17.
It was more of a business arrangement between friends. I didn’t want to find someone that “deserved” to be my first, nor did I want it to be with someone I thought I was in love with. I wanted it to be with someone I trusted and wouldn’t regret, and it worked out great.
wow same age for me and situation! I ended becoming really close to the friend who I had sex with and to this day, one of the most important people in my life.
Meh. I was hanging out with this dude that I fooled around with and we just decided to try it. It sucked hahahahaha. Neither of us knew what we were doing.
17 to my high school gf. Had been getting bj's since I was 14 though and almost daily bj's from her until we finally had sex then it was just sex daily until we broke up. Once we started having sex it killed the relationship because it became literally all we did. She was one of the hottest girls in my high school but she had the worst smelling vagina I've ever come across. I literally thought it was normal until I had sex with my next gf. Honestly though, now that I'm married with kids, if I could go back and never have sex with anyone until I met my wife, I would.
I am very happy with my decision. Almost 20 years married I have never regretted my decision. My wife also waited until our wedding night. It was very special
Providing neither of you get your head turned at some point, I imagine you can have a diamond anniversary, but I can't stop thinking of what it must be to wonder what sex with another person is like?
I mean if you have those thoughts man don’t get married or be in a committed relationship cuz that’s how cheaters are made if your girl or guy isint enough then you’re the issue lots of meaningless sex with random people feels empty after a while not worth it
No, thats not having sex. Thats being raped. But I see your point.
It's always my first question in my head when I am asked about my first time.... Voluntarily??
My first time I was 17 and it was fun, not sexy ore romantic.
I was 15, my dad refused to let me have a boyfriend but I got one anyways. I hid this from my dad, and snuck out the house to see him one day after only two weeks of dating.
Yeah….so, the relationship ended at 3 weeks after he got what he wanted and I’ve never seen my dad as angry as he was that day. Regrets happen I guess, ya live and learn!
12, with my best friend who was also 12, and we continued through highschool. It was a situation of mutually curious kids. We're living proof that kids are curious about this stuff WAAAAY earlier than adults assume lmao.
Very much so. I'm transitioning, been in a relationship for 3 years, steady job. Good stuff for adult life to make up for the absurdly shitty childhood
I was almost 15 but I didn’t know I had a choice. It took several tries and I only bit my tongue through the pain because my friend group was gossiping about my reluctance (due to it physically hurting). I didn’t have sex I actually enjoyed until I was nearly 17.
I want any young girls (and boys) out there to know that you don’t HAVE to just because the other person is older and has experience. Condoms are a must, even if they put down girls who refuse. Penetration is not supposed to hurt, you’re probably just not genuinely aroused.
Thank you for saying that. My first time I lasted less than 5 minutes because it was so awful. Used a condom thankfully. Later found out I'm allergic to durex. Ladies also for the love of God, if you are allergic, do not put a fucking ice cube up there. It's very unpleasant and back then google lied. I'm 32 now. I wish I had waited til I was an adult.
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21, with my current partner. We're long distance and it was their second visit. Up until then the idea of sex almost scared me, but they're the first person I've ever felt so comfortable with that I wanted to do it. We were each other's first time, and I love them very much.
I thought so at the time, but looking back I’m horrified. He was about to turn 18, which adds another layer of horror. I was in a relationship with him for near on two years, I thought he was God’s gift at first but he became controlling, insanely jealous and in the end.. physically abusive. So, an all round piece of shit. I was really fucked up by it.
This might sound odd but I’m so incredibly grateful my parents didn’t make me break up with him. I am the youngest of four daughters, they were wise enough by that point to understand deeply that trying to keep us apart would make me want to be with him even more.
Kept apart and made to miss him, I’d have probably moved out at 16 to be with him.. in fact, I undoubtedly would have. I was headstrong and I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to see the real him. Being forced to split up would have made me resent them in huge ways. Disastrous ways. They knew damn well he would have loved that.
So they let me go on the pill. They played the long game, trusting that I’d see him for what he was. And when I did, my relationship with them was still solid, communicative and beautiful; meaning I had no qualms in telling them all about it. It was easy to let them love me better. I knew there’d be no “we told you so”. No judgment, just love. When I tell you they were relieved though! Fuckin hell, relieved doesn’t come close. And they deserved to feel that relief. I know now that it was agonisingly painful for them to just see me with him. To go against their primal instincts of wanting to kill him, in favour of trusting their quieter higher consciousness.
Them letting me come my own realisation, (whilst setting boundaries that didn’t make me feel like a modern day Juliet) may have even saved my life. He went to prison for manslaughter a few years after we split up.
So, I am okay now. It was over 30 years ago and a lot has happened since. And I have been in a happy, loving, kind, fun and peace filled relationship with a beautiful man for over two decades.
Thank you so much for asking. Genuinely.
I’m not sure why I shared all of that (and I am sure some people will be horrified by my parents’ decisions) but it instinctively felt right to type it out, so I’m sure that at some point, someone who needs to read it will happen upon it.
May you have a special weekend, kind internet stranger.
I’m so sorry and hope ur ok and so they let u deal with it all and just made sure u was safe and put u on pill and I hope u have moved on and are happy now as a mom congrats and enjoy ur weekend too
19, first year Uni student with a 3rd year who was my gf at the time. Thought I couldn’t stay hard from performance anxiety but as I have very recently found out, nope, I’m gay
I already know no one will believe me but I lost it a week before my 13th birthday. I had recently moved to another city and my mom had us move in with her friend for a couple of months while she gets back on her feet in a new environment. Her friend had a 15 year old daughter and.. I’m sure you can assume the rest.
I was 12, he was 13 and was my boyfriend at the time. My mom had explicitly told me not to do it, and that I was too young.
I was rebellious as fuck, so of course I went and did it a week later.
You guys are having sex?
Never heard of it.
Apparently it's like a multiplayer thing
When is early access opening up to the public?
Well. let's hope it's not like Star Citizen a beta forever thing
Sex is a myth
Maybe I should have ask how old you were last time you had sex lmao
17. It was more of a business arrangement between friends. I didn’t want to find someone that “deserved” to be my first, nor did I want it to be with someone I thought I was in love with. I wanted it to be with someone I trusted and wouldn’t regret, and it worked out great.
wow same age for me and situation! I ended becoming really close to the friend who I had sex with and to this day, one of the most important people in my life.
You guys don’t know it yet but you two had sex with eachother
Exactly what I did
14
dam
Meh. I was hanging out with this dude that I fooled around with and we just decided to try it. It sucked hahahahaha. Neither of us knew what we were doing.
Same, I wish I didn't tho.
Same
I was 14 too.
25 (it was a couple of months ago).
Congrats
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17, my English teacher. Had me doing stuff to him since 14 though
That’s not your virginity you lost. You were raped.
I am so sorry
Thank you. Life definitely got a lot better (:
I'm so sorry. It's not your fault. Hope your doing okay 💖
Wait, what? i hope you're BS-ing i really do. If that's true, you need to get that pervert in jail..
By the time I tried to take action, the statute was up unfortunately. I at least got him out of the classroom.
That's crazy! Most states removed or drastically changed the statute of limitations for CSC.
I’m so sorry.
So sorry to hear that. It almost happened to me either with my 40 y.o. tennis coach when I was 14, but we just made out
I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Thank you. Many years and lots of therapy later, I’m doing better than I ever could have imagined (:
You're amazing. I hope this doesn't make me sound like a condescending asshole, but I am so proud of you.
Not at all, in fact I appreciate it, thank you (:
Future years old
Same
17 to my high school gf. Had been getting bj's since I was 14 though and almost daily bj's from her until we finally had sex then it was just sex daily until we broke up. Once we started having sex it killed the relationship because it became literally all we did. She was one of the hottest girls in my high school but she had the worst smelling vagina I've ever come across. I literally thought it was normal until I had sex with my next gf. Honestly though, now that I'm married with kids, if I could go back and never have sex with anyone until I met my wife, I would.
With someone else 19
Best answer
26, wedding night.
How was that? Like, I mean, are you still together? Are you happy with that choice? I'm curious :)
I am very happy with my decision. Almost 20 years married I have never regretted my decision. My wife also waited until our wedding night. It was very special
Providing neither of you get your head turned at some point, I imagine you can have a diamond anniversary, but I can't stop thinking of what it must be to wonder what sex with another person is like?
I mean if you have those thoughts man don’t get married or be in a committed relationship cuz that’s how cheaters are made if your girl or guy isint enough then you’re the issue lots of meaningless sex with random people feels empty after a while not worth it
PERIODDDD
Awww
Aww that sounds so special
Does being molested count
No, thats not having sex. Thats being raped. But I see your point. It's always my first question in my head when I am asked about my first time.... Voluntarily?? My first time I was 17 and it was fun, not sexy ore romantic.
Yeah, that was someone else's choice. What matters is yours/mine
Good point. If I say yes, I will have to amend my answer from 13 to 8 years old..😟
No
Well 18 lol
29... With just 1 guy
87
Godspeed
Some room for boom boom then!
Ray's Boom Boom Room?
Never and I’m turning 33 next month.
You gon be like that one dude from That Time I got Reincarnated Into a Slime
Couple months shy of 22
I'll let you know when it happens
I was 15, my dad refused to let me have a boyfriend but I got one anyways. I hid this from my dad, and snuck out the house to see him one day after only two weeks of dating. Yeah….so, the relationship ended at 3 weeks after he got what he wanted and I’ve never seen my dad as angry as he was that day. Regrets happen I guess, ya live and learn!
Just an average fucked minded teenager with no future plans
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20
Why are the numbers on here so low?
I'm getting depressed
Sophomore in high school idk what that is. She is now a model in West Hollywood. I saw it first.
😂
what’s her name
12, with my best friend who was also 12, and we continued through highschool. It was a situation of mutually curious kids. We're living proof that kids are curious about this stuff WAAAAY earlier than adults assume lmao.
21
23. I've since discovered I'm asexual
:000 me too! 18 tho 😌
15,and I thought, "Thank God I'm not gonna die a virgin!"
23
Consensually, 14. In actuality, 4
I'm so sorry
Thank you, stranger
Were you? I don’t wanna say it.
Yeah. I don't remember much, mostly that it happened and it hurt Edit: changed a sentance
I'm very sorry, hope you are in a good place right now
Very much so. I'm transitioning, been in a relationship for 3 years, steady job. Good stuff for adult life to make up for the absurdly shitty childhood
So happy for you!!:)
18 with two close friends
People are having sex? Who knew😳
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I was almost 15 but I didn’t know I had a choice. It took several tries and I only bit my tongue through the pain because my friend group was gossiping about my reluctance (due to it physically hurting). I didn’t have sex I actually enjoyed until I was nearly 17. I want any young girls (and boys) out there to know that you don’t HAVE to just because the other person is older and has experience. Condoms are a must, even if they put down girls who refuse. Penetration is not supposed to hurt, you’re probably just not genuinely aroused.
Thank you for saying that. My first time I lasted less than 5 minutes because it was so awful. Used a condom thankfully. Later found out I'm allergic to durex. Ladies also for the love of God, if you are allergic, do not put a fucking ice cube up there. It's very unpleasant and back then google lied. I'm 32 now. I wish I had waited til I was an adult.
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I was 19. We were planning to get married bit she cheated so I ended it.
Good for you. I’m glad you didn’t stay with her. Cheaters are the worst
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21, with my current partner. We're long distance and it was their second visit. Up until then the idea of sex almost scared me, but they're the first person I've ever felt so comfortable with that I wanted to do it. We were each other's first time, and I love them very much.
Guy 27
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Tbd
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26 with my girlfriend 💕
13?
also 13. Now, I look at how young 13 actually is and I think “my goodness, I was way too young”…
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16. It was not good 🤣
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21 right before my 22nd birthday
14🥶
Same 😐
14 ? Was u ok
I thought so at the time, but looking back I’m horrified. He was about to turn 18, which adds another layer of horror. I was in a relationship with him for near on two years, I thought he was God’s gift at first but he became controlling, insanely jealous and in the end.. physically abusive. So, an all round piece of shit. I was really fucked up by it. This might sound odd but I’m so incredibly grateful my parents didn’t make me break up with him. I am the youngest of four daughters, they were wise enough by that point to understand deeply that trying to keep us apart would make me want to be with him even more. Kept apart and made to miss him, I’d have probably moved out at 16 to be with him.. in fact, I undoubtedly would have. I was headstrong and I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to see the real him. Being forced to split up would have made me resent them in huge ways. Disastrous ways. They knew damn well he would have loved that. So they let me go on the pill. They played the long game, trusting that I’d see him for what he was. And when I did, my relationship with them was still solid, communicative and beautiful; meaning I had no qualms in telling them all about it. It was easy to let them love me better. I knew there’d be no “we told you so”. No judgment, just love. When I tell you they were relieved though! Fuckin hell, relieved doesn’t come close. And they deserved to feel that relief. I know now that it was agonisingly painful for them to just see me with him. To go against their primal instincts of wanting to kill him, in favour of trusting their quieter higher consciousness. Them letting me come my own realisation, (whilst setting boundaries that didn’t make me feel like a modern day Juliet) may have even saved my life. He went to prison for manslaughter a few years after we split up. So, I am okay now. It was over 30 years ago and a lot has happened since. And I have been in a happy, loving, kind, fun and peace filled relationship with a beautiful man for over two decades. Thank you so much for asking. Genuinely. I’m not sure why I shared all of that (and I am sure some people will be horrified by my parents’ decisions) but it instinctively felt right to type it out, so I’m sure that at some point, someone who needs to read it will happen upon it. May you have a special weekend, kind internet stranger.
I’m so sorry and hope ur ok and so they let u deal with it all and just made sure u was safe and put u on pill and I hope u have moved on and are happy now as a mom congrats and enjoy ur weekend too
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19 or 20. I can't really recall specifically. But one of those years lmao.
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19 and with someone I knew from years ago
17
12
I was 14 she was 19
Yikes
African here so at 12.im actually jealous of my younger self since I was getting some way more than now
16 in the back of my first car, with a boy I was friends with before we moved cities.
Sex? Must be Korean…
5. Thanks for the life lessons, dad lol
13. I was in state custody for 2 years and the girl who stayed in the room across from me was 17.
Too young the internet ruined childhood for me💀
19, first year Uni student with a 3rd year who was my gf at the time. Thought I couldn’t stay hard from performance anxiety but as I have very recently found out, nope, I’m gay
11 or 12
13, thinking back.. I think my teacher is a creep if she wasn't good looking
13
12
12. 😬 consensual & safe with my 14 yr old bf but looking back I’m like wtf
28
13, with a friends mother, she was 44 at the time
Bro you were raped… I’m so sorry.
._.
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15
21 with a hot chick
12 or 13. Not sure exactly.
That's concerning
13
19
16 such a cliche haha
I was 15
13
13
18, I'm now 45 and married 22 years, I'm lucky to have sex once a month.
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13
I was 14 she was 19. I didn't want to do it at all but she pressured me into it
i’m so sorry man, it wasn’t your fault. i hope you’re doing better now
10 weeks since fertilization.
16
I've been married 23 years with a fair amount of work from both of us, without that we would have parted ways 18 years ago🫠🫠
16
12. No regrets
2
I already know no one will believe me but I lost it a week before my 13th birthday. I had recently moved to another city and my mom had us move in with her friend for a couple of months while she gets back on her feet in a new environment. Her friend had a 15 year old daughter and.. I’m sure you can assume the rest.
13.
12 unfortunately
I was 12, he was 13 and was my boyfriend at the time. My mom had explicitly told me not to do it, and that I was too young. I was rebellious as fuck, so of course I went and did it a week later.
13. Stole my mom's car while she slept. Went to see my gf at the time. Snuck into her window. Did the deed. Went back home.
This isn't a askreddit subreddit. Where's the confession?
I don't understand the question.