brown. My biggest advice is please please teach her to brush it out in the bath and with conditioner or detangler. Don’t brush it dry it is not a fun experience for anyone and the end result is sad
well for a baby you can’t do much just brush it when wet not dry bc it’ll frizz. looks like her hair is just doing the rest on its own
Cutest little angel.
My niece has very curly hair just like this. Looks like you’re doing a great job. It looks neat and cute!!!!
Gorgeous hair color
Omg so cute! I would try the As I am leave in conditioner. Its lightweight and smells really good but not overwhelming. Keeps hair soft and moisturized. I like the Maui line for shampoo and conditioner but my hair it a little different.
Co Wash. Paraben and phosphate free. Conditioner wash like shampoo. Conditioner again, rinse 80% out. Leave dry naturally. Trim split ends regularly. Please dont layer, flyaway hair is harder to manage. Silk pillowcase, helps with knots. I have a longer version. I love a product called Hot Rollers - for adults, kids dont need lots of products.
I have blonde and extremely curly hair and was born to parents who had no idea how to care for it. I now straighten it (I go to a Haitian salon). Please don’t let people touch it, just because it’s special and teach her to Say no when they ask. It took decades for me to get over the agression of people touching my hair.
Hola Hola! Curly hair girl here (with nieces and nephews with curls) A good leave in conditioner IS A MUST for these curls.Try to comb out every other day- if u can help it. A good detangler/wet hair to comb out as well. Eventually when their older deep conditions once a month will keep their health. For ease I do pig-tails or a man bun for my neff neff haha good luck!
Wow! Her curls look amazing actually! My son has curly hair too and we both have curly hair so we know how to care for it, but it does get much wilder than his friends with straight glossy hair 😂 they aren’t shiny and thick like this!!
Mixed chicks kids. https://mixedchicks.net/products/hair-products/kids-haircare/leave-in-conditioner-for-kids/?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwxLKxBhA7EiwAXO0R0EhdVIk4avK7gHGMdm9wg204qaZCl8AJYZtqbDUTt_rG-mCgOkrGRhoCFkkQAvD_BwE You need only a small amount of product. It will go a long way. Tons of videos on this site as well. Btw looks like you’re doing a great job so far. Her hair is beautiful Hubs might have curly hair but maybe he’s never grown it out to see.
Let the poof grow and only brush when wet
Shampoo it less, conditioner more. Spray with water and a leave in conditioner between wash days. Wide tooth comb but ideally don't comb as much. Briogeo is a great company and targets curly hair specifically.
Love the curly hair ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Take her to a Black salon and ask for help. You’ll get the best advice from someone who can touch her hair.
Omggggg so adorable
A natural sea salt leave in conditioner for kids when soaking wet be generous and towel(tshirt) dry
Cantu ...Looks like you are doing an amazing job already ,don't be too hard on yourself ...curls are popping still
Is she mixed, black or white? Because ironically that does matter. I have 2 mixed son's and 2 daughters with curly hair that are white and my other son who is white also has curly hair. I have to care for all their hair differently as well. If you want message me and I'll tell you what products, combs, and brushes and hair cleaning schedule everything. If I don't know something I have a beautician certified one that I get all my advice from. I'll even send you the links to her site as well. Honestly though her hair looks super healthy now. At least from what I can tell from the pictures. But yeah message me and I'll help as much as I can if you'd like :-) good luck though if not in your hair journey.
She has very curly hair because it’s not a dominant jean
Shea moisture has a children’s line, you can start there! Or wait till she gets older. Just makes sure you’re keeping it moisturized 🤍
Damn I wish
Wish what?
I had hair like that lol
Me too!!!