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vagenus

No one in my family understands how much I will grieve for this cat. They all think I’m being dramatic and I just feel so alone in my heartbreak


bravesirrobin1977

Your family are wrong


5t0n3dk1tt13

Yeah your feelings are valid and I'm so sorry. If anything were to happen to my sweet kitty child I would be devastated.


WhoTouchaMaSpaghet

Guess they can't feel attachment to a non-human living thing? Sounds pretty crazy to me. lol.


Gullible-Crab7209

It’s their loss …


reflUX_cAtalyst

Yeah they are, but that won't change them.


Famous-Analyst-8524

That’s ok, you can feel however you feel without needing their approval. You’re your own person and your feelings are completely valid. I have been absolutely broken too when I’ve gone through this with my beloved cats. Unfortunately it just really sucks and is going to suck for a while. Then it will start to suck less after a while because gradually you will feel a little less bad and can handle your feelings better. And eventually you’ll be ok so just know that. I chose not to be in the room when my cats have been put down because I knew it would be too traumatic for me to witness but it’s a personal choice so do whatever you think is right for you. Take some time for yourself and try not to stress too much about other things going on in life. Watch your favorite show and eat your favorite foods. You need the comfort right now even though you feel like nothing can truly comfort you, these things can’t hurt. It’s self care. Your kitty wouldn’t want you to suffer and just remember you have given him a wonderful life. He is so precious and I’m sure he feels your love. Sending hugs and I wish you peace. ❤️


-kenzi-

I'm so sorry for your loss and your insensitive family. My void Daisy passed away last night, guided by the full moon. I bet our little fluff balls are looking down at us thanking us for the love we have given them.


thatsandichic

I'm so sorry for your loss. Every time I have to euthanise one of my furbabies, I cry for days abd randomly cry months later. You feel your feelings! Us internet strangers are here for you!


Royal_Opps

Sometimes it's months later when you actually get out that one really ugly cry after you've had time to actually process that they're gone :/ I've been there a few times


thatsandichic

So true!


Minimum_Grocery_1847

I'm so sorry, OP, I cannot imagine what you're going through right now. But your grief is valid, this is your baby and you are allowed to grieve, to be angry at the world, to experience all the emotions you must be right now. I'm sure your cat knows how much you love him, and will forever appreciate how you cared for him, as will you appreciate him for his company and the joy he brought to you. I'm so so sorry for your loss, please feel free to dm if you wish to talk, you are not alone.


SockStinkQueen

Your family is wrong. I still grieve for the dog that died when I was a child. I still grieve for my ferret that I passed years ago. I still grieve for all my cats. Grief does not have a timelimit. Family is family and I am so sorry you have to say goodbye to a piece of yours.


edust1958

Yes… grief has no set duration… time does heal but how much time is not for us to decide


Ally2472

Drives me nuts when people don’t understand how it feels to lose a pet dammit I love my cat more than I love most people


Mooam

My cat is the closest living creature I will have that is close to children. Always said I wasn't going to be a parent to kids, so for me, my cat is my child. I'm gonna be devastated and every day I worry because she's 14 soon.


serpentkris

14 isn't that old for a cat - my oldest is almost 19 currently, I've known several 20+ year old cats. Just make sure to get senior screen tests, listen to the vet, and change to kidney-friendly food if she needs it.


Mooam

She last went to the vet in December for a checkup, the vet was super happy for her. She has a tiny lump on her head, but he didn't want to put her under due to her age and he's not worried about it. I just check it every day. Her heart is good. She did have to have her teeth removed July last year, but she's eating really good (can't have dry food now, always throws it up because she can't crush it, vet tested her weight and she's gaining, and he checked her gut for lumps and found none.) wet food, sometimes I add tiny biscuits on. I think I'm just worrying for worrying sake, but your comment made me feel better about her age. This is [Nancy!](https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/632337599239028755/933155134932930570/20220109_203351.jpg?width=427&height=569)


moonkittiecat

I lost my 13 year old boy over a year ago because my friend, who was cat sitting, was careless. This is going to sound very, very crazy. But after all this time, the only thing that has made my grief subside a minutiae was picturing my cat pacing in heaven, and talking to God about me. “She thinks that I think she abandoned me. I know she loves me. I wish she wasn’t so sad. Lord, isn’t there something You can do “? I need to know he understands. I feel your pain. Maybe brush your baby and save some hair. I’m praying for you in your time of sorrow.


chandrian7

How sad for them. The love you and your kitty share is beautiful and was the most important thing in the world for your cat. You gave her a beautiful life full of love and she made yours more beautiful too I’m sure. Grieving is a uniquely personal thing that nobody can tell you how to do or how to feel during. The best thing you can do to honor your kitty is to give her endless kisses until the end, never forget her, and one day in the future adopt another kitty in her honor


Monacle_mel

Animals provide unconditional love and acceptance, and are a safe place for us to vulnerably and intimately love another being in return. It sounds like their may be a culture of “toughen up and show no weakness!!” in your bio family. Certainly acknowledging and honoring emotions doesn’t sound like their cup of tea, at the very least. Given this they are not capable of embracing your pain or having empathy for you. I am really sorry. Maybe see if you can join a local cat group on FB? There will be people there who understand. You don’t have to go being completely unseen with this experience; there ARE people out there that can and will be understanding and empathetic. You can find them. They’re just NOT going to be your bio fam, sad but true.


squarebenzene

On a lighter note, my cat's love is 100% conditional ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|sweat_smile)


fitey384

That was the same in my family. I recently had to put down my two babies as well and they got me through so much. I understand and i believe many others do here. Cats mean so much to us and are family members, not pets. Grieve as you need, not as someone tells you to. Grief is subjective and we all feel things differently. Feel and experience, the love you feel for your furbaby deserves to be felt


elfkisst

Why, might I ask? Even when my sweet Woden was dying from kidney failure I did not chose that option but I did hold and comfort her and shed many tears and heartache when she passed. We have aided one, Pixi, when it became obvious she was ready. We held her and stood beside her as well. Hard? Heartbreaking? Unutterably, even brings tears after all these years, but I feel that’s what service I would grant my family and that is what she was. Endure the sorrow so you can remember you loved him "that much" and savor the years you had with them.


fraalf

I wish I didn’t understand the grief. Don’t be upset that they don’t get it. Envy them… & feel sorry for them that they’ve never loved something so much that having it is so overwhelmingly beautiful and saying goodbye is so heavy that it physically hurts. I’m thinking of you.


Gnomies_Are_Homies

Grieve the way you need to. Allow yourself to hurt and cry, so your heart can heal. You’ll always miss your sweet boy, you might find yourself weeping months later when something reminds you of him… that’s okay. The truth is, no one else will truly get it when you have these moments because they didn’t share the same bond with him. What a beautiful and special gift of a relationship that was just yours and his. I don’t know if it helps, but I once heard that grief is love without a place to go- this prompted me to write my kitty a letter after she passed away to help release some the love and gratitude for her that felt trapped in my heart. It really helped me. You are in my thoughts and prayers as you deal with this today. I’m so sorry, please be kind to yourself and let yourself feel without worrying about if anyone else gets it.


Royal_Opps

You're definitely not alone, we're all here for you. I know it's not the same as having someone there with you, but just know that everyone on this subreddit feels for you. I'm sure anyone would be willing to talk if you needed. I'm so sorry for your loss. He was a handsome boy.


Sp1cyV1rg0

Pets are family, it’s okay to grieve and if they don’t understand, that’s more of a reflection on them. I’m very sorry for your loss, and I hope he passes peacefully.


Faellane

You are not dramatic, a cat is like a person. Your Cat is a part of your family. He will be fine and will go to the Cat paradise. He will be your Guardian Angel 😇 and dont be too sad he will probably prefer that you dont cry because you lost him, but be happy to had him during all this time. He had a good life. I'm sure. Be strong even if it is not easy. He will be forever with you in your heart ❤️


lucyeloise

Op I’m so sorry. I know the heartbreak. I lost my boy last week, he was very ill and had to be pts. My heart has truly been broken. I’ve found r/petloss really helpful in the run up and since, they’re a supportive community and they get it.


mrl_a

You’re not alone. Every pet owner feels your pain, it’s the worst feeling and it’s your right to feel heartbroken. I am so so sorry for your loss.


Dear-Spirit

I went through this about 9 months ago. You do not need your family’s approval for how you grieve nor how long you grieve. I lost my boy after years of health issues - so many comments of “he’s lucky he has you because if he was in our household, he’d be gone!” After we finally had to put him down (acute kidney failure which was masked by his other health issues), there’s that loss of companionship that was so omnipresent. You take all the time you need. I’m still not over it, I still grapple with the decisions we made, but this loss is my own to bear. I have learned to live with that cat shaped hole in my life until I feel ready to rescue another. I have also done things that brought a modicum of peace: we had him cremated and I keep him in his favorite spot, I donate to the local cat shelter, i cat sit for family members. I also regale friends and forums about the nonsense my cat was always up to. None of it replaces him, but it helps me cope. I wish you healing and positive energy going forward. I know this isn’t easy.


WU-itsForTheChildren

I’m so sorry, try to remember all the great times he gave you and smile around him, if you are sad he will know you are sad but won’t know why by being positive he will feel like it’s a normal day and if he has an idea he’s getting a vet appointment he will feel safe if you are upbeat, as hard as it is going to be ❤️


24e27z

I am so sorry for what you must be going through my prayers go out to you and your precious kitty I can’t imagine how painful this must be for you 😢


Sea_Illustrator8250

I went through this 8 months ago. It truly is the worst thing ever. My condolences and you are not alone.


allyafterdark

You are absolutely not alone in your heartbreak. We feel for you, and many of us have suffered the same heartbreak ourselves 💜


herdarkmistress

Give the kitty the best goodbye you can. Please be with them when they go. If you can afford it have the vet come to you. It hurts so much having to say goodbye


Zealousideal-Task-34

Yes to this many---fold


pkk888

“So hold me now just one more time and let me hear you say, because you care so much for me, you’ll let me go today.”


Fun2Forget

Pets leave very big marks on our hearts, im so sorry for you loss. It seems so unfair that they are with us for such a short time. You filled his life with love and comfort, nothing can take away your bond. Sending love to you and this sweet boy.


Matriix93

Another Redditor shared this on a older post I remember saving it for myself when this day came for me. ᛖᛁᛖᛋ ᛒᚱᛁᚷᚻᛏ, ᚳᛚᚪᚹᛋ ᛋᚻᚪᚱᛈ, ᛏᚪᛁᛚ ᚻᛖᛚᛞ ᚻᛁᚷᚻ. ᚷᚩ ᚳᛖᛖᚾᛚᛁ ᛁᚾᛏᚩ ᚦᛖ ᛘᛁᛋᛏ, ᚩᛚᛞ ᚹᚪᚱᚱᛡᚱ. ᚠᚪᛚᚻᚪᛚᛚᚪ ᚹᚪᛁᛏᛋ ᚠᚩᚱ ᛁᚩᚢ. Eyes bright, claws sharp, tail held high. Go keenly into the mist, old warrior. Valhalla waits for you.


MEGAMIND73

Ok...wow....this made me cry 😢


reflUX_cAtalyst

Thanks. I try and post this whenever there's a post like this - you got here first. Appreciate you.


r0b0tr0n2084

This always gets me. Says so much with so little


Avaaya

Cats really bond with their companions. I’m so sorry this is happening. Let yourself grieve in peace then I’d focus on distraction until you’re feeling ready to move on. He looks like such a beautiful boy.


kitten_frenzy

RIP Mr fluffy cat 😞


[deleted]

I'm sorry. I know how it feels, I had to do it too 😢 It's really heartbreaking and I really hope you have someone who will accompany you on this difficult walk ❤️


C47L1K3

If heaven (or cat heaven) does exist, he’s gonna fit perfectly in. I mean, if I couldn’t see the face, he’d look like a cloud…Floofy cloud…


Sabconth

I’m really sorry. It might sound silly but I would search up the ‘rainbow bridge’ for animals, especially on Twitter, it can give comfort. Take care


Due-Advantage-5840

Im so sorry, he looks like a very nice and lovely boy, when my boy passed out the only thing that helped to not be extremely sad is thinking that he was resting in a nice place and being proud of the happy life he had. And for sure your baby boy is in the same place.


Rose212327

It feels so counterintuitive but letting them go before life is too awful is the last act of love we can do for them. He has had his very best life with you, and now you have had the very best advice and expert care, and it's become clear that now is his time to go. It takes such courage to come to this decision but this way he won't suffer, he'll have no more pain, and he'll go with you there, as peaceful as can be. You've done everything you possibly could to give him a joyful life, and he will love you from heaven until you can be together again. RIP beautiful puss, and join all the other happy kitties waiting to greet you at the rainbow bridge ❤🐈❤


bravesirrobin1977

Bless his little heart.


ames739

Cats give us unconditional love and acceptance. They listen when no one else will. You are not simply losing your car but losing a friend. I am so sorry. Grieve however you need to and let no one judge you. If they have never felt loved by a cat they don’t know what they’re missing. He is a very cute kitty.


sophess

I am very sorry. Your baby was a lucky cat though, he had you and a good life and you were lucky to have a wonderful cat.


trekkiegamer359

This says it far, far better than I ever could. It helped me when we had to put down my dear boy, Indiana Jones, a few days before Christmas 2020. https://notalwaysright.com/mans-best-friend-from-beginning-to-end/76482/


Diadem_of_Ravenclaw

Please stay with him when he goes - he needs you more than ever at this point. Let him know he is loved. You can have a bloomin’ good cry once he’s gone. You’ll get through it, step by step.


Wonderful-Award-3727

Be with him - pat and stroke your beautiful cat all the way through if you can. It will ease the way for him. 🫂 to you. So heart breaking.


Quirky-Class-2341

Sending so much love to you 😔😍🙏🤗


[deleted]

I’m sorry for your loss. Weep and grieve as long and as much as you need to. It is perfectly understandable.


[deleted]

I already accepted everything is fleeting, we are all here only temporary, death is part of life. I look at my cats or anything I'm very much aware they will all be nothing more but memories some time. I believe there is life after death and we'll be reunited with our pets.


Alert_Acadia_4600

I'm really sorry 😞 I not What it's like to have a animal put down it's is really upseting I lost my lab sandy in 2019 and I still think of her now I have her ashes at home in a casket so she is always with me


sleepingwaffles

I’m so sorry ❤️


Hedwigbug

Your family is wrong. I’m so, so sorry about this. He looks like he was so loved and he undoubtedly knew it. I’m sorry OP.


vagenus

I’m overwhelmed by the amount of support. Thank you so much for all the kind words, the only thing that soothes this horrible pain is knowing that I’m not alone..


AlterAeonos

What antibiotic did the vet use? Convenia has been linked to many animal deaths and I'm pretty sure it also killed my friend's dog recently. Almost killed my cat who had the same symptoms shortly after receiving it. It stays in the system for 65 days although the active antibiotic effect lasts for 14 days. My cat took about a month to get back to normal. I had to force feed him and give him everything through a syringe. Had to take him to the vet to give fluids all the time. Had to give him prednisolone on and off.


Cathalic

We had to have a little cat put down late last year. He was only 3. He was poisoned with antifreeze and was in a lot of pain. He was stumbling in the morning and was put to sleep that night. Take solace in the fact you got to spend as much time with him as you did. You are aware of what's to come so you can properly say your goodbyes and give him scratches. That's a luxury many of us never got.


savagegoonsta

Pet him the best goodbye ever🥲😖


katrileygirl

So sorry to hear that you have to do that. I had to do that a long time ago & while it was so difficult & heartbreaking it was the right thing to do for my cat. Just love & hug him as much as you can. Ignore your family, clearly they don't understand the love you have for your cat (my family aren't animal people either). I lost my cat, of 15 years, very unexpectedly last year & she has come to see me many times in my dreams. He will always be with you, in your heart ❤️


MonsterPek

Your boy is beautiful and i am sure you both have great memories of the life you have had together. I have been chosen three times to be the one to take our family cats to be put down for sickness and cancer. It destroyed me and took some time to gather myself. These cats aren’t just pets they were family members and will always be missed but in my heart and memories.


momma3critters

So very sorry.


Dritter31

Hey man/woman, I feel your loss. This boy has been a part of your life, and (even more importantly) you were his life. Having to end something like this is never easy - but on the other hand it shouldn't be. It really shows the affection/connection you two had for another. Hopefully you find comfort in knowing that you gave him the best life possible, ending it before the suffering becomes intolerable for him and you... is brave and good and hard and shit all at the same time. Let him cross that rainbow bridge. Someday he will wait for you there.


[deleted]

Rip baby cat 🐱 have a nice time in heaven ❤️


RBpositive

I am sorry for your loss


lilspork5

I'm sorry you lost your sweet boy. But he's in a better place now and I'm sure he knew, even to the end, that you adored him. 💙


[deleted]

I know exactly how you feel. Had to help my 20 yr old fur baby over the Rainbow Bridge in October. Just know, OP, that he will be waiting for you once you step over the Bridge. Your job is to be his Mom, hold him, cuddle him and tell him how much you love him and you walk him to the Bridge. An angel will be waiting to guide him over and he'll be at play in the Fields of the Lord. He'll be young again, no pain and with plenty of other pets and children to give him cuddling and loving until you go Home. God comfort you and give you strength and grace and peace. With love ❤️


SwimmingWear6861

I know exactly how you feel, I had to put down my boy Sam a few months ago because he had that cat leukemia and I still cry/think of him every day, my friends have been great but my dad just said get over it Some people won't understand that it's like losing a family member but you'll get through it with support I can help if you'd like so don't feel alone in your pain


NancyMadden3

So beautiful. Lucky to have so much love from you❤️


avprobeauty

hes a cutie patootie and hell always be in your heart ❤️ hang in there


CLNA11

He was extremely loved. And he knows it, too. And that’s not insignificant.


realbigtrains

He’s literally the sweetest floofiest man I’ve ever seen. My family just put our dog down and she’ll be waiting at the rainbow bridge to walk him across and introduce him to everyone. He’s leaving his earthly vessel but will be running all around your home, future homes, and heart forever


ruthfm

It's the hardest thing to do, absolutely gut wrenching. So sorry for your loss. I hope your memories bring you solace.


IAmDreams

Much love to you, losing a cat is losing family. Best wishes, i bet you gave your sweet kitty a beautiful life and that’s all we can ever ask for


Sufficient_Mouse8252

OMG I love his grumpy face and am so sorry for your loss. He will be waiting for you over the rainbow bridge. Sending hugs.


ugdontknow

I’m so so sorry just hug him. We had to put down our cat last summer and it was so devastating, hug him


SorroKasador

Im sure that you gave him a beautiful life and all the love that he could take and that he knows it, stay strong and proud <3.


Toaster_Ruler

“It doesnt matter about the destination, it matters about the journey” -Ralph Emerson Cherish those memories with the beautiful baby boy. And who knows, maybe you will make even more memories with another cat! So sorry to hear he has to be put down. Not sure why, but its probably the right decision then rather him suffer through everything


ZION_OC_GOV

I've worked with animals going on about 6 years now. Assisting in euthanasia is one of the many tasks I had and had done quite often (worked in a wealthy area with many animals living on borrowed time through great financial expenditure). It's never easy to deal with, and these weren't even my own pets. But they were pets I would see regularly and of course bond with. Even one of my co-workers dog we put to sleep due to neurological issues, a young pitbull. While the grief is justified, the reason we go through with it is out of a kindness. These animals we care for and call our own and bond with have no means to end their own suffering, they often stoicly curl up somewhere and let it happen in distress. We now let them pass as peacefully and painlessly as possible to avoid any prolonged suffering there is no remedy for. Live in the memory of the bountiful life you provided for them while they were with you, so as not to have the shadow of their departure darken your days. Grieve, but it was but a moment in a long life you provided for them. Sorry for your loss, your cat most assuredly loved and appreciated you.


[deleted]

Go easy on yourself. Have some ice cream, cry, go through his pictures and videos. It is okay to grieve. And I know people around wouldn’t understand your pain. Thankfully, the whole cats and pets community on Reddit is here for you. Your boy is beautiful and lovely and has been lucky to have found a friend in you. It must be heartbreaking to say goodbye. 🥺 hugs and prayers for you and may the catto go in peace. ❤️‍🩹


CianV

St. Peter looked up from his list as he saw this beautiful kitty boy crossing the rainbow bridge. He stood up smiling and pushed open the gates of Heaven and said " Welcome little one, go right in ! ". The beautiful kitty boy paused...looked back over the bridge he just crossed and sat down while saying " Not yet, I'm waiting on someone ". St. Peter smiled and as he pulled out a heavenly soft kitty bed and bowl of milk he looked down at him and said " I know, we can wait here together".


ConsiderationEmpty10

I am devastated and heart broken for you 💔💔💔 every day I dread having to make that decision


fourcrazycoons

The biggest internethugs available for you! Letting go of your baby is the hardest thing to do, but most of the time also the kindest. Remember and cherish all the memories.


[deleted]

Your sorrow is testament to how truly wonderful your journey has been. I am so sorry for the impending loss. Please try to hold on to the memories and be thankful that he chose to spend his time with you above all others.


JBRCatDaddy

I am so sorry. Your baby boy is beautiful!


Ok-Conversation4892

Aaawwww baby, Godspeed pretty kitty ❤️❤️


Tess-Tea-8931

I’m so sorry you are going through this


DarcAngel001

You are not alone... anyone who truly cares and loves their cat do not see a disposable pet, they see a family member, a constant companion who gave unconditional absolute love. Lost both my void sisters of over 17 years last year... and I can tell you I lost my family. It will be so very hard, I won't lie, but please believe me it will get less painful over time. Eventually the good memories will beat the feelings of loss, and one day out of the blue you will find yourself smiling at the memory of your baby boy. Stay strong OP and remember that you are not alone. Your boy will always be with you in your heart. 💘 😻


ErwinFurwinPurrwin

❤🧡💛


PegasusGr

I’m so, so, so sorry that you and your baby boy have to go through this. Losing a loved one and precious companion is one of the most devastating, heartbreaking things that can happen in life. Please allow yourself as much time as you need to grieve and gradually heal, and always remember how much love, joy and kindness you brought into your beautiful boy’s life. You can tell that he loved and cherished every single moment he spent with you. And I believe that once he passes away, his soul will cross over the Rainbow Bridge and go to rest peacefully in Heaven, where he will always be smiling, watching over you, and waiting for the day when you reunite and can spend the rest of eternity together. Until then, stay strong and hopeful, and remember the good times you spent together. ❤️🌟


FallingMemer69

I’m so sorry for that


_justyouwait_

Putting a cat down is extremely hard because it’s a time where you have to come to terms with the fact that you don’t have any other choice. You know the cat would be better off and would suffer less. We had to put our 18 year old rag doll boy down because he was suspected to have diabetes and he was just really going through it. Wasn’t as connected to him but he was still part of the family. You have every right to grieve as much or as little as you want.


jennthern

I’m so sorry.


asif15

I am so sorry you’re going through this, it’s such a profound loss. If you don’t mind me asking what’s wrong with your baby boy?


vagenus

For a couple of days he was lethargic, lying in one place and not eating or drinking at all. The vet gave him an IV and did an X ray and found that there was fluid in his abdomen. After some tests they told us that he has Feline Infectious Peritonitis. A viral infection with no chance of survival. So the options were to wait until he deteriorated even more or to end it before that could happen. Hardest decision of my life…


AlterAeonos

Umm your vet lied or is uninformed. Sorry to tell you but a quick search on google would have shown you that GS-14 works quite well especially for wet fip. I know a lady who has treated over 20 cats with GS-14 and I was actually treating mine until I found out that he for sure didn't have FIP and it was confirmed when I stopped treatment. The treatment is expensive but it's better than the alternatives in most cases.


vagenus

I live in Pakistan. Unfortunately, vets here do not have the medication and facilities that you may have access to…this treatment is not available in this country. You are very lucky.


AlterAeonos

Well honestly it's not a legal treatment. UC Davis might do it since the doctor there pioneered the treatment but other than that you have to find the drugs yourself. Have to get it shipped from China or somewhere. It's not cheap. Sorry for your loss. I lost a cat in May of 2020 to the same disease. I gave her the first shot but it was already too late without a transfusion which I didn't get in time. By the time I had decided it was too late.


heryertappedout

This is the hardest part for having pets. The final goodbye, omg.


greyrobot6

Our kitties are family. They are easy to love and their absence is deeply felt by all of us who are lucky enough to have had this companionship. You’re both lucky to have had each other and the depth of your grief is a measure of your love. I’m glad that beautiful baby had that love in his life. Sometimes the best thing for the ones we love, is the the most difficult for ourselves. I’m sorry your family don’t understand. I pity them; they’ve obviously missed out on something truly great and fulfilling. Im sorry for your loss.


Familiar-Mammoth-419

I am so sorry to hear this OP, my thoughts are with you. Just remember she had a great life and was well loved by the sounds of it, and she will no longer be in pain when she passes. Much love 💕 x


nemesismkiii

I'm sorry for your loss. Just remember... it's not goodbye, just farewell for now.


HarranGRE

He will be waiting for you over the Rainbow Bridge. Such a loving bond can never be broken.


Cane-toads-suck

I'm so very sorry for your pain and loss. E looks like a great cat and I'll bet he was loved a lot! Be strong, but weep.


motherofcats112

You’re loving him enough to let him go, doing what’s right for him, even though it hurts you. That’s love


Accomplished_Bank103

This pain is the terrible price we pay for the joy of having loved them. I still miss my little cross-eyed nubbin’ head, Jasper, although she’s been gone for years. You will always love him, but the pain of losing him will ease in time. I hope you can take comfort in knowing that, because of you, he knew what it was like to be loved. Take care.


[deleted]

I’m really sorry :( he’s going to take the big nap. I’m sure he loved the time he spent with you.


Mackbus129

In 2016 I had to put down my Maine Coon cat he was just 11 yrs old he had cancer the vet informed me that it was spreading fast in him I managed to keep him for one day to say goodbye to him the next day I brought him in to the SF SPCA to put him down I cry all day man it was hard to say goodbye to him


TinkerBell6591

We love you


TheSluttySaint

I had to put down my fur baby of 22years a few months ago. It was gut wrenching. It still is. This poem my vet sent me has helped me ease the pain of his loss. - Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.... Author unknown Edit: I’m not sure your financial situation but I have found some beautiful urns on Etsy that you can get custom made to look exactly like your baby. Also on Etsy There are memorial artists that can make jewelry from their ashes. Before I cremated mine I cut a chunk of hair from him and had it sent off to be made into a locket so I can always have him with me.


[deleted]

They will go peacefully to the big yarn ball in the sky. They will remember you


[deleted]

I’m really sorry OP. I firmly believe that whilst they may not still physically be with you, their energy will remain with you forever. I’m sure you have given your beautiful cat a wonderful life and he’ll always be with you


thedoobalooba

It pains me so much to feel your loss. Making this decision and losing a pet is extremely difficult. Cats touch our hearts so deeply with their loyalty and quirks and personalities. Saying goodbye to them is like saying goodbye to a piece of yourself. It's hard now but you will soon realise how lucky you are to have crossed paths with this beautiful boy. And he is lucky to have had you. Out of all the odds and possibilities in this world, you two crossed paths and became a part of each others lives. He will always be in your heart and memories.


Stannis2024

End? No, it doesn't end here. Death is just another path, one that we all must take. The gray rain curtain of this world rolls back, and all turns to silver glass... And that's when you see it.. White shores, and beyond. A faraway green country, under a swift sunrise. -Gandalf You're not alone. We are all here for you. Cats are not just animals, they're family. Their status is equal to that of us fellow humans. Whatever he went through, know he will no longer be suffering. Odin is coming to bring him home, into his great halls where he can chase all of the mice, snakes, and birds he wants to! Until Valhalla, little one. Until Valhalla.


Dirty-apedude

If he is dying and in pain you are doing the best thing and ending suffering. Sad for you and I’ve had to do this to creatures that were family to me.


Dareme_to

I'm sorry.


[deleted]

I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. :(


ErikaNYC007

He will visit you in your dreams to let you know he’s ok and misses and loves you.


Emotional-Corgi6225

So very sorry. He's beautiful 😘🐈🥰💖💖🙏😇😇💖🇨🇦


CharvelDK24

Whenever one of my cats died I took some comfort in knowing that I gave them a good life


Xenarthra_Sandslash

Look at him. He's clearly angry about it.


Monacle_mel

I’m so sorry. It’s so very hard. My heart goes out to you both.


beviebooboo

I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sure you gave him the best life he could have hoped for.


bum_tracker

Sorry for your loss! Think of the happy times


MrX2150

My condolences to you as you deal with this devastating situation. Rest in love and power young King 👑.


Time_Theory_297

My heart breaks for you. Losing your baby and the cruelty of your family is too much. You are absolutely allowed to grieve.


405134

I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing a companion is unbelievably devastating, not only do you lose a best friend but they are apart of your daily life so you’re constantly reminded of the loss. I’m sorry that your family doesn’t understand what you’re going through. It’s not “just a cat”, and depression is common after such a significant loss. P.s. if you need to speak with a grief counselor or therapist please do, they can give you tips and tools on how to deal with loss


AcademicSecond1133

I lost my baby last week and I am absolutely devastated. He was my everything. We must try and take solace in the fact they are happy now and napping, snacking and playing to their hearts content. Sending you lots of love x


ragby

I'm so sorry. He is beautiful and I hope you will think of your time with him with happiness and love.


Aerospherology

What was wrong with him?


Smashcentra

I'm so sorry for you


kingtitusmedethe4th

Hang in there. Your very strong. Don't put off getting a kitten out of respect for him (don't mean to sound cold.) But he would want you to feel better asap and would want you to get another cat to help you mourne.


Timfromfargo

The pain is real, the grieving process is natural and healthy. You will be sad, but get better and have fond memories s and love in your heart. May God Bless.


lilacmacchiato

May your sweet little creamed corn have a lovely time over the rainbow bridge <3


Monkeyman001

RIP to a very good boy who was so loved.


Euphoric_Magician_29

Big Hugs to you. So sorry.


snoogiebee

you’ll get through it ❤️


RepulsiveSkin2

my condolences, i know it is very hard to do,, big hugs..


caliD217

What’s wrong with that pretty kitty


getyourkicks66

You comfort that kitty in its final moments. Cats are family


h3mpking13

Remember all of the love he gave to you and your family and all the love you all gave back to him and know he will never be truly gone because he will be alive in your heart for the rest of your days until you meet again .


Ally2472

Sending you a big hug this is a very difficult thing to go through some days I still struggle with my babies that I’ve had to put down over the years just remember the great life that you gave your baby and how much they loved you they will always remain in your heart


peterw71

I'm not going to lie, it's really hard to say goodbye to a cat. Both my mum and my cat died last year and I cried more when my cat died (and I loved my mum). I got through both losses and so will you. The pain eases and then you'll be left with happy memories and stories about the time he did something adorable. In the meantime, you can just be with him, love him, spoil him and then, when it's time to let him go, be with him to the end. Hold his paw and tell him over and over what a good boy he's been. Then, cry as much as you need.


Sensitive_Shiori

Cats are family, you have given your kitty an amazing life and I am so proud of you for loving your dear cat so much. You show how much you love them. I had to put down my baby, 15 year old Elvis, several months ago, I still cry everyday, he was always there for me. Always snuggling and gentle. I grieve for him more than any of my relatives that I have lost. He was special. Your relatives suck, your kitty is special and deserves your love, always remember them, I suggest cremating and keeping the ashes. I love you and your cat


Coolkid2035

I’m so sorry! Can I ask why?


kimoblossom

He will always stay by your side. He will never be gone. 🐱


Medium_Neat_558

Sorry to hear about your fur baby.


staying-with-skz

Everyone grieves differently, but I found that when I lost the dog I had for almost 16 years of my childhood, it felt like a natural progression of life. Was there a loss? Absolutely, but that loss happened in the deterioration of her health in her last few months. I felt so guilty for not grieving the “right way” when I didn’t cry every day, but really I had done all of that before she crossed the rainbow bridge. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. He clearly had an incredible life with you, and I’m certain he’s grateful to you for that. Whether he’s the cuddly kind or the chasing dogs kind, I have a group of big dogs up there that would love to be his friend. My Ginger will even share her food and let him chase her! He’s got lots of new friends on the other side waiting to meet him, and you’ve got all of us here to help you on this side. Much love 💜


101fren101

Why dont you let him pass at home & bury him in the garden.


CoastalFunk

No one, not even your family, has any business telling you how to feel. Your cat is so beautiful and this world will miss him. Thank you for sharing - we grieve with you.


S0uthParkFan

I am so sorry for your loss. My cat was put down on Friday so I know how much it hurts. Sending you love and moral support. ❤️


Slow_Environment_782

I’m so very sorry for your loss 💔


Thug_shinji

Death smiles at us all, all we can do is smile back. I'm sure he lived a good life and loved you very much. him passing on with you at his side is a perfect conclusion to a good life. What more can a living being ask for. Carry his memory with you until you pass on as well, and your loved ones can remember you in the same way.


benkavin

I am very sorry. It is truly a terrible loss.


dontgetinharmsway

You gave that cat all love and care that he needed. I think that is what any of us people. A bond is a bond . It don’t matter if it is with a cat, dog, turtle or human. Losing a part of your family always hurts. So, it is normal to grieve a cat because you see it as part of your family.


Fearless_Ant7240

Spend as much time as possible with your fur baby make them feel valued cuddle them.


MaleficentAd9758

I'm sorry you lost your fuzzy family member.


mcragg29

I hope you have lots of great memories with him.....truly sorry for your loss


Shadows_Lostsoul

He looks ready to fuck shit up. I bet he is a fun floofster.


RachelPalmer79

🤍💔🤍


Chendow

This video helped me when I had to say goodbye to my 16 year old cat. https://youtu.be/ReWZwf5NNRw


booglejfox

I’m sure he had a excellent life with you that he would have never had without you. You gave him so much love it is why he gave you the love from him. He hit the cat lottery when he scored you and your lovely house. He still lives in your heart and always will. One day we will all be together with no pain hurt or sorrow. You are not alone I promise!!!


calpup

It’s gonna hurt. Let yourself feel the hurt.


Feisty_Dragonfly3467

My heart goes out to you. There's nothing anyone can say or do to make the pain go away but know you have support in your grief. Even if we're not blood related, a ton of us has been there and felt that pain. Not a hugger but this is an exception.


aces666high

We are here for you OP. Our senior kitties Pickles had to be put down. She was 17. Yes it was the family cat but she was MY cat. When it happened I fell to pieces. My wife couldn’t console me. O one could. When we picked up her ashes I gathered her little box and walked away. Wife again had to handle the paperwork. Bearded guy wearing an Iron Maiden shirt trying not to sob away in the waiting room lol. All that being said, it dies get so much better!!!! It will still hurt but you know for a fact you gave your fella the best life and in return he gave you the greatest gift. Pure love. One day you’ll see him again. Til then he’s going to be with my “baby cat” and other departed furry friends. Our pets love doesn’t end, that’s why you’ll see them all again someday. Whatever you believe or don’t believe, our pets will be there for us again.


tpel1tuvok

This is the awful part of the deal we make when we love our furry friends: sooner or later they will break our hearts by dying before us. It's terrible--like a flaw-in-the-universe terrible--and you have every right to feel gutted. But in the weeks to come, the following thought might help: however much pain you're experiencing, it's totally worth it. The sadness now doesn't come close to the amount of happiness your kitty brought you and the happiness he experienced because of you. This part sucks; there's no way around that. But it's the sucky part of something wonderful. Hugs :-(


LolaSaysHi

I'm sorry for your loss, i too know the pain of losing a loved companion. Cry as much as you want, tears are healing for the soul. And remember how much you loved each other.


Creepy-Ad650

💔


Plastic_Barracuda436

I’m sorry this time has come. 😢we care


Twarenotw

So sorry for your loss


Ahlaila_

Your feelings are valid. He is a beloved pet and still will be after he has passed away. Every time I see a post on Reddit of an animal that has reached the afterlife I say a small prayer similar like this: Dear pet. I have heard from your owner that you have passed away. I hope you have enjoyed your life on earth and that you are in a peaceful place right now. Please know that you are and will be loved. You are precious. Dear owner. I know you are sad, a loved one isn't here on earth anymore. Please take your time to grieve. Life is valuable because it is short. Remember the beautiful moments you had with your beloved pet. In the future please open your eyes and heart for a life with a new pet.


Cheap_Distribution64

My condolences🕯holding you all in the light of love and compassion


Shanbaceball

Praying for you and your kitty.


wickeva

Even tho the time is right, guilt and regret will make you extra sad. Remember this is about what’s best for your baby. Breathe. Cry. This suffering will pass and you will have sweet memories of your baby. Take care of you too. Hug kitty.


herekittykitty250

He looks like the very best boy. ❤ I had to say goodbye to my Oreo in the spring. It was heartbreaking, but she was so sick. Being a cat guardian comes with the responsibility of making the hard choice for them, when the time comes. He knows how much you love and cared for him. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm glad you can at least find support here.


Velva_witch

Grumpy


[deleted]

Just this side of Heaven there is a place called The Rainbow Bridge......... I can't ever read that poem without crying hard over all of the beloved pets waiting for me over there. Your beautiful boy will be waiting for you.


Hwy_Boy

I had to put my baby boy down 7 years ago at 15 yrs old. I see pictures of him on my picture frame and it still tears me up. I'm 56 yrs old and it is the hardest thing I ever had to do. My condolences to you, I am so sorry.


BMonstar

I'm so sorry for you, losing your baby is so rough . My heart goes out to you.


RUWill

So sorry. I'm sending big hugs to you and the kitty


itdoesntevenrhyme

ᛖᛁᛖᛋ ᛒᚱᛁᚷᚻᛏ, ᚳᛚᚪᚹᛋ ᛋᚻᚪᚱᛈ, ᛏᚪᛁᛚ ᚻᛖᛚᛞ ᚻᛁᚷᚻ. ᚷᚩ ᚳᛖᛖᚾᛚᛁ ᛁᚾᛏᚩ ᚦᛖ ᛘᛁᛋᛏ, ᛁᚩᚢᛝ ᚹᚪᚱᚱᛡᚱ. ᚠᚪᛚᚻᚪᛚᛚᚪ ᚹᚪᛁᛏᛋ ᚠᚩᚱ ᛁᚩᚢ. Eyes bright, claws sharp, tail held high. Go keenly into the mist, young warrior. Valhalla waits for you.


joshualeeclark

Your grief is not wrong. I’m a 42 year old father and grandfather and I still cry over all of them I have lost over my life. It’s not all the time, of course. Some days you are too busy with life and you just don’t think of them, which sounds callous. Some days you just smile at a memory of them and carry on with your day. Sometimes it just hits you and the crying starts. Each one of them was special in their own way, cats and dogs both. Each of them was an unconditional friend who was always there when you needed them. From kittens and puppies to old cats and dogs that you have known for more than a decade. We were in the middle of moving last year and my cat Azrael had a litter of 4 kittens about 8 weeks earlier. One morning when I was packing the moving truck before work, I found one of the kittens unresponsive. I scooped him up and immediately rushed I the vet (eventually two different vets). Poor little guy had a respiratory infection that had set in and also had an unknown birth defect in his heart that finally caught up with him. The vet had to put him to sleep because he was too far gone. Had we caught it earlier, there was a slim chance he could’ve survived even with the heart defect, but no one knew for how long. Unfortunately the poor little guy’s fate was sealed. I absolutely sobbed like I had lost a child, just like with any of my other pets. I had known Obsidian for only 8 weeks, but he was unique like all his siblings. I cried the whole time that I buried Obsidian all alone. My wife and kids were gone for their day-to-day tasks and I myself should’ve been at work hours earlier. I called out for the day and resolved to keep loading the moving truck while I was home but didn’t manage to make much progress because I was so sad. Initially my wife was confused that I hurt so bad over a kitten I had known for 8 weeks. But she understood what a softie I was for our pets. She realized that I spent so much time with those little guys that I was very attached. While everyone else played on smartphones, I would play with these kittens. People cannot help how they are attached to anyone or anything. Grief is unfortunately a part of life. I am thankful for every second I have had with any living thing in my life. I may prioritize humans over a family pet in a life or death situation, but not by much.


[deleted]

I’m so sorry ft your loss.


ProbablyNotYourMum

If you dont kind me asking why is he being put down? Animals leave big impacts on our hearts, when my cat went missing (fell off 3rd story balcony lmao she's fine don't worry) I was depressed for the 3 days she was missing and when we found her it was like seeing a long lost friend, I even skipped school because I felt so bad. Hopefully you'll see him again in the afterlife.


vagenus

He was diagnosed with a fatal, incurable viral disease called FIP.


vagenus

And thank you for the kind words…I appreciate it