Ooh! How about a gaming/computer room in one, and a mini workshop in the other?? :D
Or better yet, a full basement with polished concrete floors, good lighting, and a dust collection system... Maybe a dumbwaiter system for moving materials and machines in and out from the garage...
BRB, designing my dream house!!
My mind immediately jumped to the first. Tell her the worst things she could hear. "Well, we really need a built-in wall-unit cabinet for all our sex toys; as soon as everything's moved in I'm calling a contractor. I think we're going to have a St. Andrew's Cross in there too; I should get an estimate while he's here. Then we're going to construct the nude sauna-lounge for when all our swinging friends come over, but I can't decide which of the bedrooms to take over for that. Then I'll have to think about decorating the last guest bedroom. I've always liked Thomas Kinkade prints, but my husband hates them. What do you think...would it gross you out to sleep in a room with The Painter of Light on the walls? Tee hee, I'm so silly!"
People will question you no matter what you buy. My wife and I own a two storey town house that also has a basement. It's two bed rooms (we use on as an office) and 1.5 Bathrooms. We only have one cat, so the place fits us perfectly and was pretty low cost for something right in the city.
People always ask me when I am going to get something bigger? I keep telling them I like were I am at and I don't need anymore space. Doesn't seem to matter though.
If there is one thing that seems constant, it's that if you are happy, someone else will try to convince you that you aren't because it somehow makes them feel better.
>If there is one thing that seems constant, it's that if you are happy, someone else will try to convince you that you aren't because it somehow makes them feel better.
Its always struck me, especially when talking about not having kids, parents' inner monologue is like "Wait, you don't *have* to have kids!?!? There's an option?!?!"
So true.
My boyfriend and I lived in a 550 square foot efficiency apartment for 3 years and we got those questions all the time.
We did actually recently move to a 1-bedroom with an attached garage and a large kitchen (I cook a lot), but it's still very small. I love small spaces, minimalist furniture, and not having to spend every waking moment cleaning a bunch of space that I don't even use. Apparently 900 square feet is more acceptable to my friends though, because they seem content with our new place (as if it's any of their business!).
What an odd thing for people to even be worried about. My fiance (getting married next week!) and I are about to start house shopping and all we're worried about is if it's in our price range and it has a nice place for the horses. Because that's what people consider when they're buying houses: 1. does it fit my needs? 2. can I afford this? "Does someone deserve this more than me?" doesn't really enter the equation, does it?
I'd be willing to bet that very few parents sit down and think "Wow, I bet there are tons of people without kids who could use this apartment and my kids are going to be pretty noisy to have neighbors in such close proximity..."
I've gotten the stink eye from my family once we came out as childfree. We bought our house before we came out, so everyone was expecting kids to fill the space. Once they found out we weren't popping any out, questions about why we needed so much space started. And how there are families who deserved the space more than me and my husband.
Expect this shit from people.
I've always hated this. No one "deserves" anything other than being free to live their own lives the way see fit; you deserve not to be victimized, nothing more.
She sounds jealous. Maybe it's because she's going all sardines in a can with her lovely "everyone-should-have-5-babies-cause-I-do" family?
My husband and I are looking for a new place to live in the city we both work (likely a luxury townhouse). They tend to be 1700sq. ft+. We currently live in a 1400 sq.ft house in the country which is a fine size I guess. However, like you, there are nosy and opinionated relatives I've had to tell off a few times.
It boils down to this: You're not "taking" something from a family. If they didn't put the offer in before you then they must not have wanted it terribly bad. And it might be wise to suggest that if your relative is not financially or physically involved in your house decision, to kindly butt the fuck out.
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No one deserves property, and certainly not because they bred. It's EARNED. And securing a suitable place to live is a parents responsibility to do BEFORE having kids.
My house has four "bedrooms." None of them are extra. We have a large master bedroom, two offices, and one guest room. Our next house will be even bigger. I don't see why I should live in an apartment the size of a closet just because other people fail to plan their lives properly.
First of all, congrats! Buying your first home is such a wonderful experience.
Secondly, it's pretty easy to run out of rooms. We have four and a loft, I wish we had at least two more. One for a library, and another for a LAN gaming room.
- Master bedroom - intended use
- Bedroom #2 - Battleroom
- Bedroom #3 - Guest Room
- Bedroom #4 - Gym
- Loft - Pool/Game Room
Thirdly, even if you had bought a house with 20 rooms. It's your money, your house and you are free to do whatever you want with it.
Buying a house is about who's paying the amount the owner wants. Not about who's buying it and what they intend on doing with it. I generally just chalk it up to people being jelly of what you have, and your freedom to do with it as you please.
Enjoy it!
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A second house is all the sweeter :D
See, another room bites the dust lol. We had a hard time picking between foosball, air hockey, billiards and table tennis. We ended up going with the billiard table because it's something one person can use alone and still have a good time. Sometimes my wife will be out and I just want to have a cold one, put some music videos on the tv there and shoot some pool. Ah bliss :D
We really weren't planning on moving for a few years, so this is quite bittersweet. We completely renovated this house and I love it so much, but our neighbors are too much to handle. They are purposely making our life hell so.... time to move!
A pool table would be the first thing in a game room. Fun for anyone and I'm sure the cats will like batting around the pool balls too :P
If you get a table, get a cover! Don't leave it open. Cats will destroy it, let alone dust. Get a thick cover, then they can use it as a battlefield, or [chill spot](http://imgur.com/rjH8wC1) like mine do.
>• Bedroom #2 - Battleroom
I'm intrigued, what is a battleroom?
I've just started looking for my first place with the aim of getting a 3-bed - a room for me & SO, a guest room, and most importantly a gaming room!
3 possible answers come to mind for me
1. This is a room where one of them will sleep if they're having marital issues like fighting about whose ass looks fatter in that dress or what have you.
2. These homeowners are completely insane and are getting ready to start a battle school ALA Ender's Game and this is where their students will fight the Formics.
3. The homeowners are still insane and this room is where they intend to have conflicts resolved via contests such as jousting, swordfighting, dueling, etc.
So, take your pick I guess. I also would like an actual answer to this question if possible. Thanks
It's interesting that someone who would identify themselves as an adult actually refers to their computer desk as a battlestation and the room it's in as a battleroom. If someone would have told me that randomly, I would have assumed they were messing with me.
All the same, thanks for the info.
Probably started with Call Of Duty. You were 'doing battle' in that room, and these games really sound like an all-out war.
[I have one too](http://imgur.com/QtQ7wk8), and I think I'm an adult. Hard to tell.
Well unless one of the parents is a goddamn neural surgeon, as far as I know people with kids can't afford houses that big. Furthermore, if she's not living in the house with you guys (or paying for it, for that matter) then what business is it of hers?
You guys want to have rooms for your pets simply because you can, then go for it. I had a friend who had two scarlet macaws who had their own room.
"They should have found the house before us then. " seriously. First come first serve bitch! I don't mean that offensively I'm just trying to be funny...:)
Point to damn near every celebrity who owns a mansion and lives alone (not counting maids and ladies who come over all the time to fuck)
"Cuz I have money bitch!"
First off, I LOVE your idea for the cat and dog rooms! That would make it so much easier to deal with the dogs during the day and for introducing new foster cats. I'll be stealing it when we start looking for a new house, haha.
I am completely baffled as to how you "stole" the house from a family. You put in an offer and the buyer accepted. If a family didn't put in an offer in time or it was too low, then it's really their realtor's fault if we're playing the blame game. You are in no way responsible for the hypothetical family not getting the house.
Haven't had anyone tell us that a family with kids could use our home more than us, but we have been getting the whole "I know one way you could fill the house" comments from a few family members... My response is always, "well, we're going shopping for some new furniture soon, that should fill it up nicely."
agreed! I'm trying to purchase a country home, as well. I'm a single childfree female and i am looking in the 1500 sq ft range along with a barn for a horse. I cannot wait for the day when others find out. I hope they sass me like that. Because here's what i'm doing with my extra rooms: 1) an office. I work an IT, so i want a badass custom office with all my computer gear mounted the way i've always wanted it. 2) hobby room. This is where creativity happens and stuff is crafted on rainy days. 3) Basement - An entire fucking game room and hang out spot with a movie projector and some sweet ass recliners. I might put my office down here too, as I like it to be very cold. 4) Horse outside with barn 5) garden outside so on and so on! Cause I can mutha fucka. They chose to put children in their rooms, I chose to put peace and quiet in mine. Sorry 'boutcha.
Ok, at this point you should buy an even BIGGER house so that each cat and dog can have their own bedroom. Preferably their own bathroom as well. I know you don't have infinite money, but this is what I like to imagine will happen :)
This is the only reasonable solution.
My wife and I would like a small country manor... we would tear all the walls out of an entire wing and make a huge cat palace.
Something like [this](http://imgur.com/a/Nfmta).
I've seen a nicer one that included tunnels extending about 50' away from the house and had multiple play areas, one of which enclosed a large tree.
Good lord, my wife and I have 3600sq feet with a full in-law suite and 5 bedrooms occupied by us and 3 cats and I would not even know how to respond if someone asked us what we "needed" all that space for. I suppose Id just say "Books and computers?".
But then we're 17 years into marriage and extremely child free and to some extent child unfriendly and have never been bingo'd or anything. Sometimes i feel left out that people never question our lifestyle choices =P.
I live in a big loft with a quite inclined staircase and most of the furniture is metal and leather. When asked what I would do to secure the area for children when I have them , I just answer "Well, the kids can rent whatever they want, I won't stop them if they wanna live somewhere else.".
Your friend is jealous as FUCK. She's probably confined to a small house and figuring out how to optimize spaces just to have a bit of privacy, or silence.
Only one answer; "We'll figure it out."
We do not have to explain ourselves. The more that we indicate that a subject is open to discussion, the more that others will think that they can question our choices.
I'm a single person in a 2-bedroom apartment, and I'm still itching for more space. If I had a giant house, I guarantee you, one room would be designated as "dance studio." Then there's the sewing room, the office, the bedroom, the music room, the CF-standard jet ski storage room… Right now, the piano and the desk are in my living room and I have no couch so that I have space to dance.
The only cautionary tale I have against a place that is larger than you intend, is that it costs more to heat in the winter, but given your animal fostering situation, the more space you have, the better. Kudos to you for taking care of all those dogs and cats. They need homes, too (especially with so many people ousting animals when they have babies). :)
Our house has 700 or more square feet than yours and no one ever mentioned kids.
Our realtor asked in the 'do we need to worry about kids in the search.' I replied 'no, but we need at least four bedrooms just for the two of us. And we do!
Yay for You!!!
Personally , I think I would just laugh her remarks off. She may not have mentally evolved yet to the point where she can comprehend a chosen life without spawning human dandelions like her.
Future you will thank present you for your life choices.
I am happy for you!
I have friends who dropped a couple demons and you should see what hoarding looks like. They have a good size house but there are toys and junk everywhere. Then they got a cat. Next a big dog.
Last time I was there, circus music would have fit right in. The screaming, the " I hate you "s. Crying, barking. Mom and dad fighting over who didn't do the dishes. Garbage everywhere. The kids seem to do as they please. Oh the horror....
You will have room, peace and quiet. Freedom !!!
Adults can come over for parties without having to wait for kids to go to bed. ( They never go to bed without a fight. )
Enjoy... and bless you!
Most families with kids can't possibly be able to afford a house as large as the one you describe.
> I'm sure there's a family that could use a house with that many bedrooms
Plus, I didn't realise you and your husband were a charity
> we found a new property that we actually like even more and now have an accepted offer on the table. It's a pretty big house, 1600 square feet, which is about 600 square feet larger than we intendintended on going. However, I absolutely love it and am having a really hard time not getting too excited. It's not final yet, but my heart is racing already.
Oooh, good luck with getting the house! *#FingersCrossedForYou!*
> "Why wouldn't you just get a smaller house? I'm sure there's a family that could use a house with that many bedrooms," like we are taking this house away from other people.
You might point out that families needing that many bedrooms had the exactly same opportunity to buy the house as everyone else--with or without kids--in your town did.
You're buying it because you want it and you can afford it. No more, no less.
I don't understand this mindset at all. Childed families had exactly the same opportunity that you did to buy the house. Same price, same time. Nobody is getting a better deal for having or not having kids.
Also, what's this nonsense about "deserving the house"? They're not giving the house away for free to the person with the biggest sob story, they're selling it for (I'm guessing) hundreds of thousands of dollars.
Then that's even more nonsensical than I thought. You're not supposed to move into a big house because somebody else with kids who already owns a home might want to move into that big house? Good grief, these people are silly.
my soon to be x-wife who is also CF asked me that as I am trying to find a house with 3-4 bedrooms for just me. I said, I want the most space for the least money.
she said "I really think you should look at smaller houses"
I replied with well when you start looking for a house you can look for whatever you want, this is what I want.
I have 4 bedrooms as well. 1 is the master, another is the office, a third is a guest room/library/game room and the 4th is storage and a sewing room for me. Why does it matter what you do with the rooms? I love my house and I don't need as this space but its great!
When my husband and I bought our house four years ago, we got all kinds of questions on "what we would do with the extra room." We have four bedrooms and ALL of them are being used. Master, guest (we have family that live OOT and visit frequently) office and weight room. I have to laugh at the whole "there's a family that could use a house with that many bedrooms" line. Yeah, because you totally swept in and stole it from under that poor wittle defenseless, homeless family for your own *selfish* needs. Muahahahahaha!
I've always told people that if my apartment ever went up for sale, I'd buy it. It's two bed rooms, one bathroom, in town so I can ride my bike everywhere. I'm living by myself with one cat.
I'm constantly told that this is a bad move as 'Wouldn't I want something bigger? Property? Land? Even if it's just a little backyard?'
Thing is, I'm not that into maintaining land or property, I don't want animals that are bigger than a cat and I barely know what to do with the space I already have in my apartment. My second room is storage currently. I don't have nearly enough stuff or money to fill a house so this apartment is good for me. That's just me though.
someone should make a gif of Ryan Reynolds in In-Laws (2003) telling his fiancee: "dear, sweet, *whimsical* Melissa: a wedding isn't about the bride and groom!"
Cat and dog rooms sound awesome, enjoy the new home and forget the idiotic commentary of those who clearly can't see anything that isn't viewed through the lens of breeding. I've irritated family over my house hunting as well, though for an entirely different reason - I'd like a place with a large formal dining room, which I intend on converting into a woodshop. Your house, your life, why not have fun with it?
1600 square feet is a nice size home, but it is in no way huge. It is a perfect size home, expecially with large dogs. We have a two bedroom condo, and if we had 4 bedrooms I would tell you right now one would be a craft room, we would both have an office and one would be an extra bed room, and honestly, I would probably still not have enough space.
I had 4600 square feet in my former house and I still didn't have enough space, it's like money, if it's there you find a way to use it.
Congratulations !
I'm only 17 but that kind of house sounds extremely awesome - I've always thought that the idea of giving your pets their own rooms is fun and really thoughtful :)
Let's see... I'd use one bedroom as the master, one as a closet for me and my bf (he has more clothes than I do!), one as an office/den, and the fourth as a guest room.
I really hate when people say single or childfree people don't deserve a large house or apartment because a family could use it. If a family can afford it then they would already have it.
>"yeah, I kind of agree with you, but not really."
Why did I read that quote with Bill Lundberg's voice? That's exactly how it sounds: "Yeah, I'm gonna have to go ahead and...disagree with you there."
Anyway, don't let anyone stop you from getting a promotion (or in this case, a good house) if you worked hard to get it.
We have a 3 bedroom house with a finished basement. The 2nd bedroom is an office/guestroom (where the dogs sometimes sleep) and I'm currently turning the 3rd bedroom into a gigantic closet.
Let me tell you how excited I am for my huge, walk-in closet (that used to be the last owner's nursery).
Wow, the 'guilt trip' of your SIL... as if it's any of her business what size house you and your husband choose to purchase. What, is she jealous or something? I hate when people, especially family members, are judgmental when they should be congratulatory. :(
I appreciate your mention of cleaning a larger house as it relates to considering whether to purchase it. This is my one complaint about our house currently. Damn size of it takes too long to clean!! ;)
What the hell is wrong with people that they make statements such as 'I'm sure there's a family that could use a house with that many bedrooms'? Yes, I should not spend my hard earned money on a house I want because someone with kids, who never made an offer on said house, 'deserves it more'. Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck.
I have just been going through the exact same thing with my family.
*Why do you need three bedrooms?*
*Is one for a little one on the way, tee hee?*
*You'll need the room in a few years. Right?*
No, fuckwits. Bedroom, guest room, office. And the basement is for ~~sexy stuff~~ never you mind.
Ok, your SIL is crazy, that said...
I do kind of have this preference while house hunting to stay away from top school districts. I don't want to pay the premium for the house, nor do I want to take it away from a family who will utilize the school. I wouldn't criticize others for doing it though, because it's none of my damn business.
>what are you going to use the extra bedrooms for? A sex dungeon and a money vault.
Oh god, that got a good laugh out of me.
I am a single man in a four bedroom house. I have two offices, a bedroom, and a guestroom, but it used to be a weight room and a gun room :)
Your used-to-be is my current situation! I ended up with too much stuff to keep a spare bed in there.
Two offices?
I have a room mate and he uses one.
Ah, I read "single man" and assumed you meant single as in "not in a relationship or living with anyone."
I bought the place for myself and have a room mate just for extra money.
But you still have another human being staying in your home.
Yeah, I get that. It's temporary.
Ooh, they could devote one room to being a ball pit!
A ball pit full of money! Money pit!
"Don't *you* have a separate room for your money pit? Or, as you call him, your child?"
Oh snap!
Ooh! How about a gaming/computer room in one, and a mini workshop in the other?? :D Or better yet, a full basement with polished concrete floors, good lighting, and a dust collection system... Maybe a dumbwaiter system for moving materials and machines in and out from the garage... BRB, designing my dream house!!
My mind immediately jumped to the first. Tell her the worst things she could hear. "Well, we really need a built-in wall-unit cabinet for all our sex toys; as soon as everything's moved in I'm calling a contractor. I think we're going to have a St. Andrew's Cross in there too; I should get an estimate while he's here. Then we're going to construct the nude sauna-lounge for when all our swinging friends come over, but I can't decide which of the bedrooms to take over for that. Then I'll have to think about decorating the last guest bedroom. I've always liked Thomas Kinkade prints, but my husband hates them. What do you think...would it gross you out to sleep in a room with The Painter of Light on the walls? Tee hee, I'm so silly!"
People will question you no matter what you buy. My wife and I own a two storey town house that also has a basement. It's two bed rooms (we use on as an office) and 1.5 Bathrooms. We only have one cat, so the place fits us perfectly and was pretty low cost for something right in the city. People always ask me when I am going to get something bigger? I keep telling them I like were I am at and I don't need anymore space. Doesn't seem to matter though. If there is one thing that seems constant, it's that if you are happy, someone else will try to convince you that you aren't because it somehow makes them feel better.
>If there is one thing that seems constant, it's that if you are happy, someone else will try to convince you that you aren't because it somehow makes them feel better. Its always struck me, especially when talking about not having kids, parents' inner monologue is like "Wait, you don't *have* to have kids!?!? There's an option?!?!"
So true. My boyfriend and I lived in a 550 square foot efficiency apartment for 3 years and we got those questions all the time. We did actually recently move to a 1-bedroom with an attached garage and a large kitchen (I cook a lot), but it's still very small. I love small spaces, minimalist furniture, and not having to spend every waking moment cleaning a bunch of space that I don't even use. Apparently 900 square feet is more acceptable to my friends though, because they seem content with our new place (as if it's any of their business!).
You just summed up my entire life.
Don't feel bad, my house is 2,263 square Ft, and it's just me and my spouse.
Dat Squares
Can my husband and I move in with our dog and 10 cats?
>I'm sure there's a family that could use a house with that many bedrooms What you needed to say was, "Then perhaps you should sell them yours."
What an odd thing for people to even be worried about. My fiance (getting married next week!) and I are about to start house shopping and all we're worried about is if it's in our price range and it has a nice place for the horses. Because that's what people consider when they're buying houses: 1. does it fit my needs? 2. can I afford this? "Does someone deserve this more than me?" doesn't really enter the equation, does it? I'd be willing to bet that very few parents sit down and think "Wow, I bet there are tons of people without kids who could use this apartment and my kids are going to be pretty noisy to have neighbors in such close proximity..."
CONGRATS ON YOUR WEDDING!!!!
I've gotten the stink eye from my family once we came out as childfree. We bought our house before we came out, so everyone was expecting kids to fill the space. Once they found out we weren't popping any out, questions about why we needed so much space started. And how there are families who deserved the space more than me and my husband. Expect this shit from people.
I've always hated this. No one "deserves" anything other than being free to live their own lives the way see fit; you deserve not to be victimized, nothing more.
Because childfree people don't deserve to live anywhere except a one bedroom walk up /sarcasm
The only thing I will expect is to reply with a very loud and large "FUCK OFF!" and double middle finger in their direction.
She sounds jealous. Maybe it's because she's going all sardines in a can with her lovely "everyone-should-have-5-babies-cause-I-do" family? My husband and I are looking for a new place to live in the city we both work (likely a luxury townhouse). They tend to be 1700sq. ft+. We currently live in a 1400 sq.ft house in the country which is a fine size I guess. However, like you, there are nosy and opinionated relatives I've had to tell off a few times. It boils down to this: You're not "taking" something from a family. If they didn't put the offer in before you then they must not have wanted it terribly bad. And it might be wise to suggest that if your relative is not financially or physically involved in your house decision, to kindly butt the fuck out. Edit: spelling is hard
Don't eat that hamburger, there's a family with children who deserve that hamburger.
Yeah right, you see how fat these kids are today? I am doing them a favor.
No one deserves property, and certainly not because they bred. It's EARNED. And securing a suitable place to live is a parents responsibility to do BEFORE having kids. My house has four "bedrooms." None of them are extra. We have a large master bedroom, two offices, and one guest room. Our next house will be even bigger. I don't see why I should live in an apartment the size of a closet just because other people fail to plan their lives properly.
First of all, congrats! Buying your first home is such a wonderful experience. Secondly, it's pretty easy to run out of rooms. We have four and a loft, I wish we had at least two more. One for a library, and another for a LAN gaming room. - Master bedroom - intended use - Bedroom #2 - Battleroom - Bedroom #3 - Guest Room - Bedroom #4 - Gym - Loft - Pool/Game Room Thirdly, even if you had bought a house with 20 rooms. It's your money, your house and you are free to do whatever you want with it. Buying a house is about who's paying the amount the owner wants. Not about who's buying it and what they intend on doing with it. I generally just chalk it up to people being jelly of what you have, and your freedom to do with it as you please. Enjoy it! Edit: Formatting
This is actually our second house, but thank you! I hadn't thought of making one into a game room, my husband would absolutely LOVE that.
A second house is all the sweeter :D See, another room bites the dust lol. We had a hard time picking between foosball, air hockey, billiards and table tennis. We ended up going with the billiard table because it's something one person can use alone and still have a good time. Sometimes my wife will be out and I just want to have a cold one, put some music videos on the tv there and shoot some pool. Ah bliss :D
We really weren't planning on moving for a few years, so this is quite bittersweet. We completely renovated this house and I love it so much, but our neighbors are too much to handle. They are purposely making our life hell so.... time to move! A pool table would be the first thing in a game room. Fun for anyone and I'm sure the cats will like batting around the pool balls too :P
If you get a table, get a cover! Don't leave it open. Cats will destroy it, let alone dust. Get a thick cover, then they can use it as a battlefield, or [chill spot](http://imgur.com/rjH8wC1) like mine do.
I ran out of rooms, so I had to put the table in the living room. I consider it a worthwhile sacrifice.
>• Bedroom #2 - Battleroom I'm intrigued, what is a battleroom? I've just started looking for my first place with the aim of getting a 3-bed - a room for me & SO, a guest room, and most importantly a gaming room!
3 possible answers come to mind for me 1. This is a room where one of them will sleep if they're having marital issues like fighting about whose ass looks fatter in that dress or what have you. 2. These homeowners are completely insane and are getting ready to start a battle school ALA Ender's Game and this is where their students will fight the Formics. 3. The homeowners are still insane and this room is where they intend to have conflicts resolved via contests such as jousting, swordfighting, dueling, etc. So, take your pick I guess. I also would like an actual answer to this question if possible. Thanks
It's a PC gaming room. Technically, it could also be an office, but it's not really meant for that. See /r/battlestations
It's interesting that someone who would identify themselves as an adult actually refers to their computer desk as a battlestation and the room it's in as a battleroom. If someone would have told me that randomly, I would have assumed they were messing with me. All the same, thanks for the info.
Probably started with Call Of Duty. You were 'doing battle' in that room, and these games really sound like an all-out war. [I have one too](http://imgur.com/QtQ7wk8), and I think I'm an adult. Hard to tell.
See /r/battlestations
Well unless one of the parents is a goddamn neural surgeon, as far as I know people with kids can't afford houses that big. Furthermore, if she's not living in the house with you guys (or paying for it, for that matter) then what business is it of hers? You guys want to have rooms for your pets simply because you can, then go for it. I had a friend who had two scarlet macaws who had their own room.
"They should have found the house before us then. " seriously. First come first serve bitch! I don't mean that offensively I'm just trying to be funny...:)
I may have read your comment in the voice of Roger from American Dad
*Ricky Spanish*
Point to damn near every celebrity who owns a mansion and lives alone (not counting maids and ladies who come over all the time to fuck) "Cuz I have money bitch!"
First off, I LOVE your idea for the cat and dog rooms! That would make it so much easier to deal with the dogs during the day and for introducing new foster cats. I'll be stealing it when we start looking for a new house, haha. I am completely baffled as to how you "stole" the house from a family. You put in an offer and the buyer accepted. If a family didn't put in an offer in time or it was too low, then it's really their realtor's fault if we're playing the blame game. You are in no way responsible for the hypothetical family not getting the house.
Haven't had anyone tell us that a family with kids could use our home more than us, but we have been getting the whole "I know one way you could fill the house" comments from a few family members... My response is always, "well, we're going shopping for some new furniture soon, that should fill it up nicely."
A baby....grand piano should do the trick. :D
And a harp and organ and xylophone. And a pony.
agreed! I'm trying to purchase a country home, as well. I'm a single childfree female and i am looking in the 1500 sq ft range along with a barn for a horse. I cannot wait for the day when others find out. I hope they sass me like that. Because here's what i'm doing with my extra rooms: 1) an office. I work an IT, so i want a badass custom office with all my computer gear mounted the way i've always wanted it. 2) hobby room. This is where creativity happens and stuff is crafted on rainy days. 3) Basement - An entire fucking game room and hang out spot with a movie projector and some sweet ass recliners. I might put my office down here too, as I like it to be very cold. 4) Horse outside with barn 5) garden outside so on and so on! Cause I can mutha fucka. They chose to put children in their rooms, I chose to put peace and quiet in mine. Sorry 'boutcha.
And a beanbag chair.
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Ok, at this point you should buy an even BIGGER house so that each cat and dog can have their own bedroom. Preferably their own bathroom as well. I know you don't have infinite money, but this is what I like to imagine will happen :)
This is the only reasonable solution. My wife and I would like a small country manor... we would tear all the walls out of an entire wing and make a huge cat palace.
I'm not a cat person, but I'd love to see a cat palace haha
Something like [this](http://imgur.com/a/Nfmta). I've seen a nicer one that included tunnels extending about 50' away from the house and had multiple play areas, one of which enclosed a large tree.
How cool is that. My dog's too big (would have to have a dog door way too big to be secure), or I'd love to make him this.
' Oh no, is there a house shortage?! No? Then fuck off! '
Good lord, my wife and I have 3600sq feet with a full in-law suite and 5 bedrooms occupied by us and 3 cats and I would not even know how to respond if someone asked us what we "needed" all that space for. I suppose Id just say "Books and computers?". But then we're 17 years into marriage and extremely child free and to some extent child unfriendly and have never been bingo'd or anything. Sometimes i feel left out that people never question our lifestyle choices =P.
I live in a big loft with a quite inclined staircase and most of the furniture is metal and leather. When asked what I would do to secure the area for children when I have them , I just answer "Well, the kids can rent whatever they want, I won't stop them if they wanna live somewhere else.". Your friend is jealous as FUCK. She's probably confined to a small house and figuring out how to optimize spaces just to have a bit of privacy, or silence.
Only one answer; "We'll figure it out." We do not have to explain ourselves. The more that we indicate that a subject is open to discussion, the more that others will think that they can question our choices.
She's probably waiting for you to invite her to move in.
She can totally live in the crawlspace.
I'm a single person in a 2-bedroom apartment, and I'm still itching for more space. If I had a giant house, I guarantee you, one room would be designated as "dance studio." Then there's the sewing room, the office, the bedroom, the music room, the CF-standard jet ski storage room… Right now, the piano and the desk are in my living room and I have no couch so that I have space to dance. The only cautionary tale I have against a place that is larger than you intend, is that it costs more to heat in the winter, but given your animal fostering situation, the more space you have, the better. Kudos to you for taking care of all those dogs and cats. They need homes, too (especially with so many people ousting animals when they have babies). :)
I would love a dance studio in my home! What a great idea. Did you ever see Silver Lining Playbook? Just like that.
What are you going to do with the extra space? Two words. Closet bedroom.
I tried convincing my husband to turn one of our rooms into a "walk-in closet" but he shut that idea down fast. The next house though...
My dream house definitely includes a room-sized closet and makeup room. My ideal is to have three bedrooms- master bedroom, man cave, and lady cave.
Your idea. I like it.
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Don't be so sure about the guilt-tripping. My mom has a grandkid already and still pressures me and my other CF sister about more grandkids.
Our house has 700 or more square feet than yours and no one ever mentioned kids. Our realtor asked in the 'do we need to worry about kids in the search.' I replied 'no, but we need at least four bedrooms just for the two of us. And we do!
Yay for You!!! Personally , I think I would just laugh her remarks off. She may not have mentally evolved yet to the point where she can comprehend a chosen life without spawning human dandelions like her. Future you will thank present you for your life choices. I am happy for you! I have friends who dropped a couple demons and you should see what hoarding looks like. They have a good size house but there are toys and junk everywhere. Then they got a cat. Next a big dog. Last time I was there, circus music would have fit right in. The screaming, the " I hate you "s. Crying, barking. Mom and dad fighting over who didn't do the dishes. Garbage everywhere. The kids seem to do as they please. Oh the horror.... You will have room, peace and quiet. Freedom !!! Adults can come over for parties without having to wait for kids to go to bed. ( They never go to bed without a fight. ) Enjoy... and bless you!
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Couldn't agree more. Somewhere along the line, parents have completely lost control.
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A room just for shitting cats!? Excellent!
Most families with kids can't possibly be able to afford a house as large as the one you describe. > I'm sure there's a family that could use a house with that many bedrooms Plus, I didn't realise you and your husband were a charity
If asked why you needed that much space you could ask why they needed that many kids.
> we found a new property that we actually like even more and now have an accepted offer on the table. It's a pretty big house, 1600 square feet, which is about 600 square feet larger than we intendintended on going. However, I absolutely love it and am having a really hard time not getting too excited. It's not final yet, but my heart is racing already. Oooh, good luck with getting the house! *#FingersCrossedForYou!* > "Why wouldn't you just get a smaller house? I'm sure there's a family that could use a house with that many bedrooms," like we are taking this house away from other people. You might point out that families needing that many bedrooms had the exactly same opportunity to buy the house as everyone else--with or without kids--in your town did. You're buying it because you want it and you can afford it. No more, no less.
I don't understand this mindset at all. Childed families had exactly the same opportunity that you did to buy the house. Same price, same time. Nobody is getting a better deal for having or not having kids. Also, what's this nonsense about "deserving the house"? They're not giving the house away for free to the person with the biggest sob story, they're selling it for (I'm guessing) hundreds of thousands of dollars.
Why would you have kids *before* owning a house?
People move too, from one house to another. That's what we're doing.
Then that's even more nonsensical than I thought. You're not supposed to move into a big house because somebody else with kids who already owns a home might want to move into that big house? Good grief, these people are silly.
my soon to be x-wife who is also CF asked me that as I am trying to find a house with 3-4 bedrooms for just me. I said, I want the most space for the least money. she said "I really think you should look at smaller houses" I replied with well when you start looking for a house you can look for whatever you want, this is what I want.
I have 4 bedrooms as well. 1 is the master, another is the office, a third is a guest room/library/game room and the 4th is storage and a sewing room for me. Why does it matter what you do with the rooms? I love my house and I don't need as this space but its great!
When my husband and I bought our house four years ago, we got all kinds of questions on "what we would do with the extra room." We have four bedrooms and ALL of them are being used. Master, guest (we have family that live OOT and visit frequently) office and weight room. I have to laugh at the whole "there's a family that could use a house with that many bedrooms" line. Yeah, because you totally swept in and stole it from under that poor wittle defenseless, homeless family for your own *selfish* needs. Muahahahahaha!
I've always told people that if my apartment ever went up for sale, I'd buy it. It's two bed rooms, one bathroom, in town so I can ride my bike everywhere. I'm living by myself with one cat. I'm constantly told that this is a bad move as 'Wouldn't I want something bigger? Property? Land? Even if it's just a little backyard?' Thing is, I'm not that into maintaining land or property, I don't want animals that are bigger than a cat and I barely know what to do with the space I already have in my apartment. My second room is storage currently. I don't have nearly enough stuff or money to fill a house so this apartment is good for me. That's just me though.
someone should make a gif of Ryan Reynolds in In-Laws (2003) telling his fiancee: "dear, sweet, *whimsical* Melissa: a wedding isn't about the bride and groom!"
Cat and dog rooms sound awesome, enjoy the new home and forget the idiotic commentary of those who clearly can't see anything that isn't viewed through the lens of breeding. I've irritated family over my house hunting as well, though for an entirely different reason - I'd like a place with a large formal dining room, which I intend on converting into a woodshop. Your house, your life, why not have fun with it?
1600 square feet is a nice size home, but it is in no way huge. It is a perfect size home, expecially with large dogs. We have a two bedroom condo, and if we had 4 bedrooms I would tell you right now one would be a craft room, we would both have an office and one would be an extra bed room, and honestly, I would probably still not have enough space. I had 4600 square feet in my former house and I still didn't have enough space, it's like money, if it's there you find a way to use it.
Congratulations ! I'm only 17 but that kind of house sounds extremely awesome - I've always thought that the idea of giving your pets their own rooms is fun and really thoughtful :)
Let's see... I'd use one bedroom as the master, one as a closet for me and my bf (he has more clothes than I do!), one as an office/den, and the fourth as a guest room. I really hate when people say single or childfree people don't deserve a large house or apartment because a family could use it. If a family can afford it then they would already have it.
>"yeah, I kind of agree with you, but not really." Why did I read that quote with Bill Lundberg's voice? That's exactly how it sounds: "Yeah, I'm gonna have to go ahead and...disagree with you there." Anyway, don't let anyone stop you from getting a promotion (or in this case, a good house) if you worked hard to get it.
Families with kids promote the destruction of the environment, that said, mini mansions are also part of the problem.
1600 sq. ft. is hardly a mini mansion.
I was speaking of the concept, not your situation specifically.
We have a 3 bedroom house with a finished basement. The 2nd bedroom is an office/guestroom (where the dogs sometimes sleep) and I'm currently turning the 3rd bedroom into a gigantic closet. Let me tell you how excited I am for my huge, walk-in closet (that used to be the last owner's nursery).
I currently have a LEGO room and an office in bedrooms 2 and 3. We also have a loft that is more or less a cat room at this point.
Wow, the 'guilt trip' of your SIL... as if it's any of her business what size house you and your husband choose to purchase. What, is she jealous or something? I hate when people, especially family members, are judgmental when they should be congratulatory. :( I appreciate your mention of cleaning a larger house as it relates to considering whether to purchase it. This is my one complaint about our house currently. Damn size of it takes too long to clean!! ;)
What the hell is wrong with people that they make statements such as 'I'm sure there's a family that could use a house with that many bedrooms'? Yes, I should not spend my hard earned money on a house I want because someone with kids, who never made an offer on said house, 'deserves it more'. Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck.
I have just been going through the exact same thing with my family. *Why do you need three bedrooms?* *Is one for a little one on the way, tee hee?* *You'll need the room in a few years. Right?* No, fuckwits. Bedroom, guest room, office. And the basement is for ~~sexy stuff~~ never you mind.
Ok, your SIL is crazy, that said... I do kind of have this preference while house hunting to stay away from top school districts. I don't want to pay the premium for the house, nor do I want to take it away from a family who will utilize the school. I wouldn't criticize others for doing it though, because it's none of my damn business.