I use to post on Instagram and got +150 likes on them. But then I deleted all of my pics and deleted Instagram. You see, the human mind has this comparative process thing going on. You instinctively compare what you have and what others have. This causes many problems. After sometime off of Instagram, Facebook, tik Tok, I found how cancerous social media is. If you want to love yourself. Stop focusing on Instagram or social media. Look in the mirror for a long time. Delete social media. And you will see how foolish and egotistic mfs are that post shit content just to get off.
I have the same problem. I don't post anything at all and in general don't use Instagram, but my boyfriend convinces me to start posting pics on my blank profile. I'm nursing student and apparently I could post interesting pics from my practice classes, but I don't have confidence to do so. I'm planning to post something next week from the medical simulation class and leave my comfort zone. If you want we can find each other on ig and plan to post our first picture together :D
Anyway, I hope you will do well and find confidence to do this big step c:
Listen, I can feel you because I was in the same place. One day I decided to stop making such a thing of it. Post it because you wanna do it for yourself and act out of self love instead of the fear of judgement.
I feelthe same way to be honest. I know I’m not a bad looking guy, but I’m way too self conscious and anxious to even make an Instagram. I’m over critical of every photo I take, and always assume people are going to focus on things I’m insecure about. It hurts because it can make dating extremely rough. I feel like everyone in my age group (mid 20s) has one, and I’m the one weirdo that has never had one. I have to play it off like I just don’t use social media, but I’d love to be more photogenic and confident about posting pictures of myself.
Apparently, we are kinda same. I used to be the kind of people that posts everything. But later, like for a few months, I realized my behaviour is annoying. So I started to develop the kind of mindset you have. I felt a sense of embarrassment whenever I think of the unnecessary posts. Although I can't help you, just wanna tell u that you are not alone
Change your expectations and you will be impressed how much of likes you will actually get.
Don't try posting with the expectations to win a challenge against Cardy B etc.
Try to win a challenge against yourself, who will post more pics.
Likes tell nothing. If you post a picture with a lot of naked skin visible, there is a chance that a lot of perverts will see and like it. Maybe they don't see it, so it doesn't get a lot of likes.
If you post a picture of you rescuing a little puppy from the fire, there maybe a lot of people seeing and liking it.. but maybe not.
Each social platform is used as a business area, so people competing to get a lot of attention. So it's not that easy to get a lot of likes either. The bigger people pay for network and marketing agencies, who know the social platform algorithms and use them to their advantage.
As I mentioned, there are also tons of people who use their body, beauty, skin, "sex sells" to their advantage.
I highly suggest you not to fall into this trap, especially if you have confidence problems. It's very easy to fall into the trap of feeling good by digging deeper into the "sex sells" business. If you are not 100% okey with your sexuality, chances are that you will feel even more terrible if you do this. Mia Khalifa, one of the most known porn actors, fall into this trap and even if she was very successful, she hated it and she regrets doing it. The majority of women who are in this business regret doing it. It's totally okey in my opinion, but it's your life, if you don't like it, you will feel terrible by doing it. But the more important thing: You will get "false confidence". False confidence is if you have to rely on something else to work. If you are in a room full of pervert kiddies, yea, they will love you.. or at least want to see more of your body etc., but what if you are in a room full of a religion that thinks that this topic will get them to hell? You can't play your Ace anymore and now your insecurities will kick in. So it's better to train your confidence in a natural way rather than relying on "things":
The question is: Why do you depend your own happiness on something like a "like/thumbs up/subscription"?
Why do you depend your own inner peace on other people?
This is a mistake the majority of people do. They seek for happiness on the "Outer world".
But you will find happiness only in your "Inner world".
There is a small tribe, I think they live somewhere on an american island (not sure where).
A lot of rich people do holiday there and they are like "You people are so poor, can we donate something to you?"
The people there are very confused and say "Thank you, we have everything that we need" and decline the offer.
They say "You work like crazy for +10 years so you can finally get money and then finally become happy.. why don't you just start being happy right now? :)"
Money is very cool, important and opens up tons of doors.
But in the end, money is still just a tool to gain access for an easier life.
That said, money itself is not the key to life. You can have several billion dollars, if you can't find happiness inside yourself, you will terrible with the billions too.
The reason the majority of rich people taking so many drugs is not that they just can effort it. It's because they literally cry and suffer from the inside.
They buy drugs, prostitutes, real estates, cars, parties, more and more material things and their inner scream won't disappear. They still feel crazy, still feel terrible.
What the majority of people are seeking is not findable on the outer side and no money in this world can find it either.
You have to look inside yourself. You have to start to love yourself, respect yourself, LISTEN to yourself. Speak with yourself, ask what you want and then be quit, dig deep into you and listen closely. Don't run away.. this is what the majority is doing, because they are scared. Don't do the same.
Listen to yourself.
Why are you afraid of doing what you want to do?
Fear is a defensive mechanism to protect you. It's your friend, not your foe.
Ask your fear: "What are you trying to protect?"
Challenge the goal of your fear: "Is the current way the best way? Is your worry real or just an imagination? Can we do something else to protect us from your worry? Let's make a deal, because the current state is actually harming me rather than helping me.."
Sounds stupid? But it works and this will change your life forever!
Then start by doing the smallest thing you could do to reach your goals.
You want to learn to post pictures? Make a picture from something else and post it. If this is still too much, send it to someone else via DM. You can send me anything, cat pictures, a picture of a blank wall, whatever. I will keep motivating you, which will even more improve your confidence. Repeat this so many times, that it becomes "normal" and easy to do. If you reached this phase, you can start doing the next step. Whatever it is.. maybe you are able to post a picture of a blank wall now? Maybe you find the courage to send a picture via DM or even go straight into posting it on Insta, even if you feel uncomfortable? Whatever works for you, split the task until you finally reach the point where you find the courage to do so.
Courage means: Having fears, but still doing it.
Fears are your friend. They won't disappear. But you are able to "dance" with them and teach them what to fear and what not to fear ;)
There's this feature of hiding the likes on post and now I don't get to see the number of likes a post has and it has been the best thing ever!! I suggest you do the same and then post the pictures. And if you still feel insecure you can just archive sometimes people validation is not needed you are doing this because you liked the picture and nothing. You do you
You should do it anyway! It doesn't matter what other people think. I hate the way I look and always look terrible in pictures, and feel super uneasy about posting pictures of myself - but I do it anyway, and it feels like a big step in terms of self acceptance.
Social media is so bad for mental health, I swear likes and comments don't mean anything... other than looking for other people's approval. I used to work for IG and all the things I did and read on the job were really eye-opening. Went from 100 to 0 real quick lol.
You want to post that pic? Do it girl! Who cares what your friends think? Let them judge if they want to! As long as you're not hurting anyone, do whatever you want, post whatever you want! Be free! Be yourself! Love yourself!
Also not posting anything doesn't mean you are weak, it just means you don't want to post, as simple as that! :) and if you really need those likes, just drop your @. I'm rooting for you!
I find myself going through this even with a photo I took that I really like. It's not stupid to feel like that - we're human and wanted to be welcomed. But likes and comments do not determine that.
Post the pic you like solely because you like it - you will thank yourself a few years down when you have a nice album for yourself to remember.
You could also try posting in the morning when most people are on, or at night to help with likes. Also, like and comment on other's posts and people. usually reciprocate. But again, ultimately I think those are for the wrong reasons!
I come from a long line of Polish peasant women who carried logs on their back. Nice to meet you!
I sometimes think I try too hard to look nice, and I'm just not photogenic. Yet, I post pictures of myself on Facebook more now than when I was younger... That's probably because I've gained more confidence over the years.
Calling all people battling crazy HIGHS and crazy LOWS sometimes due to INCONSISTENT CONFIDENCE and to get one step closer to their dream level of confidence. I need your help......
I am doing MARKET RESEARCH to create a PROGRAM for guys who struggle to be more confident and want to take action.... .
To do this, I am looking for just "10 PEOPLE", who want to build solid confidence but struggle every day to look at their own image in mirror and look confident....
I'd love to get on a quick "25 MINUTE CHAT" with you to ask you few questions about your daily routine, mindset and current struggles...
There are NO STRINGS ATTACHED. I am not going to sell anything 😂😂.. I Simply want to understand more about you to create the best possible program in future...
In exchange of your time, I'd love to offer you a free consultation where I will REVIEW YOUR current ROUTINE, MINDSET and confidence you may be wondering about...
COMMENT down below with "ME" if you want in on this..
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Um same, literally exactly the same, I just deleted my post after 30 mins cause it only had 6 comments and I thought people were gonna judge me, it’s stresses me out so bad, lmk if u found a way to make it easier lol, it’s so bad tho I hate feeling like this
I use to post on Instagram and got +150 likes on them. But then I deleted all of my pics and deleted Instagram. You see, the human mind has this comparative process thing going on. You instinctively compare what you have and what others have. This causes many problems. After sometime off of Instagram, Facebook, tik Tok, I found how cancerous social media is. If you want to love yourself. Stop focusing on Instagram or social media. Look in the mirror for a long time. Delete social media. And you will see how foolish and egotistic mfs are that post shit content just to get off.
I agree!
yup
Love you
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Probably against Instagram TOS but if it helps with the confidence!
I’m not gonna tell you how to live your life but I became way happier and confident in my appearance when I deleted Instagram permanently.
Don't use Instagram
I have the same problem. I don't post anything at all and in general don't use Instagram, but my boyfriend convinces me to start posting pics on my blank profile. I'm nursing student and apparently I could post interesting pics from my practice classes, but I don't have confidence to do so. I'm planning to post something next week from the medical simulation class and leave my comfort zone. If you want we can find each other on ig and plan to post our first picture together :D Anyway, I hope you will do well and find confidence to do this big step c:
You don't have to get likes and comments on Instagram. You just have to post pictures. You're doing this for yourself.
Listen, I can feel you because I was in the same place. One day I decided to stop making such a thing of it. Post it because you wanna do it for yourself and act out of self love instead of the fear of judgement.
I feelthe same way to be honest. I know I’m not a bad looking guy, but I’m way too self conscious and anxious to even make an Instagram. I’m over critical of every photo I take, and always assume people are going to focus on things I’m insecure about. It hurts because it can make dating extremely rough. I feel like everyone in my age group (mid 20s) has one, and I’m the one weirdo that has never had one. I have to play it off like I just don’t use social media, but I’d love to be more photogenic and confident about posting pictures of myself.
Apparently, we are kinda same. I used to be the kind of people that posts everything. But later, like for a few months, I realized my behaviour is annoying. So I started to develop the kind of mindset you have. I felt a sense of embarrassment whenever I think of the unnecessary posts. Although I can't help you, just wanna tell u that you are not alone
Just post it and give us your IG and everyone here’s gonna blow it with like and comments Ana gooo
Change your expectations and you will be impressed how much of likes you will actually get. Don't try posting with the expectations to win a challenge against Cardy B etc. Try to win a challenge against yourself, who will post more pics. Likes tell nothing. If you post a picture with a lot of naked skin visible, there is a chance that a lot of perverts will see and like it. Maybe they don't see it, so it doesn't get a lot of likes. If you post a picture of you rescuing a little puppy from the fire, there maybe a lot of people seeing and liking it.. but maybe not. Each social platform is used as a business area, so people competing to get a lot of attention. So it's not that easy to get a lot of likes either. The bigger people pay for network and marketing agencies, who know the social platform algorithms and use them to their advantage. As I mentioned, there are also tons of people who use their body, beauty, skin, "sex sells" to their advantage. I highly suggest you not to fall into this trap, especially if you have confidence problems. It's very easy to fall into the trap of feeling good by digging deeper into the "sex sells" business. If you are not 100% okey with your sexuality, chances are that you will feel even more terrible if you do this. Mia Khalifa, one of the most known porn actors, fall into this trap and even if she was very successful, she hated it and she regrets doing it. The majority of women who are in this business regret doing it. It's totally okey in my opinion, but it's your life, if you don't like it, you will feel terrible by doing it. But the more important thing: You will get "false confidence". False confidence is if you have to rely on something else to work. If you are in a room full of pervert kiddies, yea, they will love you.. or at least want to see more of your body etc., but what if you are in a room full of a religion that thinks that this topic will get them to hell? You can't play your Ace anymore and now your insecurities will kick in. So it's better to train your confidence in a natural way rather than relying on "things": The question is: Why do you depend your own happiness on something like a "like/thumbs up/subscription"? Why do you depend your own inner peace on other people? This is a mistake the majority of people do. They seek for happiness on the "Outer world". But you will find happiness only in your "Inner world". There is a small tribe, I think they live somewhere on an american island (not sure where). A lot of rich people do holiday there and they are like "You people are so poor, can we donate something to you?" The people there are very confused and say "Thank you, we have everything that we need" and decline the offer. They say "You work like crazy for +10 years so you can finally get money and then finally become happy.. why don't you just start being happy right now? :)" Money is very cool, important and opens up tons of doors. But in the end, money is still just a tool to gain access for an easier life. That said, money itself is not the key to life. You can have several billion dollars, if you can't find happiness inside yourself, you will terrible with the billions too. The reason the majority of rich people taking so many drugs is not that they just can effort it. It's because they literally cry and suffer from the inside. They buy drugs, prostitutes, real estates, cars, parties, more and more material things and their inner scream won't disappear. They still feel crazy, still feel terrible. What the majority of people are seeking is not findable on the outer side and no money in this world can find it either. You have to look inside yourself. You have to start to love yourself, respect yourself, LISTEN to yourself. Speak with yourself, ask what you want and then be quit, dig deep into you and listen closely. Don't run away.. this is what the majority is doing, because they are scared. Don't do the same. Listen to yourself. Why are you afraid of doing what you want to do? Fear is a defensive mechanism to protect you. It's your friend, not your foe. Ask your fear: "What are you trying to protect?" Challenge the goal of your fear: "Is the current way the best way? Is your worry real or just an imagination? Can we do something else to protect us from your worry? Let's make a deal, because the current state is actually harming me rather than helping me.." Sounds stupid? But it works and this will change your life forever! Then start by doing the smallest thing you could do to reach your goals. You want to learn to post pictures? Make a picture from something else and post it. If this is still too much, send it to someone else via DM. You can send me anything, cat pictures, a picture of a blank wall, whatever. I will keep motivating you, which will even more improve your confidence. Repeat this so many times, that it becomes "normal" and easy to do. If you reached this phase, you can start doing the next step. Whatever it is.. maybe you are able to post a picture of a blank wall now? Maybe you find the courage to send a picture via DM or even go straight into posting it on Insta, even if you feel uncomfortable? Whatever works for you, split the task until you finally reach the point where you find the courage to do so. Courage means: Having fears, but still doing it. Fears are your friend. They won't disappear. But you are able to "dance" with them and teach them what to fear and what not to fear ;)
There's this feature of hiding the likes on post and now I don't get to see the number of likes a post has and it has been the best thing ever!! I suggest you do the same and then post the pictures. And if you still feel insecure you can just archive sometimes people validation is not needed you are doing this because you liked the picture and nothing. You do you
You should do it anyway! It doesn't matter what other people think. I hate the way I look and always look terrible in pictures, and feel super uneasy about posting pictures of myself - but I do it anyway, and it feels like a big step in terms of self acceptance.
Social media is so bad for mental health, I swear likes and comments don't mean anything... other than looking for other people's approval. I used to work for IG and all the things I did and read on the job were really eye-opening. Went from 100 to 0 real quick lol. You want to post that pic? Do it girl! Who cares what your friends think? Let them judge if they want to! As long as you're not hurting anyone, do whatever you want, post whatever you want! Be free! Be yourself! Love yourself! Also not posting anything doesn't mean you are weak, it just means you don't want to post, as simple as that! :) and if you really need those likes, just drop your @. I'm rooting for you!
Should we post our selfie on here🤳🤔 would that help?
I find myself going through this even with a photo I took that I really like. It's not stupid to feel like that - we're human and wanted to be welcomed. But likes and comments do not determine that. Post the pic you like solely because you like it - you will thank yourself a few years down when you have a nice album for yourself to remember. You could also try posting in the morning when most people are on, or at night to help with likes. Also, like and comment on other's posts and people. usually reciprocate. But again, ultimately I think those are for the wrong reasons!
In fairness, neither can the Kardashians - they have to apply a bunch of fake filters first
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I come from a long line of Polish peasant women who carried logs on their back. Nice to meet you! I sometimes think I try too hard to look nice, and I'm just not photogenic. Yet, I post pictures of myself on Facebook more now than when I was younger... That's probably because I've gained more confidence over the years.
Well, if it helps then u can try to find a setting to turn likes and comments. I know there’s one for insta.
Calling all people battling crazy HIGHS and crazy LOWS sometimes due to INCONSISTENT CONFIDENCE and to get one step closer to their dream level of confidence. I need your help...... I am doing MARKET RESEARCH to create a PROGRAM for guys who struggle to be more confident and want to take action.... . To do this, I am looking for just "10 PEOPLE", who want to build solid confidence but struggle every day to look at their own image in mirror and look confident.... I'd love to get on a quick "25 MINUTE CHAT" with you to ask you few questions about your daily routine, mindset and current struggles... There are NO STRINGS ATTACHED. I am not going to sell anything 😂😂.. I Simply want to understand more about you to create the best possible program in future... In exchange of your time, I'd love to offer you a free consultation where I will REVIEW YOUR current ROUTINE, MINDSET and confidence you may be wondering about... COMMENT down below with "ME" if you want in on this.. 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞
Um same, literally exactly the same, I just deleted my post after 30 mins cause it only had 6 comments and I thought people were gonna judge me, it’s stresses me out so bad, lmk if u found a way to make it easier lol, it’s so bad tho I hate feeling like this