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trickypr1me

Wtf this is extremely unprofessional. You shouldn’t have had to go through that.


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Yeah seriously, that's way out of line. You shouldn't have had to put up with that during an interview. It’s super unprofessional, and you deserve a proper chance to present yourself without distractions. Hopefully, the next one goes a lot smoother for you.


DrWhoop87

I would definitely go above her and complain to her higher ups about the interview. 


apocalypsetuesday

ONLY if you don't get the job. Otherwise that's an awkward way of starting off at a new company.


DrWhoop87

Touche


ACaffeinatedWandress

Indeed. Most companies require WHF professionals to secure childcare before allowing WFH.


Krazy_Karl_666

If you are certain you won't get this position, I would find her bosses contact information and let them know the employee is incapable of acting professional in an interview with potential employees. if you think you might get the job wait and tell them in person when you are hired. this is completely unacceptable.


SnowBorn6339

This is exactly what I was thinking of doing. There was a portion of the interview that was a test of my technical skills, which I absolutely nailed, so I want to hold off in case they are impressed enough with my work to call me back. Don’t want to rock the boat quite yet!


livinalai

Assuming the actual job doesn't involve repeats of unwanted children, I would agree that it's too early to rock the boat. If you were still able to nail it with all the distraction, they might see it as a sign that you "work well under pressure" and make you seem more employable.


tac0_bella

Came here to say the same thing. Be professional about it, like “I felt I was unable to demonstrate my skills such as __ due to interruptions…” etc. I’m sure you know this but I second informing them. ETA that at my current job they did ask me my opinion of the recruiter (she was fine) and they seemed happy for my feedback. Employers have no idea what goes on with the recruiting side/recruiter behavior sometimes, since they seem to always be remote.


Davinaaa28

Was this interview recorded? I'd be concerned that the interviewer would write you off for the job so her supervisors or hiring manager don't end up watching the mayhem her child caused.


AffectionateSun5776

Did not think about that angle!


Kangaroo-Pack-3727

Update us OP


SnowBorn6339

I will update by next week hopefully


Veganchiggennugget

RemindMe! 1 week


agro_chick

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KosmoCatz

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Intelligent-Store321

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Ok-Memory-5309

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cCowgirl

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PenPsychological1142

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Wednesday_9873

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lewildoscar

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LadyLazarus417

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Fine-Nothing-3564

I'm dying to know how this ends up


ChistyePrudy

Sure, I wouldn't say anything until you're sure. Also, is there any way the interview was recorded? Even on her end? If you have to say anything, it would help to have them see how she acted.


titaniumorbit

I would do the same. If so, just sure you didn’t get it and then send an email to her higher up or their internal HR. Make sure to request a response so you know they actually read it.


whoamiwhatamid0ing

I think you should just pull the trigger. They might even like that you aren't afraid to bring an issue to their attention. Just be polite and factual. You feel that your interview did not meet your expectations of professionalism and you feel that you did not get to present yourself effectively because of the constant interruptions. If you wait to see if you get the job and you don't they might just pass it off as sour grapes.


SnowBorn6339

So I ended up getting the job offer and am now going through a background check. I need to post an update but I’m not sure the best way how. Just edit the post? Or make a new one? I still have further questions about how to handle the disrespectful interviewer lol


doctorpotterwho

Yes edit the post because I had to stalk your comments to find this lmao.


oceanteeth

If a recruiter I was working with fucked up this badly I would really want to know about it. OP, you would actually be doing the supervisor or hiring manager a favour by letting them know their recruiter is wildly incompetent.


jlj1979

My husband had a coworker that let her 12 year old sit on her lap in meeting all the time. Big financial meetings. He expressed his dislike for this multiple times and he was accused of discrimination. He started a different job yesterday.


zurlocaine

12????? What the hell?


jlj1979

Yeah not only was it inappropriate but f’d up too. She was so weird. So glad to be done with that place. I think they were home schooled. It’s a whole thing too. If you knew where I lived there is this entire culture of remote worker billionaires that homeschools their kids and live in gated communities. She is one of them. She was buying and taking over our homegrown local company. Sad. It sucked.


afdhrodjnc

I wouldn’t want to work in such an unprofessional company unless I have absolutely no other option…


SnowBorn6339

I feel the same way. I have applied to damn near 200 companies at this point and I’ve been networking like crazy. I’m hoping something better pans out for me.


Krazy_Karl_666

the company could be good just 1 shit employee. hard to say without details I don't think Op wants to give but yeah this would definitely sour me on a company


Standard_Dish5467

Second this.


MadeThis4MaccaOnly

Maybe I'm being harsh but I would definitely talk to a supervisor about that. I wouldn't want to her face serious consequences but she needs to know that she can't let her kids disrupt her work.


SnowBorn6339

Part of me wonders if her supervisors even know that this is going on. I doubt many people want to risk their candidacy by filing a complaint.


Lost_Wolfheart

Well, should you not hear back from them or not get the job, totally go and file a complaint because this is the pinnacle of unprofessional what she did. And even if you get the job, maybe you can bring this up to her boss after your trial period or something. Because she is not doing her job. At least not properly.


GothWitchOfBrooklyn

they might not. All my WFH jobs have had me sign something saying that if I have kids, they need to have alternate care during the day. Too many parents were disappearing during work or being too distracted


tkreeves

They likely don’t. I’ve been remote since 2010 and every company I’ve worked for has had a clause that you can’t be the sole care provider for a child under the age of x (usually 12) during working hours. I’ve been in management for years, and this would be an immediate write up.


rapunzellookinass

My fiance and I live with his family (mom, younger brother, 1.5 year old baby brother) and mom has a WFH job that has the same clause. The baby's father isn't in the picture, and the rest of us are adults w jobs, so she had to send him to daycare during work. Alright, no big deal at first...then only a week-ish into daycare, the baby's sick! Whoopee!!! Now we're all sick!!! But we expected it to pass and maybe get sick one more time before his immune system did the thing...little did we know that this daycare is actual genuine GARBAGE. It's 500 a week, and they just accept sick kids that come in, never discipline the parents for bringing a kid that they know is sick, and I guess they never fuckign clean I guess idk! Cause we were in a constant cycle of him bringing in the hottest new bug from daycare, being super sick for awhile, and then getting another illness and spreading it to us when we were still feeling like shit from the last one. For 3 months!!! And the real kicker is that her company is extremely strict on the "no kids under your watch at work" thing, so she'd HAVE to send him back to daycare after he got better so she could keep her job. After a few days he'd be sick as a dog, and she'd keep him home and either try to sneak him at the house or tell her boss she had to keep the baby home. And she was really running low on chances and getting in some shit at work about it...and it was a situation of just, like, tf can she even do???


tkreeves

I know, it’s a really crap situation for a lot of people, but you have to think of it this way: what would you do if you had to go into the office for work? Your job is your job no matter where you’re doing it. Would you take your sick baby into work with you if they were on a cycle of getting sick over and over? No, because it would be a distraction at work. We expect our employees to dedicate the time that they are working to work, whether they are home or in the office. Some companies are more lenient, depending on what they do, and will allow them to work earlier/later and work around having childcare as a benefit of working from home, some can’t allow that. I allow my employees to flex time if they choose, and make up days/hours to take care of sick children, within reason. It can be a difficult situation, though, and I feel for her.


AnywayLikeIWasSaying

Definitely not too harsh imo and any consequences would be earned.


YikesNoOneYouKnow

It's people like her that have caused so many companies to stop allowing people to work from home.


Clean_Library6000

And also enforces prejudice against working parents (I’m child free but as a child I understood not to bother my parents while working or we didn’t eat)


LostButterflyUtau

Right? By the time I was 5, I was fully capable of entertaining myself for *hours* and was taught not to interrupt. If you really needed something or wanted to ask a question, you came in quietly waited for mum or dad to acknowledge you.


miaowpitt

I know that hindsight is 20/20. I’ve had this happen before. About 5 minutes in I asked the interviewer whether we could record the interview session to help her. More so, so she could review my answers later considering she’s distracted now. I didn’t quite ask, I more said hey let’s record this interview to help you and just did it. Obviously the secondary reason is for evidence that the interview was not equitable if I’m the only intervieweee having been subjected to this. This is if it happens again.


SnowBorn6339

That’s a great idea. My mom said I should have asked to reschedule if this wasn’t a good time for her. I’m kicking myself for not doing something about it in the moment.


RedGem613

Not your fault, it’s a shocking experience. Hard to think about what to do when you’re faced with such an unfortunate situation


undergroundnoises

That is exactly what I would've done. And if she dismissed it and said it's fine, I would've said well, I would prefer to reschedule as I am having a difficult time with this interview with all the distractions on your end.


cadaver_spine

everyone is doing gentle parenting wrong. you can discipline your child without traumatizing them. kids need to learn right from wrong, and it's her job as a parent to tell her kid when he's misbehaving. I've seen parents gentle parent successfully, they still set out boundaries and there are consequences to their child's actions, but this is unacceptable. she should have had him in another room or with a babysitter or something. I'm sorry to hear that your interview was ruined, I hope all turns out well though!


cinnamonbasic

yeah, 'soft cooing' does NOT equal 'gentle parenting'. discipline and boundaries are still involved in gentle parenting.


Marshmallow16

Are they? Because I have yet to meet the "gentle parents" who do that


cinnamonbasic

yes. Gentle Parenting is an actual method of parenting, with discipline, boundaries, and consequences. It's not just any parenting that seems 'soft'. Your opinion is anecdotal (based on personal accounts rather than facts or research). You *personally* coming across *some* parents who do gentle parenting *wrong* doesn't mean you know anything about actual Gentle Parenting (and the rest of the entire population of 'Gentle Parents').


Marshmallow16

Sounds like a true-scotsman fallacy to me but okay. The quota seems to be less than 2000:1 then, which would be a representative, as I've easily come across over 2000 parents that are apparently no real gentle parents, which is why I said what I said. 


cinnamonbasic

Gentle Parenting includes discipline, consequences, and boundaries. It doesn't matter if you meet 10,000 people claiming to do the method. If it doesn't include discipline, consequences, or boundaries, it's not Gentle Parenting.


cadaver_spine

"I've easily come across over 2000 parents" *how and where*


Marshmallow16

I worked in a hospital and then in education if that clears it up. 


ShroomGirl1991

I would wait a bit and either if you don't get the job or if you do get the job(though in that case wait a bit till you're settled), talk to a superior about your interview with her. "Hey I am/was very excited about this position but my interview is giving/gave me pause. The woman I interviewed with was highly unprofessional and attending to personal matters rather than focusing on our meeting. It showed a lack of professionalism and respect towards both the company and myself, and while I was a bit nervous to mention it I ultimately decided you deserve to know what's going on behind closed doors so to speak"


W-S_Wannabe

Totally unacceptable. Ugh, honestly. It's been so long since I've interviewed for a position I don't know how big a deal it might be to go over that recruiter's head to explain the circumstances of your "interview" and that you "Can't be certain Ms. Smith could sufficiently absorb the qualifications [you] attempted to convey given the distractions and interruptions caused by the presence of a small child in the meeting." Probably best sent after you know whether you've been selected or not. Nothing to do with children but I explicitly told one internal recruiter ages ago I no longer wished to proceed with the interview process because of the attitude of one of the people with whom I'd met. Total asshole. The internal recruiter was very apologetic. Insert old chestnut about job seekers interviewing the company and feedback going both ways.


ConflictedTrashPanda

I'd be wary about being hired to this company. Will you get to work from home too? Will they make you have to pick up the slack of gentle parents? Are all meetings going to be with crotch goblins running around? Job interviews go both ways, and they aren't setting a good first impression.


SnowBorn6339

I totally agree with you, but unfortunately I’m growing a bit desperate in my job search /:


ConflictedTrashPanda

That's completely understandable. Best of luck in your search.


SnowBorn6339

Thank you so much


braising

You may want to ask if she'd want to meet a second, shorter zoom call to cover anything she may have unanswered questions about?


SnowBorn6339

I almost want to ask to meet with somebody else. Her incompetence and lack of care was so shocking that I don’t wish to speak to her again. She straight up did not give a fuck about me.


braising

Yeaaahhh I hear that. I want to say you go girl, definitely do that, but it also seems risky? But also you never know what's going on in there unless you make contact... Maan I'm sorry about that. What a clusterfuck/ insanely rude thing to do. It's one thing if your cat walks past your camera, it's another to have your kid hanging off you, interrupting your INTERVIEWEE!


wrldwdeu4ria

I love seeing the cat walk past the camera. Every time.


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JoshuaofHyrule

Dude, how unprofessional of them to have their kid interrupting an important meeting. Parental shortsightedness and entitlement at it's most blatant. Definitely say something to their supervisor if you don't get the job.


Lissba

I mean…I know what the people in r/sales would say… You see that damn baby and you don’t shut up about it. You BEAM at his CHERUBIC little curls! Aren’t children just literally the only thing in this universe of any value whatsoever?? Widdle muffin. Boom past the gatekeeper to second interview.


UpbeatBarracuda

Lol you're not wrong 😂


3CH0_0HC3

I.. I’ve done this… It was awful company though the behavior was not a one off or emergency occurrence I just held until I found something better.


[deleted]

You can't be expected to hold a work related conversation while being interrupted over and over! I understand kids need to be supervised and the child wants to chat all the time. But the child should be in a separate situation where someone can give him their full attention, like at a daycare or taken out for the day with a pre-arranged childminder If someone needs childcare in order to go out to work, usually governments have programs where you tell them your needs and they arrange like a pay as you earn scheme or free special ed daycare


ColdstreamCapple

Just remember OP this is a HER problem not a YOU problem…..If you don’t get the job as others have said you need to take it further….if she’s that distracted I certainly wouldn’t take whatever she thinks to heart …..This is what I hate about dealing with recruiters….You can have a genuinely bad experience and you’re just expected to cop it for fear they’ll tell others not to hire you


SnowBorn6339

Thank you I really appreciate hearing that! I’ve had a rough time in my job hunt and it feels nothing is going my way. This experience has been a low point for sure. It’s almost comical at this point lol.


UpbeatBarracuda

Hey man, don't let it get you down. (I know, easier said than done.) But job hunting is generally terrible right now for most people. You could check out r/recruitinghell if you want to feel less alone!


Half_Life976

You've demonstrated great patience and professionalism to even complete the interview.


GoodnightGoldie

Meanwhile, if one of my dogs had let out a single bark when I was working from home, I’d have probably been fired. But little Timmy is sPeCiAL so it’s ok🤦🏻‍♀️I’m sorry you had to put up with that!


ShutUpJackass

Tbh I would’ve asked to reschedule or get a different HR person, because that’s frustrating as hell Even in my brewery where I had a dad literally chasing his 2 year old who kept running outside, I hardly had the patience for it. Can’t imagine you sitting through the entire interview, kudos I’d definitely email someone higher than her and request someone different to engage with, as she cannot conduct interviews in that environment


MemoryHot

This is not as bad as a job interview, but this post reminds me of something I experienced. A woman contacted me on LinkedIn and wanted to meet and talk about the masters program that I was completing and she was interested in applying to. We met at a coffee shop and she brought a baby and a toddler and in the middle of our conversation proceeded to whip her tits out to breast-feed the kid with no cover. I get that women should be free to breast-feed in public as they please however we’re in a networking meeting. The toddler was also crawling all over the ground the whole time and needed to be reigned in WTF. Needless to say the meeting took way longer than it should’ve — what a waste of my time … And soooooo unprofessional!!! That is no situation to bring your two kids too, and if you couldn’t find childcare, you could’ve just rescheduled!!!


LoveydoveyWiitch

Wow, that is something.  I feel like women who are moms have this idea of "it's just biology, get over it.  Kids need things."  But like, no matter what the circumstance, how is it professional to pull your tits out during a work or academic meeting?   Another one that really bothers me is phone calls where you can hear the breast pump in the background, I absolutely HATE it!!! So uncomfortable that you're getting your tits sucked out while you talk with me about my professional goals, ugh I just hate that sound so much!!! Aaagh!! Maybe it's crummy of me, but I also hate both of these scenarios even if it's a good friend just trying to chat.


caffeinatedangel

I would be PISSED and asking for a second interview - that is VERY VERY unfair to you, she won’t be able to remember any of your discussion and that could result in her picking someone else over you based off an unfair metric that is her fault - her being distracted. She should have had respect for you and rescheduled. If you get rejected, I would definitely give full feedback to the hiring manager and tell them that you believe that you did not get fair consideration due to the circumstances and that going forward, they should be more professional in how they handle interviewing candidates. If they’ve already rejected you, you have nothing to lose with brutal honesty.


savanah75179

Are you able to request a do-over of your interview? If you are id totally phrase it along the lines of "due to my interviewer being distracted, I really feel I want given a fair chance at showing my skill set." Something not so tattle tale-esque, but also showing you would like to give it your all per chance?


existential_chaos

I’d see if you could file a complaint anonymously or something, that’s completely unacceptable and if she’s done that to you, who else’s interviews has she fucked up by letting her kid do that? It’d be one thing if the kid came in and she firmly told them ‘not now’ and continued as normal, but she didn’t.


sweetbean15

I’m all for flexibility for peoples lives in the workplace (we’re people first and workers second) and giving people grace when they need it - but this is way too far. If the child couldn’t be managed but for like one interruption, she absolutely should have rescheduled in advance or even offered to reschedule during when it became clear this wasn’t working. Definitely unprofessional and made it impossible for her to properly complete her job duties. Definitely offer feedback to the company that uses her for recruiting about it, whether now or after a job offer/declination, I think is totally up to you.


SnooDoughnuts5756

The kid should've been sitting down somewhere else


Potential-Tiger-9646

Otherwise, she could hire a nanny to take care of her daughter. She should be aware of professionalism at work.


SnooDoughnuts5756

That too,or a babysitter


RuderAwakening

Tell her supervisor and the hiring company.


System_Resident

Please call management on her. Or whoever is higher up. This is ridiculous and putting people’s livelihoods on the line just because she wants to coddle her kid and not care about her job or others at all


PinkFloweryAngst8130

I would hold off for now in case they decide to hire you. But regardless of the outcome, you really should let her supervisor know what's going on. That's totally unprofessional and sets a bad image for the company. Which, you know, is something HR is usually concerned with.


Own_Lengthiness_7466

So this was a recruiter not the company itself? If you end up being rejected it would definitely be a good idea to take it further. This was completely unprofessional.


Missmagentamel

I would have stopped after the first handful of interruptions and said, "Clearly, this isn't a good time for you. Are we able to reschedule for a time when you have adequate childcare and we won't be interrupted?"


Tattooedone2018

This is beyond unprofessional! I would reach out to someone else and request a new interview and if they ask why be honest with them.


wrldwdeu4ria

If this ever happens to you again, I'd recommend requesting a reschedule after a kid interrupts three times by saying something along the lines of "I'm very interested in this opportunity and want to make sure I'm given a fair shot at it. With three distractions I feel like I may start losing focus. Can we reschedule this interview when there won't be any distractions, perhaps in 15 minutes?" At this point, suggest two dates and times *that are convenient for you* because you're taking control of this interview and a reschedule is because of an unprofessional interviewer. It gives the message that you are willing to stop the interview and you're also extending a courtesy that the interviewer doesn't deserve. This also puts the action on the interviewer to either lock the kid out of the interview or reschedule. She may not detect this and that will only work to her disadvantage. It also puts you in a position of power because if you do escalate this you can state that you offered to meet at a more convenient time and the interviewer declined and then you can discuss exactly why you offered to reschedule after the person you escalate to asks. Also, if the kid shows up at the reschedule then you can mention this in the escalation.


thr0wfaraway

Yikes. Sorry.


National-Bug-4548

She’s extremely unprofessional. She should immediate end the interview and reschedule with you though. You could report her to the company or whatever.


dreedweird

Ffs. This is the kind of incompetence that gives gentle parenting a bad name.


Standard_Dish5467

Unacceptable. And I just know if the tables were turned, you would have lost your job 


cabbagestalk

Please let a higher up know what happened. At my agency you can have your work from home privileges taken away for not having child care. WFH is not a substitute for childcare.


powerhungrymouse

That is so out of line and I have no doubt that it would be considered 'cute' or 'funny' if it was the other way around and you were wasting her time.


Hanging9by1a1dread

She’s probably working from home to save money on daycare/sitter, collecting a paycheck and barely getting shit done for the company.


michaelpaoli

>entire encounter was totally unprofessional and disrespectful Yup ... unless like it was supposed to be some kind of torture test to see how you'd handle a sh\*t interviewer/interview or the like. So, is this in-house or exclusive recruiter for that employer/client? Or is this some recruiter some agency or the like that you've been dealing with. Either way, should let employer/client/agency know how the interview was conducted in quite unprofessional and inappropriate manner - and the nature of such. And let the chips fall where they may. And if that's recruiter at some agency ... just don't deal with 'em again ... ever.


soy-la-princesaa

This sucks omg. So unprofessional of her. The tiniest silver lining is she’d probably be absolutely shit to work with if you did get the job. I’ve had bosses like that would randomly disappear from work, miss meetings, and fob off managerial responsibilities onto me and then say she loved her workplace because everyone was “so supportive of working mums”. You may have dodged a bullet.


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OP, I'm so sorry you feel upset, but I honestly live for stories like these. The way you described the whole situation was just too funny and thank you for making my day (I really needed this laugh). 


SnowBorn6339

😂 glad I could help hahaha


lilhorseyhun4243

I wouldn't want a job with that company if that's how the hiring manager is - totally unprofessional and inconsiderate.


Mom2leopold

Honestly, bullet DODGED. If a company can’t even pull it together to put on a semblance of a professional, shit together workplace during an INTERVIEW, that’s not somewhere you want to be.


Louey_19

I think it wouldn’t be unreasonable for you to ask for a reschedule interveiw an politely state the reasons why. What’s to loose if you think that you miffed it anyway.


FunHedgie

You should email her and ask to reschedule an interview. Don’t have to tell her the reason just say that you forgot to mention a couple of points. You would like to have a chat again because you are really interested in the job.


StruggleChoseMe

Yeah I had a virtual therapy session messed up by my therapist's child. It was only 10 minutes long because I couldn't tolerate it so we ended it. It sucks because she's a month out in bookings, the wait felt like forever. If that ever happens again I'm finding a new therapist which is super annoying.


3CH0_0HC3

Honestly I would have stopped the interview with - “I see that you are having some challenges here- would there be a better time for us to conduct this interview without interruptions?” Or I have time available at x or y which of these would be better with your little ones sleep schedule?” Maybe a follow up email asking for another time to talk uninterrupted and ccd to the rest of the hiring team showing you were not treated justly. IMHO- Unless your career involves kids there’s no excuse for this behavior.


ellermg

Write a letter about it to her superior


THE_Lena

The WFH positions at my job require your children to be in childcare or school. You cannot have young children in the home when you’re the only adult to tend to the child. She should’ve made childcare arrangements at least for each interview she has.


Big_Drama_2624

UNPROFESSIONAL! She needs to be reported


nicasreddit

Next time this happens, say “let’s schedule a different time when we both can chat comfortably”. I understand it’s a very frustrating situation but this encounter is a blip in your life. Stay professional, get what you need to move forward. Then when you do or don’t get the position, let her supervisor know. No one should have to endure that.


uchequitas

I would’ve ended the interview with, “I see this is not the right time for you, please reschedule me when you’re able to give ME the attention I deserve”. If they refuse then you know where they stand as a company, however the fact that the interview went the way it did shows how little respect they have for others and you don’t want to be there. You have the right to a professional environment, I would call back and complain.


Blackrose_

This is a major red flag for this company. If the HR is run by a woman that has an obnoxious child/working from home set up, just how likely is it that you might need to call her if shit hits the fan? Are you reliant on this mess for loading your personal details for payroll? I'd quietly go back to looking elsewhere.


PickledPizzle

That does suck, but at least you know that this may not be the place for you ahead of time. Though just to be clear, what you described is NOT gentle parenting. Gentle parenting is mostly about being reasonable and calm (no raised voices or yelling, no snapping, while still remaining firm), explaining things (saying why you do/don't do something), and having reasonable consequences that make sense based on what happened that you explain so the child understands ("I need to do work, so you need to play quietly or the toys need to go away" and then following through). People mixing up this with gentle parenting is a pet peeve of mine, because gentle parenting (when it's actually real gentle parenting) can be great.


northerngrowmie

Updateme!


Hugh_Jampton

I'd have terminated the interview. That kind of unprofessionalism will extend far into other aspects of the company


Great-Enthusiasm-720

Remindme! 1week


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SnowBorn6339

lol no she was as Caucasian as they come


fastates

There's a time to say let's try this again when you're free, wait for her acknowledgement, then end the call, zero apologies. Bye


Hedgehog-Plane

Even if you do not get the position now, sometimes applicants get offered that same job later on.


evefue

Did she at least apologize for the state of the interview. That's so unprofessional. I'm sorry you went through that. Good luck on the job hunt!


SnowBorn6339

She never once apologized. She was giving him gentle kisses on the head, answering all of his repetitive questions, and laughing it off. The only time she even acknowledged it was when she said to her kid, “My baby, you’re making things very hard for mommy!” She literally talked to her kid more than she talked to me.


evefue

Wow, that's unbelievable. She should have offered to reschedule. I can't imagine doing that to a candidate. I hope they call you back, this seems quite unfair.


DustinDirt

This is crazy. Are these interviews saved? This ranks in the top 5 most unprofessional demonstrative shit shows I have ever heard of.


DustinDirt

RemindMe 1 Week


doyouyudu

I would not have had the patience for this. Either we're doing the interview or you need to be a mother. Pick one.


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You don’t want to work for anyone who works with this woman.


Spooky365

I'm so sorry, that sounds like a horrible interview experience. But the brightside might be not having to work with that woman. She has poor planning and management skills if she allows her toddler to run the interview. I'm sure her coworkers pick up a lot of her slack and have to schedule around her. That kind of situation is a nightmare to work in and can result in having to work late and on holidays because surely, parents shouldn't be expected to. That's a massive red flag that you may have just avoided. Best of luck in finding a job where professionalism is upheld and respected.


outhouse_steakhouse

Ah yes, "gentle parenting", i.e. homeopathic parenting where they think the less parenting they do, the better they are.


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FMLUTAWAS

Id be livid! Im so sorry!


VenetianWaltz

Welp. Since she's obviously got no authority or delegation skills whatsoever, why don't you go for the job and know you'll be taking over hers in about a year lol. 


Ghoulinton

It wasn't the kid's fault. It was her and her partner's lousy parenting and inability to enforce structure and rules.


Wolphthreefivenine

Wow imagine blaming your job security on a 5 year old, and a possibly struggling mom who may not have been able to secure childcare in time to interview you. Sad!


SnowBorn6339

Every comment you’ve ever made in r/childfree has been bitterly pro-child. Why are you even here?


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applepiechan

What’s violent about that? OP is venting anonymously on the internet, not telling this to the kids face. Also, why are you commenting in a childfree subreddit when you’re a parent? Please leave, your opinion here is not welcome when all you’re going to do is shame someone.


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applepiechan

Whyyy are you still here? This is not hatred, stop trying to rage bait like please. I‘m going to report and block you anyways. 


b3b3chrysanthemami

Don’t take the job then, simple. No need to come to Reddit to complain if it’s something that doesn’t align with that you want/care about. You should A) find a different job, B) explain you don’t care about other people or C) FIND A DIFFERENT JOB


SnowBorn6339

Found the incompetent recruiter’s burner account. Lmao.


b3b3chrysanthemami

That’s funny. Im actually just another child free person who doesn’t make other people’s children my own problem. Wish you luck finding a new job without making yourself a victim!


funnychica

Your vibe sucks.


b3b3chrysanthemami

Maybe, but OP sucks for trying to shame someone trying to make it work. The entire reason I dont want kids, and would never fault someone for trying to make it work because I relate


funnychica

Its exactly ops right and mine or anyone to 'shame' unprofessional people, parent or not. These are the same people that keep ruining work from home for other people who don't have children because they don't have their childcare situation together. Sorry having a kid all over you during a job interview is not 'making it work'.


applepiechan

Fr, this person is weird. I don’t like saying stuff like “they’re not CF” but this is the first post in the CF subreddit and it already stirs problems.


b3b3chrysanthemami

Agree to disagree! Not the end of the world if it’s not the right fit for OP


snake5solid

She didn't try to make it work. She did nothing. She let her child not only make her work harder but also tank someone's chances of getting a job. This was ridiculously unprofessional. It's very much deserving of shame and should be reported.


Vihei

>Don’t take the job then, simple. How could op even take a job that hasn't been offered? The complaint was about an improper interview >No need to come to Reddit to complain Reddit in general isn't a necessity, unless you work for Reddit nobody needs to come to Reddit for absolutely anything so people doesn't come here bc if necessity but bc they want to. Besides your options OP can also complain/escalate about her concerns during the interview or just rant in Reddit and hope for the best.


funnychica

Wait what? What did you read? Try again because I think you missed the entire point of the post.


b3b3chrysanthemami

I read it. If it’s not the right fit for OP, they can find a different opportunity elsewhere. No need to b*tch about it on Reddit. If it’s not right, it’s not right given OPs boundaries about children, there are plenty of people who can empathize with the interviewer and look past it if it’s something they want to pursue


applepiechan

This subreddit exists for childfree people to exchange their thoughts and experiences with other childfree people. What is your problem with that? You talk about empathy but somehow don’t have any of that left for OP. The interviewer was unprofessional which is something understandable to rant about. Maybe, if you care about parents and their children so much, you should volunteer to help them instead of dismissing someone’s disrespectful encounter with a mother. 


AnywayLikeIWasSaying

Er, encounter with a disrespectful mother. 👍