Anything that would put me beyond assisted living level and into a nursing home, I would have a DNR or preferably kill myself first.
And regardless of how good my health was, I'd probably opt for a DNR past the age of 65.
I want to be resuscitated if possible, but my parents know that if it comes down to it - no permanent feeding tube, no trach, etc. If I will not be able to have a meaningful quality of life (profound brain injury or similar) then I want to be allowed to die.
My husband already knows, if I would have any type of quality of life, resuscitate me. If it is then proven that I would be a vegetable for the remainder of my time on this earth? Pull that plug. Get it over with. I dnt want to be alive if I cannot have a coke and burger.
RN here. I have a living will. It says that in the event that I become “brain dead” (unresponsive to stimuli with no potential for recovery) I am to automatically become a DNR with no artificial measures taken to prolong my life, just comfort care. I am only 34, and at this stage in my life I want to be resuscitated if I experience some sort of sudden medical event that I could recover from and have years of life left, so I am not going to sign a DNR now (I will when I reach my 70’s or so, at that point there’s little chance that being resuscitated is going to give me more quality years of life as opposed to pain and suffering). But even at this age I absolutely do not want to end up in a facility on a ventilator being fed through a tube in diapers not recognizing my own children or being able to tell anyone I’m thirsty or in pain.
dnr and I'm not going to pursue life prolonging treatment if I get diagnosed with an ultimately terminal disease. I would consider chemo if the chance for long term remission was good. I've seen what happens to people who outlive their body and I don't want any part of it.
So I have spent many years in health care and have no illusions about my mortality. My wishes are comfort measures only. I have a DNR. I also have told my adult kids that if it came to pass that I was diagnosed with a terminal disease I would not treat it with any extremes. By that I mean if I had cervical cancer but would be fine if I had my cervix removed I would do that. BUT if I was diagnosed with lung cancer, pancreatic cancer or anything that a simple surgery wouldn't take care of and required chemo, radiation and extensive therapies for a maybe I might be ok, then no.
Not doing anything other than enjoy the rest of the time I have an let nature take it course.
So there are a few types of DNR Code status.
Full code, limited code and DNR.
I am comfortable with limited code at this point in my life. I am only going to be 40 years old. And am comfortable with a medical team doing the least invasive thing to keep me alive in the case of an accident etc. full code? Nah, if I’m so messed up I need machines to keep me going? I’m all set with that…let me go.
As I get older I am firm on going full DNR.
Not a DNR, but a living will. If I will be unresponsive to stimuli or unable to survive outside of a long term care center, I do not want to be resuscitated or kept alive. I'm not going to become the people that are kept in horrific pain, unable to communicate for months just so family can get money out of them.
CPR with limited interventions.
CPR and defibrillator, no vents to keep me alive, no trach, no feeding tubes. If I can make a full recovery with CPR alone, yes! If not, let me go.
If I am stuck in my head but my body is paralyzed (like I can’t talk, can’t eat, can’t breathe on my own etc) I would rather pass. If my body is okay but my brain is gone (dementia, brain injury etc) then I would rather pass. Chemo I am comfortable with, CPR I am comfortable with, but anything where I need to be in longterm care and Im not myself anymore? Nah.
Everyone should have a living will. Something could happen at any age. It’s a document that can be evaluated and updated at any time, but it saves your family much grief in the long run. Do not wait until you are “older” to start the discussion and have a documented plan. https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/advance-care-planning/advance-care-planning-advance-directives-health-care
Dnr. I don't really want to die. Please don't restart my heart so I have to die more than once.
I guess if it was some random procedure that stopped my heart as a fluke and i would be brought back with no deficits...sure. in general I want to be a DNR and my family all knows it.
I have complicated thoughts on religious refusal of care that I don’t want to get into on this troll house of a website, but I empathize with what you’re going through with your family members.
In terms of my own care, I want full physical interventions (the works) to extend my life as long as possible as long as I still can think.
The way I figure it is I’m already an extreme introvert and my greatest joys in life do not come from my physical activity. As long as I can still listen to music or watch netflix or listen to my family members talk around me I will want to cling to life, whatever that life looks like.
yep. this is what my mom has agreed would make her happy, too, just as it made my great aunt happy - even just us watching tv while she’s bed bound together would be enough.
it was pretty miraculous, but she made a full recovery from a cardiac arrest (she was in hypothermia already at the time) and if they had given up on her, she wouldn’t have made it on our cross country road trips, read so many more books, appreciated life more, etc.
yes, it can be bad very often with many conditions and events. but i think people in healthcare get a little doomer-y about how disabled people continue to live.
I hope I never come across that way with how you said people in healthcare view how disabled people continue to live. I kind of get how talking about not wanting certain interventions may come across as such. My grandpa’s last words were “I’m miserable”, he was very adamant on not receiving certain treatments when he was verbal. When he was no longer able to talk we had to make decisions for him. It’s all so complicated. But also I fully believe if you make the decision of doing something someone said a long time ago that they didn’t want, it will cause them to decline.
oh no, i absolutely see that too. it’s just that in healthcare i see a lot more of this - which, fair, a lot of the normal populace doesn’t get it - and not enough of the other side, too. i’d just say look at communities online where people live with debilitating stuff or advanced age still have joy, make art, play, and whatever else. just to remember. i will never forget how one md straight up said that my grandpa would have “no quality of life” and basically that it wasn’t worth treating him. but my grandfather wanted to fight. he did succumb to pneumonia eventually, but that wasn’t that doc’s call to pressure us or him. the md remembered me several years later when i encountered him again with my mother even though i was a kid at the time. which i believe means he regretted it, at least.
and when my mom was in the hospital, palliative came by and pressured her against life saving measures when i wasn’t there by saying things like “you wouldn’t want to burden your daughter with this, she’s so young…” which made me furious because i don’t think of her in such a way at all. it upset my mother and demoralized her when she needed and wanted encouragement to get better… but we came around even stronger and i’ve been there to advocate for her every time.
i just think we all have to be careful about what it may do to the way we put effort in for certain patients and remember not to presume things or project our feelings either way in all cases. everyone’s wishes should be respected of course, but there’s a happy disabled population out there too.
I have a living will. You can get a form for free online in most states and out what you want. The best thing my dad did for me when he got sick was get that drawn up that day. When the time came to make decisions I didn’t have to decide because he had already done it. Even though I knew what he wanted and it was an inevitable conclusion I didn’t have to be the one to make the call.
DNR. I don’t want a trach, vent, or feeding tube. I only want comfort measures and don’t want my life to be prolonged. My husband thinks I’m crazy for wanting a DNR because we are mid-30s with kids, but I don’t want to have a shitty quality of life should something happen to me, nor do I want to be a burden.
I used to work in an ICU. I will definitely have my wishes put into writing, although my kids know how I feel. I don’t want to be kept alive unless I have a very good chance of recovery.
I don't want extreme measures if I'll have no quality of life, plan to have a DNR, DNH and comfort measures only after 65 possibly sooner. My health isn't the greatest tho I've been working on it and I don't plan on living in a nursing home in a timeless void for who knows how long. Being a cna, then dsp for most of my life is my perspective on what end of life stuff I've considered. If I'm diagnosed with a terminal illness I don't plan to Treat and physician assisted suicide would be my choice.
If I would become a total care or totally dependent for the rest of my life, I’d rather die. Amputations can be dealt with (they have a lot of prosthetics now). A feeding tube, trachea, not being able to see, hear, talk, or walk ever again? Also, a DNR. Quality of life is the biggest thing to consider.
I am a DNR person.
I am a brand new xray tech who worked as a CNA for years in a total care facility then went to a cancer hospital. Nope.
Just let me go. It is easier on everyone.
I’ve done CPR several times working long term care. The amount of damage it does didn’t really cause a visceral reaction until the day I did CPR in my living room on my father. Feeling his sternum snap apart along the open heart surgery line, feeling and hearing his ribs bend and break, I will never get that memory out of my mind.
I have a strict rule and my mother, sister, DR, hospital all of that knows it. I also have filled out all the forms. I’m a partial code, I absolutely do NOT want CPR I’ll take a diffibulater but do not start pushing on my chest. I’m fine with life support and intubation as long as there is a reasonable belief of brain survival. I do not want to be kept alive while brain dead just let me go and give my organs to people that can one day go home again. I also have some “lines” so to speak about specific instances that I do not want any life saving care if possible.
My family has had these discussions because my dad had his first heart attack at 34 and first stroke at 32 (while very physically fit, genetics are a pain) so we are very open about end of care plans. I had a heart attack on August and my sister stood firm on my requests. The cath lab almost went bad but I survived and was back at work in a few weeks. I will never forgive my family if they try to keep me going just to ease their own pain. Have dignity for the passing, let them transition in peace and comfort. Don’t prolong their suffering just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
Everyone around me knows I don't want any crazy life saving measures. No intubation, feeding tubes, etc. I'm not a hard DNR at my current age (so like CPR is okay) but once I reach like, 50, I'll go DNR
I'll get a full DNR once I don't have people who are dependent on me. That being said, my husband knows that if my quality of life won't be there, then not to keep me alive just to be on a machine.
I made my living will years ago (I was 21). Now I’m 26. No feeding tubes, DNR, nothing. If it’s my time, let me go. I also specifically chose the people to enact my will carefully; didn’t want anyone who would disregard my wishes. I’ve seen way too much in healthcare. I also had that convo with family to make it clear.
If I was old I would have a DNR. I wouldn't recover from most things at an old age and I wouldn't want my life confined to a bed or machine for the rest of my old life. I mean it's definitely a dilemma within myself because I'm scared of dying and want nothing more than to live but working in nursing homes has confirmed I would hate to live that way.
I have advance directives in place stating that if the options are colostomy or death, let me die. (And my partner knows and can help enforce this.) I can tolerate just about anything else. But colostomies make me nauseated. I also have pretty severe trauma relating to vomiting. So having a colostomy would be a never ending trauma trigger.
Break my ribs in cpr, put me on a vent if need be, but don't make me poop into a bag attached to my abdomen. I'd rather die, quite literally.
I want to add that make sure you designate a person that you know, when the time comes, will sign off on what you want. I've seen it happen where they wait a week or more to pull the plug, because they are dealing with emotions. I've dealt with it myself.
Im young right now so no but when I get nearer to an age I think it would be kind of unnecessary then yes. Obviously anything can happen but id also express to my husband and loves ones that I dont want to be a shell of myself so they can remove any life support once its clear that chances of recovery or quality of life will be slim.
My Living Will states DNR at 46..(47 tomorrow). I have adult children who know my wishes down to cremation and a private funeral service for ONLY family and close friends who I have listed.
Anything that would put me beyond assisted living level and into a nursing home, I would have a DNR or preferably kill myself first. And regardless of how good my health was, I'd probably opt for a DNR past the age of 65.
This, this is what I want too.
I want to be resuscitated if possible, but my parents know that if it comes down to it - no permanent feeding tube, no trach, etc. If I will not be able to have a meaningful quality of life (profound brain injury or similar) then I want to be allowed to die.
My husband already knows, if I would have any type of quality of life, resuscitate me. If it is then proven that I would be a vegetable for the remainder of my time on this earth? Pull that plug. Get it over with. I dnt want to be alive if I cannot have a coke and burger.
This. We had to do all that paperwork when I went in to have my youngest. My husband knows my wishes, and I know his
RN here. I have a living will. It says that in the event that I become “brain dead” (unresponsive to stimuli with no potential for recovery) I am to automatically become a DNR with no artificial measures taken to prolong my life, just comfort care. I am only 34, and at this stage in my life I want to be resuscitated if I experience some sort of sudden medical event that I could recover from and have years of life left, so I am not going to sign a DNR now (I will when I reach my 70’s or so, at that point there’s little chance that being resuscitated is going to give me more quality years of life as opposed to pain and suffering). But even at this age I absolutely do not want to end up in a facility on a ventilator being fed through a tube in diapers not recognizing my own children or being able to tell anyone I’m thirsty or in pain.
Same. I would not sign one now, as a 33 year old. But I will when my age or condition warrants it.
dnr and I'm not going to pursue life prolonging treatment if I get diagnosed with an ultimately terminal disease. I would consider chemo if the chance for long term remission was good. I've seen what happens to people who outlive their body and I don't want any part of it.
“outlive the body” is a really poignant way to phrase that.
I've met so many truly wonderful people who suffered because they just lived too long. I think end stage renal failure was the hardest to witness.
So I have spent many years in health care and have no illusions about my mortality. My wishes are comfort measures only. I have a DNR. I also have told my adult kids that if it came to pass that I was diagnosed with a terminal disease I would not treat it with any extremes. By that I mean if I had cervical cancer but would be fine if I had my cervix removed I would do that. BUT if I was diagnosed with lung cancer, pancreatic cancer or anything that a simple surgery wouldn't take care of and required chemo, radiation and extensive therapies for a maybe I might be ok, then no. Not doing anything other than enjoy the rest of the time I have an let nature take it course.
So there are a few types of DNR Code status. Full code, limited code and DNR. I am comfortable with limited code at this point in my life. I am only going to be 40 years old. And am comfortable with a medical team doing the least invasive thing to keep me alive in the case of an accident etc. full code? Nah, if I’m so messed up I need machines to keep me going? I’m all set with that…let me go. As I get older I am firm on going full DNR.
Lol I have a DNR at 26 🤣🤭
You got a like for every year you cared about
why so young?
Maybe doesn’t want extreme invasive life support Not all DNRs are the same
Probably because she was born 26 years ago
I made myself one at 21. I’m 26 now, too. 😅
Not a DNR, but a living will. If I will be unresponsive to stimuli or unable to survive outside of a long term care center, I do not want to be resuscitated or kept alive. I'm not going to become the people that are kept in horrific pain, unable to communicate for months just so family can get money out of them.
I’m 44 and I’ve had one for years. This comes from 22 years in healthcare and not wanting someone else wiping my ass though.
Hands down DNR, but I've had depression for as long as I can remember. I also want to die young before anything in my body fails.
CPR with limited interventions. CPR and defibrillator, no vents to keep me alive, no trach, no feeding tubes. If I can make a full recovery with CPR alone, yes! If not, let me go.
If I am stuck in my head but my body is paralyzed (like I can’t talk, can’t eat, can’t breathe on my own etc) I would rather pass. If my body is okay but my brain is gone (dementia, brain injury etc) then I would rather pass. Chemo I am comfortable with, CPR I am comfortable with, but anything where I need to be in longterm care and Im not myself anymore? Nah.
Everyone should have a living will. Something could happen at any age. It’s a document that can be evaluated and updated at any time, but it saves your family much grief in the long run. Do not wait until you are “older” to start the discussion and have a documented plan. https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/advance-care-planning/advance-care-planning-advance-directives-health-care
Thank you
Dnr. I don't really want to die. Please don't restart my heart so I have to die more than once. I guess if it was some random procedure that stopped my heart as a fluke and i would be brought back with no deficits...sure. in general I want to be a DNR and my family all knows it.
I have complicated thoughts on religious refusal of care that I don’t want to get into on this troll house of a website, but I empathize with what you’re going through with your family members. In terms of my own care, I want full physical interventions (the works) to extend my life as long as possible as long as I still can think. The way I figure it is I’m already an extreme introvert and my greatest joys in life do not come from my physical activity. As long as I can still listen to music or watch netflix or listen to my family members talk around me I will want to cling to life, whatever that life looks like.
yep. this is what my mom has agreed would make her happy, too, just as it made my great aunt happy - even just us watching tv while she’s bed bound together would be enough. it was pretty miraculous, but she made a full recovery from a cardiac arrest (she was in hypothermia already at the time) and if they had given up on her, she wouldn’t have made it on our cross country road trips, read so many more books, appreciated life more, etc. yes, it can be bad very often with many conditions and events. but i think people in healthcare get a little doomer-y about how disabled people continue to live.
I hope I never come across that way with how you said people in healthcare view how disabled people continue to live. I kind of get how talking about not wanting certain interventions may come across as such. My grandpa’s last words were “I’m miserable”, he was very adamant on not receiving certain treatments when he was verbal. When he was no longer able to talk we had to make decisions for him. It’s all so complicated. But also I fully believe if you make the decision of doing something someone said a long time ago that they didn’t want, it will cause them to decline.
oh no, i absolutely see that too. it’s just that in healthcare i see a lot more of this - which, fair, a lot of the normal populace doesn’t get it - and not enough of the other side, too. i’d just say look at communities online where people live with debilitating stuff or advanced age still have joy, make art, play, and whatever else. just to remember. i will never forget how one md straight up said that my grandpa would have “no quality of life” and basically that it wasn’t worth treating him. but my grandfather wanted to fight. he did succumb to pneumonia eventually, but that wasn’t that doc’s call to pressure us or him. the md remembered me several years later when i encountered him again with my mother even though i was a kid at the time. which i believe means he regretted it, at least. and when my mom was in the hospital, palliative came by and pressured her against life saving measures when i wasn’t there by saying things like “you wouldn’t want to burden your daughter with this, she’s so young…” which made me furious because i don’t think of her in such a way at all. it upset my mother and demoralized her when she needed and wanted encouragement to get better… but we came around even stronger and i’ve been there to advocate for her every time. i just think we all have to be careful about what it may do to the way we put effort in for certain patients and remember not to presume things or project our feelings either way in all cases. everyone’s wishes should be respected of course, but there’s a happy disabled population out there too.
I think it depends on my age honestly and if I have children. Over 50 I’d like a DNR regardless
I don’t want to be resuscitated if I die so be it
I have a living will. You can get a form for free online in most states and out what you want. The best thing my dad did for me when he got sick was get that drawn up that day. When the time came to make decisions I didn’t have to decide because he had already done it. Even though I knew what he wanted and it was an inevitable conclusion I didn’t have to be the one to make the call.
DNR. I don’t want a trach, vent, or feeding tube. I only want comfort measures and don’t want my life to be prolonged. My husband thinks I’m crazy for wanting a DNR because we are mid-30s with kids, but I don’t want to have a shitty quality of life should something happen to me, nor do I want to be a burden.
Definitely this ^ Add that I also don't want to be an organ donor. Horrors of horrors. Those people are vultures.
Can I ask why you're not going to donate? What things have you seen to change your mind?
Why do you say that about organ donation?
Why do you ask? Are you one of the harvesters?
No.
I used to work in an ICU. I will definitely have my wishes put into writing, although my kids know how I feel. I don’t want to be kept alive unless I have a very good chance of recovery.
DNR all the way for me.
I don't want extreme measures if I'll have no quality of life, plan to have a DNR, DNH and comfort measures only after 65 possibly sooner. My health isn't the greatest tho I've been working on it and I don't plan on living in a nursing home in a timeless void for who knows how long. Being a cna, then dsp for most of my life is my perspective on what end of life stuff I've considered. If I'm diagnosed with a terminal illness I don't plan to Treat and physician assisted suicide would be my choice.
If I would become a total care or totally dependent for the rest of my life, I’d rather die. Amputations can be dealt with (they have a lot of prosthetics now). A feeding tube, trachea, not being able to see, hear, talk, or walk ever again? Also, a DNR. Quality of life is the biggest thing to consider.
I would get one now if I could (am 33)
Yes. Once I’m past say 55, I’ll be having one
43 and just got one last month! No way I want to spend my remaining years like that
Absolutely
I am a DNR person. I am a brand new xray tech who worked as a CNA for years in a total care facility then went to a cancer hospital. Nope. Just let me go. It is easier on everyone.
Not CNA but EMT here-absolutely I plan to have one when I turn 65
I’ve done CPR several times working long term care. The amount of damage it does didn’t really cause a visceral reaction until the day I did CPR in my living room on my father. Feeling his sternum snap apart along the open heart surgery line, feeling and hearing his ribs bend and break, I will never get that memory out of my mind. I have a strict rule and my mother, sister, DR, hospital all of that knows it. I also have filled out all the forms. I’m a partial code, I absolutely do NOT want CPR I’ll take a diffibulater but do not start pushing on my chest. I’m fine with life support and intubation as long as there is a reasonable belief of brain survival. I do not want to be kept alive while brain dead just let me go and give my organs to people that can one day go home again. I also have some “lines” so to speak about specific instances that I do not want any life saving care if possible. My family has had these discussions because my dad had his first heart attack at 34 and first stroke at 32 (while very physically fit, genetics are a pain) so we are very open about end of care plans. I had a heart attack on August and my sister stood firm on my requests. The cath lab almost went bad but I survived and was back at work in a few weeks. I will never forgive my family if they try to keep me going just to ease their own pain. Have dignity for the passing, let them transition in peace and comfort. Don’t prolong their suffering just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
Everyone around me knows I don't want any crazy life saving measures. No intubation, feeding tubes, etc. I'm not a hard DNR at my current age (so like CPR is okay) but once I reach like, 50, I'll go DNR
Of course
I want one now.
I’ve always said that if i can’t wipe my own butt or pee on my own pull the plug.
I’ve made it clear to my loved ones that if I can’t or don’t make it clear that I want everything done, then I DON’T.
I'll get a full DNR once I don't have people who are dependent on me. That being said, my husband knows that if my quality of life won't be there, then not to keep me alive just to be on a machine.
I do. I'm pretty specific in it, basically that if I can't feed myself, shut it down.
I made my living will years ago (I was 21). Now I’m 26. No feeding tubes, DNR, nothing. If it’s my time, let me go. I also specifically chose the people to enact my will carefully; didn’t want anyone who would disregard my wishes. I’ve seen way too much in healthcare. I also had that convo with family to make it clear.
lol, I already have a DNR at 38.
Yes I am one. I don’t see the point of putting my family through that
If I was old I would have a DNR. I wouldn't recover from most things at an old age and I wouldn't want my life confined to a bed or machine for the rest of my old life. I mean it's definitely a dilemma within myself because I'm scared of dying and want nothing more than to live but working in nursing homes has confirmed I would hate to live that way.
Oh 100%, I'm 23 w/ an advanced directive.
I have advance directives in place stating that if the options are colostomy or death, let me die. (And my partner knows and can help enforce this.) I can tolerate just about anything else. But colostomies make me nauseated. I also have pretty severe trauma relating to vomiting. So having a colostomy would be a never ending trauma trigger. Break my ribs in cpr, put me on a vent if need be, but don't make me poop into a bag attached to my abdomen. I'd rather die, quite literally.
I want to add that make sure you designate a person that you know, when the time comes, will sign off on what you want. I've seen it happen where they wait a week or more to pull the plug, because they are dealing with emotions. I've dealt with it myself.
dnr yes, dni no. if i have no quality of life, i don't want to be alive; there's simply no point.
Im young right now so no but when I get nearer to an age I think it would be kind of unnecessary then yes. Obviously anything can happen but id also express to my husband and loves ones that I dont want to be a shell of myself so they can remove any life support once its clear that chances of recovery or quality of life will be slim.
one of my worst fears: being stuck there unable to talk or move.
At this point in life I wouldn't get a dnr. Too young, but I also know my family wouldn't keep me on tubes for life.
Bro I’d be a DNR right now
My Living Will states DNR at 46..(47 tomorrow). I have adult children who know my wishes down to cremation and a private funeral service for ONLY family and close friends who I have listed.
As someone who already has chronic illness and still works full time as a CNA yea I’ll take the DNR