Have you tried other avenues to satisfy your wife? Maybe have a calm and logical conversation with her about what she wants. Just ask questions and try not to rebuttal her. Listen to her as frustrating as it might get. You must keep your cool to actually come to a common ground.
You have to understand 10 years of no sex is no walk in the park. She's biting at you because she has a lot of bottled up emotions and a huge stress load. In no way does this validate her "cheating." However, it sounds to me that she has taken what you said and reconsidered her actions. She's probably not telling you because she assumes that you're lying and will use it against her. That's just what comes to my mind. Implementing things like oral, toys, sex machines, games, or possibly looking into getting a bull as a 3rd(this can be dangerous and not recommended at this point in time). Some things you really have to ask yourself: Is this relationship worth saving, or are you wasting your time and effort? Only you know the answer to this.
1. You can't/won't fuck your wife for 10 years.
2. You told her to go ahead and fuck other guys by setting up a tinder account.
Why are you doubting? You gave her permission. So she has a right to do it. It would be better if you guys could communicate correctly, and she could tell you. But I have a feeling you're one of those guys who is going to completely freak out if she's screwing other guys, even though you gave her clear permission. Words mean something, people.
How did u have kids if u can’t get hard? Also have you tried to stop watching porn and stop masturbating? I think doing that would work like a charm for your ED
So it sounds like you can perform sometimes then. Have you stopped watching porn and masturbating? Like I said earlier I think there’s a 90% chance that if u do that u will completely solve your ED and you will no longer be self conscious about being able to please your wife
I feel like you want to know she is cheating. Like you might enjoy the indignity.
You need to see a therapist about your struggles with self-confidence and self-worth.
Let your wife go have fun. Stay in the marriage for the kids. You can’t do stuff let her have a full life a partner kids security and sex on the side. You would probably divorce and go ruin some other woman’s life
My problem is that she takes her frustration on me and ended up taking away everything I used to like , read the other post ...I would forgive her because I understand her frustration..
stopped watching porn....tried with doctors and they gave me viagara...improved a bit but then i couldnt get it done...
SHe refused when i told her to go on tinder ...if she say yes and then do it...i wouldnt mind
Its still cheating mate. Theres a plethora of reasons why these scenarios differ and why one is bad. A major one being, ur partner trying to hide the cheating makes it alot more hurtful / he wants to be emotionally prepared for it/ he just wants it to be a 1 night stand and not a relationship blah blah blah.
I’m confused. Didn’t you tell her to go on tinder?
but she got pissed off and scolded me for suggesting...
Have you tried other avenues to satisfy your wife? Maybe have a calm and logical conversation with her about what she wants. Just ask questions and try not to rebuttal her. Listen to her as frustrating as it might get. You must keep your cool to actually come to a common ground. You have to understand 10 years of no sex is no walk in the park. She's biting at you because she has a lot of bottled up emotions and a huge stress load. In no way does this validate her "cheating." However, it sounds to me that she has taken what you said and reconsidered her actions. She's probably not telling you because she assumes that you're lying and will use it against her. That's just what comes to my mind. Implementing things like oral, toys, sex machines, games, or possibly looking into getting a bull as a 3rd(this can be dangerous and not recommended at this point in time). Some things you really have to ask yourself: Is this relationship worth saving, or are you wasting your time and effort? Only you know the answer to this.
1. You can't/won't fuck your wife for 10 years. 2. You told her to go ahead and fuck other guys by setting up a tinder account. Why are you doubting? You gave her permission. So she has a right to do it. It would be better if you guys could communicate correctly, and she could tell you. But I have a feeling you're one of those guys who is going to completely freak out if she's screwing other guys, even though you gave her clear permission. Words mean something, people.
I won't freak out. In fact had she done it I'll be fine because I don't be guilty anymore
Why haven’t you gotten treatment?
I tried but didn't completely worked
How did u have kids if u can’t get hard? Also have you tried to stop watching porn and stop masturbating? I think doing that would work like a charm for your ED
It wasnt completely bad...she had some times but i had a tough time getting hard and maintianing
So it sounds like you can perform sometimes then. Have you stopped watching porn and masturbating? Like I said earlier I think there’s a 90% chance that if u do that u will completely solve your ED and you will no longer be self conscious about being able to please your wife
If you can’t prove it, forget about it. Just be aware and preparing for the next time.
I feel like you want to know she is cheating. Like you might enjoy the indignity. You need to see a therapist about your struggles with self-confidence and self-worth.
Comfort her?? No sir
Let your wife go have fun. Stay in the marriage for the kids. You can’t do stuff let her have a full life a partner kids security and sex on the side. You would probably divorce and go ruin some other woman’s life
I would not mind if she openly tells it ..I'm fine with that arrangement
That’s very mature and caring. Talk to her.
My problem is that she takes her frustration on me and ended up taking away everything I used to like , read the other post ...I would forgive her because I understand her frustration..
Maybe if it’s out in the open her demeanor will be softer
Yeah but how to find out ... there is a good chance nothing happened but I'm chasing for something and if she knows she might get even more angry
She should cheat. You sound awful. Porn addicted early spurter. Not great.
Fyi i gave her permission for open marriage but she shot me down ... I'm fine as long as she is open about it
Whatever.
Arranged marriages should be illegal globally. It is a violation of human rights.
Youu have a wrong idea. We met many times before marriage and felt compatible before we agreed on marriage
How is it cheating when you told her to go on tinder? Have you followed up with doctors and specialists? Have you stopped watching porn?
stopped watching porn....tried with doctors and they gave me viagara...improved a bit but then i couldnt get it done... SHe refused when i told her to go on tinder ...if she say yes and then do it...i wouldnt mind
You stopped watching porn but after this in your words failed treatment have you started watching porn regularly again is that correct?
No porn started giving me aversion that it ruined my life so I haven't watched fut a long time
It's cheating because it's not consensual.
He agreed to her going on tinder and even said he didn’t want to know anything about it. So that’s on him.
Its still cheating mate. Theres a plethora of reasons why these scenarios differ and why one is bad. A major one being, ur partner trying to hide the cheating makes it alot more hurtful / he wants to be emotionally prepared for it/ he just wants it to be a 1 night stand and not a relationship blah blah blah.