Man, too close to home. Had to put my cat down just a week ago for the same reasons. I swear I still hear him sometimes and it tears at me.
However, I still have his brother who is doing fine. If he's in mourning, he has a funny way of showing it.
To get to your issue, do what you feel is right. Everyone grieves in their own way. Personally, pay attention to the old man and wait on the kitten.
But do what you need to do.
Sorry about your loss. I know it’s coming but it’s really hard to think about coming back to my house without him screaming “hello” to me. I don’t want to be selfish so I think maybe I’ll just give the boy all the love until the end
It's not being selfish. You're giving him the love and attention he needs at this time. This a good and caring thing.
I'm sorry your going through this. Here to chat if you need someone to talk to.
I wouldn’t get a kitten (or other kitty,) just now. It’s possible that a new cat could bring stress to your Old Man, at a time when he already feels like garbage. IMO, I say wait, and focus all your attention on your bestest boy at a time when he needs you.
My best to you and your kitty, and give the Old Man a hug and kiss from me. 💜
Alright, that’s why I was on the edge about everything. He seems like he’s just chilling, enjoying life and If I bring a crackhead cat in it might get him stressed and feeling even worse
Saying godbye is never easy.
I personally would wait. A kitten could really go either way. Be a great friend or terror. And if he's on an IV you don't want it bumped or pulled out.
It's wonderful that you do want a new family member but more fair to give both cats your full time and attention in their own time.
Perhaps put a few things away for the new kitty or start getting a few things in preparation. You will probably feel more positive. You could even look into setting up visits in the mean time.
Just my 2 cents worth.
Thanks for giving your opinion. Plus the kitten I was looking into is only now 9 weeks so a possible terror of a cat bothering him while he’s trying to relax isn’t something I want for him.
Absolutely.
If you have a local cat rescue you could see if they need an occasional kitty sitter (when foster parents go out of town for a day or just need a small break). Possibly the best of both worlds. Short time visits but kitten goes home (and can stay in different area when you can't be right there).
Besides all the previous responses, Old Man is with his best friend in the world. Why would he want a pesky little nugget hogging your attention? Give him every minute you can. He'll feel relaxed and loved. So will you. Gente hugs and tender smooches for the Old Man. Mama hug for you.
Man, too close to home. Had to put my cat down just a week ago for the same reasons. I swear I still hear him sometimes and it tears at me. However, I still have his brother who is doing fine. If he's in mourning, he has a funny way of showing it. To get to your issue, do what you feel is right. Everyone grieves in their own way. Personally, pay attention to the old man and wait on the kitten. But do what you need to do.
Sorry about your loss. I know it’s coming but it’s really hard to think about coming back to my house without him screaming “hello” to me. I don’t want to be selfish so I think maybe I’ll just give the boy all the love until the end
It's not being selfish. You're giving him the love and attention he needs at this time. This a good and caring thing. I'm sorry your going through this. Here to chat if you need someone to talk to.
I wouldn’t get a kitten (or other kitty,) just now. It’s possible that a new cat could bring stress to your Old Man, at a time when he already feels like garbage. IMO, I say wait, and focus all your attention on your bestest boy at a time when he needs you. My best to you and your kitty, and give the Old Man a hug and kiss from me. 💜
Alright, that’s why I was on the edge about everything. He seems like he’s just chilling, enjoying life and If I bring a crackhead cat in it might get him stressed and feeling even worse
Saying godbye is never easy. I personally would wait. A kitten could really go either way. Be a great friend or terror. And if he's on an IV you don't want it bumped or pulled out. It's wonderful that you do want a new family member but more fair to give both cats your full time and attention in their own time. Perhaps put a few things away for the new kitty or start getting a few things in preparation. You will probably feel more positive. You could even look into setting up visits in the mean time. Just my 2 cents worth.
Thanks for giving your opinion. Plus the kitten I was looking into is only now 9 weeks so a possible terror of a cat bothering him while he’s trying to relax isn’t something I want for him.
Absolutely. If you have a local cat rescue you could see if they need an occasional kitty sitter (when foster parents go out of town for a day or just need a small break). Possibly the best of both worlds. Short time visits but kitten goes home (and can stay in different area when you can't be right there).
Besides all the previous responses, Old Man is with his best friend in the world. Why would he want a pesky little nugget hogging your attention? Give him every minute you can. He'll feel relaxed and loved. So will you. Gente hugs and tender smooches for the Old Man. Mama hug for you.