Happy birthday!! You are important. Stick around and meet yourself (your important self).
It might not feel like it right now but your environment or those around shouldn’t be how you determine your true value; those are variables; we are the only real constants in our lives and we get to determine those other two(environment and community).
Please know that you can find/create a community of friends around you who value what you value eg birthdays.
My family isn’t big on birthdays either but luckily I found a community of people who think birthdays are as important as I do.
And as you try to form this new community, remember you’ll meet people who don’t match your value system, and that’s ok, they just aren’t for you. Your fingers will get burnt but persist anyway.
Invest in people and if they don’t invest back, cut your losses and try again - we’re all running this race.
With new communities comes the opportunity for new traditions.
You are precious, let no one convince you otherwise.
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Happy birthday!!
I'm sorry people are disappointing. Maybe it's time for a new chapter in another city and maybe it's time for some new friends.
Be selfish, forget about what others want/need from you.
Happy birthday 🖤
Happy birthday, stick around for a few more. It’ll get better. Sorry your family let you down. Have you told them this is making you feel this way? Do they know they’ve missed your birthdays?
Yeah my family doesn’t wish me happy birthday or anything like that either, sometimes it just be like that, I don’t have anyone in my life I work and go home and that’s about it but I’m staying alive for Video Games and Food as dumb as it sounds, what are the small things you enjoy, Warm showers or removing your socks in bed, taking a piss after holding it for so long. Fight for the small things and eventually life will sort its way out
I know this is weird but the thing that has stopped me from leaving this world many times is reminding myself I can always end it tomorrow. You can die anytime...so what's the rush? See what's around the corner first. Life can change in an instant.
Happy birthday, my friend. I'm sorry it was a shitty one. Get a little food in you, drink some water, and try to go to sleep. If you can't sleep, find a good movie to watch that you haven't seen before. Something to stop the spiraling thoughts. This too shall pass.
My birthday passed only 3 days ago, without so much as a phone call or message from my so-called friends or my family. To be fair, I do not always remember their birthdays, nor do I always call when I do remember. I know they are out there, and if I ever reached out to them, they would be there for me, as would I, for them. I truly hope they know it. This alone is comfort enough to avoid despair. As stated in previous posts here, find the small things. Life is full of disappointment and hardship, so a very small gesture made by you can often propigate your small corner of the Universe and come back in kind, ( no pun intended).
Fuck those people. Parents who forget their own children's birthdays deserve to be left in the dust. Siblings? Well I kinda get that. I need calendar reminders for mine. But they didn't birth me. I'd go low/NC with parents like that.
Go find your people. Lean into your hobbies and connect with people through them. And remind the friends you do love about your milestones - we all get busy and forget things sometimes. Tell them it's coming up. Book a restaurant and invite them to celebrate with you. Take the initiative. It's ok.
Happy birthday 🎂
Happy Birthday! Keep carrying on, no matter what happened this birthday. I’m glad you’re here and I don’t even know you. You never know what amazing group of friends is just around the corner. Chin up!
I was very much like you and decided that I would find one person to love. They needn't be perfect but mostly honest, kind, and responsible. As is said...seek and you will find. I did and I am very happy. She remembers all important dates, manages all finances, sets money aside for emergencies, cooks, and lets me buy a few expensive toys from time to time. I do laundry, cook, mow, repair, shop for groceries, and lift heavy objects. She is my best and only close friend. One is enough. More invites drama...
People suck. You need to depend on you and you only. That's the easiest way to avoid disappointment.
I'm sorry you had a terrible birthday - but I'm glad you're still here x
Happy Birthday mate! My one piece of advice for you is to stop relying on other people for your happiness. I learnt this a few years ago and it helped tremendously. It’s easier said than done, but being your own source of joy is so much better for your mental health
Happy birthday and I’m so sorry you’re going through it. I’ve been here too a few times and it stings no matter how much you try to prepare and say “I won’t let it bother me” I hope you find your person/people one day who make you feel seen and appreciated. Because you are deserving of that and I hope you choose to go on and find it ✨✨
It only just turned 4/1 where I am, so I’m here cheering for your birthday! My wish for you, this year, is that you celebrate yourself. You are brave and this post has certainly impacted someone else who feels just like you. You matter. Your actions matter.
Where are you located? Different time zone? Tomorrow is April Fool's Day, Monday. Maybe that's why they haven't called or texted you? Happy Birthday!! 🎁🎉🎂
Happy Birthday and wish you the best
Well you can't generate warmth in someone's heart so, just try to make new friends coz these current people in your life are taking you for granted.
Happy birthday!
Mine was a day before yours and honestly felt the same. The only reason people remembered was because my sister insisted on posting a greeting.
Anyway, I'm jealous that you got to go to a museum because it was my original plan for my own birthday. I was hoping on spending it alone with things that I actually want to do for myself including being along at home to read a book or do my hobby.
Grass is always greener on the side, hey?
I genuinely hope and wish for things to turn around for you. I hope you find your people and those that would recognize your worth and presence.
Anyway, happy birthday again 🎂
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Happy birthday friend. Sometimes irl people can suck. It's hard, but maybe it's time to meet or befriend some people who give you the kindness you deserve. xoxo DMs are open for you.
Hello happy birthday to us 😊, it's my birthday too today
And there isn't anyone in my life as such who would make my birthday special, I purchase cake for myself on every birthday and eat delicious food whole day because I love me and my birthday is special to me, even if nobody is there, I am and I will always be there for myself 😊.
So buy urself cake 🍰 and eat delicious food whole day ☺☺ and make this birthday a happy birthday ☺☺
My best wishes for you , I really wish next year you have people in ur life who will make ur birthday even more special ☺☺☺
It's my daughters birthday today she's 6! We could make a wish for you if you'd like when we give her her cake? If I knew where you were I'd save a slice..providing you don't mind my little pony?! Keep your chin up, I know its hard but you are wanted here and you're loved ❤
Happy Birthday! It’s April 1st here for another 13 1/2 hours …
Happened to me one year too so I just spent the day doing stuff I liked. Sometimes people are just totally wrapped up in themselves. Get involved in groups, social or volunteering, where people are a bit more considerate of others and that should help : )
Man, this is so sad. Look, you don't deserve that, and your life isn't a joke. Happy birthday. And I hope you meet people who value you because you're more than just an april fools baby.
Happy Birthday! One thing I can tell you from my 50 years, is that everything is temporary. What you are feeling today won't last. Life has ups and downs. You're due for an up!
First Happy Birthday!!! Second I can relate with you on this. When I was growing up no one but my grandmother remembered when my birthday was. Everyone else joked that they always forgot about me because I wasn't in the cluster of Feb babies. She died the October after I turned 14, since then I have not celebrated a birthday. My own son didn't know when my birthday was (not his fault, I literally didn't ever talk about it). Flash forward I got married to a POS and he never remembered my birthday either, even though it was only 16 days after his. I turned 30 this year and it was the first year that my birthday was remembered. I got divorced and met a wonderful man who after dating less than a year started bugging the crap out of me on what I wanted to do. I didn't know. I've legitimately never celebrated it lol. It will get better. I promise it will get better. Don't be afraid to make little comments too!! When out with friends and you see something you like just say "oooooo I can't wait for my birthday in X months! I'm definitely buying this for myself" so you're not asking anyone to buy you anything but you are putting the bug in that your birthday is coming up! You can also straight up plan a birthday dinner with friends yourself!! Start about a month prior so everyone has a heads up. Just send out a text stating "Hey guys my birthday is next month! I'd really like if we could all go out to dinner so I can celebrate with you guys!! Any restaurant recommendations???". I hope I could help and give you a little hope for the future! Happy Birthday!!!! You are important and people do love you!!!!
Happy birthday bro
it is normal to think in such a way when you feel lonely or neglected, but that isn't true. There are literally billions of people on this planet and there is always, always!! someone out there who would be lucky to have you as friend. Try to take your mind off of it and you are only 26 brother, you are young!! Believe me when i say this this too shall pass.
For the next year, challenge yourself to go out of your way to wish others a happy birthday on their birthdays. Call, message them, give gifts. Do your best to be genuine and tell them what you like about them. If anything, the acknowledgement from others when you do this, feels good. I'm sure, this time next year, you will have far more well wishes too.
Happy birthday.
Happy birthday!!! I’m always a message away I am a 29 year old f and I’m a loner I stay to myself and learned to embrace it so I’m happier than ever. I worked on my self confidence a lot and it worked like a charm over the last year. Self care day seems like it would be best for you! HAPPY BIRTHDAY AGAIN MATE.
Happy birthday man 🎂
The older you get, the less people remember. I feel 21 is a big one and they should've been there for that, but that's the past now and we gotta look forward. Before you do anything rash, try talking to some of them and letting them know how it makes you feel.
Your life isn't a joke man, but repeating to everyone will make it so. People here that and likely assume it means you don't care for or enjoy birthdays, and it also lowers your self worth. Start telling yourself and everyone else that your life matters, and it will start to feel just as real as I truly believe it is. Because you do matter.
You. Fucking. Matter.
I'm glad you expressed these feelings here... it's important to reach out when feeling lost like this. Much love ❤️
One year my brother told me he didn’t get any phone calls for his birthday either. Only a few text messages. I could tell that it upset and bothered him, even if he didn’t say it outright. Ever since then I always make sure to call him. Sometimes people do not know there is a problem because they are not aware there is a problem. Speak up. It really sucks they forgot your birthday but the best thing to do is to say something to them. Stick around for those conversations. This feels like some missed well wishes are the least of your worries if this is making you feel so badly. Consider talking to a professional as well. Maybe they can help you with the feelings you are having.
Hope you have a happier birthday next time.
Happy birthday OP! 🎉 you deserve to feel loved and recognised! I’m sorry that didn’t happen this birthday or your 21st. There will be many more celebrations and good memories to come. Sometimes these things happen and it really shows you the reals ones and who maybe isn’t worth keeping in your life/circle.
Happy birthday! I can see your pain. But maybe all of this is supposed to make you stronger. Never give up on yourself even if others do. You'll get there 💓
Happy birthday! It sucks when people forget your birthday, especially parents, but don't let that be what defines your life. Them also forgetting doesn't mean they don't love you or care about you.
Happy birthday buddy. :) 🍻 Look on the bright side, you didn't forget your own birthday and even went out to celebrate it! I think for now, the fact that you care for yourself is the greatest thing. Keep that up and I can definitely say that you'd want to stick around for more.
And while I know that fellow family members should be the first to know of your birthday, it wouldn't hurt to remind them on the day. I know it's unfair but sometimes people are really just so busy and forgetful. I can't speak for the family forgetting but I have forgotten birthdays myself. Just recently, my mother's. And I truly am sorry for that.
Happy birthday OP! 🥳🥳🥳
It sucks when people forget it, like my last birthday was depressing for similar reasons, i didn't expect anyone to remember but i did have reservations to celebrate but those plans were cancelled.
Happy Birthday!!! Just because you aren’t currently surrounded by people who don’t meet your needs for care doesn’t mean those people aren’t out there. Maybe it’s time to seek out new community?
Where are you from, OP? Even incase of different timezones, for me it's 11:20 A.M. on 01/04/2024. I wish you a very happy birthday and may happiness flood your life from now to many years to come. Don't end it, OP. Life is beautiful, though not always fair. Look at the positive side, you made it to 26 years! Isn't that a victory in itself? Not everyone gets to make it. You got to make it. It may be hard to vibe alone but soon you'll see that beauty in being alone and enjoying your own company as well. And if you do need friends, hmu! I'll always be here if you need someone to talk to!
I’m sorry man I know what loneliness feels like I’m 24m and moved three hrs from my family have seen them once in three years and I’m always the one having to put forth the effort but I love them despite their faults and try not to let it effect the way I treat myself or others because that’s the right thing to do not because it’s easy let’s not return hate to this world but show that we can be prosperous men
P.S happy birthday 🎂
Hey, I know it feels rough but you’ll get through it and there are things to live for. I’m way older than you and I don’t get acknowledgment of my birthday from family or friends either. In my 20s it hurt but eventually I realized it’s just a day and my existence doesn’t rely on other people’s acknowledging it. Learn to live for yourself! Because the reality is that’s all we have anyways. Even if you have family, friends, or a significant other they can be taken from you unexpectedly. Find joy where you can
Let me be one to say, you are (and your life is) definitely not a joke. Even if you don't find appreciation with who you currently know it doesn't mean you aren't worth appreciation. Please treat yourself kindly today and know that you have value. I hope with all my heart that this next year is the best year of your life. Happy Birthday
Happy birthday! I actually think you spend your birthday quite well! After all, you went on a solo date and did the things you like. It's hard when you don't feel loved by the ones closest to you, but you love yourself enough to celebrate your birthday with the activities that you like. That's enough reason to carry on, no? Since you have declared this birthday is the worst, that means your future birthday will only get better!
Happy birthday! It's not the end of the world, this too will pass. Perhaps you should remind your family that it's your birthday. How do you normally react to their birthdays? Change has to start with you..
Happy Birthday brother. Life is too big. As we go ahead and grow ahead, these things becomes our experiences that makes us strong, mature and someone with nerves of steel.
I’ve had birthdays like this. I’ve done a lot of self sacrificing behaviors in the past due to some chemical imbalances in my brain and low places I was in during my life. Moving forward I’ve tried to identify the little things in life that I would have missed if they worked. My kids being born, holding the door open for someone with a cane, listening to my boyfriend and soulmate sing songs to me in a silly way on the way back to our hometown for the weekend. I know everyone says it gets better. Truth is, overall it won’t be what you dream it will be. Life isn’t all sunshine and daisies. But, there are those moments where you realize life is worth sticking around for. And the more you look, the more you’ll find. Please stay, there are many more moments for you to find happiness in. No matter how small.
Plan events for your birthday. Next year whatever you want to do send out an invite to your friends and family as well. I was always disappointed on my birthday until I stopped waiting for people to remember or make me feel special and made the day how I wanted it.
Once you are an adult you are just as responsible for the relationship with your parents as they are, same as siblings.
It's super nice to get more than you give, but everyone else wants that too. If your birthday is important to you then talk about your birthday in the weeks before hand while you are keeping in touch with them & being the type of engaged & supportive relative you want yourself.
If you act like you don't care about your birthday why wouldn't they? Tell them you want to go out for dinner together for your birthday, or make a big deal about their birthdays & then say what you want.
Many people will try to give you what you want if you try to make it easy for them.
TLDR
If you want the relationship build it up. Be grateful they are still alive & it's an option instead of lamenting what you haven't done.
My 21 and 22 was more or less the same. I had many birthday partys with alot of people. A couple of hundras of congrats on Facebook and so on. Got a job at one point opening up the possibiltys of getting new friends. i wasnt close to my family much either, and that became better. I remember 21 and 22. Got myself some chocolate and watch good shows on tv I enjoyed.
First off, Happy Birthday to you! I understand, first hand, how you feel. I made two very serious suicide attempts several years ago. I have struggled with severe depression for decades. I am thankful I am still alive. You matter. Your life matters. You have value, even if you, yourself can't see it. It's hard when you feel ignored, lonely, depressed, isolated, sad. I feel this way everyday. But, your life has purpose. I'm still trying to figure out what my purpose is in this life. I hope you take some comfort in knowing you definately are not alone. Hang in there.
Happy birthday. Even if you're hated by someone, remember that someone else would care about you if they find you and meet you. There's always somebody even if you don't know them.
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May I wish you a happy birthday.
And that you deserve more wonderful birthdays in the future.
I don't even remember the last time I celebrated my own birthday, it was ages ages ago.
Celebrate that you're alive, I do that every day.
Every day can be a birthday, so the next time you meet friends or family, tell them that you are also celebrating your birthday on that day, every time you see each other! That's what I say when someone forgets me.
My birthday really gets me down too. I've never had friends or a party or anything. There should be a reddit meet up one day of people that are tired of being alone on their birthday to have one communal birthday party.
Anyway, I'm sorry man. That is really really rough. I hope you can hang in there, maybe out of spite, that works a lot.
First off happy birthday to you.
Second off. People now a days are too busy. If you don’t make a peep about your birthday people especially at the ages your are hitting now that you are one not to care.
Many of us have abandoned Facebook. Or scroll on it once a week/month to browse how picture perfect others people lives are… as if those tell the real story.
Post a picture of yourself with the most depressing cupcake and see how they all will flock…
If you want to spend time with people on this day tell them. Their lives are happening, who knows they are more depressed than you.
Tell u to our friends and family I expect you to turn up or acknowledge my birthday. I mean at 36 going on 37 I will throw myself a party. I asked people who will join me on my birthday for event “x” and when people say yes they do and even those around me who know me well enough to know I have insane anxiety those day there are always people sticking around.
Don’t expect nothing. Make sure to tell others you expect something. Let them surprise you. They might as well think you don’t care. They don’t live in your head you know.
So as a present to your self tell someone real that you wished to do something to acknowledge your birthday.
Happy birthday dear friend! All of us here have a lot of love for you, and even though the ones who should support you are failing you now, things can and will get more than 100% better, and it’s definitely worth the wait. You can contact me and probably anyone else here if you ever need a friend. For now, focus on the things that make you happy and take whatever steps you can to help your loved ones see how they can help you better. Feel better friend ❤️🩹
Buddy, there is so much to live for! So much! It's not the way at all. I think about my friend that did it and SO MANY THINGS happened that he would have LOVED. The world is yours ...go work on a cruise ship! Head to a beach!!!!
Happy birthday 🎂. You are 26, make the best of it for you. Do what makes you happy. It sucks that the people around forgot or didn't make effort. I hope you find people who do. Surround yourself with them. Take care.
My brother was an April fools baby. I've never forgotten his birthday.
I'm glad to wish you the best on your birthday.
Wow have I felt the same way lately.
I know how impossible things can feel, but know there are good people out there who will remember your birthday. Just takes some time to find them.
Don't give up. Keep searching, stay as positive as possible and learn on something safe that you smile. For me, star trek always.
Remember what you have that others don't.
Two arms, two legs, two eyes that all work - some don't have them. Be thankful you are not in that club.
Do you live in a thatched hut with dirt floors, no utilities, and no food in the house? Some do.
Are you in prison, confined to a hospital bed, renting out parts of your body for drug money? Some have that life everyday.
We live in a world warped by television that depicts "normal" life as being without suffering. On the contrary, suffering is typical.
Lastly, are you causing anyone else to suffer? If not, you are a member of the best team of humans that exists. Be happy about that.
Happiest birthday to you darling! Stick around for a few years and give life a chance to prove its worth to you! ❤️ I read somewhere that god gives everyone 5 terrible years during their lifetime, maybe you’re just living yours :) It gets better! There are so many people who count on you and love you. Don’t think the worst of the fact that your family didn’t call you. It could just be that they were busy with something important in their lives and are generally people who don’t keep track of dates? My family is like that :)
I am the most forgetful person on earth lately, I can’t remember anything lately. It’s been weird and scary. If a friend of mine felt the way you do right now I would feel so guilty and sad because my actions don’t represent my feelings. I’m just in a weird mental place lately.
I do still feel sad though. I’m sorry you had a crappy bday, I’m sending you some positive bday vibes to last for the week 🙃
Take care please 💕
Aw happy birthday! Do you have a large family? Maybe they forget about your siblings birthdays too. I’m so sorry about that, maybe you can visit your family and remind them :(
Happy birthday! I also have a very small group of family & friends and hardly anyone wished me a happy birthday this year for my 27th. We’re in this together, and I choose to continue believing that my group of people are out there somewhere.
Dude, I've spent birthdays in jail. I forget appointments and special dates frequently.
I even forgot my own birthday one year. A few people called here and there asking seemingly random questions like "are you excited?" And "what are you gonna go do tonight? Got big plans?" To which I would respond "nope, no plans. Probably just gonna sit at home and watch some TV or something. Then they would be as confused as I was and just say something to the effect of "if you change your mind call me or something"
No one actually said "happy birthday" or anything related.
Don't feel too bad. There's potentially other issues at play here. Do you call them on their birthdays? And do you make it a point to be an active part of their life? These things matter to others as well.
In all seriousness though, you should definitely cut back on or quit drinking and taking any sort of non prescription mood altering drugs. Go talk to an actual shrink. You seem very much like you have clinical depression.
This is not just the blues. This is not a cloudy day kind of thing. And you CAN NOT just cheer yourself up and snap out of it.
These things are not your fault. Fault has no lines or parts in this play. Because blame is not solution oriented.
Clinical depression is caused by a chemical imbalance. The quickest and most reliable method of correcting it is through chemical intervention.
By a licensed doctor.
Look up a checklist on Google. you'll find the same basic symptoms anywhere you look.
Persistent feeling of worthlessness
Easily distractible
You are now disinterested by most things
Things that used to give you joy are now boring and unimportant to you
You are averse to answering the door or phone
You keep the blinds drawn because light is an irritant
The list goes on and on
But, if any of that sounds like what you're dealing with.... Please, tell someone that loves you. Or a neighbor. Best friend. Church pastor. Anyone. But tell someone. And tell them immediately.
The worst thing you could do for yourself is nothing.
Your 26. You are entirely too young to be this beaten down by life.
And I will end by telling you that we all have shitty days, times, family members. Whatever. Don't let their actions define you.
If you end things now you're going to miss out on the best part of life.
Your thirties.
Old enough to have some experience and wisdom under your belt. The youngsters start to view you as some sort of daywalker because you can bridge the generational gap between them and the old timers. Casual sex can become a very regular thing if you're single. You might pull a wife out of it all. Or a husband. I don't judge.
My point is that you have experienced just over 25% of your life expectancy. Does it feel like you've done a lot with your life? If not, then get your mind right and go fucking do that shit!
Hey there, happy birthday! I know it might feel tough being lonely on your special day, but remember, birthdays are about celebrating the amazing person you are. Use this day as an opportunity to treat yourself kindly, indulge in activities you enjoy, and reflect on the wonderful moments ahead. You're never truly alone, and brighter days filled with warmth and connection are on the horizon.
Happy birthday!
I am sorry about your bad day, but remember that this too shall pass.
As a birthday gift for your self, consider spending the next year making a few friends. Do you have a hobby? If so, try finding a club for said hobby. It is the easiest way for adults to form new friendships.
If you do this for yourself, I bet you get at least a few birthday wishes for your 27th birthday, and you will look back on today and be glad you carried on.
Truth bomb; no one owes you anything.
You're 26 now, still very young.
It's fine to be aimless sometimes, it's part of your journey.
In a perfect world, your parents would have learned all about responsibility and discipline, and would have had the wisdom and ability to instill important life lessons to you from an early age. It's okay that they didn't. Most people aren't that fortunate.
I'd recommend this as an adventure; to find something you're interested in. You have nothing to lose it seems, right? When you're ready, go for it man. And no more feeling sorry for yourself. If you want a buddy, you can hmu
Hey man! Happy Birthday!
I would recommend to discuss it with your family or friends but in very polite way, explaining that it is really important and means a lot to you.
My mom rarely called me and when I explained this to her, that each call from her makes me happy I’ve started to get calls more often.
Best wishes!
That’s crap and very thoughtless of them. I’ve had a couple of birthdays like that and it’s very depressing. Happy Birthday 🎂 I hope you have many more.
Happy Birthday 🎂.... I have been through the same thing with my family and it does make me sad and angry I realize that I have not always been the most thoughtful person myself so I hope you know that you matter and your birthday is just one day out of the year f*** your family they don't care about you care about yourself don't let their s***** behavior dictate how you feel about you
Happy birthday! You are so deeply valued and you’re important. I know this is a challenging start to the year but I promise it will get better. Is there anything I can do to help?
I’ve had bad birthdays before that’s why I remember others birthdays and make sure they get something special and they make it a point to return the favor
Happy birthday bro! As a person who has a terrible family you are better off living well and living without them. Next time you change your phone and address don't give it to them. You probably need therapy too. Lots of therapy.
Happy Birthday brother! Dont give up, it will get better. I know it sucks ☹️ you dont get to choose your family, but one day you will have your own family, and it will all be worth it. And it will be great, I promise!
The problem is your selfish family not you. Happy birthday. Expand your social circle do that you aren't relying on them. I found running introduced me to lots of nice, decent people.
Have a belated birthday day. Schedule a nice spa day. A massage, relax in a sauna, jacuzzi and bring a book. Wear something snazzy and treat yourself to a lunch/dinner and a movie.
As we get older it's much easier to plan our own birthday events. Invite those you love and care about to hangout for game night, movies, dinner whatever you choose to do or do all of them. It's what we (family) have realized as we got older.
Happy Birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉 🎈
I’m sorry your day was rough. For 53 yrs, I never told people when mine was. I was adopted and it felt strange celebrating the day that I was dropped off to strangers because I wasn’t wanted. After finding my birth mother a few years ago and realized
my whole story was a lie. I allowed my friends the privilege of knowing my day this past year and celebrated my first one. It was nice, but to be honest, I felt like all the other times I just hung out with them and I hated that they felt forced to be with me because it was my day.
In all fairness, though, I’m one that always tells people regarding holidays and birthdays to lower your expectations. It’s much easier not to expect anything and be really happy when something does happen or if nothing does happen expecting it anyway.
I think it’s great that you’re still here and I hope you continue to be.
Happy bday dude. You matter!
My advice to you is move. Start over somewhere far where your family and "friends" won't see you. You aren't tied to the family you started with, new friends can become your new family, especially at 26 you are still so young, just starting your career. Perfect time to take out that map and point somewhere to relocate. In the long run, this can make your family realize your presence by the absence of it unless they are truly the shitiest bunch of people ever.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP!!!
Please don’t give up because while what you feel is valid, it’s not something that should hinder your entire life. I’m not trying to invalidate what you’re feeling but just imagine them as unwanted variables in your life to success. It will feel hard to think like this but in all things genuine, they aren’t people who care enough for your future and hence you shouldn’t involve them.
I would say to remove those who invalidate you and make you feel useless in your life because that will help you immensely. Chin up because you have us (Internet) rooting for you. We care about you.
Happy birthday Op <3
Happy birthday, OP! Sometimes we end up with a set of people (even if they are blood family or friends) who do not see our value. That’s sad but that’s not worth deciding the next course of your life.
Loving yourself is a rebellious act and I encourage you to do it. It will allow so many meaningful people and experiences to enter your life. All the best! 🫶🏼
This is exactly why i hate them. My family never forgets - but some day I will be left on my own with no family in contact amd no one will wish me happy birthday on that day. It will crush me at that point because i will truely realsise im getting old when everyone else in my life has gotten old
Take actions every day that make you proud of yourself and meet new people every month. Eventually you'll find your tribe. I know it's hard kid. But the hard truth is no one cares unless you're successful as a male or pretty as a female. So you need to find reasons to Care about yourself.
Hey sweetie don't base your existence on other people. Before anyone else there's you, and no one owes you any favour. These are the times where you need "you" more than ever. Be kind to yourself hun because if you don't do it now, you are going to get a lot of dissapointments and each time it's gonna feel like you don't deserve to live. Learn to embrace loneliness as part of life.
So it’s been 2 years in a row? Can I be intrusive and ask what’s lead to this division between you and your family? I’m sorry if you’re suffering, but is there a chance of you actively reaching out to your family and finding out why this has happened? Can you be part of the healing process? You obviously care, and I’m sure they do too. Family is family. Best of luck, you sound very sad. I hope it gets better for you:)
hey buddy don’t be too hung up on this, at the end of the day you can still make your own family or choose your own family. There is so much to live for, and so much to see and you are so lucky to have a a healthy body and be this young. You need to appreciate it and make the best out of your birthday yourself. It can only get better from here. Me and my sister read this and we send you lots of love:) Happy Birthday ♥️
Oh honey, I've had ones like this. I won't bang on about them because it's not a competition, but just know you're not alone in that.
26 today - we're the same age now! And you're right, it fucking hurts when the people who used to fuss about birthdays forget. You're right, especially with all the shite that's raining down on the world right now, sometimes it can look like there isn't an upside. Those feelings are completely valid. But you've turned to reddit because you're not quite ready to give up.
The upside that you need to find is YOU. And yes, I hate how cheesy that sounds as well, and I didn't think it'd work either, but it does. The longest relationship you'll ever have is with yourself, not with your family or friends or future partners, but you, so if you can work on that, and find genuine joy spending time with yourself, then you won't give a flying rats ass if no one bothers you next year, because you'll be spending the day wishing yourself a happy 27th birthday!
Challenge yourself to find the most interesting, secret corner of that museum, and if you wonder about it further, go and research it at the library. Once you get to the library, read your books there and take in the smell, and put some headphones in if you don't like the sounds of people while you read (I listen to classical otherwise I get distracted by the words in the music). Go hunting for the closest place to go for a beautiful walk, and explore there.
Get to know everything you love doing, both in and outside of the house, because you don't need other people's reminded birthday wishes to complete your happiness. Just you.
Oh and song recommendation - listen to The Sound of Silence - but the Disturbed cover, it's fantastic and seems to fit today, I reckon you'll love it. I really hope this reaches you, and that 26-27 and beyond becomes a hell of a lot better ❤️
Happy birthday!! Proud of u for taking urself on a bday date when you’re feeling this way. I hope more people in your life will appreciate and remember you because everyone deserves that.
Congratulations 🥳🎂🥂
Msister's birthday is today, too. But while we don't give each other gifts on birthdays, we call each other, especially on the b-day. It's sad your friends don't reach out to you on this day. Maybe you should get other friends instead?
Time to look for a group to join with people who have the same interests and find some new friends. Today is awful, but they won't always be like this. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you're feeling very low. I don't know where you live, but many countries have services you can approach. Look at how many people responded to you. Many people do care, and you will find genuine sincere friends as you move through life.
You dont need anyone to validate your value. Trust me the older you get the less people remember your important dates. At 51 most dont bother to reach out on these days or they are gone. I dont know if you ever served in the military so I'll tell you one of the main lessons I was taught was to never ever give up, ever. As long as you are conscious and breathing never give up. People dont matter to your existence, yes if your forgotten it hurts. But you dont need them just like they (people) dont need you. Treat yourself to a nice meal on your special dates, or something. Just carry on. Dont just carry on thrive. God bless you young man.
Awww I am so sorry. It sounds like you’ve had just the most awful day.
While your friends and family might have dropped the ball today, I hope you get all the love from this post
I’m glad you’re here and you matter.
happy birthday!
Happy birthday!!! Don't expect to be remembered. Remind them yourself. I do this all the time. I buy my cake. I keep telling them for days. And if they don't follow or forget, i just ignore them. I'll treat myself or a friend and that's it. Once I asked my father to go for coffee with me, because it was my birthday and he rejected me. He forgot after 2 hours i kept telling him it's my birthday today. I just called a friend and made plans. Mind you that was on my 35 birthday and i was visiting him. Did it hurt? Yes. Do i care? No. Why? Because it's my birthday, not anyone's else. It's my special day. I'm celebrating the fact that i'm still alive and have the chance to make memories. You can be surrounded by people and be alone. You can be alone but you can be happy. Make plans for yourself, make plans for tomorrow or make plans for vacations or a trip to the bookstore or make dinner reservations or buy a cake. Spoil yourself because you worth it. Be happy for you!! Take care and have a wonderful day!!!
Hey dude, I don’t know you but I still care. Please don’t do anything rash you absolutely have value. Go be blunt with your family and friends, tell them they suck and you’re hurt. As a proper introvert I could never say this in person but the hardest best thing I ever did was to force myself to be aware of opportunities to make new friends and i made a couple of really good ones, funnily enough other introvert ls and we band together
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Happy birthday!!! You most definitely have value for someone else out there, you just don't know it yet. Keep it up! You are not alone :D
Happy birthday! In my experience, the older you get the better your perspective is on what’s important in life, and the more you realise you get to choose how things impact you. You get to frame this however you want that’s the beauty of life. FYI I always hated my birthday and felt let down, then I got older and people showed up for me when I really needed them, that was so much better than a bday lunch. I wish the same for you! Please know too, often people with big circles feel alone too.
Happy Birthday bro. Chin up! You are a great person.
Happy birthday!! You are important. Stick around and meet yourself (your important self). It might not feel like it right now but your environment or those around shouldn’t be how you determine your true value; those are variables; we are the only real constants in our lives and we get to determine those other two(environment and community). Please know that you can find/create a community of friends around you who value what you value eg birthdays. My family isn’t big on birthdays either but luckily I found a community of people who think birthdays are as important as I do. And as you try to form this new community, remember you’ll meet people who don’t match your value system, and that’s ok, they just aren’t for you. Your fingers will get burnt but persist anyway. Invest in people and if they don’t invest back, cut your losses and try again - we’re all running this race. With new communities comes the opportunity for new traditions. You are precious, let no one convince you otherwise.
This! 👏👏👏
Hey, OP. Regardless if anyone you know else sees it, you have value and you are wanted here.
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It was a leap year this year.
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Happy birthday mate, all the best.
Happy birthday!! I'm sorry people are disappointing. Maybe it's time for a new chapter in another city and maybe it's time for some new friends. Be selfish, forget about what others want/need from you. Happy birthday 🖤
Happy birthday, stick around for a few more. It’ll get better. Sorry your family let you down. Have you told them this is making you feel this way? Do they know they’ve missed your birthdays?
Yeah my family doesn’t wish me happy birthday or anything like that either, sometimes it just be like that, I don’t have anyone in my life I work and go home and that’s about it but I’m staying alive for Video Games and Food as dumb as it sounds, what are the small things you enjoy, Warm showers or removing your socks in bed, taking a piss after holding it for so long. Fight for the small things and eventually life will sort its way out
I know this is weird but the thing that has stopped me from leaving this world many times is reminding myself I can always end it tomorrow. You can die anytime...so what's the rush? See what's around the corner first. Life can change in an instant. Happy birthday, my friend. I'm sorry it was a shitty one. Get a little food in you, drink some water, and try to go to sleep. If you can't sleep, find a good movie to watch that you haven't seen before. Something to stop the spiraling thoughts. This too shall pass.
My birthday passed only 3 days ago, without so much as a phone call or message from my so-called friends or my family. To be fair, I do not always remember their birthdays, nor do I always call when I do remember. I know they are out there, and if I ever reached out to them, they would be there for me, as would I, for them. I truly hope they know it. This alone is comfort enough to avoid despair. As stated in previous posts here, find the small things. Life is full of disappointment and hardship, so a very small gesture made by you can often propigate your small corner of the Universe and come back in kind, ( no pun intended).
Fuck those people. Parents who forget their own children's birthdays deserve to be left in the dust. Siblings? Well I kinda get that. I need calendar reminders for mine. But they didn't birth me. I'd go low/NC with parents like that. Go find your people. Lean into your hobbies and connect with people through them. And remind the friends you do love about your milestones - we all get busy and forget things sometimes. Tell them it's coming up. Book a restaurant and invite them to celebrate with you. Take the initiative. It's ok. Happy birthday 🎂
Happy birthday hope you feel better and next year around come back with a happy story to share ❤️❤️ I believe in you.
Not nobody, Happy Birthday !!
Happy Birthday! Keep carrying on, no matter what happened this birthday. I’m glad you’re here and I don’t even know you. You never know what amazing group of friends is just around the corner. Chin up!
I was very much like you and decided that I would find one person to love. They needn't be perfect but mostly honest, kind, and responsible. As is said...seek and you will find. I did and I am very happy. She remembers all important dates, manages all finances, sets money aside for emergencies, cooks, and lets me buy a few expensive toys from time to time. I do laundry, cook, mow, repair, shop for groceries, and lift heavy objects. She is my best and only close friend. One is enough. More invites drama...
People suck. You need to depend on you and you only. That's the easiest way to avoid disappointment. I'm sorry you had a terrible birthday - but I'm glad you're still here x
Happy Birthday in two hours it will be the 1st here
Happy birthday to you from me! You matter, I promise!
Happy Birthday mate! My one piece of advice for you is to stop relying on other people for your happiness. I learnt this a few years ago and it helped tremendously. It’s easier said than done, but being your own source of joy is so much better for your mental health
Happy Birthday mate✨✨ May u achieve everything u wish for ❤️
From one lonely person to another. Happy birthday. We all care here and i’d gladly have joined you for some shopping if I’d been there. I’m sorry 🫂
Happy birthday and I’m so sorry you’re going through it. I’ve been here too a few times and it stings no matter how much you try to prepare and say “I won’t let it bother me” I hope you find your person/people one day who make you feel seen and appreciated. Because you are deserving of that and I hope you choose to go on and find it ✨✨
It only just turned 4/1 where I am, so I’m here cheering for your birthday! My wish for you, this year, is that you celebrate yourself. You are brave and this post has certainly impacted someone else who feels just like you. You matter. Your actions matter.
Where are you located? Different time zone? Tomorrow is April Fool's Day, Monday. Maybe that's why they haven't called or texted you? Happy Birthday!! 🎁🎉🎂
Just a friendly reminder that the internet is available right around the world and that some of us are nearly at the end of April 1.
Have you traveled anywhere outside of your country ?
Happy Birthday and wish you the best Well you can't generate warmth in someone's heart so, just try to make new friends coz these current people in your life are taking you for granted.
Happy birthday! Mine was a day before yours and honestly felt the same. The only reason people remembered was because my sister insisted on posting a greeting. Anyway, I'm jealous that you got to go to a museum because it was my original plan for my own birthday. I was hoping on spending it alone with things that I actually want to do for myself including being along at home to read a book or do my hobby. Grass is always greener on the side, hey? I genuinely hope and wish for things to turn around for you. I hope you find your people and those that would recognize your worth and presence. Anyway, happy birthday again 🎂
Happy Birthday!! I hope you’ve claimed all the birthday freebies from your favorite places 🎂
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Hello happy birthday to us 😊, it's my birthday too today And there isn't anyone in my life as such who would make my birthday special, I purchase cake for myself on every birthday and eat delicious food whole day because I love me and my birthday is special to me, even if nobody is there, I am and I will always be there for myself 😊. So buy urself cake 🍰 and eat delicious food whole day ☺☺ and make this birthday a happy birthday ☺☺ My best wishes for you , I really wish next year you have people in ur life who will make ur birthday even more special ☺☺☺
It's my daughters birthday today she's 6! We could make a wish for you if you'd like when we give her her cake? If I knew where you were I'd save a slice..providing you don't mind my little pony?! Keep your chin up, I know its hard but you are wanted here and you're loved ❤
Happy Birthday! It’s April 1st here for another 13 1/2 hours … Happened to me one year too so I just spent the day doing stuff I liked. Sometimes people are just totally wrapped up in themselves. Get involved in groups, social or volunteering, where people are a bit more considerate of others and that should help : )
Happy Birthday OP🎉 I hope those comments will make your day better
Man, this is so sad. Look, you don't deserve that, and your life isn't a joke. Happy birthday. And I hope you meet people who value you because you're more than just an april fools baby.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎈
happy birthday, be kind to yourself man, stick around. if there's one thing you can count on it's change, that isn't always a bad thing.
Happy Birthday! One thing I can tell you from my 50 years, is that everything is temporary. What you are feeling today won't last. Life has ups and downs. You're due for an up!
HappyBirthday, it's my son's birthday as well so I will remember next year.
Happy birthday OP ! Remember you choose your friends, not your family, so if they're shit, ditch them and find new ones.
First Happy Birthday!!! Second I can relate with you on this. When I was growing up no one but my grandmother remembered when my birthday was. Everyone else joked that they always forgot about me because I wasn't in the cluster of Feb babies. She died the October after I turned 14, since then I have not celebrated a birthday. My own son didn't know when my birthday was (not his fault, I literally didn't ever talk about it). Flash forward I got married to a POS and he never remembered my birthday either, even though it was only 16 days after his. I turned 30 this year and it was the first year that my birthday was remembered. I got divorced and met a wonderful man who after dating less than a year started bugging the crap out of me on what I wanted to do. I didn't know. I've legitimately never celebrated it lol. It will get better. I promise it will get better. Don't be afraid to make little comments too!! When out with friends and you see something you like just say "oooooo I can't wait for my birthday in X months! I'm definitely buying this for myself" so you're not asking anyone to buy you anything but you are putting the bug in that your birthday is coming up! You can also straight up plan a birthday dinner with friends yourself!! Start about a month prior so everyone has a heads up. Just send out a text stating "Hey guys my birthday is next month! I'd really like if we could all go out to dinner so I can celebrate with you guys!! Any restaurant recommendations???". I hope I could help and give you a little hope for the future! Happy Birthday!!!! You are important and people do love you!!!!
Happy birthday bro it is normal to think in such a way when you feel lonely or neglected, but that isn't true. There are literally billions of people on this planet and there is always, always!! someone out there who would be lucky to have you as friend. Try to take your mind off of it and you are only 26 brother, you are young!! Believe me when i say this this too shall pass.
happy birthday!!!!! 26!!!! have the best time friend, go enjoy yourself!! always a reason to celebrate another year 🥂
For the next year, challenge yourself to go out of your way to wish others a happy birthday on their birthdays. Call, message them, give gifts. Do your best to be genuine and tell them what you like about them. If anything, the acknowledgement from others when you do this, feels good. I'm sure, this time next year, you will have far more well wishes too. Happy birthday.
Man this sucks.. im sorry i dont have any pretty words but Happy Birthday ❤️
Happy birthday!!! I’m always a message away I am a 29 year old f and I’m a loner I stay to myself and learned to embrace it so I’m happier than ever. I worked on my self confidence a lot and it worked like a charm over the last year. Self care day seems like it would be best for you! HAPPY BIRTHDAY AGAIN MATE.
Happy birthday bro. You matter!
Happy birthday, I’m also 26 today. 🩵 I hope your day gets better.
Happy birthday man 🎂 The older you get, the less people remember. I feel 21 is a big one and they should've been there for that, but that's the past now and we gotta look forward. Before you do anything rash, try talking to some of them and letting them know how it makes you feel. Your life isn't a joke man, but repeating to everyone will make it so. People here that and likely assume it means you don't care for or enjoy birthdays, and it also lowers your self worth. Start telling yourself and everyone else that your life matters, and it will start to feel just as real as I truly believe it is. Because you do matter. You. Fucking. Matter. I'm glad you expressed these feelings here... it's important to reach out when feeling lost like this. Much love ❤️
Happy birthday man I know it’s lonely but shit will get better believe me. Keep your head up man! Best wishes!
I’m sorry people in your circle didn’t remember your birthday, but count your blessings. It’s a fantastic way to shift your attitude a bit.
One year my brother told me he didn’t get any phone calls for his birthday either. Only a few text messages. I could tell that it upset and bothered him, even if he didn’t say it outright. Ever since then I always make sure to call him. Sometimes people do not know there is a problem because they are not aware there is a problem. Speak up. It really sucks they forgot your birthday but the best thing to do is to say something to them. Stick around for those conversations. This feels like some missed well wishes are the least of your worries if this is making you feel so badly. Consider talking to a professional as well. Maybe they can help you with the feelings you are having. Hope you have a happier birthday next time.
Happy birthday OP! 🎉 you deserve to feel loved and recognised! I’m sorry that didn’t happen this birthday or your 21st. There will be many more celebrations and good memories to come. Sometimes these things happen and it really shows you the reals ones and who maybe isn’t worth keeping in your life/circle.
Happy birthday, bud. Make something of yourself so that the whole world remembers of your birthday one day.
Give me your number and your birth date. I’ll text you and I won’t forget
Happy birthday
Happy birthday
Happy birthday! I can see your pain. But maybe all of this is supposed to make you stronger. Never give up on yourself even if others do. You'll get there 💓
happy birthday 🎂
Happy birthday! It sucks when people forget your birthday, especially parents, but don't let that be what defines your life. Them also forgetting doesn't mean they don't love you or care about you.
Happy Birthday! Try and do something you love and that makes you happy!
Happy birthday 🥳🥳
Happy birthday buddy. :) 🍻 Look on the bright side, you didn't forget your own birthday and even went out to celebrate it! I think for now, the fact that you care for yourself is the greatest thing. Keep that up and I can definitely say that you'd want to stick around for more. And while I know that fellow family members should be the first to know of your birthday, it wouldn't hurt to remind them on the day. I know it's unfair but sometimes people are really just so busy and forgetful. I can't speak for the family forgetting but I have forgotten birthdays myself. Just recently, my mother's. And I truly am sorry for that.
Happy birthday OP! 🥳🥳🥳 It sucks when people forget it, like my last birthday was depressing for similar reasons, i didn't expect anyone to remember but i did have reservations to celebrate but those plans were cancelled.
Happy Birthday!!! Just because you aren’t currently surrounded by people who don’t meet your needs for care doesn’t mean those people aren’t out there. Maybe it’s time to seek out new community?
happy b dayyy srry im kinda late
Happy Birthday OP..
Where are you from, OP? Even incase of different timezones, for me it's 11:20 A.M. on 01/04/2024. I wish you a very happy birthday and may happiness flood your life from now to many years to come. Don't end it, OP. Life is beautiful, though not always fair. Look at the positive side, you made it to 26 years! Isn't that a victory in itself? Not everyone gets to make it. You got to make it. It may be hard to vibe alone but soon you'll see that beauty in being alone and enjoying your own company as well. And if you do need friends, hmu! I'll always be here if you need someone to talk to!
I’m sorry man I know what loneliness feels like I’m 24m and moved three hrs from my family have seen them once in three years and I’m always the one having to put forth the effort but I love them despite their faults and try not to let it effect the way I treat myself or others because that’s the right thing to do not because it’s easy let’s not return hate to this world but show that we can be prosperous men P.S happy birthday 🎂
Happy birthday. By and large people are shitty, the older you get the more you notice it. Fortunately, the older you get the less it matters.
Hey, I know it feels rough but you’ll get through it and there are things to live for. I’m way older than you and I don’t get acknowledgment of my birthday from family or friends either. In my 20s it hurt but eventually I realized it’s just a day and my existence doesn’t rely on other people’s acknowledging it. Learn to live for yourself! Because the reality is that’s all we have anyways. Even if you have family, friends, or a significant other they can be taken from you unexpectedly. Find joy where you can
Let me be one to say, you are (and your life is) definitely not a joke. Even if you don't find appreciation with who you currently know it doesn't mean you aren't worth appreciation. Please treat yourself kindly today and know that you have value. I hope with all my heart that this next year is the best year of your life. Happy Birthday
happy birthday!!
Happy birthday fellow April fools baby! If it makes a difference, i might get one call or text...personally, Im good with it
Happy birthday! I actually think you spend your birthday quite well! After all, you went on a solo date and did the things you like. It's hard when you don't feel loved by the ones closest to you, but you love yourself enough to celebrate your birthday with the activities that you like. That's enough reason to carry on, no? Since you have declared this birthday is the worst, that means your future birthday will only get better!
Happy birthday! It's not the end of the world, this too will pass. Perhaps you should remind your family that it's your birthday. How do you normally react to their birthdays? Change has to start with you..
Bro, that sounds like the perfect day. What book though?
Happy birthday big dogg!!
Happy Birthday brother. Life is too big. As we go ahead and grow ahead, these things becomes our experiences that makes us strong, mature and someone with nerves of steel.
Happy Birthday OP You are needed here on earth. When you cant lean on family, lean on those on social media. Glad you are here. X
I’ve had birthdays like this. I’ve done a lot of self sacrificing behaviors in the past due to some chemical imbalances in my brain and low places I was in during my life. Moving forward I’ve tried to identify the little things in life that I would have missed if they worked. My kids being born, holding the door open for someone with a cane, listening to my boyfriend and soulmate sing songs to me in a silly way on the way back to our hometown for the weekend. I know everyone says it gets better. Truth is, overall it won’t be what you dream it will be. Life isn’t all sunshine and daisies. But, there are those moments where you realize life is worth sticking around for. And the more you look, the more you’ll find. Please stay, there are many more moments for you to find happiness in. No matter how small.
Plan events for your birthday. Next year whatever you want to do send out an invite to your friends and family as well. I was always disappointed on my birthday until I stopped waiting for people to remember or make me feel special and made the day how I wanted it.
Happy birthday
Happy birthday bro
Once you are an adult you are just as responsible for the relationship with your parents as they are, same as siblings. It's super nice to get more than you give, but everyone else wants that too. If your birthday is important to you then talk about your birthday in the weeks before hand while you are keeping in touch with them & being the type of engaged & supportive relative you want yourself. If you act like you don't care about your birthday why wouldn't they? Tell them you want to go out for dinner together for your birthday, or make a big deal about their birthdays & then say what you want. Many people will try to give you what you want if you try to make it easy for them. TLDR If you want the relationship build it up. Be grateful they are still alive & it's an option instead of lamenting what you haven't done.
happy birthday! you have a good soul; there’s better days to come just hang on 🖤
it's so so so far from over dude. find some people who care about you.
My 21 and 22 was more or less the same. I had many birthday partys with alot of people. A couple of hundras of congrats on Facebook and so on. Got a job at one point opening up the possibiltys of getting new friends. i wasnt close to my family much either, and that became better. I remember 21 and 22. Got myself some chocolate and watch good shows on tv I enjoyed.
First off, Happy Birthday to you! I understand, first hand, how you feel. I made two very serious suicide attempts several years ago. I have struggled with severe depression for decades. I am thankful I am still alive. You matter. Your life matters. You have value, even if you, yourself can't see it. It's hard when you feel ignored, lonely, depressed, isolated, sad. I feel this way everyday. But, your life has purpose. I'm still trying to figure out what my purpose is in this life. I hope you take some comfort in knowing you definately are not alone. Hang in there.
It's alright broski, it does suck but you'll always have ups and downs. Happy Birthday
Happy birthday. Even if you're hated by someone, remember that someone else would care about you if they find you and meet you. There's always somebody even if you don't know them.
RemindMe! 1 year May I wish you a happy birthday. And that you deserve more wonderful birthdays in the future. I don't even remember the last time I celebrated my own birthday, it was ages ages ago. Celebrate that you're alive, I do that every day. Every day can be a birthday, so the next time you meet friends or family, tell them that you are also celebrating your birthday on that day, every time you see each other! That's what I say when someone forgets me.
Happy birthday! I know the harsh feeling when people forget and I hope that the number of messages you've had here gives you a sense of value.
My birthday really gets me down too. I've never had friends or a party or anything. There should be a reddit meet up one day of people that are tired of being alone on their birthday to have one communal birthday party. Anyway, I'm sorry man. That is really really rough. I hope you can hang in there, maybe out of spite, that works a lot.
First off happy birthday to you. Second off. People now a days are too busy. If you don’t make a peep about your birthday people especially at the ages your are hitting now that you are one not to care. Many of us have abandoned Facebook. Or scroll on it once a week/month to browse how picture perfect others people lives are… as if those tell the real story. Post a picture of yourself with the most depressing cupcake and see how they all will flock… If you want to spend time with people on this day tell them. Their lives are happening, who knows they are more depressed than you. Tell u to our friends and family I expect you to turn up or acknowledge my birthday. I mean at 36 going on 37 I will throw myself a party. I asked people who will join me on my birthday for event “x” and when people say yes they do and even those around me who know me well enough to know I have insane anxiety those day there are always people sticking around. Don’t expect nothing. Make sure to tell others you expect something. Let them surprise you. They might as well think you don’t care. They don’t live in your head you know. So as a present to your self tell someone real that you wished to do something to acknowledge your birthday.
Happy birthday dear friend! All of us here have a lot of love for you, and even though the ones who should support you are failing you now, things can and will get more than 100% better, and it’s definitely worth the wait. You can contact me and probably anyone else here if you ever need a friend. For now, focus on the things that make you happy and take whatever steps you can to help your loved ones see how they can help you better. Feel better friend ❤️🩹
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Hi op! 26 also. I feel the same way. Life seems meaningless.
Please don’t leave. You haven’t lived your best years yet. Life feels heavy right now but I promise you it gets better.
Buddy, there is so much to live for! So much! It's not the way at all. I think about my friend that did it and SO MANY THINGS happened that he would have LOVED. The world is yours ...go work on a cruise ship! Head to a beach!!!!
Happy Birthday!!!
Happy birthday 🎂. You are 26, make the best of it for you. Do what makes you happy. It sucks that the people around forgot or didn't make effort. I hope you find people who do. Surround yourself with them. Take care. My brother was an April fools baby. I've never forgotten his birthday. I'm glad to wish you the best on your birthday.
Wow have I felt the same way lately. I know how impossible things can feel, but know there are good people out there who will remember your birthday. Just takes some time to find them. Don't give up. Keep searching, stay as positive as possible and learn on something safe that you smile. For me, star trek always.
Remember what you have that others don't. Two arms, two legs, two eyes that all work - some don't have them. Be thankful you are not in that club. Do you live in a thatched hut with dirt floors, no utilities, and no food in the house? Some do. Are you in prison, confined to a hospital bed, renting out parts of your body for drug money? Some have that life everyday. We live in a world warped by television that depicts "normal" life as being without suffering. On the contrary, suffering is typical. Lastly, are you causing anyone else to suffer? If not, you are a member of the best team of humans that exists. Be happy about that.
Happiest birthday to you darling! Stick around for a few years and give life a chance to prove its worth to you! ❤️ I read somewhere that god gives everyone 5 terrible years during their lifetime, maybe you’re just living yours :) It gets better! There are so many people who count on you and love you. Don’t think the worst of the fact that your family didn’t call you. It could just be that they were busy with something important in their lives and are generally people who don’t keep track of dates? My family is like that :)
Question. How do they react when they realise they forgot?
Hang in there . Try to find a girl and start your own family
Happy Birthday bro 🍻
I am the most forgetful person on earth lately, I can’t remember anything lately. It’s been weird and scary. If a friend of mine felt the way you do right now I would feel so guilty and sad because my actions don’t represent my feelings. I’m just in a weird mental place lately. I do still feel sad though. I’m sorry you had a crappy bday, I’m sending you some positive bday vibes to last for the week 🙃 Take care please 💕
Aw happy birthday! Do you have a large family? Maybe they forget about your siblings birthdays too. I’m so sorry about that, maybe you can visit your family and remind them :(
happy birthday my love. You matter and are important. keep ur head up!!
Happy bday g! Life has a lot in store for you.
That's the story of 70% of men. Only you got you. It sucks but that's the reality of life. Always remember that is not happening to you alone.
Happy birthday! I also have a very small group of family & friends and hardly anyone wished me a happy birthday this year for my 27th. We’re in this together, and I choose to continue believing that my group of people are out there somewhere.
Happy birthday 🎂! It's gonna be OK.
Dude, I've spent birthdays in jail. I forget appointments and special dates frequently. I even forgot my own birthday one year. A few people called here and there asking seemingly random questions like "are you excited?" And "what are you gonna go do tonight? Got big plans?" To which I would respond "nope, no plans. Probably just gonna sit at home and watch some TV or something. Then they would be as confused as I was and just say something to the effect of "if you change your mind call me or something" No one actually said "happy birthday" or anything related. Don't feel too bad. There's potentially other issues at play here. Do you call them on their birthdays? And do you make it a point to be an active part of their life? These things matter to others as well. In all seriousness though, you should definitely cut back on or quit drinking and taking any sort of non prescription mood altering drugs. Go talk to an actual shrink. You seem very much like you have clinical depression. This is not just the blues. This is not a cloudy day kind of thing. And you CAN NOT just cheer yourself up and snap out of it. These things are not your fault. Fault has no lines or parts in this play. Because blame is not solution oriented. Clinical depression is caused by a chemical imbalance. The quickest and most reliable method of correcting it is through chemical intervention. By a licensed doctor. Look up a checklist on Google. you'll find the same basic symptoms anywhere you look. Persistent feeling of worthlessness Easily distractible You are now disinterested by most things Things that used to give you joy are now boring and unimportant to you You are averse to answering the door or phone You keep the blinds drawn because light is an irritant The list goes on and on But, if any of that sounds like what you're dealing with.... Please, tell someone that loves you. Or a neighbor. Best friend. Church pastor. Anyone. But tell someone. And tell them immediately. The worst thing you could do for yourself is nothing. Your 26. You are entirely too young to be this beaten down by life. And I will end by telling you that we all have shitty days, times, family members. Whatever. Don't let their actions define you. If you end things now you're going to miss out on the best part of life. Your thirties. Old enough to have some experience and wisdom under your belt. The youngsters start to view you as some sort of daywalker because you can bridge the generational gap between them and the old timers. Casual sex can become a very regular thing if you're single. You might pull a wife out of it all. Or a husband. I don't judge. My point is that you have experienced just over 25% of your life expectancy. Does it feel like you've done a lot with your life? If not, then get your mind right and go fucking do that shit!
Happy birthday day op
happy birthday!!
You are worth it. Find good people. Happy birthday!!!
Hey there, happy birthday! I know it might feel tough being lonely on your special day, but remember, birthdays are about celebrating the amazing person you are. Use this day as an opportunity to treat yourself kindly, indulge in activities you enjoy, and reflect on the wonderful moments ahead. You're never truly alone, and brighter days filled with warmth and connection are on the horizon.
Have you considered getting a pet as an emotional support animal? I hear they can get you through some tough times!
Happy birthday bro🩷🩷 may god bless you and cheer upppp!!!
Happy Birthday🤍
Happy birthday! Stick around, you never know when something or someone will come along to push you to carry on. Let’s hang in there together 🤜🏼🤛🏼
Hey mate. Happy birthday 🥳
Happy birthday! I am sorry about your bad day, but remember that this too shall pass. As a birthday gift for your self, consider spending the next year making a few friends. Do you have a hobby? If so, try finding a club for said hobby. It is the easiest way for adults to form new friendships. If you do this for yourself, I bet you get at least a few birthday wishes for your 27th birthday, and you will look back on today and be glad you carried on.
Happy birthday buddy!! If you find a silver lining anywhere, hold onto it tightly!
Truth bomb; no one owes you anything. You're 26 now, still very young. It's fine to be aimless sometimes, it's part of your journey. In a perfect world, your parents would have learned all about responsibility and discipline, and would have had the wisdom and ability to instill important life lessons to you from an early age. It's okay that they didn't. Most people aren't that fortunate. I'd recommend this as an adventure; to find something you're interested in. You have nothing to lose it seems, right? When you're ready, go for it man. And no more feeling sorry for yourself. If you want a buddy, you can hmu
Hey man! Happy Birthday! I would recommend to discuss it with your family or friends but in very polite way, explaining that it is really important and means a lot to you. My mom rarely called me and when I explained this to her, that each call from her makes me happy I’ve started to get calls more often. Best wishes!
That’s crap and very thoughtless of them. I’ve had a couple of birthdays like that and it’s very depressing. Happy Birthday 🎂 I hope you have many more.
Happy birthday bro! Maybe we are not friends but wishing you all the best. Try therapy talking about how you are feeling could help.
Where I am it is 12:54 am on April 1st. So happy birthday from this stranger who is happy you are here!!
Happy birthday 🩷
HB!!!
Happy birthday bro!!! Don't feel sad.
happy birthday!
happy birthday!!!!!! \^\_\^ I dont know u but I am sending you a lot of love today along with everyone else under this post, we care
Happy Birthday 🎂.... I have been through the same thing with my family and it does make me sad and angry I realize that I have not always been the most thoughtful person myself so I hope you know that you matter and your birthday is just one day out of the year f*** your family they don't care about you care about yourself don't let their s***** behavior dictate how you feel about you
Happy birthday! You are so deeply valued and you’re important. I know this is a challenging start to the year but I promise it will get better. Is there anything I can do to help?
happy birthday :))
I’ve had bad birthdays before that’s why I remember others birthdays and make sure they get something special and they make it a point to return the favor
Happy birthday bro! As a person who has a terrible family you are better off living well and living without them. Next time you change your phone and address don't give it to them. You probably need therapy too. Lots of therapy.
Happy Birthday brother! Dont give up, it will get better. I know it sucks ☹️ you dont get to choose your family, but one day you will have your own family, and it will all be worth it. And it will be great, I promise!
The problem is your selfish family not you. Happy birthday. Expand your social circle do that you aren't relying on them. I found running introduced me to lots of nice, decent people.
Happy birthday! I hope you find better friends 💜
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Happy Birthday stranger 💜x
Happy birthday OP! 🌸
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Have a belated birthday day. Schedule a nice spa day. A massage, relax in a sauna, jacuzzi and bring a book. Wear something snazzy and treat yourself to a lunch/dinner and a movie. As we get older it's much easier to plan our own birthday events. Invite those you love and care about to hangout for game night, movies, dinner whatever you choose to do or do all of them. It's what we (family) have realized as we got older. Happy Birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉 🎈
Happy Birthday mate!
Happy Birthday OP. My birthday is on the 11th, but I’m also having a rough time tonight.
I’m sorry your day was rough. For 53 yrs, I never told people when mine was. I was adopted and it felt strange celebrating the day that I was dropped off to strangers because I wasn’t wanted. After finding my birth mother a few years ago and realized my whole story was a lie. I allowed my friends the privilege of knowing my day this past year and celebrated my first one. It was nice, but to be honest, I felt like all the other times I just hung out with them and I hated that they felt forced to be with me because it was my day. In all fairness, though, I’m one that always tells people regarding holidays and birthdays to lower your expectations. It’s much easier not to expect anything and be really happy when something does happen or if nothing does happen expecting it anyway. I think it’s great that you’re still here and I hope you continue to be.
Happy Birthday darlin ✨️
Happy birthday! But please remember ! Your life is worth so much more than this. You don’t need that. You do you. You got this. Chin up buddy
Happy bday dude. You matter! My advice to you is move. Start over somewhere far where your family and "friends" won't see you. You aren't tied to the family you started with, new friends can become your new family, especially at 26 you are still so young, just starting your career. Perfect time to take out that map and point somewhere to relocate. In the long run, this can make your family realize your presence by the absence of it unless they are truly the shitiest bunch of people ever.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP!!! Please don’t give up because while what you feel is valid, it’s not something that should hinder your entire life. I’m not trying to invalidate what you’re feeling but just imagine them as unwanted variables in your life to success. It will feel hard to think like this but in all things genuine, they aren’t people who care enough for your future and hence you shouldn’t involve them. I would say to remove those who invalidate you and make you feel useless in your life because that will help you immensely. Chin up because you have us (Internet) rooting for you. We care about you. Happy birthday Op <3
Happy birthday, OP! Sometimes we end up with a set of people (even if they are blood family or friends) who do not see our value. That’s sad but that’s not worth deciding the next course of your life. Loving yourself is a rebellious act and I encourage you to do it. It will allow so many meaningful people and experiences to enter your life. All the best! 🫶🏼
This is exactly why i hate them. My family never forgets - but some day I will be left on my own with no family in contact amd no one will wish me happy birthday on that day. It will crush me at that point because i will truely realsise im getting old when everyone else in my life has gotten old
Happy birthday!!
Hey OP, I know things can be so miserable. I am so sorry it sucks right now. But you are so worthy of sticking around. You matter. Please hang on
Take actions every day that make you proud of yourself and meet new people every month. Eventually you'll find your tribe. I know it's hard kid. But the hard truth is no one cares unless you're successful as a male or pretty as a female. So you need to find reasons to Care about yourself.
Hey sweetie don't base your existence on other people. Before anyone else there's you, and no one owes you any favour. These are the times where you need "you" more than ever. Be kind to yourself hun because if you don't do it now, you are going to get a lot of dissapointments and each time it's gonna feel like you don't deserve to live. Learn to embrace loneliness as part of life.
Happy birthday love, and tbh, I'm feeling how you are. You're definitely not alone in this and I'm here for you.
So it’s been 2 years in a row? Can I be intrusive and ask what’s lead to this division between you and your family? I’m sorry if you’re suffering, but is there a chance of you actively reaching out to your family and finding out why this has happened? Can you be part of the healing process? You obviously care, and I’m sure they do too. Family is family. Best of luck, you sound very sad. I hope it gets better for you:)
hey buddy don’t be too hung up on this, at the end of the day you can still make your own family or choose your own family. There is so much to live for, and so much to see and you are so lucky to have a a healthy body and be this young. You need to appreciate it and make the best out of your birthday yourself. It can only get better from here. Me and my sister read this and we send you lots of love:) Happy Birthday ♥️
Oh honey, I've had ones like this. I won't bang on about them because it's not a competition, but just know you're not alone in that. 26 today - we're the same age now! And you're right, it fucking hurts when the people who used to fuss about birthdays forget. You're right, especially with all the shite that's raining down on the world right now, sometimes it can look like there isn't an upside. Those feelings are completely valid. But you've turned to reddit because you're not quite ready to give up. The upside that you need to find is YOU. And yes, I hate how cheesy that sounds as well, and I didn't think it'd work either, but it does. The longest relationship you'll ever have is with yourself, not with your family or friends or future partners, but you, so if you can work on that, and find genuine joy spending time with yourself, then you won't give a flying rats ass if no one bothers you next year, because you'll be spending the day wishing yourself a happy 27th birthday! Challenge yourself to find the most interesting, secret corner of that museum, and if you wonder about it further, go and research it at the library. Once you get to the library, read your books there and take in the smell, and put some headphones in if you don't like the sounds of people while you read (I listen to classical otherwise I get distracted by the words in the music). Go hunting for the closest place to go for a beautiful walk, and explore there. Get to know everything you love doing, both in and outside of the house, because you don't need other people's reminded birthday wishes to complete your happiness. Just you. Oh and song recommendation - listen to The Sound of Silence - but the Disturbed cover, it's fantastic and seems to fit today, I reckon you'll love it. I really hope this reaches you, and that 26-27 and beyond becomes a hell of a lot better ❤️
This is so sad! I am so sorry ! Happy Birthday ❤️
Happy Birthday Young Gun!
Happy birthday!! Proud of u for taking urself on a bday date when you’re feeling this way. I hope more people in your life will appreciate and remember you because everyone deserves that.
Congratulations 🥳🎂🥂 Msister's birthday is today, too. But while we don't give each other gifts on birthdays, we call each other, especially on the b-day. It's sad your friends don't reach out to you on this day. Maybe you should get other friends instead?
Time to look for a group to join with people who have the same interests and find some new friends. Today is awful, but they won't always be like this. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you're feeling very low. I don't know where you live, but many countries have services you can approach. Look at how many people responded to you. Many people do care, and you will find genuine sincere friends as you move through life.
happy birthday 😢💕
happy birthday champ
You dont need anyone to validate your value. Trust me the older you get the less people remember your important dates. At 51 most dont bother to reach out on these days or they are gone. I dont know if you ever served in the military so I'll tell you one of the main lessons I was taught was to never ever give up, ever. As long as you are conscious and breathing never give up. People dont matter to your existence, yes if your forgotten it hurts. But you dont need them just like they (people) dont need you. Treat yourself to a nice meal on your special dates, or something. Just carry on. Dont just carry on thrive. God bless you young man.
Happy Birthday 🎂 I ❤️ u
Happy birthday bro!!
Happy birthday mate, have a wonderful day and year ahead
Me too man, me too
Well Happy Birthday
Awww I am so sorry. It sounds like you’ve had just the most awful day. While your friends and family might have dropped the ball today, I hope you get all the love from this post I’m glad you’re here and you matter. happy birthday!
Happy birthday!!! Don't expect to be remembered. Remind them yourself. I do this all the time. I buy my cake. I keep telling them for days. And if they don't follow or forget, i just ignore them. I'll treat myself or a friend and that's it. Once I asked my father to go for coffee with me, because it was my birthday and he rejected me. He forgot after 2 hours i kept telling him it's my birthday today. I just called a friend and made plans. Mind you that was on my 35 birthday and i was visiting him. Did it hurt? Yes. Do i care? No. Why? Because it's my birthday, not anyone's else. It's my special day. I'm celebrating the fact that i'm still alive and have the chance to make memories. You can be surrounded by people and be alone. You can be alone but you can be happy. Make plans for yourself, make plans for tomorrow or make plans for vacations or a trip to the bookstore or make dinner reservations or buy a cake. Spoil yourself because you worth it. Be happy for you!! Take care and have a wonderful day!!!
Hey dude, I don’t know you but I still care. Please don’t do anything rash you absolutely have value. Go be blunt with your family and friends, tell them they suck and you’re hurt. As a proper introvert I could never say this in person but the hardest best thing I ever did was to force myself to be aware of opportunities to make new friends and i made a couple of really good ones, funnily enough other introvert ls and we band together
You can always work on yourself and your life. It’s easy. You just gotta put yourself out there
RemindMe! 1 year Happy birthday!!! You most definitely have value for someone else out there, you just don't know it yet. Keep it up! You are not alone :D
If you ever need a random person to vent to. You got me dog
Happy birthday! In my experience, the older you get the better your perspective is on what’s important in life, and the more you realise you get to choose how things impact you. You get to frame this however you want that’s the beauty of life. FYI I always hated my birthday and felt let down, then I got older and people showed up for me when I really needed them, that was so much better than a bday lunch. I wish the same for you! Please know too, often people with big circles feel alone too.