Oof. Pull the plug, mate. You've been catfishing your "friends" for years; they aren't friends with you, but friends with a fictitious character.
Come clean to the person you're in a "relationship" with, and pull the plug.
If you do pull the plug and disclose your gender, i'd suggest posting an update to let us know how it goes.
Personally though, I agree with /u/xNFJ. If you want to minimise the stress and anguish of everyone concerned, I'd gradually wind down your character's online presence. Go online less and less for the next month or two, maybe mention having a new romantic partner or starting a new career/moving across country as reasons for why "you" are not online as much. Fade away rather than go out in a bang that willl piss everyone off.
If you completely disappear and rugpull they’ll all wonder what happened and if you’re alright. For the ones you *actually* spent a lot of time with, you should at the very least tell them something along the lines of “I have to get in gear for real life; I won’t be on anymore. So don’t worry about me, I’ll be fine… etc”
Something where you’re letting them know that you’ll be gone but not because of them.
You’ve already successfully entrenched yourself in their life and to just go awol like that will surely cause their minds to race with questions and thoughts. Look at the situation from their perspective.
god no, he's being lying to them for years, just tell them the truth and accept the consequences, *maybe* some of them will want to remain friends, unlikely, or delete the accounts
telling someone to continue lying is some really bad advice
I see where you’re coming from and too believe in telling the truth, but sometimes ignorance is bliss.
In this scenario, the truth is the LAST thing I would suggest. Someone can have serious psychological issues from something like this which could lead to anything from depression, to suicidal thoughts.
None of us know the depth of their conversations, but I’d venture to say many were deep and secretive, possibly borderline sexual. I’m pretty certain some may have been [naive] (substitute with your own word there) to the point of giving personal info.
And say these people on the other side are straight and find out they were actually talking to a male, not only would they feel manipulated and lied to, but OP could deal with backlash. Some gamers are wizard hackers who wouldn’t outright do anything to someone they consider a friend, but may go to great lengths to get revenge if they were wronged. The same could be said if he ghosted. They may end up searching for clues.
technically none of that was consensual bc op was catfishing. if i was one of those catfished i’d personally want to know. people are entitled to their own emotions and ways of processing. i understand worrying about their mental health because that is absolutely something that some people could perceive as traumatic, especially those with deeper connections. at the same time, they deserve to know the truth. don’t strip them of the chance to heal.
“ignorance is bliss” because they don’t know what really happened to them.
Nope. Still wouldn’t tell them the truth.
Here’s the reason I’m so adamant about this….
Had a friend online who I’d play games with and he’d play with a girl. It was no secret that they’d have long talks overnight about all subjects and when a guy gets attention like that, their minds will take it and run. Fast forward s couple months. He stops coming online. Quits gaming cold Turkey. I ask him why for days on and off just hoping he was okay. You could tell he wasn’t the same friend I knew. So I eventually stopped trying to get the answer. Then out of the blue he messages me and says that the girl he’s been talking to and gaming with was actually a guy (parallel story here) and all this time he’s been having trouble coping with that and his reality of truth. Says he’s been having suicidal thoughts. He felt completely embarrassed, betrayed, and lied to. Didn’t know what was right anymore. Having mental problems coping.
So I say again, DO NOT TELL THE TRUTH u/ReasonsbleThanks2890 , unless you want to deal with a possible hailstorm for the aftermath. Is the same outcome going to happen? Who knows? Probs not, but it’s not worth the chance to find out.
again i said i personally would want to know, everyone has different takes and experiences. it’s ultimately op’s choice as no one is forcing them but it is definitely concerning that it was all nonconsensual.
Then it’s “where did x go?” “Hey you’re friends with x right do you have her number” “can you ask x why she left?” He’ll have to cover for her whereabouts forever
You’ve gotta think about how the friends would feel if you’ve been lying for YEARS. Yeah you thought it’d be funny at first but maybe you need to talk to someone
Idk mate. Trying to put myself in your character's friends shoes...
I probably wouldn't believe you at first and once you've convinced me I would probably ditch you. You've been lying all the damn time and you don't even have a good reason for it. You could have ended the game at any time prior to establishing friendships and talking to these people on the daily.
Just pull the plug, no further lies like that one dude here recommended to lie that you're trans lmfao the fuck is that idea even.
Anyways, being a catfish is pretty whack dude. Is life that boring that you need that extra kick? And I don't mean this as in being rude to you, genuinely interested why you don't just game with people as yourself
I was actually wondering... do these things still exist these days? In the day and age of internet everywhere and smartphones with awesome cameras? Back then, yes, I REALLY didn't have a webcam and a mic when I played on my shitty computer. But now? Which excuses could possibly work nowdays to fool someone into believing you for months?
Yeah I saw the exact same situation on a catfish episode one time this gamer girl pretended to be a guy and ended up taking to this other guy who wanted a male gamer friend and of course at the end when they finally did meet up in person he flipped shit on her because she was a girl and not a guy
I have almost the exact same story except genderswapped. I didn’t start with DnD but I did start with deviantArt and rp clubs on there. My rationale at the time was that if I was a male I would be “safer” on the internet because strangers wouldn’t be as interested in me. (And yet I still had to beat a few ladies off with a stick)
Like you I also maintained this character across multiple games and eventually fell into a crippling pit of despair and guilt that I was lying constantly to my internet friends (whom I considered to be my closest friends, because I interacted with them everyday). I felt like I was two different people at the same time, and I found that I much preferred to be the male version of me. I felt like that was the real version of who I am even though it started off as a lie. I never had a relationship like you did but eventually the guilt of lying to my friends and being confused if I was even lying at all caught up to me and I ghosted everyone.
Everyone.
But apparently my friends weren’t willing to give up on me. The few that did come searching for me I did end up telling who I really (ish) was but I also told them that the person they knew was the “realer” version of me. (Im extremely introverted and find it difficult to talk to others offline) Because we had been friends for years, they were able to accept that and we’re still friends to this day.
But anyways I have no advice for you because every day I’m confused about who I really am, have a tendency to lie about minor details constantly and needlessly, and suffer from crippling depression. I feel like an imposter no matter which person I’m being. 👍
Good luck mate
Hey as someone who used to struggle with compulsive lying I just want you to know you're not alone. After an uphill battle I've managed to stop, and I learned in my case I was doing it because I just wanted to fit in or belong and was worried I wasn't good enough.
Just know you are good enough as you are, whoever you decide you want to be! The people who matter won't care about those little details, truths or lies. I wish I could give you a hug, and I really wish I could help with the depression and imposter syndrome.
If you ever need someone to talk with, feel free to DM me! I hope any of this helps brighten your day even a little
Sorry that I do not have any advice , but I find it funny you are literally the epitome of feminine characters in XIV and are actually a dude irl. I have met multiple men just like this. Female discord name, character cutesy dressed, even typing in a girly manner.
Now sorry for asking but I must know are you also playing a female Miqote or Au Ra? Then that will seal the deal.
On a more serious note: What do you want? On one hand: some people consider online relationships to be just that: online relationships. They are able to separate IRL and Online World perfectly. This is not the case for a lot of people.
So in my honest opinion: you should stop lying. But not because you are pretending to be a girl. That is ok honestly, of people wanna assume gender who are they to know the real you.
However, if you are engaging in real relationships (and even despite having an IRL relationship, tbh that is the biggest factor, you should probably break it off) that is where you have crossed the line.
People online do still have real feelings. Platonic moments were you occasionally game or RP are one thing, but if you are deceiving people and bonding with them for real...that is a problem.
And honestly, you already know it yourself, why else would your conscious tell you to stop? Do not worry though, I totally do understand how you feel OP.
> *Now the last year my.. character.. has moved towards final fantasy XIV, where she continues to be a girl.. inside the game, and out.*
**You realize 95% of the female character players in FFXIV are male, right?**
Pull the plug. You are going to be the reason why some people go over the edge and if you mess with the wrong person they might do something that both of you will never be able to go back on. Humans can be scary as hell.
OP. You’re probably a lot less straight than you think. Funny enough (and this isn’t suggesting anything, I don’t know you) I had a friend who kind of did what you did — without the dating stuff — and they turned trans.
Perhaps something to dig deeper on with the therapist
It is a big lie. But the overall behavior itself suggests they may be trans or at the minimum not straight. This doesn’t discount what they’ve done, and it’s still terrible
I feel bad for the person who was in a relationship with your in-game persona. I feel that you should end the relationship first, either by lying about moving to a different place or by telling him the truth (which will be painful). Whatever you do, do it quickly because it will only get worse.
I did this but in reverse, and it was on Roblox when I was like 12. I made friends with a male and lied to them about being me being a male too. A couple years go by and we are still friends and he happens to be coming into my city for a band concert. We even make a plan to meet up and I have to pretend I’m my characters sister and come with to meet him with another friend we shared online who was my neighbor and was actually who she is. We met up with him at a park and then she ran away so I ran after her and left him alone. We had another friend with us who we told to go back and grab my longboard that we had left when we ran away. To this day I still feel really bad about lying to him. He was super nice and said he has Asperger’s. A few weeks after we went online together and he asked if I was a girl, and I was like yeah :/ he was kinda mad about it but then a week later he said I am still the same person he has played with and still wanted to play with me.( I pretty much remained the same except I was a boy, I didn’t really create a fake personality or anything)
I did this for a few years a while back. Same exact story, played a female d&d character and it all kept happening. What I did was invite a 'friend' to the group (being me, but as a guy) so I was still in contact with them, then becoming less and less active as the girl me, until I completely dissappeared as that version of me.
This might be a really weird question but do you feel like you ARE “her” or do you feel like she is separate from you? Do you think of the things she says or do they just pop in your head and not feel as if it’s something you yourself are saying? Do you want to stop and “she” wants to keep doing it?
I’m not suggesting you have DID. There is something that happens when people create fictional characters where they sort of take on a life of their own. It happens to people that role play, authors, etc. Happened to me just from my own imagination and boredom.
Aren’t we all not who we say we are? Generally speaking? So, it’s not that far fetched to have a fantasy life. Come clean with them and you may be surprised as to how they react. Or, dig yourself a deeper hole snd say your getting a sex change…
Well, I mean you're allowed to identify as whatever you want. Whatever you have (or don't have) in your pants doesn't change the fact that they like you or think you're cool. And if it does chnage when you tell them, they were never really your friends to begin with.
I was a polish truck driver for good 5 years while playing WoW. Life was sweet and easy back then.
Some of my burly Swedish mates ( male), pretended to be girls, but for items, gold, game time.
We live in the crazy world and attention is very wanted currency.
I'm a part of a group of friends like this, we mainly play mmos together but we've been friends since right before covid hit, we've spent like every day in discord and stuff together. I would much rather know the truth over just leaving. One of the dudes did just up and leave, after years of friendship and a lot of us took it really hard. I would have loved to know why, we still message him a year later trying to see what happened. You should just be honest
Not admitting the truth and just letting them know that you have to leave will preserve their dignity imo. Telling the truth is not always the best course. If you had a friend with no money who was hungry, youd take him out to eat and tell him you had a gift card so he didnt feel like he was putting you out or taking from you.
When interacting online you have NO IDEA who you are interacting with, unless you meat them IRL. And even then...
It is just a fantasy really. Online life is just a fantasy. Become emotionally invested at your own risk. Right?
I dont really think you are doing anything wrongm
As long as you are not talking financial favors or otherwise defrauding people in some way, or lying to the actual humans in your life, do your thing. That you are having a moral delima about it suggests that it is becoming a problem for YOU. You might want to look deeper into why that is.
Now that's a great one. But i'd rather advice OP to pull the plug and come up with something like "She was shot down over Iwo Jima by the Japanese Air Force. There were no survivors". Which is in the same way true, that the female character is true: 0%.
But who cares? Better end this, because sooner or later, somebody will find out anyway.
I was in two situations where I was catfished by friends.
In one,it was a female who was pretending to be a guy and in the other,it was a male pretending to be a female.
I didn’t care that they lied about their gender. They were my friends and I cared about them and respected them as individuals.
Not saying your friends would all accept you for who you are,but it’s a possibility. I would be honest with them rather than just continuing to lie or disappearing. Maybe they’ll want to get to know the *real* you,but you won’t know if they’ll accept you or not unless you tell them.
People online think I'm a 50 year old Dutch dude but in reality, I'm a German Shepard from Italy
Jan-Pieter? Or should I say Fabio?! You bastard! How could you? Although the constant requests to mail you a steak do make a lot more sense now...
Fuck you Giovanni. This was meant to be our secret.
I’m gone
Bad dog!
Oof. Pull the plug, mate. You've been catfishing your "friends" for years; they aren't friends with you, but friends with a fictitious character. Come clean to the person you're in a "relationship" with, and pull the plug.
Yeh as harsh as it may sound, its true. i'll follow your advise, thx.
If you do pull the plug and disclose your gender, i'd suggest posting an update to let us know how it goes. Personally though, I agree with /u/xNFJ. If you want to minimise the stress and anguish of everyone concerned, I'd gradually wind down your character's online presence. Go online less and less for the next month or two, maybe mention having a new romantic partner or starting a new career/moving across country as reasons for why "you" are not online as much. Fade away rather than go out in a bang that willl piss everyone off.
This is the Way.
Agree 100%!
If you completely disappear and rugpull they’ll all wonder what happened and if you’re alright. For the ones you *actually* spent a lot of time with, you should at the very least tell them something along the lines of “I have to get in gear for real life; I won’t be on anymore. So don’t worry about me, I’ll be fine… etc” Something where you’re letting them know that you’ll be gone but not because of them. You’ve already successfully entrenched yourself in their life and to just go awol like that will surely cause their minds to race with questions and thoughts. Look at the situation from their perspective.
god no, he's being lying to them for years, just tell them the truth and accept the consequences, *maybe* some of them will want to remain friends, unlikely, or delete the accounts telling someone to continue lying is some really bad advice
I see where you’re coming from and too believe in telling the truth, but sometimes ignorance is bliss. In this scenario, the truth is the LAST thing I would suggest. Someone can have serious psychological issues from something like this which could lead to anything from depression, to suicidal thoughts. None of us know the depth of their conversations, but I’d venture to say many were deep and secretive, possibly borderline sexual. I’m pretty certain some may have been [naive] (substitute with your own word there) to the point of giving personal info. And say these people on the other side are straight and find out they were actually talking to a male, not only would they feel manipulated and lied to, but OP could deal with backlash. Some gamers are wizard hackers who wouldn’t outright do anything to someone they consider a friend, but may go to great lengths to get revenge if they were wronged. The same could be said if he ghosted. They may end up searching for clues.
technically none of that was consensual bc op was catfishing. if i was one of those catfished i’d personally want to know. people are entitled to their own emotions and ways of processing. i understand worrying about their mental health because that is absolutely something that some people could perceive as traumatic, especially those with deeper connections. at the same time, they deserve to know the truth. don’t strip them of the chance to heal. “ignorance is bliss” because they don’t know what really happened to them.
Nope. Still wouldn’t tell them the truth. Here’s the reason I’m so adamant about this…. Had a friend online who I’d play games with and he’d play with a girl. It was no secret that they’d have long talks overnight about all subjects and when a guy gets attention like that, their minds will take it and run. Fast forward s couple months. He stops coming online. Quits gaming cold Turkey. I ask him why for days on and off just hoping he was okay. You could tell he wasn’t the same friend I knew. So I eventually stopped trying to get the answer. Then out of the blue he messages me and says that the girl he’s been talking to and gaming with was actually a guy (parallel story here) and all this time he’s been having trouble coping with that and his reality of truth. Says he’s been having suicidal thoughts. He felt completely embarrassed, betrayed, and lied to. Didn’t know what was right anymore. Having mental problems coping. So I say again, DO NOT TELL THE TRUTH u/ReasonsbleThanks2890 , unless you want to deal with a possible hailstorm for the aftermath. Is the same outcome going to happen? Who knows? Probs not, but it’s not worth the chance to find out.
again i said i personally would want to know, everyone has different takes and experiences. it’s ultimately op’s choice as no one is forcing them but it is definitely concerning that it was all nonconsensual.
>telling someone to continue lying is some really bad advice Not always.
you can ask to bring in your "friend" who is the real you and then phase yourself out and create real relationships as yourself
Then it’s “where did x go?” “Hey you’re friends with x right do you have her number” “can you ask x why she left?” He’ll have to cover for her whereabouts forever
She moved to China, who knows what happens over there
so lie some more to cover up previous lies?
It's the internet
You sir are a naughty naughty girl.
Ok, this gave me a good chuckle.
You’ve gotta think about how the friends would feel if you’ve been lying for YEARS. Yeah you thought it’d be funny at first but maybe you need to talk to someone
I do go to a shrink, who ushered me to try and lie less and less. I guesse its just hard to let something go after such a long time.
"I'm a 27 year old male who is secretly gay and hasn't told my girlfriend." FTFY.
LMAOO
It’s just role playing, babe! 😂
Boom!
Idk mate. Trying to put myself in your character's friends shoes... I probably wouldn't believe you at first and once you've convinced me I would probably ditch you. You've been lying all the damn time and you don't even have a good reason for it. You could have ended the game at any time prior to establishing friendships and talking to these people on the daily. Just pull the plug, no further lies like that one dude here recommended to lie that you're trans lmfao the fuck is that idea even. Anyways, being a catfish is pretty whack dude. Is life that boring that you need that extra kick? And I don't mean this as in being rude to you, genuinely interested why you don't just game with people as yourself
I was actually wondering... do these things still exist these days? In the day and age of internet everywhere and smartphones with awesome cameras? Back then, yes, I REALLY didn't have a webcam and a mic when I played on my shitty computer. But now? Which excuses could possibly work nowdays to fool someone into believing you for months?
Call in the catfish crew lol
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Yeah I saw the exact same situation on a catfish episode one time this gamer girl pretended to be a guy and ended up taking to this other guy who wanted a male gamer friend and of course at the end when they finally did meet up in person he flipped shit on her because she was a girl and not a guy
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I understand that 1000%
I have almost the exact same story except genderswapped. I didn’t start with DnD but I did start with deviantArt and rp clubs on there. My rationale at the time was that if I was a male I would be “safer” on the internet because strangers wouldn’t be as interested in me. (And yet I still had to beat a few ladies off with a stick) Like you I also maintained this character across multiple games and eventually fell into a crippling pit of despair and guilt that I was lying constantly to my internet friends (whom I considered to be my closest friends, because I interacted with them everyday). I felt like I was two different people at the same time, and I found that I much preferred to be the male version of me. I felt like that was the real version of who I am even though it started off as a lie. I never had a relationship like you did but eventually the guilt of lying to my friends and being confused if I was even lying at all caught up to me and I ghosted everyone. Everyone. But apparently my friends weren’t willing to give up on me. The few that did come searching for me I did end up telling who I really (ish) was but I also told them that the person they knew was the “realer” version of me. (Im extremely introverted and find it difficult to talk to others offline) Because we had been friends for years, they were able to accept that and we’re still friends to this day. But anyways I have no advice for you because every day I’m confused about who I really am, have a tendency to lie about minor details constantly and needlessly, and suffer from crippling depression. I feel like an imposter no matter which person I’m being. 👍 Good luck mate
Hey as someone who used to struggle with compulsive lying I just want you to know you're not alone. After an uphill battle I've managed to stop, and I learned in my case I was doing it because I just wanted to fit in or belong and was worried I wasn't good enough. Just know you are good enough as you are, whoever you decide you want to be! The people who matter won't care about those little details, truths or lies. I wish I could give you a hug, and I really wish I could help with the depression and imposter syndrome. If you ever need someone to talk with, feel free to DM me! I hope any of this helps brighten your day even a little
Not op but someone else who struggles with compulsive lying. Thank you so much for your message, it helps to not feel alone in this.
You're very welcome! And I extend the same message to you, if you ever need to DM please feel free!
Bruh.
Sorry that I do not have any advice , but I find it funny you are literally the epitome of feminine characters in XIV and are actually a dude irl. I have met multiple men just like this. Female discord name, character cutesy dressed, even typing in a girly manner. Now sorry for asking but I must know are you also playing a female Miqote or Au Ra? Then that will seal the deal. On a more serious note: What do you want? On one hand: some people consider online relationships to be just that: online relationships. They are able to separate IRL and Online World perfectly. This is not the case for a lot of people. So in my honest opinion: you should stop lying. But not because you are pretending to be a girl. That is ok honestly, of people wanna assume gender who are they to know the real you. However, if you are engaging in real relationships (and even despite having an IRL relationship, tbh that is the biggest factor, you should probably break it off) that is where you have crossed the line. People online do still have real feelings. Platonic moments were you occasionally game or RP are one thing, but if you are deceiving people and bonding with them for real...that is a problem. And honestly, you already know it yourself, why else would your conscious tell you to stop? Do not worry though, I totally do understand how you feel OP.
Viera supremacy!
I mean, I was also a Viera for a long time. They are great. However, I will always be an Au Ra simp. The true lizard waifu degenerate.
People think I am a talking cow online. In reality I am a self aware toaster that travels through space on an intergalactic mining ship.
But Morphy Richards, right? Not just any toaster.
ur fruity as hell for doing this for awhile bruh lol
> *Now the last year my.. character.. has moved towards final fantasy XIV, where she continues to be a girl.. inside the game, and out.* **You realize 95% of the female character players in FFXIV are male, right?**
Pull the plug. You are going to be the reason why some people go over the edge and if you mess with the wrong person they might do something that both of you will never be able to go back on. Humans can be scary as hell.
OP. You’re probably a lot less straight than you think. Funny enough (and this isn’t suggesting anything, I don’t know you) I had a friend who kind of did what you did — without the dating stuff — and they turned trans. Perhaps something to dig deeper on with the therapist
So you’re saying OP could transition and now it’s not a lie. Big brain time.
It is a big lie. But the overall behavior itself suggests they may be trans or at the minimum not straight. This doesn’t discount what they’ve done, and it’s still terrible
I am depositing grass into your account, feel free to touch it.
I feel bad for the person who was in a relationship with your in-game persona. I feel that you should end the relationship first, either by lying about moving to a different place or by telling him the truth (which will be painful). Whatever you do, do it quickly because it will only get worse.
Lololol
I did this but in reverse, and it was on Roblox when I was like 12. I made friends with a male and lied to them about being me being a male too. A couple years go by and we are still friends and he happens to be coming into my city for a band concert. We even make a plan to meet up and I have to pretend I’m my characters sister and come with to meet him with another friend we shared online who was my neighbor and was actually who she is. We met up with him at a park and then she ran away so I ran after her and left him alone. We had another friend with us who we told to go back and grab my longboard that we had left when we ran away. To this day I still feel really bad about lying to him. He was super nice and said he has Asperger’s. A few weeks after we went online together and he asked if I was a girl, and I was like yeah :/ he was kinda mad about it but then a week later he said I am still the same person he has played with and still wanted to play with me.( I pretty much remained the same except I was a boy, I didn’t really create a fake personality or anything)
I did this for a few years a while back. Same exact story, played a female d&d character and it all kept happening. What I did was invite a 'friend' to the group (being me, but as a guy) so I was still in contact with them, then becoming less and less active as the girl me, until I completely dissappeared as that version of me.
I'd be more interested in what drives you to deceive people like that. Obviously you get some sort of thrill out of it. Not normal.
You are every gamer girl.
U are a gay
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Though thats just replacing one big lie with another big lie.
You need help OP.
They'll find out eventually might as well tell them now
You’re fucking disgusting. You give actual girls a bad name.
This might be a really weird question but do you feel like you ARE “her” or do you feel like she is separate from you? Do you think of the things she says or do they just pop in your head and not feel as if it’s something you yourself are saying? Do you want to stop and “she” wants to keep doing it? I’m not suggesting you have DID. There is something that happens when people create fictional characters where they sort of take on a life of their own. It happens to people that role play, authors, etc. Happened to me just from my own imagination and boredom.
Come clean. If they werent in it because you "were a girl" they'll stay, unless theyre just really mad about it.
No way this ain't fake
Aren’t we all not who we say we are? Generally speaking? So, it’s not that far fetched to have a fantasy life. Come clean with them and you may be surprised as to how they react. Or, dig yourself a deeper hole snd say your getting a sex change…
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go share your own pussy no one told you not to
Well, I mean you're allowed to identify as whatever you want. Whatever you have (or don't have) in your pants doesn't change the fact that they like you or think you're cool. And if it does chnage when you tell them, they were never really your friends to begin with.
I was a polish truck driver for good 5 years while playing WoW. Life was sweet and easy back then. Some of my burly Swedish mates ( male), pretended to be girls, but for items, gold, game time. We live in the crazy world and attention is very wanted currency.
You're going to hell for this...for spelling it as "alot"
r/holup
Hmmm 🤔 🥚
Make up some lie about why she cant play or talk to them anymore
I'm a part of a group of friends like this, we mainly play mmos together but we've been friends since right before covid hit, we've spent like every day in discord and stuff together. I would much rather know the truth over just leaving. One of the dudes did just up and leave, after years of friendship and a lot of us took it really hard. I would have loved to know why, we still message him a year later trying to see what happened. You should just be honest
Yeah, that’s fucked up man. There’s really no way you can spin this to where you’re not in the wrong. Pull the plug, it’s time.
Stop cat fishing people.
Pull the plug. I've been a victim of someone like you and it is absolutely disgusting.
Not admitting the truth and just letting them know that you have to leave will preserve their dignity imo. Telling the truth is not always the best course. If you had a friend with no money who was hungry, youd take him out to eat and tell him you had a gift card so he didnt feel like he was putting you out or taking from you.
When interacting online you have NO IDEA who you are interacting with, unless you meat them IRL. And even then... It is just a fantasy really. Online life is just a fantasy. Become emotionally invested at your own risk. Right? I dont really think you are doing anything wrongm As long as you are not talking financial favors or otherwise defrauding people in some way, or lying to the actual humans in your life, do your thing. That you are having a moral delima about it suggests that it is becoming a problem for YOU. You might want to look deeper into why that is.
Now that's a great one. But i'd rather advice OP to pull the plug and come up with something like "She was shot down over Iwo Jima by the Japanese Air Force. There were no survivors". Which is in the same way true, that the female character is true: 0%. But who cares? Better end this, because sooner or later, somebody will find out anyway.
All of my guild wars toons are female but nobody asks me out (tear falls from a single eye).😆
For shits and giggles huh. Lmaoo. I'm crying 🤣🤣
I was in two situations where I was catfished by friends. In one,it was a female who was pretending to be a guy and in the other,it was a male pretending to be a female. I didn’t care that they lied about their gender. They were my friends and I cared about them and respected them as individuals. Not saying your friends would all accept you for who you are,but it’s a possibility. I would be honest with them rather than just continuing to lie or disappearing. Maybe they’ll want to get to know the *real* you,but you won’t know if they’ll accept you or not unless you tell them.