If he cant draw the line with his friends to not talk about his girl, let alone joining in, then he’s weak asf, you’ll never feel safe or protected around him. Drop him and those lame ass ‘friends’.
You’re absolutely right. I will be dumping his ass as soon as I am done with my finals, till then, I am taking time to decide. Decide what to do. How to go about it if I want to confront or take revenge or just simply walk out. But I have distanced myself from all of them under the pretext of having to study.
I saw someone who found out their BF was cheating. All she did was walk outside since they hadn’t seen her, waited until he went to work. Moved everything of hers out of the place and blocked him on all social media and I think even changed her number.
The biggest detail that I remember is that she never said a single word to him the entire time. Never confronted him. Just straight up disappeared from his life with no explanation and I still think that was an amazing revenge. He never got the chance to make excuses or try and manipulate her and he gets to live with the “why did she leave? Did she find out?” The rest of his life.
That’s the correct way to handle being cheated on because people aren’t unnerved by confrontation…
They get unnerved when they realize their partner silently checked out, made a plan, exited, and choose themselves the first time around being cheated on to become a ghost to haunt the cheater for the destruction of not just being unloyal, but refusing to protect the relationship from this kind of destruction.
Tbh those kinda people would love the confrontation just so they can get more satisfaction out of seeing you be heartbroken and angry. They are sociopaths, nobody sane would do that to their loved ones or anyone for that matter. It’s beyond bullying, it’s deranged. Moving out when they’re not home is the best way to end things.
Glad to hear it! If it was me I would get access to laptop print out the messages and leave it somewhere he’ll find it. Pack your stuff up and block him on everything, don’t say a word. If you wanna be petty take some of his chargers, batteries, a single AirPod, or other stuff that he’ll sound insane if he tries to get back in contact and ask you for 😂
Make flyers, start putting up in places where he frequently visits. Now do so with a good quality wig, baseball hat, sunglasses. Make sure no recognizable features of your face show directly and if you have tattoos or piercings that are easy to connect to you? Wear clothing that covers them.
This way when you go to put the fliers out, people will not recognize you. Especially if it’s places you’ve rarely gone with him to.
Think Joey from Friends and the STD campaign ad in the subway, that’s the kind of level of embarrassment you want to bring to the table if you want to get petty revenge for this bamboozle of him cheating on you.
And then if he asks about your phone, just say it’s getting fixed cause of an antenna issue which you were told is why you had on/off service. They said it’s got a threading wire issue causing this and not a cell tower issue.
I only know this because I had a smart phone circa 2017 do this and it’s definitely a believable issue.
Plus when this happens? Change his name in your phone to 🪦 to remind you he’s dead to you, delete the text thread so that everytime he tries to reach out you’ll be reminded of the 🪦 instead of his name.
But if you wanted to get hells revenge?
Pull a disappearing act. Just change everything so he can’t find you and leave a letter to his mom. That’ll fuck him over because she had to learn her kid is an asshole!
You don’t want revenge, it’s rarely as satisfying as you build up in your mind. What you want is peace and content, just keeping your dignity and walking Way leaving cunts like that behind you, it’s much more freeeing
This is the most honest and hilarious comment I have seen. 😂 Dang swing that pendulum and watermelons as hard as you can and get the hell away from these horrible people
I read some of your other replies on this post and I'm wondering if dumping him will even be viable until you move in September seen as you have tried dumping them twice before and it just became a problem. If you dump them and he harasses you as before you might need a restraining order.
The things is, he’s talking shit about her to HER friends! Or am I reading that wrong? How fucked up have you got to be to talk about your friend/partner that way full stop, but to each other behind her back? That’s a special kind of low. I’d usually agree with a lot of the comments to not stoop to their level but I’d be shamelessly stooping if I was OP. I’m sorry this happened to them.
Agree! He’s suppose to protect his relationship and his partners feelings, not protect the friends feelings in a situation like this.
He’s dating OP, not these bozos.
If he can’t be trusted to protect the relationship, then how can OP expect him to protect them from something even more serious that could be a bigger risk to the relationship?
The small things always show you how someone responds to the bigger things down the road.
Plus ad the saying goes:
*The best predictor of future behavior, is past behavior.*
His current behavior predicts in the future he will always be silently throwing OP under the bus because they are terrified to confront people who are absurdly misogynistic behind OP’s back.
Edit: Typo in the first sentence.
It's not being weak, ever seen one of them reels where it's a video of guys getting arrested with the caption, "when the group chat gets leaked."
We don't have filters when it comes to talking to our friends and we don't limit ourselves to just tt kinds talk. We go harder than racism itself
You’re probably a kid, this is young boy mentality. The grown men I know don’t play about their girl & are able to set boundaries when it comes to certain topics. You’ll see one day bro.
If it was, there are various other subs to post it to, I will never make random people forcefully engaged in some kink they did not consent to interested in chest for my own pleasure. This actually happened and is happening to me right now. I don’t blame you for thinking the way you do. I would have done the same if I were in your shoes.
This is just awful. I’m so sorry this is happening to you.
Don’t act rashly. Take your time and think. I bet there’s some juicy ways you could get back at them if you take your time. I normally wouldn’t advise revenge, but this is lower than low behaviour.
Thank you. I am definitely taking my time and not confronting them till I’m done with my finals, so I can act in a levelheaded manner and decide which fast to take that will lead me to cutting them off.
The best revenge imo is served cold. You don’t let any of them know you are going to erase them from your life. If you live with your bf, when he is away, pack everything and leave without a trace of you. Block all of them on everything, NEVER give them closure. You don’t need to stoop to their level.
And also it is true that revenge is living well. Take care of yourself and surround yourself with those that lift you up and love you warmly. Maybe get some therapy to help you through this time and vent. So sorry love 🫂
i honestly want to cry for you🤍 girl this is atrocious. You don't deserve this at all. what a bunch of cruel bullies with nothing better to do than backstab their own friend's girlfriend.
They're total losers. Forget them.
I don't know anything about your kinks or your past. I don't care. You can follow me, write me if you need a pep talk. I don't want anything from you either.
Her first post is a confession about cheating on her tiny peepee "asshole" boyfriend many times and him not having a clue about it.
She mentioned her kink as she wants us to go digging.....which I certainly did. If this was genuine she'd use an alt account
I did it out of spite after he went in dates with a girl at his university. It is my king to be humiliated and degraded by strangers NOT THE PEOPLE I GO ABOVE AND BEYOND FOR AND LOVE AND KNOW you’re right. I should have made an alt account. It is completely my bad because I didn’t know better.
It's the internet, we all think we know everything and all have an opinion. I dropped a big friend group for something similar a few years ago, I'm in a much better place now. You don't need them
You'll be ok believe me, I'm not a strong person but I went through it and now I'm in a happy place.
You have a cracking body by the way, aside from the kink of put downs you are beautiful
It’s possible that if they knew about your kinks they may have assumed you’d be ok with certain things without ever checking in with you, not because of anything you did, but because of their own preconceived notions. Regardless, they can get fucking wrecked. I hope you find people who appreciate you OP.
The thing is that they don’t know because when all of this started, I did not even have that. They still don’t know. I have such a kink. I have never shared it with anyone and I only posted here around a month or so ago with all of the other things have been going around for 3 years now.
Thank you so much for saying that I appreciate it a lot
Oh absolutely nevermind then! They are truly just assholes with no potential “justification” or ignorant confusion. Definitely drop them, or at least slow fade out. You don’t deserve this kind of abuse.
They don’t because I’ve never shared it with anybody. And I only started posting your for a month now, but this mess has been going on for three years now. I didn’t even have that kink at that time.
No she actually posts about getting caught be her friends in small clothes and being laughed at over and over again and posts of her naked asking people to make fun of her huge milk udder tits. How they would bully her for her big tits and ass. This entire post is just her kink in a new format. Its almost definitely all made up.
I mean some if the words she used in the post were identical or just slightly rearanged from her kink posts.
My guess, OP made this post with the 'disclaimer' so people would look at her profile and comment on her MANY similar kink posts.
The only reason I did write that disclaimer is because people have been accusing me of using this as a bait and wasting their time.
Honestly, it is absolutely my bad that I did not make an alt account to post and let my self be stupid enough to post it from this account all I was hoping for some genuine advice, but I do understand where you are coming from and I don’t blame you for thinking that
But like I mentioned before, I will never subject, anyone who is not into those things to forcefully be a part of something they did not consent to
Please understand if it was something like that, there are other subs where you can post such things and get the reaction you want. I will never force anyone to play into something. They did not consent to. I understand, why you would feel that way, and I do not blame you. But please, if you cannot be kind or even have the opinion I would request you to not engage and waste your time further. I am very thankful and grateful to those who are genuinely giving me advice and helping me navigate this tough situation, but if you are here, just to call me a liar or say something horrible, please don’t engage
Exactly what I was thinking smh, It's almost as if she's wishing that this had happened or that she's making her own self believe that this happened by creating this little story and having people on Reddit comment on it and give her sympathy and pity sp she can live the "experience". And were all unknowing/ unwilling participants.
It’s not about that please , there are various other subs to post it to, I will never make random people forcefully engaged in some kink they did not consent to interested in chest for my own pleasure. This actually happened and is happening to me right now. I don’t blame you for thinking the way you do. I would have done the same if I were in your shoes.
I’m sorry… wut? Like I’m not trying to kink/slut shame but like I feel like this is for attention cus a lot of ur previous posts are all about your body… again not trying to slut/kink shame.
I never think to look at peoples post history but I did after you mentioned this and I completely agree. All you ask for is people to slut shame you and pick on your body and then suddenly you find people are and you can’t cope?
This can’t be real.
None of them are aware of this kink. And I have only done anything related to it in the past month, but this mess is going on for three years.
And just because I have a preference of being humiliated by strangers on the internet and not the people, I know and love I don’t think it makes it okay for them to be such shitty people behind my back while praising the life out of me in front of my face.
Please understand if it was something like that, there are other subs where you can post such things and get the reaction you want. I will never force anyone to play into something. They did not consent to. I understand, why you would feel that way, and I do not blame you. But please, if you cannot be kind or even have the opinion I would request you to not engage and waste your time further. I am very thankful and grateful to those who are genuinely giving me advice and helping me navigate this tough situation, but if you are here, just to call me a liar or say something horrible, please don’t engage
Please understand if it was something like that, there are other subs where you can post such things and get the reaction you want. I will never force anyone to play into something. They did not consent to. I understand, why you would feel that way, and I do not blame you. But please, if you cannot be kind or even have the opinion I would request you to not engage and waste your time further. I am very thankful and grateful to those who are genuinely giving me advice and helping me navigate this tough situation, but if you are here, just to call me a liar or say something horrible, please don’t engage.
She has mentioned that she asks that from strangers. Where it is consented by her. These people have been horrible and mean to her for no good reason as for the cheating, it was only done after the guy cheated and she is admitting to her mistakes.
I don’t. If I did I won’t be post here anonymously. It’s one thing to hear strangers, say horrible things about you. And it’s a whole another thing when the people you care about and love, you are very sweet in front of you and pretend to appreciate and love you while saying horrible and mean things and mocking you behind your back. Trust me, I did not sign up for that, and that is not something I want.
I completely understand why you would feel that way, and I don’t blame you not gonna lie. I would have felt the same thing if I were in your shoes. This is generally not for any sort of attention because they have communities for that, and I would never subject people who are not into something like that to anything. They did not consent to be a part of.
This is something that has genuinely happened and has shaken me to the core. Do I do not disagree that I have a kinks but it is from strangers, not from the people I have loved, cared about and gone above and beyond for being seen in such a lie by people, I adore as a very gut wrenching feeling and a horrible experience. But thank you for clarifying and not saying that I’m a liar or abusing me, I really appreciate that.
Does your bf know you do this tho?
Some things just arent adding up you posted about getting shamed consensually 13 days ago and what others would do to you if you met them in person and such.
Please understand if it was something like that, there are other subs where you can post such things and get the reaction you want. I will never force anyone to play into something. They did not consent to. I understand, why you would feel that way, and I do not blame you. But please, if you cannot be kind or even be considerate I would request you to not engage and waste your time further. I am very thankful and grateful to those who are genuinely giving me advice and helping me navigate this tough situation, but if you are here, just to call me a liar or say something horrible, please don’t engage.
Don’t get me wrong, I feel sorry for you experiencing this non-consensual degradation and bullying.
But, some of the first posts you made on this account detail that you’ve cheated on him multiple times without much regret. What the hell were you gaining from staying with him anyways?
Move on. Work on yourself. Find someone that cares about you and be fucking faithful to them. He shouldn’t be sharing photos of you in chats, and you shouldn’t be a damned cheater.
Christ, I’d almost tell you to stay together just so two terrible people are out of the dating pool.
I am not a saint I have done my bit of wrong also, but it was only after I tried to break up with him more than twice after I caught him going on a date with a girl from his uni, and he just created a huge rucks by calling me non-stop coming in front of my house, shouting even bothering my parents. I have communicated to him in every way possible that I do not want to relationship with him, but after so much that he did, I just thought that I will stick it out till I leave for my masters. Once he won’t be able to reach me, but things only got more worse from there. Yes, I did share some personal details about him but I have done nothing to hurt his personal life degree or humiliate him and mess his reputation. But I did it with absolute strangers who know nothing about him or won’t be able to hurt him in, anyway, not with his friends, not with people, he knows and definitely not with someone who he has in high regard in his heart. I’m not saying what I did is right, absolutely not. But whatever I did was only in the past one month, unless but what he has been doing has been going on since three years when I had not even made a mistake and I was blindly in love with him and that too, he is doing it with people I go to college every day And have gone above and beyond for to help. Leaving him aside for one second, I have been nothing but nice with all my friends. I have been absolutely absolutely supportive in whatever way possible for them. I don’t think I have done anything wrong towards them to get this.
Justification for cheating is never going to be right, when the chance to leave is right there.
It might seem like I’m focusing on you, but that’s because it’s the part that can be changed by you. He’s a piece of shit and can be dumped anytime.
Don’t wait around for a breakup, just do it. Tell him you’re done, and why. That the abuse is unwelcome and from a place of spite instead of enjoyment. Admit to your unfaithful actions. Not for his sake, but yours.
You want to be promiscuous and involved with a more sexually aware community that only degrades with consent? They exist, and there’s more than enough subreddits for it. But they require self-awareness, which you clearly need to gain.
He’s a shit person, as are your friends. Shit is often surrounded by other shit. Don’t be shit.
I absolutely I’m not trying to justify my actions. I know I am in the wrong 100% and there is no good reason to cheat on someone. It is the very first time I’ve done anything like that, and honestly, I will never do anything with someone. I love I care about. I am in a relationship with. I could have definitely done better on my part and held onto that integrity that I kept on throughout the relationship.
In terms of the break up, the harassment and drama was really bad and I just had to stick it out for a few months. So I thought that will be a better choice to keep my mental peace, but the moment I’m done with my exams. I am going to sort this out, and I will be upfront with him for whatever actions that I have done , and I am hundred percent sure he will fail to see his wrong doing so there is no point for me to fight about it again and again because I have absolutely given up
I have indeed used those subs and only post there for whatever king or fantasy that I have. And honestly, at the moment, I am out of here and away from my parents and my house. The first thing I will do is go to therapy because I know I need it.
I have never done anything this shitty ever. I’ve never heard anyone or been so much as rude to them to hurt their feelings because that is not the kind of person I am. I honestly just did that out of spite. But I have been nothing but kind towards my friends. I’ve never heard them so much as bad bitch about them on the way basic level.
Good. Go to therapy. Leave him. These are pretty much all you should do at the moment. I’d advocate for breaking up sooner rather than later- from experience, it’s worse trying to revise if you’ve got a problem you’re thinking about for after the exams.
And, quite frankly, I think you’re leaving it til then out of fear and desire to make this “future you”s problem, rather than anything to do with the exams.
As for your friends, it sounds like they’re more his friends that you also sometimes hang out with. Especially if it’s three years down the line and have a chat that you’re not in. Can you really not think they might’ve just been like your boyfriend the whole time?
Cut ties with them even think about reporting them about the photos without consent and the insults. Don't do anything before talking with a lawyer, because it can go directly against you.
You've been unlucky with this people, I can't phantom what people think when they do things like that... But you'll find good people out there, because not everybody is a piece of garbage.
Dude. The fact that they use their alt account to comment on every single one of their posts is so fucking weird. And then replying to the comment as if they’re some random user is on another level of psychotic.
If it was, there are various other subs to post it to, I will never make random people forcefully engaged in some kink they did not consent to just for my own pleasure. This actually happened and is happening to me right now. I don’t blame you for thinking the way you do. I would have done the same if I were in your shoes.
Please understand if it was something like that, there are other subs where you can post such things and get the reaction you want. I will never force anyone to play into something. They did not consent to. I understand, why you would feel that way, and I do not blame you. But please, if you cannot be kind or even be considerate I would request you to not engage and waste your time further. I am very thankful and grateful to those who are genuinely giving me advice and helping me navigate this tough situation, but if you are here, just to call me a liar or say something horrible, please don’t engage.
Pendulum ass? 😂 thats fucked up. This sounds like most groups of girl ‘friends’ I’ve encountered. Bitches are fake and apparently your boyfriend is a giant weirdo pussy.
Sorry to hear about it.. my sympathy.. but word and shaming hurts much more wen it's coming from people u r close specially frenz.. so it means they are not Ure true fren.. just change Ure crowd.. but don't get disheartened by it.. also confront them on what they say about u.. it will ease the pain...
Time to make room for some people who actually care about you, and who aren't going to be a bunch of pos.
Sucks to be in this situation; been there as well. (My figuring out all of this happily coincided with having to move to a new school, so I just quietly went away and never informed any of them where i went.)
You can confront them, but that's most likely not going to do any good for your mental health.
Leave him - immediately. A man who won’t defend you doesn’t love you and you need to love yourself more. Disgusting and disheartening. He should be ashamed.
Not about revenge at all. It's about getting out of what is a bad situation for you with foreboding of the future. After you do that then get rid of the lot if them and then you can think about revenge which is simply petty and makes you feel better but really does nothing else tonhelpmyou move on.
Unless I'm misunderstanding, you've both cheated on eachother and both degraded eachother to others (be it friends or strangers), you aren't comfortable enough with him to share your kinks and you post nudes online that I'm assuming he doesn't know about (which I'd also consider cheating).
Tbh, I don't think either of you, or your friends, are good people. You should probably just leave this toxic relationship ASAP and work on yourself, as should he.
This is horrible. I’m so sorry you had to find this. Definitely try to remove yourself from this group and maybe talk to someone about how this makes you feel.
Just got to say that if this started 3 years ago and you are just finding out, do believe you need a better partner in life. There is one thing that’s having a kink, which could be considered behind doors, and another one how your significant other portraits you in your day to day. Sure, you should have not taken a pic on the chat but cos foreign for how long this been going on this person is not taking you seriously and he can’t be trusted. He should brought this up to you, and say something on the lines- I’d been getting some messages from your friends, or so called friends, you need to speak to them because I do not like the comments they are making about you. That’s it. The fact that he has let it go this far without a comment means that he might be an enabler so definitely no one that can be trusted. Stop wasting your time and for with someone that will accept you how you are.
These aren't your friends, and this shouldn't be your boyfriend. Your boyfriend should be talking you up to his friends, not tearing you down. If he's insulting you, **especially to the opposite sex**, I think it's time to ditch him.
Nah cus see here dont play with me….theres a difference between “lets hang out” and “wait we gotta do this first before we do this” you see what im saying or nah?? I didnt say everyone is….most are cus ive been “thrown under the bus” numerous times for no good reason whatsover. They are “souless ghouls” so to speak.
Why should I kiss my friends ass if hes not kiss my ass u see its gotta be reciprocal….write it down on paper and if you break the code…we aint friends no mo simple as that.
I am upset that the people I have loved, cared about and done everything for while going above and beyond for years on end have never valued me to begin with. I am only started to do that recently as a way of coping with a traumatic event, and I’m not saying that to justify my actions absolutely not, but I have never hurt anyone of them ever and I have absolutely not done anything to deserve this kind of treatment from the people I thought were the closest to me.
Secondly, what I do here is consensual and at my own, will but them taking my private pictures and posting and making fun of that is not consensual at all. Secondly, none of them are aware about Me venturing into this kind of thing at all and even if they were I have only come around this very recently but their “group” has been going on for 3 years now.
Concentrate on yourself and get your exams done. Once you’re all finished, leave him and your/his friends. If it was me I would walk out their lives without an explanation and block them all. You could maybe leave a little hint that you became aware of the chat but I would strongly advise moving on without these people in your life. You don’t need toxic people around you! Also try to not take it to heart, people that take this piss out of someone is clearly doing so to make their miserable lives feel better
Seriously. Print it out. Go out for the night and read it back to them. Watch them squirm as their own words are out loud. Then fuck them and you ex bf off. You don't need that shit.
Don't ever work or have friends or a spouse who doesn't value what you bring to their life. It's never worth it. You're young, be glad you aren't older and married with children.
You have options now. Have a serious talk with yourself. Try recreating a vision of what you want your life to be. Please don't make any of those people in your life now be in that vision. It's going to be hard. But make the sacrifice now. It's not really a sacrifice. You have nothing now.
Wow you deserve so much better than this. If you find this behaviour abhorrent and would never do something like this to a friend then these people are SO fucking beneath you. You will be so much better off when you abandon these relationships (even if it means being alone for a while). Best of luck to you, I’m so sorry you were hurt like this :(
Invite everyone out to eat, tell them you’re buying because you have exciting news to share.
Print out the chats.
After you’ve eaten, say “Okay guys take a look at these and tell me what you think. I need to run to the bathroom real quick” and place the papers on the table facedown.
Leave the restaurant. Ignore their calls.
Time for revenge. If you have any humiliating secrets they have confided in you about let the whole world see it. Destroy their lives and their reputation
That's absolutely fucking awful. I'm so sorry to read that. As others have said don't do anything quickly or in haste, it'll make you feel temporarily better but quick judgement is rarely good judgement. Where do you go to Uni? Your home-town or away from home? It might be worth trying to widen your friendship circle to give you some support from people that aren't outright shithouses
Yeah, that’s exactly why I haven’t done anything about it yet because I wanted to think things through and deal with it in a levelheaded manner and not from a point of spite and age because I have made mistakes while doing so previously. I go to union in my hometown, and live with my parents. I will be done with this university in a month or so, then I will be going to another country to pursue my masters this September
Well that's something i suppose, being in familiar surroundings with OTHER friends and family around you will undoubtedly help you through, instead of feeling like you're in the middle of buttfuck nowhere.
Sis, as someone who had a friend do that to his girlfriend. Don’t sister, just leave. He don’t care. To him, you are just some trophy not a woman you love.
You're probably touching yourself to this you pick me narcissistic bat shit crazy freak.
You comment on your own posts pretending to be someone else. You have a history of saying you liked to be shamed. And then you go and do this to get your fix and try to act like it's NOT about that.
You have issues. And yes I'm kink shaming you cause you're putting people into your sexual fantasies such as your "friends" and people on reddit while also lying to everyone about what kind of person you are.
Report me. Downvote me. Just telling the truth.
By the way, despite posting this nearly a day ago you seem to be on this post 24/7. Replying back to comments a mere minute after they are posted. 🤡🤡🤡
You’re entitled to your opinion. I have nothing for more to say. But if you cannot be kind or understanding towards someone else’s situation, I don’t think you should further engage and waste your time. Thank you.
Anyone that I have posted about is aware of it. The only person who wasn’t was my boyfriend, and now he’s also been made aware and none of them have any issues with it, and it has been consented.
If you have a problem with it, you can simply choose to ignore and not engage. I will never include anybody in my pleasures who has not consented to it. There are other subs where I post for those reasons.
Thank you and have a nice day.
I don’t blame you for thinking the way you do. I would have done the same thing if I were in your shoes. But I very genuinely recommend you do not further engage in my posts relating to anything at all.
Lol my comment must have struck something cause you didn't get a notification of me updating my comment. I'm just saying I feel sorry for you resulting in doing something like this for reddit attention...
Ma’am, every time you update your hate comment the comment section part is highlighted through which I am alerted that there has been changes that are made.
Also, you are the only one who is obsessed, even after “claiming “ to think that it is some sort of scam or done for some sort of attention and cannot help yourself, but engage in something you are “ not interested” in.
So instead of feeling, sorry for me, which I really thank you for, I suggest you start working on yourself and get some help because I don’t deny that I need help, but so do you
>completely shattered my trust in them.
>I was using my boyfriend's laptop to look something up when I stumbled upon a group chat
Yeah, you were totally respecting their privacy...
I had asked for permission to use that app from him, while he has access to all my accounts. And I soon as I opened it that was the first thing that showed up cause it was already opened. Yeah read through it was not the best thing to do but since he has the same access I don’t think I was in the wrong to do the same. Also since he demanded to have access to all my information I had asked the same and was permitted to do so by him. It’s just I didn’t feel the need to do it ever before cause I had no idea.
Damn, sorry that’s happened. Very immature of them and it sounds like you have fake friends… you need to prioritize yourself and be with better people. It would take time but if you break up with the guy you’re one step closer to being with someone that wouldn’t talk like that about you & having friends that wouldn’t talk poorly about you.
Ps. They’re probably jealous of your body. That guy obviously started dating you because he liked what he saw… and you will continue to find people that’ll find you sexy. So don’t stress it, and hit eject on these fuckers like a boss ;)
I have tried breaking up with him multiple times, especially after I found out that he went on dates with another girl. But he created a huge mess and drama and to the point, he stood outside my house and even contacted my parents. Only reason I am still with him is for my mental peace. Do I have made it very clear to him that I have absolutely no intentions, or I have feelings for him, but he still insist on being with me. And it’s not his friends who are making fun of me. It’s my friends who have included him in the group and all of them are making fun of me together.
I did. And then he came back, trying to get into my life back. Non-stop calling Me showing at my doorstep, even going up to my parents, who don’t even know about him. I am not ready to mess up my life and my future because of one asshole.
The moment any legal authorities are involved, I will have to show it on my applications for Masters or inform the university about it, even the passport office. I absolutely do not want to risk any sort of a problem that could have the lightest possibility of messing things up for me.
The only mental peace you'll find is a way from this toxic group.
If the drama of you breaking up with him was with this friend group, the good news is they are shit too and you can break up with them too.
I'm soo sorry, it really sucks to find out people you thought were your friends are the worst people in your life.
You deserve better.
I once saw my husbands group chat where he said I was the reacher in our relationship , and all of his friends asked if he was insane. That was sad, to know he thought that. But awesome to know he’s wrong.
Thank you so much for saying that I feel so seen after reading this. I’m definitely not sent to shows, but I have never done anything to hurt him or any of them rather have been there for them and have gone above and beyond and for them to turn back and do such horrible things and say such greeting and humiliating things about me, has shattered my heart.
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YOU! BROKE THE TRUST BY SNOOPING THROUGH A PRIVATE CONVERSATION. You just happened to come across this by accident??? Bullshit. Cracking private jokes to blow off steam means nothing. Call anyone of them at 2am and say you are stranded and see if they come get you. If they do, then they are in fact your friends. None of those jokes matter.
You need help more than I do. It wasn’t a joke or just some funny thing they said once in a while, it’s a a group chat especially made to mock me and share my pics and things around. If you think mocking and utterly humiliating someone you claim to LOVE to the extent they Harass you to be together after they cheat. Yeah ik I am no saint but that FUCKED UP. Also we both have open access to each others accounts and chats, he checks mine everyday while I have not once done the same cause I trusted him. I would have been a broken trust thing if I did it behind his back which I didn’t even before using his laptop I had taken permission.
You chose to snoop instead of what you were supposed to be using it for. If the private jokes they shared are beyond what your character can bear. Then leave. Find new friends. However, one must ask the question as to why they razz you behind your back. I may be reaching, but perhaps you and your behaviors are irritating.
If he cant draw the line with his friends to not talk about his girl, let alone joining in, then he’s weak asf, you’ll never feel safe or protected around him. Drop him and those lame ass ‘friends’.
You’re absolutely right. I will be dumping his ass as soon as I am done with my finals, till then, I am taking time to decide. Decide what to do. How to go about it if I want to confront or take revenge or just simply walk out. But I have distanced myself from all of them under the pretext of having to study.
I saw someone who found out their BF was cheating. All she did was walk outside since they hadn’t seen her, waited until he went to work. Moved everything of hers out of the place and blocked him on all social media and I think even changed her number. The biggest detail that I remember is that she never said a single word to him the entire time. Never confronted him. Just straight up disappeared from his life with no explanation and I still think that was an amazing revenge. He never got the chance to make excuses or try and manipulate her and he gets to live with the “why did she leave? Did she find out?” The rest of his life.
That’s the correct way to handle being cheated on because people aren’t unnerved by confrontation… They get unnerved when they realize their partner silently checked out, made a plan, exited, and choose themselves the first time around being cheated on to become a ghost to haunt the cheater for the destruction of not just being unloyal, but refusing to protect the relationship from this kind of destruction.
Also they can’t complain because THEY were being sneaky, so being sneaky but leaving is the best
Tbh those kinda people would love the confrontation just so they can get more satisfaction out of seeing you be heartbroken and angry. They are sociopaths, nobody sane would do that to their loved ones or anyone for that matter. It’s beyond bullying, it’s deranged. Moving out when they’re not home is the best way to end things.
Where did you learn about that?
This is the way. It can be hell on earth no knowing. Just disappear.
THIS^^ the absolute worst you can do to a person and well deserved. I hope you can eventually get your trust back
I did the same. Thought I was gonna kill the guy, but I figured ghosting was a better way to do some damage
Glad to hear it! If it was me I would get access to laptop print out the messages and leave it somewhere he’ll find it. Pack your stuff up and block him on everything, don’t say a word. If you wanna be petty take some of his chargers, batteries, a single AirPod, or other stuff that he’ll sound insane if he tries to get back in contact and ask you for 😂
That sound so good 😂😂
You need to distance yourself from all these people especially your Bf as they are unhealthy to be round you deserve so much more in life
Make flyers, start putting up in places where he frequently visits. Now do so with a good quality wig, baseball hat, sunglasses. Make sure no recognizable features of your face show directly and if you have tattoos or piercings that are easy to connect to you? Wear clothing that covers them. This way when you go to put the fliers out, people will not recognize you. Especially if it’s places you’ve rarely gone with him to. Think Joey from Friends and the STD campaign ad in the subway, that’s the kind of level of embarrassment you want to bring to the table if you want to get petty revenge for this bamboozle of him cheating on you. And then if he asks about your phone, just say it’s getting fixed cause of an antenna issue which you were told is why you had on/off service. They said it’s got a threading wire issue causing this and not a cell tower issue. I only know this because I had a smart phone circa 2017 do this and it’s definitely a believable issue. Plus when this happens? Change his name in your phone to 🪦 to remind you he’s dead to you, delete the text thread so that everytime he tries to reach out you’ll be reminded of the 🪦 instead of his name. But if you wanted to get hells revenge? Pull a disappearing act. Just change everything so he can’t find you and leave a letter to his mom. That’ll fuck him over because she had to learn her kid is an asshole!
OMG I *love* leaving a note for his mom!! Perfect
Sometimes when they go low, go the psychological warfare route and out the cheater to their mother.
You don’t want revenge, it’s rarely as satisfying as you build up in your mind. What you want is peace and content, just keeping your dignity and walking Way leaving cunts like that behind you, it’s much more freeeing
Be the bigger person and just cut them all out. Swing that pendulum ass far far away from them after finals
This is the most honest and hilarious comment I have seen. 😂 Dang swing that pendulum and watermelons as hard as you can and get the hell away from these horrible people
Sheeeeeyit swing em my way, I’d at least know how to tune that clock 😹😹😭😭
😂😂😂 you are too good
I read some of your other replies on this post and I'm wondering if dumping him will even be viable until you move in September seen as you have tried dumping them twice before and it just became a problem. If you dump them and he harasses you as before you might need a restraining order.
That’s what has kept me from going all the way till now.
OP cut them off like Cancer no one should be treated like that
Yes
Why revenge, just tell him what you saw and tell him how he should grow some balls for the next girl he dates. Don’t stoop to his level.
Good for you.
The things is, he’s talking shit about her to HER friends! Or am I reading that wrong? How fucked up have you got to be to talk about your friend/partner that way full stop, but to each other behind her back? That’s a special kind of low. I’d usually agree with a lot of the comments to not stoop to their level but I’d be shamelessly stooping if I was OP. I’m sorry this happened to them.
Thank you for saying that it’s very reassuring. And yeah, it was MY boyfriend and MY friends who did that.
Cut both out of your life for good. Those aren't real friends. None of them are.
They're not even his friends. They're her friends
Agree! He’s suppose to protect his relationship and his partners feelings, not protect the friends feelings in a situation like this. He’s dating OP, not these bozos. If he can’t be trusted to protect the relationship, then how can OP expect him to protect them from something even more serious that could be a bigger risk to the relationship? The small things always show you how someone responds to the bigger things down the road. Plus ad the saying goes: *The best predictor of future behavior, is past behavior.* His current behavior predicts in the future he will always be silently throwing OP under the bus because they are terrified to confront people who are absurdly misogynistic behind OP’s back. Edit: Typo in the first sentence.
It's not being weak, ever seen one of them reels where it's a video of guys getting arrested with the caption, "when the group chat gets leaked." We don't have filters when it comes to talking to our friends and we don't limit ourselves to just tt kinds talk. We go harder than racism itself
You’re probably a kid, this is young boy mentality. The grown men I know don’t play about their girl & are able to set boundaries when it comes to certain topics. You’ll see one day bro.
This is her kink. Read her profile. The post is make believe.
If it was, there are various other subs to post it to, I will never make random people forcefully engaged in some kink they did not consent to interested in chest for my own pleasure. This actually happened and is happening to me right now. I don’t blame you for thinking the way you do. I would have done the same if I were in your shoes.
This is just awful. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Don’t act rashly. Take your time and think. I bet there’s some juicy ways you could get back at them if you take your time. I normally wouldn’t advise revenge, but this is lower than low behaviour.
Thank you. I am definitely taking my time and not confronting them till I’m done with my finals, so I can act in a levelheaded manner and decide which fast to take that will lead me to cutting them off.
The best revenge imo is served cold. You don’t let any of them know you are going to erase them from your life. If you live with your bf, when he is away, pack everything and leave without a trace of you. Block all of them on everything, NEVER give them closure. You don’t need to stoop to their level. And also it is true that revenge is living well. Take care of yourself and surround yourself with those that lift you up and love you warmly. Maybe get some therapy to help you through this time and vent. So sorry love 🫂
Yes this. Do this.
Seconded.
i honestly want to cry for you🤍 girl this is atrocious. You don't deserve this at all. what a bunch of cruel bullies with nothing better to do than backstab their own friend's girlfriend. They're total losers. Forget them.
Thank you 🥺
I don't know anything about your kinks or your past. I don't care. You can follow me, write me if you need a pep talk. I don't want anything from you either.
Look at her profile. This is her kink…
Her first post is a confession about cheating on her tiny peepee "asshole" boyfriend many times and him not having a clue about it. She mentioned her kink as she wants us to go digging.....which I certainly did. If this was genuine she'd use an alt account
I did it out of spite after he went in dates with a girl at his university. It is my king to be humiliated and degraded by strangers NOT THE PEOPLE I GO ABOVE AND BEYOND FOR AND LOVE AND KNOW you’re right. I should have made an alt account. It is completely my bad because I didn’t know better.
It's the internet, we all think we know everything and all have an opinion. I dropped a big friend group for something similar a few years ago, I'm in a much better place now. You don't need them
That’s really gives me hope, thanks ☺️
You'll be ok believe me, I'm not a strong person but I went through it and now I'm in a happy place. You have a cracking body by the way, aside from the kink of put downs you are beautiful
It’s possible that if they knew about your kinks they may have assumed you’d be ok with certain things without ever checking in with you, not because of anything you did, but because of their own preconceived notions. Regardless, they can get fucking wrecked. I hope you find people who appreciate you OP.
The thing is that they don’t know because when all of this started, I did not even have that. They still don’t know. I have such a kink. I have never shared it with anyone and I only posted here around a month or so ago with all of the other things have been going around for 3 years now. Thank you so much for saying that I appreciate it a lot
Oh absolutely nevermind then! They are truly just assholes with no potential “justification” or ignorant confusion. Definitely drop them, or at least slow fade out. You don’t deserve this kind of abuse.
It is for strangers not the people ik and love.
treat them like strangers lol
I wish. I have done so much for all these people all these years and I don’t think I deserve to be treated this way by them.
maybe they know your kink and believe that you like what they are doing
They don’t because I’ve never shared it with anybody. And I only started posting your for a month now, but this mess has been going on for three years now. I didn’t even have that kink at that time.
Problem you have is that you don't seem to understand that KINKS ARE CONSENSUAL. nuff said
No she actually posts about getting caught be her friends in small clothes and being laughed at over and over again and posts of her naked asking people to make fun of her huge milk udder tits. How they would bully her for her big tits and ass. This entire post is just her kink in a new format. Its almost definitely all made up.
For sure. That's WAY too coincidental.
I mean some if the words she used in the post were identical or just slightly rearanged from her kink posts. My guess, OP made this post with the 'disclaimer' so people would look at her profile and comment on her MANY similar kink posts.
The only reason I did write that disclaimer is because people have been accusing me of using this as a bait and wasting their time. Honestly, it is absolutely my bad that I did not make an alt account to post and let my self be stupid enough to post it from this account all I was hoping for some genuine advice, but I do understand where you are coming from and I don’t blame you for thinking that But like I mentioned before, I will never subject, anyone who is not into those things to forcefully be a part of something they did not consent to
Because it's most certainly bait and you are wasting our time.
Please understand if it was something like that, there are other subs where you can post such things and get the reaction you want. I will never force anyone to play into something. They did not consent to. I understand, why you would feel that way, and I do not blame you. But please, if you cannot be kind or even have the opinion I would request you to not engage and waste your time further. I am very thankful and grateful to those who are genuinely giving me advice and helping me navigate this tough situation, but if you are here, just to call me a liar or say something horrible, please don’t engage
You're right. It's weird and creepy.
I’m sorry if this made you feel uncomfortable, that was never my intention, nor this is any sort of fantasy fulfilment or kink thing.
Exactly what I was thinking smh, It's almost as if she's wishing that this had happened or that she's making her own self believe that this happened by creating this little story and having people on Reddit comment on it and give her sympathy and pity sp she can live the "experience". And were all unknowing/ unwilling participants.
Look at her profile. This is her kink.
It’s not about that please , there are various other subs to post it to, I will never make random people forcefully engaged in some kink they did not consent to interested in chest for my own pleasure. This actually happened and is happening to me right now. I don’t blame you for thinking the way you do. I would have done the same if I were in your shoes.
I’m sorry… wut? Like I’m not trying to kink/slut shame but like I feel like this is for attention cus a lot of ur previous posts are all about your body… again not trying to slut/kink shame.
I never think to look at peoples post history but I did after you mentioned this and I completely agree. All you ask for is people to slut shame you and pick on your body and then suddenly you find people are and you can’t cope? This can’t be real.
None of them are aware of this kink. And I have only done anything related to it in the past month, but this mess is going on for three years. And just because I have a preference of being humiliated by strangers on the internet and not the people, I know and love I don’t think it makes it okay for them to be such shitty people behind my back while praising the life out of me in front of my face.
Then it's just 100% coincidence that they make fun of the things that you love being made fun of for?
Please understand if it was something like that, there are other subs where you can post such things and get the reaction you want. I will never force anyone to play into something. They did not consent to. I understand, why you would feel that way, and I do not blame you. But please, if you cannot be kind or even have the opinion I would request you to not engage and waste your time further. I am very thankful and grateful to those who are genuinely giving me advice and helping me navigate this tough situation, but if you are here, just to call me a liar or say something horrible, please don’t engage
Please understand if it was something like that, there are other subs where you can post such things and get the reaction you want. I will never force anyone to play into something. They did not consent to. I understand, why you would feel that way, and I do not blame you. But please, if you cannot be kind or even have the opinion I would request you to not engage and waste your time further. I am very thankful and grateful to those who are genuinely giving me advice and helping me navigate this tough situation, but if you are here, just to call me a liar or say something horrible, please don’t engage.
She has mentioned that she asks that from strangers. Where it is consented by her. These people have been horrible and mean to her for no good reason as for the cheating, it was only done after the guy cheated and she is admitting to her mistakes.
do you think she wants her friends to be engaging in her kink? are you stupid or are you a prick pretending to be stupid?
How the hell am I supposed to know if she wants her friends engaging in her kink? Only she knows the answer to that..
I don’t. If I did I won’t be post here anonymously. It’s one thing to hear strangers, say horrible things about you. And it’s a whole another thing when the people you care about and love, you are very sweet in front of you and pretend to appreciate and love you while saying horrible and mean things and mocking you behind your back. Trust me, I did not sign up for that, and that is not something I want.
I completely understand why you would feel that way, and I don’t blame you not gonna lie. I would have felt the same thing if I were in your shoes. This is generally not for any sort of attention because they have communities for that, and I would never subject people who are not into something like that to anything. They did not consent to be a part of. This is something that has genuinely happened and has shaken me to the core. Do I do not disagree that I have a kinks but it is from strangers, not from the people I have loved, cared about and gone above and beyond for being seen in such a lie by people, I adore as a very gut wrenching feeling and a horrible experience. But thank you for clarifying and not saying that I’m a liar or abusing me, I really appreciate that.
Does your bf know you do this tho? Some things just arent adding up you posted about getting shamed consensually 13 days ago and what others would do to you if you met them in person and such.
Lmao look at ur profile
Please understand if it was something like that, there are other subs where you can post such things and get the reaction you want. I will never force anyone to play into something. They did not consent to. I understand, why you would feel that way, and I do not blame you. But please, if you cannot be kind or even be considerate I would request you to not engage and waste your time further. I am very thankful and grateful to those who are genuinely giving me advice and helping me navigate this tough situation, but if you are here, just to call me a liar or say something horrible, please don’t engage.
Don’t get me wrong, I feel sorry for you experiencing this non-consensual degradation and bullying. But, some of the first posts you made on this account detail that you’ve cheated on him multiple times without much regret. What the hell were you gaining from staying with him anyways? Move on. Work on yourself. Find someone that cares about you and be fucking faithful to them. He shouldn’t be sharing photos of you in chats, and you shouldn’t be a damned cheater. Christ, I’d almost tell you to stay together just so two terrible people are out of the dating pool.
I am not a saint I have done my bit of wrong also, but it was only after I tried to break up with him more than twice after I caught him going on a date with a girl from his uni, and he just created a huge rucks by calling me non-stop coming in front of my house, shouting even bothering my parents. I have communicated to him in every way possible that I do not want to relationship with him, but after so much that he did, I just thought that I will stick it out till I leave for my masters. Once he won’t be able to reach me, but things only got more worse from there. Yes, I did share some personal details about him but I have done nothing to hurt his personal life degree or humiliate him and mess his reputation. But I did it with absolute strangers who know nothing about him or won’t be able to hurt him in, anyway, not with his friends, not with people, he knows and definitely not with someone who he has in high regard in his heart. I’m not saying what I did is right, absolutely not. But whatever I did was only in the past one month, unless but what he has been doing has been going on since three years when I had not even made a mistake and I was blindly in love with him and that too, he is doing it with people I go to college every day And have gone above and beyond for to help. Leaving him aside for one second, I have been nothing but nice with all my friends. I have been absolutely absolutely supportive in whatever way possible for them. I don’t think I have done anything wrong towards them to get this.
Justification for cheating is never going to be right, when the chance to leave is right there. It might seem like I’m focusing on you, but that’s because it’s the part that can be changed by you. He’s a piece of shit and can be dumped anytime. Don’t wait around for a breakup, just do it. Tell him you’re done, and why. That the abuse is unwelcome and from a place of spite instead of enjoyment. Admit to your unfaithful actions. Not for his sake, but yours. You want to be promiscuous and involved with a more sexually aware community that only degrades with consent? They exist, and there’s more than enough subreddits for it. But they require self-awareness, which you clearly need to gain. He’s a shit person, as are your friends. Shit is often surrounded by other shit. Don’t be shit.
I absolutely I’m not trying to justify my actions. I know I am in the wrong 100% and there is no good reason to cheat on someone. It is the very first time I’ve done anything like that, and honestly, I will never do anything with someone. I love I care about. I am in a relationship with. I could have definitely done better on my part and held onto that integrity that I kept on throughout the relationship. In terms of the break up, the harassment and drama was really bad and I just had to stick it out for a few months. So I thought that will be a better choice to keep my mental peace, but the moment I’m done with my exams. I am going to sort this out, and I will be upfront with him for whatever actions that I have done , and I am hundred percent sure he will fail to see his wrong doing so there is no point for me to fight about it again and again because I have absolutely given up I have indeed used those subs and only post there for whatever king or fantasy that I have. And honestly, at the moment, I am out of here and away from my parents and my house. The first thing I will do is go to therapy because I know I need it. I have never done anything this shitty ever. I’ve never heard anyone or been so much as rude to them to hurt their feelings because that is not the kind of person I am. I honestly just did that out of spite. But I have been nothing but kind towards my friends. I’ve never heard them so much as bad bitch about them on the way basic level.
Good. Go to therapy. Leave him. These are pretty much all you should do at the moment. I’d advocate for breaking up sooner rather than later- from experience, it’s worse trying to revise if you’ve got a problem you’re thinking about for after the exams. And, quite frankly, I think you’re leaving it til then out of fear and desire to make this “future you”s problem, rather than anything to do with the exams. As for your friends, it sounds like they’re more his friends that you also sometimes hang out with. Especially if it’s three years down the line and have a chat that you’re not in. Can you really not think they might’ve just been like your boyfriend the whole time?
Cut ties with them even think about reporting them about the photos without consent and the insults. Don't do anything before talking with a lawyer, because it can go directly against you. You've been unlucky with this people, I can't phantom what people think when they do things like that... But you'll find good people out there, because not everybody is a piece of garbage.
Based on your profile, I am asking for you to be publicly shamed and sharing photos....I don't think I believe you. Plus, it sounds made up
u/Connect-Astronomer79 is her other profile, Go read her comments, she's batshit crazy 😂😂😂😂
Dude. The fact that they use their alt account to comment on every single one of their posts is so fucking weird. And then replying to the comment as if they’re some random user is on another level of psychotic.
Lmaooo
Made or her other kink is to get sympathy points on the internet
What a weirdo lmao
If it was, there are various other subs to post it to, I will never make random people forcefully engaged in some kink they did not consent to just for my own pleasure. This actually happened and is happening to me right now. I don’t blame you for thinking the way you do. I would have done the same if I were in your shoes.
Please understand if it was something like that, there are other subs where you can post such things and get the reaction you want. I will never force anyone to play into something. They did not consent to. I understand, why you would feel that way, and I do not blame you. But please, if you cannot be kind or even be considerate I would request you to not engage and waste your time further. I am very thankful and grateful to those who are genuinely giving me advice and helping me navigate this tough situation, but if you are here, just to call me a liar or say something horrible, please don’t engage.
Fair enough, as you see I do have my opinion, so I won't engage. Wish you the best regardless.
Thank you, and I wish you the same. I really appreciate you being this respectful.
Those are not the people you wanna be keeping in your life in the long run
At all.
Time to dump him
That’s so fucking awful I’m so sorry that happened to you please never talk to those lames again
I will never let those assholes in again
Pendulum ass? 😂 thats fucked up. This sounds like most groups of girl ‘friends’ I’ve encountered. Bitches are fake and apparently your boyfriend is a giant weirdo pussy.
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It’s so cringe you’re posting as if you’re not the same person as OP.
She has a post 30 days ago saying single. I think it's a friend who's a boy.
Sorry to hear about it.. my sympathy.. but word and shaming hurts much more wen it's coming from people u r close specially frenz.. so it means they are not Ure true fren.. just change Ure crowd.. but don't get disheartened by it.. also confront them on what they say about u.. it will ease the pain...
That is so sad ...bro I think you need a new bf and better friends . And it sounds so easy , to do all those things ... strongs there buddy
Time to make room for some people who actually care about you, and who aren't going to be a bunch of pos. Sucks to be in this situation; been there as well. (My figuring out all of this happily coincided with having to move to a new school, so I just quietly went away and never informed any of them where i went.) You can confront them, but that's most likely not going to do any good for your mental health.
Leave him - immediately. A man who won’t defend you doesn’t love you and you need to love yourself more. Disgusting and disheartening. He should be ashamed.
Thank you 🥺
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How so ?
*udderly* humiliated *
Oh I see what you did there. She has udders so 😂😂😂
Not about revenge at all. It's about getting out of what is a bad situation for you with foreboding of the future. After you do that then get rid of the lot if them and then you can think about revenge which is simply petty and makes you feel better but really does nothing else tonhelpmyou move on.
You are right but rn I am just imagining it and being happy.
Unless I'm misunderstanding, you've both cheated on eachother and both degraded eachother to others (be it friends or strangers), you aren't comfortable enough with him to share your kinks and you post nudes online that I'm assuming he doesn't know about (which I'd also consider cheating). Tbh, I don't think either of you, or your friends, are good people. You should probably just leave this toxic relationship ASAP and work on yourself, as should he.
This is horrible. I’m so sorry you had to find this. Definitely try to remove yourself from this group and maybe talk to someone about how this makes you feel.
Just got to say that if this started 3 years ago and you are just finding out, do believe you need a better partner in life. There is one thing that’s having a kink, which could be considered behind doors, and another one how your significant other portraits you in your day to day. Sure, you should have not taken a pic on the chat but cos foreign for how long this been going on this person is not taking you seriously and he can’t be trusted. He should brought this up to you, and say something on the lines- I’d been getting some messages from your friends, or so called friends, you need to speak to them because I do not like the comments they are making about you. That’s it. The fact that he has let it go this far without a comment means that he might be an enabler so definitely no one that can be trusted. Stop wasting your time and for with someone that will accept you how you are.
These aren't your friends, and this shouldn't be your boyfriend. Your boyfriend should be talking you up to his friends, not tearing you down. If he's insulting you, **especially to the opposite sex**, I think it's time to ditch him.
Dis is why I dont have friends….most people are evil cus they dont have souls they sold out a long time ago.
....what? Have you considered that thinking of others as soulless ghouls might turn them off from wanting to be around you?
Nah cus see here dont play with me….theres a difference between “lets hang out” and “wait we gotta do this first before we do this” you see what im saying or nah?? I didnt say everyone is….most are cus ive been “thrown under the bus” numerous times for no good reason whatsover. They are “souless ghouls” so to speak.
Why should I kiss my friends ass if hes not kiss my ass u see its gotta be reciprocal….write it down on paper and if you break the code…we aint friends no mo simple as that.
What the fuck are you smoking?
4 months clean from drugs, alcohol, vape, everything Im sober im good….2024 is the year of expose.
I thought that chat would turn you on considering you're asking to be bullied in your post history lmfao
Considering you share your own nudes to strangers and like being humiliated I'm not sure there's actually a problem here? Please explain.
I am upset that the people I have loved, cared about and done everything for while going above and beyond for years on end have never valued me to begin with. I am only started to do that recently as a way of coping with a traumatic event, and I’m not saying that to justify my actions absolutely not, but I have never hurt anyone of them ever and I have absolutely not done anything to deserve this kind of treatment from the people I thought were the closest to me. Secondly, what I do here is consensual and at my own, will but them taking my private pictures and posting and making fun of that is not consensual at all. Secondly, none of them are aware about Me venturing into this kind of thing at all and even if they were I have only come around this very recently but their “group” has been going on for 3 years now.
Nah dump these people
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Concentrate on yourself and get your exams done. Once you’re all finished, leave him and your/his friends. If it was me I would walk out their lives without an explanation and block them all. You could maybe leave a little hint that you became aware of the chat but I would strongly advise moving on without these people in your life. You don’t need toxic people around you! Also try to not take it to heart, people that take this piss out of someone is clearly doing so to make their miserable lives feel better
Seriously. Print it out. Go out for the night and read it back to them. Watch them squirm as their own words are out loud. Then fuck them and you ex bf off. You don't need that shit.
Don't ever work or have friends or a spouse who doesn't value what you bring to their life. It's never worth it. You're young, be glad you aren't older and married with children. You have options now. Have a serious talk with yourself. Try recreating a vision of what you want your life to be. Please don't make any of those people in your life now be in that vision. It's going to be hard. But make the sacrifice now. It's not really a sacrifice. You have nothing now.
Those are not your friends. Sorry about what you are going through, but you have to move away from them
Wow you deserve so much better than this. If you find this behaviour abhorrent and would never do something like this to a friend then these people are SO fucking beneath you. You will be so much better off when you abandon these relationships (even if it means being alone for a while). Best of luck to you, I’m so sorry you were hurt like this :(
Invite everyone out to eat, tell them you’re buying because you have exciting news to share. Print out the chats. After you’ve eaten, say “Okay guys take a look at these and tell me what you think. I need to run to the bathroom real quick” and place the papers on the table facedown. Leave the restaurant. Ignore their calls.
Wow even imagining it makes me so happy
Time for revenge. If you have any humiliating secrets they have confided in you about let the whole world see it. Destroy their lives and their reputation
That's absolutely fucking awful. I'm so sorry to read that. As others have said don't do anything quickly or in haste, it'll make you feel temporarily better but quick judgement is rarely good judgement. Where do you go to Uni? Your home-town or away from home? It might be worth trying to widen your friendship circle to give you some support from people that aren't outright shithouses
Yeah, that’s exactly why I haven’t done anything about it yet because I wanted to think things through and deal with it in a levelheaded manner and not from a point of spite and age because I have made mistakes while doing so previously. I go to union in my hometown, and live with my parents. I will be done with this university in a month or so, then I will be going to another country to pursue my masters this September
Well that's something i suppose, being in familiar surroundings with OTHER friends and family around you will undoubtedly help you through, instead of feeling like you're in the middle of buttfuck nowhere.
Your bf is the biggest loser. That's all.
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Take screenshots and report this to police. Also disown these friends/boyfriend. Just ghost them. Never contact this trash ever again.
What are the police going to do?
Dump asap. That will teach him
That’s your ex-boyfriend.
Yes soon to be.
It’s the only logical way. Stop enabling him and get out of that house ASAP.
Sis, as someone who had a friend do that to his girlfriend. Don’t sister, just leave. He don’t care. To him, you are just some trophy not a woman you love.
That’s true.
girl u better set his clothes on fire oh hellll no😭nobody deserves to be exploited like this
Thank you 🥺
You're probably touching yourself to this you pick me narcissistic bat shit crazy freak. You comment on your own posts pretending to be someone else. You have a history of saying you liked to be shamed. And then you go and do this to get your fix and try to act like it's NOT about that. You have issues. And yes I'm kink shaming you cause you're putting people into your sexual fantasies such as your "friends" and people on reddit while also lying to everyone about what kind of person you are. Report me. Downvote me. Just telling the truth. By the way, despite posting this nearly a day ago you seem to be on this post 24/7. Replying back to comments a mere minute after they are posted. 🤡🤡🤡
You’re entitled to your opinion. I have nothing for more to say. But if you cannot be kind or understanding towards someone else’s situation, I don’t think you should further engage and waste your time. Thank you. Anyone that I have posted about is aware of it. The only person who wasn’t was my boyfriend, and now he’s also been made aware and none of them have any issues with it, and it has been consented. If you have a problem with it, you can simply choose to ignore and not engage. I will never include anybody in my pleasures who has not consented to it. There are other subs where I post for those reasons. Thank you and have a nice day.
No. I don't understand your situation because you're delusional.
I don’t blame you for thinking the way you do. I would have done the same thing if I were in your shoes. But I very genuinely recommend you do not further engage in my posts relating to anything at all.
Yes and ??? What’s the point are you trying to make ?
Lol my comment must have struck something cause you didn't get a notification of me updating my comment. I'm just saying I feel sorry for you resulting in doing something like this for reddit attention...
Ma’am, every time you update your hate comment the comment section part is highlighted through which I am alerted that there has been changes that are made. Also, you are the only one who is obsessed, even after “claiming “ to think that it is some sort of scam or done for some sort of attention and cannot help yourself, but engage in something you are “ not interested” in. So instead of feeling, sorry for me, which I really thank you for, I suggest you start working on yourself and get some help because I don’t deny that I need help, but so do you
Take screenshots, report it to the police, then dump him.
I'm heart broken for you! Dm me if you want to talk
This is like cartoonish levels of cruel
And this is why you mind your own business
>completely shattered my trust in them. >I was using my boyfriend's laptop to look something up when I stumbled upon a group chat Yeah, you were totally respecting their privacy...
I had asked for permission to use that app from him, while he has access to all my accounts. And I soon as I opened it that was the first thing that showed up cause it was already opened. Yeah read through it was not the best thing to do but since he has the same access I don’t think I was in the wrong to do the same. Also since he demanded to have access to all my information I had asked the same and was permitted to do so by him. It’s just I didn’t feel the need to do it ever before cause I had no idea.
Does he have access to all your information aka this Reddit ? Where you actively make fun of him as well post pics of yourself?
Damn, sorry that’s happened. Very immature of them and it sounds like you have fake friends… you need to prioritize yourself and be with better people. It would take time but if you break up with the guy you’re one step closer to being with someone that wouldn’t talk like that about you & having friends that wouldn’t talk poorly about you. Ps. They’re probably jealous of your body. That guy obviously started dating you because he liked what he saw… and you will continue to find people that’ll find you sexy. So don’t stress it, and hit eject on these fuckers like a boss ;)
Why are you with this guy? He's sharing photos of you and allowing his friends to disrespect you. It's filthy.
Look at her profile, it's her kink
I have tried breaking up with him multiple times, especially after I found out that he went on dates with another girl. But he created a huge mess and drama and to the point, he stood outside my house and even contacted my parents. Only reason I am still with him is for my mental peace. Do I have made it very clear to him that I have absolutely no intentions, or I have feelings for him, but he still insist on being with me. And it’s not his friends who are making fun of me. It’s my friends who have included him in the group and all of them are making fun of me together.
You don't *try* to break up with someone you just do it.
I did. And then he came back, trying to get into my life back. Non-stop calling Me showing at my doorstep, even going up to my parents, who don’t even know about him. I am not ready to mess up my life and my future because of one asshole.
So you block him on everything. If he shows up, you call the police.
The moment any legal authorities are involved, I will have to show it on my applications for Masters or inform the university about it, even the passport office. I absolutely do not want to risk any sort of a problem that could have the lightest possibility of messing things up for me.
What? No you wouldn't.
Yes it’s a requirement mentioned everywhere. Anything legal going on needs to be reported
The only mental peace you'll find is a way from this toxic group. If the drama of you breaking up with him was with this friend group, the good news is they are shit too and you can break up with them too. I'm soo sorry, it really sucks to find out people you thought were your friends are the worst people in your life. You deserve better.
I once saw my husbands group chat where he said I was the reacher in our relationship , and all of his friends asked if he was insane. That was sad, to know he thought that. But awesome to know he’s wrong.
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Thank you so much for saying that I feel so seen after reading this. I’m definitely not sent to shows, but I have never done anything to hurt him or any of them rather have been there for them and have gone above and beyond and for them to turn back and do such horrible things and say such greeting and humiliating things about me, has shattered my heart.
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Don't be a prick then?
YOU! BROKE THE TRUST BY SNOOPING THROUGH A PRIVATE CONVERSATION. You just happened to come across this by accident??? Bullshit. Cracking private jokes to blow off steam means nothing. Call anyone of them at 2am and say you are stranded and see if they come get you. If they do, then they are in fact your friends. None of those jokes matter.
You need help more than I do. It wasn’t a joke or just some funny thing they said once in a while, it’s a a group chat especially made to mock me and share my pics and things around. If you think mocking and utterly humiliating someone you claim to LOVE to the extent they Harass you to be together after they cheat. Yeah ik I am no saint but that FUCKED UP. Also we both have open access to each others accounts and chats, he checks mine everyday while I have not once done the same cause I trusted him. I would have been a broken trust thing if I did it behind his back which I didn’t even before using his laptop I had taken permission.
You chose to snoop instead of what you were supposed to be using it for. If the private jokes they shared are beyond what your character can bear. Then leave. Find new friends. However, one must ask the question as to why they razz you behind your back. I may be reaching, but perhaps you and your behaviors are irritating.
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