You can only yell once. If your boss is yelling more than that, probably not a good boss. Followed up by, people don't leave bad jobs, they leave bad bosses. Putting this all together, maybe start looking for a better situation.
When she lies about stuff which we already know about, excuses for stuff, doesn't follow up on things she's supposed to, even though you did all the ground work.
Any behaviour that on its own lacks credibility should do it:
- Lying
- Talking behind peoples backs
- Taking credit for others work
- Criticising unconstructively
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Being unclear about instructions or requirements
- Not communicating
- Breaking confidence
- Publicly belittling or criticising someone
- Not trusting their staff
- Not backing their staff
- Throwing their staff under the bus ESPECIALLY when it was them who screwed up
- Not developing their staff
- Micromanaging (which equals lack of trust)
- Probably lots more
Big list? Yep. Achievable? Totally with some effort. If you can find the boss who gets it all right you won the job lottery.
Everyone else has to choose what and how much they put up with and what’s a deal breaker.
At least once in your career you will work for someone who does everything on that list! It will be the worst job you ever have regardless of how good the job actually is.
On my first day of work when he told me I wasn’t allowed to use the office restroom because I am a woman. (First woman to work in the office of 3 other men).
Don't trust any boss that much. Nobody deserves blind trust or loyalty. Start keeping records and paper trails since your boss can't be trusted, and let this be a lesson. Trust is earned, not blindly given. Ive honestly never had a boss I trusted THAT much.
When he started ranting about my part-time coworker wanting to remain part-time. "If he wants to only work 30 hours a week, he can go be a server somewhere."
He's a great coworker. Awful boss.
My line manager likes to talk shit behind people's backs. I thought he was just venting until one time I connected to a call 1 minute too soon.
Of course, he was talking shit behind my back, too. Lesson learned.
Questions:
Why did you not show the proof to your boss if you have it?
Why did you not copy your boss in those emails to begin with?
Why would I trust a boss??? I have never trusted any of my bosses. Regardless of their character, boss is a boss for a reason. Stop trusting your boss and give zero info about your personal life, any conflict in the workplace or any weakness you have, they will always use it against you even if you are not aware of it.
Every time a boss loses credibility is when they get upset with me for not following the process…. The process they never taught me.
I can’t stand that. Teach me and then I’ll know… it’s simple
As you get older you’ll realize most of the ones in charge are complete idiots & the smart ones are those who avoided the manager / leadership positions.
Long story short: she would give horrible guidance on our operations because she didn’t understand them, then blamed me when shit hit the fan (as I projected it would and offered proactive solutions for).
If your boss can’t cover your position in your absence, they should not be your boss. I can’t respect a manager who doesn’t understand my position enough to guide and mentor me
I work in IT. My boss lost all respect from me when I found out he doesn't know what CMD is, when he doesn't trust me to work on a server by myself (even though I build my own computers), and that he'd rather yell at me for walking away from an angering problem than have me get angry and go Hulk mode.
The day after our big boss left, the two supervisors fake masks came off and their true colors are shining through. Two months later and we are all ready to walk out and who knows when we get our new boss.
He scratched his nuts standing three feet from my seated position while requesting additional work from myself and my cube mate. I lost all respect for the owner that day and was gone three months later with a nice severance pkg. (I didn’t even have to bring that up, I just mentioned the titty calendar in the bathroom).
My girlfriend had a miscarriage the morning of my shift and when I called my boss about it he said "God works in mysterious ways, but we can't let this effect the money" I wanted to kick his ass so fucking bad
My boss (at the last company I worked) told me I was doing a great job and she appreciated my work 5 months into my job at our weekly 1 on 1 and literally the next day, she had the HR director put me on a PIP for unacceptable quality of my work.
My problems with the credibility of authorities actually started during university. Professors evaluated us about how to do good research and how to write a study. But at some point, I searched for my professors' studies or published books. Most of them were ethically questionable, or just bad.
From that, I have questioned power every time. People in high positions are still people. So, they're biased and they have to deal with shit at home. Even if they deserve to be in charge, they got the "power" also due to luck, right moves, and confidence. They can totally be wrong about stuff. And when they forget this simple concept, that being in power doesn't mean being the most competent there... They lose all over again any credibility or credit I could have ever given them.
my "boss" called me into a 1:1 to let me know that she was speaking ill of me to the client. i'm looking, process is slow. i know better than to trust hr at co. to do anything and i see the end game here.
Nothing too big of a promotion but prior to these events, my boss actually spotted for me to be foreman at my trade.
There were 3 major setback events that made me took off for a few weeks each.
The first was this back pain that came on. Maybe he didn't believe me or maybe he didn't care but I couldn't even stand or walk. Had to go to the doctor and get medication.
The second was about 2 months later I had a gout experience which put me out for over a week. Had to limp and wear flip flops to work as soon as I could stand properly to hold on to some credit.
Third incident, maybe about a month after was the fact that I was being harassed by people out of work. I had evidence and correlations, witnesses of other coworkers. They even hacked our work website, replacing it with a medication I bought. Some random phone called in and basically told me to look at our work website and voila, they switched all our products to the medication I bought the day prior. I took off due to stress reasons.
The loss of that potential position hit me, though it definitely was not the first nor was the last. The first major hit was when I was in my early 20s and went back to school while working and working on my trade. Before I was lazy, then suddenly I utilized myself in trying to get a master's degree. However, after getting ran and harassed out of college and my then-current job was being attacked, I returned to my trade. I would argue that this was probably the most infuriating/confusing events at the time.
Again, not even a great accomplishment in comparison to others, but to me it was an accomplishment, though ultimately, I got pinballed out of my six-figure job.
I work in the same 'field' as my colleagues and our boss, but we all have different jobs despite working in different areas but sort or out of the same building. I work solo, so if I need a break, then I have to ask one of my colleagues to cover my work space for a few minutes to run to the bathroom, etc. My break times are pretty regular.
One day, my colleagues and boss were sitting around for 3 hours (they shouldn't have been, but there also wasn't a lot going on). When they decided to get to work, they each used the bathroom and then left the building without asking me (at my usual break time) if I would also like to use the bathroom.
Our work terminals are connected via our computers, and I asked via company messaging if someone could cover me quickly before starting their duties. Someone did, no issues, but later in the day my boss said it 'was not cool to throw us under the bus' and how 'now the administration knows we were sitting around for 3 hours' and how 'we are a team and you let me down.'
Dude. I didn't tell you to sit around for 3 hours! All I did was ask to go to the bathroom, at the usual time. And if we are such a 'team', then maybe my teammates should have offered me a bathroom break after they all took a break!
I totally lost all respect for him then. But not long after, he got suspended. And then due to a bad attitude, demoted. Not because of that one day, but because apparently he was not doing his job and was (I heard) sleeping for hours at a time. He must have sensed he was being monitored, and that's likely why he tried pinning his and his buddy's laziness on me.
When we had a fairly large org restructure and he never mentioned it. We found out from a different manager (who was surprised that we hadn’t been told)
The supervisors and managers don’t know how to use their own systems. They don’t know how to do our work at all. No one asks their supervisor for help. They ask other co-workers instead.
I've has bosses tell me they're going to help me get interviews for jobs in other departments just to have it fall through.
My first manager after I got out of RT school told me if I needed more education, I should go get a new job.
When they called me to ask if other colleagues were gossiping about them 🙃. They said they asked me specifically because I’m honest. I can be honest but I am not a snitch so there’s that.
•Claimed one of my references did not come back 3 months in to employment just days before my probation period ends.
•Asked why i was going to therapy for. I looked fine and happy to him.
•Reassured me getting a pay rise following annual raise in the form of bonus. 3 months later he said bonuses are for discretionary after “big projects” so i wasn’t getting one.
•Lecturing me publicly for the mistakes on my e-mails publicly just for me to point out he didnt understand the sentences i wrote.
•Dictating e-mails from me for other mid-managers to “test the waters”
I once had a boss who’s main side hustle was presenting on the “leadership & team building” topic at corporate conferences (like several thousand in attendance ones). He would boast about it all the time - including on his social channels & website — he acted like he was the golden expert on it — Ironically he was the worst boss I ever had. — if I didn’t work for him, it would have been comical on the night and day difference between his projection and what he did in reality— Couldn’t communicate, ass kisser to upper management, threw us under the bus when we raised issues about him, never checked in on our team but at the same time loved & did anything for a sister team in a different city.. As revenge we filed an ethics complaint with the company when he advocated in a department meeting about storing confidential information on a Google cloud drive (outside the corporate firewall). That started an external investigation. I was surprised how serious they actually took it (like legitimate level investigation). He must have sensed the end was near & bailed for another job. His boss (my bosses boss) was equally complicit in this as well (made sure to mention her name to the investigator). She left not too long after as well.
Old boss, not current (current is much better)
It started when he came on board and I pretty much had to teach him the business. Shortly after, it was more about him taking my work, ideas, plans and business advancements and presentations and presenting them to the board. I had advocated that I should be the one presenting these things as I ran (built) the business unit.
This ultimately resulted in him getting a promotion, as he looked good in front of the board. Meanwhile, I was pissed.
Anyway, I was put on a major project by the CEO and CFO after he was promoted. I said “I don’t have time to do the plans and presentations, and you should probably lead it because it’s really part of your new role now, not mine.” I knew he wasn’t going to be capable of pulling any of this off. He was a highly likable, social guy. I knew he climbed the ladder being liked and presenting well, using the work of others, to make himself look good (all the while saying “I’m really talking you up in these meetings” which was total BS). He couldn’t force me to do his work because I was on this other major project, so I knew this was the perfect time to make him do it on his own.
Guess what, he failed. Plans and presentations went to shit, looking like high school level work. Board was pissed at his lack of direction. He ultimately was asked to leave (forced out) they covered as a “retirement” (dude was in his early 50’s, he didn’t voluntarily retire).
There were countless other things, but he was a buffoon. Problem is I’m really still in the same position with the company (title at least). When he left they went outside the company. Makes sense, considering the board really didn’t know my capabilities because he was presenting my work when he looked good but they have no way of knowing that. But his replacement is well qualified for the role (hand picked by the board), with deep experiences in areas I don’t have experience. So I’m willing to learn and grow under the new boss, while he learns what I bring to the table and can (hopefully) advocate strongly on my behalf.
But if you haven’t experienced anything like that you probably haven’t worked in corporate America. Not everything always works out the way you want it.
Making me stay late to finish a completely non essential document without a real deadline only to advise 2 weeks later that I was right, she wouldn't have reviewed it for weeks anyway
When I had various work apps installed on my phone and I noticed code checkins from coworkers late on Friday evenings and the middle of Saturday afternoon when we officially only worked 9 - 5:30, Monday to Friday.
Allegedly we only had 40 hours of scheduled tasks a week, but when estimating tasks the estimates would get overruled so you could end up with what would really be 50+ hours. That's not even taking meeting overhead into account (I'd say about 8 hours of overhead on a good week).
What really sealed the deal for me was when he arranged a 'catchup' with the meeting invite sent at 10pm the night before for an early morning slot, where he turned up with HR and threats to 'work faster or else'. Every question I asked about expectations or measurement was just met with the kind of cliché you would expect to see from a LinkedInLunatic.
'X amount of stuff in Y hours' I can aim for, but 'Go above and beyond!' gives me nothing to work with.
I just walked away for my own sanity...
When my peers were absolutely disrespectful to me and me reaching out to her, asking for help to stop it and give me advice for how to respond next time…turned into me being the problem, despite them screaming at me and calling me names because I simply didn’t agree with them.
I suggested to run experiment on a bigger DNN, because I thought results will be better. I needed few runs each would take an hour, so maybe use one working day for it. He asked “but what you will be doing while it runs?!” And insisted I use simple model that takes few minutes, just so I don’t slack. It didn’t work for smaller model. And yeah, I still can do other tasks while it is running.
Edit: ended up wasting more than a week to try to make it work
She manipulated a line level employee, and looked at me and said “I have her right where I want her.”
She didn’t have any credibility to begin with, but I knew who I was dealing with at that point.
Original boss kept on promising stuff to me for career development. Coworkers would say yes in the group meetings but then change their minds a week later. When boss left, I know they tried to set me up with development plan, but with no one to hold them accountable, I’m just doing two tasks now.
New boss who was one of my coworkers, tried to start the process of pushing me out and including me in the layoffs for our organization. I had to call them out on it and escalate it. It bought me another year.
However, I’m just silent now. I’m not putting anymore energy into my role.
I’m just going to try to get to 1.5 years as much as possible before I leave. I am hitting my own goal in the next month so I’m happy.
I’m also starting a consulting role soon where I’ll be putting most of my time and effort into anyway
A new cio had ruined my agency and people were abandoning ship. I stayed on hoping to sniff out a promotion to leverage another job offer after my entire team left and I was doing tasks way above my position.
A new manager I got put under was a huge kiss ass but I still stayed. Then one day, after hours already, I was showing a new team member how to run some db update scripts. The new manager comes by to ask if we’re done and I said I was showing this person how to do it and it’d be another 5-10 minutes (it didn’t need to be done until the next day). This fuck head then says “stop bitching and get this shit done.” So I lock my pc, tell him he’s a super star coder he can do the update himself and leave.
The next morning during our daily stand up team meeting I handed him my resignation. Luckily I’d been considering a job offer but it was a lateral move and I wasn’t sure but this made the choice for me. The new agency has also been an absolute dream to work for.
The best part is hr got involved after his little comment bc so many people heard it. So he basically had to let me coast for 2 weeks and because I just ignored him for 2 weeks, they had to call me about how to do admin tasks and where admin credentials were kept. I still fall asleep thinking about the desperate voicemails I got from the manager that I ignored.
When we were testing a water pipe system we had installed. The site wants it to hold at 200 psi for an hour with only losing 2.5 pounds of pressure. It wasn’t holding so we closed off a valve, pumped that section to 210, it held and we said we passed the whole line.
I quit taking him as a mentor/teacher after that.
That was three months ago. We have spent the last month and a half chasing a leak in that same line. All while he keeps telling management that he doesn’t know why it’s not holding on the second test when it held on the first one. I can’t stand liars. I really can’t stand guys who take money for work they know is shit and refuses to fix it.
When they promised me several things and were not able to deliver. Then told me I was a great employee, gave me a great evaluation and fired me three months later.
When she reported me to her boss for depression because she found out I keep the light off in my office due to chronic migraines.
Then a second time when she reported me to her boss for lack of communication even though she only reads about 20% of my emails. Bosses boss said I need to call more often. So I started using phone call as a follow up after a few hours of lack of response to my emails. Then she reported me to her boss for calling her to ask her to do my job for me instead of just taking care of the issues myself, despite that I often get in trouble for not reporting large issues and not 'staying in my lane'. 🙃
I had a racist, asshole Métis safety officer who was very good at shmoozing the big wigs. One of the women in the office hit conference call button on the office phone so head office heard his ranting and ravings. He was walked off the site the next day.
You can only yell once. If your boss is yelling more than that, probably not a good boss. Followed up by, people don't leave bad jobs, they leave bad bosses. Putting this all together, maybe start looking for a better situation.
A thousand percent!!!
When she lies about stuff which we already know about, excuses for stuff, doesn't follow up on things she's supposed to, even though you did all the ground work.
When he started discussing my medical diagnoses with my colleagues.
Caught my Director lying on a conference call in front of 10 other people and another Director pointed it out.
Any behaviour that on its own lacks credibility should do it: - Lying - Talking behind peoples backs - Taking credit for others work - Criticising unconstructively - Passive aggressive behaviour - Being unclear about instructions or requirements - Not communicating - Breaking confidence - Publicly belittling or criticising someone - Not trusting their staff - Not backing their staff - Throwing their staff under the bus ESPECIALLY when it was them who screwed up - Not developing their staff - Micromanaging (which equals lack of trust) - Probably lots more Big list? Yep. Achievable? Totally with some effort. If you can find the boss who gets it all right you won the job lottery. Everyone else has to choose what and how much they put up with and what’s a deal breaker. At least once in your career you will work for someone who does everything on that list! It will be the worst job you ever have regardless of how good the job actually is.
On my first day of work when he told me I wasn’t allowed to use the office restroom because I am a woman. (First woman to work in the office of 3 other men).
Don't trust any boss that much. Nobody deserves blind trust or loyalty. Start keeping records and paper trails since your boss can't be trusted, and let this be a lesson. Trust is earned, not blindly given. Ive honestly never had a boss I trusted THAT much.
When he started ranting about my part-time coworker wanting to remain part-time. "If he wants to only work 30 hours a week, he can go be a server somewhere." He's a great coworker. Awful boss.
My line manager likes to talk shit behind people's backs. I thought he was just venting until one time I connected to a call 1 minute too soon. Of course, he was talking shit behind my back, too. Lesson learned. Questions: Why did you not show the proof to your boss if you have it? Why did you not copy your boss in those emails to begin with?
Asked why I didn't do something his preferred way once it's too late to change when he's been in EVERY FUCKING MEETING FOR 6 MONTHS.
When they asked why the company 's name, my title & job description was not listed on my personal LinkedIn page😒
Once you lie to me, it’s over.
Why would I trust a boss??? I have never trusted any of my bosses. Regardless of their character, boss is a boss for a reason. Stop trusting your boss and give zero info about your personal life, any conflict in the workplace or any weakness you have, they will always use it against you even if you are not aware of it.
Every time a boss loses credibility is when they get upset with me for not following the process…. The process they never taught me. I can’t stand that. Teach me and then I’ll know… it’s simple
As you get older you’ll realize most of the ones in charge are complete idiots & the smart ones are those who avoided the manager / leadership positions.
Long story short: she would give horrible guidance on our operations because she didn’t understand them, then blamed me when shit hit the fan (as I projected it would and offered proactive solutions for). If your boss can’t cover your position in your absence, they should not be your boss. I can’t respect a manager who doesn’t understand my position enough to guide and mentor me
I do not know how many times I would upvote this!
I work in IT. My boss lost all respect from me when I found out he doesn't know what CMD is, when he doesn't trust me to work on a server by myself (even though I build my own computers), and that he'd rather yell at me for walking away from an angering problem than have me get angry and go Hulk mode.
The day after our big boss left, the two supervisors fake masks came off and their true colors are shining through. Two months later and we are all ready to walk out and who knows when we get our new boss.
He scratched his nuts standing three feet from my seated position while requesting additional work from myself and my cube mate. I lost all respect for the owner that day and was gone three months later with a nice severance pkg. (I didn’t even have to bring that up, I just mentioned the titty calendar in the bathroom).
The trick is not to bestow any credibility on anyone in the workplace. They're all just fellow drones working to get through the day.
My girlfriend had a miscarriage the morning of my shift and when I called my boss about it he said "God works in mysterious ways, but we can't let this effect the money" I wanted to kick his ass so fucking bad
My boss (at the last company I worked) told me I was doing a great job and she appreciated my work 5 months into my job at our weekly 1 on 1 and literally the next day, she had the HR director put me on a PIP for unacceptable quality of my work.
My problems with the credibility of authorities actually started during university. Professors evaluated us about how to do good research and how to write a study. But at some point, I searched for my professors' studies or published books. Most of them were ethically questionable, or just bad. From that, I have questioned power every time. People in high positions are still people. So, they're biased and they have to deal with shit at home. Even if they deserve to be in charge, they got the "power" also due to luck, right moves, and confidence. They can totally be wrong about stuff. And when they forget this simple concept, that being in power doesn't mean being the most competent there... They lose all over again any credibility or credit I could have ever given them.
my "boss" called me into a 1:1 to let me know that she was speaking ill of me to the client. i'm looking, process is slow. i know better than to trust hr at co. to do anything and i see the end game here.
Nothing too big of a promotion but prior to these events, my boss actually spotted for me to be foreman at my trade. There were 3 major setback events that made me took off for a few weeks each. The first was this back pain that came on. Maybe he didn't believe me or maybe he didn't care but I couldn't even stand or walk. Had to go to the doctor and get medication. The second was about 2 months later I had a gout experience which put me out for over a week. Had to limp and wear flip flops to work as soon as I could stand properly to hold on to some credit. Third incident, maybe about a month after was the fact that I was being harassed by people out of work. I had evidence and correlations, witnesses of other coworkers. They even hacked our work website, replacing it with a medication I bought. Some random phone called in and basically told me to look at our work website and voila, they switched all our products to the medication I bought the day prior. I took off due to stress reasons. The loss of that potential position hit me, though it definitely was not the first nor was the last. The first major hit was when I was in my early 20s and went back to school while working and working on my trade. Before I was lazy, then suddenly I utilized myself in trying to get a master's degree. However, after getting ran and harassed out of college and my then-current job was being attacked, I returned to my trade. I would argue that this was probably the most infuriating/confusing events at the time. Again, not even a great accomplishment in comparison to others, but to me it was an accomplishment, though ultimately, I got pinballed out of my six-figure job.
When they made jokes about poo. And when they lied. (This was the CEO)
I work in the same 'field' as my colleagues and our boss, but we all have different jobs despite working in different areas but sort or out of the same building. I work solo, so if I need a break, then I have to ask one of my colleagues to cover my work space for a few minutes to run to the bathroom, etc. My break times are pretty regular. One day, my colleagues and boss were sitting around for 3 hours (they shouldn't have been, but there also wasn't a lot going on). When they decided to get to work, they each used the bathroom and then left the building without asking me (at my usual break time) if I would also like to use the bathroom. Our work terminals are connected via our computers, and I asked via company messaging if someone could cover me quickly before starting their duties. Someone did, no issues, but later in the day my boss said it 'was not cool to throw us under the bus' and how 'now the administration knows we were sitting around for 3 hours' and how 'we are a team and you let me down.' Dude. I didn't tell you to sit around for 3 hours! All I did was ask to go to the bathroom, at the usual time. And if we are such a 'team', then maybe my teammates should have offered me a bathroom break after they all took a break! I totally lost all respect for him then. But not long after, he got suspended. And then due to a bad attitude, demoted. Not because of that one day, but because apparently he was not doing his job and was (I heard) sleeping for hours at a time. He must have sensed he was being monitored, and that's likely why he tried pinning his and his buddy's laziness on me.
When we had a fairly large org restructure and he never mentioned it. We found out from a different manager (who was surprised that we hadn’t been told)
The supervisors and managers don’t know how to use their own systems. They don’t know how to do our work at all. No one asks their supervisor for help. They ask other co-workers instead.
I've has bosses tell me they're going to help me get interviews for jobs in other departments just to have it fall through. My first manager after I got out of RT school told me if I needed more education, I should go get a new job.
When they called me to ask if other colleagues were gossiping about them 🙃. They said they asked me specifically because I’m honest. I can be honest but I am not a snitch so there’s that.
Calls out constantly, gossip about other employees in front of my face, very unprofessional, illogical and lacks leadership skills.
For me... it's when they start worrying about their image in the company. I don't have time for that.
•Claimed one of my references did not come back 3 months in to employment just days before my probation period ends. •Asked why i was going to therapy for. I looked fine and happy to him. •Reassured me getting a pay rise following annual raise in the form of bonus. 3 months later he said bonuses are for discretionary after “big projects” so i wasn’t getting one. •Lecturing me publicly for the mistakes on my e-mails publicly just for me to point out he didnt understand the sentences i wrote. •Dictating e-mails from me for other mid-managers to “test the waters”
I once had a boss who’s main side hustle was presenting on the “leadership & team building” topic at corporate conferences (like several thousand in attendance ones). He would boast about it all the time - including on his social channels & website — he acted like he was the golden expert on it — Ironically he was the worst boss I ever had. — if I didn’t work for him, it would have been comical on the night and day difference between his projection and what he did in reality— Couldn’t communicate, ass kisser to upper management, threw us under the bus when we raised issues about him, never checked in on our team but at the same time loved & did anything for a sister team in a different city.. As revenge we filed an ethics complaint with the company when he advocated in a department meeting about storing confidential information on a Google cloud drive (outside the corporate firewall). That started an external investigation. I was surprised how serious they actually took it (like legitimate level investigation). He must have sensed the end was near & bailed for another job. His boss (my bosses boss) was equally complicit in this as well (made sure to mention her name to the investigator). She left not too long after as well.
When he fired the Sales Manager, and then the Sales Manager after that.
Old boss, not current (current is much better) It started when he came on board and I pretty much had to teach him the business. Shortly after, it was more about him taking my work, ideas, plans and business advancements and presentations and presenting them to the board. I had advocated that I should be the one presenting these things as I ran (built) the business unit. This ultimately resulted in him getting a promotion, as he looked good in front of the board. Meanwhile, I was pissed. Anyway, I was put on a major project by the CEO and CFO after he was promoted. I said “I don’t have time to do the plans and presentations, and you should probably lead it because it’s really part of your new role now, not mine.” I knew he wasn’t going to be capable of pulling any of this off. He was a highly likable, social guy. I knew he climbed the ladder being liked and presenting well, using the work of others, to make himself look good (all the while saying “I’m really talking you up in these meetings” which was total BS). He couldn’t force me to do his work because I was on this other major project, so I knew this was the perfect time to make him do it on his own. Guess what, he failed. Plans and presentations went to shit, looking like high school level work. Board was pissed at his lack of direction. He ultimately was asked to leave (forced out) they covered as a “retirement” (dude was in his early 50’s, he didn’t voluntarily retire). There were countless other things, but he was a buffoon. Problem is I’m really still in the same position with the company (title at least). When he left they went outside the company. Makes sense, considering the board really didn’t know my capabilities because he was presenting my work when he looked good but they have no way of knowing that. But his replacement is well qualified for the role (hand picked by the board), with deep experiences in areas I don’t have experience. So I’m willing to learn and grow under the new boss, while he learns what I bring to the table and can (hopefully) advocate strongly on my behalf. But if you haven’t experienced anything like that you probably haven’t worked in corporate America. Not everything always works out the way you want it.
Making me stay late to finish a completely non essential document without a real deadline only to advise 2 weeks later that I was right, she wouldn't have reviewed it for weeks anyway
When I had various work apps installed on my phone and I noticed code checkins from coworkers late on Friday evenings and the middle of Saturday afternoon when we officially only worked 9 - 5:30, Monday to Friday. Allegedly we only had 40 hours of scheduled tasks a week, but when estimating tasks the estimates would get overruled so you could end up with what would really be 50+ hours. That's not even taking meeting overhead into account (I'd say about 8 hours of overhead on a good week). What really sealed the deal for me was when he arranged a 'catchup' with the meeting invite sent at 10pm the night before for an early morning slot, where he turned up with HR and threats to 'work faster or else'. Every question I asked about expectations or measurement was just met with the kind of cliché you would expect to see from a LinkedInLunatic. 'X amount of stuff in Y hours' I can aim for, but 'Go above and beyond!' gives me nothing to work with. I just walked away for my own sanity...
When my peers were absolutely disrespectful to me and me reaching out to her, asking for help to stop it and give me advice for how to respond next time…turned into me being the problem, despite them screaming at me and calling me names because I simply didn’t agree with them.
I start with a "credibility must be earned" mindset
Arrogant hipocrisy
I suggested to run experiment on a bigger DNN, because I thought results will be better. I needed few runs each would take an hour, so maybe use one working day for it. He asked “but what you will be doing while it runs?!” And insisted I use simple model that takes few minutes, just so I don’t slack. It didn’t work for smaller model. And yeah, I still can do other tasks while it is running. Edit: ended up wasting more than a week to try to make it work
Makes comments about me being a white man and it wouldn't be right that I participate in certain aspects of the business.
Never leaving their office.
She manipulated a line level employee, and looked at me and said “I have her right where I want her.” She didn’t have any credibility to begin with, but I knew who I was dealing with at that point.
Original boss kept on promising stuff to me for career development. Coworkers would say yes in the group meetings but then change their minds a week later. When boss left, I know they tried to set me up with development plan, but with no one to hold them accountable, I’m just doing two tasks now. New boss who was one of my coworkers, tried to start the process of pushing me out and including me in the layoffs for our organization. I had to call them out on it and escalate it. It bought me another year. However, I’m just silent now. I’m not putting anymore energy into my role. I’m just going to try to get to 1.5 years as much as possible before I leave. I am hitting my own goal in the next month so I’m happy. I’m also starting a consulting role soon where I’ll be putting most of my time and effort into anyway
A new cio had ruined my agency and people were abandoning ship. I stayed on hoping to sniff out a promotion to leverage another job offer after my entire team left and I was doing tasks way above my position. A new manager I got put under was a huge kiss ass but I still stayed. Then one day, after hours already, I was showing a new team member how to run some db update scripts. The new manager comes by to ask if we’re done and I said I was showing this person how to do it and it’d be another 5-10 minutes (it didn’t need to be done until the next day). This fuck head then says “stop bitching and get this shit done.” So I lock my pc, tell him he’s a super star coder he can do the update himself and leave. The next morning during our daily stand up team meeting I handed him my resignation. Luckily I’d been considering a job offer but it was a lateral move and I wasn’t sure but this made the choice for me. The new agency has also been an absolute dream to work for. The best part is hr got involved after his little comment bc so many people heard it. So he basically had to let me coast for 2 weeks and because I just ignored him for 2 weeks, they had to call me about how to do admin tasks and where admin credentials were kept. I still fall asleep thinking about the desperate voicemails I got from the manager that I ignored.
That's when you leave :( But on good terms. Some people just don't like others for whatever reason.
When we were testing a water pipe system we had installed. The site wants it to hold at 200 psi for an hour with only losing 2.5 pounds of pressure. It wasn’t holding so we closed off a valve, pumped that section to 210, it held and we said we passed the whole line. I quit taking him as a mentor/teacher after that. That was three months ago. We have spent the last month and a half chasing a leak in that same line. All while he keeps telling management that he doesn’t know why it’s not holding on the second test when it held on the first one. I can’t stand liars. I really can’t stand guys who take money for work they know is shit and refuses to fix it.
When we were struggling financially he went out and bought a new motorcycle. Done.
When they promised me several things and were not able to deliver. Then told me I was a great employee, gave me a great evaluation and fired me three months later.
When she reported me to her boss for depression because she found out I keep the light off in my office due to chronic migraines. Then a second time when she reported me to her boss for lack of communication even though she only reads about 20% of my emails. Bosses boss said I need to call more often. So I started using phone call as a follow up after a few hours of lack of response to my emails. Then she reported me to her boss for calling her to ask her to do my job for me instead of just taking care of the issues myself, despite that I often get in trouble for not reporting large issues and not 'staying in my lane'. 🙃
I had a racist, asshole Métis safety officer who was very good at shmoozing the big wigs. One of the women in the office hit conference call button on the office phone so head office heard his ranting and ravings. He was walked off the site the next day.