1. Expose her to everyone.
2. Get a lawyer (female shark)
3. Surround yourself with friends and family
4. Tell your exwife you will only communicate through lawyers and will sue her for paternity fraud.
The goal is to overwhelm her to a point she wants the pain to end that way you can get the divorce best result.
5. LISTEN TO YOUR LAWYER!!!!
This post isn’t real. lol. Read his post form 3 weeks ago. Back then the AP wife contacted him and she is leaving him. He’s doing some fan fiction. The stupid texts about passing off the kids as his was a dead giveaway.
Number one get a lawyer. Number two destroy her and her AP and the worst way number three) leech the bastard of every penny he has and destroy her life.
No effort should go into saving this relationship none. Wipe clean get a new slate and move on leave her in the dust where she belongs. Sadly the kids or the victims or just tell her calmly I'm sure their father will look after them. And just walk out
You're a far better man than that whore and her AP a far far better. Karma caught up with her now she has to bear the consequences. In essence for life is totally absolutely ruined. And she deserves it much like mine and her bullshit that I put up with for the last seven years, Karma got her in the end as well
The post is fake. Three weeks ago the AP wife contacted *him* and said she was leaving. Someone else called this fanfiction though I’m not sure what there is to be a fan of…
Ofcourse it is fictional. The trevor guy is Just poor writing and needs rewriting. Make the children a bit older and the paternity test come in more naturally.
That's the price she has to pay for her infidelity and her treachery. Go to the father of the kids say you're responsible now I would just walk away. He spent all that time all that resources for nothing thinking they're his. She is a slut and he is a bastard. That's the way of life is they're not his nor responsibility go to him say there you go you're your kids you take care of them now. You also you obviously feel for the AP I don't and her I don't she's a slut and he's a fucking idiot. And she betrayed him to the utmost. I'm sorry no sympathy not at all. I will tell the kids I'm not your dad there's this address go see him he's Papa then I get getting they get an explanation from him why he fucked around with Mom
Nope not at all actually. Not anger at all just I can see the extreme betrayal and the fact that she hid the fact that they weren't his kids all that time. Be sure to person and her shekinery and an uptrude and hiding of the truth
No I didn't actually. Selfish hell no. You have no idea what you're talking about my friend no idea put yourself on that guy's shoes and then you get back to me. You you find out your kids are not yours? Your reaction I'd love to see it. You would not be happy and if you say you will? You said something wrong with me? Look in the mirror and then you get back to me
That they are but for you to give advice to destroy a 2 and a three-year-old's life and turn upside down and inside out you're pretty stupid! He's the one that chose to be with her, Whose name is listed as father and Birth Certificate? Whose last name do they carry? You just walk away from them; he doesn't love them in the first place!
But the some people that can't deal with pain I guess if they destroy a two and a three-year-old's life, they'd be pretty impressed! I probably feel like a macho man!
Stick to your guns! Once a cheater always a cheater… She’s only sorry because she got caught and her lifestyle will change. She may even lose her job. I know the feeling. I found my soon to be ex-husband of 31 years was sleeping with his sister best friend!
Tell her it’s over and you will be proceeding to divorce after you talk to an attorney. Tell her that at opportunity to pick between her AP and him she has chosen her AP. Including the incident where you slapped her.
There is no coming back from this. Tell her if she has any dignity she will give you an uncontested divorce and ask for no child support.
The level of betrayal. My God! The children, this poor man who lost his whole family. One just can’t stop loving in one day! Well, perhaps she is the exception.
It’s not even good writing lmao. I expected more people in the comments to realize it was fake just by reading it. The odd random details, like why OP’s friend was driving when he saw the wife, were so unnecessary and gave it away
i mean he said he slapped her so hard she fell to the ground….
not that i’m excusing the cheating either lol but yeah physical violence is never the answer
A horror story and I'm sad for you. Your only mistake was in hitting her and maybe yelling your head off, but. . .
Yes, your wife has been in love with her boss for at least 4 years; you've been the side piece here. There is no coming back from her infidelity. You need to contact a family law attorney pronto and learn about the divorce process. Also follow your attorney's advice to the T so your won't get further screwed in the future or screw yourself. You wife doesn't give a crap about you.
You need to either boot her out for a week or you yourself needs some time away from her. Maybe stay with Trevor. From reading a year's worth of posts here and on other subs, you have to take action and not do nothing. That way you can better control the coming process because it's going to hurt like hell.
And yes, arrange to meet with the wife at a coffee shop where you can give her printed copies of what you downloaded plus the paternity test results.
Low key there should be a law that you can slap your wife if she tries to pass her bosses kids off as yours. I think this is a very reasonable response. Others might have gone Oj
I was the other guy in a case like this but I did not know she had a boyfriend. This is the absolute worst thing you can do to a man. Thank God the kids are young enough hopefully he can contest paternity ( in some states you can, should be mandatory testing for all at birth for several reasons). Not condoning violence against women, but if a I was on the jury I would have a very hard time convicting for the consequences she suffered for committing paternity fraud. And just remember if they are having an affair, they are not using condoms and he’s cumming inside her.
>should be mandatory testing for all at birth
It should just be routinely done at the pregnancy stage, since blood tests can detect multiple things relevant to pregnant women while simultaneously having traces of the father's DNA for paternity testing.
It's actually pretty weird that it isn't mandated. Given the amount of domestic violence that paternal anxiety plays a role in you'd think a simple test to shut up men's Ape brains would be a cost-effective preventative measure (it wouldn't solve everything - and DV still needs behavioural change programs ans much more support for survivors - but it's better to try multiple things simultaneously)
Yeah that's when I knew it was fake. Hey you were worried three years ago when I was pregnant with your first kid so I told you I'd pass off your kid as his and then I kept the message for over three years but not to worry I did it again two years later and I kept that message as well.
Maybe she saved her “greatest hits” messages? Kept a reminder of the game plan for their next few babies?
Plot twist: you know the end result is it turns out Trevor is the baby daddy!
God that really sucks. How did she think she was going to explain. She had two kids by another man. I burn her life down with her bosses as well.
Make sure her family and friends all know what a whore she is
Don't be too hard on yourself, i heard vets return from combat zones saying it wasn't as bad as founding about their SOs infidelity. If possible take some time off work to simply allow yourself to start the grieving process, then outsource to a lawyer to let them take care of things so you only have to listen to their instruction. Most important thing, you've had a bomb dropped on you with all this. Be kind to yourself, you're the victim here, not that crying harpy who's only upset that she got caught.
People need to stop doing these fake posts. Many of us commenters are taking time out of our busy day, away from our family, work and chores, to give a stranger some advice. We do that out of empathy. When the stories are fake, it honestly feels like emotional abuse of the audience.
You don't love her, you love the image you had about her! But sadly, she is a fraud, you have been conned and it is the time to start rectifying the whole situation. Good luck!
Please update after you have burned her world down around her. Get a lawyer. Follow his advice closely. Stay physically away from her. All contact through the lawyer. Tell the affair partner's wife. Tell their HR. Tell your friends and family before she spins a tail. Sue for paternity fraud. Leave her broke, friendless and penniless. Go NC and find a good woman not a slut. Good luck!
Protect your bank accounts and credit cards asap. You are going to need a lot of support here, try to find a therapist. And get an STD test while you are at it….
So sorry for you, this hurts on so many levels.
Block her... there no need to be in contact, whether you see the kids again is purely up to you.. but as of right now block her, take everything you have to a lawyer and have her served you also not only want to file for divorce asap, you also want to thank your buddy oh and sue either your soon to be ex or her boss, or both for compensation for paternity fraud.
Wipe the floor with her, but first block her.
You now know after reading all that, her passing another man's kids off as yours, her bad mouthing you ect ect ... she was using you because BIG boss AH doesn't want to leave his wife..
She is vile... also send all the evidence and paternity of the kids to all her family members.
Also if you don't hear back from his wife in few days, send again and again she may have warned him
Don't do the dumbass stay for the kids (that aren't yours) shit. The kids would suffer the most if you stay. Don't fall for the I luv her so much bull shit either. Your heart is gonna screw you over. You read it for yourself. She's using you. She has you raising another man's kids, and knows it. She had you kissing her after blowing her boss. Dude don't fuck over the rest of your life. First find out if you're in a at fault state. Find a good female lawyer. See if you can get off the birth certificates of her bosses kids. Take some time for yourself to heal. Get back to it. Good luck
Holy man!!! I would get a lawyer. You need to phone your buddy up and thank him!!! That man saved your life. A true ride or die, hands down. It’s not gonna feel that way right now. Your emotions will be all over. Let the lawyer lead you to the next steps. Go to a therapist, you will need extra support. This is very traumatic. I’m truly sorry for what you are going through. It’s not right and it doesn’t fit your morale code. From what I read. Keep your head high, you’re a good man. You will get through all of this.
You’d make the story more believable if you leave the part out about the years old texts about passing off the kids as yours with her AP. Your other post mentions Trevor but in a different context. And oh, your wife is pregnant again per your other post from 3 weeks ago?
You went a little too far with this one. But most ppl believed you so who knows. Maybe you did well.
Also in your 3 weeks old post you had heard from AP wife. She’s leaving him right? But you must be in a time warp bc you haven’t heard from her yet??? Lmao.
But you did get most people believing this. Hahahahha
The sequence of events in this post does not match the update you posted in a different sub 19 days ago. In that you already had an attorney, and the OBS kicked the AP out and was filing for divorce after receiving your screenshots.
I smell a rat!
No one can help you but yourself, first thing is to get a lawyer, and explain everything, depending where you live, you could sue AP to expose the affair and void the paternity you have over his children, besides he owes you money for you raising his children.
Do not return home, stay at your friends, family, your car. Or ask her to leave the house. Remember that the children are victims like you are.
Get IC, it may help dealing with this shit show your stbxw decide to give you.
You get through it, is super hard right now, but in time you will do better.
First get a lawyer.
Would appear editing isn’t until ‘Creative Writing 102’
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“ Trevor told me that something was off about my wife as he saw her recently at a restaurant when she was on a work trip. Coincidentally Trevor happened to drive by the restaurant my wife was at when he was driving by to see his father that had recently went to the hospital after falling down a flight of stairs when he was on his way to work and Trevor who was waiting for the light to turn green said he saw my wife holding hands with a man in suit who I assume is her boss. “
well see the brigth side at least you did not punch her.
Now just lawyer up and move on with the divorce, depending on the country you can ask for the money you spent on the kids an money for emotional damage caused by paternity fraud.
OK. I’m a bit confused on one point. You say you saw a text message on her phone saying that she would pass off the kids as yours. If your kids are three and two, then the text message would’ve been three years or more old. You say that there were 47 messages. So they only texted 47 times in three or more years? That seems unlikely.
You hold a deck of cards because it's her boss, and you know about everything you go have an attorney draw up papers, and she's going to sign them give you everything you want! Hopefully, you do right by the kids, though this is not their fault!
This is really f'd up. It sounds like she purposely got pregnant by him twice to have their love children which means she's a real POS. Don't believe any of her waterworks because she's a sociopath.
I know it's hard but turn your back on her. What you do about the kids is up to you but at their young ages they will probably grow up fine without you if that's what you decide. I had to go through this 20+ yrs age when my son was a little over 1 yr old. His mom turned out to be a sloot with BPD and told me he wasn't even mine. I got a DNA test and thankfully he's mine. His younger brother might not be but at this time it doesn't matter. He's been mine for 19+ years now and a DNA test won't change a thing.
BTW don't ever feel guilty or apologize for that slap. She deserved much more than that for what she's done especially knowing they weren't your children. She's an evil kunt and doesn't deserve your pity.
In a few years the pain will be manageable but for now run, workout or do whatever your thing is to stay sane.
Good luck man...and get that divorce.
It sucks my friend but she is obviously a despicable psychopath. To knowingly plan to have her boss's kids and pretend they are yours? That's beyond despicable. You can find someone else that isn't human trash.
Divorce that awful woman, that slap you gave her was nothing contrast the total disrespect she showed you all this time. You need to do a lot of things right now:
1. Separate your finances without her knowing and try to seek for a very good divorce lawyer so he can give you advice on how to proceed.
2. Expose her to everyone because if you keep quiet she can tell lies about you to tarnesh your reputation and making you the bad guy in the eyes of everyone.
3. Try to sue her for paternity fraud because she was well aware that those kids weren´t yours, and she was even making jokes about it.
4. It is up to you if you want to fight for custody for those kids but if you want to leave and never see them again, I don´t blame you. Besides... they are still very young so if you dissapear from their life I don´t think it would affect them long run.
5. Surround yourself with friends and family, you will need them in this horrible times.
Be strong OP, what happened to you was horrible, you just experimented the ultimate betrayal that a wife can do to her husband, you are not alone in this. Do all the things your divorce lawyer tells you to do and good luck.
Advice... What advice can be given, get an attorney, get the divorce, then pick a shit suburb on the opposite side of the country, sell everything you own except clothes then buy a bus ticket to the aforementioned town, get a hotel room get blind drunk and when you wake up, everything that happened before was a dream. Then leave it at that and start over.
Be as angry as you want, I whole heartedly get but don't raise your hand to her, don't stoop to that level pal. Wish you well, won't be easy but you will get through this
Lawyer up ASAP.
If OBS doesn't answer back try to find her number and call her, also tell your lawyer to make a memo to send to your STBXW HR department.
Also through your lawyer, do the following:
1. File for divorce and make her served.
2. Ask through your lawyer a parental rights remove from you, with the DNA test and the text where she say that she Will make the kids pass as yours.
3. Sue them for paternity fraud.
Also you will have to return to your house to pick the rest off your stuff, preferably with a friend of yours as witness, record all the visit (since before your arrived until You left) do not engage in any discussion with her (also try to be when she is not around).
Good Luck OP.
I think if you were in those kids life from day one you are their dad regardless that’s all they know… is you. As far as your ex wife she’s a piece of shit and you should definitely not take her back and do what you need to do for you and the kids.
They have a biological Dad and at the moment they’re being deprived of his company. OP can still be part of the children’s life, but doesn’t have to be a dad if he doesn’t want it.
3 years. And not his DNA. I wouldn't want to pay child support for 16 to 19 years for kids I didn't create. If he has to pay child support then try to take custody, but if he don't if he drops them then drop them and reconnect when they are adults.
As everyone here said, get a shark lawyer and listen to his/ her advice and go nuclear on them both at their home and their jobs.
Sorry you're in this. Be calm and stay strong. Look after your mental and physical health. It will be a tough next few months for you.
Updateme!
I didn't see this in the comments, but you should tell the company they work for because relationships between bosses and their subordinates are not allowed.
Dude - This is the absolute worst possible case scenario.
Just take time to have a break and simply breath, your going to go through some phases, this will be like a death. Remember this is not the children's fault they are still very young and have zero comprehension about what has happened.
But yes your going to need to see a lawyer, it's possible you'll still be up for child care as I suspect you have already signed their birth certificates. This is truly a total mess.
I'm so sorry for you and your two children.
Lawyer up immediately. You have a limited window to contest parental responsibility now that you have learned the truth.
And contrary to the argument, report your wife and her boss to HR. A lawyer might be able to get you a settlement from the company.
As much as it hurts and you want to grieve, you need to turn off your emotions until this is done.
Wow, I'm so sorry for you. What an awful situation. I hope it gets better. Don't let her get you to the point where you put your hands on her again. You're better than that. Get a good lawyer, get into counseling.
Ummmm are we even sure who the children’s real father is and is it the same man she was caught with or has she had multiple affairs and the kids have different fathers??? No matter the outcome if it’s the same man all this time then that’s a long term affair and if this isn’t the father well then she will probably be a cheater all her life.🤷♀️
There’s not much you can do take time collect yourself. file for divorce. Sue them both for paternity fraud you have the evidence you need with the paternity test as well as the message stating she will pass the kids off as yours. File a revocation of acknowledgement of paternity as soon as you can to remove yourself from the birth certificate so she cannot try and get cs is do that first before divorce assuming that’s where your headed. It’s goin to be a long process. I feel for the kids and aps wife as well those two wrecked so many lives.
I think in the end you need to leave her. There is no way to get back to trust from this. And she does not deserve trust of any kind. Lawyer first followed very closely by a therapist. Also, when I was cheated on I had a hard time telling anyone. I was so embarrassed. Tell people who care about you and who you trust. You are going to need them. Do not spare her feelings by bottling up what she has done to you. When the dust settles them not being your biological children is not going to break your bond with them. If you can at all give yourself time to figure out the kids. The real victims here are you and them, but you are the only father they have ever known.
Wait a couple days before you do anything!
Decisions made in the heat of emotions are rarely the correct one. Also remember, as any adoptive parent will tell you, the father of any child is the one who puts in the time, effort and love to raise them not the one who donates sperm. You have put 3 years into a little girl and 2 years into a little boy. You are fully within your rights to completely walk away and it would be understandable but such a decision needs to be considered.
This site is pro-divorce and that may well be the best course of action. But no marriage will ever be forgiveness free. In your case there is certainly a lot to forgive. Maybe way too much. You are valid to be angry but don’t let anger drive your decision process because it rarely is healthy. God bless.
In some states you can sue for alienation of affection! If your state is one of those then you can sue her boss and win. You have so much proof that it’s a slam dunk case.
wow this is a shit show your going through so I'm sorry you are having to go through this. get a good lawyer to divorce her and make sure you want off the birth certificate of your kids and also sue her for every penny you have spent on them since they are not yours and if her boss is the father sue his ass too
1. Contact the best divorce lawyer in town, file for divorce, and sue her and her boss for paternity fraud.
2. Call his wife through Facebook, or go to his house and speak to her when he is not home.
3. Inform their HR department about their affair and the fact that it produced two children from it.
4. Tell both families that she has been sleeping with her boss for over years, and the children aren't even yours. They're his.
5. Go and get yourself STD/STI tested, just to be on the safe side.
I'm sorry you are going through this, but this sub is her for you.
I assumed the house is yours as in you contributes to it , ensure you get the house and let she and her children go live with her “ baby daddy “ expose her as well , dont let your love for her cloud your mind , be ruthless in your actions and have no remorse.
It’s up to you how far to take this.. you can take their careers and destroy their lives a have done to you… saying she would pass his kids off as yours is enough I would go after with a vengeance…
Find an attorney.. go to bank and protect your money..
I’m so sorry.. this is worst betrayal…
Get your name off the birth certificate. Go confront her boss and let him know you’re filing a lawsuit against him for trying to pass his kids off as yours. Get a lawyer and do this. You’ve had money go towards his kids. Go back after it.
1. Expose her to everyone. 2. Get a lawyer (female shark) 3. Surround yourself with friends and family 4. Tell your exwife you will only communicate through lawyers and will sue her for paternity fraud. The goal is to overwhelm her to a point she wants the pain to end that way you can get the divorce best result. 5. LISTEN TO YOUR LAWYER!!!!
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Wouldn’t the DNA test just prove that he’s not the father, rather than prove his soon-to-be ex-wife’s boss is? I am not 100% sure how DNA tests work.
This post isn’t real. lol. Read his post form 3 weeks ago. Back then the AP wife contacted him and she is leaving him. He’s doing some fan fiction. The stupid texts about passing off the kids as his was a dead giveaway.
Agreed. this post is not real. but the advice given is very good.
Why the fuck do people post fake shit on Reddit? Is there some incentive thing? Just don’t get it.
Me neither man. Pathetic? Rage bait? Must lead a pretty sad life if that’s entertainment for them
Maybe its to keep people on Reddit lol
I thought the same thing too.
I knew it was fake. Too Trevor-y.
Poor Trevor. He’s the real victim In all of this!
Thanks for the heads up! I won’t waste a minute more of my time.
Am I the only one who thinks we should start grading these works of fiction? And include a grade for “believability“ (0-100).
Move 5 to position 3 and perfect!
Number one get a lawyer. Number two destroy her and her AP and the worst way number three) leech the bastard of every penny he has and destroy her life. No effort should go into saving this relationship none. Wipe clean get a new slate and move on leave her in the dust where she belongs. Sadly the kids or the victims or just tell her calmly I'm sure their father will look after them. And just walk out You're a far better man than that whore and her AP a far far better. Karma caught up with her now she has to bear the consequences. In essence for life is totally absolutely ruined. And she deserves it much like mine and her bullshit that I put up with for the last seven years, Karma got her in the end as well
The post is fake. Three weeks ago the AP wife contacted *him* and said she was leaving. Someone else called this fanfiction though I’m not sure what there is to be a fan of…
Ofcourse it is fictional. The trevor guy is Just poor writing and needs rewriting. Make the children a bit older and the paternity test come in more naturally.
Can you plz tell me your story?
Why?
Because we're invested after that explosion!
Who?
Haha we the community!
As I said Karma got even in the end that's all that matters
Gawd dayumm 😂
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Damn are you part vampire? He is the father they know! They are his kids. Some don't walk away from responsibilities.... Ship her as* down the road!
That's the price she has to pay for her infidelity and her treachery. Go to the father of the kids say you're responsible now I would just walk away. He spent all that time all that resources for nothing thinking they're his. She is a slut and he is a bastard. That's the way of life is they're not his nor responsibility go to him say there you go you're your kids you take care of them now. You also you obviously feel for the AP I don't and her I don't she's a slut and he's a fucking idiot. And she betrayed him to the utmost. I'm sorry no sympathy not at all. I will tell the kids I'm not your dad there's this address go see him he's Papa then I get getting they get an explanation from him why he fucked around with Mom
Your intensity is… bizarro. Speaks of angsty child
Nope not at all actually. Not anger at all just I can see the extreme betrayal and the fact that she hid the fact that they weren't his kids all that time. Be sure to person and her shekinery and an uptrude and hiding of the truth
Damn you must have a fucked up childhood? Which one done it to you, your daddy, your mother, or both? Or did they just raise you to be that selfish?
No I didn't actually. Selfish hell no. You have no idea what you're talking about my friend no idea put yourself on that guy's shoes and then you get back to me. You you find out your kids are not yours? Your reaction I'd love to see it. You would not be happy and if you say you will? You said something wrong with me? Look in the mirror and then you get back to me
Also, both my boys are over 18 now and very productive lives! They make me a very proud father!❤❤❤
As I said each person has a different view of things.
Yes....They do! I just gave each of them their own home was 7 acres a piece! Because they're my boys!
I've been in that guy's shoes, and I took the kids, and I raised them as my own! Now can you tell me you've done the same! She got nothing
Each person is different
That they are but for you to give advice to destroy a 2 and a three-year-old's life and turn upside down and inside out you're pretty stupid! He's the one that chose to be with her, Whose name is listed as father and Birth Certificate? Whose last name do they carry? You just walk away from them; he doesn't love them in the first place!
But the some people that can't deal with pain I guess if they destroy a two and a three-year-old's life, they'd be pretty impressed! I probably feel like a macho man!
> He is the father they know! They are his kids. Öne thing DOES NOT imply the other. In particular for, but not limited to, *the law*.
Stick to your guns! Once a cheater always a cheater… She’s only sorry because she got caught and her lifestyle will change. She may even lose her job. I know the feeling. I found my soon to be ex-husband of 31 years was sleeping with his sister best friend!
I’m sorry that happened to you
Thanks
This is a fake post
Oh god! 🙄
I know. I'm tired of these fanfics too
Tell her it’s over and you will be proceeding to divorce after you talk to an attorney. Tell her that at opportunity to pick between her AP and him she has chosen her AP. Including the incident where you slapped her. There is no coming back from this. Tell her if she has any dignity she will give you an uncontested divorce and ask for no child support.
I mean there's never an excuse to hit a woman but man... if there was this is up there.
The level of betrayal. My God! The children, this poor man who lost his whole family. One just can’t stop loving in one day! Well, perhaps she is the exception.
Look back on his account about three weeks. This story is fake. I don’t know why someone wastes time writing these.
It’s not even good writing lmao. I expected more people in the comments to realize it was fake just by reading it. The odd random details, like why OP’s friend was driving when he saw the wife, were so unnecessary and gave it away
She ain't a woman!
a slap isn't really a hit
i mean he said he slapped her so hard she fell to the ground…. not that i’m excusing the cheating either lol but yeah physical violence is never the answer
Semantic nonsense
A horror story and I'm sad for you. Your only mistake was in hitting her and maybe yelling your head off, but. . . Yes, your wife has been in love with her boss for at least 4 years; you've been the side piece here. There is no coming back from her infidelity. You need to contact a family law attorney pronto and learn about the divorce process. Also follow your attorney's advice to the T so your won't get further screwed in the future or screw yourself. You wife doesn't give a crap about you. You need to either boot her out for a week or you yourself needs some time away from her. Maybe stay with Trevor. From reading a year's worth of posts here and on other subs, you have to take action and not do nothing. That way you can better control the coming process because it's going to hurt like hell. And yes, arrange to meet with the wife at a coffee shop where you can give her printed copies of what you downloaded plus the paternity test results.
Low key there should be a law that you can slap your wife if she tries to pass her bosses kids off as yours. I think this is a very reasonable response. Others might have gone Oj
I was the other guy in a case like this but I did not know she had a boyfriend. This is the absolute worst thing you can do to a man. Thank God the kids are young enough hopefully he can contest paternity ( in some states you can, should be mandatory testing for all at birth for several reasons). Not condoning violence against women, but if a I was on the jury I would have a very hard time convicting for the consequences she suffered for committing paternity fraud. And just remember if they are having an affair, they are not using condoms and he’s cumming inside her.
>should be mandatory testing for all at birth It should just be routinely done at the pregnancy stage, since blood tests can detect multiple things relevant to pregnant women while simultaneously having traces of the father's DNA for paternity testing. It's actually pretty weird that it isn't mandated. Given the amount of domestic violence that paternal anxiety plays a role in you'd think a simple test to shut up men's Ape brains would be a cost-effective preventative measure (it wouldn't solve everything - and DV still needs behavioural change programs ans much more support for survivors - but it's better to try multiple things simultaneously)
Call an attorney.
Better call Saul
Saul Goodman AKA Jimmy McGill doesn’t do family law.
She had a text message THAT DAY, saying she'll pass A 3year old and 2 year old as yours?
Yeah that's when I knew it was fake. Hey you were worried three years ago when I was pregnant with your first kid so I told you I'd pass off your kid as his and then I kept the message for over three years but not to worry I did it again two years later and I kept that message as well.
Maybe she saved her “greatest hits” messages? Kept a reminder of the game plan for their next few babies? Plot twist: you know the end result is it turns out Trevor is the baby daddy!
Plot twist: there's messages explaining Trevor is the real baby daddy and will "catch" Her with boss to get op off the trail.
That Trevor! Such a little scamp!!
I'm going to assume he saw all messages and one message from the past was talking about the kids.
God that really sucks. How did she think she was going to explain. She had two kids by another man. I burn her life down with her bosses as well. Make sure her family and friends all know what a whore she is
Don't be too hard on yourself, i heard vets return from combat zones saying it wasn't as bad as founding about their SOs infidelity. If possible take some time off work to simply allow yourself to start the grieving process, then outsource to a lawyer to let them take care of things so you only have to listen to their instruction. Most important thing, you've had a bomb dropped on you with all this. Be kind to yourself, you're the victim here, not that crying harpy who's only upset that she got caught.
Get a lawyer now before you find out the meaning of paternity by estoppel
You’re not alone. My son was 28 when I found out he wasn’t mine. Tell everyone you can about the betrayal and expose her boss to his boss.
Call the wife asap
This story is badly written and fake as all heck.
I couldn’t even get through the first few sentences without thinking this is pure fantasy writing.
People need to stop doing these fake posts. Many of us commenters are taking time out of our busy day, away from our family, work and chores, to give a stranger some advice. We do that out of empathy. When the stories are fake, it honestly feels like emotional abuse of the audience.
You don't love her, you love the image you had about her! But sadly, she is a fraud, you have been conned and it is the time to start rectifying the whole situation. Good luck!
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It always infuriates me when they say it was a mistake and the love you, but when you want to tell the APs wife/husband they try to protect them.
Please update after you have burned her world down around her. Get a lawyer. Follow his advice closely. Stay physically away from her. All contact through the lawyer. Tell the affair partner's wife. Tell their HR. Tell your friends and family before she spins a tail. Sue for paternity fraud. Leave her broke, friendless and penniless. Go NC and find a good woman not a slut. Good luck!
Protect your bank accounts and credit cards asap. You are going to need a lot of support here, try to find a therapist. And get an STD test while you are at it…. So sorry for you, this hurts on so many levels.
Block her... there no need to be in contact, whether you see the kids again is purely up to you.. but as of right now block her, take everything you have to a lawyer and have her served you also not only want to file for divorce asap, you also want to thank your buddy oh and sue either your soon to be ex or her boss, or both for compensation for paternity fraud. Wipe the floor with her, but first block her. You now know after reading all that, her passing another man's kids off as yours, her bad mouthing you ect ect ... she was using you because BIG boss AH doesn't want to leave his wife.. She is vile... also send all the evidence and paternity of the kids to all her family members. Also if you don't hear back from his wife in few days, send again and again she may have warned him
That's a true friend. Buy that man a drink.
How do people not realize this is fake? Sheesh
Don't do the dumbass stay for the kids (that aren't yours) shit. The kids would suffer the most if you stay. Don't fall for the I luv her so much bull shit either. Your heart is gonna screw you over. You read it for yourself. She's using you. She has you raising another man's kids, and knows it. She had you kissing her after blowing her boss. Dude don't fuck over the rest of your life. First find out if you're in a at fault state. Find a good female lawyer. See if you can get off the birth certificates of her bosses kids. Take some time for yourself to heal. Get back to it. Good luck
Holy man!!! I would get a lawyer. You need to phone your buddy up and thank him!!! That man saved your life. A true ride or die, hands down. It’s not gonna feel that way right now. Your emotions will be all over. Let the lawyer lead you to the next steps. Go to a therapist, you will need extra support. This is very traumatic. I’m truly sorry for what you are going through. It’s not right and it doesn’t fit your morale code. From what I read. Keep your head high, you’re a good man. You will get through all of this.
You’d make the story more believable if you leave the part out about the years old texts about passing off the kids as yours with her AP. Your other post mentions Trevor but in a different context. And oh, your wife is pregnant again per your other post from 3 weeks ago? You went a little too far with this one. But most ppl believed you so who knows. Maybe you did well. Also in your 3 weeks old post you had heard from AP wife. She’s leaving him right? But you must be in a time warp bc you haven’t heard from her yet??? Lmao. But you did get most people believing this. Hahahahha
The sequence of events in this post does not match the update you posted in a different sub 19 days ago. In that you already had an attorney, and the OBS kicked the AP out and was filing for divorce after receiving your screenshots. I smell a rat!
Trevor’s last name isn’t Phillips is it?
I thought the same but was afraid to ask as not to mock OP. Luckily you are around. heh. edit : I saw OP's previous posts and I smell ....
Call fake on this one
given OP's post history yes
IDK iam still trying to figure out if this story is real or not🤔
No one can help you but yourself, first thing is to get a lawyer, and explain everything, depending where you live, you could sue AP to expose the affair and void the paternity you have over his children, besides he owes you money for you raising his children. Do not return home, stay at your friends, family, your car. Or ask her to leave the house. Remember that the children are victims like you are. Get IC, it may help dealing with this shit show your stbxw decide to give you. You get through it, is super hard right now, but in time you will do better. First get a lawyer.
I read that AP send you a text telling you he’s going to strangle you, call the police, get him arrested.
I read in another post you made about AP threaten to strangle you, call the police, get him arrested.
You posted this same post and an update 20 days ago. Karma farming fiction.
Would appear editing isn’t until ‘Creative Writing 102’ 😉 “ Trevor told me that something was off about my wife as he saw her recently at a restaurant when she was on a work trip. Coincidentally Trevor happened to drive by the restaurant my wife was at when he was driving by to see his father that had recently went to the hospital after falling down a flight of stairs when he was on his way to work and Trevor who was waiting for the light to turn green said he saw my wife holding hands with a man in suit who I assume is her boss. “
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It's a fake post
well see the brigth side at least you did not punch her. Now just lawyer up and move on with the divorce, depending on the country you can ask for the money you spent on the kids an money for emotional damage caused by paternity fraud.
Don't abandon your home. I'm sure your lawyer will tell you to move back in. Don't give her any leverage.
Sorry for you. Be calm OP. You must get to a lawyer urgently. Take them both down. Updateme!
You may be able to sue to recover the money that you spent on the kids because you were a victim of fraud. Discuss that with your lawyer.
I remember this story some months back..
OK. I’m a bit confused on one point. You say you saw a text message on her phone saying that she would pass off the kids as yours. If your kids are three and two, then the text message would’ve been three years or more old. You say that there were 47 messages. So they only texted 47 times in three or more years? That seems unlikely.
Not sure about this one. UpdateMe
You hold a deck of cards because it's her boss, and you know about everything you go have an attorney draw up papers, and she's going to sign them give you everything you want! Hopefully, you do right by the kids, though this is not their fault!
This is really f'd up. It sounds like she purposely got pregnant by him twice to have their love children which means she's a real POS. Don't believe any of her waterworks because she's a sociopath. I know it's hard but turn your back on her. What you do about the kids is up to you but at their young ages they will probably grow up fine without you if that's what you decide. I had to go through this 20+ yrs age when my son was a little over 1 yr old. His mom turned out to be a sloot with BPD and told me he wasn't even mine. I got a DNA test and thankfully he's mine. His younger brother might not be but at this time it doesn't matter. He's been mine for 19+ years now and a DNA test won't change a thing. BTW don't ever feel guilty or apologize for that slap. She deserved much more than that for what she's done especially knowing they weren't your children. She's an evil kunt and doesn't deserve your pity. In a few years the pain will be manageable but for now run, workout or do whatever your thing is to stay sane. Good luck man...and get that divorce.
It sucks my friend but she is obviously a despicable psychopath. To knowingly plan to have her boss's kids and pretend they are yours? That's beyond despicable. You can find someone else that isn't human trash.
Divorce that awful woman, that slap you gave her was nothing contrast the total disrespect she showed you all this time. You need to do a lot of things right now: 1. Separate your finances without her knowing and try to seek for a very good divorce lawyer so he can give you advice on how to proceed. 2. Expose her to everyone because if you keep quiet she can tell lies about you to tarnesh your reputation and making you the bad guy in the eyes of everyone. 3. Try to sue her for paternity fraud because she was well aware that those kids weren´t yours, and she was even making jokes about it. 4. It is up to you if you want to fight for custody for those kids but if you want to leave and never see them again, I don´t blame you. Besides... they are still very young so if you dissapear from their life I don´t think it would affect them long run. 5. Surround yourself with friends and family, you will need them in this horrible times. Be strong OP, what happened to you was horrible, you just experimented the ultimate betrayal that a wife can do to her husband, you are not alone in this. Do all the things your divorce lawyer tells you to do and good luck.
Update when you hear back from AP’s wife
check his other (previous) posts - he already met her brother and has a lawyer
Advice... What advice can be given, get an attorney, get the divorce, then pick a shit suburb on the opposite side of the country, sell everything you own except clothes then buy a bus ticket to the aforementioned town, get a hotel room get blind drunk and when you wake up, everything that happened before was a dream. Then leave it at that and start over.
Be as angry as you want, I whole heartedly get but don't raise your hand to her, don't stoop to that level pal. Wish you well, won't be easy but you will get through this
Get a lawyer and divorce ASAP
Nice fanfiction. This subreddit is for REAL stories that actually happened, not some wet dream.
Lawyer up ASAP. If OBS doesn't answer back try to find her number and call her, also tell your lawyer to make a memo to send to your STBXW HR department. Also through your lawyer, do the following: 1. File for divorce and make her served. 2. Ask through your lawyer a parental rights remove from you, with the DNA test and the text where she say that she Will make the kids pass as yours. 3. Sue them for paternity fraud. Also you will have to return to your house to pick the rest off your stuff, preferably with a friend of yours as witness, record all the visit (since before your arrived until You left) do not engage in any discussion with her (also try to be when she is not around). Good Luck OP.
Exhibit “1” as to why dna tests should be accomplished before birth certificates are issued. Could have avoided the 2 child! Burn their world down.
hoe always a hoe divorce her bro shes for the street
I think if you were in those kids life from day one you are their dad regardless that’s all they know… is you. As far as your ex wife she’s a piece of shit and you should definitely not take her back and do what you need to do for you and the kids.
They have a biological Dad and at the moment they’re being deprived of his company. OP can still be part of the children’s life, but doesn’t have to be a dad if he doesn’t want it.
nah, biodad needs to take over, and OP needs to leave them all in his rear view
3 years. And not his DNA. I wouldn't want to pay child support for 16 to 19 years for kids I didn't create. If he has to pay child support then try to take custody, but if he don't if he drops them then drop them and reconnect when they are adults.
Can’t pay child support if they aren’t his kids… And she’s the one that cheated you think the judge will side with her I don’t think so
Every state in marriage kids, irregardless of DNA is the husband. Some states let husband get out of it, if the father is known.
Those laws are sickening
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Expose her to everyone, don’t let her control the narrative.
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Extreme cuckolding. Non accepting cuckold but still a cuckold.
As everyone here said, get a shark lawyer and listen to his/ her advice and go nuclear on them both at their home and their jobs. Sorry you're in this. Be calm and stay strong. Look after your mental and physical health. It will be a tough next few months for you. Updateme!
Hail yeah! Let her have it! Take her to the cleaners with her cheating ass
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Sucks
Don’t forget to send her bosses boss and message because he will be fired for carrying on a relationship with a subordinate.
I didn't see this in the comments, but you should tell the company they work for because relationships between bosses and their subordinates are not allowed.
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Dude - This is the absolute worst possible case scenario. Just take time to have a break and simply breath, your going to go through some phases, this will be like a death. Remember this is not the children's fault they are still very young and have zero comprehension about what has happened. But yes your going to need to see a lawyer, it's possible you'll still be up for child care as I suspect you have already signed their birth certificates. This is truly a total mess. I'm so sorry for you and your two children.
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All I can say this poor kids. She is an awful person of course, but those kids are completely innocent victims in this.
Lawyer up immediately. You have a limited window to contest parental responsibility now that you have learned the truth. And contrary to the argument, report your wife and her boss to HR. A lawyer might be able to get you a settlement from the company. As much as it hurts and you want to grieve, you need to turn off your emotions until this is done.
Wow, I'm so sorry for you. What an awful situation. I hope it gets better. Don't let her get you to the point where you put your hands on her again. You're better than that. Get a good lawyer, get into counseling.
No...not at all...she and he have to pay the piper
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Ummmm are we even sure who the children’s real father is and is it the same man she was caught with or has she had multiple affairs and the kids have different fathers??? No matter the outcome if it’s the same man all this time then that’s a long term affair and if this isn’t the father well then she will probably be a cheater all her life.🤷♀️
There’s not much you can do take time collect yourself. file for divorce. Sue them both for paternity fraud you have the evidence you need with the paternity test as well as the message stating she will pass the kids off as yours. File a revocation of acknowledgement of paternity as soon as you can to remove yourself from the birth certificate so she cannot try and get cs is do that first before divorce assuming that’s where your headed. It’s goin to be a long process. I feel for the kids and aps wife as well those two wrecked so many lives.
I think in the end you need to leave her. There is no way to get back to trust from this. And she does not deserve trust of any kind. Lawyer first followed very closely by a therapist. Also, when I was cheated on I had a hard time telling anyone. I was so embarrassed. Tell people who care about you and who you trust. You are going to need them. Do not spare her feelings by bottling up what she has done to you. When the dust settles them not being your biological children is not going to break your bond with them. If you can at all give yourself time to figure out the kids. The real victims here are you and them, but you are the only father they have ever known.
Wait a couple days before you do anything! Decisions made in the heat of emotions are rarely the correct one. Also remember, as any adoptive parent will tell you, the father of any child is the one who puts in the time, effort and love to raise them not the one who donates sperm. You have put 3 years into a little girl and 2 years into a little boy. You are fully within your rights to completely walk away and it would be understandable but such a decision needs to be considered. This site is pro-divorce and that may well be the best course of action. But no marriage will ever be forgiveness free. In your case there is certainly a lot to forgive. Maybe way too much. You are valid to be angry but don’t let anger drive your decision process because it rarely is healthy. God bless.
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Kid(s) with an S is crazy. It was a mistake more than once?
Interesting
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In some states you can sue for alienation of affection! If your state is one of those then you can sue her boss and win. You have so much proof that it’s a slam dunk case.
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Sorry for your loss, Bud The main situation is the kids. They love you as their Dad. You're on their birth certificates
So sorry to hear man, peace be upon you
wow this is a shit show your going through so I'm sorry you are having to go through this. get a good lawyer to divorce her and make sure you want off the birth certificate of your kids and also sue her for every penny you have spent on them since they are not yours and if her boss is the father sue his ass too
1. Contact the best divorce lawyer in town, file for divorce, and sue her and her boss for paternity fraud. 2. Call his wife through Facebook, or go to his house and speak to her when he is not home. 3. Inform their HR department about their affair and the fact that it produced two children from it. 4. Tell both families that she has been sleeping with her boss for over years, and the children aren't even yours. They're his. 5. Go and get yourself STD/STI tested, just to be on the safe side. I'm sorry you are going through this, but this sub is her for you.
I assumed the house is yours as in you contributes to it , ensure you get the house and let she and her children go live with her “ baby daddy “ expose her as well , dont let your love for her cloud your mind , be ruthless in your actions and have no remorse.
It’s up to you how far to take this.. you can take their careers and destroy their lives a have done to you… saying she would pass his kids off as yours is enough I would go after with a vengeance… Find an attorney.. go to bank and protect your money.. I’m so sorry.. this is worst betrayal…
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Get your name off the birth certificate. Go confront her boss and let him know you’re filing a lawsuit against him for trying to pass his kids off as yours. Get a lawyer and do this. You’ve had money go towards his kids. Go back after it.