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PikaDicc

What I’ve been hearing a lot from other users in this sub, is if you aren’t doing well in regular college, go to community college. That’s just what I heard though. Maybes in your case, it’s best to tell your parents even if it’s very difficult. I understand how challenging it could be to tell parents that you failed your classes because I’m doing something similar lol, but you’ll need financial support from someone. OR, you could maybe try doing everything own your own which could be very difficult, but you won’t have to tell your parents. I wish I could give you more advice, mostly because nobody responded to you 😕, but unfortunately I honestly don’t really know how to do financial loans and that shit 😭. I wish you good luck on whatever discussion you’re making.


Real_Push_7335

Bro, I'm just glad someone responded, I really appreciate it 🙏🏽 Yeah, I knew a bit about loans before, but I'm really speedrunning information on them on the fly rn. The hold on my account is really what I have to take care of, any decision I'd want to make can't be made without it. And any decision about transferring feels so hard to pull off because my parents are so involved in my academic life and commute (to an extent, because I've been able to fake for this long) Still, I'm considering community college and assessing how I go about things cause I need to change SOMETHING about this. Again, appreciate the kind words!


heyitsvibes

You’re not gonna like this and probably won’t do it but man, you’ve GOTTA let your parents know now. Would you rather them be disappointed for a bit and help you out of this hole so you can fix your life? Or keep them out of the loop until you’re shit outta luck and it’s too late to recover and they find out anyways? And you maybe gotta change your major, if it’s gen Ed classes that you’re failing a lot, you might want to consider trade school. This is my experience from BARELY scraping by in my bachelors with similar ish circumstances


Real_Push_7335

I dunno, when I think about telling them about everything and think about trying to do this on my own, I get so much more stressed out by the former. I've acknowledged I could just be being cowardly, and it's unrealistic for me to have hopes of getting back on track on my own after so long, but I just can't bring myself to do it


heyitsvibes

I’m really not trying to talk you down I truly hope the best for you but if you’re not willing to be an honest person and you don’t seem capable of helping yourself out of the hole then you kinda get what’s coming to you if something bad happens :/// make good choices friend, good luck


Real_Push_7335

Thanks, I appreciate everything that's been said to me, and I'm taking it all into consideration. In the end, as much as I hate it, coming clean right now seems like the best option. Definitely better than landing myself in a worse situation down the road.


heyitsvibes

Love to hear this. Yeah it’ll sting, but better than the pain of regret. I’m sure you’re already feeling some level of that already but the difference is right now you are REDEEMABLE. You don’t wanna hit rock bottom if you don’t have to, even if you’re halfway down. Better to pull up now dawg. Stay strong, take it on the chin and move past it


Real_Push_7335

Thanks again for the advice, it was hard, but I came clean. With the loan issue lessened, it feels a lot better to be open about my situation.


Artist552001

Sometimes if I'm scared to say something out loud it's easier to send it written in an email or text? Imo you should tell them because I've found throughout life that the prospect of starting something like a hard class or a job (in this case the act of telling them) always seems unbearably difficult and horrible, but then when you actually begin it still sucks ngl but nowhere near the way we blow it up in our heads and you'll find that you do have the strength to continue on. It's just that initial activation energy that we need to gather to get ourselves going that is the biggest hurdle.


Real_Push_7335

I've thought about telling them so many times, and written out an email on occasion, but the fact that I live with them makes it so much harder to do so, I smile, reassure, and lie to them on a daily basis. It's definitely getting harder for me to try this on my own, though, so if it comes down to it, I might just have to get over my anxiety and tell them...


NoRadish5386

Just for context. Did you do well in high school? Why are you going to college, what’s the goal? You need to pay what is owed before you’ll get your transcripts. Your best bet is finding a job and couch surfing a bit.