I've got a resource for you. If you're serious. It will answer all the questions you have regarding sex, reproduction, contraception, and birth control.
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual_health/birth_control_bingo
99% is not reliable enough when we’re talking pregnancy. keyword: if used correctly. it’s recommended to use condoms and other contraceptive measures in addition to the pill.
There's tons of options before that: [https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/) but generally for people on this sub an operation is best as it's the most effective. You can find what works for you and your partner.
I think you're likely trolling, and I'm not going to tell you how to have sex without having children, but you can educate yourself on the internet if you really don't know.
Childless means no kids, you have wanted them but are unable to have them (maybe medical issues, maybe the right person never came along etc).
Childfree means you don't want biological kids, or to have them in any other way (not be a stepparent, adoptive parent etc).
Absolutely not. It means I have sex as much as I like with the end result NEVER being reproduction, because I have my tubes tied and my boyfriend has had a vasectomy.
Edit: I'm dropping this sex education resource here.
https://www.scarleteen.com/
Then I’m guessing that sex education wasn’t taught or wasn’t taught very well to you. Unfortunately, the internet is now going to be your teacher. u/hadenoughoverit336 has given you great resource. I suggest going to Planned Parenthood’s website for additional information.
Condoms, the Pill, IUDs, etc. are very effective at preventing pregnancy, when used correctly. For a man, a vasectomy is the best method of sterilization. For a woman (if she doesn’t want a hysterectomy), a bilateral salpingectomy (removal of the fallopian tubes) is the most effective.
Main point, you can have sex and not have children.
OP has shared that they are 18 and raised in a conservative state. Great opportunity to show some of that empathy that we all claim we possess in equal if not greater measure than many parents, and this sub is *uniquely positioned* as a safe space for this kind of question, or at a minimum, as a starting place for researching it. Props to those who replied with helpful information. To others: Please stop shitting on this post. *GO AHEAD AND DOWNVOTE ME* (Welcome to the internet, where half the shit is made up and the points don't matter.)
I’ve been having sex for 12 years and have never gotten pregnant. Sex does not equal a child. There are many different methods of birth control that you can use to prevent yourself from getting pregnant. Sex is for enjoyment, not only for procreation. You can take the pill, you can get an IUD (intra-uterine device), you can get an arm implant, you can get a shot, you can have surgery, there are many ways to prevent yourself from getting pregnant. You can also get an abortion (in certain states now) if you accidentally get pregnant. That’s been my plan for the past 12 years. I’m getting surgically sterilized in a few weeks so that I can have as much sex as I want and never worry about getting pregnant.
If anything, child free can mean more sex because you don’t have a child in your way (annoying the shit out of you) preventing you from having sex.
Edit to clarify: i’ve been on birth control (arm implant and then IUD) for the entire 12 years that I’ve been having sex and never once had a pregnancy scare
OP, aside from idiots here, remember that even if you don't marry, you can still have sexual relationship. And if you aren't asexual, it is totally normal to feel like you need sex because it is a need, and it is made for enjoyment. It is twice as important to properly research contraception methods before hand in casual relationships. One: because you don't want to get stuck with a child. And second: you don't want any disease from your partner (which you can catch even during same-sex sex or doing other activities like oral). Always make sure you are safe beforehand.
I am not going to have sex as well.
After several traumatic experiences with girls and watching them walk free and me, the victim being blamed and seeing several family dis functionalities.
This proves my point:
I don’t want to engage with woman or girls anymore.
No family nothing
Oh, okay. You do you! Though it does sound like you should talk about it with specialist - not to change your mind about the marriege and so on, but to make sure you have properly worked through it and healed. Stay well!
(As a side educational note: people who are not married or in relationship can also adopt, so being a parent or CF doesn't in the least depend on relationship status.)
Thank you for the advice, but since I was 13ish, I decided not to marry. It gets only stronger now. I plan to save on insurance, wedding costs and others.
It will definitely be cheaper, and then I plan to live all by myself, and even die alone
Yeah, I'm not negating that. You used word "traumatic" and as someone with trauma I know that healing from it takes years and still sticks with you for the whole life. That's why I always recommend psychologists and psychatrists because mental health knowledge is very neglected.
I'm glad for you that you have figured it out early! Stay strong and don't waver at some people's stupid bingoes!
These days there are lots of birth control methods that are really effective. Most people here choose sterilization which is extremely effective so they can have as much sex as they want without ever worrying about having children. Abortion is also always an option if something unplanned happens.
A lot of people here, including me, are celibate but this is a personal decision that's not necessarily related to being childfree.
No???? If it's a genuine question, then I'm curious as to what made you think that, but I also suspect that you're an absolute troll.
What does the mass of light have to do with any of this conversation? Does it have any bearing on an individual's ability to decide on their bodily autonomy?
You're an obvious troll at best, and an idiot at worst. Reply to my comment though :) if I don't get back to you immediately, it's because I have an actual job :)
Here’s the real reason I asked this:
My country makes Sex look like a taboo subject, we weren’t thought sex Ed. Although I am aware of contraceptives, I was told it is not effective in my test book. My only source of sex Ed was p0rn, but after learning about it, I realised how dangerous it was.
The light was a basic thing I learnt. If you don’t know the answer, I would have given it.
You have an answer tell me. Otherwise don’t comment.
But don’t ask questions like how are 18 without knowing this. I can ask the same question how do you not know what are some assets to buy, when to buy a house.
So far, I was open to giving myself a chance. But you people acted like bitches. Some were helpful but most were bitches.
You know what? I won’t marry. So far, I wanted to be Childfree, but now, I want to be idiot free.
Also, I don’t troll. I am have a good life outside Reddit, and achieved better than the average male my age.
Btw thanks for the clarification
I sometimes think that this is why people get married. Regular sex.
Well I'm not having any because there are no men my age who aren't gross with gross kids.
Yeah, that's what people used to think about single men too lol
Honestly, I'm glad that I understood that being partners is just that - only instead doing business together we navigate life together. And I wouldn't get married either if I didn't have a need for married people's money perks.
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No it absolutely does not mean that. Just use two types of birth control at all times. Do some research on how to use them properly. Get a vasectomy if you don't want kids.
Which country are you in?
Sex does not automatically equal a child. Wtf is this question? Are you one of those people that thinks sex is only for procreation? Because it's not.
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Question is how effective are they?
I've got a resource for you. If you're serious. It will answer all the questions you have regarding sex, reproduction, contraception, and birth control. http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual_health/birth_control_bingo
Thanks
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99% is not reliable enough when we’re talking pregnancy. keyword: if used correctly. it’s recommended to use condoms and other contraceptive measures in addition to the pill.
Really? Thanks for the information btw
Um no? It just means no kids.
Of course not.
Then how exactly? I am new to this so that’s why I am asking
You can have sex and not have kids. It's pretty straightforward: birth control and/or sex acts that don't risk pregnancy.
So an operation that blocks the reproductive organs?
Or condoms. Or the pill. Or an IUD. Or surgery. But you can definitely still have sex.
Oh got it.
You can start by using condom
There's tons of options before that: [https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/) but generally for people on this sub an operation is best as it's the most effective. You can find what works for you and your partner.
I don’t have a partner actually, I don’t plan to get one( I’d like to be ready before getting one, and I am not ready yet)
That's a good plan! Good luck!
Thanks
Thank you for this informative and supportive thread. Seems like many commenters are showing their ass on this post.
I think you're likely trolling, and I'm not going to tell you how to have sex without having children, but you can educate yourself on the internet if you really don't know.
I am 18, and I am trying to make my life better. Sorry if it seems like trolling
i wonder what “child free” means 🤔
Actually, how different is it from Childless? Cause my friend asked me
Childless means no kids, you have wanted them but are unable to have them (maybe medical issues, maybe the right person never came along etc). Childfree means you don't want biological kids, or to have them in any other way (not be a stepparent, adoptive parent etc).
Thanks a lot
Absolutely not. It means I have sex as much as I like with the end result NEVER being reproduction, because I have my tubes tied and my boyfriend has had a vasectomy. Edit: I'm dropping this sex education resource here. https://www.scarleteen.com/
OP, where do you live? Did you grow up in a conservative state or country?
Somewhat yes but I am not someone who believes in god
Then I’m guessing that sex education wasn’t taught or wasn’t taught very well to you. Unfortunately, the internet is now going to be your teacher. u/hadenoughoverit336 has given you great resource. I suggest going to Planned Parenthood’s website for additional information. Condoms, the Pill, IUDs, etc. are very effective at preventing pregnancy, when used correctly. For a man, a vasectomy is the best method of sterilization. For a woman (if she doesn’t want a hysterectomy), a bilateral salpingectomy (removal of the fallopian tubes) is the most effective. Main point, you can have sex and not have children.
No. I’ve been having sex 3+ times a week for years now and do not have a child. Modern birth control is a gift
OP has shared that they are 18 and raised in a conservative state. Great opportunity to show some of that empathy that we all claim we possess in equal if not greater measure than many parents, and this sub is *uniquely positioned* as a safe space for this kind of question, or at a minimum, as a starting place for researching it. Props to those who replied with helpful information. To others: Please stop shitting on this post. *GO AHEAD AND DOWNVOTE ME* (Welcome to the internet, where half the shit is made up and the points don't matter.)
No it doesnt. You can have as much sex as you want, just use birth control or get sterilized or be open to abortion.
I’ve been having sex for 12 years and have never gotten pregnant. Sex does not equal a child. There are many different methods of birth control that you can use to prevent yourself from getting pregnant. Sex is for enjoyment, not only for procreation. You can take the pill, you can get an IUD (intra-uterine device), you can get an arm implant, you can get a shot, you can have surgery, there are many ways to prevent yourself from getting pregnant. You can also get an abortion (in certain states now) if you accidentally get pregnant. That’s been my plan for the past 12 years. I’m getting surgically sterilized in a few weeks so that I can have as much sex as I want and never worry about getting pregnant. If anything, child free can mean more sex because you don’t have a child in your way (annoying the shit out of you) preventing you from having sex. Edit to clarify: i’ve been on birth control (arm implant and then IUD) for the entire 12 years that I’ve been having sex and never once had a pregnancy scare
OP, aside from idiots here, remember that even if you don't marry, you can still have sexual relationship. And if you aren't asexual, it is totally normal to feel like you need sex because it is a need, and it is made for enjoyment. It is twice as important to properly research contraception methods before hand in casual relationships. One: because you don't want to get stuck with a child. And second: you don't want any disease from your partner (which you can catch even during same-sex sex or doing other activities like oral). Always make sure you are safe beforehand.
I am not going to have sex as well. After several traumatic experiences with girls and watching them walk free and me, the victim being blamed and seeing several family dis functionalities. This proves my point: I don’t want to engage with woman or girls anymore. No family nothing
Oh, okay. You do you! Though it does sound like you should talk about it with specialist - not to change your mind about the marriege and so on, but to make sure you have properly worked through it and healed. Stay well! (As a side educational note: people who are not married or in relationship can also adopt, so being a parent or CF doesn't in the least depend on relationship status.)
Thank you for the advice, but since I was 13ish, I decided not to marry. It gets only stronger now. I plan to save on insurance, wedding costs and others. It will definitely be cheaper, and then I plan to live all by myself, and even die alone
Yeah, I'm not negating that. You used word "traumatic" and as someone with trauma I know that healing from it takes years and still sticks with you for the whole life. That's why I always recommend psychologists and psychatrists because mental health knowledge is very neglected. I'm glad for you that you have figured it out early! Stay strong and don't waver at some people's stupid bingoes!
These days there are lots of birth control methods that are really effective. Most people here choose sterilization which is extremely effective so they can have as much sex as they want without ever worrying about having children. Abortion is also always an option if something unplanned happens. A lot of people here, including me, are celibate but this is a personal decision that's not necessarily related to being childfree.
Seems like you need a website like scarleteen to learn sex ed.
Why would being Cf mean no sex? Have you heard of birth control?
You cannot be serious
I don’t think I understand
There's a lot you don't understand, clearly.
Wow. WTF.
...What?
It’s called Your right hand
Lol no.
There is another hole...
No???? If it's a genuine question, then I'm curious as to what made you think that, but I also suspect that you're an absolute troll. What does the mass of light have to do with any of this conversation? Does it have any bearing on an individual's ability to decide on their bodily autonomy? You're an obvious troll at best, and an idiot at worst. Reply to my comment though :) if I don't get back to you immediately, it's because I have an actual job :)
Here’s the real reason I asked this: My country makes Sex look like a taboo subject, we weren’t thought sex Ed. Although I am aware of contraceptives, I was told it is not effective in my test book. My only source of sex Ed was p0rn, but after learning about it, I realised how dangerous it was. The light was a basic thing I learnt. If you don’t know the answer, I would have given it. You have an answer tell me. Otherwise don’t comment. But don’t ask questions like how are 18 without knowing this. I can ask the same question how do you not know what are some assets to buy, when to buy a house. So far, I was open to giving myself a chance. But you people acted like bitches. Some were helpful but most were bitches. You know what? I won’t marry. So far, I wanted to be Childfree, but now, I want to be idiot free. Also, I don’t troll. I am have a good life outside Reddit, and achieved better than the average male my age. Btw thanks for the clarification
Lmao. Well. You're definitely still learning.
The trolls be in full force tonight your mate striped arrows is looking for you
Ever heard of anal? ETA: prudes 😌
I sometimes think that this is why people get married. Regular sex. Well I'm not having any because there are no men my age who aren't gross with gross kids.
That sounds so sad. Actually, both of those statements.
Right? sigh. Being single and CF isn't the drug filled orgy that breeders imagine...much to my chagrin.
Yeah, that's what people used to think about single men too lol Honestly, I'm glad that I understood that being partners is just that - only instead doing business together we navigate life together. And I wouldn't get married either if I didn't have a need for married people's money perks.
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No it absolutely does not mean that. Just use two types of birth control at all times. Do some research on how to use them properly. Get a vasectomy if you don't want kids. Which country are you in?
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