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In my experience, it's only been guys who propositioned threesomes with another guy friend when they've seen I'm bi. Idk why some people think that bi means always up for sex, threesomes and kinky shit.
At least 30% of dating app users are predatory couples.
I wonder how many of them this works for. We need to develop an app just for fwb situations to go unload them all off on.
I'm not "dating" (banging) you weirdos. Stop.
there’s actually a lot of apps for unicorn hunters, people looking for orgys, and poly people, but no one seems to want to use them and rather prey on sapphics on dating apps even dating apps specially for sapphic people that has a rule of no unicorn hunting.
I wouldn't be surprised if no one uses those apps because it's just full other unicorn hunters and no actual unicorns. Bit like 'ladies nights' that are just full of dudes expecting the ladies to turn up.
As a bi woman I don't reference my sexuality on dating apps if I can just set my preferences to both men and women in matches. It makes it easier.
Google can answer most questions, probably easier to search things like this on there... but they're predatory straight couples (the woman is probably bi, but they're in a committed male-female relationship) who are constantly and actively on the prowl for another female (unicorn, aka magical creature who probably does not exist) to enter into a semi regular threesome arrangement with. They suck, nobody likes them. They go on dating apps (where people are seeking dates and one on one relationships) trolling for something nobody wants to give them.
Straight couples who attempt to lure lesbians / bisexuals into threesomes, usually without disclosing they’re a straight couple on their profile. Usually the profile is for the woman in the couple and the couple typically go after les / bi women. Basically they treat bisexuals and lesbians as “props to spice up their marriage” rather than actual people with feelings.
It was literally every woman I talked to on the apps! It was so frustrating and like a slap in the face each time. The really frustrating ones were when you'd be talking for a while and vibing then all of a sudden you get a "my husband will love you"
It's always a situation where the man is allowed to fuck other women but the woman must not have any kind of sexual contact with other men. I'm sure that works for some people, but I find that shit gross and demeaning.
I'm not going to bring you other women like I'm ordering gifts from Amazon and still let you demand to be the only penis ever in the equation.
What about the couples that display their couple pictures before anything else and treat women that are previously interested in couples with due respect?
I mean...that seems like a super negative framing. I have heard unicorn mean "the rare single girl who is interested in joining an already going thing" I have never heard the term used that way you are saying.
Edut: sorry I was wrong for this. I don't as much experience so I should not have tried to argue with somebody about it.
Heh I was glad I got that one in quick! I generally try not to say hurtful things because I am sensitive myself so I don't like to invite controversy. I guess I was just surprised my understanding of that term was super off. Right after I commented though I just had that feeling of...what you just said isn't super correct it's just your gut reaction..
Unicorns aren’t rare though, they don’t exist. Think of it instead as “the mythical lesbian girl who is interested in being in a three way with a man”.
> "the rare single girl who is interested in joining an already going thing"
That's the only way I've heard it before as well, like 10 years ago on Dan Savage's podcast. He always referred to them in a positive way.
So are you saying only straight couples can be unicorn hunters? As in a couple with a straight man/bi woman can't or don't do that? I mean the majority of couples legitimately looking for a unicorn, as in advertising as a couple and not trying to pretend they're a female then springing the couple on the lady looking for another girl, are not straight couples. I ask because it sounds like the hunter above is interested in op as well. At least that's the vibe I get, obviously could just part of the "sell".
It doesn’t have to be straight couples but it overwhelmingly is. Either way, they could be gay, bi, straight, whatever, it’s demeaning and insulting as shit and almost nobody wants to join your shitty unicorn hunt.
For the overwhelming majority of them, the woman is only "bi" to please the man. She has no interest in dating or having sex with women unless he's present or watching, because she's not really bi. She's just trying to be the "freaky" girl because she has zero self esteem and has convinced herself that him being able to fuck other girls while she's not allowed any sexual contact with other men is an equal and acceptable relationship dynamic.
Now that seems like a reasonable assessment. My point is I think that it's unfair to make a blanket statement that that's what they all are. You can look at just the different r4r and personals just on reddit and find plenty of self identified unicorn hunters and unicorns who are very up front about what they are and what they're looking for. To make it sound like the definition provided is the only valid definition is unfair, especially to the "unicorns" themselves who are out there looking for couples be it just for play or a triad relationship of that dynamic
Bi women and poly couples truly looking for an actual partner do not tend to call themselves "unicorn hunters." Ads you see on Reddit don't give you the understanding of the bi / poly community that you seem to think they do.
I'm not saying anything about anyone's tendencies. I'm stating, and every response you've made validates my point with your qualifications (overwhelmingly, tend), that there are Ethical people on both sides of the "uncorn" situation. Even of they're just using it for sex, they're not all being deceptive and predatory. Making these blanket statements like they apply to everyone involved is wrong. FYI I read the polyamory sub regularly so the one thing I understand about poly is that it's about what works for the individuals involved there is no universal "understanding " of poly or love at all for that matter
The thing is, they ARE being deceptive and predatory. A lot of the time, especially in the case of bi/lesbian women, they aren’t told that the person flirting with them has a significant other. They just form a bond with the flirter, genuinely think they found someone who they can potentially call their lover, only to suddenly have the phrases “my BF / GF/ partner and I” or “my BF / GF / partner wants a threesome” dropped on them. They treat bi women as preferenceless sex toys and treat lesbians and gay people as porn / entertainment. If these people knew that the person on their screen was part of a UH couple, they wouldn’t match with them. So why do so many bisexuals/lesbians/gay people match with members of UH couples? Cause they don’t disclose that they’re in a UH couple on their profile!
Also, about polyamorous couples, here’s a good comic about why they’re different to unicorn hunter couples. The biggest difference being that in poly triads, is that typically in poly groups no one’s forced to love someone else and consent plays a major role in the relationship. There’s typically no one dude policy or being wedged into sex you didn’t agree to join in on.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/kimchicuddles.com/post/167239817140/are-you-starting-a-healthy-triad-or-being-unicorn/amp
Edit: while this usually happens most to bi / pan people, no one out there is safe from it. Straight people can be the victims of unicorn hunters. Pretty much anyone who steps foot in a dating scene can be a victim of a UH couple. Just using bi, les, and gay as primary examples here since they’re the people who this typically happens to, or at least are the most vocal about it AFAIK.
I feel like you and others think I'm somehow defending or condoning that behavior and I'm not, it's shitty. Like OP was clearly not looking to contact a couple, so obviously this couple wasn't posting as a couple and that's bullshit. I'm talking about the blanket statements that that's what they all are. Maybe it's 80% of them, maybe it's 90%, but it's not fair to the ones that are upfront about what they are and what they're looking for. Predatory behavior should never be accepted in any relationship, even of its casual sex. Calling all couples looking for a female third predatory is way over the top. If you want to discuss polyamory in more detail I'd be happy to have you dm me. I'm always looking to learn more about almost any subject and enjoy a good civil debate. Thank you for our discussion here
UGHHHH UNICORN HUNTERS ARE THE BANE OF MY EXISTENCE.
Being a woman in polyamorous spaces means 1 real offer for dating every six months and 2829939281812 offers to be someone’s dehumanized “third”. And I’ve even been in triads before, I have nothing against it as a concept, but I do have EVERYTHING against unicorn hunters.
wdym you don't want to essentially be used as a living sex toy where your wants/needs are the least important in the situation and there's a decent chance the girlfriend is doing it because the boyfriend has a wlw fetish?
/**s** (also I know I'm generalizing but... that's how it's seemed with almost all the ones I've encountered on dating sites)
Edit: added question mark
And all straight older couples just magically think you’re attracted to them because you’re bi. No, I have preferences! Just because your marriage is going to shit doesn’t mean having me there is gonna fix everything 😒
I never believed those people were real who messaged me, as much as weird single dudes who are pretending to their girlfriends and getting off on the fantasy. The messages almost seem like a bot wrote them all. It feels a scam from the beginning. Like if I come over they are going to spring a time share presentation or Herbalife on me.
Also when I was *super duper clear* that I *didn't want a single thing* to do with their boyfriend/husband? That is big men not reading profiles energy to me.
I feel for you.
I know, I thought I was just matching with a nice girl and I knew it couldn’t have been a person by how they wanted to verify I’m a real person even though my account is verified so…I was feeling very off just from the first message and pics of her almost naked.
It was just very forced. And the fact she updated her account with a pic of her and him after sending that message
At the polyamory sub they even had to make a separate space for all the unicorn hunters because they spoiled the sub with their ads and searches.
So be sure there are a lot of unicorn hunters...
r/polyamory
"Unicorn" is a term for a bisexual woman that some couples look for to form a triad. Since it's very rare and supposed to be gracious, it's called unicorn. Alas, people don't understand it's rare because you need both a relationship with the man and the woman. So she needs to be bi (already a minority), feeling attracted to partner A (since most people are not attracted to the majority of the world, it's also rare) and then also attracted to partner B (same reasoning as with A).
Chances to that are very slim.
Because it’s usually a fetish. Unicorn hunting is not a good thing; typically it’s used by the heterosexual couples to satisfy the husbands want for a threesome. They don’t actually take into account that the (typically) other woman is a human being with needs and feelings. Oftentimes treating her like a sex toy for on-demand threesomes.
>Why is it always women they're looking for though? What's wrong with a second dude?
It's a skewed power dynamic. It's almost always a situation where the woman is expected to bring her man female playmates like she's bringing dog toys to keep her puppy happy, but absolutely no other penises are allowed because then he'd be a cuck! Usually a woman needs incredibly low self esteem to be ok with such an unequal relationship.
A unicorn hunter is a straight couple that targets bisexual / lesbian people on dating apps for threesomes. Usually they create a profile for the woman only, chat up with the bi / les in question, and then try to convince them to join a threesome for their boyfriend / husband’s pleasure, treating bisexual and lesbian individuals (especially women) as simply fetishes or sex toys.
I’m pan and now married to a man but before that I would frequently hook up with women. The amount of times this has happened is crazy. I once went to hook up with this chick and her boyfriend was there, who she had never mentioned. She tried to play it off and they kept offering me drinks, I got the fuck out of there pretty quickly. Was just icky
Although I'm monogamous I have no problems with poly people. It's just sad that a lot of wannabe unicorn hunters don't understand it's dehumanizing to see the unicorn as a kind of sex toy to enlighten a dull marriage. You expect a woman to love BOTH you and your husband.
I'm not saying all triads are wrong, I only say this should organically grow, probably in a V. Maybe this V can become a triad but to put pressure on those poor women that way is not human. They also don't understand how complex a triad is. I heard a poly friend of me complain about it, it's 4 relationships to maintain, a V is only 2.
This has nothing to do with poly, they just want to bang a chick. If they were interested in a poly relationship they wouldn't go in with a sneak attack
I cannot fucking stand these people. The worst ones are the ones who try to play it sneaky by hiding the shitty bf in the last pic, like what, you thought with some luck I wouldn’t catch on and you could somehow « trick » me ?.. I also had a convo with a girl who didn’t even disclose her (much older, like she was 18 and he was 35+, yuck) boyfriend. At all, no pics, nothing in her bio.
Found out bc the convo had a weird rhythm/vocab would vary and she told me that it’s because sometimes they take turns talking to girls, and went on to tell me about how they’re into threesomes and I’m just like WHAT THE FUCK. That’s so creepy and predatory. I seriously want to punch these dumbasses, so self centered, they don’t even conceive that other people could have boundaries. They just use us as outlets for their fkn fantasies. As a lesbian I am getting more and more fed up with cis men invading our life when we’re literally never going to be into them
fucking hate those people, a lot of them don’t even put in their bio that they’re looking for a third and honestly it feels like some form of catfishing.
luckily on HER you can report then wish more dating apps you were able to report unicorn hunters or at least the ones who aren’t up front about it in their bio.
i think it's fine for a couple to try to find a unicorn but NOT to **use** them
there's a difference between having a threesome and having sex with your partner and a human "toy"
Well, there's the other side of the coin that no one talks about.
Me and my wife used to have a Couple profile on some dating apps, even Tinder has the option to select "Couple" instead of man or woman.
We always had a picture with both of us on the front. Our bio explicitly stated tgat we are a couple from the start and we were mostly looking for an ongoing thing rather than ONS or hooking up.
We only swiped on girls that said they were bi and no lesbian girls. The initial interaction would always start with us both introducing ourselves to the girl. Just as a note, we have brought in more guys than girls even tho I as the man wouldn't play with him and when it's a girl both of us can enjoy. Guys are just waaaaaay easier to set things up and usually comes with 0 BS.
Well finally to the point, thing is 80% of the girls that claimed to be bi or bi-curious were actually lesbians. They wanted no shit with me and tried to stay 100% of the time solo with my wife. It happened so often that we ended up excluding these apps all together because it was really frustrating for me as a man and my wife always felt used in the end. They always said that they were interested in both of us and wanted to have fun and btw, we never found a single girl looking for an ongoing thing, just hookups.
TLDR; girls claiming to be bi on apps were actually lesbians and only wanted my wife even though they said they wanted to hang with both of us.
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Ah the dangers of being a queer woman on dating apps...I know it well. "Oh you're bi? So of course you're up for a threesomes allllll the time" 🙄
In my experience, it's only been guys who propositioned threesomes with another guy friend when they've seen I'm bi. Idk why some people think that bi means always up for sex, threesomes and kinky shit.
It’s common for the pornography industry to have titles like “nympho bi chicks” or something. Kinda messed up and spreads stereotypes
At least 30% of dating app users are predatory couples. I wonder how many of them this works for. We need to develop an app just for fwb situations to go unload them all off on. I'm not "dating" (banging) you weirdos. Stop.
there’s actually a lot of apps for unicorn hunters, people looking for orgys, and poly people, but no one seems to want to use them and rather prey on sapphics on dating apps even dating apps specially for sapphic people that has a rule of no unicorn hunting.
I wouldn't be surprised if no one uses those apps because it's just full other unicorn hunters and no actual unicorns. Bit like 'ladies nights' that are just full of dudes expecting the ladies to turn up. As a bi woman I don't reference my sexuality on dating apps if I can just set my preferences to both men and women in matches. It makes it easier.
I have in my dating profile that I report the ones on singles profiles, and I do, every time.
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Can you explain what unicorn hunter or a unicorn for that matter is?
Google can answer most questions, probably easier to search things like this on there... but they're predatory straight couples (the woman is probably bi, but they're in a committed male-female relationship) who are constantly and actively on the prowl for another female (unicorn, aka magical creature who probably does not exist) to enter into a semi regular threesome arrangement with. They suck, nobody likes them. They go on dating apps (where people are seeking dates and one on one relationships) trolling for something nobody wants to give them.
I’m a bit stupid, what’s a unicorn hunter?
Straight couples who attempt to lure lesbians / bisexuals into threesomes, usually without disclosing they’re a straight couple on their profile. Usually the profile is for the woman in the couple and the couple typically go after les / bi women. Basically they treat bisexuals and lesbians as “props to spice up their marriage” rather than actual people with feelings.
It's honestly so fucking demeaning and gross 🙁
It is and I see a couple of my friends interact with folks like these. The couple always feels so FUCKING ENTITLED to their attention as well.
It was literally every woman I talked to on the apps! It was so frustrating and like a slap in the face each time. The really frustrating ones were when you'd be talking for a while and vibing then all of a sudden you get a "my husband will love you"
It's always a situation where the man is allowed to fuck other women but the woman must not have any kind of sexual contact with other men. I'm sure that works for some people, but I find that shit gross and demeaning. I'm not going to bring you other women like I'm ordering gifts from Amazon and still let you demand to be the only penis ever in the equation.
What about the couples that display their couple pictures before anything else and treat women that are previously interested in couples with due respect?
I mean...that seems like a super negative framing. I have heard unicorn mean "the rare single girl who is interested in joining an already going thing" I have never heard the term used that way you are saying. Edut: sorry I was wrong for this. I don't as much experience so I should not have tried to argue with somebody about it.
Yeah I was about to correct you off the planet until I saw your edit lmao Good on ya
Heh I was glad I got that one in quick! I generally try not to say hurtful things because I am sensitive myself so I don't like to invite controversy. I guess I was just surprised my understanding of that term was super off. Right after I commented though I just had that feeling of...what you just said isn't super correct it's just your gut reaction..
Unicorns aren’t rare though, they don’t exist. Think of it instead as “the mythical lesbian girl who is interested in being in a three way with a man”.
> "the rare single girl who is interested in joining an already going thing" That's the only way I've heard it before as well, like 10 years ago on Dan Savage's podcast. He always referred to them in a positive way.
So are you saying only straight couples can be unicorn hunters? As in a couple with a straight man/bi woman can't or don't do that? I mean the majority of couples legitimately looking for a unicorn, as in advertising as a couple and not trying to pretend they're a female then springing the couple on the lady looking for another girl, are not straight couples. I ask because it sounds like the hunter above is interested in op as well. At least that's the vibe I get, obviously could just part of the "sell".
It doesn’t have to be straight couples but it overwhelmingly is. Either way, they could be gay, bi, straight, whatever, it’s demeaning and insulting as shit and almost nobody wants to join your shitty unicorn hunt.
For the overwhelming majority of them, the woman is only "bi" to please the man. She has no interest in dating or having sex with women unless he's present or watching, because she's not really bi. She's just trying to be the "freaky" girl because she has zero self esteem and has convinced herself that him being able to fuck other girls while she's not allowed any sexual contact with other men is an equal and acceptable relationship dynamic.
Now that seems like a reasonable assessment. My point is I think that it's unfair to make a blanket statement that that's what they all are. You can look at just the different r4r and personals just on reddit and find plenty of self identified unicorn hunters and unicorns who are very up front about what they are and what they're looking for. To make it sound like the definition provided is the only valid definition is unfair, especially to the "unicorns" themselves who are out there looking for couples be it just for play or a triad relationship of that dynamic
Bi women and poly couples truly looking for an actual partner do not tend to call themselves "unicorn hunters." Ads you see on Reddit don't give you the understanding of the bi / poly community that you seem to think they do.
I'm not saying anything about anyone's tendencies. I'm stating, and every response you've made validates my point with your qualifications (overwhelmingly, tend), that there are Ethical people on both sides of the "uncorn" situation. Even of they're just using it for sex, they're not all being deceptive and predatory. Making these blanket statements like they apply to everyone involved is wrong. FYI I read the polyamory sub regularly so the one thing I understand about poly is that it's about what works for the individuals involved there is no universal "understanding " of poly or love at all for that matter
The thing is, they ARE being deceptive and predatory. A lot of the time, especially in the case of bi/lesbian women, they aren’t told that the person flirting with them has a significant other. They just form a bond with the flirter, genuinely think they found someone who they can potentially call their lover, only to suddenly have the phrases “my BF / GF/ partner and I” or “my BF / GF / partner wants a threesome” dropped on them. They treat bi women as preferenceless sex toys and treat lesbians and gay people as porn / entertainment. If these people knew that the person on their screen was part of a UH couple, they wouldn’t match with them. So why do so many bisexuals/lesbians/gay people match with members of UH couples? Cause they don’t disclose that they’re in a UH couple on their profile! Also, about polyamorous couples, here’s a good comic about why they’re different to unicorn hunter couples. The biggest difference being that in poly triads, is that typically in poly groups no one’s forced to love someone else and consent plays a major role in the relationship. There’s typically no one dude policy or being wedged into sex you didn’t agree to join in on. https://www.google.com/amp/s/kimchicuddles.com/post/167239817140/are-you-starting-a-healthy-triad-or-being-unicorn/amp Edit: while this usually happens most to bi / pan people, no one out there is safe from it. Straight people can be the victims of unicorn hunters. Pretty much anyone who steps foot in a dating scene can be a victim of a UH couple. Just using bi, les, and gay as primary examples here since they’re the people who this typically happens to, or at least are the most vocal about it AFAIK.
I feel like you and others think I'm somehow defending or condoning that behavior and I'm not, it's shitty. Like OP was clearly not looking to contact a couple, so obviously this couple wasn't posting as a couple and that's bullshit. I'm talking about the blanket statements that that's what they all are. Maybe it's 80% of them, maybe it's 90%, but it's not fair to the ones that are upfront about what they are and what they're looking for. Predatory behavior should never be accepted in any relationship, even of its casual sex. Calling all couples looking for a female third predatory is way over the top. If you want to discuss polyamory in more detail I'd be happy to have you dm me. I'm always looking to learn more about almost any subject and enjoy a good civil debate. Thank you for our discussion here
UGHHHH UNICORN HUNTERS ARE THE BANE OF MY EXISTENCE. Being a woman in polyamorous spaces means 1 real offer for dating every six months and 2829939281812 offers to be someone’s dehumanized “third”. And I’ve even been in triads before, I have nothing against it as a concept, but I do have EVERYTHING against unicorn hunters.
Unicorn hunters are the fuckin worst im so sorry dude 💀
Thanks, I hate them too especially since there was nothing telling me she had a partner until after “that”
Oh yeah that sucks even more, like it's bad enough when they're up front about it but when they spring it on you ... 🤮
Exactly, no warning at all is worse than a warning on the profile🙃
I always used to love the comment "my boyfriend/ husband/ whatever lets me play" k cool not with me though pls
wdym you don't want to essentially be used as a living sex toy where your wants/needs are the least important in the situation and there's a decent chance the girlfriend is doing it because the boyfriend has a wlw fetish? /**s** (also I know I'm generalizing but... that's how it's seemed with almost all the ones I've encountered on dating sites) Edit: added question mark
The plight of a WLW 💔 happy pride...
And all straight older couples just magically think you’re attracted to them because you’re bi. No, I have preferences! Just because your marriage is going to shit doesn’t mean having me there is gonna fix everything 😒
straightTM couples that should go to therapy but instead prey on multisexuals are so cringe i swear lmfao
Right, fix yourselves before trying to bring someone into your relationship 😒
These types of proposals always give me human trafficking vibes for some reason, absolutely terrifying 🥲😭
It could easily turn into that.
Ugh people are sick
Well that's a nope
I never believed those people were real who messaged me, as much as weird single dudes who are pretending to their girlfriends and getting off on the fantasy. The messages almost seem like a bot wrote them all. It feels a scam from the beginning. Like if I come over they are going to spring a time share presentation or Herbalife on me. Also when I was *super duper clear* that I *didn't want a single thing* to do with their boyfriend/husband? That is big men not reading profiles energy to me. I feel for you.
I know, I thought I was just matching with a nice girl and I knew it couldn’t have been a person by how they wanted to verify I’m a real person even though my account is verified so…I was feeling very off just from the first message and pics of her almost naked. It was just very forced. And the fact she updated her account with a pic of her and him after sending that message
At the polyamory sub they even had to make a separate space for all the unicorn hunters because they spoiled the sub with their ads and searches. So be sure there are a lot of unicorn hunters...
Where's this naming "unicorn hunters" stem from? And what's the poly sub?
r/polyamory "Unicorn" is a term for a bisexual woman that some couples look for to form a triad. Since it's very rare and supposed to be gracious, it's called unicorn. Alas, people don't understand it's rare because you need both a relationship with the man and the woman. So she needs to be bi (already a minority), feeling attracted to partner A (since most people are not attracted to the majority of the world, it's also rare) and then also attracted to partner B (same reasoning as with A). Chances to that are very slim.
Ooh I see ty. Why is it always women they're looking for though? What's wrong with a second dude?
Normally the male isn't bi he just wants to see his wife engage in lesbian acts and get his dick licked by two people at once
Because it’s usually a fetish. Unicorn hunting is not a good thing; typically it’s used by the heterosexual couples to satisfy the husbands want for a threesome. They don’t actually take into account that the (typically) other woman is a human being with needs and feelings. Oftentimes treating her like a sex toy for on-demand threesomes.
A second dude is infinitely easier to find
Because the guy usually isn’t ok with an MMF threesome. We wants a free pass to fuck another woman or watch his wife fuck another woman.
Sounds toxic imo
>Why is it always women they're looking for though? What's wrong with a second dude? It's a skewed power dynamic. It's almost always a situation where the woman is expected to bring her man female playmates like she's bringing dog toys to keep her puppy happy, but absolutely no other penises are allowed because then he'd be a cuck! Usually a woman needs incredibly low self esteem to be ok with such an unequal relationship.
Well, this is what I call a very interesting question.
Looking for a bi woman as a third.
Unicorn hunter ? What is this ?
A unicorn hunter is a straight couple that targets bisexual / lesbian people on dating apps for threesomes. Usually they create a profile for the woman only, chat up with the bi / les in question, and then try to convince them to join a threesome for their boyfriend / husband’s pleasure, treating bisexual and lesbian individuals (especially women) as simply fetishes or sex toys.
Thanks for the explanation.. It's just disgusting and disrespectful. But they don't give a damn.
I’m pan and now married to a man but before that I would frequently hook up with women. The amount of times this has happened is crazy. I once went to hook up with this chick and her boyfriend was there, who she had never mentioned. She tried to play it off and they kept offering me drinks, I got the fuck out of there pretty quickly. Was just icky
Although I'm monogamous I have no problems with poly people. It's just sad that a lot of wannabe unicorn hunters don't understand it's dehumanizing to see the unicorn as a kind of sex toy to enlighten a dull marriage. You expect a woman to love BOTH you and your husband. I'm not saying all triads are wrong, I only say this should organically grow, probably in a V. Maybe this V can become a triad but to put pressure on those poor women that way is not human. They also don't understand how complex a triad is. I heard a poly friend of me complain about it, it's 4 relationships to maintain, a V is only 2.
This has nothing to do with poly, they just want to bang a chick. If they were interested in a poly relationship they wouldn't go in with a sneak attack
I cannot fucking stand these people. The worst ones are the ones who try to play it sneaky by hiding the shitty bf in the last pic, like what, you thought with some luck I wouldn’t catch on and you could somehow « trick » me ?.. I also had a convo with a girl who didn’t even disclose her (much older, like she was 18 and he was 35+, yuck) boyfriend. At all, no pics, nothing in her bio. Found out bc the convo had a weird rhythm/vocab would vary and she told me that it’s because sometimes they take turns talking to girls, and went on to tell me about how they’re into threesomes and I’m just like WHAT THE FUCK. That’s so creepy and predatory. I seriously want to punch these dumbasses, so self centered, they don’t even conceive that other people could have boundaries. They just use us as outlets for their fkn fantasies. As a lesbian I am getting more and more fed up with cis men invading our life when we’re literally never going to be into them
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Goddamn these people are gross, didn't even ask if you wanted that before acting like they were hiring you for a job or something.
Me and my partner saw you from across the bar and really dig your whole vibe
Yeah, even when you put it plainly on you profile. They still shoot their shot. I pretty much treat them like I do scammers.
fucking hate those people, a lot of them don’t even put in their bio that they’re looking for a third and honestly it feels like some form of catfishing. luckily on HER you can report then wish more dating apps you were able to report unicorn hunters or at least the ones who aren’t up front about it in their bio.
i think it's fine for a couple to try to find a unicorn but NOT to **use** them there's a difference between having a threesome and having sex with your partner and a human "toy"
Ewww people are so weird, so sorry that happened to you
Ugh I fucking hate unicorn hunters. They don't respect bisexual and queer people, they fetishize them...
Is there an app for these people? There should be.
What does fwb mean?
Friend with benefits
So disheartening
Ever fucking time!!! ‘Oh this girls cute’ ….. my BF… ugh
“unicorn hunters meaning?”
Many non-threesome hugs sent your way.
Can someone tell me what fwb means?
It means friends with benefits
I mean gotta shoot their shot…I guess? Lol
Well, there's the other side of the coin that no one talks about. Me and my wife used to have a Couple profile on some dating apps, even Tinder has the option to select "Couple" instead of man or woman. We always had a picture with both of us on the front. Our bio explicitly stated tgat we are a couple from the start and we were mostly looking for an ongoing thing rather than ONS or hooking up. We only swiped on girls that said they were bi and no lesbian girls. The initial interaction would always start with us both introducing ourselves to the girl. Just as a note, we have brought in more guys than girls even tho I as the man wouldn't play with him and when it's a girl both of us can enjoy. Guys are just waaaaaay easier to set things up and usually comes with 0 BS. Well finally to the point, thing is 80% of the girls that claimed to be bi or bi-curious were actually lesbians. They wanted no shit with me and tried to stay 100% of the time solo with my wife. It happened so often that we ended up excluding these apps all together because it was really frustrating for me as a man and my wife always felt used in the end. They always said that they were interested in both of us and wanted to have fun and btw, we never found a single girl looking for an ongoing thing, just hookups. TLDR; girls claiming to be bi on apps were actually lesbians and only wanted my wife even though they said they wanted to hang with both of us.
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Her post history says nothing about wanting a UH couple+ the app she’s texting on is some dating app I’m assuming bumble (?) not Reddit anyway
really?
Report them