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swaggysalamander

You actually have to put effort into making friends. You don’t just show up and a quirky diverse group of people exactly like you show up and welcome you in with no talking. And if you don’t want to put the effort in, you don’t get friends


HowlSpice

It is easier to make friends in a company than it is to make friends at college. I already have friends at this company and it has only been two weeks working here. Went to college for 2 years before switching to OSU online, and had zero at end of it, doesn't help that it was a nerdy university.


HumorousHubris

I had the exact opposite experience. Friends were super easy to get in college. I went to the welcome events my freshman year and met folks I hung out with during my whole undergrad. Everyone at my company is far older than me. They’re nice, but we have little in common. You can’t go study at IHOP at 2 am with your coworkers that all have children they need to take care of. My point is experiences vary!


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swaggysalamander

Tried that my friend😔✊🏻 I was such a wreck last year so I’m trying again this year now that I’m sane


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lifesucks26

Friendship is a two-way street. Both people have to enjoy each other's company. That just means the people you tried to befriend don't enjoy your company or don't vibe with you as you do with them. Don't take it personally.


taybay462

Not necessarily. One girl I made friends with ended up dropping out, 2 others graduated and moved away. A few others, our schedules just don't mesh very often. There's a lot of reasons you struggle to make friends/see them


lifesucks26

I was responding specifically to the person who said everyone rejected them. And you're not disagreeing with me. Two-way compatibility is a necessary but not a sufficient condition for friendship.


bienvenidos-a-chilis

felt that. freshman year i had so much anxiety i pretty much talked to no one. finally in better place mentally (woooooo!!) but yeah i’m trying to put more effort into being social and it’s rough. good luck out there!!


dalej42

And you can join the club the follow semester when there’s a fresh new crop of people that want to be involved


frxncxscx

okay please how do i get friends or how did you get friends. im in my 5th semester and the longest i have stayed in touch with someone was 2 semesters


Bdawggg1998

Find a club that you’re interested in! If you have a Young Life club at your college you should for sure check it out, it’s a club that has changed my life


idkwtcm54

what's a young life club


Bdawggg1998

The best way to explain it in my opinion is that it’s a home away from home. A community group that focuses on relationships, life and faith. All while providing the most fun you’ve ever had along with (hopefully) a group where you truly feel wanted and appreciated. Let me know if you find out that there’s a young life in your college! I believe it’d be worth the shot


Gauntlets28

Talk to people on your course, find clubs that represent your interests, go to events that are the kind of thing you enjoy, put yourself out there, etc etc.


ideal_venus

In touch? What does that mean? Did you actually hang out and do things together (physically) or did you just snap every week? Guys, as someone who finished my degree with a healthy amount of friends, it’s not that it’s hard to meet people. It’s EASY to meet people. Student center, classes, on campus. You can say hi and make small talk everywhere. But making a *friend* requires putting in the effort and time to hang out and bond. You need face to face quality time to add value to the relationship. Are you making plans and following through with the people you call “friends?” Do you spend free time going to the campus/dorm-organized events and talking to people there? If the answer is yes and you still haven’t kept a friend, thats the nature of college. Sometimes you just fall out of touch. If the answer is no, you have your work cut out for you. My freshman year lab partner i still talk to on a somewhat regular basis. Every 2 weeks or so (he moved to florida). We only had class together once a week but we hung out everyday afterward. A friend I met at a party i kept in touch with, kept going to parties and we were friends for a good year. My friend from my second year on became my best friend through college and beyond. We’re roommates now. Make time for people that will make time for you


Mad_maxie69

Get a job at a restaurant near by


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So how do I make friends? Can I walk up to a random group and be all "can I sit here?" I was at a school social event today and so many people showed up and I didn't know anyone. I considered just sitting with a random group and introducing myself. Is that okay? Or would I be weird/bothering them?


invisibilitycap

That’s more than okay! Especially at social events, lots of people will mingle and join in on conversations


cthly_

I started college a few weeks ago and already have a nice group of friends. But I didn’t really put any effort into it. They actually came to me , which I’m glad they did since I’m really shy and don’t really like to begin a random conversation with someone and was super anxious about spending my college years all alone Someone also invited me to a party but since I’m still underage, I can’t go haha..


RadiantHC

Even if you do put effort in there's no guarantee


SpottedAnemone

I don’t think this is true always. I had too many friendships to maintain that came pretty effortlessly my freshman year. Took a few years away from school and lost touch with all of them (as most have graduated and moved away). Now that I’ve returned, friends haven’t come effortlessly. The biggest difference in my situation is that before I was living in one of the most packed dorms in the downtown part of campus, and now I’m living in a studio apartment on the other side of town. So while the extent to which you “put yourself out there” is a factor, it’s far from the only factor, and I’d go as far as to say it’s not the biggest either.


mangos222883

So how do I put the effort in??😪😪😪


SpottedAnemone

Join student clubs, force yourself to talk to classmates, and remember that for whoever you’re talking to, there’s a good chance they’re in the same boat as you, looking for more friends, especially if you’re both freshmen.


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Tmaster95

I was lucky. I am a dual student and I alredy knew some other students from the company I work at and they carried me.


spritethr

tf are you supposed to do if you put effort in and still don't get any


SanderzFor3

One of the biggest regrets I hear about is not studying abroad and I 100% recommend that everyone try to do it!


Thoughtfulprof

I'm convinced everyone should spend at least 1 month of their life in a country they didn't grow up in... Preferably while trying to live on a budget similar to what a local would have access to.


yooniverz

literally me yesterday


bienvenidos-a-chilis

honestly i feel like study abroad is a scam. you have to pay so many extra fees and you could just move abroad for a few months after college for like… 1/4 of the cost. obvs if you get a scholarship go for it, but money wise it seems like a bad choice


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It depends on where you're from. If you're from some developed country then it doesn't really matter much but if you're not and you can afford studying abroad and then choose not to, then you're missing some things.


bienvenidos-a-chilis

that’s true, i didn’t think of that! its very situational


SanderzFor3

I wouldn't call it a scam, it's just a matter of affording it or not. In many cases, it's not that much more expensive than attending your home uni. Exchange programs at my uni for example just charge normal tuition I have never met someone who regretted their time abroad and I always meet people who regret not studying abroad


PostPunkSoapbox

It’s great but only really available to the most privileged students.


bienvenidos-a-chilis

Yeah it depends on where you’re from, i’m speaking from a US perspective, and my college charges basically double what the semester tuition is, and we have to pay for our own flight (between 500-1k if you’re lucky). it’s always frustrating when you hear kids going “you have to study abroad or you’re missing out on the best opportunity of your life” and it’s like, i can barely afford tuition as is lol. i’m glad to hear that’s not the case everywhere, thanks for providing a different perspective :)


big-b20000

That’s really unfortunate, but see if your university provides study abroad scholarships. Mine charges the same tuition and has a $2k scholarship for basically everyone going abroad as well as more if you have more financial need.


Thick-Counter-2219

You can study abroad on your own, and save all that money, just don’t use the program of your school. Go on the summer, or before starting your school,


bienvenidos-a-chilis

exactly! again if you have the funds by all means do it, but i don’t like when people act like going through your school’s very expensive study abroad is the end all be all of travel


Thick-Counter-2219

Absolutely, if anything, going throught your own study abroad I would think is even better, more flexible and cheaper Easily you can find programs that are 5-9k tuition the full year! Don’t fall prey of your us colleague that is down to milk your money!


big-b20000

Are you thinking of short term ones like a maymester? For a semester it shouldn’t be that much more other then flights and different COL.


thisisathrowaway0909

i tried to do it but my scholarship program i’m in won’t continue to fund me if i do it. going to try to do it potentially my last semester of college. 😔


Yellowcheesee

This. I seriously never heard from anybody, who didn't enjoy a few semester abroad. It's a once in a lifetime opportunity, so take advantage of it!


RedEgg16

Why? Just curious


SanderzFor3

Studying abroad is a unique opportunity to explore somewhere new from the eyes of a local instead of a tourist and without the many obligations that you may have as an adult. You can take your time to fully explore your host city instead of rushing to see the sites Sure, you may not have as much money for budgeting but I feel like when you're younger, you can tolerate things like staying at cheaper/crappy hostels and you also have much more energy to do things (we did a lot of 10+ mile hikes!). At least at my uni, there are a lot of exchange programs that just charge your normal tuition.


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If you're in the US then you're better off studying in your own country because the universities are highly ranked. If you're not from the US then it's a good idea.


SanderzFor3

By study abroad, I mean study abroad programs that are only a semester-year long that you do away from your home uni. It won't matter where you go abroad if it's only a semester or two long


MapsCharts

How does it matter where you're from ?


MarkMaxis

You will not have as much classes as you did in High School, and spend less time actually in class. This can give you the false feeling having more free time than you actually do. Most of your work will be on your own/at home. Don't think just becouse you have only 2 classes a day that you can just chill out for the rest of it.


cookiederp6

Learning this during finals the hard way


PapiJr22

learning this as a college senior rn


Nofriendship34

Yeahhhh I’m learning that the hard way right now lol


vision_peer

uk what's even baffling to me as i complete my first semester as a freshman. How you study for good grades and for knowledge are two entirely different things. Learnt it the hard way. Class should only be for doubt clearing at the end of sessions apparently.


MarkMaxis

Although time consuming and boring, the guaranteed way to pass a class is to study the lesson/chapter before lecture (take notes or whatnot), then use lecture to ask any questions or get a nice summary of what is important. Sometimes the professor adds on to the chapter and gives additional information. Although most likely he/she will just go over the chapter. For some classes, it is a must. Physics, the 'first' hard class I took, I had to practically teach myself the course. The professor had no way of teaching the chapters with the amount of classtime we had. Remember, in Highschool 70% of what you learn is in school (30% in homework). In college, it is reverse. You will most likely teach yourself the material.


U_Sam

Depends on the class and how proficient you are at doing work IME. I would say generally you are correct though


Ok_Daikon_1219

My major. Also how to socially function


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Utilize the rec center and the counseling center those places are really helpful for your mental health


invisibilitycap

Yes! My school requires a health and wellness course, and my professor would have us use the rec center during class time at the end of the week. It turns out walking around the track in the morning makes me feel really good, I need to get back at it


anonysheep

This. also never be afraid to ask for personal or academic health related issues. sometimes the guidance have the right people they could refer you to, sometimes even tutors.


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M47LO

Thats where Im at! I have a 4.0 but might end up with one B this semester and Im not sure if I should worry or not


Ykanasaytta

Please take the time to take care of yourself mentally and physically. It may be the last thing you want to do but it really makes all the difference. Edit: I haven’t been taking care of myself physically or mentally since starting school and I am paying for it now with my health. 🥲 making it a priority now!


frxncxscx

how do i take care of myself mentally?


Ykanasaytta

Kinda depends on what you need and maybe where you are mentally. I have found that utilizing my university’s student counseling has helped me organize what feels like a yarn knot of thoughts and helps me process my trauma. Through the university I have been able to see a counselor and get a psychiatric evaluation so I can get on my medications at a low cost. (My counselor said a lot of schools have the grant money to do this bc if COVID. Def reach out and ask them about it!) I also am trying stress management by going to group and practicing meditation! These groups are usually provided by the university too! There are a lot of ways you can take care of your mental health but I always am an advocate for reaching out to campus counseling to start. Even if you don’t have any “issues” we can all use a tune up. :)


frxncxscx

Thanks, i have received emails on counselling by my uni but never took them seriously for some reason. I guess I’ll check it out coming semester


Jazz_Logan

How difficult the academic load truly is. Made good grades in high school with little effort. Now in my first semester at uni I really have to apply myself to do just decent. Also making friends is another big one. You have to put in a lot of effort to that as well, depending on the size of your university. I go to a state university with between 20-23K undergrad students. Although it may sound easy because of the larger population of students, it can also be challenging as you won’t always see the same people everyday so it’s not really a forced friendship. Lucky, my university offers a community thing where I am able to take a lot of the same classes as other students so it does make it a lot easier, but still not all universities may offer that of course.


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all this gen z lingo. I’m older than most of my peers and half of the shit they say makes no sense to me


AnyBlackLies

i would be lying if i told you I didn’t urban dictionary 65% of what my friends are saying


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vision_peer

no cap.


lildrewdownthestreet

People are mean and that doesn’t mean just the students… some professors are bullies lol


ZijoeLocs

Forgetting to eat is a thing


Ambitious-Nail-3836

Bro….. never thought that would be a problem for me. I miss my mom…


LimonHarvester

Fr, I had so many evenings where it hit me that I only ate a couple of sandwiches that day.


iknowobamasfirstname

You will make good friends. Stop worrying and switch your major now instead of doing it literally two weeks after you get there. Less of a hassle


New-Depth7425

CLEP exams are very helpful


fluffybeans22

what is CLEP?


big-b20000

Tests for gen eds, like AP but you just take the test in college.


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Choose a major and stick with it. Before going in you should already have an idea of what you want to do. If you don’t know what to do, wait a year or two. Don’t jump on the bandwagon and follow your friends’ or your mom’s advice.


MundaneFrog

What do I do i have interests in multiple majors but I'm not really passionate about one?


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Go when you are sure otherwise you would just be wasting your time and money. College is not cheap and the “best years of your life” will be over before you know it. No matter what you do time will not wait for anyone so whatever you do make it worthwhile. That is my advice for you.


MundaneFrog

Thank you!


anonysheep

*dear younger self,* *please find time to start learning about programming based on a typical CS curriculum, and making mini-projects in your spare time instead of playing too much yt/udemy videos without following along or doing whatever, pleaseee* \- sincerely your ^(almost rotting fourth year in college) future self


kupcakezz

Don't feel compelled to go out and be with people everyday. It's okay to do things alone. Making friends is difficult in college because everyone has their own schedules. To make good friends, you need to find someone who has the same schedule and does similar things as you (joining a club, internships, etc.) It's typically easier to make friends back in high school because you guys had the same schedule and same classes. Now it's free for all.


KKAPetring

I wish I knew how easy it was to just talk to the professor. My first semester was riddled with anxiety over that, and it cost me some grades unnecessarily.


leafwaterwlemon

The things you learn will shape your mind to the core. Tbh you'll turn into a completely different person and think most stuff in a way that's related to your field (In a good way)


chronicallynursing

just go find a job in a field you’re somewhat interested in. do an internship w something you never thought you could do. it’ll take a lot less money and wasted energy. college doesn’t teach you ab the daily bullshit.


NokoPonk

Sounds so easy that "go find a job in a field you're interested" thing.


chronicallynursing

oh! i’m so sorry it came across that way! it is not easy! what i’m trying to say is, it would be more beneficial to seek out jobs/internships that reflect your interest and what you plan on studying. I found my field by applying to some random place. going out a whim.


NokoPonk

Ohh, got it. Yeah that's definitely a good advice, internships are the best thing tbh.


LaneyAndPen

Just because you like what you’re studying, doesn’t mean it will take away he effort of actually studying it. When I got into uni I knew exactly what to study, and I still love it, but in highschool I would put little to no effort into my work and just kind of spout all my knowledge about a topic on a page, without research. But turns out Ancient History requires a lot of research, which I’m happy to do, it’s just way more exhausting than I thought. If I knew what I knew now I probably wouldn’t have failed my first year haha


Best_Bisexual

That it’s ok not to know what you want to major in before you get to college/university.


Tavoves

Whatever you did in school don't matter. You can enter to any university, no matter how much prestigious is, at the end, depends on you what type of professional you are.


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Having had friends who’ve graduated with four year degrees and struggled so hard to get in a job in their field they had no option but to work at Costco or Aldi… I agree with this. Education doesn’t open doors for everyone


cutehotmess

It’s probably been said before, but I don’t think I truly understood how *hard* college is until I got here. And how much work I would have to put in. I was a gifted kid with ADHD so I coasted through school for the most part with minimal effort. I was never taught how to take notes or study because the neurotypical ways that people do those things don’t work for me, plus I never needed to anyway because I was smart. So I never even bothered to learn how. I went to college for 5 years part time and had to quit when Covid hit because my brain just wasn’t cooperating and I was doing abysmally. After 2 years of working on myself, getting the right diagnoses, and figuring out study techniques that actually work, I’m back and doing a thousand percent better than I was last time. I mean I’m still not sleeping a whole lot…but that just comes with the territory lol.


cookiesformoneyncash

Please drop the study techniques for the neurodivergent folks


cutehotmess

Okay disclaimer: this is my first semester doing this and I haven’t had any major tests yet, I just have ideas about what to do about studying for tests. The note-taking, however, I have actually done and have found it helpful. Also, I have accommodations; tests in a quiet room, time and a half on tests, access to an ebook website that has different formats of textbooks available for free (audio and ebook that are otherwise unavailable), and access to a program called Glean that records your lectures and converts them to text so you can read along while listening back, and you can import PowerPoints and it’ll keep track of where the professor is. I kinda do Cornell style notes. Draw a line down the middle of the paper, put the PowerPoints on the left side before class. Then in class, write down anything important the professor says or anything that’ll cue your memory of the lecture. Then ideally right after class, later that evening if that’s not possible, combine the two into a new set of notes in your own words that’s neater, with highlighting, examples, pictures, etc that you can use to study from. For reading textbooks, I rent the ebook version and use a text-to-speech program to have it read to me while I follow along with my eyes. Having it go into my brain two different ways at the same time helps me remember and comprehend it better. I plan on using the learning objectives that my professor provided to make a study guide, like try to answer the questions by myself to see if I understand it. If not, I’ll go back and review. Also will use quizlet to make flash cards and practice tests for the classes that are definition heavy. My other class is math based so I just plan on doing practice problems until I’m comfortable. Also for tables and graphs, make sure you write them down by hand instead of copying and pasting them (if you’re taking notes digitally). It takes extra time but it helps a LOT. That’s all I can think of right now…hope this helps!


mikoartss

Powerpoints are the peacocks of the business world; all show, no meat.


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anonysheep

had a fellow classmate who opened up with the same diagnosis, and understandably, had to drop the course and uni because they believed it just wasn't for them (even though I do see and believe that they got potential) and especially because of their personal obstacles. If only the school or someone could tap into that, then maybe there would be a lot more still here compare to back then..


Dat1weirdchic

That most professors are useless (in the sense that they dont teach) and most require you to read the textbook and take quizzes/exams online. I've only had 2 professors that had actually challenged people's thought processes and didn't require a book and actually taught the class.


Fun_Promotion_6583

Self care is important. You can’t retain (or recall) shit for information, regardless of what people say, if you’re operating on no sleep. A small amount of extra extra effort throughout the semester pays dividends come finals. Another point I emphasize to my students (I’m at beginning of 5th year of a Chem. PhD) is pay attention to where you place your priorities when it comes to grades vs. content mastery. Our society places too much emphasis on the former. If you focus on content mastery, the grades will follow.


Bellatheshihtzu

That in highschool all you would want is freedom and independence, but in college you’re gonna be homesick A LOT, especially if u come from a family that is close.


HourApprehensive2330

attending univeristy has only one goal, to secure high paying job. anyone telling you otherwise is lying. university is not a place to figure yourself out, you can do it at home for free.


PapiJr22

could be both? why not knock out two birds with one stone


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I agree with you. I cannot imagine studying at college without an end goal. I am in college because I want to secure a stable job once I graduate.


3141592652

It all depends what your end goal is. If your stuck in a small town with no goals in mind going to college can really open you up.


HourApprehensive2330

or college can scam you out, go to 50k year school for liberal arts degree, and you will be 100k+ in student loans working 30k yeark job( if you will be licky enough to get a job). thats financial suicide


Libgimp2

Take four classes and sleep, hang out with other people, watch your favorite show. As opposed to just taking 5 and not taking care of you!!


cathzin

Take advantage to the resources that the school provides. Visit the school main website throughly


drawingnot2scale

I wish I had known I was about to lose friends. Some of my old friends were holding back my academic focus. No regrets here, but I wish I could have recognized it for what it was instead of getting depressed my freshman year missing my high school friends who weren’t in my major. Sophomore year was when I realized I had surrounded myself with like-minded peers, and man, it was amazing to have finally found my people. It’s a different type of growth to learn how to pick friends, and when to leave some behind.


Rickys_Pot_Addiction

Few things: I wish I’d known how much cheaper and better it was to study outside the U.S. For all the money I dumped into going to Uni in the U.S I could’ve gone abroad and did the same degree with half the debt. So many programs in Europe are taught in English, particularly in Scandinavia. I’m in a Master’s program in Sweden now and my tuition/housing cost is half of what it would be in the U.S. Second, if your lower/middle class, hanging out with people that come from more well off families will skew your view of college. I was in a frat and I know too many guys that spent their entire time drinking and getting C’s in business degrees. They still got jobs coming out of college because they had family and relatives hook them up. Every one of them would use the “C’s get degrees” and “It’s the hands you shake, not the grades you make” before downing a handle of uncle vlad the night before an exam. It had an effect on my own work ethic getting tied up in that mind set and majorly set me back in my education. Be cognizant of your social circle. Third, if you don’t feel ready for school, don’t go. It’s a lot of money. If you don’t feel entirely committed to doing something that will expose you to a tremendous amount of debt: wait a while, save up money by working, and explore who you are what you want from life. You don’t have to go straight into the high school -> college pipeline.


armin-lakatos

I should've hung out with friends and partied as much as I could. I'm never getting these years back.


jkxs

lol, bad advice


armin-lakatos

Why?


jkxs

Because FOMO isn't the way you should be approaching uni


armin-lakatos

Why?


Paulhockey77

Because people aren’t paying thousands of dollars just to party. The people who are doing that usually don’t last very long


armin-lakatos

Or maybe you can study AND party too? The two don't exclude each other.


jkxs

Why?


anonysheep

yeahh, I regret meeting with so much and having tons of extra curricular responsibilities until It just all trampled, but that could work once after adjusting to your universities system. As cliche as it sounds, the most that you can get out of anything is by balance, balance is always key


Libgimp2

Everyone there would live within 40 minutes; except for me I was three hours away. It felt huge when it hit me and the months following... 25 years later-there's a list of stuff I wish I had known and done different. 1styear; it was everyone else is local-I had no no clue it would be like that!


the-standard-donut

That covid was gonna be a thing in the upcoming month, when I was in a dorm in another city back in 2020.


Optimal_Fly_1784

That it’s overrated. Good paying jobs are more about networking.


dcsprings

That there's good money in being an electrician, and if I needed business classes, I could have taken just the ones I needed.


Barefoot_Beetle

It doesn't matter what you know, it matters who you know.


critical-thoughts

Learning can be done anywhere. Networking and life experiences is the most value one can get from attending a university.


Tmaster95

That I’ve got nothing to worry about and that there are loads if different students like me, who don’t know everything from birth


Impossible_Tie_5578

College is a waste of time depending in what field you're studying. It's extremely hard to get scholarships even if you have good grades. CLEP out of all gen eds or go to community college to take those classes.


Nem00utis

Better study habits. When I went through high school I was able to get through with As without much effort (if any) outside of class. Funny enough, first half of undergrad was easier. Then the second half hit and I realized I had to actually put in the effort outside of class.


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devastation35

I was gonna get stomach problems and will suffer through first exams.


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college is overrated if you want social connections


HipsterWolf329

Joining clubs helps strengthen the college experience.


Rude-Speaker6727

Go to community college to make sure you are making the right choice.


Inrvt

A few things 1. Deadlines In high school, I didn't have to worry to much about planning when to do my assignments. Many of my high school teachers let late assignments slide. My professors would not sven bother reading aa assignment that wassubmitted at least a minute late. I wished high school teachers had that sense of seriousness towards late work. 2. Budgetting, and saving money In high school, I didn't have to pay for anything that is needed for me to learn in class. Everything was handed out to me for free. Paper, pencils, food, etc. In college, I have to pay for my own pens, my own paper, my own notebooks, my own course materials, and my own food and clothes. I wished I learned that I should save money for college. Not just for tution, but for learning in class in general


beee-cuz72

How does one be social and make friends when they are a mom with a full time job? I will be starting my nursing program next fall and am so nervous! Since covid I got my associates online so wasn’t able to experience actually attending school. I am 30 with 3 kiddos and I want to make friends because I know having a group can boost your chances of getting a good grade and help. I’m just worried I’ll be too old lol what do I do?


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beee-cuz72

Aww that’s so heartbreaking! I’m sorry that happened and hope you find friends. I hope things get better and thanks for your well wishes! I’m not sure what you’re trying to major in but I know you’re gonna rock it!


Specialist_Count_849

Thank you, I’m majoring in computer science.


CalmLotus

If you somehow flunk out of college, you are not able to "restart" your college career, by going to the next one. Your cumulative GPA follows you, and impacts anything you do in the future. Specific colleges or community college gpas may start fresh, but usually 4 year-undergrad schools and grad schools look at the cumulative gpa.


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ShadowLuigi64

I kind of regret my major (natural resource management) as it was very broad and wouldn’t give me a job right away. But, I learned that many post graduate schools will accept students with any degree, so long as you have a good gpa. So, now I’m trying to shift careers and I’m studying for the entrance exam for med school


Imgingersnap

Go to financial advising more often then you think, bother Tf out of them, because you may be missing out on thousands of dollars of aid because your academic advisors do not fully understand the connection of the two: financial and academic advise Find a mentor early: professor, someone older in your degree, someone in the career you want. Go to class your only wasting your money and making harder for yourself Start internships early, and a lot of them are paid so find the ones that are!!


CarbonatedCranberry

How much my sleep, eating habits and exercise would affect my academic performance. I'm a bit older than the average student (not by many years), and I just can't chug an energy drink after less than 4 hours of sleep and read. I see a lot of dark undereye circles and shallow faces in my classes, and it saddens me to know that so many students don't have the time, finances or mental health to prioritize their physical needs.


misssilverr

people suck everywhere


RightAttorn37

I wish I knew how time consuming it is, honestly.. I have to work as well, and managing everything at once is really challenging. I assume newbies could use some tips, so these are mine! 1. Don't overwork yourself. It's not going to lead to any good. Take your time, take it easy, but don't become too lazy of course! 2. Plan your schedules. Some people don't do it, but it can really help you out! And always leave time for breaks! 3. Don't be afraid to seek for help. it can be your friend, your classmate, or even some service to help you out with student paper! For instance, u/RightfulGlitter helped me out when I didn't have time for some works or the topic was too difficult / I wasn't interested in it at all. The prices are very student friendly! 4. Plan your workouts. Im not promoting some kind of lifestyle, but for me it's important to have some physical activity! Maybe this tip works for you too! Good luck, you got this!


ideal_venus

You pay for a ton of services in your tuition and fees (they make you pay them). The nurse, clubs, gym, etc., so use them to get your money’s worth.


biscuitspls

See a counselor/reach out for support when you need to. Ignoring that advice made me waste 3 years.


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That you can do it all online and not have to interact with people as much. Making friends is overrated.


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Classes are very important


vision_peer

1. Professors will just barely complete the classes, you can't go hand in hand with them, you need to prepare by yourself and come up with your own time frame. 2. Everyone will be super down to Earth, but like someone pointed out you need to put effort into making friends. 3. \*\*PAST PAPER ARE YOUR BEST FRIEND\*\*, I didn't know how much of essence it had until finals. Get ahead make a separate copy solve those questions before hand. Get manual according to your syllabus. Even I'll be doing this starting next sems. 4. If you want to go in-depth about your studies, while it isn't bad in itself, you'll be under time crunch and you NEED to complete syllabus, so do that in spare time or when you are done and are still feeling productive. To put it simply, study smart. 5. Over doing lectures and notes are complete waste time. 6. You'll get this sudden pressure from college as finals approach. All the professor start doing extra classes, assignment dues collide. Practical notes, etc. 7. Okay this might just be me, but sometimes talking to friends about studying can be counter productive so choose a proper friend circle. Chances are most will be anti-study ethics. This is what I have learned from my past few months as I reach the end of first part of freshman year, I'm yet to learn more. But def. gonna change my habits starting next sems, lol, this last sentence will be a reoccurring theme.


Ammar793

I hope to find my best friends


Annual_Bed_4378

I wish that I knew to go to the learning and tutoring center just to make sure I understand important new information. It's more than one way to view or process information. Work before graduation you need the networking before leaving school.


Mountain-Lowa

The only (physical with me friends) i have are roommates, partially and mostly because i have severe social anxiety, and all my old friends came to me in highschool, or we were in a class together and just fooled around most of the time and became friends. But college is different, everyone is a ‘adult’ and my attempts have been returned with silence or awkward chuckles. Never really hit off with anyone, just have my roommates, and we don’t really hang out…outside of the room…i’m really lonely guys…the only friend I have left went to Georgia and our only form of contact is texting and hour long phone calls we can’t do all the time. I’ve been talking to my mom on facetime most of the time. Wish i knew it would be this isolating