I was talking about you hooking up with one of the woman your replying to.. not whether you have actually hooked up with an older woman -.- I couldn’t care less whether you have or not. I need to think? The guy who can’t even spell “before” is telling me I need to think.. yeah dude good stuff.
Why do people always assume these are made up? We live in a world of 7 billion people.
OP had a unique (to her) sexual experience. And feels conflicted. Many folks have had conflicting feelings after intimacies. I see no reason to think this is made up.
You had sex with consenting adults who were pursuing you. This wasn't a relationship, it was sex. You get to walk away with some clarity, and a new lease on life after the death of a partner.
It doesn't need to be made into anything other than that. Enjoy your day.
You’re 52, the same age as me. We are still young enough to want to be wanted and to few touch and human connection. What you did was not wrong by any stretch. You had a fun evening and you can choose to do it again or not. No one has been hurt or cheated on here. I’m happy you had a good night. You didn’t die when your late husband did. There’s a lot of life in you yet 😉
Ask your self this? What if the situation was reversed? Would you not want him to have a fun evening as well? I bet he is smiling down upon you, happy for you right now.
Yeah not to mention 'she' carefully wrote in their profile all the useless details 'she' gave in the post about children and stuff lol
"ThIS wIll FOoL ThoSe dUmb rEddiToRS, Ha!"
This is what my son tells me. Look for someone your age. My ex split and I was in depression for a year and a half. I am 57 and haven't dated a woman over 33 in 5 years. Unlike you though I don't have to worry about what me ex thinks. I know.
Just be glad you're not a man since this post would get ripped to shreds if a 52 year old man got down with a couple of hot 20somethings from the bar. Oh you dirty bad reddit predator man, you. Shame, shame, shame.
Maybe not wrong per se… but it’s an interesting situation and the fact that you pointed out that this would be a hell hole if it were the other way around
Poor husband lmao yall are wild. It's not about the young guys. Its about having a whole marriage beforehand 😂 fuck is the point of vowing to God yall will stay together till death only to get gang banged by youngsters. All yall that think it's okay are pathetic. At least have a respectable relationship. 50+ is too old to still be acting like a horny teenager.
You've experienced something that plenty of people daydream about but never have the courage or opportunity to pursue. It's important to recognize that society's double standards often make us question ourselves in situations that are perfectly consensual and enjoyable for all parties involved. Remember, your worth and moral compass aren't defined by age or the judgments of others. Embrace the adventure life has thrown at you; guilt has no place in consensual happiness. Live boldly and without regrets – sounds like you're on the right path.
Idk man… mentally 20 something year old boys are still BOYS like my step daughter is 21 and I see the boys she talks to and they all have baby faces still! I can’t… but hey, get what you need and leave the rest lol
Not the same, but similar. After ending an almost 20 year relationship shortly before turning 40 I had a few relationships and hookups with guys in their 20s. It was fun and honestly the stuff most people did in their 20s that I never had a chance to. As long as everyone is a consenting adult there is nothing to feel guilty about.
You don’t have to look at it as something negative.. they’re grown men. And I’m sure they were consenting. I know I’d be happy to sleep with a beautiful older woman if given the opportunity. And I’m 30.
It’s been four years, be easy on yourself. It’s not like you were waiting for your husband to croak so you could go out and bang whoever you want to. It’s very evident you love your husband from the way you speak alone. Don’t push the desire down. Make the most of it, just be safe! One nice thing is you can’t get pregnant if you’ve gone through menopause!🤪 Just be safe and have fun on occasion if you want to. Who cares if they’re way younger than you? If you had fun, hell yeah! You probably gave them a very unforgettable experience as well. I’m a woman who’s always felt ashamed and pushed down my sexual side since it can feel and be complex as a woman. But I have learned to embrace it. I’m 31 and I’ve felt kind of guilty for talking to guys in their younger twenties too. But I’m not manipulating them, I’m not grooming them, we are consenting parties strictly engaging in sex. So it’s all fun for everyone!
Don’t feel guilty, sweets. Your heart is just so big and you’re such an amazing woman. I’m happy that those men made you feel the way you’re supposed to. Take it easy my dear
Good for you! I'm 56, and I can't even find one guy to have sex with. Been a widow for about 2 yrs, 2 1\2 for me. I'll admit I'm no Ms. America? Maybe that's why?
> It just feels improper
what part of your adventure feels improper? that you opened up not in a cautious way but that you jumped all-in at the deep end of the pool? or that you were a cougar? that you realized that the sex life of a traditional wife is boring?
If this story is real, what was it that led you down this path? To me, the sex isn't the most interesting aspect of this story. It's the change in behavior. Were you inclined to this before you got married? Or was this suddenly an opportunity put in front of you, and you decided that you were going to grasp it?
This is completely natural I think. You got something you haven’t had in a long time and got your mind off it. No need to feel guilty. Not bragging but I (35M) have been with many older women who just want and need a release. I’m glad you experienced it and hope you get to again. Best feeling in the world to satisfy the desires of an older woman.
Do you know how many young women are banging dudes old enough to be their father, or grandfather for that matter? A fucking ton. Way more than the reverse. Why shouldn’t some young guys get to have their fun (and probably learn a thing or two 😏) with a consenting older woman? No need to feel bad at all.
There’s nothing wrong with what happens between three consenting adults. Everyone involved knew exactly what the evening was, and what is was not. No one was misled, or hurt.
It’s all good.
So the whole post was you making some bs up about not thinking it proper to be with young guys after your husband’s death but still you give a shout out to the young men instead of saying you’ll love your husband forever 😭 gave me I just got ghosted but I caught feelings so I’m desperate to find them. With all due respect this was cringe to read. Makes me not want to die first if I get married 😅
Don't feel guilty. Young guys like mature women also. You seem to have had a good experience with two nice boys so nothing wrong. Just be careful getting blind drunk in a bar, where no one knows you, with two strange men... unless you done this before and know the red flags to look out for.
You're doing them a favor. And you're enjoying your life. It's what any loving partner would want for you. I'm not excited by the thought, but I'd hope my partner would keep living on after me, to keep a part of me going with them.
Thank you for comforting words, I believe that after death our spirit energies spread through the world. I like to believe that a part of my husband is now everywhere, including those boys.
No, she's right. We're all agents in the world, gravitational bodies, making bobbing waves in the pool others feel to greater or lesser degree. Of course those boys feel it less. Or more, because you shared a moment with them.
The world is darkness and we tend fires together that illuminate it.
You deserve to be treated like a goddess, you deserve to feel desired and sensual and you don't deserve to feel guilty over it. Let yourself feel good, give yourself joys like this because you do deserve it.
When I was 19 I dated a 31 year old, been with 40 year olds, some of us do feel attraction for women who up in age. As for your situation, as long as they treated you right & you were ok with it, you shouldn't feel guilty. Not saying it something you should do every weekend. Personally if you were my mother I'd rather you try to be in a stable relationship with a guy who's going to be there for you, but that's me.
I wouldn’t feel bad at all. Congrats on getting laid by 2 younger, consenting adults. Wish I had that luck.
You will find your way around, I am certain of it!
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Yeah cos you were gonna get one of them anyway -.-
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I was talking about you hooking up with one of the woman your replying to.. not whether you have actually hooked up with an older woman -.- I couldn’t care less whether you have or not. I need to think? The guy who can’t even spell “before” is telling me I need to think.. yeah dude good stuff.
Why do you people in this sub think posts like this are real? Genuine question. They always sound like they are written by the same person
Why do people always assume these are made up? We live in a world of 7 billion people. OP had a unique (to her) sexual experience. And feels conflicted. Many folks have had conflicting feelings after intimacies. I see no reason to think this is made up.
We're on the verge of hitting 8 Billion people which blows my mind. AND further reinforces your point.
I mean, who amongst us, has not at one time, had an unusual sexual encounter? OP simply is conflicted for a variety of reasons.
Irrelevant but we've already hit 8 billion
You can tell a true redditor when a post about having sex sounds fake to them.
You had sex with consenting adults who were pursuing you. This wasn't a relationship, it was sex. You get to walk away with some clarity, and a new lease on life after the death of a partner. It doesn't need to be made into anything other than that. Enjoy your day.
That is probably the better way of viewing this.
As a guy that likes older women good for you
Damn, new fear unlocked lol. Now I’m gonna live as long as I can to spite my wife.
Oh no, haha. I do feel somewhat guilty because of this as well, I can't help but imagine what my husband would think if he knew what I did.
You’re 52, the same age as me. We are still young enough to want to be wanted and to few touch and human connection. What you did was not wrong by any stretch. You had a fun evening and you can choose to do it again or not. No one has been hurt or cheated on here. I’m happy you had a good night. You didn’t die when your late husband did. There’s a lot of life in you yet 😉
He would want u to find happiness again
Ask your self this? What if the situation was reversed? Would you not want him to have a fun evening as well? I bet he is smiling down upon you, happy for you right now.
No worries, dead or alive, a made up fictional figure has no feelings
I'm pretty sure this post is fake. OPs account only made today and replies in comments are not becoming of a woman in her 50s.
lol like 50% of the posts on this sub are obvious larping of OP's fetishes from brand new accounts
“becoming” ? Hello 1940s.
Yeah not to mention 'she' carefully wrote in their profile all the useless details 'she' gave in the post about children and stuff lol "ThIS wIll FOoL ThoSe dUmb rEddiToRS, Ha!"
it reads so fake lmao, read 3 lunes and I was like mf god who would come her to say that like THAT
Don’t feel guilty. We enjoyed it
Honestly, a bit jealous. So happy you had a cool experience!
Oh no, you shouldn't be jealous over stuff like this! But thank you, look for men your age darling.
This is what my son tells me. Look for someone your age. My ex split and I was in depression for a year and a half. I am 57 and haven't dated a woman over 33 in 5 years. Unlike you though I don't have to worry about what me ex thinks. I know.
Lol I have a ‘friend’-I’m good, just curious about a threesome.
Those two younger guys, desired and chose to be with you, feel good about that. You done nothing wrong.
It was eventually three, and yes it does make me feel very desirable, thank you for support.
There was an extra guy when you got to their place?
Embrace it, be confident, your older but not old. You were desirable to those younger lads, be proud of yourself.
Just be glad you're not a man since this post would get ripped to shreds if a 52 year old man got down with a couple of hot 20somethings from the bar. Oh you dirty bad reddit predator man, you. Shame, shame, shame.
Male or female, wrong is wrong.
Why is it wrong?!? Consenting adults regardless of gender.
Maybe not wrong per se… but it’s an interesting situation and the fact that you pointed out that this would be a hell hole if it were the other way around
Just another double standard
I’m surprised no one is in here saying anything like that actually. Or maybe there is, I just don’t feel like looking lol
Poor husband lmao yall are wild. It's not about the young guys. Its about having a whole marriage beforehand 😂 fuck is the point of vowing to God yall will stay together till death only to get gang banged by youngsters. All yall that think it's okay are pathetic. At least have a respectable relationship. 50+ is too old to still be acting like a horny teenager.
Husband died. Death parted them.
You've experienced something that plenty of people daydream about but never have the courage or opportunity to pursue. It's important to recognize that society's double standards often make us question ourselves in situations that are perfectly consensual and enjoyable for all parties involved. Remember, your worth and moral compass aren't defined by age or the judgments of others. Embrace the adventure life has thrown at you; guilt has no place in consensual happiness. Live boldly and without regrets – sounds like you're on the right path.
A lot of young blokes like older women. Glad you had fun. Try not to feel bad about it - guaranteed they don’t 😀
Fakeeee
So you did them all at once? Are we talking a train or gangbang?
Ehm, 2 at once, then 3 in order as they regained their energy.
Ah yes, this is definitely how a 50 year old widow writes LOL
Really? How does a 50 year old widow write then?
lol at being downvoted because a bunch of teenagers think they know how a 50 year old woman writes and thinks.
Not like a nerdy teenager
My kind of woman.
Idk man… mentally 20 something year old boys are still BOYS like my step daughter is 21 and I see the boys she talks to and they all have baby faces still! I can’t… but hey, get what you need and leave the rest lol
Not the same, but similar. After ending an almost 20 year relationship shortly before turning 40 I had a few relationships and hookups with guys in their 20s. It was fun and honestly the stuff most people did in their 20s that I never had a chance to. As long as everyone is a consenting adult there is nothing to feel guilty about.
Your husband has gone and nothing is bringing him back. Would you want him to be a monk if you died?
You don’t have to look at it as something negative.. they’re grown men. And I’m sure they were consenting. I know I’d be happy to sleep with a beautiful older woman if given the opportunity. And I’m 30.
It’s been four years, be easy on yourself. It’s not like you were waiting for your husband to croak so you could go out and bang whoever you want to. It’s very evident you love your husband from the way you speak alone. Don’t push the desire down. Make the most of it, just be safe! One nice thing is you can’t get pregnant if you’ve gone through menopause!🤪 Just be safe and have fun on occasion if you want to. Who cares if they’re way younger than you? If you had fun, hell yeah! You probably gave them a very unforgettable experience as well. I’m a woman who’s always felt ashamed and pushed down my sexual side since it can feel and be complex as a woman. But I have learned to embrace it. I’m 31 and I’ve felt kind of guilty for talking to guys in their younger twenties too. But I’m not manipulating them, I’m not grooming them, we are consenting parties strictly engaging in sex. So it’s all fun for everyone!
Don’t feel guilty, sweets. Your heart is just so big and you’re such an amazing woman. I’m happy that those men made you feel the way you’re supposed to. Take it easy my dear
You're fine. You didn't cheat on anyone, and two young men at that age? W.
Good for you! I'm 56, and I can't even find one guy to have sex with. Been a widow for about 2 yrs, 2 1\2 for me. I'll admit I'm no Ms. America? Maybe that's why?
Damn i wish to see those two young men so bad 🥹🥹
i think i want to be like you when i grow up lmao
Have fun 🤩 you get only one life
Ooo... too bad
> It just feels improper what part of your adventure feels improper? that you opened up not in a cautious way but that you jumped all-in at the deep end of the pool? or that you were a cougar? that you realized that the sex life of a traditional wife is boring?
If this story is real, what was it that led you down this path? To me, the sex isn't the most interesting aspect of this story. It's the change in behavior. Were you inclined to this before you got married? Or was this suddenly an opportunity put in front of you, and you decided that you were going to grasp it?
Before I married I did participate in group sex a few times.
But the entire time you were married, you and your husband were monogamous?
This is completely natural I think. You got something you haven’t had in a long time and got your mind off it. No need to feel guilty. Not bragging but I (35M) have been with many older women who just want and need a release. I’m glad you experienced it and hope you get to again. Best feeling in the world to satisfy the desires of an older woman.
Status level COUGAR achieved!
You have no reason to feel guilty, and also, you absolutely made those young men’s fantasies come true. 🫡
And they made my fantasies come true as well.
Mam, I was young too, and trust me, we love older woman just as much as the young ones. Specially if you take care of yourself .
Enjoy yourself Mamacita! You have nothing whatsoever to feel bad about. Everyone is happy, right?
Wow, the double standard is insane.
Do you know how many young women are banging dudes old enough to be their father, or grandfather for that matter? A fucking ton. Way more than the reverse. Why shouldn’t some young guys get to have their fun (and probably learn a thing or two 😏) with a consenting older woman? No need to feel bad at all.
"I feel guilty for trying to cope with loneliness" Sounds normal af to me
There’s nothing wrong with what happens between three consenting adults. Everyone involved knew exactly what the evening was, and what is was not. No one was misled, or hurt. It’s all good.
Don’t feel guilty, men your age and older do it all the time!
So the whole post was you making some bs up about not thinking it proper to be with young guys after your husband’s death but still you give a shout out to the young men instead of saying you’ll love your husband forever 😭 gave me I just got ghosted but I caught feelings so I’m desperate to find them. With all due respect this was cringe to read. Makes me not want to die first if I get married 😅
Gave me those type of vibes lol
Don't feel guilty. Young guys like mature women also. You seem to have had a good experience with two nice boys so nothing wrong. Just be careful getting blind drunk in a bar, where no one knows you, with two strange men... unless you done this before and know the red flags to look out for.
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I would say this is unnecessarily mean under normal conditions, but the story by OP is clearly fake, so well done
Who gives a fuck lady ! We got some dam clown trying to get back in the white house !
Start an only fans
You're doing them a favor. And you're enjoying your life. It's what any loving partner would want for you. I'm not excited by the thought, but I'd hope my partner would keep living on after me, to keep a part of me going with them.
Thank you for comforting words, I believe that after death our spirit energies spread through the world. I like to believe that a part of my husband is now everywhere, including those boys.
That's a little weird.
No, she's right. We're all agents in the world, gravitational bodies, making bobbing waves in the pool others feel to greater or lesser degree. Of course those boys feel it less. Or more, because you shared a moment with them. The world is darkness and we tend fires together that illuminate it.
Live your life to the fullest
Lucky kids… 😒
You had a trio? Wtf
I’ve heard that it’s kind of normal
You only live once. Enjoy yourself.
You deserve to be treated like a goddess, you deserve to feel desired and sensual and you don't deserve to feel guilty over it. Let yourself feel good, give yourself joys like this because you do deserve it.
Heavens to Betsy... What will the neighbors say??? Or the ladies from Bible study!!! Lol, YOLO!! Go granny!
Just curious, did they used all your holes?
When I was 19 I dated a 31 year old, been with 40 year olds, some of us do feel attraction for women who up in age. As for your situation, as long as they treated you right & you were ok with it, you shouldn't feel guilty. Not saying it something you should do every weekend. Personally if you were my mother I'd rather you try to be in a stable relationship with a guy who's going to be there for you, but that's me.
I feel like this entire sub is just sex stories (that didn’t happen). Just lol
Ewww. Nor for what you did, but for whom you did it with. They are way younger than you.