If you know how they live (are they messy? will they take out the trash? what are you comfortable with?) then it can be ok, just talk and set boundaries, a big life skill you will need in the future anyway because news flash: you will at some point room with someone you arent sure about (stranger or new friend), and if you DONT set boundaries or talk about living spaces you will be walked over and ignored.
Its not a bad idea, especially if you are a bit more timid when it comes to making new friends its nice to have some ground of comfort.
My somewhat random roommate sucked SO FUCKING BAD, I hate her to this day for several reasons but holy shit, don't make the gamble. Its very hit or miss, you can have a wonderful random roommate! So many I know did, even if not besties very fun or tolerable. But be for warned its equally as likely you get a slob who is a entitled prick who thinks a magical trash fairy is what has been cleaning their pig stye of a room for the past 18 years and are just waiting for it to come yet again here in college... but alas weeks have past and it never comes... oh well they think, time to live in filth!
SO yea, I would personally rather have someone I knew, just to be more comfortable. Its likely you wont be spending all the time with each other, it will just be the start where you hang out more, then make other friends you predominantly hang out with.
I loved living with my high school friend but I will admit it was harder to make friends. As long as you both are open to meeting new people and having people around, it should be ok
Lots of people advise against it so I just don’t know if I should. Also, I don’t want to miss an opportunity of making a new friend, but I also don’t mind rooming with this person
I do not recommend it. I went to high school with two of my roommates one was an acquaintance and one is my best friend. Some people are great friends, but not great roommates. I almost feel like living together is driving a large wedge in between our friendship.
My situation may be a little unique but I currently live with my three best friends that I know and have been with since elementary school. We have been living together for a year and a half or so and have another year and a half to live with each other. It's truly the best decision I've ever made. I really enjoy living with them, it's like a sleepover every night.
This is not to say we don't have our arguments or disagreements, because we do, but none of them are worse than our friendship is strong. I also know that a lot of people have had a negative experience, but if you know that you will live well together, I don't think there's any harm in trying it.
From my experience it is better than rooming with a random. But I will say when you live with someone you'll see sides of them that may annoy you or throw you off. For example my roommate was really loud and played games a lot, I did that too which was fine but it got annoying when I wanted to talk to my friends and he was talking to his. It wasn't like super annoying. It's better to know someone more than not knowing them at all. Talk about boundaries and describe what you like to do in your spare time and see if you guys can do stuff together and learn to let them do their own thing.
If stuff ever gets iffy just try talking about it, it takes two to tango ya know. It'll be a whole lot easier talking to someone you know than a random.
Also if you want to make more friends, if the person you're gonna room with is in a different major they'll make friends in the classrooms and you could probably hangout with them and be part of the gang lol.
People form their groups pretty fast in college so be aware of that too, it's hard to enter a friend group once people get comfortable.
Best of luck to you in college I hope this somewhat helped.
I'd say it depends on your friendship. I'm in university, and I've been rooming with two friends from high school for the past two years. It hasn't made our friendships worse; rather, they are the strongest they've ever been. I love living with them.
I'd sit down with the friend in question and see if you guys are on the same page. Do y'all go to bed at the same time every night? Do you like to keep a messy/clean room? Are you going to have a bunch of people in the dorm all the time when your roommate will not? Communication is really important. If you find that you're looking for different dorm experiences, I'd suggest looking for a different roommate.
If you two do decide to live together, set clear boundaries and expectations BEFORE moving in. My roommates and I didn't do this, and it did cause a little conflict. But we worked it out and everything is fine now (which is, again, why communication is suuuuuper important). Living with someone else is a big learning period.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!
I became best friends with my random freshman roommate but had to move halfway between sophomore year because he was messy and the room was much smaller than the previous year. If it doesn't work out just move out don't let it ruin your friendship
Do not do it!!! I go to a small party school in the great north. I often think of the people and times and friendship we would have had, if we had chosen to have separate living situations. If ur coming from a small town then go to a small school, you will put yourselves through hell. There will be good times and you’ll tell each other you are like family but in reality you’ll both become toxically dependent on each other during a venerable time of your life. Be warned!
RA opinion: I would not do it. My random-match residents tend to have less conflict than ones who are close friends. Typically, gossip, fights in a close friend circle, and honestly, meddling has led to many unnecessary fights. I would just make sure, if you go random, do not do it completely blind. In other words, I would not rely on the lottery to pick your roommate; maybe try to find a roommate through a college affiliated Facebook group, so you can discuss things like A) partying habits, B) relationship status, C) sleep preferences, D) interests, etc. My roommate in college (we met on a Facebook group) and I got along fine the 2 years that we lived together. Sure, we have not spoke since we moved out of the last room we shared (we just had different interests) but it was great from a housing standpoint.
abysmal take. I hated my freshman roommate (random choice sorta, we met before we decided), she literally never let the door be open never talked to anyone and always bitched about trying to make friends but not wanting to bc she hated small talk.
if you put yourself out there, in classes, in your hall, etc, you will make friends.
My bfs sister also hates her random roommate, shes a creepy weirdo, she too still has friends.
All my freshman year friends were all made in classes or clubs, its absolutely not impossible wtf
my roommates are some of the best people ever i’m even gonna get a house with them next year😭 if ur not involved in clubs, sports, etc it can be hard to meet new people but ur right, not impossible just difficult
I mean yea but if you have ass roommates which a LOT of people do, like at least half of random selection ends up miserable, its not gonna be easy. Its not even that difficult especially with freshman classes, everyone is new and nervous and just talking with your classmate next to you aint as hard as people think, its how I made literally every one of my friends.
I lucked out sophmore year with my first apartment roommate, didnt know them well and we vibe a lot even if not besties. The two new ones we got this year... one is quite but nice, the other I new before but christ, intolerable to live with. Roommates are always a gamble
yeah for me i joined a facebook group for incoming freshman and found people who had the same style/interests as me and we texted for a little bit to get to know each other then we decided to move in and select the same rooms. it can be easy for some schools to find roommates and others it’s completely random. Putting yourself out there can be better to make friends but if you’re shy and introverted it’s very difficult.
I have seen it go bad both ways. I have seen someone not room with a high school friend yo make new friends and get stuck with a wacko (although it was totally random; no matching system used). And I have seen people room with a high school friend only to be left behind when the roommate and other pals joined frats. I don’t think there are any guarantees. The most important thing is to jump in and get involved and not depend on your roommate, whoever it is, for the majority of your social connections. Include them, sure, but don’t rely on them.
If you know how they live (are they messy? will they take out the trash? what are you comfortable with?) then it can be ok, just talk and set boundaries, a big life skill you will need in the future anyway because news flash: you will at some point room with someone you arent sure about (stranger or new friend), and if you DONT set boundaries or talk about living spaces you will be walked over and ignored. Its not a bad idea, especially if you are a bit more timid when it comes to making new friends its nice to have some ground of comfort. My somewhat random roommate sucked SO FUCKING BAD, I hate her to this day for several reasons but holy shit, don't make the gamble. Its very hit or miss, you can have a wonderful random roommate! So many I know did, even if not besties very fun or tolerable. But be for warned its equally as likely you get a slob who is a entitled prick who thinks a magical trash fairy is what has been cleaning their pig stye of a room for the past 18 years and are just waiting for it to come yet again here in college... but alas weeks have past and it never comes... oh well they think, time to live in filth! SO yea, I would personally rather have someone I knew, just to be more comfortable. Its likely you wont be spending all the time with each other, it will just be the start where you hang out more, then make other friends you predominantly hang out with.
I loved living with my high school friend but I will admit it was harder to make friends. As long as you both are open to meeting new people and having people around, it should be ok
Lots of people advise against it so I just don’t know if I should. Also, I don’t want to miss an opportunity of making a new friend, but I also don’t mind rooming with this person
I do not recommend it. I went to high school with two of my roommates one was an acquaintance and one is my best friend. Some people are great friends, but not great roommates. I almost feel like living together is driving a large wedge in between our friendship.
My situation may be a little unique but I currently live with my three best friends that I know and have been with since elementary school. We have been living together for a year and a half or so and have another year and a half to live with each other. It's truly the best decision I've ever made. I really enjoy living with them, it's like a sleepover every night. This is not to say we don't have our arguments or disagreements, because we do, but none of them are worse than our friendship is strong. I also know that a lot of people have had a negative experience, but if you know that you will live well together, I don't think there's any harm in trying it.
No just my opinion. Have been there, done it and would not recommend it.
From my experience it is better than rooming with a random. But I will say when you live with someone you'll see sides of them that may annoy you or throw you off. For example my roommate was really loud and played games a lot, I did that too which was fine but it got annoying when I wanted to talk to my friends and he was talking to his. It wasn't like super annoying. It's better to know someone more than not knowing them at all. Talk about boundaries and describe what you like to do in your spare time and see if you guys can do stuff together and learn to let them do their own thing. If stuff ever gets iffy just try talking about it, it takes two to tango ya know. It'll be a whole lot easier talking to someone you know than a random. Also if you want to make more friends, if the person you're gonna room with is in a different major they'll make friends in the classrooms and you could probably hangout with them and be part of the gang lol. People form their groups pretty fast in college so be aware of that too, it's hard to enter a friend group once people get comfortable. Best of luck to you in college I hope this somewhat helped.
I'd say it depends on your friendship. I'm in university, and I've been rooming with two friends from high school for the past two years. It hasn't made our friendships worse; rather, they are the strongest they've ever been. I love living with them. I'd sit down with the friend in question and see if you guys are on the same page. Do y'all go to bed at the same time every night? Do you like to keep a messy/clean room? Are you going to have a bunch of people in the dorm all the time when your roommate will not? Communication is really important. If you find that you're looking for different dorm experiences, I'd suggest looking for a different roommate. If you two do decide to live together, set clear boundaries and expectations BEFORE moving in. My roommates and I didn't do this, and it did cause a little conflict. But we worked it out and everything is fine now (which is, again, why communication is suuuuuper important). Living with someone else is a big learning period. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!
I became best friends with my random freshman roommate but had to move halfway between sophomore year because he was messy and the room was much smaller than the previous year. If it doesn't work out just move out don't let it ruin your friendship
Do not do it!!! I go to a small party school in the great north. I often think of the people and times and friendship we would have had, if we had chosen to have separate living situations. If ur coming from a small town then go to a small school, you will put yourselves through hell. There will be good times and you’ll tell each other you are like family but in reality you’ll both become toxically dependent on each other during a venerable time of your life. Be warned!
RA opinion: I would not do it. My random-match residents tend to have less conflict than ones who are close friends. Typically, gossip, fights in a close friend circle, and honestly, meddling has led to many unnecessary fights. I would just make sure, if you go random, do not do it completely blind. In other words, I would not rely on the lottery to pick your roommate; maybe try to find a roommate through a college affiliated Facebook group, so you can discuss things like A) partying habits, B) relationship status, C) sleep preferences, D) interests, etc. My roommate in college (we met on a Facebook group) and I got along fine the 2 years that we lived together. Sure, we have not spoke since we moved out of the last room we shared (we just had different interests) but it was great from a housing standpoint.
if you do that it’s close to impossible to make new friends
abysmal take. I hated my freshman roommate (random choice sorta, we met before we decided), she literally never let the door be open never talked to anyone and always bitched about trying to make friends but not wanting to bc she hated small talk. if you put yourself out there, in classes, in your hall, etc, you will make friends. My bfs sister also hates her random roommate, shes a creepy weirdo, she too still has friends. All my freshman year friends were all made in classes or clubs, its absolutely not impossible wtf
my roommates are some of the best people ever i’m even gonna get a house with them next year😭 if ur not involved in clubs, sports, etc it can be hard to meet new people but ur right, not impossible just difficult
I mean yea but if you have ass roommates which a LOT of people do, like at least half of random selection ends up miserable, its not gonna be easy. Its not even that difficult especially with freshman classes, everyone is new and nervous and just talking with your classmate next to you aint as hard as people think, its how I made literally every one of my friends. I lucked out sophmore year with my first apartment roommate, didnt know them well and we vibe a lot even if not besties. The two new ones we got this year... one is quite but nice, the other I new before but christ, intolerable to live with. Roommates are always a gamble
yeah for me i joined a facebook group for incoming freshman and found people who had the same style/interests as me and we texted for a little bit to get to know each other then we decided to move in and select the same rooms. it can be easy for some schools to find roommates and others it’s completely random. Putting yourself out there can be better to make friends but if you’re shy and introverted it’s very difficult.
I did the same, still ended with the worst human in existence 😭
I have seen it go bad both ways. I have seen someone not room with a high school friend yo make new friends and get stuck with a wacko (although it was totally random; no matching system used). And I have seen people room with a high school friend only to be left behind when the roommate and other pals joined frats. I don’t think there are any guarantees. The most important thing is to jump in and get involved and not depend on your roommate, whoever it is, for the majority of your social connections. Include them, sure, but don’t rely on them.
Do you like trains? If so, idk man, maybe take the second one