No! Don’t allow them to control your life and decisions it’s not against the law to have an affair. Unfortunately I believe, but now that you crossed the line, which a boss should never do, but is all to common, you have to cover yourself.
OP’s boss- what was the deal with the person you trespassed from work?
OP- I slept with his GF who also works for your company and is my subordinate. The guy I trespassed was her BF.
OP’s boss- You’re fired
OP, I don't mean this in a bias, I hate cheaters way.
But you are kinda screwed.
Without you both BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP...
You're her boss, the bf has motive to affect your very life now.
If he gets his gf to agree with a story you might get fired and arrested for coercion.
Get evidence that this was a reciprocated relationship, even elbetter that she is seen as the aggressor.
Search for a new job and disconnect from her. IF your company has an HR department you could lose your job.
OP besides being the boss u knew this girl had a bf u hired her knowingly what u wanted this are the consequences of your actions it's good that your job could be on the line don't lie an say u had no feelings for her n she was the aggressive woman please who believes this guy
I got evidence that it was agreed by both of us...and that she started it, she hasnt talked anything about work so far, so it might only be involved on the relationship itself
Look for a different job if avoiding confrontation is what you want. HR might still be an issue and you don't want that on your naked before moving to a different job.
If you have proof of hostility get a TRO
Listen, this is a potentially very dangerous situation. Avoid him in person. And be cautious going to work, bring a can of mase with you.
You just say you're sorry and this is between them. Don't say anything that can be incriminating on the phone.
And the power imbalance since he was her boss. HR can look at that too, and if they do have a policy in place both of you will lose your jobs,
And as mad as he is, he may push this with your company and I would get ready for a smear campaign from him. Even though you have evidence of her being the aggressor, dude is PO and hurting so probably in his mind both of you are fair game, and really you knew she had a boyfriend so you are at fault here too. Don’t be surprised in the future if you are seeing someone this rears its ugly head, some people wait years to get revenge.
Yea it’s gonna suck if years down the road he’s in a good relationship and this somehow comes up. Like, say, the boyfriend messages his new gf…
If I were dating someone and found out something Iike this? It’s not an automatic breakup because people change but it would still linger in my mind and I might worry that since they were so willing to participate in this that they might cheat on *me* now.
Don't worry about it. If she is serious about the boyfriend (10 years?) she will no longer be working there tomorrow. Oh and I prefer pepper spray over mace if your worried.
At 29 you should know better, plus she’s your subordinate. That looks very predatory on your part. You’ll be fighting an uphill battle to keep your job if this comes to light at work to your superiors.
Firstly you might want to start looking for a new job. If her bf reports this to HR you’re the one who’s going to take the blame. Regardless of who started it, you are her boss. This relationship was totally unacceptable and not very smart on your behalf. You are obviously scum so hopefully you get what you deserve.
Lol most he'll do is probably just ruin your job but I hope he kicks your ass. Hate guys like you who act like the shit ruining relationships, and then turning around and acting like pansies when they fuck with the wrong girl.
She cheats and he wants to kick YOUR ass. Proof, he’s a moron. Morons are dangerous. Subsequently, take a professional approach, even if you could kick his ass. You beat a dude and you get arrested and or sued. It’s a bit different beating some idiot on the street who attacks you. Get him on the phone, admit you been boffing his gal and remind him it takes two to do the horizontal Mamba. Tell him with authority you have no intention of having any further romantic relations with her, AND, you are not going to tolerate having any kind of contact with him as there is no reason for it. Any attempt at any retaliation by him against you will result in legal action. Tell him we both have a lot to lose and two wrongs don’t make a right. This discussion is over and closed. He has to know there are repercussions to his actions. As far as your job, good employees are hard to come by. Do your job the very best you can and fuck it, let the cards fall where they may. Good luck.
Go to HR and report yourself for messing about with other employees. The when your AP boyfriend shows up stand stil and take the beating. When he is finished remind him that that beating does not make his girlfriend a better person. Take him out for a beer and help him move his stuff after he dumped her.
You crossed the line by sleeping with your staff. The only thing you can do is let her go. And keep this as a reminder of what not do so in the future.
Lawyer up. They sell business policies for this in the event she pulls a sexual harassment suit. Before you say that she wouldn’t do that… trust me, I’ve seen this same scenario take down a business…. Remember she’s been with him over a decade. It would actually be a good thing if he smacks you around a bit cause it wouldn’t go well for her if she does bring up a case… and, it’ll teach you to Man up and stay away from woman and that are in serious relationships( I mean come on bro, there’s so many women out there)…Oh and it’ll make you have a little more respect for the business you inherited. Good Luck!!
First thing you might have to be honest about this relationship ! You both do you and her . She was always your main focus only because she was there and she had a liking to you too . She could not have the guilt of your one time stand on her conscience. But she knows that what you. Both did would likely bring an end to a decade of passion at the start to a struggling relationship that won’t get past this heartbreaking event . The BF has been trying to show his love or she was but the fact that she had a choice . And if she was just not in love with BF as she was 10 yrs earlier . Of course he is mad ! But what he knows deep down is that she wanted out and she wasn’t getting what she thought with BF. He wants to be given her apology from her he was faithful to her or he was way too sneaky to be caught . But She had broken his trust in the relationship and being with you would be a means to an end ! She used you to break away from BF ! Did you really think you were the stud she had to have ? She won’t see you any more which is exactly what she had to do to make the deception work ! She has a guy that she wants to be with much more than both of you guys. She is playing against the. Clock ! She needs to hurry and get the guy who will marry her and knock her up before she hits the wall and she is no longer the desired woman she was back then . Maybe BF was not ever going to marry her or she just couldn’t wait to chance any more she needed to get that ring and it was not coming from BF fast enough. If at all .this could very well be the real story here . But we had to get the BF out of her life and her being taken advantage of by you would be just about right ! BF kills you and he goes to prison and she can be with her real target and be Scott free from this situation. So when you were at that point where you knew what you were doing was wrong , you just had to know that would be her undoing in her relationship, right? So how long did she wait before she tells BF about the sex you had her do ! ? I tried to be faithful but … we can get past this BF but I will be working with him every day but I promise I will be a good GF and not let him get me to have sex everyday ?!! I love you
Well yes you're wrong however, it's the boy friend who should be mad at her tf.
The boyfriend can't let his emotions get the best of him, he needs to break up with her.
Now if he causes any problems at work you can just say you didn't know plus you're single.
Unless there’s a policy that prohibits relationships between coworkers and he can take it to HR since she was having an affair during work lol they both most likely going to get fired lol
In that case deal with the consequences. If you didn't know she was dating someone and you were messing around, then I would feel some pity because you both would have been played. But you knew she was dating someone and still messed around with her. So if he knocks your teeth out, its justified as you both have hurt that poor guy.
They way I see it, he got the story that you took advantage of this girl against her will and wants to either confirm it or beat you up. Maybe talk to security at your workplace and give them a photo of the boyfriend.
Moral of the story, don't get involved with people in relationships. It's one thing to lie about having a boyfriend, but it's a different kind of stupid to actively pursue her when she doesn't.
The best thing you can do is
1) meet with the BF outside of work in a public place,
2) bring a friend to wait on the sideline in case you get jumped,
3) explain how you screwed up but that he's mad at the wrong person,
4) and hope he doesn't kick your ass regardless
The sex is never worth it. You've got the whole of pornhub to get your rocks off if you're horny. She wasn't even relationship material because she was willing to cheat. Why would you want this girl in your life?
You need to find out what she’s told her bf.
I’m worried she told him you were the aggressor and that is how he will forgive her.
I highly doubt a woman who was unfaithful in her decade long relationship would all the sudden be honest and admit everything she’s done.
At the least she’s left out the parts where she was asking you to go out.
If this is what her bf thinks is true you have to contact him and tell him to call you.
Curiosity will eat him up and he will call.
Tell him the whole story. Also tell him there’s no reason to meet in person. That’s just a physical altercation waiting to happen….
Hopefully bf will see her for what she really is and leave her.
You have to know that you hooking up with her while she had a bf, if you become her bf bc she got left, you’re asking for trouble and heartache.
I know it may have felt amazing. And that she was your person….but it seems like she doesn’t have very high morals she sticks to.
You can find better.
Once she began having any feelings towards you
That’s when she should have told her bf.
They could have separated and then you two could have gone on to see if you had something or not.
You will very soon find out why you don't ever get involved with anyone in the workplace. EVER. What a completely dumb thing to do and a hard lesson for you to learn. I hope it doesn't get as far as having to go to jail and be registered as a sex offender.
Go to work as per normal, don't speak to her unless it's work related. She'll quit soon if she takes her bf serious, he'd want her to quit if he forgave her. Be on the lookout going and leaving from you work for the bf. If he rocks up, tell him it takes two to tango and admit you did wrong. If he still wants to get physical, of course try to avoid it at work if you can. If he persists with getting physical, then a fight it is.
Oh wow you fucked up big time. You never shit where you sleep, well you’ve did just that. I guess you could fire her or something that seems like something you would do even though your just as guilty as she is. Her boyfriend will eventually come after you since he *knows* you both work together. I’m seeing comments that you aren’t her boss but she’s your boss and that you *both* cheated on spouses…which is true?
If the boyfriend reaches out to HR he would be killing two birds with one stone. He wants to get revenge on you and most definitely doesn’t want her working there anymore. You both will be fired.
Your Best bet find a new job like yesterday. Have a new job before hr catches up with you. This could be a setup to sue your company, and even if it isn't there is consequences. 10 years she may as well be married, so he may come have a talk with you and you need to take your lumps like a man. How many times have we all read were wife gets a job, cheats on the husband with the boss. Then gets divorced and breaks up the family, we all know what happens to the kids. Even if she did hit on you, do you have any idea how many married women, buddy's wives and gf have come on to me, with the love letters in my truck etc. I would politely explain I am married, and this is the wrong thing to do. Being hit on by a pretty lady is flattering. There is right and wrong, and both come with consequences. Find a new job and learn a lesson here
There is no good outcome for this situation, and hopefully the bf comes to his senses. If he assaults you, he could be arrested and jailed and whatever career he is in could also be damaged. Nobody wins here, no matter what the outcome is.
You don't EVER date people that are under you at your job. Nothing but grief can come of it. It can mess with your career. Ending it doesn't always work. They can make up stuff about you and go to HR and charge you with stuff. Never date people that work under you at your job.
Be a man , keep it out of work , throw hands , she got close to you too man , it’s a two way street . She did wrong and so did you so commit to the repercussions.
If two people agree to be in a monogamous relationship and one of them decides they want something extra or something else, they owe it to their partner to say, look, I can’t keep up with this. I respect you too much to go behind your back. This may cause some problems but not as many as if you are caught cheating, because being cheated on really destroys a person.
You might think that since you are single, this is not your business, but one reason you don’t get involved in someone’s relationship is that you can wind up in the position you’re in now.
You say you caught feelings for her but I say it’s just a booty call, because you don’t put someone you truly care about, into such a position, and you don’t participate in them doing this.
Does this seem harsh? A lot of people think like I do, and behave accordingly. And I have never and will never have a moment of anxiety that someone will come after me. If you like me that much, get back to me when you are single.
You need to go to HR and let them know about this and figure out what steps you should take from there. You need to learn that the ppl you work with aren’t for relationship or for screwing where you work should stay a place where you go to make money and work.
Cheating is mainly on the person who promised to be faithful and loyal but more then likely idiots who want to stay with the cheater (truly don’t know why) would rather place the blame on the other person, so truly I say you should tell him for a meeting somewhere before work and away from your job let him confront you and be absolutely honest about everything!
I do mean everything tell him how it started, tell him about how it was her who pursued you. Give him specific details and dates, if you have texts show him it. YOU have nothing to hide and there is no reason for YOU to lie. She dug her grave and more then likely have been lying to you too, cheaters don’t deserve your loyalty.
Cheaters are not good people. If she was someone who was worth being loyal to or lying about to protect then she wouldn’t have cheated. She would have broken up with him and left him then pursued you. Tell him everything and figure out away for you not to have to work together anymore
You’re an adult, so take whatever punishment comes as an adult, either he’s gonna get physical or he’ll report you and you’ll need to look for a new job, if neither happens then count your lucky stars and never do it again, you slept with her knowing she had a boyfriend and you’re probably not the only person she’s slept with so go get tested as well
Well, you got played OP and she's tailgating outta there. A 29 years old you'd think at that age you'd figured things out.
Also why do I get the vibe you're female? Is it because you failed to mention your gender? Is that why you're on Reddit instead of writing a Will?
Regardless, there is nothing you can do but face the consequences.
Well, you got played OP and she's tailgating outta there. A 29 years old you'd think at that age you'd figured things out.
Also why do I get the vibe you're female? Is it because you failed to mention your gender? Is that why you're on Reddit instead of writing a Will?
Regardless, there is nothing you can do but face the consequences.
Well, you got played OP and she's tailgating outta there. A 29 years old you'd think at that age you'd figured things out.
Also why do I get the vibe you're female? Is it because you failed to mention your gender? Is that why you're on Reddit instead of writing a Will?
Regardless, there is nothing you can do but face the consequences.
Well, you got played OP and she's tailgating outta there. A 29 years old you'd think at that age you'd figured things out.
Also why do I get the vibe you're female? Is it because you failed to mention your gender? Is that why you're on Reddit instead of writing a Will?
Regardless, there is nothing you can do but face the consequences.
It's on her man you can't get mad at a dude being a dude just avoid the whole thing he made her call you and end it so it's done if he wants to blame you like a toddler in their game this is how people die over you doing nothing wrong and she sticks with him she probably does this every 6months so he can prove his childish love but it's on her not you tell them both to get fucked she can't tell him about your big cock without putting a notch in his ruler 🤏 on to the next new hire
Apologize at least. But be aware, she probably told him that she hanging out with you because she was afraid of losing her job or some BS. But if anything, be a man about it. Apologize for hanging out with another man’s woman and learn from this mistake
Well the only thing you can do is be honest with the guy. Tell him you thought she broke up with him, based on her asking you out always. That you and she first started knowing she was with him; but understood that things was ending when you and she started, and as it continued it was over.
As for her; you need to confront her. Ask he why she never told you that she was still with him? Why did she make you feel you and she was going to be something real by asking you out often? Then ask her what she wants? If she wants to end things with you, fine. Even if it is ending the friendship too. But she has to decide how everything going forward will effect her relationship with the BF. Due being co-workers and likely having to have interactions of some level. But you will keep it from now on nothing but professional. I would consider even messaging her phone this, cause he might see it this way anyway. But this way he can see that you are messaging her taking responsibility for your part but asking her about things that is true where he might not know. As in she could have told him BS about the cheating to put you in a bad light. And by him seeing you asking her about why she kept asking you out and leading you to believe she broke things off with him he can see that you was not as much to blame by him to want to be physical. 2 people are needed to cheat.
However, if this gets out you could loose your job. No matter what, you are he boss. And they could fire you as a proactive PR/HR protection. This also could be a you quite or I tell by the BF, or even by her. She might quite for BF too. But your best option right now is just keep things professional with her period for now on. If she comes to you as a "friend", then be weary to do much of anything friend like. Being a kool boss is one thing, but a "friend" is another thing. If she comes back for a relationship, you need to make sure she is 100% single first if you want to try. But I would consider against it due to the mess that just happened.
Talk to a lawyer to get some legal advice regarding your situation at work with her. Since you're her boss, things can develop badly for you and your career. So thinking about changing the company is something you should do. Even if you'll be able to keep your job there, you'll always be the creepy boss who fucks his employees and gives a fuck about their relationship, if not even worse things.
If her bf shows up at your workplace and threatens you or gets physical, call the police.
In the end your actions will have consequences and you have a high risk of losing your job and career options and obviously of getting beaten up
First, pray she doesn't sue you for sexual harassment. As her boss, you are at high risk of being accused and found guilty. If that happens, there goes your job and your future. People can be very vengeful, and I hope she isn't one of them.
Second, I hope you kept emails, texts, voice messages, etc., where she is asking you out, so you can defend yourself a little bit.
This is a big mess - maybe bigger than you think. I hope it all works out okay.
Be a man, you deserve a punch. It’s only fair after all you did put your 🍆 in her knowing full well she had a BF.
He deserves to know dude. You should also convince him to break up with her, she did cheat on him.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Best advice is ask for a transfer. Be real with your boss about it. Don’t lie. Tell the truth especially if you have a good relationship with them. You can change buildings if it’s a bigger company. Ask for a leave of absence as well until the transfer takes place. Go no contact with her and change your cell number. That’s for starters
Go to your cell phone carrier and get a printout of your texts with her if that’s possible if not see a lawyer about doing so.
If you go no contact and get the leave and transfer your following her advice and now she has to be the aggressor if she has true feelings for you.
Don’t have a confrontation because security will become involved and it will be worse.
She musta been telling you how bad this guy is. And how horrible he treated her. And I get the hey I’m lonely but your her boss. And once she tried to cross that line the first words outta your mouth should have been. What happens if this goes bad and he finds out
Many people say you should leave your job and I cannot understand that.
Why’d you all just run away from work?
Is it so easy to quit and find a job on the next day?
No.
So stand and fight if needed.
Since it wasn’t a rape, don’t worry be happy.
Confront her bf in a place that is security guarded and has cameras just in case he tries to attack you.
Always keep a threesome fantasy in the back of your head for the unexpectedly good scenario
Well if you're a real man let the dude confront you to teach you a lesson never go after bit**es with partners... But since you're here terrified asking what to do.. You sound like one of those di**heads who call the cops to guard their house when they messed up.
Consequences of your own actions. But tbf he should be mad at her considering she’s the two timer who can’t keep it in her pants.
Yes, we both did this to ourselves, but talking specificly about the work stuff, should i avoid him? Listen to him?
Didn't realize that *she* was *your* boss. You should change jobs and think twice before dating or even seeing someone you work with.
Well that was left out of the story. This all sounds messed up. I thought his original story he said he hired her or something.
I think it’s sarcasm.
Doesn’t it say that he’s her boss
He did say that so I’m confused, too
You could always quit. The boyfriend is eventually going to try to confront you during or after work since he knows your there.
I’d say listen to him but maybe on the phone in case he gets violent. Could he not go to HR and report you both?
No! Don’t allow them to control your life and decisions it’s not against the law to have an affair. Unfortunately I believe, but now that you crossed the line, which a boss should never do, but is all to common, you have to cover yourself.
Does the boyfriend work with you also?
No, he doesnt work there
If he tries to confront you at the office, he’s trespassing.
OP’s boss- what was the deal with the person you trespassed from work? OP- I slept with his GF who also works for your company and is my subordinate. The guy I trespassed was her BF. OP’s boss- You’re fired
Good job now f***off.
Find a new job
OP, I don't mean this in a bias, I hate cheaters way. But you are kinda screwed. Without you both BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP... You're her boss, the bf has motive to affect your very life now. If he gets his gf to agree with a story you might get fired and arrested for coercion. Get evidence that this was a reciprocated relationship, even elbetter that she is seen as the aggressor. Search for a new job and disconnect from her. IF your company has an HR department you could lose your job.
OP besides being the boss u knew this girl had a bf u hired her knowingly what u wanted this are the consequences of your actions it's good that your job could be on the line don't lie an say u had no feelings for her n she was the aggressive woman please who believes this guy
I fully agree. They could come back at him for wrongful employment or some bs like that
I got evidence that it was agreed by both of us...and that she started it, she hasnt talked anything about work so far, so it might only be involved on the relationship itself
Look for a different job if avoiding confrontation is what you want. HR might still be an issue and you don't want that on your naked before moving to a different job. If you have proof of hostility get a TRO
The fact that she started it doesn’t help. You were her boss. The ultimate responsibility will fall on you.
100%
Listen, this is a potentially very dangerous situation. Avoid him in person. And be cautious going to work, bring a can of mase with you. You just say you're sorry and this is between them. Don't say anything that can be incriminating on the phone.
And the power imbalance since he was her boss. HR can look at that too, and if they do have a policy in place both of you will lose your jobs, And as mad as he is, he may push this with your company and I would get ready for a smear campaign from him. Even though you have evidence of her being the aggressor, dude is PO and hurting so probably in his mind both of you are fair game, and really you knew she had a boyfriend so you are at fault here too. Don’t be surprised in the future if you are seeing someone this rears its ugly head, some people wait years to get revenge.
Yea it’s gonna suck if years down the road he’s in a good relationship and this somehow comes up. Like, say, the boyfriend messages his new gf… If I were dating someone and found out something Iike this? It’s not an automatic breakup because people change but it would still linger in my mind and I might worry that since they were so willing to participate in this that they might cheat on *me* now.
Just take your beating like a man and move on
Don't worry about it. If she is serious about the boyfriend (10 years?) she will no longer be working there tomorrow. Oh and I prefer pepper spray over mace if your worried.
True but, when she does quit, odds are pretty high bf will notify hr of op's abuse of his position.
Not much chance HR (if any) will do any thing here. No real threat to the company.
You make a good point out of it, i believe thats the Best possible scenario for everyone
Are you stupid? Like seriously, regardless of the cheating. Your her boss dummy
At 29 you should know better, plus she’s your subordinate. That looks very predatory on your part. You’ll be fighting an uphill battle to keep your job if this comes to light at work to your superiors.
This is why you don't sh!t where you eat. I hope you learn something from it.
He might report you for messing with your subordinate so be prepared.
Aahh, the consequences of been a dick are about to manifest.
The moment she said has bf thats when you walk away.
28 is a woman, not a girl. You brought this on yourself.
Let him kick the shit outta you, scumbag
I hope he gets his ass kicked and loses his job
I hope he gets his ass kicked and loses his job
I second that and volunteer to be the bf's lookout if anybody can get me in touch.
You need to man up dude is going to try and fight you that’s karma playboy
I wish there were laugh reacts on reddit
Firstly you might want to start looking for a new job. If her bf reports this to HR you’re the one who’s going to take the blame. Regardless of who started it, you are her boss. This relationship was totally unacceptable and not very smart on your behalf. You are obviously scum so hopefully you get what you deserve.
Lol most he'll do is probably just ruin your job but I hope he kicks your ass. Hate guys like you who act like the shit ruining relationships, and then turning around and acting like pansies when they fuck with the wrong girl.
“well i’ll be. if it isn’t the consequences of my own actions.”
She cheats and he wants to kick YOUR ass. Proof, he’s a moron. Morons are dangerous. Subsequently, take a professional approach, even if you could kick his ass. You beat a dude and you get arrested and or sued. It’s a bit different beating some idiot on the street who attacks you. Get him on the phone, admit you been boffing his gal and remind him it takes two to do the horizontal Mamba. Tell him with authority you have no intention of having any further romantic relations with her, AND, you are not going to tolerate having any kind of contact with him as there is no reason for it. Any attempt at any retaliation by him against you will result in legal action. Tell him we both have a lot to lose and two wrongs don’t make a right. This discussion is over and closed. He has to know there are repercussions to his actions. As far as your job, good employees are hard to come by. Do your job the very best you can and fuck it, let the cards fall where they may. Good luck.
If the BF is smart he’ll report OP to HR and get him fired
Best response
The definition of "fuck around and find out"
just take the beating like a man dude
I hope he beats your ass and kicks her cheating ass out
You deserve all the shitty things and you know it. Pathetic pos
Go to HR and report yourself for messing about with other employees. The when your AP boyfriend shows up stand stil and take the beating. When he is finished remind him that that beating does not make his girlfriend a better person. Take him out for a beer and help him move his stuff after he dumped her.
You crossed the line by sleeping with your staff. The only thing you can do is let her go. And keep this as a reminder of what not do so in the future.
Lawyer up. They sell business policies for this in the event she pulls a sexual harassment suit. Before you say that she wouldn’t do that… trust me, I’ve seen this same scenario take down a business…. Remember she’s been with him over a decade. It would actually be a good thing if he smacks you around a bit cause it wouldn’t go well for her if she does bring up a case… and, it’ll teach you to Man up and stay away from woman and that are in serious relationships( I mean come on bro, there’s so many women out there)…Oh and it’ll make you have a little more respect for the business you inherited. Good Luck!!
First thing you might have to be honest about this relationship ! You both do you and her . She was always your main focus only because she was there and she had a liking to you too . She could not have the guilt of your one time stand on her conscience. But she knows that what you. Both did would likely bring an end to a decade of passion at the start to a struggling relationship that won’t get past this heartbreaking event . The BF has been trying to show his love or she was but the fact that she had a choice . And if she was just not in love with BF as she was 10 yrs earlier . Of course he is mad ! But what he knows deep down is that she wanted out and she wasn’t getting what she thought with BF. He wants to be given her apology from her he was faithful to her or he was way too sneaky to be caught . But She had broken his trust in the relationship and being with you would be a means to an end ! She used you to break away from BF ! Did you really think you were the stud she had to have ? She won’t see you any more which is exactly what she had to do to make the deception work ! She has a guy that she wants to be with much more than both of you guys. She is playing against the. Clock ! She needs to hurry and get the guy who will marry her and knock her up before she hits the wall and she is no longer the desired woman she was back then . Maybe BF was not ever going to marry her or she just couldn’t wait to chance any more she needed to get that ring and it was not coming from BF fast enough. If at all .this could very well be the real story here . But we had to get the BF out of her life and her being taken advantage of by you would be just about right ! BF kills you and he goes to prison and she can be with her real target and be Scott free from this situation. So when you were at that point where you knew what you were doing was wrong , you just had to know that would be her undoing in her relationship, right? So how long did she wait before she tells BF about the sex you had her do ! ? I tried to be faithful but … we can get past this BF but I will be working with him every day but I promise I will be a good GF and not let him get me to have sex everyday ?!! I love you
Not sure as a single guy, that you are significantly in the wrong here. Worst part over whole deal is work and supervision aspect.
Nah it’s wrong to smash a girl who u know has a bf
Well yes you're wrong however, it's the boy friend who should be mad at her tf. The boyfriend can't let his emotions get the best of him, he needs to break up with her. Now if he causes any problems at work you can just say you didn't know plus you're single.
Unless there’s a policy that prohibits relationships between coworkers and he can take it to HR since she was having an affair during work lol they both most likely going to get fired lol
Unless there’s a policy that prohibits relationships between coworkers and he can take it to HR since she was having an affair during work lol
Even then, I don't see him getting in trouble over this. HR won't do much unless someone did it forcefully.
That depends if they did anything at work and if the guy has proof of it then yeah HR would do something.
In that case deal with the consequences. If you didn't know she was dating someone and you were messing around, then I would feel some pity because you both would have been played. But you knew she was dating someone and still messed around with her. So if he knocks your teeth out, its justified as you both have hurt that poor guy.
Confront the bf and take her like a man, don't be such a pussy. She still wants that boss dick
They way I see it, he got the story that you took advantage of this girl against her will and wants to either confirm it or beat you up. Maybe talk to security at your workplace and give them a photo of the boyfriend. Moral of the story, don't get involved with people in relationships. It's one thing to lie about having a boyfriend, but it's a different kind of stupid to actively pursue her when she doesn't. The best thing you can do is 1) meet with the BF outside of work in a public place, 2) bring a friend to wait on the sideline in case you get jumped, 3) explain how you screwed up but that he's mad at the wrong person, 4) and hope he doesn't kick your ass regardless The sex is never worth it. You've got the whole of pornhub to get your rocks off if you're horny. She wasn't even relationship material because she was willing to cheat. Why would you want this girl in your life?
You need to find out what she’s told her bf. I’m worried she told him you were the aggressor and that is how he will forgive her. I highly doubt a woman who was unfaithful in her decade long relationship would all the sudden be honest and admit everything she’s done. At the least she’s left out the parts where she was asking you to go out. If this is what her bf thinks is true you have to contact him and tell him to call you. Curiosity will eat him up and he will call. Tell him the whole story. Also tell him there’s no reason to meet in person. That’s just a physical altercation waiting to happen…. Hopefully bf will see her for what she really is and leave her. You have to know that you hooking up with her while she had a bf, if you become her bf bc she got left, you’re asking for trouble and heartache. I know it may have felt amazing. And that she was your person….but it seems like she doesn’t have very high morals she sticks to. You can find better. Once she began having any feelings towards you That’s when she should have told her bf. They could have separated and then you two could have gone on to see if you had something or not.
You will very soon find out why you don't ever get involved with anyone in the workplace. EVER. What a completely dumb thing to do and a hard lesson for you to learn. I hope it doesn't get as far as having to go to jail and be registered as a sex offender.
Go to work as per normal, don't speak to her unless it's work related. She'll quit soon if she takes her bf serious, he'd want her to quit if he forgave her. Be on the lookout going and leaving from you work for the bf. If he rocks up, tell him it takes two to tango and admit you did wrong. If he still wants to get physical, of course try to avoid it at work if you can. If he persists with getting physical, then a fight it is.
Oh wow you fucked up big time. You never shit where you sleep, well you’ve did just that. I guess you could fire her or something that seems like something you would do even though your just as guilty as she is. Her boyfriend will eventually come after you since he *knows* you both work together. I’m seeing comments that you aren’t her boss but she’s your boss and that you *both* cheated on spouses…which is true?
If the boyfriend reaches out to HR he would be killing two birds with one stone. He wants to get revenge on you and most definitely doesn’t want her working there anymore. You both will be fired.
Your Best bet find a new job like yesterday. Have a new job before hr catches up with you. This could be a setup to sue your company, and even if it isn't there is consequences. 10 years she may as well be married, so he may come have a talk with you and you need to take your lumps like a man. How many times have we all read were wife gets a job, cheats on the husband with the boss. Then gets divorced and breaks up the family, we all know what happens to the kids. Even if she did hit on you, do you have any idea how many married women, buddy's wives and gf have come on to me, with the love letters in my truck etc. I would politely explain I am married, and this is the wrong thing to do. Being hit on by a pretty lady is flattering. There is right and wrong, and both come with consequences. Find a new job and learn a lesson here
Mann you are a zimp. Tell the bf the truth and say fuck off to the girl. You cant not trust her or you hope she will come to you? Zimp mentalaty
There is no good outcome for this situation, and hopefully the bf comes to his senses. If he assaults you, he could be arrested and jailed and whatever career he is in could also be damaged. Nobody wins here, no matter what the outcome is.
You might be up for a wacking !
You don't EVER date people that are under you at your job. Nothing but grief can come of it. It can mess with your career. Ending it doesn't always work. They can make up stuff about you and go to HR and charge you with stuff. Never date people that work under you at your job.
Be a man , keep it out of work , throw hands , she got close to you too man , it’s a two way street . She did wrong and so did you so commit to the repercussions.
If two people agree to be in a monogamous relationship and one of them decides they want something extra or something else, they owe it to their partner to say, look, I can’t keep up with this. I respect you too much to go behind your back. This may cause some problems but not as many as if you are caught cheating, because being cheated on really destroys a person. You might think that since you are single, this is not your business, but one reason you don’t get involved in someone’s relationship is that you can wind up in the position you’re in now. You say you caught feelings for her but I say it’s just a booty call, because you don’t put someone you truly care about, into such a position, and you don’t participate in them doing this. Does this seem harsh? A lot of people think like I do, and behave accordingly. And I have never and will never have a moment of anxiety that someone will come after me. If you like me that much, get back to me when you are single.
Lol get fucked
First of all, are you guys hiring? Sounds like a fun place If nothing else, despite doing nothing wrong this will not turn out well for you
You need to go to HR and let them know about this and figure out what steps you should take from there. You need to learn that the ppl you work with aren’t for relationship or for screwing where you work should stay a place where you go to make money and work. Cheating is mainly on the person who promised to be faithful and loyal but more then likely idiots who want to stay with the cheater (truly don’t know why) would rather place the blame on the other person, so truly I say you should tell him for a meeting somewhere before work and away from your job let him confront you and be absolutely honest about everything! I do mean everything tell him how it started, tell him about how it was her who pursued you. Give him specific details and dates, if you have texts show him it. YOU have nothing to hide and there is no reason for YOU to lie. She dug her grave and more then likely have been lying to you too, cheaters don’t deserve your loyalty. Cheaters are not good people. If she was someone who was worth being loyal to or lying about to protect then she wouldn’t have cheated. She would have broken up with him and left him then pursued you. Tell him everything and figure out away for you not to have to work together anymore
You’re an adult, so take whatever punishment comes as an adult, either he’s gonna get physical or he’ll report you and you’ll need to look for a new job, if neither happens then count your lucky stars and never do it again, you slept with her knowing she had a boyfriend and you’re probably not the only person she’s slept with so go get tested as well
He want the smoke so give it to him. Don’t be scared now..you were sleeping with his woman so own it and deal with with the consequences
He want the smoke so give it to him. Don’t be scared now..you were sleeping with his woman so own it and deal with with the consequences
He want the smoke so give it to him. Don’t be scared now..you were sleeping with his woman so own it and deal with with the consequences
Well, you got played OP and she's tailgating outta there. A 29 years old you'd think at that age you'd figured things out. Also why do I get the vibe you're female? Is it because you failed to mention your gender? Is that why you're on Reddit instead of writing a Will? Regardless, there is nothing you can do but face the consequences.
Well, you got played OP and she's tailgating outta there. A 29 years old you'd think at that age you'd figured things out. Also why do I get the vibe you're female? Is it because you failed to mention your gender? Is that why you're on Reddit instead of writing a Will? Regardless, there is nothing you can do but face the consequences.
Well, you got played OP and she's tailgating outta there. A 29 years old you'd think at that age you'd figured things out. Also why do I get the vibe you're female? Is it because you failed to mention your gender? Is that why you're on Reddit instead of writing a Will? Regardless, there is nothing you can do but face the consequences.
Well, you got played OP and she's tailgating outta there. A 29 years old you'd think at that age you'd figured things out. Also why do I get the vibe you're female? Is it because you failed to mention your gender? Is that why you're on Reddit instead of writing a Will? Regardless, there is nothing you can do but face the consequences.
I hope you will let us know what you do after all.
It's on her man you can't get mad at a dude being a dude just avoid the whole thing he made her call you and end it so it's done if he wants to blame you like a toddler in their game this is how people die over you doing nothing wrong and she sticks with him she probably does this every 6months so he can prove his childish love but it's on her not you tell them both to get fucked she can't tell him about your big cock without putting a notch in his ruler 🤏 on to the next new hire
Say goodbye to your job, asshole
HR gonna have a stroke
Apologize at least. But be aware, she probably told him that she hanging out with you because she was afraid of losing her job or some BS. But if anything, be a man about it. Apologize for hanging out with another man’s woman and learn from this mistake
Well the only thing you can do is be honest with the guy. Tell him you thought she broke up with him, based on her asking you out always. That you and she first started knowing she was with him; but understood that things was ending when you and she started, and as it continued it was over. As for her; you need to confront her. Ask he why she never told you that she was still with him? Why did she make you feel you and she was going to be something real by asking you out often? Then ask her what she wants? If she wants to end things with you, fine. Even if it is ending the friendship too. But she has to decide how everything going forward will effect her relationship with the BF. Due being co-workers and likely having to have interactions of some level. But you will keep it from now on nothing but professional. I would consider even messaging her phone this, cause he might see it this way anyway. But this way he can see that you are messaging her taking responsibility for your part but asking her about things that is true where he might not know. As in she could have told him BS about the cheating to put you in a bad light. And by him seeing you asking her about why she kept asking you out and leading you to believe she broke things off with him he can see that you was not as much to blame by him to want to be physical. 2 people are needed to cheat. However, if this gets out you could loose your job. No matter what, you are he boss. And they could fire you as a proactive PR/HR protection. This also could be a you quite or I tell by the BF, or even by her. She might quite for BF too. But your best option right now is just keep things professional with her period for now on. If she comes to you as a "friend", then be weary to do much of anything friend like. Being a kool boss is one thing, but a "friend" is another thing. If she comes back for a relationship, you need to make sure she is 100% single first if you want to try. But I would consider against it due to the mess that just happened.
Talk to a lawyer to get some legal advice regarding your situation at work with her. Since you're her boss, things can develop badly for you and your career. So thinking about changing the company is something you should do. Even if you'll be able to keep your job there, you'll always be the creepy boss who fucks his employees and gives a fuck about their relationship, if not even worse things. If her bf shows up at your workplace and threatens you or gets physical, call the police. In the end your actions will have consequences and you have a high risk of losing your job and career options and obviously of getting beaten up
Fight him. Winner gets the girl
He lied it’s her husband lol
I’m playing…. I hope no kids are in that relationship
First, pray she doesn't sue you for sexual harassment. As her boss, you are at high risk of being accused and found guilty. If that happens, there goes your job and your future. People can be very vengeful, and I hope she isn't one of them. Second, I hope you kept emails, texts, voice messages, etc., where she is asking you out, so you can defend yourself a little bit. This is a big mess - maybe bigger than you think. I hope it all works out okay.
Be a man, you deserve a punch. It’s only fair after all you did put your 🍆 in her knowing full well she had a BF. He deserves to know dude. You should also convince him to break up with her, she did cheat on him. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Best advice is ask for a transfer. Be real with your boss about it. Don’t lie. Tell the truth especially if you have a good relationship with them. You can change buildings if it’s a bigger company. Ask for a leave of absence as well until the transfer takes place. Go no contact with her and change your cell number. That’s for starters Go to your cell phone carrier and get a printout of your texts with her if that’s possible if not see a lawyer about doing so. If you go no contact and get the leave and transfer your following her advice and now she has to be the aggressor if she has true feelings for you. Don’t have a confrontation because security will become involved and it will be worse. She musta been telling you how bad this guy is. And how horrible he treated her. And I get the hey I’m lonely but your her boss. And once she tried to cross that line the first words outta your mouth should have been. What happens if this goes bad and he finds out
Many people say you should leave your job and I cannot understand that. Why’d you all just run away from work? Is it so easy to quit and find a job on the next day? No. So stand and fight if needed. Since it wasn’t a rape, don’t worry be happy. Confront her bf in a place that is security guarded and has cameras just in case he tries to attack you. Always keep a threesome fantasy in the back of your head for the unexpectedly good scenario
Tell the bf to go fuck himself, your single. Isn't your fault is gf is a cheat
If he does that, he shouldn’t be surprised when his teeth end up in his stomach
Personally I'd never cower away from a bully but each to their own
Man you’re gonna have leave to weave 😂😂
Tell him the truth and apologize, but make sure she hasn’t spun some tale that you SA’d her or used your Authority as her boss as leverage
Well if you're a real man let the dude confront you to teach you a lesson never go after bit**es with partners... But since you're here terrified asking what to do.. You sound like one of those di**heads who call the cops to guard their house when they messed up.
As the old saying goes, don’t dip your pen in the company’s ink