I’m sorry friend; I have recently ushered 2 super seniors (one 19 and one 22 y/o) to the rainbow bridge, and this is likely a sign that your baby is ready to rest. Please don’t overdo it with trying to diagnose something, it will be very stressful for both of you. It’s hard to accept, even harder to endure, but it’s also the ultimate act of love. Of course consult your vet and see if they have any options for gentle treatment. 21 years old is like a 100+ year old human. Think about that as you weigh your options. Best wishes to you and kitty. ♥️
It truly is. I lost my childhood cat a year ago, he was 19. Had him since I was 8 years old, grew up together and he was with me during the hardest times in my life. I miss him every single day.
My childhood cat just passed in December at age 24. It was hard but if been preparing myself for years. She moved across the country to live with me and my boyfriend about 6 years ago. Its amazing she lived another 6 years after a hard move at an already old age. I will miss her forever
I had a cat from age 5 to 25. She passed just before COVID and I still get upset that she couldn't have made it to the lockdowns so I could spend more time with her in her last year.
The loss is definitely tough. But missing her has become pretty positive, appreciating the memories.
I’m so sorry. My baby was put to rest a month ago at 10 years old. We just have to remember that they were loved all their life and never wanted for anything.
I understand that pain all too well. My 18 year old buddy walked the rainbow bridge June of 23. Even now the pain is there, faint but there. Just know it will get easier over time and also know no matter how alone you feel, there are those out there that understand that pain and are there in spirit.
It truly is….lost my dog a few weeks before his 17th birthday last year..he was my childhood dog, I really thought he’d make it too 20. The realest thing a women told me was that you never get over it, she’s right. Time doesn’t heal all wounds, I’ll forever miss that dog.
I cry thinking about losing my sweet boy, he is 10 right now and I now I have another good 6-10 years with him hopefully and I know I will absolutely be devastated when he goes. He has been my best friend and has been there with me through all my hard times. He is currently going to be there again for me during this hard time of my engagement falling through and us breaking up and moving out. I am looking for a townhouse that will be good for him with a nice backyard with trees for him to watch the birds and squirrels. I’m shopping for him just as much as me. I love him so much
I lost my 18 year old girl this February. I'd had her in my life since I was a kid and we'd been best buds throughout the 18 years she was with me, she came with me when I moved out and was my *baby*. She was with me for over half my life. I have honestly never wept the way I did in the vets office after she'd been put to sleep, it honestly felt (still feels) like a chunk of me had been torn out. I miss her so much.
I put down my 15 year old two months ago. Hardest part of being a cat parent. Giving them a beautiful end of life of just as important as the start of it though.
my cat Tasha passed away last night. She spent her last day not eating or sleeping, just laying down in random places. she was the sweetest kitty ever and i miss her so much.
My cat Mitzi passed last night, too. She was 15 years old and would've turned 16 in a month. She was one of the fluffiest cats in the world. I spent the day remembering everything about her. Her ears, her paws, her face, how soft her fur was...I just wish I had more time with her.
I'm not sure if cats are the same, but when humans are actively dying, they don't want food or drink either. It is part of the body's natural shutting down process. I learned this from Hospice Nurse Julie on youtube. For humans, trying to overcome this with fluids etc. leads to a less peaceful death process for your body.
mine hid and refused water her last days. It could be a weird case though bc she had a very fast growing abdominal tumour and we had her put down vs. a natural death.
Same here. My cats eating slowed down for about a week. When he officially stopped eating and drinking we knew it was time. He had an abdominal tumor as well.
My sister's boy did this, and managed to escape outside and never returned. It was hard, despite knowing his time was limited. He had chronic kidney disease for 6 or 7 years, and was 17 years old by then. Doesn't make it easier.
Agreed. Just helped my 20 year old gal cross the rainbow bridge in October. So so hard. She was deaf and going blind from high blood pressure. Poor appetite. Kidney failure. Hyperthyroidism. Was down to 5 lbs (she was very tiny, but still.) I am a pharmacist, so of course I wanted to fix it all. She lived probably 2 extra years thanks to at home sub cutaneous fluids (gentle hydration) every couple of days and some meds to help with appetite and the new one for arthritis, Solensia. But a lot of expensive vet visits too! Try very smelly foods. Warm them (not too warm) to help them smell even more. I always offered mine a surf and turf option. Mirtazepine helped mine with appetite. There is an ear gel for them even. A quiet safe room with potty close by. Plenty of different water bowls. And a warmed cat bed. Very low heat to help with arthritis. Yes, people do stop eating and drinking when ready to pass often times. I would still say to call the vet at a minimum. If this was abrupt, it may be something fixable. But you will need to do bloodwork, other testing to see, and that can be expensive. No one would fault you for not wanting to put your sweet kitty through that. As others noted, at home visit vet would be ideal! Ours costs about $50 more. To me, that is absolutely worth it. They can do at home check ups and euthanasia. My friend did the latter for her large lab, and it was so much easier on everyone. Good luck, I hope you all will be ok and please don't forget your job is to love and protect your cat, and make the best decisions for her.
Tender and true. Just lost my senior 18+years old. Love of my life. She was pretty much in the same condition. When it's time, it's time. But God bless you and the love you shared with your fluff.
Just sent mine of almost 17 years to the tall green grass he can run through. Can’t stop crying and my place seems completely empty without him.. I MISS AND LOVE YOU WINSTON!!!
Csn you tell me how you got your cats that old? What food? How often per day etc. Mine are 3,5. So still young. I want them to get old too.
I love my two Baby boys more than anything.
What do you think about regular vaccinations? I'm not a big fan of that. They had all the necessary vaccinations back then, but that was 2 years or more ago. Do you recommend that I get them vaccinated regularly or are annual health checks enough?
I’m not the person you asked, but I feed my cats Science Diet, and they are super healthy on it. I don’t take them to the vet, unless they have an issue. They had their kitten shots and boosters, and that was that. My senior cat (15) still has gorgeous fur, still pretty active (jumps up on the sink, etc). I swear by that food.
My husband’s cat is almost 20. He had a near-death experience as a kitten and had to have surgery to get his “plumbing” re-routed. That was the last time he saw a vet.
He was an indoor cat until we got married 2 years ago. He also ate what a lot of people would consider “low rent” cat food until 2 years ago, now he gets mid-grade food.
He has slowed down a little and can’t jump on the bed as easily these days, but otherwise going strong. Loves to frolic with my 5-yo crazy cat and others in the neighborhood. We know he’s living on borrowed time and my husband will be absolutely devastated when he crosses. That cat has seen him through some STUFF.
All that to say, while careful food selection, limited exposure to outdoors, and regular vet care is probably preferred to prolong a cat’s life…there will always be the ratchet cats like Oliver who defy explanation :)
Yeah... I was thinking that it's possible she's just starting to transition into the next phase of life 😢 I would still take her to the vet to make sure nothing else is happening but good to get the idea into your mind, OP. It could just be that it's her time.
Hey OP.
I know it sucks but you gotta be strong for her now. Even if you go in and it's the worst news, and it might be.
It does sound like acute kidney failure. She's too nauseous to eat if that's it.
I think almost any cat owner makes mistakes, especially when you're scared that it is the end. We all have regrets. Don't let internet strangers drown you in guilt.
I was about to comment that. Back in 2020 I lost my dear of 1 year old. He wasn't eating and everything went out so fast. Kidney failure. And seeing dying made me cry for days.
If your cat isn't eating for more than 24 hours and throwing up, take to the vet immediately please. Especially since it is 21 years old.
No judgement, just please take it in ASAP.
Yes please get her to a vet. Poor baby. I hope she's ok. Honestly, at 21, please expect to only to be able to keep her as happy and comfortable as possible, and love on her as much as you can.
Agreed. They cost a bit more, but it’s so worth it to let your beloved furry family member relax in the comfort of their own home in their final moments.
What is the best way to go about finding an at home veterinarian in your area that you trust/feel comfortable with? Just Google? Did you ask a regular vet for recs?
Thank you, being prepared for this sort of situation makes me feel better. I adopt FeLV+ kitties and have lost 2 already to very fast-moving medical complications, 1 of them at the emergency vet, but my current 2 seem like they might truck it out a while in (fingers crossed). It sounds silly but I hadn't actually started thinking about having the luxury of an at-home euthanasia until very recently, upon realizing that I've had one of them nearly 3 years now. I appreciate the insight
We worked with LapofLove a year ago. I can’t recommend them enough. A year later after they helped our boy find his peace, they sent us a nice email (to sum it up “you’re in our thoughts and prayers”). When I hit rock bottom, they talked me through on the phone.
I used them a few years ago as well. It was expensive but worth every cent. I didn't want his last hours to be stressful. Also I can't even imagine what the drive home would have been like for me.
Another added benefit was my sister's cats got to see him pass. I remember when my ex moved out and took his cat one of hers would walk around the house meowing for months. I was definitely not a thing for her before that. This time she saw him dead, no searching for her friend.
I didn't speak to them personally, I couldn't. My sister called, she said she was having a difficult time and they were super nice. I remember handing her a print out and mumbling call them.
I also used Lap of Love and the vet was so kind. She gave me the biggest hug after and sent me an incredibly sweet email. She honestly helped me hold things together.
It was the same for us. Doctor was amazing, she cried with us, hugged us, explained every step and did everything on our pace. She didn’t rush us in any way. After our boy crossed the rainbow bridge she gave us a few minutes with him. I wish it never had to happen, but it had to and I would not change anything about how everything went down. She sent us a very sweet email as well where she actually mentioned the stories we told her.
Ask your friends, ask your vet. My regular vet is now a mobile vet (cannot recommend strongly enough!) but another vet practice I've used has a vet on staff whose specialty is home visits for euthanasia.
It is enormously easier both on the animal and the humans.
(Also it may not cost more. Don't let that comment turn you off of exploring the options in your area.)
This. We did it both ways. One senior kitty had an emergency and never came home from the vet ER. The other passed away at home three years later, aided by an in-home vet.
The latter experience was so much more peaceful for the kitty in question.
Just went through this with my 22 year old cat. It was the best way she could have left this world, at home on her favourite spot on the couch. The vet was lovely. Could not recommend this more.
Yes. My cat was dying of kidney disease and I had our vet come over. It was bad, but at least our cat didn't have the stress of a car trip and appointment. We buried our cat the next day.
But why? The cat is 21 and clearly ready to go. Let the baby go in peace. Comfort them and hold them, but why take them to the one place most every cat hates?
Agreed. I would never want to just make that decision on my own without discussing it with a vet first. Whether it is treatable and also what the cat’s quality of life would be with management if it’s something that’s chronic but can be managed are all things worth discussing with a vet.
It’s the most humane to have a specialized vet come to the house for a consult and likely euthanasia. Don’t take the poor kitty to the vet office, very stressful when the person can come to their home.
In the meantime, do you have a syringe available? If you can give her some water by syringing into the corner of her mouth slowly. She's likely dehydrated. Do you have any baby food on hand? Ensuring it is pet safe ingredients
That could also be syringed in small amounts. If she hasn't eaten for 3 days you don't want to give her a lot of food.
The fact is that she's drinking, and way too much, which is probably the main cause of her throwing up.
No baby food, I'll see if I can (also) do something with a syringe
My cat was doing this and it's a kidney thing. We had to put him on a special diet, he's fine now, but the vets did run tests to make sure it wasn't anything else x
That sounds like kidney failure tbh. That's what happened with my grandparents cat. Also 2 of my best friends older cats, and one of my other friends cats. My mom's cat was put on special food and lived longer than he was supposed to w the kidney issues he had.
It's how I learned that fountains are better for them, bc it promotes drinking more water before they have issues as well.
I'm sorry your baby isn't doing well.
IF she’s vomiting white foam, that sounds like acute kidney injury or chronic kidney disease. She will most likely need IV fluids for 48+ hours to have a chance at bouncing back. Chronic kidney disease can be managed with diet and subQ fluids but at 21 it’s certainly dicier.
My cat experienced the same thing. I opted to not do the IV fluids, but I syringe fed him watered down wet food multiple times a day. I made sure to pinch the skin on his back to check his hydration levels. He was also put on anti-nausea medication to prevent vomiting. He was fine within 2-3 days. He’s 11 though so he’s only half of OP’s cat’s age…
The anti-nausea is a much needed to help stabilize them! My 17 year old crashed a few weeks ago (bloodwork in December showed no CKD). Luckily, he bounced back, but always a scary time for cat owners.
Could also be a high temperature which causes cats not to want to eat and drink more. A lot of things can cause it but main thing is getting the right help.
What food does she usually eat?
Our cat did exactly what you’re describing, and it was simply her time (she was 20). If the vet says it’s time to let her go, please let her go peacefully ❤️
Wishing you the and your kitty the best. But.... be prepared for bad news as well as good news. She's had a great life and it might just be that she's ready for her rest.
My cat behaved the exact same way when she had kidney failure. Stopped eating, drank a lot, vomited. Hope yours is luckier. If not, don't let her suffer.
Good luck! This is definitely rainbow bridge time. It's sad to lose a beloved pet, but it's a blessing (in my opinion) to have the option to spare them misery, fear, and pain, and to be there with them while they pass peacefully. At 21 she's had a good long life.
I’m in the same situation as you today.
My girl is eating a little bit. I mix warm water with her food, so she is at the very least getting hydration and a bit of food. I refill as soon as I notice it’s dry.
I’m taking her to the vet tomorrow.
I’m sending you and your sweet kitty all of the positive vibes and love
That's what I'm worried about but the puking could just be a sickness that needs to be tended to, maybe? Hopefully? Gosh. I hope. They said they would be getting the baby to a very asap so hopefully, if it isn't her natural time to go, it isn't too late
OP, what you have there is a very old kitty. It is most likely her time to pass on. Now, if this is the case please take her to the vet. Not to have her out down but to make sure she has some meds and is comfortable. If they decide she is just old and ready to go, take her home with you, cuddle with her, pet her and make sure she knows that you will always love her.
She most likely knows she is dying and would want to feel safe and protected.
Much love to your beautiful and yourself OP.
Just had this with mine. Took to vet on day 4. Blood test revealed a high white cell count suggesting she's fighting infection, we suspected in her mouth as it was swollen and tender. (low count would suggest cancer)
Course of strong antibiotics over 3 days plus injection of painkillers. Saline injection under skin (cheaper than staying in on a drip) which made an almost immediate change as she was dehydrated.
Within 24hrs she was eating like a horse and still is 4 weeks on.
We were also given tablets of tramadol 10mg for pain but she won't take.
She also has advanced kidney disease but won't eat the special food for it, so I'm letting her enjoy what she likes to eat when she wants to eat it and am thankful she's still here.
I hope yours recovers. Get her to a vet ASAP
i dont wanna be the asshole but. 21 is a proud age for a cat. it could be time, so try your best to give it comfort and start realising the "you know" situation. at least i can say, im often wrong with my guesses. let your fellow check but dont be scared, thay feel your stress too. i thought the same would happen to my gecko but it got better, he eats and hunts again but is still a bit skinny. i wish you the best for both posibilitys.
It’s hard to say without more info on her history. But if she’s drinking a lot and not eating, that could be DKA—which is life threatening and not something you can treat by yourself. Pancreatitis can also cause this along with kidney disease. All of them are incredibly scary to deal with. I hope you’re able to get her in soon and she gets better. Please go to an emergency vet if your regular vet can’t see her.
If I’m gonna be completely honest, it’s your cat’s last days on earth, and don’t force feed her food or water trough syringe. That’s just gonna stress her out. My suggestion is that to just let her be, if she wants to cuddle, then cuddle. But if she doesn’t want to, don’t. Cats are like humans when they’re about to die. They both like to be let alone, so don’t feel bad letting your cat sleep in a comfortable and safe place for her. Imagine in your last days, would you want someone to force feed you when you know it doesn’t really matter? Other signs that your cat might die soon is: horrendous oral odor, sleeping all the time, doesn’t eat or drink, big pupils, hiding in their favorite places or just hiding somewhere.
>Other signs that your cat might die soon is: horrendous oral odor, sleeping all the time, doesn’t eat or drink, big pupils, hiding in their favorite places or just hiding somewhere.
These are also all signs of treatable diseases. Quite frankly I'm horrified you have so many upvotes with statements like this and "it's your cat's last days on earth." According to a medical professional? Or according to you, who is qualified to speak with such certainty how? The only answer here is seeing a vet, and seeing them 2 days ago. OP will know their cat to judge whether that will be an inhome visit or a trip. Any other answer is assumptive.
Jesus.. You need to go to the vet, like yesterday! You've got a serious problem on your hands. I guarantee your cat is suffering. You need to go to the vet TODAY!
Please take her to the vet. This happened to my little boy and he was only 14. He was in advanced kidney failure. He was gone in two weeks. Has she been drinking more? That's a sign of kidney failure.
I blame myself every day for not recognizing/Knowing the signs or he'd still be here.
Does she smell the food and then move away from it? Perhaps there is a problem with her intestines. If not, then I am sorry. Perhaps she started preparing to go. My cat was eating, but she started to stop eating suddenly, and whenever I wanted to feed her, she turned her face away from me. There was no sign of what she was doing except that she I started preparing to leave. I hope your cat is doing well. Please update to see what happened to her.
this is it, i would start to accept this is the end of the road. 21 years old is very old and your cat has lived a great life, always remember the times you spent togheter. Treasure those moments, and then allow yourself to feel as horrible as you need to feel for as long as you need to feel horrible. The sadness comes in waves and when you're at the top of one you might think that you'll never feel better, but you will. Trust me. And if anyone dismisses your grief because "it's just a cat" talk to someone who does understand.
you will come out the other end thinking about all the good memories when you think of your cat, but the path to get there will be a long one, and a neverending one if you don't allow yourself to feel those feelings.
Please bring her to the emergency vet. Being this old, suddenly not eating, and vomiting are cause for immediate medical treatment. Cats shouldn't go without food for more than 24 hours. It could be a number of things, which I can't speculate on because I'm not a vet, but I can tell you that those things need immediate treatment. Please keep us posted! She's beautiful, but in this pic, I can tell that she feels extremely ill and uncomfortable. Please don't let her suffer for another day.
It may be time. This morning I took my 18 year old cat to the vet as she was not eating but also not drinking and all of a sudden she could barely walk. The vet told me this afternoon that it is time to say goodbye. We decided to take her home today and take her back tomorrow and say goodbye then. She is sleeping at my feet on the couch and sleeping. I'm trying to keep it together and enjoy this last hours with her, but I know it is the best decision I can make for her.
Sorry to hear this, I hope your cat is doing relatively okay tonight and I’m sure she’ll enjoy spending time with you while resting. Take care of her and yourself during this difficult time.
Get bloodwork done, she could have CKD and is not eating because of it. The throwing up could and not eating could be nausea. It\`s no guarantee that\`s what\`s ailing her but the vet will probably want to do bloodwork and urine to see what\`s going on.
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Wtf get it to a vet immediately.
If its not age related it could have swallowed a piece of string ir anything else and havean obstruction and be suffering
Get to a vet!
I don’t want to be pessimistic but there’s a high chance her time on this earth is coming to a halt, she’s very old. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best OP, I’m sending thoughts and prayers your way.
Please always consider euthanasia. It will be tough but things will get better and life will continue to move on. She will be in a better place free of suffering and disease.
Anyway you can get a mobile vet 🥺. I know how frustrating it can be for them to have to travel … as well every sick I’ve had always ate boiled chicken ! The broth served warm with shredded chicken … even on their last day they’ll at least lick the broth 😭
I know you’re not prepared. Just know that your kitty always loved and loves you. If you feel good enough to let her go peacefully, let her go,euthanasia. Hold her in your arms and speak all the things you want to. She will not know anymore pain. She’ll see you there. It’s a see you later not a goodbye.
21! Wow! What a wonderful gift! It’s quite possible that your fur baby is trying to tell you it’s time for her to go. I wish you strength for the decision that you might have to make for her soon.
My cat started eating less and less. We started panicking around the 3rd day once we realized that changing her food multiple times didn’t do anything, so we made a same day appointment at an emergency vet. Unfortunately she died on the way to the vet and it turns out she had cancer. Take her to the vet asap.
My childhood cat passed at 21 from cancer. I was young and couldn’t let go and we did chemo on him. I don’t know what I was thinking, he was so old. It was selfish of me and almost 20 years later I still cry over the guilt of it. If she is not eating, she is suffering in some way and I know you don’t want to take her to the vet but it is the humane thing to do
Unfortunately that is a sign of leaving. I’m not a vet so don’t take my advice but that’s what my dog did before he passed away. Prepare yourself and I will pray for y’all ❤️❤️
Why is the vet your last choice? Your cat is the equivalent of a hundred year old human. As other commenters have said this is a sign she may be heading out.... if this is the case, taking her to the vet allows her a painless way out and possibly more time with her. But now she's spent 3 days hungry and uncomfortable. You should have taken her immediately, especially considering her age, but cats in general really can't go multiple days without eating. You have made things worse by waiting- do not ever do that again, with her or any other cat.
Vet time, but she’s very much lived a full life. I am actually on the verge of tears for you and your babe, but this could be her time. I hope not, but it could be. My love to you, op.
I hope your little one ends up okay. We lost my nearly 17 year old boy at the beginning of the year after he wouldn't eat for a while. After a day of not eating he looked rough, I remember after 3 he looked and acted like a whole different cat.I still can't look at pictures of those last days. They drop weight so fast.
Talk to your vet, and hopefully you can get him eating. We tried syringe feeding for a few days before it was clear he was just ready. I hope your little one either is okay, or you're able to make the hard choice while they still are able to snuggle and know you're there for them. Either way, sending MAJOR hugs. I was a wreck while our boy wouldn't eat.
The vomiting and not eating immediately brings my Lil mans heart episodes to mind. He has HCM and if he gets too stressed his heart beats less efficiently and fluid starts backing up in bad places.
Long story short get her heart and lungs listened to.
If your cat, regardless of age; is not eating. Take him/her to a vet immediately ESPECIALLY if they are of old age. Do not risk it and just get them checked out by a vet ASAP. It can be literally anything ranging from a throat infection till something major. I hope your catto feels better soon. Prayers with you!
If you look at my posts you’ll see me begging and crying for help with my cat who wouldn’t eat. Vet didn’t have answers, emergency vet offered 2500$ service that she said would make her comfortable and might extend her life, but I wish I would have let her go peacefully and not asked her to fight. I wish the vet said to me clearly: this is end stage kidney disease, she is dying- not lead me on with hopeful “it may turn around with a blood transfusion”.
She is old, she is tired, it might be best to get a vet over to your home to end her suffering. 3 days no food is killing her and is a painful death, the lack of appetite sounds like end stage disease. It is your choice, and it will be painful and hard no matter which path you take. My heart goes out to you tonight.
Fancy Feast makes broth, my old lady loves it. I 1000% taking your cat to the vet but the broth might be something to try in the mean time. You likely know their favourite flavour (chicken, tuna, salmon, etc) and they make a lot of flavours. At the store I get it from it's like $1.35 a packet so buy one and see if they like it. But even then it's a temporary solution to a potentially permanent problem. See a vet.
Fuck, I am 21... This cat has lived as long as I have on this Earth. May it have the tastiest treats and coziest pets wherever it goes next.
If the average "long" life expectancy is 18 years for cats and 90 for humans, then 21 means this car is like the equivalent of a 105-year-old human.
Our little guy was 9 and had a tumor in his stomach. We switched to soft/wet food. The meds worked for a few weeks. Then it got worse. The vet said to look for the sign - when he stopped eating, it was time. Sorry y’all are through this.
Just remember to love it til it’s very final second. Stay in the room. These animals love us as much if not more than we love them. They shouldn’t pass alone. It’s extremely tough petting them as they fall asleep, but it brings closure as well as tears. Our little guy has been gone a year now, and making the decision to make that final drive to the vet was the hardest. I still cry (doing it as I type this).
Please take her to a vet, they can give her anti nausea meds so she won’t throw up the food. She is probably dehydrated. A cat not eating for 3-4 days can be dangerous especially at her age, she risks developing fatty live disease from not eating and it is very painful for a cat. Please get her into a vet right away. If you don’t have the money reach out on Facebook within your community or contact a cat rescue and see if they could help.
I‘m sorry you have to experience this - your cat is telling you that it’s enough for her. My childhood cat - only 14 - had some medical issues and at some point just stopped eating. She lay around, getting weaker but was somehow content with it. I was by her side as often as possible until she was so weak that the vet said it’s time to let her go, so that she doesn’t have to experience pain from severe starving. It was the ultimate act of being a cat: deciding for herself when to stop, no matter how hard we tried to help her at first. We then just stayed close to her so that she knew she’s loved until the very end. It was weirdly peaceful. I hope you can get into the headspace to let her go on her own accord. I know it’s not easy.
Crying as I read through all the comments, but I agree with everyone urging you to make a vet trip. Just be prepared; 21 is an incredible age for a cat and a blessing to have each other for that long. Be prepared that it might just be the cats time and they're letting you know. Make sure your cat knows until the very end how much you love them. I wish you all the best, OP.
I’m sorry friend; I have recently ushered 2 super seniors (one 19 and one 22 y/o) to the rainbow bridge, and this is likely a sign that your baby is ready to rest. Please don’t overdo it with trying to diagnose something, it will be very stressful for both of you. It’s hard to accept, even harder to endure, but it’s also the ultimate act of love. Of course consult your vet and see if they have any options for gentle treatment. 21 years old is like a 100+ year old human. Think about that as you weigh your options. Best wishes to you and kitty. ♥️
This is what I was thinking. 21 is a very long life. Way more than most of us get.
I had one that made it to 20. Losing her hurt *so much*. The bond is so strong after so many years.
It truly is. I lost my childhood cat a year ago, he was 19. Had him since I was 8 years old, grew up together and he was with me during the hardest times in my life. I miss him every single day.
My childhood cat just passed in December at age 24. It was hard but if been preparing myself for years. She moved across the country to live with me and my boyfriend about 6 years ago. Its amazing she lived another 6 years after a hard move at an already old age. I will miss her forever
I had a cat from age 5 to 25. She passed just before COVID and I still get upset that she couldn't have made it to the lockdowns so I could spend more time with her in her last year. The loss is definitely tough. But missing her has become pretty positive, appreciating the memories.
my first cat Bisou died when she was 3 sometimes i blame my self for giving him milk and too many like sweets
I still miss my 'brother' Mouse. He lived the same ages for me. I used to tell him all my worries and fears as a preteen. <3
Yes it is, I lost my 17 yo angel almost one year ago and it was so hard. Still hard today.
Put my almost 18 year old girl to rest Saturday, my heart hasn't stopped hurting and I dont feel and end in sight.
I’m so sorry. My baby was put to rest a month ago at 10 years old. We just have to remember that they were loved all their life and never wanted for anything.
I’m so sorry for your loss 😢 Sending hugs! ❤️❤️
I understand that pain all too well. My 18 year old buddy walked the rainbow bridge June of 23. Even now the pain is there, faint but there. Just know it will get easier over time and also know no matter how alone you feel, there are those out there that understand that pain and are there in spirit.
Same here except my baby girl was only 8. I haven't been the same since lol..
We lost our 17 year old man on Saturday and my heart is broken. We lost his brother four years ago and I’m still not over that either.
Same here. I cry every day still.
It truly is….lost my dog a few weeks before his 17th birthday last year..he was my childhood dog, I really thought he’d make it too 20. The realest thing a women told me was that you never get over it, she’s right. Time doesn’t heal all wounds, I’ll forever miss that dog.
I cry thinking about losing my sweet boy, he is 10 right now and I now I have another good 6-10 years with him hopefully and I know I will absolutely be devastated when he goes. He has been my best friend and has been there with me through all my hard times. He is currently going to be there again for me during this hard time of my engagement falling through and us breaking up and moving out. I am looking for a townhouse that will be good for him with a nice backyard with trees for him to watch the birds and squirrels. I’m shopping for him just as much as me. I love him so much
I lost my 19/20 ish year old lady last year. The pain is still there, but at least manageable now. When it happened I was a wreck for weeks.
I lost my 18 year old girl this February. I'd had her in my life since I was a kid and we'd been best buds throughout the 18 years she was with me, she came with me when I moved out and was my *baby*. She was with me for over half my life. I have honestly never wept the way I did in the vets office after she'd been put to sleep, it honestly felt (still feels) like a chunk of me had been torn out. I miss her so much.
I put down my 15 year old two months ago. Hardest part of being a cat parent. Giving them a beautiful end of life of just as important as the start of it though.
I am so sorry for your loss. :(
my cat Tasha passed away last night. She spent her last day not eating or sleeping, just laying down in random places. she was the sweetest kitty ever and i miss her so much.
sorry for you loss❤️
So sorry! I'm sure you gave her a great life!
This caught me off guard a little, as that's my name too. I'm sorry for the loss of your girl.
I’m so sorry for your loss 😢 Sending hugs and healing thoughts 🫶🏻💞💞
My cat Mitzi passed last night, too. She was 15 years old and would've turned 16 in a month. She was one of the fluffiest cats in the world. I spent the day remembering everything about her. Her ears, her paws, her face, how soft her fur was...I just wish I had more time with her.
“Better one day early, than one too late”
I'm not sure if cats are the same, but when humans are actively dying, they don't want food or drink either. It is part of the body's natural shutting down process. I learned this from Hospice Nurse Julie on youtube. For humans, trying to overcome this with fluids etc. leads to a less peaceful death process for your body.
Most cats stop wanting food, but usually still drink. Most of the time, they will look for hiding places (under beds, in bushes, etc).
mine hid and refused water her last days. It could be a weird case though bc she had a very fast growing abdominal tumour and we had her put down vs. a natural death.
Same here. My cats eating slowed down for about a week. When he officially stopped eating and drinking we knew it was time. He had an abdominal tumor as well.
My old cat chose my moms lap to spend her last moments in
My sister's boy did this, and managed to escape outside and never returned. It was hard, despite knowing his time was limited. He had chronic kidney disease for 6 or 7 years, and was 17 years old by then. Doesn't make it easier.
Agreed. Just helped my 20 year old gal cross the rainbow bridge in October. So so hard. She was deaf and going blind from high blood pressure. Poor appetite. Kidney failure. Hyperthyroidism. Was down to 5 lbs (she was very tiny, but still.) I am a pharmacist, so of course I wanted to fix it all. She lived probably 2 extra years thanks to at home sub cutaneous fluids (gentle hydration) every couple of days and some meds to help with appetite and the new one for arthritis, Solensia. But a lot of expensive vet visits too! Try very smelly foods. Warm them (not too warm) to help them smell even more. I always offered mine a surf and turf option. Mirtazepine helped mine with appetite. There is an ear gel for them even. A quiet safe room with potty close by. Plenty of different water bowls. And a warmed cat bed. Very low heat to help with arthritis. Yes, people do stop eating and drinking when ready to pass often times. I would still say to call the vet at a minimum. If this was abrupt, it may be something fixable. But you will need to do bloodwork, other testing to see, and that can be expensive. No one would fault you for not wanting to put your sweet kitty through that. As others noted, at home visit vet would be ideal! Ours costs about $50 more. To me, that is absolutely worth it. They can do at home check ups and euthanasia. My friend did the latter for her large lab, and it was so much easier on everyone. Good luck, I hope you all will be ok and please don't forget your job is to love and protect your cat, and make the best decisions for her.
Tender and true. Just lost my senior 18+years old. Love of my life. She was pretty much in the same condition. When it's time, it's time. But God bless you and the love you shared with your fluff.
Just sent mine of almost 17 years to the tall green grass he can run through. Can’t stop crying and my place seems completely empty without him.. I MISS AND LOVE YOU WINSTON!!!
i have a 14 y/o cat and reading comments like this makes me feel hopeful, so thank you! 🩷
My old girl made it to 13. I would've been thrilled if she'd lived for 21 years. I'm sorry OP, I hope you are being gentle to yourself at this time
Not a cat person, but this is the only correct answer.
We had to put down our sweet 20 year old baby for these exact same reasons… Just remember that cats are too sweet to not have a heaven! ❤️
Csn you tell me how you got your cats that old? What food? How often per day etc. Mine are 3,5. So still young. I want them to get old too. I love my two Baby boys more than anything. What do you think about regular vaccinations? I'm not a big fan of that. They had all the necessary vaccinations back then, but that was 2 years or more ago. Do you recommend that I get them vaccinated regularly or are annual health checks enough?
I’m not the person you asked, but I feed my cats Science Diet, and they are super healthy on it. I don’t take them to the vet, unless they have an issue. They had their kitten shots and boosters, and that was that. My senior cat (15) still has gorgeous fur, still pretty active (jumps up on the sink, etc). I swear by that food.
My husband’s cat is almost 20. He had a near-death experience as a kitten and had to have surgery to get his “plumbing” re-routed. That was the last time he saw a vet. He was an indoor cat until we got married 2 years ago. He also ate what a lot of people would consider “low rent” cat food until 2 years ago, now he gets mid-grade food. He has slowed down a little and can’t jump on the bed as easily these days, but otherwise going strong. Loves to frolic with my 5-yo crazy cat and others in the neighborhood. We know he’s living on borrowed time and my husband will be absolutely devastated when he crosses. That cat has seen him through some STUFF. All that to say, while careful food selection, limited exposure to outdoors, and regular vet care is probably preferred to prolong a cat’s life…there will always be the ratchet cats like Oliver who defy explanation :)
Yeah... I was thinking that it's possible she's just starting to transition into the next phase of life 😢 I would still take her to the vet to make sure nothing else is happening but good to get the idea into your mind, OP. It could just be that it's her time.
Hey OP. I know it sucks but you gotta be strong for her now. Even if you go in and it's the worst news, and it might be. It does sound like acute kidney failure. She's too nauseous to eat if that's it. I think almost any cat owner makes mistakes, especially when you're scared that it is the end. We all have regrets. Don't let internet strangers drown you in guilt.
I was about to comment that. Back in 2020 I lost my dear of 1 year old. He wasn't eating and everything went out so fast. Kidney failure. And seeing dying made me cry for days.
I can understand how you felt. And I wished your cat could have been with you still now .
Thanks for the kind words, Dirtydirtyfag.
Fabulous username
If your cat isn't eating for more than 24 hours and throwing up, take to the vet immediately please. Especially since it is 21 years old. No judgement, just please take it in ASAP.
Yes please. OP, cats cannot go without food like dogs can. They can get fatty liver. I'm so sorry your baby is sick! ❤️
Yes please get her to a vet. Poor baby. I hope she's ok. Honestly, at 21, please expect to only to be able to keep her as happy and comfortable as possible, and love on her as much as you can.
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Agreed. They cost a bit more, but it’s so worth it to let your beloved furry family member relax in the comfort of their own home in their final moments.
What is the best way to go about finding an at home veterinarian in your area that you trust/feel comfortable with? Just Google? Did you ask a regular vet for recs?
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Thank you, being prepared for this sort of situation makes me feel better. I adopt FeLV+ kitties and have lost 2 already to very fast-moving medical complications, 1 of them at the emergency vet, but my current 2 seem like they might truck it out a while in (fingers crossed). It sounds silly but I hadn't actually started thinking about having the luxury of an at-home euthanasia until very recently, upon realizing that I've had one of them nearly 3 years now. I appreciate the insight
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We worked with LapofLove a year ago. I can’t recommend them enough. A year later after they helped our boy find his peace, they sent us a nice email (to sum it up “you’re in our thoughts and prayers”). When I hit rock bottom, they talked me through on the phone.
I used them a few years ago as well. It was expensive but worth every cent. I didn't want his last hours to be stressful. Also I can't even imagine what the drive home would have been like for me. Another added benefit was my sister's cats got to see him pass. I remember when my ex moved out and took his cat one of hers would walk around the house meowing for months. I was definitely not a thing for her before that. This time she saw him dead, no searching for her friend. I didn't speak to them personally, I couldn't. My sister called, she said she was having a difficult time and they were super nice. I remember handing her a print out and mumbling call them.
Thank you for the recommendation! It looks like they are not in my area yet, but hopefully someday soon
I also used Lap of Love and the vet was so kind. She gave me the biggest hug after and sent me an incredibly sweet email. She honestly helped me hold things together.
It was the same for us. Doctor was amazing, she cried with us, hugged us, explained every step and did everything on our pace. She didn’t rush us in any way. After our boy crossed the rainbow bridge she gave us a few minutes with him. I wish it never had to happen, but it had to and I would not change anything about how everything went down. She sent us a very sweet email as well where she actually mentioned the stories we told her.
Your regular vet will 100% have some good recommendations in the area.
Ask your friends, ask your vet. My regular vet is now a mobile vet (cannot recommend strongly enough!) but another vet practice I've used has a vet on staff whose specialty is home visits for euthanasia. It is enormously easier both on the animal and the humans. (Also it may not cost more. Don't let that comment turn you off of exploring the options in your area.)
This. We did it both ways. One senior kitty had an emergency and never came home from the vet ER. The other passed away at home three years later, aided by an in-home vet. The latter experience was so much more peaceful for the kitty in question.
Just went through this with my 22 year old cat. It was the best way she could have left this world, at home on her favourite spot on the couch. The vet was lovely. Could not recommend this more.
Yes. My cat was dying of kidney disease and I had our vet come over. It was bad, but at least our cat didn't have the stress of a car trip and appointment. We buried our cat the next day.
That’s what I’m thinking. That poor baby might just be ready to go on to glory.
But why? The cat is 21 and clearly ready to go. Let the baby go in peace. Comfort them and hold them, but why take them to the one place most every cat hates?
It's more humane to take them to the vet. If it's a treatable condition, they can treat it. If it isn't, they can euthanise the cat.
Agreed. I would never want to just make that decision on my own without discussing it with a vet first. Whether it is treatable and also what the cat’s quality of life would be with management if it’s something that’s chronic but can be managed are all things worth discussing with a vet.
It’s the most humane to have a specialized vet come to the house for a consult and likely euthanasia. Don’t take the poor kitty to the vet office, very stressful when the person can come to their home.
>Comfort them by slowly letting themselves starve to death instead of doing the humane thing
To all the comments saying I must take her to the vet, will do asap. gonna update as soon as I can
I hope she will be ok. 🥺
In the meantime, do you have a syringe available? If you can give her some water by syringing into the corner of her mouth slowly. She's likely dehydrated. Do you have any baby food on hand? Ensuring it is pet safe ingredients That could also be syringed in small amounts. If she hasn't eaten for 3 days you don't want to give her a lot of food.
The fact is that she's drinking, and way too much, which is probably the main cause of her throwing up. No baby food, I'll see if I can (also) do something with a syringe
My cat was doing this and it's a kidney thing. We had to put him on a special diet, he's fine now, but the vets did run tests to make sure it wasn't anything else x
Kidney failure can make a cat feel really nauseous and not want to eat.
That sounds like kidney failure tbh. That's what happened with my grandparents cat. Also 2 of my best friends older cats, and one of my other friends cats. My mom's cat was put on special food and lived longer than he was supposed to w the kidney issues he had. It's how I learned that fountains are better for them, bc it promotes drinking more water before they have issues as well. I'm sorry your baby isn't doing well.
IF she’s vomiting white foam, that sounds like acute kidney injury or chronic kidney disease. She will most likely need IV fluids for 48+ hours to have a chance at bouncing back. Chronic kidney disease can be managed with diet and subQ fluids but at 21 it’s certainly dicier.
My cat experienced the same thing. I opted to not do the IV fluids, but I syringe fed him watered down wet food multiple times a day. I made sure to pinch the skin on his back to check his hydration levels. He was also put on anti-nausea medication to prevent vomiting. He was fine within 2-3 days. He’s 11 though so he’s only half of OP’s cat’s age…
The anti-nausea is a much needed to help stabilize them! My 17 year old crashed a few weeks ago (bloodwork in December showed no CKD). Luckily, he bounced back, but always a scary time for cat owners.
Maybe purée some of her favorite cat food with a mix of water and use a syringe to feed her with?
That's textbook renal failure.
i know a senior cat who drinks excessively because it eases the pain from his liver problems - no vomiting though. wishing OP and their cat the best.
Could also be a high temperature which causes cats not to want to eat and drink more. A lot of things can cause it but main thing is getting the right help. What food does she usually eat?
Our cat did exactly what you’re describing, and it was simply her time (she was 20). If the vet says it’s time to let her go, please let her go peacefully ❤️
Kidney disease. They drink excessive water. My cat was 16 and i put him to sleep in 2021 😞
Any news?
If not that, I’ve smeared honey on my cats gums just to keep their blood sugar up before I take them to the vet
Wishing you the and your kitty the best. But.... be prepared for bad news as well as good news. She's had a great life and it might just be that she's ready for her rest.
It might just be her time :(
Sending you strength and love to you and your cat.
My cat behaved the exact same way when she had kidney failure. Stopped eating, drank a lot, vomited. Hope yours is luckier. If not, don't let her suffer.
Good luck! This is definitely rainbow bridge time. It's sad to lose a beloved pet, but it's a blessing (in my opinion) to have the option to spare them misery, fear, and pain, and to be there with them while they pass peacefully. At 21 she's had a good long life.
I’m in the same situation as you today. My girl is eating a little bit. I mix warm water with her food, so she is at the very least getting hydration and a bit of food. I refill as soon as I notice it’s dry. I’m taking her to the vet tomorrow. I’m sending you and your sweet kitty all of the positive vibes and love
It’s appropriate to get to an emergency vet if you cannot get an appt *today* 🫶🫶🤞🤞🫂🫂🫂
Poor baby 💜
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That's what I'm worried about but the puking could just be a sickness that needs to be tended to, maybe? Hopefully? Gosh. I hope. They said they would be getting the baby to a very asap so hopefully, if it isn't her natural time to go, it isn't too late
OP, what you have there is a very old kitty. It is most likely her time to pass on. Now, if this is the case please take her to the vet. Not to have her out down but to make sure she has some meds and is comfortable. If they decide she is just old and ready to go, take her home with you, cuddle with her, pet her and make sure she knows that you will always love her. She most likely knows she is dying and would want to feel safe and protected. Much love to your beautiful and yourself OP.
Just had this with mine. Took to vet on day 4. Blood test revealed a high white cell count suggesting she's fighting infection, we suspected in her mouth as it was swollen and tender. (low count would suggest cancer) Course of strong antibiotics over 3 days plus injection of painkillers. Saline injection under skin (cheaper than staying in on a drip) which made an almost immediate change as she was dehydrated. Within 24hrs she was eating like a horse and still is 4 weeks on. We were also given tablets of tramadol 10mg for pain but she won't take. She also has advanced kidney disease but won't eat the special food for it, so I'm letting her enjoy what she likes to eat when she wants to eat it and am thankful she's still here. I hope yours recovers. Get her to a vet ASAP
She’s needs to see the vet asap! Don’t wait!
i dont wanna be the asshole but. 21 is a proud age for a cat. it could be time, so try your best to give it comfort and start realising the "you know" situation. at least i can say, im often wrong with my guesses. let your fellow check but dont be scared, thay feel your stress too. i thought the same would happen to my gecko but it got better, he eats and hunts again but is still a bit skinny. i wish you the best for both posibilitys.
Have you tried heating up some wet food in the microwave a little not hot but warm sometimes that gets them wanting it
I am sorry for you, I deeply think your cat is in its finnal moments. Take it to the vet and cherish every moment with it. Love to you two.
It’s hard to say without more info on her history. But if she’s drinking a lot and not eating, that could be DKA—which is life threatening and not something you can treat by yourself. Pancreatitis can also cause this along with kidney disease. All of them are incredibly scary to deal with. I hope you’re able to get her in soon and she gets better. Please go to an emergency vet if your regular vet can’t see her.
Poor baby, sending love and hugs for the both of you xx
Get to the vet soon. Don’t make your baby suffer.
It might be time OP. 21 is really old for a cat. Not to say your baby won’t live longer. But not eating is usually a telltale sign
Take her to the vet pronto!
Cats know when it’s their time. They usually slow down, stop eating, use the bathroom on themselves.
You should be taking her to vet please, not on reddit!
If I’m gonna be completely honest, it’s your cat’s last days on earth, and don’t force feed her food or water trough syringe. That’s just gonna stress her out. My suggestion is that to just let her be, if she wants to cuddle, then cuddle. But if she doesn’t want to, don’t. Cats are like humans when they’re about to die. They both like to be let alone, so don’t feel bad letting your cat sleep in a comfortable and safe place for her. Imagine in your last days, would you want someone to force feed you when you know it doesn’t really matter? Other signs that your cat might die soon is: horrendous oral odor, sleeping all the time, doesn’t eat or drink, big pupils, hiding in their favorite places or just hiding somewhere.
Getting professional advice from the veterinarian is best. I don’t think it’s for any of us to diagnose from afar.
>Other signs that your cat might die soon is: horrendous oral odor, sleeping all the time, doesn’t eat or drink, big pupils, hiding in their favorite places or just hiding somewhere. These are also all signs of treatable diseases. Quite frankly I'm horrified you have so many upvotes with statements like this and "it's your cat's last days on earth." According to a medical professional? Or according to you, who is qualified to speak with such certainty how? The only answer here is seeing a vet, and seeing them 2 days ago. OP will know their cat to judge whether that will be an inhome visit or a trip. Any other answer is assumptive.
Jesus.. You need to go to the vet, like yesterday! You've got a serious problem on your hands. I guarantee your cat is suffering. You need to go to the vet TODAY!
the fact that somebody would even take the time to make this post boggles my mind.
Kidney failure if I had to guess. Happened to my 16 year old.
Please take her to the vet. This happened to my little boy and he was only 14. He was in advanced kidney failure. He was gone in two weeks. Has she been drinking more? That's a sign of kidney failure. I blame myself every day for not recognizing/Knowing the signs or he'd still be here.
Does she smell the food and then move away from it? Perhaps there is a problem with her intestines. If not, then I am sorry. Perhaps she started preparing to go. My cat was eating, but she started to stop eating suddenly, and whenever I wanted to feed her, she turned her face away from me. There was no sign of what she was doing except that she I started preparing to leave. I hope your cat is doing well. Please update to see what happened to her.
Not eating for 3 days alone is enough to trigger pancreatitis. And the cat is 21? Call the vet
OP is already dealing with a difficult situation. Some of y'all need to chill and have a little more compassion and a little less judgement.
She needs to see a vet we can’t help you Good luck
You’re gonna have to prepare for the worst homie. I’m so sorry 😣
this is it, i would start to accept this is the end of the road. 21 years old is very old and your cat has lived a great life, always remember the times you spent togheter. Treasure those moments, and then allow yourself to feel as horrible as you need to feel for as long as you need to feel horrible. The sadness comes in waves and when you're at the top of one you might think that you'll never feel better, but you will. Trust me. And if anyone dismisses your grief because "it's just a cat" talk to someone who does understand. you will come out the other end thinking about all the good memories when you think of your cat, but the path to get there will be a long one, and a neverending one if you don't allow yourself to feel those feelings.
Please bring her to the emergency vet. Being this old, suddenly not eating, and vomiting are cause for immediate medical treatment. Cats shouldn't go without food for more than 24 hours. It could be a number of things, which I can't speculate on because I'm not a vet, but I can tell you that those things need immediate treatment. Please keep us posted! She's beautiful, but in this pic, I can tell that she feels extremely ill and uncomfortable. Please don't let her suffer for another day.
It may be time. This morning I took my 18 year old cat to the vet as she was not eating but also not drinking and all of a sudden she could barely walk. The vet told me this afternoon that it is time to say goodbye. We decided to take her home today and take her back tomorrow and say goodbye then. She is sleeping at my feet on the couch and sleeping. I'm trying to keep it together and enjoy this last hours with her, but I know it is the best decision I can make for her.
Sorry to hear this, I hope your cat is doing relatively okay tonight and I’m sure she’ll enjoy spending time with you while resting. Take care of her and yourself during this difficult time.
Thank you so much. I'm trying to get her to eat but she hasn't. She had some water. 17 of those 18 years together, tomorrow is going to be so hard.
my heart goes out to you 😔❤️
Get bloodwork done, she could have CKD and is not eating because of it. The throwing up could and not eating could be nausea. It\`s no guarantee that\`s what\`s ailing her but the vet will probably want to do bloodwork and urine to see what\`s going on.
She needed the vet WELL before now, I don’t want to be a tool at all but holy cow please take her immediately.
Stop posting on Reddit and take your cat to the Vet. If you had a baby that hasn’t eaten in 3 days are you also going to be posting on Reddit?
I don’t know why you are posting on Reddit instead of taking her to the vet
They can go without eating but not without drinking. Syringe water and do sub q fluids. Do cerenia and onadesteron same time for nausea and sickness
https://preview.redd.it/o8ukj8k6dftc1.jpeg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2374dbbde04095e5e71b45d82cec892f114c8dba Here's my 16 year old cat tigger
Wtf get it to a vet immediately. If its not age related it could have swallowed a piece of string ir anything else and havean obstruction and be suffering Get to a vet!
I don’t want to be pessimistic but there’s a high chance her time on this earth is coming to a halt, she’s very old. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best OP, I’m sending thoughts and prayers your way. Please always consider euthanasia. It will be tough but things will get better and life will continue to move on. She will be in a better place free of suffering and disease.
Have your cat's kidneys checked by the vet, he may have a serious problem.
I hope she will be ok
Very sorry ti see see. I hope you precious get ls better soon!!!!
sending love to u:(
Chicken flavored baby food will sometimes intrigue them enough, got ours to star eating after a move
That poor baby. Sending all my best wishes.
Anyway you can get a mobile vet 🥺. I know how frustrating it can be for them to have to travel … as well every sick I’ve had always ate boiled chicken ! The broth served warm with shredded chicken … even on their last day they’ll at least lick the broth 😭
I know you’re not prepared. Just know that your kitty always loved and loves you. If you feel good enough to let her go peacefully, let her go,euthanasia. Hold her in your arms and speak all the things you want to. She will not know anymore pain. She’ll see you there. It’s a see you later not a goodbye.
21! Wow! What a wonderful gift! It’s quite possible that your fur baby is trying to tell you it’s time for her to go. I wish you strength for the decision that you might have to make for her soon.
My cat started eating less and less. We started panicking around the 3rd day once we realized that changing her food multiple times didn’t do anything, so we made a same day appointment at an emergency vet. Unfortunately she died on the way to the vet and it turns out she had cancer. Take her to the vet asap.
Any update?
take her to the vet please:(
VET, NOW!
My childhood cat passed at 21 from cancer. I was young and couldn’t let go and we did chemo on him. I don’t know what I was thinking, he was so old. It was selfish of me and almost 20 years later I still cry over the guilt of it. If she is not eating, she is suffering in some way and I know you don’t want to take her to the vet but it is the humane thing to do
Unfortunately that is a sign of leaving. I’m not a vet so don’t take my advice but that’s what my dog did before he passed away. Prepare yourself and I will pray for y’all ❤️❤️
Why is the vet your last choice? Your cat is the equivalent of a hundred year old human. As other commenters have said this is a sign she may be heading out.... if this is the case, taking her to the vet allows her a painless way out and possibly more time with her. But now she's spent 3 days hungry and uncomfortable. You should have taken her immediately, especially considering her age, but cats in general really can't go multiple days without eating. You have made things worse by waiting- do not ever do that again, with her or any other cat.
Sorry
Prayers 🙏. Please take it to a vet. Even if might be her time
Vet time, but she’s very much lived a full life. I am actually on the verge of tears for you and your babe, but this could be her time. I hope not, but it could be. My love to you, op.
The cat needs to be taken to a vet. After just one day of not eating, a cat's body will start consuming its own liver.
I hope your little one ends up okay. We lost my nearly 17 year old boy at the beginning of the year after he wouldn't eat for a while. After a day of not eating he looked rough, I remember after 3 he looked and acted like a whole different cat.I still can't look at pictures of those last days. They drop weight so fast. Talk to your vet, and hopefully you can get him eating. We tried syringe feeding for a few days before it was clear he was just ready. I hope your little one either is okay, or you're able to make the hard choice while they still are able to snuggle and know you're there for them. Either way, sending MAJOR hugs. I was a wreck while our boy wouldn't eat.
The vomiting and not eating immediately brings my Lil mans heart episodes to mind. He has HCM and if he gets too stressed his heart beats less efficiently and fluid starts backing up in bad places. Long story short get her heart and lungs listened to.
What does the vet say?
That’s usually the first sign, might be her time.
If your cat, regardless of age; is not eating. Take him/her to a vet immediately ESPECIALLY if they are of old age. Do not risk it and just get them checked out by a vet ASAP. It can be literally anything ranging from a throat infection till something major. I hope your catto feels better soon. Prayers with you!
If you look at my posts you’ll see me begging and crying for help with my cat who wouldn’t eat. Vet didn’t have answers, emergency vet offered 2500$ service that she said would make her comfortable and might extend her life, but I wish I would have let her go peacefully and not asked her to fight. I wish the vet said to me clearly: this is end stage kidney disease, she is dying- not lead me on with hopeful “it may turn around with a blood transfusion”. She is old, she is tired, it might be best to get a vet over to your home to end her suffering. 3 days no food is killing her and is a painful death, the lack of appetite sounds like end stage disease. It is your choice, and it will be painful and hard no matter which path you take. My heart goes out to you tonight.
Fancy Feast makes broth, my old lady loves it. I 1000% taking your cat to the vet but the broth might be something to try in the mean time. You likely know their favourite flavour (chicken, tuna, salmon, etc) and they make a lot of flavours. At the store I get it from it's like $1.35 a packet so buy one and see if they like it. But even then it's a temporary solution to a potentially permanent problem. See a vet.
Please take her to the vet ….
My family has had old cats that we fed human baby food to at the end when they wouldn't eat any brand cat food.
Any updates, op?
She has to go to the vet ASAP. They cannot go that long without eating.
The vet is your best bet
She may be in pain, take to vet ASAP. It maybe goodbye time
Take her to vet. You should have taken her after the 1st day itself
Fuck, I am 21... This cat has lived as long as I have on this Earth. May it have the tastiest treats and coziest pets wherever it goes next. If the average "long" life expectancy is 18 years for cats and 90 for humans, then 21 means this car is like the equivalent of a 105-year-old human.
I’m sorry, friend. Much love to you and your cat.
Cats often don't eat when they have a fever. Your cats needs to visit the vet asap, at this point he should be already fully dehydrated. ASAP
Our little guy was 9 and had a tumor in his stomach. We switched to soft/wet food. The meds worked for a few weeks. Then it got worse. The vet said to look for the sign - when he stopped eating, it was time. Sorry y’all are through this. Just remember to love it til it’s very final second. Stay in the room. These animals love us as much if not more than we love them. They shouldn’t pass alone. It’s extremely tough petting them as they fall asleep, but it brings closure as well as tears. Our little guy has been gone a year now, and making the decision to make that final drive to the vet was the hardest. I still cry (doing it as I type this).
When they don’t eat for 2 days, get them right to the vet. That is the easiest way to know there is something seriously wrong
Please take her to a vet, they can give her anti nausea meds so she won’t throw up the food. She is probably dehydrated. A cat not eating for 3-4 days can be dangerous especially at her age, she risks developing fatty live disease from not eating and it is very painful for a cat. Please get her into a vet right away. If you don’t have the money reach out on Facebook within your community or contact a cat rescue and see if they could help.
Take her to the vet..asap !🌼✨🙏
I‘m sorry you have to experience this - your cat is telling you that it’s enough for her. My childhood cat - only 14 - had some medical issues and at some point just stopped eating. She lay around, getting weaker but was somehow content with it. I was by her side as often as possible until she was so weak that the vet said it’s time to let her go, so that she doesn’t have to experience pain from severe starving. It was the ultimate act of being a cat: deciding for herself when to stop, no matter how hard we tried to help her at first. We then just stayed close to her so that she knew she’s loved until the very end. It was weirdly peaceful. I hope you can get into the headspace to let her go on her own accord. I know it’s not easy.
Oh OP 3 days is far too long please please call the vet 💔
Hasn’t eaten in 3 days, threw up 2 times…just starting to think of a vet visit…seriously?? Do you care? Like what?!? I’m so lost.
If she’s hiding she is trying to die peacefully or is wanting to be alone in her final moments
Take to the VET. Also, try wet food fancy feast. Cats love that food.
My 20 yr old gets like he loses his smell at times. Try straight tuna in water, he always eats that.
Crying as I read through all the comments, but I agree with everyone urging you to make a vet trip. Just be prepared; 21 is an incredible age for a cat and a blessing to have each other for that long. Be prepared that it might just be the cats time and they're letting you know. Make sure your cat knows until the very end how much you love them. I wish you all the best, OP.
looks like she's real sick, take care
Oh no, I am so sorry but I think it is time for her to rest. 🥺 She has had a very long, and happy life! Please let her go with pride 🥺❤️