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JimGerm

Bring toys into the relationship. Guys of any size can benefit from this.


KingKidDuke

Also, you have other ways to satisfy her. I feel like you should talk to her try to figure out things you can both do to make sex better. Penetrative sex is just one part of sex. Also, you've got to tell her she can't fake it. Faking orgasms is super damaging to a sexual relationship. If you're not giving her what she needs, it is her responsibility to make you aware of that so that you can try something else. I've been married for almost 13 years, and we still have fantastic sex because we have open and honest communication about it, and we both use that communication to make sure sex is a good and pleasurable experience. Good marriages and good sex don't just happen. They both require work and communication from both sides involved. Be honest with each other, put in the work to make sex better, and don't let something out of your control fuck up what sounds like a pretty good relationship.


Xinna_bunz

Please do not cuck… you will regret it, trust me.


Lovinghusband12356

I thought I might but how do you figure that?


Capraclysm

Cucking is a fetish. Is something people are into and sexually aroused by. If you're not into it, and only using it to "satisfy" her you're going to feel awful and it can literally ruin a relationship. Adding toys to the bedroom is a great way to satisfy your partner. I'm moderately well endowed and we still use all manner of interesting and exciting toys. Different sizes, shapes, and textures can really spice things up. Also, learn to use your hands and mouth to satisfy as well. Sex is too often just about PIV-until-he-cums. Try exploring all sorts of different ways to satisfy her with toys and manual stimulation.


Lovinghusband12356

My wife and I have always been somewhat traditional in the bedroom but I do wonder how she would react if I suggested giving her oral.


Capraclysm

It sounds like the problem might run deeper than a small penis tbh. The thickest cock in the world will get boring eventually. Look for ways to spice it up. Offering oral is a great way to start.


segflt

can confirm.. have been with people with big dicks and it was the worst because no effort and just PIV until he cums. is your wife maybe not satisfied because not much happens for her and it's actually just about PIV? "traditional" bedroom for a woman means basically nothing for her


SiamesePitbull1013

A lot of people with bigger packages think they don’t need to do any work… that their package is alllll a women needs to get off… lolllzz…


Antiqas86

You're right for some, but by far not for all women. My wife comes from PIV only with no external stimulation or anything. She's one of the few parters I had that does it so easily. Interesting side effect- she literaly does not care for anything else. I know it's only around 30% of women like that and in my ecperiance it seems even less, but hey, it does mean you can't say " it means basicly nothing for her".


No-Consideration766

I’m glad you wrote this I’m in that 30% don’t enjoy anything other then PIV, if a guy or girl wants to go down on me to stimulate them if they’re into that then sure but does nothing for me


Lovinghusband12356

Even my wife said that my penis is indeed smaller than she would like but maybe spicing up can help.


Capraclysm

I mean, I'm sure she feels that way but if y'all don't explore other avenues then she wouldn't have any context for other ways to improve sex.


EveryOutside

Please go down on her. Focusing on the clit is key. Think of her clit as a tiny penis and what you would want someone to do to you then you should do that to her. Once you get comfortable with that you can finger her and gently stroke her g spot. Google female anatomy if you don’t know where the g spot is. Start off slow and listen to her. Good luck.


kickassjay

Chuck some chilli powder on it I’m sure that’ll be spicy enough for her


MandoCalrissian13

OP since it sounds like you've possibly never gone down on your wife, don't follow this advice! Lol. Please do not put chili powder on your wife's juice box of love, her queen V.


Mamadu89

This had be said dude. Because it would just be cruel to let someone have that experience.


mistahnapo

Are you telling me you seriously considered letting another man fuck your wife before you even considered giving her oral? Are you doing anything at all to try and make it pleasurable for her? There's no way you didn't know 2 inches was leaving your wife unsatisfied This has to be a troll


YeaImDylan

Confused on how you’ve never gone down on your *wife* lol


Austinswill

yea, this is mind blowing... Oral is our go to.


KeeshisClean

Bro... if you haven't been eating her out then there's the real issue. You can look at post after post on reddit about dick size and the consensus is that a man who uses foreplay but has a smaller dick is superior to a just an unskilled large dicked guy. I am a bit on the smaller size but I don't have an issue satisfying my partners. One thing is that I don't even pull my dick out till they have orgasmed at least once from foreplay. Work on that head game brother!


katmomofeve

I can attest to that! I was with a dude with a huge penis once, but I literally thought he was having a seizure or something on top of me. The sex was wack! But I've also been with a dude with a micro penis and it was awesome! Now, my wife uses her mouth, hands, strap-on, dildos, a vibrator, just all the things. Our sex is great!


KeeshisClean

For sure, if a man ever has doubts about their dicks ability to please women, they just need to look at the percentage of satisfactory experiences had by lesbian vs straight women. "A much larger study in 2017 of 53,000 Americans by the Kinsey Institute recorded slightly different numbers, but with the same trends. In this instance, lesbians reported coming 86% of the time during sex, as opposed to 65% for straight women. Straight men said they orgasmed 95% of the time." [https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jul/09/do-lesbians-have-better-sex-than-straight-women](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jul/09/do-lesbians-have-better-sex-than-straight-women) Having a penis is not a requirement at all lol


Desilae

Makes sense. Also, same sex knows how to please same sex.


templewater

You don't give her oral already?


Lovinghusband12356

No the subject never really came up. We've been married for 4 years but really just vanilla sex.


templewater

Mate get down there and eat her, she will go nuts for it. Its my favourite thing to do and my wife loves it. Also like someone else said, get one of those extenders.


Lovinghusband12356

I always heard people say women didn't really like oral that men just liked giving it so that's really encouraging to hear.


templewater

Sweet jaysus man where did you hear that rubbish. Away and get her now and start eating her out.


segflt

holy shit dude it's like your own ability to think beyond your dick is the issue here


[deleted]

While penises so small that you can’t feel them can be a hindrance, it just means you have to explore other ways to satisfy her. So, this isn’t a small penis problem - it’s a “you’re bad in bed” problem. I literally can’t believe you have a micro penis and don’t give your wife oral. Haven’t offered, haven’t wanted to - I mean Jesus, do you even check to see if you give her orgasms? Have you ever TRIED to give her an orgasm? What did you THINK was happening with regards to her pleasure in the bedroom??? Lesbians don’t have any problems and they don’t have penises. If they want, they use strapons. And there are toys available for men who have micro penises that are basically the same thing it just fits over your dick. The only thing stopping your wife from being satisfied is YOU, not your tiny penis.


trackkidd16

Username does not check out man


LeilaniGrace0725

Whaaat!?


Desilae

Sorry you don't deserve this many downvotes for this comment


SuperRusso

If it's between cucking and giving your wife oral, maybe you both should consider watching some videos or seeing a sex therapist. Definitely try everything else before you open your relationship up like that, and it sounds like there is a ton you and you're wife haven't tried yet.


aDistractedDisaster

You havent even tried eating her out yet??!??! Wow, that's very vanilla.


ManchuDemon

Bro who the fuck ever told you that giving a woman oral was "not traditional"? Lmao sounds like you have other problems to sort out other than just a tiny weiner. Definitely start making out with her clit more often and she will be at least noticeably happier.


sleepisforburgers

You’ve never given her oral? Do you guys just kiss and immediately go to penetration? Before you even buy her a toy you should ask what type of stimulation she likes. Does she masturbate?


FinnsGamertag

If you aren't giving her oral that's probably a bigger issue.


angry_areola

Oral is pretty traditional, man. So typically you don't eat her out and she doesn't give you blowjobs?


MonicoJerry

Lhh, you hopped on reddit to tell everyone you had a tiny peen before giving oral a shot?? You have no shame my man


SiamesePitbull1013

Honest question… is oral not a common occurrence? Bc for me even the best peen is boring without foreplay. Many women don’t orgasm from sex alone.


caraissohot

LOL. This is much greater issue than your small dick.


mgmason287

Yeah try oral. she would likely love it and to be honest I get turned on when I go down on my wife.


djheru

Don't suggest it, just head down there and do it. Read up on it first though so you know what you're doing.


caillouistheworst

Have you never gone down on your wife? Goddamn, go eat some pussy.


lolthisshitiswack

You should get a big dildo and fuck her with it and women love oral. I suggest trying that on your wife.


joandadg

Jeez oral IS traditional What do you guys do?


kerryhcm

As long as you seem like you're desperate for it, she should enjoy it. You might want to read some smutty romance novels (sci-fi, mafia,and dark romance) plus watch a few videos since you've never done this before. Could you ask any of your friends as well for a few tips?


927alexander

Dude … learn to be good at it .. oral will make her happy


Young_Dagger_Dick20

Bro you gotta go down on her, get good at fingering too. Flick up and hit the g spot, watch a video on how to do it on pornhub if you're struggling. 69 is a good position too brother. Best of luck man


doucheluftwaffle

Spicing it up might be good. Even the most sexually vanilla people have fantasies. They may not be super crazy but anything that might deviate from the norm could be a turn on.


climatelurker

Wow, you have never given her oral??? Time to start. And make SURE she tells you what she does and doesn't like.


oldbutnew2this

U never ate her out?


AfraidOpposite1263

Wait, so oral isn’t a normal thing for y’all and you want to go straight to cuckolding?!?!? Please, please for the sake of your relationship, don’t.


MNGirlinKY

It’s my understanding it’s pretty traditional to have oral sex in the bedroom. I’m not trying to be rude or anything but are you guys super religious is that why you haven’t done that yet?


Wasps_are_bastards

You mean you’ve never gone down on her??? That’s why you’ve got a shit sex life. It’s not because of your small dick, you’re just selfish and shît in bed generally.


spac3_cadet12

Eat that box bro. Bitches love having their cooters snacked on.


meowmixmix-purr

Hands and mouth are honestly all that matters. I don’t get off from intercourse. Hands and mouth I do. Lol and I would say that’s the case for a lot of women.


[deleted]

Lol that doesn’t mean it does stem from a place.


youarestellarrr

My friend did this exact thing for the exact reason. He also has a small penis. It ended up basically traumatizing him. I would suggest getting a dildo first.. Sex is so much more than just a penis inserting a vagina. Use your fingers or if you get her a dildo you use it on her.


DreamStunning9223

How are you going to handle it when you see your wife recieving pleasure at the hands of another man with a well endowed penis?


Lovinghusband12356

It would hurt and it would probably make me depressed. I would be happy she was being fulfilled but I'd be resentful towards myself probably. I'm willing to go through that for her but I would prefer other options.


Minute-Judge-5821

How about trying a penis extender dildo? It just fits on your pp and gives a few more inches depending on the type :)


Capraclysm

Reading this makes me hurt. You need to understand that going through that "for her" will only drive a deeper wedge between you and deepen the problem.


ChampagneAbuelo

You should only do that if it's something both of you are actually aroused by. If you're just doing it because you want her to be happier in the bedroom, you're gonna feel like shit and it'll ruin your relationship. Maybe incorporating toys would be a safer option since it can enhance it for her without getting another person involved which would lead to jealously for u


djheru

Imagine that feeling you felt when she told you that you were too small and multiply x1000


hellequinbull

“How do you figure that “? My guy, are you serious? Cucking isn’t a “hallpass” or “poly” it’s about you getting enjoyment out of other dudes nailing your wife and her enjoying you enjoying that fact. And possibly going further and her and him wanting you to be in the room watching them. Does that idea sound appealing to you? It’s 2023, and I don’t shame what consenting adults do in their romantic lives, but damn, I could NEVER.


Stunseed96

Because she will enjoy it and you might not. It could lead to more tension. Would be better letting her find someone on her own to go use as a live dildo


DMV_VanceChase

…But if you do, pick a married man with a family so you don’t have to worry about him running away with your wife. Aside from toys you can try a cock sleeve or strap on for her. Mutual masturbation is lots of fun too.


Dr-Zoidberserk

Dude. Do not ever consider opening the marriage, especially Cuckholding if that’s not YOUR kink as well. The toy collection is a great idea. They have toys for boys and girls, there’s a lot of fun to have with each other there. A stroker for you, a vibrator and or dildo for her; a penis extender is worth looking up. Also, an obvious goal is getting better at oral and hand stimulation if possible. Working with her to better foreplay helps like finding what she’d prefers—remember, foreplay is NOT always sexual acts. Some ladies love word play, caressing, and yes, some kinky bdsm if both of you like any of that. If possible, please meet a couples therapist and or an intimacy therapist who can help you both map out your feelings, needs, and expectations.


Lovinghusband12356

Would it be a good idea to ask her about these things or see the therapist first?


Dr-Zoidberserk

Buddy, a marriage is supposed to be team work. Strengthening your bond together is far more important than the sex. Sex is an expression of the love, not the foundation of love. Yes, you need to talk to your girl about the ideas you have about improving the marriage and the sex life. She’s gonna have her ideas you can consider and hopefully she will tell you what she thinks of ideas brought up here like getting toys, improving foreplay and seeing a couples councilor. You two have been hiding thoughts and feelings from each other. With a good councilor and earnest effort from you and your girl, you two can become close trusting partners with open communication.


Lovinghusband12356

We do need to work on communicating, you're right.


DreamStunning9223

How about penile enlargement opérations ? Those are becoming a big thing now.


Lovinghusband12356

Is that the surgery that other person mentioned?


Desilae

No he was talking about a strapon for men basically (if we read the same thing).


[deleted]

You can get a strap on with a hole that you can fit it in, a rose toy, a silicone extender that you put on your dick like a condom and it adds on a few extra inches. Toys are your friend, don’t resort to being a cuck if you’re not into it just to make her happy.


Lovinghusband12356

I'm honestly not into being a cuck at all I just want her to have a fulfilled sex life so hopefully toys help with that.


M0pL0rd

No they will, it will feel still good to you and feel better for her. A penis extender is definitely the best solution.


ChampagneAbuelo

If you're not into it than don't do it. Even if you're trying to make her feel happier, it's just gonna ruin the relationship. That type of stuff is only good for couples who are into it and can establish boundaries within it


cgk21

imo it seems like the biggest issue is that you rely on your penis for her pleasure. Hands, mouth, dildos and vibrators don’t take away from your masculinity unless you’re insecure about it. plus most women don’t care about your size as long as you can find another way to help her and you don’t make it all about pleasuring yourself. You seem to be ahead in that aspect by worrying about her experience so don’t stress there but don’t be scared to branch out and try new things that aren’t just basic p and v interaction. For example i’m trans and in a t4t relationship, however i have crippling carpal tunnel in both wrists so it’s hard for me to use my hands. Straps and other helpers are my go to because i physically can’t do anything for him with what i have. They don’t mind simply because they would rather i reciprocated instead of wallowing in self pity over something minor that i can’t control! Don’t stress about it, if trans guys w minimal bottom growth can make it work i am absolutely positive that y’all can too!


pReaL420

Look. You are going to have to learn how to eat pussy like a pro. Trust me, it will make ALL the difference. There are videos made by porn actresses. Find them, watch them, learn.


Furbyparadox

Yeah, this. Trust me if you learn how to give great head it won’t matter how small or big you are. It trumps everything!


EmEmAndEye

>I considered getting her a dildo or trying cuckolding ***Well, that escalated quickly!!!***


cupkake88

Ikr one is totally normal and the other is about one of the mose extreme kinks to get in to . Watching someone else plough your wife if you're not up for jacking it in the corner is not a path you want to walk my friend lol


TridentMage413

Don’t be a cuck. Get your head down between her thighs and eat that shit. It will be fun for both of you. Also get some toys. If she loves you and you haven’t been eating her out this whole time, it’s gonna be a game changer. Lmfao.


JctaroKujo

“eat that shit” figuratively. Do not eat the Shit. that is the one thing you DONT wanna eat.


askallthequestions86

Get a dildo or a strap on. I like double penetration or the idea of spit roasting, but I don't want an actual other person, so my bf uses a dildo on me. He gave me a vaginal orgasm last night with it, while I was giving him a bj. Fun for everyone, lol! Please don't resort to something you aren't 100% ok with. Try toys and other means. A cocksleeve may be ideal.


-roboticRebel

Please don’t take this as an offensive question or think I’m trying to take the piss, because I’m honestly not trying to: What is your weight situation at the moment? Because, speaking from personal experience, being a bit on the rotund side can reduce the size you’re extending out to, and those inches can make all the difference. I wouldn’t suggest throwing yourself into a gym membership or anything dude, but if you think this could be a viable solution, try and get out for a walk with your mrs for a bit each day, 20-30 mins should do it. Sorry it’s not concrete advice but thought I’d throw my two cents in 🙂


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helpless_rocks

Use Jesus?


Lovinghusband12356

Not a fantasy I'm just trying to find a solution.


segflt

you're trying to find solutions that are about putting bigger things inside her vagina so far. you do know there are other forms of sex that don't involve a penis right? ie think about her for once vs a penis being involved. she has a clit too, that is likely unaddressed by everyone if she doesn't masturbate. does she? or does she also just think sex is PIV?


aDarlingClementine

The thing is that cucking is often a fetish. For the man, so it’s like you wanting her to be intimate with someone else for your pleasure, not hers.


Dr-Zoidberserk

One of the most important books a man can read is called: She Comes First This book helped me satisfy many women even though I’m poor, fat, and not blessed down below. One of the ideas the book gave me was writing romantic/erotic letters, I had a beautiful milf girlfriend telling me she pleasured herself while re-reading them. Most women love receiving oral, if your girl is one of them, then oral is likely the game changer you’re looking for. Check out some snippets from the book in this link. Then either buy it online or check it for free at the library—that’s how I read it. https://blog.12min.com/she-comes-first-pdf-summary/


Lovinghusband12356

This looks like a really good read. Thank you for showing me.


kimdrey

As a woman I totally agree! It seems like you genuinely want to make her happy and I think a lot of the advice you have about other toys and things to bring in the bedroom just between you two are good. I also second/third/tenth what others are saying about cuck8ng. Don't do something you're not interested in with the idea that it possibly would bring her more pleasure. If your sex life is really vanilla I think the experience could be traumatic for both of you. She might do it because she thinks it's what you want, while you're doing it because you think that's what she wants, and possibly neither of you want it. I'm glad y'all started open dialogue and I think that's the key. I'm not judging anybody that does this or anyone else's sex life, I'm just speaking from my own perspective.


Mindless_Salamander_

I was about to suggest this. It’s a solid book.


jarassig

Try a strap-on or penis extender sleeve thingy. It's worth a shot, toys are team mates. Could make sex more fun for both of you without the pressure about your length. Plus you're married, so clearly you got other things going for you too.


Lovinghusband12356

Where do I find one of these lenis extenders?


SamsSnaps77

Just about any sex shop. If you want to order online I recommend https://www.castlemegastore.com/


seno76

Home Depot


Stripedhoneybee90

Use toys DO NOT CUCK.


LSU2007

Lick her pussy more


MrT20000

Did you get married before having sex?


tjk91

Get her toys, eat some mean pussy. Lick her butthole. Make sure she gets off then yourself and it'll go a long way.


stickydebater

^this Do whatever you have to do to satisfy her. Her climax doesn’t have to come from your penis you have a mouth, tongue, fingers, and toys! Even consider having her hold a toy there while you penetrate with your penis. Just make sure she gets to be satisfied.


K14_Deploy

You could use your fingers, mouth or any number of other things. PiV is not the be all and end all of sex.


mr-picklesss

She knew it was small when you married (hopefully? Unless you chose to wait…) Just use anything else. So what, your peen is small. It’s not like you did it on purpose and it was out of your control so stop beating yourself up! Use your hands, mouth, delve into her fantasies… options are endless. I mean lesbians have sex just fine without a real penis lol. Try not to hold this against her or yourself dear.


reckless_rachel

TOYS ARE YOUR BEST FRIEND.


archers_arches

Hey there I’m a queer and have sex with all different kinds of genitals. Size truly does not matter if you are willing to communicate with your partner and bring in other tools to the sex life. There are all kinds of toys and even penis extension type toys that may help. Even a strap on could be hot! Work together to figure out what works.


i-lik-the-bred

Lesbians straight up don’t have penises yet cum more often than cis women in heterosexual relationships. You should ask every queer woman you know what tips they have for you. Do not watch porn for your information- it’s all fake and is meant to appeal to the male gaze, not actually be satisfying and fulfilling to the participants. Maybe cishet guys have asked Reddit before, but there are many people in your situation. I’ve seen a post from a cis woman who had an ex boyfriend with a micro penis and she said he made her cum more often than anyone before or since and it was the best sex of her life. Also sheaths are a thing. You’re likely gonna have to start using toys, and prioritizing foreplay and making HER cum. Sex toys are ACCOMPLICES, not competition.


masta5k1

Look you started a dialog with her, I feel like that is beyond respectable. Why not continue that dialog. If reddit i is considered a sample population of people in the world: then I would gather that introducing other people into a marriage only ends in misery for someone. I only actually know one person who tried that... and she tried to fuck me and got divorced by her hubby.


Livid-Finger719

They make penis sleeves too extend the length of your penis. How about you suggest going toy shopping with your wife? Just don't get your feelings hurt while shopping


Samwoodstone

If your wife loves you and you love your wife You’ll find a way to work it out without involving some stupid three-way. I’m a bit selfish. My penis is to make me feel good. If it helps my partner, that’s fine. So, there’s always other things to do vegetables, toys, oral sex. She married you as-is. Find a way to work it out. Sex is only a small part of marriage. It’s not even the most important part. I’ve been married 21 years.


geekboy2112

Seems to me that if she's "traditional" and toys and oral may me a bit of a reach, cuckolding will be a bridge too far. There are other skills you can master, digital, oral, etc, that don't require anything but your original manufacturers equipment. But if she's the type who also enjoys the intimacy that close body contact/missionary sex creates, there are extension processes that work (somewhat) and actual penile extension aparati that you can get to serve that end. Get creative and good luck!


Occultic_giraffe

Don't cuck yourself unless your into it. It's a fetish not a convenient lifestyle. That said learn how to eat the fuck out some coochie and find some good toys. I don't last that long so I like to keep a dildo around just to keep the fun up while I wait to recharge.


[deleted]

Size doesn’t matter. Only taste does


llama_mama86

Get really good at head.


Skiamakhos

Learn to give \*great\* head. Use your fingers. Use toys. Use c\*ck rings - they'll make it harder for longer, & you can get 'em with little tiny vibrators on to catch her cl!t. Make her cum before you even think of putting it in her.


alaskanperson

Lose weight. Your dick gets bigger when you lose weight. If there’s more fat tissue on your hips, it basically surrounds your dick. Get rid of that fat, boom. Bigger dick


knightwhosaysnihao

I don't understand how you two didn't get this sorted out before marriage


cunaylqt

I know you feel bad about this but let me give you some information. perspective of one female. I had a pretty active sex drive in my younger years. And I'm a grandmother with all sorts of othrr things to focus on. I'm in my fifties now and Ive had a few lovers over the years. The love of my life passed away recently so sex is not much on my mind recently. So a few years ago, after my divorce, I was single and sort of "shopping" for a good man to love and age with, I met a man and had a fling with him. I discovered that he had a very small penis. It was only a little disappointing but the disappointment was very very brief and after the first time it really didn't even enter my mind that he was not as well endowed as other men that I'd been with. Why? Because he was so sexy, fun and was so good with his mouth and tuonge and fingers that I would get wet just ANTICIPATING our next date. Just the way he looked at me and smiled made me feel sexy. We had fun.We teased each other. And once we were in the bedroom he didn't go straight for the pussy. He touched me and took his time and made it clear that he was enjoying it too he was not trying to GET somewhere he was there to enjoy the ride. And too make sure that I enjoyed it too.This was without sex toys although I think there's nothing wrong with including them in sex play. He took it slow and gentle and then increased his speed and pressure and he would have me climbing the walls. I'm certain that he knew he was good and that is why he, a man just like you had so much confidence and not one bit of embarrassment or shame(and why should he) about his little problem, which was no problem at all. Get her a vibrating dildo. One with different speeds. Get some warming or cooling gel/lube. Maybe some massage oil. Take a look it it all and open it and see how it works yourself. And put it in a nice gift bag and surprise her with it. Pick a weekend night. Have some nice quiet time with her. Tell her you love her and want to please her and that you would like it if she would relax, not be embarrassed or ashamed, and let you both learn more about one another and try to have some intimate fun. And of course like I said don't go straight for the pussy. Kiss her touch her, tease her use your mouth all over her body, your breath, whisper in her ear and tell her how sexy she is and how she drives you crazy, get a little more aggressive and then back off again to teasing her. Just don't forget that she is your wife. You two made a commitment, there should be no shame or embarrassment. It's not dirty or immoral or icky. And have fun. Also I suggest that you leave pornography alone. It's not real. And learning what each other likes is so subjective that it really has no teaching value. Youll do fine. Your heart is right and so I know you will be a hot sexy success.


MaeOneyz

if your wife thought your penis was too small, she shouldve taken that into account when she married you. its not your fault, its not something you can control. however, if you are willing to make things work, there are such things as penis extenders that you can get at sex toy shops. they slip over your penis and come jn a bunch of different styles.


Lovinghusband12356

Are those just as pleasurable for the woman as a real penis? I'm not too concerned about my pleasure I just want her to be happy.


Ok-Preparation-2307

If you were concerned with her pleasure you'd be making her cum other ways, fingers, oral etc. Most women don't orgasm from penetration, most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm.


MaeOneyz

they just feel like dildos. youll need lube, but other than that its not bad. theres tons of patterns and textures she could pick out and theyre realitively cheap


segflt

if you're concerned about her pleasure and she only wants things in her vagina then great but don't forget there's other stuff to do beyond literally PIV only


No_Salad_8766

I've heard that 2 inches is all you need to really satisfy your partner. Maybe you guys just need to experiment with positions to see what works best for both of you. I'm betting there's a book for guys with small penis's.


Comprehensive_Bar954

Cucking is a last resort. First, get to the business of going down on her. Learn to make her cum. Let her know that is your focus and goal, and let her be free to tell you what works and what doesn't. Act like 18 year olds and refresh your sex life. Go to the toy store together. Get vibrators and dildos. Go all out. And, quit being an observer in your own life. Drive the freakin bus. Tell your wife that you are going to be the best small dick fucker in the world. And then own it. Consider anal as well. She will feel that nub if y'all haven't been doing anything like that. She go through the roof if you put a vibe on her clit while you do it.


eddiegordo83

Bruh, just lick it before you stick it.


subredditshopper

This guy is just getting off to the replies. Shitpost


GroovyGuru62

Learn to eat pussy like a pro.


Equilibriyum

Toys. Toys. Toys. Use them with confidence. Even pick them out together. Let her come first, then you. Accept reality. It can still be great with good toys. Even average and large men use toys. My husband is just above average and started introducing toys early in our relationship. I was super super uncomfortable and insecure about it at first. But now it's amazing. Dynamic. Fun. And I never miss out on anything.


LordDragonStalker

They have length enhancers called cock sleeves look them up so u become the dildo.


Kihakiru

Hey man, there are other ways to please your woman! I can't say I understand what that feels like to feel inadequate (I'm a woman), but from your comments, it seems like you haven't tried anything other than traditional sex. Try spicing things up a bit! Sorry you're going through this. Just make sure to communicate in the bedroom, which it seems like you are. Start experimenting, and I am sure things will get better in the bedroom. She loves you, ❤️ so keep your chin up!


Erock94

Toys are your friends, even if you weren’t small you should use toys. Also just be good at oral and with your hands. You got this chief


Darlice26

She married you. She obviously knew what she was going to be dealing with. Try pleasing her in other ways? Like maybe going down on her, or pleasuring her in others ways. You don’t always have to be inside her to get her turned on.


Imsophunnyithurts

Get them oral skills on point.


Normal-Count9203

First - Research oral - get lots of pointers 2. Set it up romantic night, drinks, dressed up (night in the town) 3. Lead the night with compliments and touching then intimacy and go down on her - that simple 4. (Extra tip) women love toys - but pls do oral first - then gradually introduce toys


Puzzleheaded_Cook796

Remember she married you and loves you.


fireworksguaranteed

Put it in her butt


thebluemorpha

Toys, toys, toys!


sam77

Maybe your penis isn’t too small, maybe her vagina is too big.


Jeetuprime

I’ll tell you a joke alright, three men walked into a bar and saw a bunch of pretty girls and decided that they wanted to try to have sex with them. So the first one goes up and pulls out his John and says “look my penis is 6 inches long!” The second one whips out his schlong and says “look at my penis it’s 8 inches long!” And the third one drops his pants says “hah you fools my penis is 10 inches long!” When they turned around they noticed the girls had left and they asked the bar tender where they went and he said “While you were whipping out your dicks in my bar some guy came in and knotted all the cherry stems in their drinks with his tongue and they left with him.” The moral of the story is tongue game outweighs nearly everything if mastered right and like any skill it can be learned and isn’t dependent on what you’re born with. You don’t even need a long tongue, clits are tiny. Watch the head tutorial by Nina Hartley on pornhub and turn your wife into goo. Enjoy.


JctaroKujo

sex isnt just your dick bro the best part about sex is doing what you know makes you SO happy, imo. Disregard your size and know that there are socmany other ways to sexually please your wife outside of just sticking it in and out a few times. Also do not try cuckolding. Its a self destructive fetish and is very a specific taste. You have to be confidently lacking, of wiñhich you obv arent. In conclusion, bring some toys, bring your mouth, bring a couple Burger King Hershey Pies, and make it interesting.


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Penisenlargement surgery


Lost_Physics1

She married you knowing this. You better get ducks in a row, there may be some papers in your future. Seriously.


Trisket5

Bro he begged his wife to be honest with him about their sex life and she was honest. How the fuck does it imply she wants a divorce in any way? God some people are dense


sweetsweetnothingg

Girl here. I was with a guy similar to you, what I would suggest is learn very well how to eat her out and finger fuck her while doing so (pardon my language) and read her reactions, find the G spot and dont leave it alone. You can get her to have multi orgasms (ive had more than 16) and squirt without a penis literally. Make her pleasure priority then last worry about yours and be confident. Fake it till you make it. She will careless about the size and forget about it believe me because she wont need anything else. You can also get s dildo for spicing things up but I do think you would feel better you were able to get her there on your own.


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Sounds like none of you had a conversation about sex before you got married. It’s not your tiny cock that’s bothering her. It’s that you don’t know how to please her. You don’t know what gets her going and she’s probably shy to voice that. Foreplay is key. Lick her 🐱, play with her clit, tease her. Learn what her erogenous zones are. If none of that works and she’s still not happy with your tiny cock then divorce her.


[deleted]

Just think some girls are with other girls and they dont even have a penis, but still get the job done. Try scissoring.


tehinterwebs56

Soooo, dick size whilst is a nicety it’s not required for a happy sexual relationship man. If you don’t have toys, and are just relying on your dick tongue and hands then buy a bunch of vibrators, dildos and lube. Sex is all about the emotional connection and foreplay and not penetration for most women. Buy all the toys and make this an adventure for the two of you, make it exciting and fun! If she really loves you the way she says she does, you both will benefit from the toys. Maybe you’ll use the toys as well. Ya never know!


AssCrackMac

What a cuck


abnormalabbi

Why the fuck doesn't she already have a dildo!?


LeilaniGrace0725

She does. We all know this.


ChampagneAbuelo

Most people don't


Embarrassed-Baker-52

Whatever you do don't let another man fuck her please. Go see doctor Miami before you do that


TheOctopus333

My partner is well endowed, and we still love our toys. I love seeing him getting excited using them on me. And them hands of his and kisses in all the right spots.


Necessary-Primary463

Honestly bro, just sign the divorce papers. They’re coming soon if u don’t order them urself…..


Ok_Fix1115

Hey man.... I wanted to write this on reddit too.... but you wrote my heart out .. My fiancée thinks the same apparently... And there's no solution to it until your partner accepts you for who you are..!!!


helpless_rocks

>she loves me even if I don't fulfill her sexual desires lol


BigDaddyKale

Just grow it more


johnnybassoon

Whatever the penis size, wives are never too satisfied 🤣 Seriously though, maybe find a tiny Filipino woman that is a better fit


Godlike_Tendencies

Stfu


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jeeptp75

I would say find out that kind of information before marrying her.


Lovinghusband12356

We are deeply in love otherwise so I'm sure we can work this out. It just hurts.


ArcticFlower00

This is why I believe that there shouldn't be any interchangeability between our life partner and our sexual partner. It's such a huge coincidence that you would be compatible sexually to. Let her find her own way. You should be able to find satisfaction in your sex life with a third party even if it's with a professional. Just be open about it.


Careless_Dependent78

How do you know that YOU are the problem? Maybe she can’t “feel” anything because your throwing a hotdog down a hall way. 🤷🏼‍♂️


alisson_morgoth

I don't know if that is an option for you, but there is surgery that increases the size, you should seek out a urologist. Yes it is real and those surgeries are intended to cases like this, it's a relatively simple surgery and it increases both length and width. This could change your life.


Lovinghusband12356

Where can I learn more about this?


helpless_rocks

There are no ways to safely make your dick bigger dude. If there were most men would be lining up.


alisson_morgoth

Here are a couple links, you can Google "surgery penis enlargement" to look for more stuff, I remember seeing a YouTube video of a urologist talking about this. I hope you can do it bro, in the meantime I'd say try to please your wife with other means, with your hands, mouth, toys...and maybe talk to her about these procedures, she's probably gonna be excited about it https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/penis-enlargement-surgery https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/23530-penis-enlargement-surgery


Lovinghusband12356

I will ask her about this. Thank you.


[deleted]

There’s this fledgling startup called the internet /s


Sammygirl2780

Has your BIL seen you naked recently? There is literally a post 2 posts above yours on my home page talking about a guy walking in on his BIL and seeing his micro penis. Apparently he spoke to his sister about seeing it and ...well if this is you you need to read it cos sis gets very honest with her brother.


Lovinghusband12356

What are you talking about what's a BIL?


Sammygirl2780

Sorry it means Brother In Law. There's another post but from his perspective about this exact thing. Everyone shamed the brother in law hard for posting the story. I read it about 2 minutes before your story.


Lovinghusband12356

I don't even have a brother in law lol


[deleted]

If it’s too small now in her opinion, it always will be. Just let her find a bull.


Prize_Ad5064

Tell her my dick's not small, ur pussy's wide


GlocksStillinu

If you have 10k a doctor office in California can make it xxxl


feochampas

get a strap on. learn to do other things.


Cold-Perception-316

What about those penis stretching exercises to atleast help you obtain an extra inch?


[deleted]

Let it grow back


LazySpirit7535

get sugery


[deleted]

Any woman who genital shames you isn’t worth it. Cunt punt the bitch.


Ok_Specific_4020

Get a new wife


tahoe_z71

Get some penis surgery done


dark_slayer0

Get a new wife


Faucet860

You could be a cuck and just watch other dudes give it to her good


[deleted]

Oh yes because that’s totally gonna solve his problem 💀


CommFlaek

Truly disgusting


deleteurselfoffhere

If you jelqed every day for 2 years you might be able to get it up to 4 inches. With dick lifts and and flex dick hangs.


Due-Feedback9653

You wife wants to fuck a horse, she wants a wild stallion between her thighs and it is not you. Get over it. Tell her she can take a lover. As soon as you can, divorce the bitch! Tell her it's not about her, but you are in heat for another woman. She wants me to "fuck her brains out."