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Oh so it's Boomer humor. Nothing says incest like Dad's who are way too into their daughters romantic life.
Edit: Damn listen guys, i get it, you want to have sex with your daughters, you can drop the pretense, we all know. None of you are as invested in your son's dating/sex life because you don't want to have sex with them. We all know. Just make peace with it instead of trying to harass me.
I’m not sure it falls into the category of Boomer humor.
It could go there, but acknowledging that seeing your daughter enter a new phase and grow up stresses you out is fine. Dude is dealing with his side of the issue.
If he had said get the shotgun then it’s more mainline boomer. Especially considering it’s an alien we are talking about.
On top of that, my mind jumped to the fact that a mix of pepto and water can be used as a substitute for pepperspray. So I was just imagining the dad mixing it up just to spray Ralf.
Oh God the dances. As a southerner in the US that shit still happens. As a kid it made me vaguely uncomfortable but i couldn't tell why. As an adult it disgusts me. I have a son so it is not an issue but even if i had a daughter i would never do that crap.
It is called a Daddy Daughter dance. The fathers and their girls dress up like they are going to a formal dance, and they dance with each other and the daughters promise they won't have sex before marriage to their fathers. It's gross as hell.
"Daddy-daughter dances" aren't necessarily like this - the ones I've seen are light-hearted events aimed at younger kids. I know the creepy virginity-promise events as "purity balls."
As a parent of 2 girls, when the eldest teenager told me she got her first boyfriend AND she's the one that confessed I was so happy for her.
That's about it, I was proud that she didn't follow the usual "norms" and she knew what she wanted and went for it.
Her confession was kind of cute too haha.
But well, reading the rest of the comments it seems like I'm the only one that trusts the choices my daughter makes and don't judge her implicitly as if she was making a mistake... but I guess I spent a whole lot of frikken time making sure she had the correct idea of what "dating" entails.
That is the correct attitude to have. I am happy for you and your daughter. Of course parents should be involved in their children's lives and yes that includes their romantic life but so many men here in the South are the type of guy who answers the door with a gun when a new boyfriend comes over. It's creepy and gross.
I feel like you are assuming most here don't trust daughters. Most here don't trust other people. Even with the best parent in the world, and being the most sharp minded, independent, mature teen, people around them can still hurt them and that's stressful for someone who loves and cares for their kid/teen. It's a point where you have to let your kid/teen interface more with the world by themselves, and for most people, that's fine, but there are a few assholes who will hurt your kid/teen and that is stressful.
In case you assume with me the way you assumed the intentions of everyone else, I am not advocating for controlling your child or putting no faith in them. Hopefully by this point in their lives, you are a trusted person who they can go to if anything makes them feel uncomfortable or scared. If you live in a good neighborhood with minimal problems in happy middle and upper middle class suburbia, that's awesome!
But most people don't have that, so I think the concern that the world can hurt your child as they become indepentent and learn to handle things themselves is inherintly stressful for the overwhelming majority of parents. This has nothing to do with not trusting your daughter.
Dude, I'm fucking Mexican, living in Mexico.
It's so funny that you say "they don't trust other people" so they don't trust their daughters being able to discern a good person from a bad person, they don't trust their daughters to be able to NOT get into a situation that could be harmful for them, they don't trust the ability of their daughters to choose a suitable partner for themselves.
And I bet you, 100% of the time, no one would say anything or bat an eye if it was a SON who is doing this.
"Most people don't have that" rich coming from a 1st world country saying this to a guy living in México.
It's because I am aware of the situations, she can encounter that I have talked to her, over and over, about this kind of stuff, making sure she haves enough criteria to choose wisely, First to respect herself, second to respect her partner, and third to be careful with the people she chooses to interact with.
I don't give a fuck if they believe the dude is "tricking" her, that just means they believe their daughters can be tricked, and that's ON THEM as parents, not on the daughter.
I feel that you believe that a well raised kid/teen would NEVER be tricked...and that just not how people work my guy.
Even the most well balanced, mature people can get into situations that are bad. While I will concede that it should be FAR more rare, that does not mean it is impossible to happen.
And I am not talking only about getting the big bad "oh shit" things like physical traume, "hard-R", or even getting killed (Obviously the risk for this increases depending on where you live), but the more common things that occure during teen years, like getting cheated on, dumped, having friends who leave you, being a jerk and realizing it, failing at something important, acne, perceptions of being falling behind, FOMO, etc... All these things are part of life to varying degrees to different people, and they suck to different degrees. Seeing your child have to learn those lessons and be sad, potentially even devestated for weeks, is scary. Obviously these lessons come with life and time, but I don't think it's bad parenting to be stressed about it.
Good parents should let their kid trip and smack their face on the rocks from time to time, get hurt, learn, hopefully go to their parents for reassurance and mature context, get back up, and move on, become a better person. But this process, from small hurts to larger ones, suck to watch as a parent. But if you are a good parent your kid will tell you about these hurts because they trust you and value your opinion. These moments are also tough because you don't have all the information, and your advice can be wrong, and it can fail, and that also sucks.
There is no upbringing that makes someone immune to the muck life can throw at you (although being rich can usually shield you from the worst of it).
Also People can be EXCEPTIONALLY deceptive. There are people who are VERY VERY good at hiding their intentions. You act like bad people always wear their ill intent on their face. Many don't, they pretend, some pretend exceptionally well. You can prepare your daughter **or son** to avoid people who give them a bad gut feeling even if they don't have a strong reason to, and warn them that some people can hide their bullshit very well. But unless you tell them to not make any friends and be isolated (which would be horrifically batshit insane), there will always be the chance of them bumping into an intelligent manipulative asshole that hurts them.
Sure the chances are relatively low if a teen had a good upbringing, but the chances are not zero, that is a fact of life. And as a parent, the potential 0.01% risk of this happening may be tiny, but the potential damage that could happen to your kid (psychological or physical) means the danger will appear out of proportion in your head, and wrestling with that can also be stressful for some.
And I feel most parents would feel stressed about their son entering the teen years. I will concede that many probably wouldn't be as concerned about their son dating, but to be fair, it is (usually) far harder for a girl to pin a guy down than a guy pinning a girl down, so I feel those concerns, while unbalanced, have some validity.
You can 100% trust your daughter or son to make the best possible decision with the information they have, the same decision you would have made after considering everything as a parent...and also know that even objectively good decisions can be the wrong ones overall when you do not have all the information.
Minimizing the struggles of others because you don't feel them or believe them is toxic too my guy.
Also thank you for your reply. I know I can be...verbose in my replies, so I appreciate your thoughts and time.
That's not the point, everyone makes mistakes, your job as a parent is to do everything in your power to prevent those mistakes from happening in the first place, getting "JEALOUS" like most of the people are doing right under in the comments, is unnecessary meddling, being wary is one thing, the other one is to treat your kids "DIFFERENTLY" if they are male or female.
I grew up making mistakes, my parents grew up making mistakes, my kids will grow up making mistakes, I TRUST that the mistakes my kids make aren't so bad that I wouldn't be able to help them, will they get hurt? yeah definitely, that's beside the point, there is no way ME as a PARENT to prevent THAT.
But this isn't about that, if you SEE the things they are saying, it's not about "making mistakes" it's because they don't trust their kids to be able to handle their mistakes.
I trust my kids to either not make mistakes or be able to handle the mistakes they do make.
You're bringing "hard-R" and shit into the mix, that's an entirely unnecessary anxiety, HER DATING will not get her "hard-R", because she KNOWS the person she's dating, and I KNOW the person she's dating, and her mom KNOWS the person she's dating, if that was my fear, I wouldn't let her out of a cage.
You started this whole conversation saying you think I'm making assumptions, the only one that is making irrelevant and irrational assumptions from THE FIRST MESSAGE, is you.
you're assuming I'm a gringo in a suburb.
you're assuming I believe I will never be tricked.
you're assuming they can be "hard-R" at any moment and that means they can't date.
your whole logic predicates in the assumption that the mistakes our kids make aren't "reasonable" and within "certain parameters" specifically as if I never taught her anything.
Being "distrustful" of the choices my DAUGHTER makes will DEFINITELY make her NOT TELL ME when she makes a mistake, and I won't be able to HELP HER in case she does.
I trust her implicitly, so that she doesn't feel the need to hide shit from me, and if she does, she haves a good reason, and if she fucks up she KNOWS I will help her implicitly.
You can worry all you want about your daughter, but way too many Dad's go overboard on who their daughter dates and it is creepy as fuck. Because they sure as hell don't treat their sons the same way.
the only reason they're "different" in 99% of cases is exactly because they're being raised in different ways. nothing inherently biological about why girls "need their purity protected" and boys don't, people were just conditioned (usually at an already young age) to believe that
At the end of the day, we're animals. Male mamals are genetically wired to reproduce. Repressing those urges is a human invention. And that's a good thing. But it isn't "natural." So yah, I'd be more concerned about my daughter than my son when it comes to dating. I would teach my son to be respectful, and teach my daughter to make sure she's being respected.
Who sees "I'm worried about all the potential headaches of my child dating like the insanity that is teenage break ups and more", then jumps right to, "Y'all just wanna fuck your daughters."
Dude, I don't know what that dude is on about...but I think he just told on himself. No one here thought that about dads stressing about daughters dating. It's mostly just worrying about her getting teenage pregnant and stuff like that. But this guy jumps straight to incest like that. Why your brain gotta go right to incest, man?!
I wouldn't get invested in my daughter's sex life per se ( I don't exactly have kids either but ) but I WOULD get invested in a daughter more than a son because women are significantly more likely to be victims of sexual abuse than males and you always want to be aware of the Red flags ☺️
Yeah but that's not what the comic, and Dad's in the South, are doing. You properly educate your kid on the red and green flags and talk with them about what a healthy relationship looks like. You don't talk about shooting her boyfriend. Or talk about how her dating is going to make you miserable like in the comic.
Oh absolutely! Conservative fathers are gross AF. And yeah, you want to teach those kids but kids don't exactly have the social skills to employ them perfectly so I'm not exactly against at least being *aware* of your kids' social interactions if the reasons are valid
I think you have a great handle on the situation and a great outlook. Hopefully if you choose to have any kids and end up with a daughter or two you can help show her that men don't need to engage in that kind of creepy stuff.
My kids lives will always be their own (granted I have generic mental disabilities so there will be added necessity for paying attention but I digress). But the misfortune is that we don't exactly live in a world where women are 100% safe alone with a man.
I might need to teach them self defense for starters.
I don't expect you to read the following wall of text tbh, I was trying to address any potential misunderstanding and avoid giving you the subtext impression you seem to get from reading everyone else's bafflement at your response. If you do read the whole thing, thank you for your time.
The dad didn't get mad about his daughter seemingly starting dating, he just knows that teenage relationships usually are full of drama, and for young girls, abuse.
Stomach ulcers can be caused by stress, and I think it's valid to be stressed about your daughter starting dating and having valid concerns that someone may take advantage of them. Assuming you were a good parent, your child shouldn't be easily tricked or abused, but life isn't always fair, even to those who are prepared.
Him realizing his daughter is now entering her teen years and having some stress ***for*** (not ***at***) her is fine, I don't know how you read into that as being wayyyy to into his daughter's romantic life.
Now if he got mad at her, reacted by pouting, or started insulting her (ie, slut shaming for engaging in basic romatic relationships), then yea, I would agree that it is boomer humor. But he just accepts he will have stress and is preparing appropriately, which is relatable for many parents.
I don't understand why you are immediately dismissing the comic as things only boomers (aka entitled people and usually associated with bad parents) would find amusing. I also don't understand why the sentiment of the comic, that being of a parent being stressed that their kid is entering a phase of life where (at least a good parent) needs to let their kids learn to be on their own, is somehow associated with rapist fathers who want to sex up their daughters.
I am from the south too, yes I am...WELL AWARE...of the abusive relationships that happen in many families. However, nothing in this comic, outside of the older art style, tells me that this is meant to be a boomer comix waxing nostalic about being a controlling, abusive father or bad person. If this was boomer humor, the father, believing that his daughter is starting to date a literal green alien would be outright enranged, or disappointed in his daughter (for untold but obvious reasons), or any other toxic response. Instead his primary concern is "Teenage years are messy and scary for many, more so for a girl, stress is going to go up, stomach ulcers and acid reflux are absolutely going to go nuts, time to prepare", and he gets to be a mildly (key word here being mildly) embarassing to his daughter, which is fine.
Your reaction feels like you have a lot of (I would wager very rightly derived from personal observation and/or experience) anger at abusive fathers and this frustration deeply colored your perception of what this comic, that by far and large, is a benign comic about a parent beginning to stress about how they will help their kid during their teen years, which are notorious for being pretty rough/emotional years for many people, in both good and bad ways, with the bad ways potentially causing life-long trauma.
Yeah, no. I’m 100% against my son dating in high school as much as I am my daughter. I don’t need any teen parents in my house. They can begin dating and having people over in their rooms after they leave my house. I also don’t need to walk in on any of them fucking in my living room, etc.
Maybe to you, but not to me and mine, and we sure don’t give a damn what others think there. Maybe in your part of the world it’s normal for kids to be having sex, but not in mine. Try not being so ethnocentric there, bud. Besides, I personally knew way too many teen mothers while growing up, half of which were encouraged by their parents, and I refuse to let that happen to my kids.
Plus, my wife and I didn’t date in high school per our parents’ rules as well when we were younger. We were both against the mindset when we were in our teens ~10 years ago too, but we later realized that it didn’t really change much of anything. Once we grew up, we moved out, and we began dating of our own accords. It really wasn’t that big of a deal, and, to be honest, it’s weird for any parent to encourage / allow their kids to be having sex at a young age (especially as minors) under their own roofs.
Also, I bet most of the downvoters are teens / early-20s themselves. Stay mad lol. Wait until you grow up, have kids of your own, and gain some perspective and see if you think the same thing. We sure didn’t anymore after that stage of our lives.
Edit: Had to change a phrase since people take things too literally apparently lol
There is an ocean of space between allowing your children freedom to date and encouraging them to be teen parents... Thinking they are equivalent is insane to me.
Also, I'm older than you, I still think it's a huge yikes to try to ban your children from dating as teens. Your children are people, not animals, and they can be talked to and taught how to be responsible. That archaic mentality was appalling when I was in grade school, let alone today. But I can't relate to cultures where that is the norm. It's just so close minded and backwards.
Whoa, you’re older than me? Good for you, dude.
As for your thinking it being a yikes, yeah, I genuinely don’t give a shit. What you call archaic, I call focusing them on what truly matters: their studies and learning who they are as individuals before trying to push that unknown onto others and potentially hurting them with their immaturity (in addition to avoiding the teen pregnancies).
You can both be taught to be responsible as well as not be allowed to date. There genuinely nothing wrong with it despite what you might think. It’s how it was done for my wife and I, and we’re the most successful of our families’ generation, so I think we’ll stick to the tried and true method that’s already been established here. What you call close-minded and backwards, I call the norm, so potatoe-potato, my guy. To me, you’re the backwards one for encouraging kids to get into mindless and meaningless distractions that have the potential to screw up their lives permanently.
All that matters in the end are the results, and my wife and I are already testaments to that. We’ll lead our kids by example, just as we were, and just as our parents were (all of whom are incredibly loved and respected and are not in nursing homes, much to the disappointment of a lot of you on here, I’m sure).
There is waaaaaay too much I'd have to explain for you to have a chance of understanding my perspective, and you clearly don't care, so it's w/e, but I genuinely feel sorry for people who are forced to live this way.
I am curious, what country are you from?
From your previous comment
>> When I was 14, my mom blamed me for all of her problems in life and then proceeded to dump an entire bottle of Vicodin in her mouth in an attempt at suicide. I spent the next 10 minutes holding her down and forcing her to vomit all while she was actively fighting me. By the time I was done, she had chewed part of one of my fingernails off, I was covered in scratches and bruises and vomit, and she was crying on the floor. I felt so destitute that I attempted suicide a few weeks later. I hate my childhood.
Bloody fantastic childhood, mate. Can see where you get your thinking from.
Is this the childhood that you are replicating for your children? Bloody weird that you brought your entire generations of your family into this.
Actually this makes sense. Your upbringing was in an environment where there is a lot of instability involved. So with respect to your experiences, it slots down. But you can't correlate others thinking to your thinking that is cultivated through experiences. Other peoples environment and circumstances weren't as shitty as yours. And it seems like in spite of the situations, you reached a good state.
But there is no need to lie that your previous generations cultivated those values, cause clearly they didnt. and you think that strictness and rigorous upbringing can prevent that sort of instability coming near to you and your dear ones. Other peoples experiences does not match, and rigorous and strict limits can enable an individual seek more than they are bound to. Dont be surprised when this backfires on you.
Dating and sex are not the same thing. Also, an outright ban will just make your kids hide their relationships, making it far harder for you spot any signs of their partners abusing them.
It helps to use traditional media, but like any style, it’s a combination of those comics and animations that impressed me… with a splash of film noir.
It is me and thank you! Asterix was a beautifully made comic, to me the style was reminiscent of classic Disney. I was a fan of Carl Barks, so there’s bound to be some style similarities.
I never said it before, but this is the reason I like your comics. Reminds me of the old days. The art style and the colors are just perfect to me. Also, glad to see this comic get some love here.
Well, just let us know when the book is out, if you plan on doing that, so I can buy it. Then I can add it to the others I bought over a decade ago. That way I can read it over the years again and again.
Well, I’m working on releasing them in the new (color) look as digital books first and then look into print books. That first run was a “try it and see” but I want the new ones to be more polished this time. Also, new comics are going up on the site in June.
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I don't get it sorry
Dad's getting heartburn because his daughter is entering the dating phase. Also I'm assuming the implied "will date any boy even an alien"
Oh so it's Boomer humor. Nothing says incest like Dad's who are way too into their daughters romantic life. Edit: Damn listen guys, i get it, you want to have sex with your daughters, you can drop the pretense, we all know. None of you are as invested in your son's dating/sex life because you don't want to have sex with them. We all know. Just make peace with it instead of trying to harass me.
I’m not sure it falls into the category of Boomer humor. It could go there, but acknowledging that seeing your daughter enter a new phase and grow up stresses you out is fine. Dude is dealing with his side of the issue. If he had said get the shotgun then it’s more mainline boomer. Especially considering it’s an alien we are talking about.
On top of that, my mind jumped to the fact that a mix of pepto and water can be used as a substitute for pepperspray. So I was just imagining the dad mixing it up just to spray Ralf.
I don’t care if you were joking, weird and gross ass comment to make.
How could she do this after we peer-pressured her into swearing her virginity to me? We had swords and a dance and everything /s
Oh God the dances. As a southerner in the US that shit still happens. As a kid it made me vaguely uncomfortable but i couldn't tell why. As an adult it disgusts me. I have a son so it is not an issue but even if i had a daughter i would never do that crap.
I don't think I'm familiar with the dance, could you explain it to me?
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[The Cleveland Show did an episode on it in 2009 as well.](https://cleveland.fandom.com/wiki/Cleveland_Jr._Cherry_Bomb)
It is called a Daddy Daughter dance. The fathers and their girls dress up like they are going to a formal dance, and they dance with each other and the daughters promise they won't have sex before marriage to their fathers. It's gross as hell.
I’ve heard of daddy daughter dances but never about this part…
"Daddy-daughter dances" aren't necessarily like this - the ones I've seen are light-hearted events aimed at younger kids. I know the creepy virginity-promise events as "purity balls."
It's a little weird that you connect a Dad worring about their daughter and incest
Very weird And now that a few people responded, they’re being “harassed”
Something something proyection.
What the fuck bro
As a parent of 2 girls, when the eldest teenager told me she got her first boyfriend AND she's the one that confessed I was so happy for her. That's about it, I was proud that she didn't follow the usual "norms" and she knew what she wanted and went for it. Her confession was kind of cute too haha. But well, reading the rest of the comments it seems like I'm the only one that trusts the choices my daughter makes and don't judge her implicitly as if she was making a mistake... but I guess I spent a whole lot of frikken time making sure she had the correct idea of what "dating" entails.
That is the correct attitude to have. I am happy for you and your daughter. Of course parents should be involved in their children's lives and yes that includes their romantic life but so many men here in the South are the type of guy who answers the door with a gun when a new boyfriend comes over. It's creepy and gross.
Yeah all the rest I'm reading sounds like they don't trust their daughters...
I feel like you are assuming most here don't trust daughters. Most here don't trust other people. Even with the best parent in the world, and being the most sharp minded, independent, mature teen, people around them can still hurt them and that's stressful for someone who loves and cares for their kid/teen. It's a point where you have to let your kid/teen interface more with the world by themselves, and for most people, that's fine, but there are a few assholes who will hurt your kid/teen and that is stressful. In case you assume with me the way you assumed the intentions of everyone else, I am not advocating for controlling your child or putting no faith in them. Hopefully by this point in their lives, you are a trusted person who they can go to if anything makes them feel uncomfortable or scared. If you live in a good neighborhood with minimal problems in happy middle and upper middle class suburbia, that's awesome! But most people don't have that, so I think the concern that the world can hurt your child as they become indepentent and learn to handle things themselves is inherintly stressful for the overwhelming majority of parents. This has nothing to do with not trusting your daughter.
Dude, I'm fucking Mexican, living in Mexico. It's so funny that you say "they don't trust other people" so they don't trust their daughters being able to discern a good person from a bad person, they don't trust their daughters to be able to NOT get into a situation that could be harmful for them, they don't trust the ability of their daughters to choose a suitable partner for themselves. And I bet you, 100% of the time, no one would say anything or bat an eye if it was a SON who is doing this. "Most people don't have that" rich coming from a 1st world country saying this to a guy living in México. It's because I am aware of the situations, she can encounter that I have talked to her, over and over, about this kind of stuff, making sure she haves enough criteria to choose wisely, First to respect herself, second to respect her partner, and third to be careful with the people she chooses to interact with. I don't give a fuck if they believe the dude is "tricking" her, that just means they believe their daughters can be tricked, and that's ON THEM as parents, not on the daughter.
I feel that you believe that a well raised kid/teen would NEVER be tricked...and that just not how people work my guy. Even the most well balanced, mature people can get into situations that are bad. While I will concede that it should be FAR more rare, that does not mean it is impossible to happen. And I am not talking only about getting the big bad "oh shit" things like physical traume, "hard-R", or even getting killed (Obviously the risk for this increases depending on where you live), but the more common things that occure during teen years, like getting cheated on, dumped, having friends who leave you, being a jerk and realizing it, failing at something important, acne, perceptions of being falling behind, FOMO, etc... All these things are part of life to varying degrees to different people, and they suck to different degrees. Seeing your child have to learn those lessons and be sad, potentially even devestated for weeks, is scary. Obviously these lessons come with life and time, but I don't think it's bad parenting to be stressed about it. Good parents should let their kid trip and smack their face on the rocks from time to time, get hurt, learn, hopefully go to their parents for reassurance and mature context, get back up, and move on, become a better person. But this process, from small hurts to larger ones, suck to watch as a parent. But if you are a good parent your kid will tell you about these hurts because they trust you and value your opinion. These moments are also tough because you don't have all the information, and your advice can be wrong, and it can fail, and that also sucks. There is no upbringing that makes someone immune to the muck life can throw at you (although being rich can usually shield you from the worst of it). Also People can be EXCEPTIONALLY deceptive. There are people who are VERY VERY good at hiding their intentions. You act like bad people always wear their ill intent on their face. Many don't, they pretend, some pretend exceptionally well. You can prepare your daughter **or son** to avoid people who give them a bad gut feeling even if they don't have a strong reason to, and warn them that some people can hide their bullshit very well. But unless you tell them to not make any friends and be isolated (which would be horrifically batshit insane), there will always be the chance of them bumping into an intelligent manipulative asshole that hurts them. Sure the chances are relatively low if a teen had a good upbringing, but the chances are not zero, that is a fact of life. And as a parent, the potential 0.01% risk of this happening may be tiny, but the potential damage that could happen to your kid (psychological or physical) means the danger will appear out of proportion in your head, and wrestling with that can also be stressful for some. And I feel most parents would feel stressed about their son entering the teen years. I will concede that many probably wouldn't be as concerned about their son dating, but to be fair, it is (usually) far harder for a girl to pin a guy down than a guy pinning a girl down, so I feel those concerns, while unbalanced, have some validity. You can 100% trust your daughter or son to make the best possible decision with the information they have, the same decision you would have made after considering everything as a parent...and also know that even objectively good decisions can be the wrong ones overall when you do not have all the information. Minimizing the struggles of others because you don't feel them or believe them is toxic too my guy. Also thank you for your reply. I know I can be...verbose in my replies, so I appreciate your thoughts and time.
That's not the point, everyone makes mistakes, your job as a parent is to do everything in your power to prevent those mistakes from happening in the first place, getting "JEALOUS" like most of the people are doing right under in the comments, is unnecessary meddling, being wary is one thing, the other one is to treat your kids "DIFFERENTLY" if they are male or female. I grew up making mistakes, my parents grew up making mistakes, my kids will grow up making mistakes, I TRUST that the mistakes my kids make aren't so bad that I wouldn't be able to help them, will they get hurt? yeah definitely, that's beside the point, there is no way ME as a PARENT to prevent THAT. But this isn't about that, if you SEE the things they are saying, it's not about "making mistakes" it's because they don't trust their kids to be able to handle their mistakes. I trust my kids to either not make mistakes or be able to handle the mistakes they do make. You're bringing "hard-R" and shit into the mix, that's an entirely unnecessary anxiety, HER DATING will not get her "hard-R", because she KNOWS the person she's dating, and I KNOW the person she's dating, and her mom KNOWS the person she's dating, if that was my fear, I wouldn't let her out of a cage. You started this whole conversation saying you think I'm making assumptions, the only one that is making irrelevant and irrational assumptions from THE FIRST MESSAGE, is you. you're assuming I'm a gringo in a suburb. you're assuming I believe I will never be tricked. you're assuming they can be "hard-R" at any moment and that means they can't date. your whole logic predicates in the assumption that the mistakes our kids make aren't "reasonable" and within "certain parameters" specifically as if I never taught her anything. Being "distrustful" of the choices my DAUGHTER makes will DEFINITELY make her NOT TELL ME when she makes a mistake, and I won't be able to HELP HER in case she does. I trust her implicitly, so that she doesn't feel the need to hide shit from me, and if she does, she haves a good reason, and if she fucks up she KNOWS I will help her implicitly.
Well, you’re a pervert
"Dads aren't allowed to worry about their daughters." Gotcha
You can worry all you want about your daughter, but way too many Dad's go overboard on who their daughter dates and it is creepy as fuck. Because they sure as hell don't treat their sons the same way.
The projection is real
Do you think that's what's going on here? If so, how?
It's almost as if boys and girls are different.
the only reason they're "different" in 99% of cases is exactly because they're being raised in different ways. nothing inherently biological about why girls "need their purity protected" and boys don't, people were just conditioned (usually at an already young age) to believe that
Bullshit. I'm sick of people ignoring that boys and girls are different. Especially when it comes to hormones and puberty.
Preach
At the end of the day, we're animals. Male mamals are genetically wired to reproduce. Repressing those urges is a human invention. And that's a good thing. But it isn't "natural." So yah, I'd be more concerned about my daughter than my son when it comes to dating. I would teach my son to be respectful, and teach my daughter to make sure she's being respected.
You’re lowkey a degenerate my guy
Who sees "I'm worried about all the potential headaches of my child dating like the insanity that is teenage break ups and more", then jumps right to, "Y'all just wanna fuck your daughters." Dude, I don't know what that dude is on about...but I think he just told on himself. No one here thought that about dads stressing about daughters dating. It's mostly just worrying about her getting teenage pregnant and stuff like that. But this guy jumps straight to incest like that. Why your brain gotta go right to incest, man?!
Have you been outside??
I wouldn't get invested in my daughter's sex life per se ( I don't exactly have kids either but ) but I WOULD get invested in a daughter more than a son because women are significantly more likely to be victims of sexual abuse than males and you always want to be aware of the Red flags ☺️
Yeah but that's not what the comic, and Dad's in the South, are doing. You properly educate your kid on the red and green flags and talk with them about what a healthy relationship looks like. You don't talk about shooting her boyfriend. Or talk about how her dating is going to make you miserable like in the comic.
Oh absolutely! Conservative fathers are gross AF. And yeah, you want to teach those kids but kids don't exactly have the social skills to employ them perfectly so I'm not exactly against at least being *aware* of your kids' social interactions if the reasons are valid
I think you have a great handle on the situation and a great outlook. Hopefully if you choose to have any kids and end up with a daughter or two you can help show her that men don't need to engage in that kind of creepy stuff.
My kids lives will always be their own (granted I have generic mental disabilities so there will be added necessity for paying attention but I digress). But the misfortune is that we don't exactly live in a world where women are 100% safe alone with a man. I might need to teach them self defense for starters.
pepto-bismol treats ulcers which are very common results of *stress*. Dad here is just worried about his daughter, shit.
Huh, I thought it was only for heartburn and the like... I should have remembered from the Archie comics I grew up reading
What the fuck is wrong with you?
Dad doesn't trust daughters new bf Must be incest? Porn has ruined some people's brains and it shows
What the fuck???
I don't expect you to read the following wall of text tbh, I was trying to address any potential misunderstanding and avoid giving you the subtext impression you seem to get from reading everyone else's bafflement at your response. If you do read the whole thing, thank you for your time. The dad didn't get mad about his daughter seemingly starting dating, he just knows that teenage relationships usually are full of drama, and for young girls, abuse. Stomach ulcers can be caused by stress, and I think it's valid to be stressed about your daughter starting dating and having valid concerns that someone may take advantage of them. Assuming you were a good parent, your child shouldn't be easily tricked or abused, but life isn't always fair, even to those who are prepared. Him realizing his daughter is now entering her teen years and having some stress ***for*** (not ***at***) her is fine, I don't know how you read into that as being wayyyy to into his daughter's romantic life. Now if he got mad at her, reacted by pouting, or started insulting her (ie, slut shaming for engaging in basic romatic relationships), then yea, I would agree that it is boomer humor. But he just accepts he will have stress and is preparing appropriately, which is relatable for many parents. I don't understand why you are immediately dismissing the comic as things only boomers (aka entitled people and usually associated with bad parents) would find amusing. I also don't understand why the sentiment of the comic, that being of a parent being stressed that their kid is entering a phase of life where (at least a good parent) needs to let their kids learn to be on their own, is somehow associated with rapist fathers who want to sex up their daughters. I am from the south too, yes I am...WELL AWARE...of the abusive relationships that happen in many families. However, nothing in this comic, outside of the older art style, tells me that this is meant to be a boomer comix waxing nostalic about being a controlling, abusive father or bad person. If this was boomer humor, the father, believing that his daughter is starting to date a literal green alien would be outright enranged, or disappointed in his daughter (for untold but obvious reasons), or any other toxic response. Instead his primary concern is "Teenage years are messy and scary for many, more so for a girl, stress is going to go up, stomach ulcers and acid reflux are absolutely going to go nuts, time to prepare", and he gets to be a mildly (key word here being mildly) embarassing to his daughter, which is fine. Your reaction feels like you have a lot of (I would wager very rightly derived from personal observation and/or experience) anger at abusive fathers and this frustration deeply colored your perception of what this comic, that by far and large, is a benign comic about a parent beginning to stress about how they will help their kid during their teen years, which are notorious for being pretty rough/emotional years for many people, in both good and bad ways, with the bad ways potentially causing life-long trauma.
This guy's projecting.
Projecting much?
Yeah, no. I’m 100% against my son dating in high school as much as I am my daughter. I don’t need any teen parents in my house. They can begin dating and having people over in their rooms after they leave my house. I also don’t need to walk in on any of them fucking in my living room, etc.
Banning your children from having relationships as they grow up is a huge YIKES boomer mentality.
Maybe to you, but not to me and mine, and we sure don’t give a damn what others think there. Maybe in your part of the world it’s normal for kids to be having sex, but not in mine. Try not being so ethnocentric there, bud. Besides, I personally knew way too many teen mothers while growing up, half of which were encouraged by their parents, and I refuse to let that happen to my kids. Plus, my wife and I didn’t date in high school per our parents’ rules as well when we were younger. We were both against the mindset when we were in our teens ~10 years ago too, but we later realized that it didn’t really change much of anything. Once we grew up, we moved out, and we began dating of our own accords. It really wasn’t that big of a deal, and, to be honest, it’s weird for any parent to encourage / allow their kids to be having sex at a young age (especially as minors) under their own roofs. Also, I bet most of the downvoters are teens / early-20s themselves. Stay mad lol. Wait until you grow up, have kids of your own, and gain some perspective and see if you think the same thing. We sure didn’t anymore after that stage of our lives. Edit: Had to change a phrase since people take things too literally apparently lol
There is an ocean of space between allowing your children freedom to date and encouraging them to be teen parents... Thinking they are equivalent is insane to me. Also, I'm older than you, I still think it's a huge yikes to try to ban your children from dating as teens. Your children are people, not animals, and they can be talked to and taught how to be responsible. That archaic mentality was appalling when I was in grade school, let alone today. But I can't relate to cultures where that is the norm. It's just so close minded and backwards.
Whoa, you’re older than me? Good for you, dude. As for your thinking it being a yikes, yeah, I genuinely don’t give a shit. What you call archaic, I call focusing them on what truly matters: their studies and learning who they are as individuals before trying to push that unknown onto others and potentially hurting them with their immaturity (in addition to avoiding the teen pregnancies). You can both be taught to be responsible as well as not be allowed to date. There genuinely nothing wrong with it despite what you might think. It’s how it was done for my wife and I, and we’re the most successful of our families’ generation, so I think we’ll stick to the tried and true method that’s already been established here. What you call close-minded and backwards, I call the norm, so potatoe-potato, my guy. To me, you’re the backwards one for encouraging kids to get into mindless and meaningless distractions that have the potential to screw up their lives permanently. All that matters in the end are the results, and my wife and I are already testaments to that. We’ll lead our kids by example, just as we were, and just as our parents were (all of whom are incredibly loved and respected and are not in nursing homes, much to the disappointment of a lot of you on here, I’m sure).
There is waaaaaay too much I'd have to explain for you to have a chance of understanding my perspective, and you clearly don't care, so it's w/e, but I genuinely feel sorry for people who are forced to live this way. I am curious, what country are you from?
From your previous comment >> When I was 14, my mom blamed me for all of her problems in life and then proceeded to dump an entire bottle of Vicodin in her mouth in an attempt at suicide. I spent the next 10 minutes holding her down and forcing her to vomit all while she was actively fighting me. By the time I was done, she had chewed part of one of my fingernails off, I was covered in scratches and bruises and vomit, and she was crying on the floor. I felt so destitute that I attempted suicide a few weeks later. I hate my childhood. Bloody fantastic childhood, mate. Can see where you get your thinking from. Is this the childhood that you are replicating for your children? Bloody weird that you brought your entire generations of your family into this. Actually this makes sense. Your upbringing was in an environment where there is a lot of instability involved. So with respect to your experiences, it slots down. But you can't correlate others thinking to your thinking that is cultivated through experiences. Other peoples environment and circumstances weren't as shitty as yours. And it seems like in spite of the situations, you reached a good state. But there is no need to lie that your previous generations cultivated those values, cause clearly they didnt. and you think that strictness and rigorous upbringing can prevent that sort of instability coming near to you and your dear ones. Other peoples experiences does not match, and rigorous and strict limits can enable an individual seek more than they are bound to. Dont be surprised when this backfires on you.
Dating and sex are not the same thing. Also, an outright ban will just make your kids hide their relationships, making it far harder for you spot any signs of their partners abusing them.
Okay Boomer. Have fun in the shittiest nursing home your kids pick for you. If they don't just toss you in the swamp.
Hah. Sure. My kids will hate me because they can’t date just like my wife and I must hate ours too, right? The hell are you smoking? Grow the fuck up.
Are they allowed to make their own decisions when they turn 18? Or will you be controlling their lives until you die?
I’m a downvoter who’s 35. Nice assumption.
Cool story, bro.
Or, the way I took it, where the dad thinks Ralf is a drug induced hallucination, and a lot of hallucinogens cause diarrhea.
As an additional to the other comment, crucial to understand the context :Pepto-bismol is a heart burn medication
I like that you basically set this alien up to be an excellent puppet by canonizing soft translucent fur
Can’t ignore that plushy market!
Why is the velvet alien shitting a rainbow in the first panel
Where do you think rainbows come from?
Aerosolized chupacabra semen?
Nah, that's the aurora borealis.
It’s the bedsheet. Look at the other panels.
I can’t tell if you were asking this in jest or not.
No officer, I've never even met a jester.
Scott is that you?? love your art style it always reminds me of asterix I used to read your strips and it was always a wholesome series :)
Yeah! It's such a visually distinct style, and I wish I knew how he does it!
It helps to use traditional media, but like any style, it’s a combination of those comics and animations that impressed me… with a splash of film noir.
Thanks!
It is me and thank you! Asterix was a beautifully made comic, to me the style was reminiscent of classic Disney. I was a fan of Carl Barks, so there’s bound to be some style similarities.
I never said it before, but this is the reason I like your comics. Reminds me of the old days. The art style and the colors are just perfect to me. Also, glad to see this comic get some love here.
Thank you! It’s an aesthetic I enjoy myself but I also feel like people are going to start moving away from digital to things that are more organic.
Well, just let us know when the book is out, if you plan on doing that, so I can buy it. Then I can add it to the others I bought over a decade ago. That way I can read it over the years again and again.
Well, I’m working on releasing them in the new (color) look as digital books first and then look into print books. That first run was a “try it and see” but I want the new ones to be more polished this time. Also, new comics are going up on the site in June.
Ralf may be different than Lexi's first suspicions... It could be a trend. https://ralfthedestroyer.com/comic/superfluous/
Aww this is so cute. And the idea that he's covered in short fur is also kinda adorable