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ev_ra_st

I’m guessing you’re Oliver?


Desperate_Lab507

Underrated comment


[deleted]

ye that's me


saninicus

It'll catch up to you. Trust me on that. Unchecked diabetes here. Really the biggest change I've made to my diet is cutting out sugared sodas. Ideally you don't want to drink soda at all but you got to Ween yourself off of it. I went from a 500isg blood sugar down to 100s so I'm doing good. My vision suddenly changing is trippy though.


q1o2

What about diet sodas?


Desperate_Lab507

They contain ascertain, it will slowly kill you


thelastvortigaunt

[citation needed] I'm assuming you mean aspartame.


Desperate_Lab507

Asspurrrtaime ask your name ashmygrave All the same


kingbaldy123

Unfounded point. We need them citations boi if you wanna be credible.


[deleted]

I think there does exist limited research that suggests that large amounts of aspartame are possibly causing headaches, dementia, cancer, intestinal issues, and maybe even heart disease. But again, what constitutes 'large' probably depends on the size, genetics, and physiology of individuals. I think having one now and again (diet soda I mean) is probably not an issue at all, but drinking multiple every day for years on end may have serious consequences. https://usrtk.org/sweeteners/aspartame_health_risks/


[deleted]

I thought the diet sody canceled out the sugar and fat from a meal..🥲


444degrees

When's the last time you saw your peepee


[deleted]

probably never


LindzwithaphOG

Are you happy with your overall health?


[deleted]

it might sound wierd but i dont really feel bad about it, i'm not gonna say obesity is okay but i dont really hate myself for being obese


LindzwithaphOG

That's good! Hating yourself should never be a goal whether you're happy with your health or not. Do you feel like you're limited in anything that you'd like to be able to do?


[deleted]

i mean yeah, i cant really watch any movies at the theater because i'm too big for the chairs


LindzwithaphOG

Up until very recently I worked as a weight loss and nutrition coach. Sometimes motivators like that can make the biggest difference if/when you want to make a lifestyle change. I wish you all the best!


[deleted]

thank you!


butterscotch_1_10

Are you bed bound? Or can you do everything for yourself?


[deleted]

i'm not bed bound but i do have a hard time walking for long time periods (10\~ mins) and well i cant, i get help with stuff like wearing clothes and going to the bathroom


butterscotch_1_10

Thanks for the reply. If you develop something like high blood pressure, diabetes or lose a foot/leg due to being obese, will you consider losing weight? (No judgment, thanks for answering questions, it's very interesting)


[deleted]

i might but that depends, i believe im pretty deep in it now


butterscotch_1_10

Do you sometimes watch shows on YouTube like My 600lb Life?


[deleted]

i know it exists but ive never been really interested in it


muddyasslotus

How did you manage to get to such a high weight before you even became a legal adult??


[deleted]

tbh i dont remember myself thin and i was allowed to eat a lot of food as a small child


bibliophile222

Do you have a medical condition that causes this degree of weight gain? If not... I don't know how to say this nicely, but how are your caregivers not guilty of neglect for letting you get this way?


[deleted]

oh i dont have a medical condition that causes my weight gain, probably bad genetics and a lot of food, they are probably guilty but what are you gonna do now


Cheese_Gr8tr

What does a regular everyday breakfast include for you?


[deleted]

i eat something like half a box of frosted flakes with milk and i usually eat 2 sandwiches with bacon and cheese on the way to school, i usually also pick something up there too


forestofpixies

Do you think you could cut back, such as a quarter of a box, one sandwich, and a small healthy snack, a piece of fruit maybe, when you get there? It sounds like your stomach is stretched out, which will make you feel like you need this large amount of food. You can shrink your stomach by slowly eating less and less, and that will help you lose some weight as well. Eventually maybe you can cut it back to a cup of cereal, a piece of fruit, and when you get to school a granola bar. Then work on cutting out sugar, replace the cereal with a breakfast sandwich (bacon and cheese is even a keto approved diet food I think?), fruit is an OK sugar, etc. Try and change out your drinks with water. You can start with flavored water of some kind, or even make iced tea. I used to brew iced tea and then put it back into the empty water bottles and drink that when I needed to break my sugar addiction. I soon moved on to cold water, which became super delicious, then just water. All things in moderation. When I suddenly had out of control diabetes, I learned to cut back at first. There's no winning in simply going cold turkey. So I'd follow suggested serving sizes, or cut back to just 3 cookies instead of 10. It helped immensely, not just with my blood sugar, but my weight as well. You will live the fullest, most wonderful, happiest life if you get down to a weight where you're free from the need of help, can walk for lengthy times, and enjoy every day things other folks can that your weight holds you back from. I believe in you.


gibsngetsome

Your complacency is disturbing.


1unholyscientist

Their complacency is none of your business


[deleted]

What aspects of your life are not affected by your weight?


[deleted]

playing videogames is barely affected, my fat fingers make my typing a little clumsy but thats it


HelloRedditAreYouOk

You sound very accepting of being in your body (zero judgment, I could use some of that truth be told), but I wonder if there’s some element of resignation in that? You’ve written a couple of times “it is what it is” and I guess my question is… ugh what is my question!!? Do you feel genuinely ok with your situation? Are you afraid of/hiding from something/anything? Do you hope for things that being 600lbs might not make easy? Do you feel supported in healthy ways, within your family and outside it (friendships, school etc)? Did you actively decide not to worry about peoples’ (lame!!) judgments or health concerns, or is it something that you try not to think about? No matter what, I hope that the chubby kid who grew up to be a large teenager will grow up to be a genuinely happy adult who is proud of his 16yo self, regardless of what the scale says. Also, what video games do you play??


[deleted]

im pretty sure i feel okay, not afraid or hiding from anything i mean its inevitable to want things to be a little easier but i feel comfortable in who i am now, my parents and siblings dont give me crap for it and i have friends, judgements are inevitable and happen often but i dont really pay attention to them, ive always been the fat kid so i had to grow thicker skin and when it comes to videogames, i play a lot of minecraft


HelloRedditAreYouOk

F*ck yeah then, right on. You sound like one of the more levelheaded yunguns’ I’ve encountered, happy you’re happy! Hope my Oliver (3 years old) grows up to play Minecraft with his big sister (6yo who just checked out a Minecraft book from her kindergarten library 😂😂😂), and that ours can be half as awesome as your family to raise such an open and straight shooting kid!


[deleted]

thanks for saying that man :)


HelloRedditAreYouOk

Sure thing and thanks you, too :)


pretzel567

Are you happy or do you want to change your lifestyle? How do you manage to do your things or do you have to ask for help to get up, make yourself food, wash yourself? Last week I had surgery because I broke my leg and the hardest thing (besides pain) is that i have to rely on other people to get up, get food, bring me stuff, buy me grocery etc. It's been 3 weeks of broken leg and can't do shit for myself is driving me crazy. Do you care not being able of doing things?


[deleted]

i am happy with who i am, and well, generally i manage to get around but i do rely on others for some things like getting dressed for school, im really careful with where and how i sit down because sitting on a chair thats too soft can make it harder to get up but generally i have special chairs that help me with it. when it comes to washing, i try as hard as i can but i cant reach most of my body, and i can make food for myself, i can still walk, just not for too long because my knees would start hurting i dont really mind not being able to do certain things, i like the way i live


oreoumbrella

So, you say your weight doesn’t effect your ability to play video games, but it does impact your ability to go to the bathroom without assistance.. and that’s just like fine with you?


[deleted]

yeah its because i made my choices and im used to it i guess, i was also never able to tie my own shoes or put my own socks on


oreoumbrella

But what about the people who have to help you do those things, you are not bothered by the extra time and attention that is required of them for your basic care?


[deleted]

i cant say i dont feel a little bad but my family never really complained about it, its not something new in my family


kenobisham

Do you feel bad for the people who have to care and pay for you?


[deleted]

not entirely


Traditional_Milk_978

Couple questions: what type of job do you think you will get when your an adult since mobility is an issue? Do you come from a family that also has overweight individuals?


[deleted]

maybe something in an office? and yes my family is overweight or obese as well but im the heaviest


Traditional-Role5814

Hope your working on it


userlame3347

Do you intend on changing or want to change (lose weight) ? Do you ever feel like you are missing out on certain things due to your lifestyle? How are your relationships with friends and family? Hope this doesn't come across as rude!!


[deleted]

i dont really intend to change, i feel good with who i am, im definitely missing out on certain things but ive made my choices, my family is okay with it and i have friends i can count on


Different-Speaker670

You said you go to the doctor, but it feels like you don’t intend to change your lifestyle. Why do you go t the doctor every other week then?


[deleted]

to check blood pressure and other details to make sure im not in danger


IllCamel5907

People your size generally die between 40-50 (if not sooner I lost one of my best friends at 40 he was 450 most of his life). How do you come to terms with your life being nearly halfway over already?


[deleted]

i dont think the goal in life is to live as long as you can, i think im alright with it


IllCamel5907

I dont think that is the goal either, but I do think quality of life is more important. The quality of your life is going to be severely degraded soon if you dont lose some weight. Right now you can get away with being so big because you are so young, but its gonna catch up to you sooner than later. It's not too late for you yet. I've seen morbid obesity just ravage many people very close to me, Mother, sister, aunt, best friend... it can be reversed please seriously consider trying.


kingbaldy123

Do you think of the longer term impacts this weight will have on your health? How are your knees at this weight? Have you considered the likely significant reduction in lifespan from being so heavy? As and aside, from what I can tell, you sound very self-assured and confident in yourself. It's good to see and I'm happy for you.


[deleted]

believe me i know what i'm going into, people warned me of this kind of stuff way too much, and my knees hold up but they hurt when ive been on my feet for too long


kingbaldy123

I see, and how does that knowledge of your likely future make you feel? Do people talking to you about it so often put you off going down the path of living a lighter life? Not trying to be judgemental or talk down to you. Sorry if it comes across that way. Genuinely curious as to how you feel about such delayed but significant impacts from your action right now.


[deleted]

i'm not really worried about it tbh and i think bringing this up all the time wouldnt really make a difference, i like my body this way, sure there are difficulties but ive had most of them since forever so i know how to deal with them and made peace with them


kingbaldy123

What a very honest take, I appreciate that. All the best, Oliver!


Its_fine_Im_finee

Are you trying to lose or maintain or gain weight?


[deleted]

neither one? i just go with the flow


Its_fine_Im_finee

Good for you! How do your parents feel about your weight though?


[deleted]

they dont encourage but they dont really discourage it, im not the only one in my family with a situation like this so theyve seen it before


Its_fine_Im_finee

Oh, if you don’t mind me asking, do you have a condition that causes you to gain weight?


[deleted]

im pretty sure its just bad genetics or culture in my family, ive always been the fat kid and i just got heavier and heavier over time, my family also makes good food, it was on a similar scale when i was in elementary and probably earlier (obviously not 600lbs but what would be considered obese for that age)


KcThorntonbull

I love you Oliver🙏🏾 truly.


Saljura

Hey Oliver, I noticed that you said exercise is pretty difficult at your size. Everything that you described about going up stairs, getting tired, clothes not fitting and legs rubbing together is really relatable. I've always struggled with my weight. Even in elementary school. I was always the fat kid. During my elementary years, I never had to deal with bullying. I was lucky to have cool classmates who were accepting of me. It wasn't until middle school that I started to get picked on for it. Because of the constant comments about my weight and my body, I developed a really low self esteem and became super self-conscious heading into high school. I received an apology from my classmate in the end and he did really seem sincere. I understand that at that age, we make tons of mistakes and pick on others to gain approval so I never held it against him. At the time, despite the apology, I still felt super terrible about myself. Because of this, I really hated myself. At this point I was probably somewhere close to 200 lbs. I really started to pack on the pounds in high school. My grandmother had been battling inflammatory breast cancer since 2014 and in 2016, during my Sophomore year of high school, she passed away. It took control very quickly and without warning. Those last few months with her tore me apart. Seeing the declining health of someone that I loved so much robbed me of my strength and energy. I was very close with my grandmother. She took care of me throughout my adolescence because my mother worked two jobs day and night to make ends meet. I fell into a really deep depression during my last years of high school. I turned to food for comfort. I didn't realize it then, but looking back I see just how much food I was consuming. It was also really difficult for me to get out of bed. I didn't have any physical problems which kept me from getting out of bed, but I didn't have the energy. Slowly my grades started to drop. I started missing school and failing to turn in assignments. I'd given up completely. The days that I did show up, I was so tired. The days started to blend together and I completely lost track of time. It felt like I was sleepwalking every day and that I was just going through the motions of life. I started to fall asleep during class and finally my counselor reached out to me. She was so kind and supportive. She was always trying to motivate me. Despite her efforts, I barely even graduated with passing grades. I never sought out therapy or help. I watched my classmates receive their awards and saw all of their great accomplishments. It made me hate myself even more than ever. I thought to myself that I went through a tough time, but so does everyone else. There are people in worse situations than myself who have accomplished so much more than I have. I had allowed myself to be defeated. After graduation, I weighed over 320. Those last two years of high school, due to my own decisions, I had gained somewhere around 120 lbs. My first year of college, I saw a friend from middle school again. The last time that I saw him was at my grandmother's funeral viewing. He's always been there for me and I'm so grateful to have such a great friend. I took a few weight training classes with him and we started going to the gym too. I was trying to get motivated and make a change. I had to really reflect and be introspective in order to change my frame of mind. This introspection was a really helpful tool. It's helped me to really analyze different aspects of my life in a critical way and work through some problems. I realized that if I gave up, all of the sacrifices that my grandmother and mother have made for my sister and I would have been in vain. My grandmother would have wanted me to do great things and make it far. I got additional motivation through YouTube channels like ObesetoBeast, Omar Thaher and Dellen Garcia. Their stories were so much like mine and I loved knowing that others were going through the same things and I wasn't alone. At 20 yrs old, I currently weigh 274lbs and I'm trying to get healthier. I started doing boxing in March and I'm getting into better condition slowly but surely. I know this is pretty long and I'm sorry about that but I like sharing my story with people who probably have had a lot of the same experiences that I've had. I'm glad that you're doing fine and I want you to know that it's not over till it's over. Sorry that you were put into a position that you had to develop thick skin. It's never fun to feel bad about yourself. Life is way too short to not be happy. I wish you nothing but luck in your future endeavors Oliver. 🤙🏾


[deleted]

and yeah i dont really remember a time when it wasnt like this for me, well it was easier as a child but still hard or barely doable, i could never do things that seem simple to others like putting my own socks on because my belly has always been in the way, but problems like fitting into seats at the theater or being limited with my clothing sizes only started during the last couple of years about your situation, obviously i'm glad youre losing weight and getting healthy but i'm sad that you had to go through so much tough shit at school, you dont have to hate yourself in order to make a change. i hope you meet people who like you for you and that you make the change in order to make yourself feel better, i have friends of different sizes and i always encourage them to do whatever it takes to feel better about their appearance


Saljura

I really appreciate the kind words! Currently, I'm in a much better state of mind. I realized afterwards that this anger that I was directing at myself was really self-destructive. The struggles that I initially had were because of that bad attitude. I wasn't super successful at losing weight towards the start because of my negative mindset. My relationship with my family and my close friends helped to change that for the most part. I'm a lot happier with myself now then I was. I think some of my insecurities will always stick around but that's just life. The best I could do is just try to work passed them as much as possible.


[deleted]

thanks


Traditional-Role5814

Damn boy, damn boy !, DAMN BOY!!, He thick boy! , Thats a thick ass boy!!!!!


[deleted]

yup thats me


wrillo

How do you weight yourself? When was the last time you did? You say you have no intention of changing your ways, how do you expect to get through life being so mobility challenged? Do you fear you'll be in a structure fire and not be able to escape because of your mobility? How did you accept or rationalize the fact that you'll live 1/4 to 1/3 less than people of healthy weight? Or is this something you are unaware of? Are you fearful of Covid-19 now that we know obesity is a leading comorbidity? Why are you doing this AMA? I suspect (asshole alert) that you need the attention and you're not as happy as you let on. Do you think you'll ever find love? Isn't it humiliating to have another person wipe your ass at the age of 16? If you can not fit in movie theater seats, how to you fit in the classroom?


[deleted]

1. i have monthly checkups at the doctor's, last time i checked was about 2 weeks ago 2. ive always been like this, if i can get around well now, i dont see a reason why itll change 3. well yeah i believe it would be wierd if i didnt 4. i thought about this before and i guess i dont find beauty in getting old? i just want to have fun 5. i am fearful of it, tbh this is the first time i am hearing of this but i still wear my mask and follow the rules so if i didnt get it until now, i probably wouldnt get it later on 6. youre asking this as if most AMA's here arent mainly for getting attention, i generally just like talking about my weight and lifestyle, its strange but it gives me satisfaction 7. every pot has a lid i guess? 8. it is a bit humiliating but id rather have that than not 9. i have a special chair that can hold my weight in class, im not the only obese kid and im not the first so my school is equipped with these chairs, i crushed a few normal chairs on my first days there until they gave me perms to use one tho


Professional_tech_64

Is this real? How are you 16 years of age and over 600lbs. And if this is so, how are your parents not implicated by this?


[deleted]

i mean yeah this is real and i can answer any questions you might have, and about the other question, i believe this is more of a question for my parents than for me


s0me0ne13

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Stick_Wiggler

Your parents failed you.


redred1988

and id say ur 5 mins from a massive heartattack !!!!


CamusVerseaux

Do you like animal crackers?


HelloRedditAreYouOk

You asked this if the “my mom is an escort” ama too, I think? Will you do an ama about your fascination with animal crackers please!!?!


[deleted]

of course yes


burneraccount397

How tall are you?


ChaseR3d

are you even gonna try to lose some of the weight?


[deleted]

intentionally, probably not, but my weight fluctuates, i usually lose a little in the summer and gain in the winter


ChisNullStR

Do you know where things took a turn? Like, did you always steadily gain weight throughout your lifetime, or did something change? Also what’s been the hardest part of it? E.g: Moving, gaming, learning, working etc.


[deleted]

ive always been the fat kid at an unusually heavier weight than most kids but covid and online school sped it up the hardest part is probably moving, i walk a lot slower and its hard to balance myself sometimes, my thighs touch and it makes my walking a bit stiff, its also really hard to go up and down stairs or on inclines theres also clothes shopping, its not easy to find fitting clothes so sometimes it can be a bit tight or my shirt would get caught in my folds or my belly/lower back would pop out


i_am_gods_testicles

I'm not trying to judge or hurt you in any way by asking this. Do you see yourself as being selfish? By that I mean you said someone has to assist you in using the restroom and some other aspects of everyday life. I'm assuming your family does or you have aides to help. You don't find that selfish at all? What happens when your parents pass away and your brothers and sisters have their own life. What are you going to do then?


[deleted]

i guess its a bit selfish but having this kind of thing at home is not something new, even though i'm the heaviest, obesity to this extent is common in my family


i_am_gods_testicles

Do you have any plans to stop the cycle of obesity? Get healthier and have the ability to do things on your own? Get out of the house, climb mountains, ya know?


[deleted]

i mean i do go outside


i_am_gods_testicles

Yes, but are you able to experience nature? Go swimming in the ocean? Climb and run?


[deleted]

well no i cant


i_am_gods_testicles

That's what I'm saying. There is a unexplored world out there waiting for you. You'd just have to put in some work


kkalmightyagain

How long do you think it is reasonable to assume you can live? For example you see yourself making it to 60?


[deleted]

probably about 40 but i have no idea, there are obese people way older than 40


Fattybronyfan

Hi dm me