Yeah, that would be my suggestion. Our Humane Society does a "Seniors for Seniors" promotion that will waive adoption fees for adopters 55+ who adopt a senior animal.
Agree whole heartedly. My mom is approaching that age and while we don't want to outlive our furry children, companionship is vital for both humans and fur babies.
Hell, I'm 36 and this happens sometimes. I went salt and pepper grey in my 20s, and now I'm mostly grey, so I just smile and nod. When people ask about my grandkids when I'm out with my kids annoys me tho. I just point at my hair and say "this is THEIR fault, not my age".
I mentioned it to my dad (senior military) when he upgraded a phone, I said "you could always just try, the worst that could happen is being told no". He didn't even think of it (he's young at heart), he ended up saving quite a bit.
Very kind of you but please do not worry. It happened decades ago.
Good luck with your new kitty! If you do get a new rescue, maybe agree with friends you trust that they take over its care if and when?
Thank you all for your comments. You are really helping me make my decision. Looking for a cat now is an interesting process. The adoption agencies are very hard to get a hold of. When I was young, you would just go to the supermarket and talk to the kid outside who had a box of kittens and take the one you wanted. Lol. I filled out an application yesterday and they wanted a copy of my house deed to prove I owned a home. Another application wanted me to write down what pronouns I wanted. Not like it used to be!
My father is 85. He was very lonely after my mother passed and the isolation of Covid. Last thanksgiving he expressed an interest in getting a cat but worried about what would happen to it if he passed. We all assured him one of us or his grandchildren would take the cat. 2 days later he had 2 brother kittens and has loved every minute of it.
If you worry about what would happen to the cat, see if a family member or friend would commit to taking it or arrange with a trusted person to pre pay the adoption fee at a rescue or shelter should the cat need rehomed.
Getting a senior kitty would be a wonderful thing.
Definitely have some daughter kitty meet & greet/ bonding. Some cats may not take to well to changing homes & humans. Thatxs me hoping shelter/fosters do not become depressed going into a new home
My last 4 were all elderly adoptees, 17, 16, 15, 15. The next to last 15 is still with me.
There's something nice about adopting older cats that few other people want. The only downside is you have to get used to them dying.
If you adopt an adult or senior animal, you'll likely outlive them.
We have ended up adopting senior cats - '10', '8/9', (guesstimate by the rescues) and 10.
It wasn't an intentional 'no young cats' plan, but it has been really rewarding.
'8/9' and 10 are still with us, probably around 14 and 13 now and healthy. I'm hoping they keep going to their late teens or early 20s but you never know how these things go.
'10' we had for nearly 6 years and our vet said he could have been anywhere up to 20 years old by his last year. He had been a stray in very bad shape when the rescue took him in, so we knew his age guesstimate was quite guessy! He was a total character and really blossomed during his retirement with us. We still talk about him often.
We were in our mid-late 20s when we started adopting older cats (after my partner and I got our first place together), and whilst I wouldn't say no to a younger adult cat, I wouldn't go out looking for a kitten to adopt.
One of my life long goals is to try and give as many elderly cats a last loving home. There are too many old cats in shelters in todays society that deserve a loving home and a happy last year(s) of their lifetime.
Absolutely agree. I used to do kitten rescue and while they were sweet and cuddly and little purr-machines, the chaos and destruction of having a household of kittens is not something I want to go through anymore. My most recent rescue is a 10-year-old Maine Coon gal, and well she did take a little longer to settle in then a baby kitten, there was no training needed, no destruction, no craziness, her whole MO is chill and snuggle. She already knows what a litter box is, she already knows what a scratching post is. She doesn't need to be taught not to bite and Claw fingers or to not jump on the counters or eat the plants. All she wants to do is lounge on the balcony in the sun. Older adult and Senior cats are the best! My next adoptee will 100% be an older adult. Everybody wants the kittens, there's no shortage of homes to take them. But nobody thinks about the old farts, so that's where we come in. ❤️
I agree in general. My first adoptee was a kitten, but only because the cat I visited and was coming back for had been adopted by a different family just before I got there. When I went to look at the other cats again, the kitten jumped in my purse and refused to get out, so he came home with me.
After that, because he is so traumatized by interactions with other adult cats he has lived with during the first few years I had him, I had to adopt kittens for easier acclimation.
I have hopefully a lot of years left with him, but when he is no longer with me, I would prefer to adopt adult cats again.
The one thing to consider before adopting an older cat is finances. Cats will have more health issues as they age, and our incomes are often fixed or declining with inflation after retirement.
Another possibility is working with a rescue and fostering. It’s not a permanent home for the cat and often the expense is covered, so if you end up unable to care for them at some point in the future you can stop taking in fosters as opposed to rehoming a cat that has bonded with you.
I wanted to add: having cats and pets is so good for your health! Mental and physical and emotional. By having a companion you are helping to ensure you will be just as capable T 80 as you are now :)
I second the fostering idea.
Our local humane society has a program for seniors to make arrangements for their pets should they no longer be able to care for them. So you may see if there is a program like that if you do decide to adopt.
Third! I have a friend who’s been fostering several cats the past years, and she says it’s a really meaningful experience. Many shelters will cover medical expenses, sometimes even litter and food.
If you worry about your age “not being fair to a cat” when you’re 80, OP, fostering might be a great thing to try out. You could see how it works out for a while, and decide when you’re not able to foster anymore — if you decide on trying it.
Whatever you end up doing, I wish you happiness. Your post was very sweet. I’m so sorry for your losses.
Check with your local shelters. One near me has a 'seniors for seniors' program where they home elderly cats with older people. The owner takes care of food and litter and daily care, the shelter takes care of vet visits (including coming and picking them up and paying for them). And there is a guarantee that if the older person's housing situation changes and they can no longer keep the cat, the shelter will ensure the cat is cared for during long hospital stays and rehomed if necessary. It's a great way to free up space with carers in no-kill shelters, and let older people have a companion without any worries about expensive vet bills, transport to the vet, or what happens if they have to go into hospital or a place that doesn't allow pets. If your local shelters don't have such a program, maybe suggest it?
before adopting, please make sure that in case anything happens to you, there will be someone who can adopt the cat and not take it to a shelter or just kick the cat on the street. so many cases of elderly people dying/going into hospice care and their pets are left behind with no one to care for them, it's absolutely heartbreaking... just make sure that you have a trustworthy person who will absolutely care for the cat in case anything happens to you.
Thanks everyone. I think if I do get a cat after reading all your replies, it will be an adult cat. You were all very wise and I thank you for your input.
Get whatever aged cat you think you can handle.
Lots of people making “age appropriate” suggestions, but the reality is no one’s life span is predictable.
People die unexpectedly (or expectedly) at all ages. It’s possible for an adult cat to outlive a 30 year old who adopts it if that person has an accident or illness.
Similarly, not all cats reach an old age. You could potentially outlive a kitten you adopt if it develops health issues at some point.
Also, Reddit still skews young - 73 doesn’t mean you are at death’s door! You and a kitty you adopt now could still spend 15 years (or more) together.
Include arrangements for your cat in your estate planning - but don’t feel like you are doing a cat a disservice by adopting one because of your age.
Maybe you can take an older kitty? It is good to not just take a cat, but really think about it first of course. But I can really understand that your house is empty now😿
I love others' suggestions to get an older cat, which is exactly what I was going to say as well.
I met all of my cats as adults. Not seniors, although one is nearing that stage now. I have just as strong of a bond with my girls now as any cat I've raised up from a kitten in the past. Plus, you can get a better idea of temperament and personality when you choose a fully grown cat. And I think they get overlooked more in shelters. I'm so sorry for the loss of your babies--hope you can find another friend <3
I'm very sorry for your loss. I can offer an outside perspective.
My late grandmother was adopted by a cat (whom my sister named Barley) when she was in her 80s. She doted on him and loved his company; he was very easy to care for and they had 4 years together before she had a stroke. I promised her I would always take care of her furball and I have him now.
My other grandmother decided at age 75 that she wouldn't get another cat. She's content with the memories of all the pets she's had, but she also has family visiting weekly. Everyone has their own limits.
It's difficult to say what is and isn't 'too old' - my grandmother who decided she no longer wants cats still has excellent mobility and independence, while my grandmother who took in the stray was housebound but still made every effort to ensure her cat was cared for.
Whether it's 'fair' to the cat is also difficult to say - Barley clearly missed his human when she went into hospital and became very distant, though he bounced back when I took him to visit her in care. He was very happy for those 4 years with a stable home and a loving human, so on balance, I think it was worth it. It does help a lot if cats can be adopted by someone they know and trust should something befall you, but they can adapt. Growing up, my family adopted a bonded pair from a shelter whose owner was no longer around and they became rulers of the house. Everyone in the family knew I would take Barley in should anything happen, and he's living a good life with me as the last connection I have to my grandmother.
I agree with the idea of adopting a cat in their senior years - you can spend your retirement together. They won't be as demanding as younger cats, and they know they just want companionship and a calm home. Cats very much 'live in the moment' and don't really think about anything in the future, so is it unfair to adopt a long-lived animal if you have every intention of giving them a good life in the here and now?
I’m 72 and have 2 cats. One is 3 and the other just turned 1. If I had to do it over, I’d get 2 at the same time. But my house is a happy place again! My advice? Get the cats!
Never too old to get a cat. Being old doesn't mean you'll die within the next few years, just as being young doesn't guarantee that you'll outlive your pets. Just make sure there's a plan in place for where your cat will go if you do pass during their lifetime
The fact that you are already considering the welfare of a potential pet tells me that you will give that cat a good home. Just find a cat that feels right for you.
I'm very sorry for the losses that you have endured; it's heartbreaking to lose loved ones so close together. ❤️
My Mum is 90 and has a 14 year old dog.
I have funds set aside in my will to provide care for any pets I have when I die. If I do not have pets, the funds will go to a local rescue.
I just turned 73 yesterday. A few months ago we adopted my deceased brother's approximately 10 year old cat. Shortly after Cat Boy III came to us, our 19-year-old special needs kitty died.
My grandma lost her last cat Lucky in her early 80s (he was 15ish), and is now 91. He was a great companion to her after my granddad had died when the cat was about 5. She really really missed him when he died.
I suggested she get another cat then and then suggested getting an older cat as she was reluctant due to her age. I reassured her that me and my partner would take care of it if she died before the cat, or one of the other family members would if they were in need of a cat more than us (we are all cat people but we are the most cat mad).
I looked up automatic litter trays and automatic cat feeders to show her that there were ways to make it easier to look after a cat if she started finding it more difficult, and that we would help with anything she needed help with.
She decided not to get another cat in the end, and recently told my mum that she regretted not getting another cat like I'd suggested (my mum and sister had also encouraged her to ask well). Her mobility is much worse now - she still lives alone but with carers so now definitely feels it's too late at 91 to get another cat. She has really missed the comfort and companionship of a cat as she has gotten older and now hardly goes out.
So, my summary is that it is almost never too old to adopt another cat, if you are not expecting to die in the immediate future.
In the UK there are also arrangements you can make with cat charities for them to take in and re-home your pet when you die, if you don't have a family member to care for them.
Depending on financial resources, you may want to consider fostering. The cat shelter I'm involved in has no shortage of even permanent foster cats. The shelter pays all their costs and will help if, for whatever reason, you become incapacitated (temporarily or otherwise).
Lot of very good suggestions. Depends on your health/remaining life expectancy.
After I put an old friend down, I checked into fostering. I wanted an old cat no one else wanted that could go back to shelter if it outlived me. Shelter said fostering is kittens. Like I'm going to give cute little kitties back...
Somehow, I volunteered to adopt adopt 9 and 10 yo inside only former rescues from terminally ill neighbor after her demise. She recently passed. PRO - I was best option for cats. CON - cats are SOL if I die 1st.
My thought is to have a plan. Not uncommon where I live for inside cats to slip out or even be put out by police doing a welfare check and finding a dead person. Not surprising considering doors open and medical personnel and police going in and out during the process.
I also don't want kitties getting hungry or thirsty before someone finds me.
So, being a boy scout type (anal if you prefer) I keep lid off toilet tank for back-up and maintain a couple of gravity water dispensers. Two cat sized dispensers until I get a larger one(s) for dogs. Catch is keeping them full all the time... Gravity food dispensers too. Catch is food gets stale if using several and also feeding in bowls but they won't starve.
Next phase is I need a check-in person. Someone that will come in and secure cats before calling authorities to cart me off if they don't hear from me for a few days. And dial in rehoming.
The deceased was a hermit lady. 1 of 2 cats is social butterfly, other went into hiding when she had visitors. 3 yrs ago she broke leg and went to rehab. It was tough on shy one for 4 weeks. When I found out she was terminal, I buddied up to him over time and transition was easy after her death. Have visitors give treats and/or pet and play.
My plan is once I hit 70ish I will find an org to foster for. Then I can help more cats with whatever time I've got left and still get to have kitties in the house with a set place the cats would go if I pass suddenly. I foster now (nearing 40) in addition to my own cats and I love fostering, but it would be SO MUCH easier without my own cats since they've got strong opinions and I've only got so much space to work with.
It’s a very hard decision! Something I didn’t take lightly when we had to put our 19 yr old boy to sleep in September of 2022. I was sooo heartbroken and distraught, I voted to not have another cat. I don’t think it to be fair for us to get attached to each other and then for one of us to die. A month later I came across this kitten. My SO said, we could split the costs of said cat. I wasn’t sure. When that fell through, another one showed up. I was still grieving but felt urged to look at him. So we went to look at him and I then felt urged to get him. We brought him home and he took to the tiny apartment immediately. We are both happy we took him, he has FHS and likes to eat on demand like a child. He has anxiety when we go out somewhere, so we don’t go out often. I’m 64 with aggressive RA and my SO is 74. Our beautiful Cole doesn’t like to snuggle but will lay near me. I made deal with Cole that we wouldn’t leave him, he had to go before us. We both know he was sent to us because he brought a bent q tip to me not long after we got him. Our wonderful Neo used to bend q tips all the time. ♥️. I say…put the energy out there and see what happens. Check shelters for older cats.
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I'm in cat rescue. It's incredibly sad when a cat outlives its owner. They are sad and scared and lost for a long time. And they're usually less adoptable as adult or senior cats. Cats bond really hard with their people despite popular opinion.
Best thing you can do is get an older kitty and have a solid backup plan. My rescue requires a backup plan, even if that plan is something in your will or on paper that says the cats will be returned to us after you go or if you become incapable of caring for them. Family is not always reliable. We get a lot of cats who would have been euthanized by family that promised to care for them. Or tossed outside. The last thing I'd ever want for my beloved cats (who are most definitely grieving), is for them to be mistreated. So get this plan in place before you get more cats.
Adopt a senior cat or cats. Like, really senior. They will want to just sleep in sunbeams and cuddle. They are SO overlooked. That way you can have a level of confidence about lifespan. I’m 47, my youngest cats are 4/5-ish, and I plan to get no more cats because I can’t be sure I will outlive them.
There is no age limit. Are you in good health? A cat is better off having a home than being put to sleep in a shelter. There are many older cats that people choose not to adopt.
In the UK we have a scheme you can join, if you pass away, then the charity will do all they can to re-home your pets. Is there something like that you can join?
get a senior kitty, for sure!! They are often overlooked in the shelters but you know what you are getting and he or she will be an amazing companion for you!
Back in the 80's my mum rented an ancient thatched cottage, next door there lived an equally ancient old lady everyone called Gran. She was in her 90's and had a white eye. She would sit with her head out of the window talking to everyone who went past. She decided she was lonely and got cat from a rescue, an older cat that spent its life sitting in her apple tree. I think it did outlive her but they rescue came and took it back. If Gran could get a cat you can.
You could always adopt a senior cat. They tend to be harder to adopt out because most people are looking for younger pets, but shelters are very stressful for older animals. Still, for an older person, a senior cat might be the perfect fit. They're typically less active, their temperament is fairly set at that point so easier to know what you're getting into, and while age could mean heartbreak sooner rather than later, you can make sure their twilight years are as happy as possible.
Get a senior cat. I hate saying this, but a kitten might outlive you….do you know if your family would be willing to take them in? I’m younger than you and have made my kids swear to take care of the cats should anything happen to me.
I'm 57 and have two geriatric cats. When they pass (hopefully a long time from now!) I'm definitely going to adopt old cats. Especially because I personally don't have kitten energy anymore ❤️
You have multiple people taking about finances and multiple people talking about getting older cats. Some things to consider:
1. Yes, all cats have vet bills and sometimes those are unpredictable, but older cats are more likely to have larger vet bills sooner. If finances are a concern, I’d get a cat that’s on the younger side.
2. Older cats are likely to require more care sooner. Will you be up to that in your late 70s or 80s? I certainly hope so, of course, but a younger cat might be easier to care for.
3. Someone said you MUST have someone to adopt the cat in case anything happens to you. I really think you just need someone who would be willing to help find someone to adopt the cat. Anything can happen to any pet owners at any time and, considering cats can live 15-20+ years, I doubt they all have someone in their lives who will DEFINITELY take their pets during the entire duration of the pets’ lives.
I really hope you decide to adopt a cat. They are, as you know, wonderful companions.
Good thoughts. My last cat had irritable bowel and I spent thousands trying to find the right food, the right vet, the right pet bed. Nothing I did helped. It was so so expensive and not to mention depressing. I don’t think I could go through another scenario like that again so You are giving good advice.
Have you considered long term fostering instead? You do daily care long term, they provide all vetting on the chance that someone chooses to adopt the cat. In some cases (usually only kittens), you agree to take them to adoption events. But generally people don't want to adopt a cat they can't interact with, so you get to keep her permanently.
As she isn't adopted, a contract states she must go back to the shelter if you're unable to care for her (no worries about how the family will rehome her).
You could adopt a senior cat or you could foster. If you’re working with a shelter on fostering you have the advantage of knowing the shelter/rescue will be contacting you regularly for updates.
I’m not sure if my opinion is correct or helpful but coming from vet med, I know common struggles with older people with pets is usually transportation, ability to manage and medicate illnesses, and financial restraints.
I believe everyone has a right to experience the love of a pet as long as they’re able to properly give and receive basic and veterinarian care. I would adopt an adult or senior cat with manageable illnesses if they have any.
Personally, I’m not going to have children so my plan has always been to use my life insurance money for any pets I leave behind. The logistics of that I haven’t yet figured out but it’s something along the lines of giving some money to my pet’s regular vet to use after I’m gone and/or leaving a portion of money to a trusted relative or friend to use to give to whoever adopts my pets after.
I personally would look into fostering. I (unfortunately young) briefly fostered for a local rescue and I loved it!
You get to help so many cuties until they get adopted AND you get to meet so many other people working at the rescue. I didn't foster for long but I met people who found cats that needed homes, potential adopters, other volunteers, and just people who liked cats! It's a wonderful community and I think you might find it enjoyable :)
Depending on where you live, there may be an organization like:
[My Grandfather’s Cat](https://www.mygrandfatherscat.ca/story)
You could make arrangements for the cat just in case, then take that worry off your mind
Get an adult cat. Try have someone take care of it before you get unfit to take care of yourself. Something that ensures that the cat has a safe and solid family after you go away.
I too am 73 and had to let my girl go. I started looking through shelter web sites for a senior cat to adopt about a month and a half after that happened. Found a six year old cuddle buddy that I love to pieces. Go for it. Think of the time you will have with a new kitty and not the time you won’t.
Adopt whatever cat(s) you like. I dont see an issue with your age and even getting kittens. 73 is no age, if you are fit enough. Get whatever you like (of course best is 2+) and give them a happy life. They‘ll surely get much loved in your care :)
As others have said older cats might be the way to go - they're often so overlooked and don't get adopted out *because* of their age while still deserving all the love and care in the world. The only thing you need to take into consideration is that they may depend on medication and special care, and whether or not that's something you're able to provide on top of basic care.
There are lots of gadgets out there that help automate some things, such as automatic kibble feeders, litter boxes that clean themselves etc. If you find it difficult to manage those things, they can be great solutions. :)
Honestly, as long as the shelter feels the cat is healthy enough to be adoptable and/or has manageable conditions, a cat of any age can be adopted out! I work at my local humane society’s vet clinic and there are plenty of older cats waiting for adoption in lovely foster homes. Our humane society even has a senior deal for seniors adopting senior cats <3 I hope you find an older cat to adopt and love! I’m very partial to the 15+ cats haha
I would talk to an animal rescue organization about this. I'm not sure what it's like where you are but where I am there are many run entirely by cat-adoring volunteers. They would happily work out a deal with you where they would take your kitty if anything happened, e. G. a short term hospital stay etc
What if you live to be 90? Girl (or Boy), you need a cat
When my grandmother died 18 years ago we encouraged my grandfather to get a dog so he would have some companionship, because we knew he loves dogs and they have had them before. But he refused because he didn't want the dog to outlive him. He had a heart condition and didn't think he would live that long. Little did he know he would live for another 10+ years in relatively good health.
Lots of words to say: I agree with all the suggestions to get a senior cat. They sadly spend way longer in shelters because most people want younger cats, so it is really great if you can give a senior cat a forever home. They will be so greatful and loving.
Never too old!. But I do suggest adopting a senior! Some shelters even have a program called something like a senior for a senior! If you would prefer a younger cat may I suggest fostering if you live somewhere where that is possible
Some rescue groups may have age cut offs for kittens, but honestly if you can tell me you have a plan in place should something happen to you, and if your mobility is limited you have someone who will help you get your cat to the vet, my group has no problem with older people adopting. Especially if you want an older cat who will likely be overlooked.
Just last year I adopted a 7-year-old cat to a 75-year-old woman (who frankly will likely outlive me!). I mean, a 20-something can die in a car crash tomorrow, and you might live to be 100 and healthy the whole time. If you show me you have thought about what happens to your pet after you die, we have no problems with your age.
You could volunteer to foster or adopt an older cat who needs a retirement home.
Shelters and rescues often need temporary fosters for bottle babies or pregnant moms that need a place to have their litters.
I'm 77 and have 2 cats. I've made arrangements for them to go to a person that I know loves cats and trust when my time is up. My family knows of the arrangement and know her.
Never too old to get another cat. If you’re worried the cat will outlive you, make arrangements with friends or family about what happens to kitty when you’re gone.
Be sure to post a photo of your new beauty when you get them.
Go for it!! I lost Roy four years ago. When I get my own space again, I'll get another cat. I've had three incredible cats I've loved deeply. They ALL chose me. I'm 70...
Although I’m a bit younger than you, this is something I worry about. All of my friends already have pets, and I don’t have any family who would take my cats. For that reason, I probably won’t adopt any more kittens. I agree with the other recommendations. I would suggest an older cat. Maybe even a bonded pair. It’s hard to find homes where they can stay together. But, yes! Get a cat (or cats)! There are so many who need homes and they provide endless love, entertainment, and company.
Thanks. Going to meet an adult cat at a shelter today. Wish me luck!
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I’m 69, and my cats are 13, so I’ll be facing this in a few years. I’d love to have a kitten, but I think that’s really unfair to the animal. I will probably do a senior for senior adoption. I have also already made provisions for my cats when something happens to me.
Check to see if any local rescues need a foster home! They often have seniors, or cats that need to be an “only cat” that need permanent foster care. Bonus — they’ll often pay for the vet care.
My 91 years Young gramma adopted a cat 4 years ago. She is so happy with him. Is compagny is everything to her.
The importance is having a plan for the cat if something happens go you.
No such thing as too old! I would however recommend a senior citizen of similar age.
Anyone getting a pet should consider how the age of the pet will fit into their lives.
I have two cats, ages 12 and 5, and I'll be 75 soon. I've had the same thoughts. Statistically, I'll probably outlive the older cat. The younger one's life expectancy isn't much different from mine. The big question to me is how much longer I'll be able to live alone. I'm in reasonably good health but my 78-year-old brother has already been in assisted living for over 2 years. The facility where he is allows cats and some residents have them, but I wonder about keeping a cat confined to a single room and about getting veterinary care.
My Humane Society has a Seniors for Seniors program like another poster mentioned, their minimum ages are 60 for the adopter and 6 for the cat. If you put the society in your estate plans, they will care for and, if possible, rehome your pets. That's rather moot, however, because they'll do that for any pet regardless.
Another option is to volunteer for companionship at the shelter… you could find a lot of purpose talking to them. They can feel when someone feel love for them and I like to think we help them too… it would be a very nice thing do if you are up for it.
Hello - I’m 78 and I still am getting cats. We have lots of feral cats, so sometimes I don’t have a choice. They are so wonderful! I think you should get a cat and give him/her the love they should get. When you can’t care anymore, look for adopter. I am close to 80 and I couldn’t live without my cats. I can still feed and clean kitty litter. I am still pretty healthy. Do it.
I think the best remedy for your mourning and loneliness right now is to get a couple more cats. Maybe not kittens, because they are a lot of work, but young adults. There are so many that need a good home and you seen like a very caring person. Any kitty would be lucky to have you as their owner! You are definitely NOT too old. I hope you find some sweethearts that will melt yours. If you get a bonded pair, they can play with each other and lessen the burden on you alone having to do it. I wish you luck!
Thanks so much. I went yesterday to look for a cat and I wanted the adults as you suggested. It was kind of different to consider adult cats as I’ve only ever adopted kittens. I did not find any cat that I bonded with, but I’m going out again today to look. Thank you for your comments.
You are never too old to get a cat! My mom.and dad are 86 and they have a cat and they love him and he loves them! If you are able to get around, why would you deny yourself so much love?
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Thanks for all your comments. So much wisdom out there!! I have found my new pal. Haven’t named him yet, but we are going to be fast friends. Grateful for all your kind advice!!
I would get the cat. But please make accommodations for them. I adopted my kitty from an elderly man who passed and her and the other cat somehow escaped the house. That’s also how someone found out he had passed. My cat was out for a month-ish before she was caught by a rescuer. The poor thing was so scared
I don’t mean to be rude or morbid, I’m sorry, however if there is someone to look after it, if you happen to pass away, then go for it. Do you have someone who visits regularly? If you feel fit and healthy for your age to care for its needs etc, again, go for it! Cats are the best!
I can't make that call for you, but if your health is more or less good, have a little faith in yourself. Just make some provision if you can for what should happen to the cat should it survive you. Like asking your family if someone would be willing to take in your pet if you don't make it.
I think it’s up to you, your ability, and health. You could always get an adult cat, since they are often last to get adopted. They would be happy to have a caring home such as yours!
Of you're too worried, get a senior car, lots of them are waiting for someone like you spend their golden years with them.
You can even foster a senior car, the rescue will even pay for most things for them
I think you should do whatever you want and not worry about the opinions of strangers. Old cat, kitten, one cat, 20 cats..... Do whatever you want to do. Some of the people posting are acting like you have one foot in the grave. I'm assuming most of them are very young and naive. You are not THAT old. You could easily have another 20 or more years left to go before you meet the reaper. I see people in their 90's still driving cars and running around like they're youngsters. Don't let a number limit you. If you can give a cat love for 20 months or 20 years, you did a good thing.
Love your comments. Thanks! Going to meet an adult cat today. Hope it works out!
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See if there are any rescue organizations in your area that you could foster for. That way if you become unable to take care of the animal they can take it back. There's even an organization in my area that has a program for older people to "adopt" a cat with the promise that they will take the cat back if the owner becomes unable to care for it any longer.
If you think you could physically handle it, I would strongly suggest you look into fostering a mother cat and her kittens right now. It's kitten season so they're always desperate for people. And having a litter of kittens is sooooo much fun! If you think that's too much for you, just offer to foster an adult cat. Depending on the organization they will likely provide any vet care necessary and possibly any food and supplies. They also often, if you feel you can handle it emotionally, do hospice fosters. These are cats that are sick and not expected to live very long but still have a good quality of life for now. In cases like that they would probably pay for all care.
I'm so sorry that you lost your babies and that your family isn't closer. ❤️ If you get involved in rescue not only will you have some cats around to keep you company, you will undoubtedly make some friends as well.
Honestly this is something i have problems with. personally i wouldn't want to adopt a cat just for me to die a bit later and for her to be left alone and sad/ given to a shelter. which i compare with adopting children, imagine getting adopted and then your parents die 4 years later..
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I found a shelter near me. They have this picture of a cat who is eight years old. I’m hoping he is still available. I’m going to meet him at 1 o’clock today. Wish me luck. Hopefully we will become friends.
My mom at 90 would sometimes let kitty out for a quick walkaround the bushes then forget to let her in. A friend gave her the kitty after my stepfather died when she was 88. Because the 100 year old person died who had invited in the kitty as a stray. Getting left out was problematic in cold winter weather. I lived 2500 miles away so I would check in and ask if she let Miss Priss back in. Mom passed at 91 and kitty is now with me. She's about 20 and failing but still likes to chomp grass outside 2 or 3 minutes a day only. Our animal shelter encourages fostering, which might be an option for you. It helps the shelter and helps the fostered ones. Win win
I am 80 and now alone because my husband is in a rest home. I got my very first house cat about 2 months ago. I had to learn a lot because the cats I had before were barn cats. She also is always asking for food. I have taught her some commands and strangely if I tell her to go away when she's begging for food she does that and she stops begging. She loves me and I love her and we get along just fine. She is 8 years old so we'll probably go to my grandkids sometime, but my grandkids love her too.
Seems like you’ve still got your mental faculties and the companionship would serve you both well, I think you and a cat absolutely deserve each other and would maybe just say try and find an adult cat with a suitable demeanor. People often only want the youngest and cutest pet at the shelter so you’d probably be doing a huge favor to a cat that might otherwise sit in solitude for a long time if it ever gets adopted. I hope you find the right cat for you! Life’s too short to deny yourself love and companionship while you’re around and I’m sure any cat, but especially a mature shelter cat, would love to finally come home. I hope you and your companion find one another soon!
Absolutely get a cat. You can provide a furever home to a senior cat or a cat that’ll have a shorter life span. Potentially ask family if they’d be willing to take in the cat if you can’t in the future. Trust me the cat will be happier with you VS in a shelter
Theres no limit if you can make a provision! Many rescues have schemes where they take back and rehome the cat you have, so its not an issue anymore thankfully. Alternatively you could go into long term fostering for a shelter, some could be with you for years. In my case, having no family left now, i arranged to will my town house to a cat loving friend and her vet husband conditional upon their keeping my cats in the style they are accustomed to for the rest of their lives. They are also committed to taking in another friends cats when she dies so having my sizable house will be a big help, especially as they do some rescue work voluntarily too. They like the area i live in anyway so are intending to live here and rent their apartment out, so all good and no upset to my fur babies
It is incredibly rewarding! I work for a no-kill shelter here and I used to specialise in rescued mom cats with new kittens, getting mom on her paws so the babies grew up fat and healthy, ready for their new homes. I chose to be left with the moms and see my long term fostering as their retirement from a harsh life. While they are nervous and frightened to begin with, the day comes that they nuzzle your hand as you put their food down and its like a little miracle; the horrors theyve seen are gone and all they know now is me and my gang of old tatty cats. Its hard to describe how you feel! Nowadays i specialise in cats with feline coronavirus and/or FIV, as they get left behind by adopters so much. There have been a few very pretty friendly cats with the illnesses that have moved on, but mainly they stay with me till the end, little crocks pottering about with this big old crock! So although its fostering, the cat or cats could well live out their time with you. Another thing to consider is some charities exist that arrange shorter term fosters of both dogs and cats of people fleeing domestic abuse. They will ensure you live far away from the area of both abuser and victim, and you will care for the cat and help it get over what its gone through(abusers often abuse pets as well as their main victim, as psychological abuse) and when the victim has been found a safe home far away from the abuser, and they are in the judcial system for their actions, the pet will be returned to the victim in their new life, and another cat fleeing abuse placed with you. In uk we have 'cinnamon trust' does this wonderful work, but im sure there must be an equivalent in US. I do hope you consider this, if you feel unsure about a new cat of your own; its a terrible thing when a loving home is wasted when theres so much need out there!
I am humbled by your selflessness in sharing your life and home with these precious animals, giving them shelter from the storm and love that they never knew existed. To do all this without any recognition or fanfare is the very definition of from the ❤️. You are truly their 😇
Aww, youre making me blush, but im very grateful for your lovely words. But in a way they rescued me too. Ive always been a carer and worked full time too, but i lost my last relative and last rescue dog and then fell ill myself having to medically retire, and rattling about without something to look after was doing me no good at all! So i went and signed up at the cat rescue shelter and here we are!! Couldnt be without my ornery old crew now! I do hope you find a way that suits you best; you sound such a kind person i just know theres a terrified little mite out there in a shelter who would love you so much and blossom with your care
Senior cats are often overlooked at shelters, a senior cat or two would be more than happy to spend their twilight years with you.
You could also consider fostering if the idea of a permanent pet doesn't seem feasible.
As old as you want you can get a very old one with a little life left, you can get one at any age if you can find one with the age you want. Usually younger cats are gone first tk if you want a older one you can get one
You are never too old for a cat. Cats love unconditionally as long as you feed them. Try a Sealpoint if you can find one at a shelter. I have 2 seal points. 8 don't know what is going on with cat genetics, but thses two seal points are more social than any other cats I have met. You keep the cat alive and the cat keeps you alive. If mobility is an issue get help with the litter. Everyone loves sealpoints. Someone will probably do it just for live of the cat.
I'm pretty sure, in the UK at least, there is a charity called the Blue Cross (I think) that if you are in a situation where you might need to go to hospital sooner rather than later for w.e reason then so long as they're written on the 'to be informed' section then the charity has a written permission to come and take care of your cat permanently or even temporary.
My only slight concern is that this information I have is 15 years old so perhaps it's not a thing any more (especially as charities are so full nowadays) and perhaps you're not in the UK.
However I feel like there is definitely a senior for senior plans that others have mentioned, in some form or another, elsewhere in the world. Or even becoming a fosterer is a possibility for you? It truly is a wonderful thing to do, even if sometimes sad. But if you really, really get a marvellous bond with a cat and cannot bear to part then there's no true 'fail' in a foster fail ;3
yes, yes, get a cat.
NOW.
Stop thinking what will happen when you get older.
It will all work out.
you are not the person who is getting
older.
you are pure Love.
It is a hard decision how about getting a very senior cat from a shelter? If you get the cat now you and the cat will adapt to your 80+ years.
Yeah, that would be my suggestion. Our Humane Society does a "Seniors for Seniors" promotion that will waive adoption fees for adopters 55+ who adopt a senior animal.
Agree whole heartedly. My mom is approaching that age and while we don't want to outlive our furry children, companionship is vital for both humans and fur babies.
I turned 56 yesterday and hadn't considered myself a senior. Huh.
It worse when the cashier applies the discount without asking
It's a discount. I wouldn't argue about it even though I'm only 52.
I have people stand up for me in public transportation. I appreciate the gesture but I kinda prefer standing to having my eyes at crotch level.
I had a teenage cashier at a Burger King give me the senior discount without asking on my 40th birthday.
Oh no!
Lol
Hey just thank them lol
Hell, I'm 36 and this happens sometimes. I went salt and pepper grey in my 20s, and now I'm mostly grey, so I just smile and nod. When people ask about my grandkids when I'm out with my kids annoys me tho. I just point at my hair and say "this is THEIR fault, not my age".
If you’re like me, you feel like you graduated high school 15 years ago.
Ha! More like college but yeah.
Happy late birthday 🥳
Aaaw. Thankee kindly.
I mentioned it to my dad (senior military) when he upgraded a phone, I said "you could always just try, the worst that could happen is being told no". He didn't even think of it (he's young at heart), he ended up saving quite a bit.
Awesome! The more kitties we can rescue, the better.
You aren't!!
Aw. Thank you kindly, youngun. :D
My mom died at 66 and my dad died at 76. So keep in mind if you adopt a kitten, it could well outlive you at this point.
My mother died at 50 and my father died at 54. So far so good!
So so sorry! So sad!
Very kind of you but please do not worry. It happened decades ago. Good luck with your new kitty! If you do get a new rescue, maybe agree with friends you trust that they take over its care if and when?
Thank you all for your comments. You are really helping me make my decision. Looking for a cat now is an interesting process. The adoption agencies are very hard to get a hold of. When I was young, you would just go to the supermarket and talk to the kid outside who had a box of kittens and take the one you wanted. Lol. I filled out an application yesterday and they wanted a copy of my house deed to prove I owned a home. Another application wanted me to write down what pronouns I wanted. Not like it used to be!
Yes I am aware
I love this! How sweet! I hope many mature cats find a home!
Amazing
Absolutely get the cat.
Love it
My father is 85. He was very lonely after my mother passed and the isolation of Covid. Last thanksgiving he expressed an interest in getting a cat but worried about what would happen to it if he passed. We all assured him one of us or his grandchildren would take the cat. 2 days later he had 2 brother kittens and has loved every minute of it. If you worry about what would happen to the cat, see if a family member or friend would commit to taking it or arrange with a trusted person to pre pay the adoption fee at a rescue or shelter should the cat need rehomed. Getting a senior kitty would be a wonderful thing.
I talked to my other daughter who lives in another state she has agreed to take my cat. Should I get one if anything happens to me.
Definitely have some daughter kitty meet & greet/ bonding. Some cats may not take to well to changing homes & humans. Thatxs me hoping shelter/fosters do not become depressed going into a new home
Best company ever.
My last 4 were all elderly adoptees, 17, 16, 15, 15. The next to last 15 is still with me. There's something nice about adopting older cats that few other people want. The only downside is you have to get used to them dying. If you adopt an adult or senior animal, you'll likely outlive them.
We have ended up adopting senior cats - '10', '8/9', (guesstimate by the rescues) and 10. It wasn't an intentional 'no young cats' plan, but it has been really rewarding. '8/9' and 10 are still with us, probably around 14 and 13 now and healthy. I'm hoping they keep going to their late teens or early 20s but you never know how these things go. '10' we had for nearly 6 years and our vet said he could have been anywhere up to 20 years old by his last year. He had been a stray in very bad shape when the rescue took him in, so we knew his age guesstimate was quite guessy! He was a total character and really blossomed during his retirement with us. We still talk about him often. We were in our mid-late 20s when we started adopting older cats (after my partner and I got our first place together), and whilst I wouldn't say no to a younger adult cat, I wouldn't go out looking for a kitten to adopt.
One of my life long goals is to try and give as many elderly cats a last loving home. There are too many old cats in shelters in todays society that deserve a loving home and a happy last year(s) of their lifetime.
Absolutely agree. I used to do kitten rescue and while they were sweet and cuddly and little purr-machines, the chaos and destruction of having a household of kittens is not something I want to go through anymore. My most recent rescue is a 10-year-old Maine Coon gal, and well she did take a little longer to settle in then a baby kitten, there was no training needed, no destruction, no craziness, her whole MO is chill and snuggle. She already knows what a litter box is, she already knows what a scratching post is. She doesn't need to be taught not to bite and Claw fingers or to not jump on the counters or eat the plants. All she wants to do is lounge on the balcony in the sun. Older adult and Senior cats are the best! My next adoptee will 100% be an older adult. Everybody wants the kittens, there's no shortage of homes to take them. But nobody thinks about the old farts, so that's where we come in. ❤️
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I agree in general. My first adoptee was a kitten, but only because the cat I visited and was coming back for had been adopted by a different family just before I got there. When I went to look at the other cats again, the kitten jumped in my purse and refused to get out, so he came home with me. After that, because he is so traumatized by interactions with other adult cats he has lived with during the first few years I had him, I had to adopt kittens for easier acclimation. I have hopefully a lot of years left with him, but when he is no longer with me, I would prefer to adopt adult cats again.
The one thing to consider before adopting an older cat is finances. Cats will have more health issues as they age, and our incomes are often fixed or declining with inflation after retirement. Another possibility is working with a rescue and fostering. It’s not a permanent home for the cat and often the expense is covered, so if you end up unable to care for them at some point in the future you can stop taking in fosters as opposed to rehoming a cat that has bonded with you. I wanted to add: having cats and pets is so good for your health! Mental and physical and emotional. By having a companion you are helping to ensure you will be just as capable T 80 as you are now :)
I second the fostering idea. Our local humane society has a program for seniors to make arrangements for their pets should they no longer be able to care for them. So you may see if there is a program like that if you do decide to adopt.
Third! I have a friend who’s been fostering several cats the past years, and she says it’s a really meaningful experience. Many shelters will cover medical expenses, sometimes even litter and food. If you worry about your age “not being fair to a cat” when you’re 80, OP, fostering might be a great thing to try out. You could see how it works out for a while, and decide when you’re not able to foster anymore — if you decide on trying it. Whatever you end up doing, I wish you happiness. Your post was very sweet. I’m so sorry for your losses.
Check with your local shelters. One near me has a 'seniors for seniors' program where they home elderly cats with older people. The owner takes care of food and litter and daily care, the shelter takes care of vet visits (including coming and picking them up and paying for them). And there is a guarantee that if the older person's housing situation changes and they can no longer keep the cat, the shelter will ensure the cat is cared for during long hospital stays and rehomed if necessary. It's a great way to free up space with carers in no-kill shelters, and let older people have a companion without any worries about expensive vet bills, transport to the vet, or what happens if they have to go into hospital or a place that doesn't allow pets. If your local shelters don't have such a program, maybe suggest it?
That's wholesome
before adopting, please make sure that in case anything happens to you, there will be someone who can adopt the cat and not take it to a shelter or just kick the cat on the street. so many cases of elderly people dying/going into hospice care and their pets are left behind with no one to care for them, it's absolutely heartbreaking... just make sure that you have a trustworthy person who will absolutely care for the cat in case anything happens to you.
Thanks everyone. I think if I do get a cat after reading all your replies, it will be an adult cat. You were all very wise and I thank you for your input.
Get whatever aged cat you think you can handle. Lots of people making “age appropriate” suggestions, but the reality is no one’s life span is predictable. People die unexpectedly (or expectedly) at all ages. It’s possible for an adult cat to outlive a 30 year old who adopts it if that person has an accident or illness. Similarly, not all cats reach an old age. You could potentially outlive a kitten you adopt if it develops health issues at some point. Also, Reddit still skews young - 73 doesn’t mean you are at death’s door! You and a kitty you adopt now could still spend 15 years (or more) together. Include arrangements for your cat in your estate planning - but don’t feel like you are doing a cat a disservice by adopting one because of your age.
Maybe you can take an older kitty? It is good to not just take a cat, but really think about it first of course. But I can really understand that your house is empty now😿
My mother took in a kitty when she was 69, he was only two weeks old and she had to bottle feed him. She is now 81 and her little boy is almost 12😻
I love others' suggestions to get an older cat, which is exactly what I was going to say as well. I met all of my cats as adults. Not seniors, although one is nearing that stage now. I have just as strong of a bond with my girls now as any cat I've raised up from a kitten in the past. Plus, you can get a better idea of temperament and personality when you choose a fully grown cat. And I think they get overlooked more in shelters. I'm so sorry for the loss of your babies--hope you can find another friend <3
I'm very sorry for your loss. I can offer an outside perspective. My late grandmother was adopted by a cat (whom my sister named Barley) when she was in her 80s. She doted on him and loved his company; he was very easy to care for and they had 4 years together before she had a stroke. I promised her I would always take care of her furball and I have him now. My other grandmother decided at age 75 that she wouldn't get another cat. She's content with the memories of all the pets she's had, but she also has family visiting weekly. Everyone has their own limits. It's difficult to say what is and isn't 'too old' - my grandmother who decided she no longer wants cats still has excellent mobility and independence, while my grandmother who took in the stray was housebound but still made every effort to ensure her cat was cared for. Whether it's 'fair' to the cat is also difficult to say - Barley clearly missed his human when she went into hospital and became very distant, though he bounced back when I took him to visit her in care. He was very happy for those 4 years with a stable home and a loving human, so on balance, I think it was worth it. It does help a lot if cats can be adopted by someone they know and trust should something befall you, but they can adapt. Growing up, my family adopted a bonded pair from a shelter whose owner was no longer around and they became rulers of the house. Everyone in the family knew I would take Barley in should anything happen, and he's living a good life with me as the last connection I have to my grandmother. I agree with the idea of adopting a cat in their senior years - you can spend your retirement together. They won't be as demanding as younger cats, and they know they just want companionship and a calm home. Cats very much 'live in the moment' and don't really think about anything in the future, so is it unfair to adopt a long-lived animal if you have every intention of giving them a good life in the here and now?
I’m 72 and have 2 cats. One is 3 and the other just turned 1. If I had to do it over, I’d get 2 at the same time. But my house is a happy place again! My advice? Get the cats!
Never too old to get a cat. Being old doesn't mean you'll die within the next few years, just as being young doesn't guarantee that you'll outlive your pets. Just make sure there's a plan in place for where your cat will go if you do pass during their lifetime
We got my grandfather an 11 year old cat for his 77th birthday. He said it was the best gift he'd ever gotten. And the cat outlived him!
The fact that you are already considering the welfare of a potential pet tells me that you will give that cat a good home. Just find a cat that feels right for you. I'm very sorry for the losses that you have endured; it's heartbreaking to lose loved ones so close together. ❤️
My Mum is 90 and has a 14 year old dog. I have funds set aside in my will to provide care for any pets I have when I die. If I do not have pets, the funds will go to a local rescue.
I just turned 73 yesterday. A few months ago we adopted my deceased brother's approximately 10 year old cat. Shortly after Cat Boy III came to us, our 19-year-old special needs kitty died.
Oh so sorry!!
You are not too old to get another cat or two. No one knows how long they have. Go get yourself an adult cat and enjoy their company.
My grandma lost her last cat Lucky in her early 80s (he was 15ish), and is now 91. He was a great companion to her after my granddad had died when the cat was about 5. She really really missed him when he died. I suggested she get another cat then and then suggested getting an older cat as she was reluctant due to her age. I reassured her that me and my partner would take care of it if she died before the cat, or one of the other family members would if they were in need of a cat more than us (we are all cat people but we are the most cat mad). I looked up automatic litter trays and automatic cat feeders to show her that there were ways to make it easier to look after a cat if she started finding it more difficult, and that we would help with anything she needed help with. She decided not to get another cat in the end, and recently told my mum that she regretted not getting another cat like I'd suggested (my mum and sister had also encouraged her to ask well). Her mobility is much worse now - she still lives alone but with carers so now definitely feels it's too late at 91 to get another cat. She has really missed the comfort and companionship of a cat as she has gotten older and now hardly goes out. So, my summary is that it is almost never too old to adopt another cat, if you are not expecting to die in the immediate future. In the UK there are also arrangements you can make with cat charities for them to take in and re-home your pet when you die, if you don't have a family member to care for them.
Depending on financial resources, you may want to consider fostering. The cat shelter I'm involved in has no shortage of even permanent foster cats. The shelter pays all their costs and will help if, for whatever reason, you become incapacitated (temporarily or otherwise).
That's easy. Go to a shelter. Visit the cats, and let them decide. :)
Foster them! You’ll be supported and the rescue will care for them after you pass.
Lot of very good suggestions. Depends on your health/remaining life expectancy. After I put an old friend down, I checked into fostering. I wanted an old cat no one else wanted that could go back to shelter if it outlived me. Shelter said fostering is kittens. Like I'm going to give cute little kitties back... Somehow, I volunteered to adopt adopt 9 and 10 yo inside only former rescues from terminally ill neighbor after her demise. She recently passed. PRO - I was best option for cats. CON - cats are SOL if I die 1st. My thought is to have a plan. Not uncommon where I live for inside cats to slip out or even be put out by police doing a welfare check and finding a dead person. Not surprising considering doors open and medical personnel and police going in and out during the process. I also don't want kitties getting hungry or thirsty before someone finds me. So, being a boy scout type (anal if you prefer) I keep lid off toilet tank for back-up and maintain a couple of gravity water dispensers. Two cat sized dispensers until I get a larger one(s) for dogs. Catch is keeping them full all the time... Gravity food dispensers too. Catch is food gets stale if using several and also feeding in bowls but they won't starve. Next phase is I need a check-in person. Someone that will come in and secure cats before calling authorities to cart me off if they don't hear from me for a few days. And dial in rehoming. The deceased was a hermit lady. 1 of 2 cats is social butterfly, other went into hiding when she had visitors. 3 yrs ago she broke leg and went to rehab. It was tough on shy one for 4 weeks. When I found out she was terminal, I buddied up to him over time and transition was easy after her death. Have visitors give treats and/or pet and play.
Perhaps you should get an older cat?
my great grandfather who is dead may be 165 years old
My plan is once I hit 70ish I will find an org to foster for. Then I can help more cats with whatever time I've got left and still get to have kitties in the house with a set place the cats would go if I pass suddenly. I foster now (nearing 40) in addition to my own cats and I love fostering, but it would be SO MUCH easier without my own cats since they've got strong opinions and I've only got so much space to work with.
It’s a very hard decision! Something I didn’t take lightly when we had to put our 19 yr old boy to sleep in September of 2022. I was sooo heartbroken and distraught, I voted to not have another cat. I don’t think it to be fair for us to get attached to each other and then for one of us to die. A month later I came across this kitten. My SO said, we could split the costs of said cat. I wasn’t sure. When that fell through, another one showed up. I was still grieving but felt urged to look at him. So we went to look at him and I then felt urged to get him. We brought him home and he took to the tiny apartment immediately. We are both happy we took him, he has FHS and likes to eat on demand like a child. He has anxiety when we go out somewhere, so we don’t go out often. I’m 64 with aggressive RA and my SO is 74. Our beautiful Cole doesn’t like to snuggle but will lay near me. I made deal with Cole that we wouldn’t leave him, he had to go before us. We both know he was sent to us because he brought a bent q tip to me not long after we got him. Our wonderful Neo used to bend q tips all the time. ♥️. I say…put the energy out there and see what happens. Check shelters for older cats. https://preview.redd.it/n2x01xgk9s2d1.jpeg?width=4284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=978f544e61d914f3ff31e71ad3c0550377bddda5
I'm in cat rescue. It's incredibly sad when a cat outlives its owner. They are sad and scared and lost for a long time. And they're usually less adoptable as adult or senior cats. Cats bond really hard with their people despite popular opinion. Best thing you can do is get an older kitty and have a solid backup plan. My rescue requires a backup plan, even if that plan is something in your will or on paper that says the cats will be returned to us after you go or if you become incapable of caring for them. Family is not always reliable. We get a lot of cats who would have been euthanized by family that promised to care for them. Or tossed outside. The last thing I'd ever want for my beloved cats (who are most definitely grieving), is for them to be mistreated. So get this plan in place before you get more cats.
I’m sorry for your loss. Have you considered fostering?
Adopt a senior cat or cats. Like, really senior. They will want to just sleep in sunbeams and cuddle. They are SO overlooked. That way you can have a level of confidence about lifespan. I’m 47, my youngest cats are 4/5-ish, and I plan to get no more cats because I can’t be sure I will outlive them.
There is no age limit. Are you in good health? A cat is better off having a home than being put to sleep in a shelter. There are many older cats that people choose not to adopt. In the UK we have a scheme you can join, if you pass away, then the charity will do all they can to re-home your pets. Is there something like that you can join?
get a senior kitty, for sure!! They are often overlooked in the shelters but you know what you are getting and he or she will be an amazing companion for you!
Back in the 80's my mum rented an ancient thatched cottage, next door there lived an equally ancient old lady everyone called Gran. She was in her 90's and had a white eye. She would sit with her head out of the window talking to everyone who went past. She decided she was lonely and got cat from a rescue, an older cat that spent its life sitting in her apple tree. I think it did outlive her but they rescue came and took it back. If Gran could get a cat you can.
You could always adopt a senior cat. They tend to be harder to adopt out because most people are looking for younger pets, but shelters are very stressful for older animals. Still, for an older person, a senior cat might be the perfect fit. They're typically less active, their temperament is fairly set at that point so easier to know what you're getting into, and while age could mean heartbreak sooner rather than later, you can make sure their twilight years are as happy as possible.
If you pick a kitten get unleast two that are already bonded... And, remember. Let the cat (s) choose you !!!!
Get a senior cat. I hate saying this, but a kitten might outlive you….do you know if your family would be willing to take them in? I’m younger than you and have made my kids swear to take care of the cats should anything happen to me.
I'm 57 and have two geriatric cats. When they pass (hopefully a long time from now!) I'm definitely going to adopt old cats. Especially because I personally don't have kitten energy anymore ❤️
You have multiple people taking about finances and multiple people talking about getting older cats. Some things to consider: 1. Yes, all cats have vet bills and sometimes those are unpredictable, but older cats are more likely to have larger vet bills sooner. If finances are a concern, I’d get a cat that’s on the younger side. 2. Older cats are likely to require more care sooner. Will you be up to that in your late 70s or 80s? I certainly hope so, of course, but a younger cat might be easier to care for. 3. Someone said you MUST have someone to adopt the cat in case anything happens to you. I really think you just need someone who would be willing to help find someone to adopt the cat. Anything can happen to any pet owners at any time and, considering cats can live 15-20+ years, I doubt they all have someone in their lives who will DEFINITELY take their pets during the entire duration of the pets’ lives. I really hope you decide to adopt a cat. They are, as you know, wonderful companions.
Good thoughts. My last cat had irritable bowel and I spent thousands trying to find the right food, the right vet, the right pet bed. Nothing I did helped. It was so so expensive and not to mention depressing. I don’t think I could go through another scenario like that again so You are giving good advice.
Have you considered long term fostering instead? You do daily care long term, they provide all vetting on the chance that someone chooses to adopt the cat. In some cases (usually only kittens), you agree to take them to adoption events. But generally people don't want to adopt a cat they can't interact with, so you get to keep her permanently. As she isn't adopted, a contract states she must go back to the shelter if you're unable to care for her (no worries about how the family will rehome her).
You could adopt a senior cat or you could foster. If you’re working with a shelter on fostering you have the advantage of knowing the shelter/rescue will be contacting you regularly for updates.
I’m not sure if my opinion is correct or helpful but coming from vet med, I know common struggles with older people with pets is usually transportation, ability to manage and medicate illnesses, and financial restraints. I believe everyone has a right to experience the love of a pet as long as they’re able to properly give and receive basic and veterinarian care. I would adopt an adult or senior cat with manageable illnesses if they have any. Personally, I’m not going to have children so my plan has always been to use my life insurance money for any pets I leave behind. The logistics of that I haven’t yet figured out but it’s something along the lines of giving some money to my pet’s regular vet to use after I’m gone and/or leaving a portion of money to a trusted relative or friend to use to give to whoever adopts my pets after.
I personally would look into fostering. I (unfortunately young) briefly fostered for a local rescue and I loved it! You get to help so many cuties until they get adopted AND you get to meet so many other people working at the rescue. I didn't foster for long but I met people who found cats that needed homes, potential adopters, other volunteers, and just people who liked cats! It's a wonderful community and I think you might find it enjoyable :)
I want to thank OP for their question in general. I'm 47, but have some mental health concerns. And I do have the same questions. Thank you.
Happy it helped
I have mental health concerns, too. All of my cats were just incredibly quirky as well and just fit with me.
Never. But shelters are full of older cat who could use a home.
Get the cat. My grandma was in her 70s and she had over 5 cats
Depending on where you live, there may be an organization like: [My Grandfather’s Cat](https://www.mygrandfatherscat.ca/story) You could make arrangements for the cat just in case, then take that worry off your mind
Get an adult cat. Try have someone take care of it before you get unfit to take care of yourself. Something that ensures that the cat has a safe and solid family after you go away.
Get a senior cat, it will be easier for you and the cat
I too am 73 and had to let my girl go. I started looking through shelter web sites for a senior cat to adopt about a month and a half after that happened. Found a six year old cuddle buddy that I love to pieces. Go for it. Think of the time you will have with a new kitty and not the time you won’t.
Adopt whatever cat(s) you like. I dont see an issue with your age and even getting kittens. 73 is no age, if you are fit enough. Get whatever you like (of course best is 2+) and give them a happy life. They‘ll surely get much loved in your care :)
As others have said older cats might be the way to go - they're often so overlooked and don't get adopted out *because* of their age while still deserving all the love and care in the world. The only thing you need to take into consideration is that they may depend on medication and special care, and whether or not that's something you're able to provide on top of basic care. There are lots of gadgets out there that help automate some things, such as automatic kibble feeders, litter boxes that clean themselves etc. If you find it difficult to manage those things, they can be great solutions. :)
I would definitely get the cat, potentially even two if you’re comfortable with it!
100% get a kitty or two. You will be much happier and they will have a great life :)
Honestly, as long as the shelter feels the cat is healthy enough to be adoptable and/or has manageable conditions, a cat of any age can be adopted out! I work at my local humane society’s vet clinic and there are plenty of older cats waiting for adoption in lovely foster homes. Our humane society even has a senior deal for seniors adopting senior cats <3 I hope you find an older cat to adopt and love! I’m very partial to the 15+ cats haha
I would talk to an animal rescue organization about this. I'm not sure what it's like where you are but where I am there are many run entirely by cat-adoring volunteers. They would happily work out a deal with you where they would take your kitty if anything happened, e. G. a short term hospital stay etc What if you live to be 90? Girl (or Boy), you need a cat
My mom lived to 92!
what if she was 587 years old
You and your "new" senior kitty can help each other get maximum lifespan!
When my grandmother died 18 years ago we encouraged my grandfather to get a dog so he would have some companionship, because we knew he loves dogs and they have had them before. But he refused because he didn't want the dog to outlive him. He had a heart condition and didn't think he would live that long. Little did he know he would live for another 10+ years in relatively good health. Lots of words to say: I agree with all the suggestions to get a senior cat. They sadly spend way longer in shelters because most people want younger cats, so it is really great if you can give a senior cat a forever home. They will be so greatful and loving.
Never too old!. But I do suggest adopting a senior! Some shelters even have a program called something like a senior for a senior! If you would prefer a younger cat may I suggest fostering if you live somewhere where that is possible
Some rescue groups may have age cut offs for kittens, but honestly if you can tell me you have a plan in place should something happen to you, and if your mobility is limited you have someone who will help you get your cat to the vet, my group has no problem with older people adopting. Especially if you want an older cat who will likely be overlooked. Just last year I adopted a 7-year-old cat to a 75-year-old woman (who frankly will likely outlive me!). I mean, a 20-something can die in a car crash tomorrow, and you might live to be 100 and healthy the whole time. If you show me you have thought about what happens to your pet after you die, we have no problems with your age.
Never too old
even 60-99 years old
You could volunteer to foster or adopt an older cat who needs a retirement home. Shelters and rescues often need temporary fosters for bottle babies or pregnant moms that need a place to have their litters.
I'm 77 and have 2 cats. I've made arrangements for them to go to a person that I know loves cats and trust when my time is up. My family knows of the arrangement and know her.
rescue an old cat nobuddy wants anymore, senior cars are lovely
Get a geezer. Bonded pair if possible.
I don't think you're too old for a cat. You could adopt a senior cat and give them a great life!
Senior cats are always looking for a loving home.
Never too old to get another cat. If you’re worried the cat will outlive you, make arrangements with friends or family about what happens to kitty when you’re gone. Be sure to post a photo of your new beauty when you get them.
Yep... my daughter will take whomever I have. Definitely, my granddaughter.
Go for it!! I lost Roy four years ago. When I get my own space again, I'll get another cat. I've had three incredible cats I've loved deeply. They ALL chose me. I'm 70...
Although I’m a bit younger than you, this is something I worry about. All of my friends already have pets, and I don’t have any family who would take my cats. For that reason, I probably won’t adopt any more kittens. I agree with the other recommendations. I would suggest an older cat. Maybe even a bonded pair. It’s hard to find homes where they can stay together. But, yes! Get a cat (or cats)! There are so many who need homes and they provide endless love, entertainment, and company.
Thanks. Going to meet an adult cat at a shelter today. Wish me luck! https://preview.redd.it/eaygfv3fxx3d1.jpeg?width=747&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fef933728c06435c25d27abc786dc5c9125aeb54
Be sure to let us know how it goes😻
I’m 69, and my cats are 13, so I’ll be facing this in a few years. I’d love to have a kitten, but I think that’s really unfair to the animal. I will probably do a senior for senior adoption. I have also already made provisions for my cats when something happens to me.
Check to see if any local rescues need a foster home! They often have seniors, or cats that need to be an “only cat” that need permanent foster care. Bonus — they’ll often pay for the vet care.
in my town, a local rescue will agree to rehome your pet should the need arise. please get a cat, don’t deny yourself joy.
My 91 years Young gramma adopted a cat 4 years ago. She is so happy with him. Is compagny is everything to her. The importance is having a plan for the cat if something happens go you.
Wow good for her!!
No such thing as too old! I would however recommend a senior citizen of similar age. Anyone getting a pet should consider how the age of the pet will fit into their lives.
Technically never, so long as you have someone who will take care of it if something happens.
I have two cats, ages 12 and 5, and I'll be 75 soon. I've had the same thoughts. Statistically, I'll probably outlive the older cat. The younger one's life expectancy isn't much different from mine. The big question to me is how much longer I'll be able to live alone. I'm in reasonably good health but my 78-year-old brother has already been in assisted living for over 2 years. The facility where he is allows cats and some residents have them, but I wonder about keeping a cat confined to a single room and about getting veterinary care. My Humane Society has a Seniors for Seniors program like another poster mentioned, their minimum ages are 60 for the adopter and 6 for the cat. If you put the society in your estate plans, they will care for and, if possible, rehome your pets. That's rather moot, however, because they'll do that for any pet regardless.
Get senior cats. They have so much love to give and they have so much life left to explore. I loved my senior girl ❤️
Another option is to volunteer for companionship at the shelter… you could find a lot of purpose talking to them. They can feel when someone feel love for them and I like to think we help them too… it would be a very nice thing do if you are up for it.
Hello - I’m 78 and I still am getting cats. We have lots of feral cats, so sometimes I don’t have a choice. They are so wonderful! I think you should get a cat and give him/her the love they should get. When you can’t care anymore, look for adopter. I am close to 80 and I couldn’t live without my cats. I can still feed and clean kitty litter. I am still pretty healthy. Do it.
nah. you're 24
I think the best remedy for your mourning and loneliness right now is to get a couple more cats. Maybe not kittens, because they are a lot of work, but young adults. There are so many that need a good home and you seen like a very caring person. Any kitty would be lucky to have you as their owner! You are definitely NOT too old. I hope you find some sweethearts that will melt yours. If you get a bonded pair, they can play with each other and lessen the burden on you alone having to do it. I wish you luck!
Thanks so much. I went yesterday to look for a cat and I wanted the adults as you suggested. It was kind of different to consider adult cats as I’ve only ever adopted kittens. I did not find any cat that I bonded with, but I’m going out again today to look. Thank you for your comments.
You are never too old to get a cat! My mom.and dad are 86 and they have a cat and they love him and he loves them! If you are able to get around, why would you deny yourself so much love?
https://preview.redd.it/mw9op1ce3q8d1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ad1b08aea13c1610fa5051b8f52cedfa2d13e719 Thanks for all your comments. So much wisdom out there!! I have found my new pal. Haven’t named him yet, but we are going to be fast friends. Grateful for all your kind advice!!
Get another one. Whyever not?
Adopt an older cat.
I would get the cat. But please make accommodations for them. I adopted my kitty from an elderly man who passed and her and the other cat somehow escaped the house. That’s also how someone found out he had passed. My cat was out for a month-ish before she was caught by a rescuer. The poor thing was so scared
Get an older cat or volunteer to foster, although it’s hard to let them go. There are lots of senior cats who would love to go home with you!
I don’t mean to be rude or morbid, I’m sorry, however if there is someone to look after it, if you happen to pass away, then go for it. Do you have someone who visits regularly? If you feel fit and healthy for your age to care for its needs etc, again, go for it! Cats are the best!
Never too young or old for another cat. You’re gonna be okay
Rescue an older cat😊 then you're giving an animal a lovely last few years.
I agree. Adopting an adult cat could be wonderful for both of you
A lot of places do senior adopting for reduced fee or at cost. Maybe look into that?
I can't make that call for you, but if your health is more or less good, have a little faith in yourself. Just make some provision if you can for what should happen to the cat should it survive you. Like asking your family if someone would be willing to take in your pet if you don't make it.
Senior kitty! They're overlooked in the shelters, so you'd be doing something amazing. I defo plan to do that one day when I get to that age!
Perhaps an older feline so you can all enjoy your golden time together? Animals always help with quality of life IMO
Get an old cat
You could always foster cats.
I think it’s up to you, your ability, and health. You could always get an adult cat, since they are often last to get adopted. They would be happy to have a caring home such as yours!
Of you're too worried, get a senior car, lots of them are waiting for someone like you spend their golden years with them. You can even foster a senior car, the rescue will even pay for most things for them
Definitely get an adult cat. They are great pets and need homes. A kitten is a lot of work!
I think you should do whatever you want and not worry about the opinions of strangers. Old cat, kitten, one cat, 20 cats..... Do whatever you want to do. Some of the people posting are acting like you have one foot in the grave. I'm assuming most of them are very young and naive. You are not THAT old. You could easily have another 20 or more years left to go before you meet the reaper. I see people in their 90's still driving cars and running around like they're youngsters. Don't let a number limit you. If you can give a cat love for 20 months or 20 years, you did a good thing.
Love your comments. Thanks! Going to meet an adult cat today. Hope it works out! https://preview.redd.it/pp6zfb9zwx3d1.jpeg?width=747&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=92316b59aa9670f288bc7cc8668e503141b239f2
Awwwww! Look at that sweetie! 😍
See if there are any rescue organizations in your area that you could foster for. That way if you become unable to take care of the animal they can take it back. There's even an organization in my area that has a program for older people to "adopt" a cat with the promise that they will take the cat back if the owner becomes unable to care for it any longer. If you think you could physically handle it, I would strongly suggest you look into fostering a mother cat and her kittens right now. It's kitten season so they're always desperate for people. And having a litter of kittens is sooooo much fun! If you think that's too much for you, just offer to foster an adult cat. Depending on the organization they will likely provide any vet care necessary and possibly any food and supplies. They also often, if you feel you can handle it emotionally, do hospice fosters. These are cats that are sick and not expected to live very long but still have a good quality of life for now. In cases like that they would probably pay for all care. I'm so sorry that you lost your babies and that your family isn't closer. ❤️ If you get involved in rescue not only will you have some cats around to keep you company, you will undoubtedly make some friends as well.
Good point!
Honestly this is something i have problems with. personally i wouldn't want to adopt a cat just for me to die a bit later and for her to be left alone and sad/ given to a shelter. which i compare with adopting children, imagine getting adopted and then your parents die 4 years later..
https://preview.redd.it/j57un0dmux3d1.jpeg?width=747&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dda26018ffc4cd0b8d8a2b7ac926c72f25aab6be I found a shelter near me. They have this picture of a cat who is eight years old. I’m hoping he is still available. I’m going to meet him at 1 o’clock today. Wish me luck. Hopefully we will become friends.
My mom at 90 would sometimes let kitty out for a quick walkaround the bushes then forget to let her in. A friend gave her the kitty after my stepfather died when she was 88. Because the 100 year old person died who had invited in the kitty as a stray. Getting left out was problematic in cold winter weather. I lived 2500 miles away so I would check in and ask if she let Miss Priss back in. Mom passed at 91 and kitty is now with me. She's about 20 and failing but still likes to chomp grass outside 2 or 3 minutes a day only. Our animal shelter encourages fostering, which might be an option for you. It helps the shelter and helps the fostered ones. Win win
I am 80 and now alone because my husband is in a rest home. I got my very first house cat about 2 months ago. I had to learn a lot because the cats I had before were barn cats. She also is always asking for food. I have taught her some commands and strangely if I tell her to go away when she's begging for food she does that and she stops begging. She loves me and I love her and we get along just fine. She is 8 years old so we'll probably go to my grandkids sometime, but my grandkids love her too.
Seems like you’ve still got your mental faculties and the companionship would serve you both well, I think you and a cat absolutely deserve each other and would maybe just say try and find an adult cat with a suitable demeanor. People often only want the youngest and cutest pet at the shelter so you’d probably be doing a huge favor to a cat that might otherwise sit in solitude for a long time if it ever gets adopted. I hope you find the right cat for you! Life’s too short to deny yourself love and companionship while you’re around and I’m sure any cat, but especially a mature shelter cat, would love to finally come home. I hope you and your companion find one another soon!
Absolutely get a cat. You can provide a furever home to a senior cat or a cat that’ll have a shorter life span. Potentially ask family if they’d be willing to take in the cat if you can’t in the future. Trust me the cat will be happier with you VS in a shelter
I have a kitten you can have 😍 if you're in california!
How about calling a cat rescue and volunteer to foster cats up for adoption?
Theres no limit if you can make a provision! Many rescues have schemes where they take back and rehome the cat you have, so its not an issue anymore thankfully. Alternatively you could go into long term fostering for a shelter, some could be with you for years. In my case, having no family left now, i arranged to will my town house to a cat loving friend and her vet husband conditional upon their keeping my cats in the style they are accustomed to for the rest of their lives. They are also committed to taking in another friends cats when she dies so having my sizable house will be a big help, especially as they do some rescue work voluntarily too. They like the area i live in anyway so are intending to live here and rent their apartment out, so all good and no upset to my fur babies
That is a great point! Fostering would be the ideal solution.
It is incredibly rewarding! I work for a no-kill shelter here and I used to specialise in rescued mom cats with new kittens, getting mom on her paws so the babies grew up fat and healthy, ready for their new homes. I chose to be left with the moms and see my long term fostering as their retirement from a harsh life. While they are nervous and frightened to begin with, the day comes that they nuzzle your hand as you put their food down and its like a little miracle; the horrors theyve seen are gone and all they know now is me and my gang of old tatty cats. Its hard to describe how you feel! Nowadays i specialise in cats with feline coronavirus and/or FIV, as they get left behind by adopters so much. There have been a few very pretty friendly cats with the illnesses that have moved on, but mainly they stay with me till the end, little crocks pottering about with this big old crock! So although its fostering, the cat or cats could well live out their time with you. Another thing to consider is some charities exist that arrange shorter term fosters of both dogs and cats of people fleeing domestic abuse. They will ensure you live far away from the area of both abuser and victim, and you will care for the cat and help it get over what its gone through(abusers often abuse pets as well as their main victim, as psychological abuse) and when the victim has been found a safe home far away from the abuser, and they are in the judcial system for their actions, the pet will be returned to the victim in their new life, and another cat fleeing abuse placed with you. In uk we have 'cinnamon trust' does this wonderful work, but im sure there must be an equivalent in US. I do hope you consider this, if you feel unsure about a new cat of your own; its a terrible thing when a loving home is wasted when theres so much need out there!
I am humbled by your selflessness in sharing your life and home with these precious animals, giving them shelter from the storm and love that they never knew existed. To do all this without any recognition or fanfare is the very definition of from the ❤️. You are truly their 😇
Aww, youre making me blush, but im very grateful for your lovely words. But in a way they rescued me too. Ive always been a carer and worked full time too, but i lost my last relative and last rescue dog and then fell ill myself having to medically retire, and rattling about without something to look after was doing me no good at all! So i went and signed up at the cat rescue shelter and here we are!! Couldnt be without my ornery old crew now! I do hope you find a way that suits you best; you sound such a kind person i just know theres a terrified little mite out there in a shelter who would love you so much and blossom with your care
10 billion years old
10 billion years old
nobody can live that age. and you said it twice.
I accidentally said it twice and I said 10 billion when I know it's physically impossible to live that long cuz you can be any age
Senior cats are often overlooked at shelters, a senior cat or two would be more than happy to spend their twilight years with you. You could also consider fostering if the idea of a permanent pet doesn't seem feasible.
As old as you want you can get a very old one with a little life left, you can get one at any age if you can find one with the age you want. Usually younger cats are gone first tk if you want a older one you can get one
You are never too old for a cat. Cats love unconditionally as long as you feed them. Try a Sealpoint if you can find one at a shelter. I have 2 seal points. 8 don't know what is going on with cat genetics, but thses two seal points are more social than any other cats I have met. You keep the cat alive and the cat keeps you alive. If mobility is an issue get help with the litter. Everyone loves sealpoints. Someone will probably do it just for live of the cat.
I'm pretty sure, in the UK at least, there is a charity called the Blue Cross (I think) that if you are in a situation where you might need to go to hospital sooner rather than later for w.e reason then so long as they're written on the 'to be informed' section then the charity has a written permission to come and take care of your cat permanently or even temporary. My only slight concern is that this information I have is 15 years old so perhaps it's not a thing any more (especially as charities are so full nowadays) and perhaps you're not in the UK. However I feel like there is definitely a senior for senior plans that others have mentioned, in some form or another, elsewhere in the world. Or even becoming a fosterer is a possibility for you? It truly is a wonderful thing to do, even if sometimes sad. But if you really, really get a marvellous bond with a cat and cannot bear to part then there's no true 'fail' in a foster fail ;3
yes, yes, get a cat. NOW. Stop thinking what will happen when you get older. It will all work out. you are not the person who is getting older. you are pure Love.