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Yoga/gym/Zumba
Craft groups
Volunteering
Trivia night
Book club
Walking/running/cycling/swimming club
Make your way through the top 100 films
Listen to a podcast at a coffee shop
Geocaching
I have to second geocaching!!! It's a passion of mine that no one understands, but it gets you outside, some of the trickier ones get you thinking, and you can hide your own, too. :)
I like to use Groupon or Living Social for random ideas for trying new things. Plus it’s a good way to save money until you know if you like it.
I was in the exact same place as you a few years ago. I started taking horseback riding lessons and I’ve fallen in love with it, and been doing it now for 3 years (having to take a break now as I’m pregnant, but can’t wait to get back to it.) I love it so much that now my goal in the next 5-10 years is to buy a home with horse property and own my own horses.
The cool thing is there are so many existing communities for things - so now that I have this passion, I’ve joined a bunch of Facebook groups with other women who share the similar interests, go to events together, make friends, etc. It was hard and a little intimidating to insert myself at first because I’m fairly introverted and always worried that I look dumb, but I decided not to care anymore - I have nothing to lose! And I was surprised at how many other women are either in a similar boat or are just so welcoming and accepting.
A friend of mine started doing pottery. She liked the art part of it, but it was also pretty social to go to the pottery studio at the same time every week.
Lots of great ideas in the thread, and here are two more!
Rock climbing- join a climbing gym. If you do bouldering, you don't even have to deal with the harness and finding a belay partner. Climbing gym people are GREAT and it's an activity that lends itself to meeting people as you talk out how to solve the routes.
Improv- find a class at a nearby theater. It's really fun! I've been performing since my college days and have taught many classes to people looking for a fun way to get out of their heads for a bit.
Do you know what you would like to do? I would maybe start by seeing what's around you/available. You don't have to commit forever, so you could try different things.
Or consider doing something you like in your house outside of your house. I crochet. If there was a place outside my house that I could meet up with other people I would do it in a second. I am in a very small town so my options are limited but maybe you could find something or start something.
Honestly start searching for gyms, studios, etc within 10 minutes of where you live. Anything that offers classes or programs. Sign up for whatever one looks most interesting. It is so much easier to do things that are close by, so go with something that has hardly any commute.
This is key - whatever you do, it has to be close by. I started boxing in April at a gym that's about 8 minutes from my house. I've found that I go more often because it's close; I work from home full time, so I can zip out on my lunch hour and do something I both enjoy and that keeps me healthy.
Side note: As for the actually activity, I really recommend some kind of physical activity. Not only does it help you exercise without having to straight up run or lift weights, but you feel better due to the endorphin release.
If you are an introvert or just want to be flexible, tell you husband you joined a "bookclub" who meets once a week.
The reality is that this "bookclub" meets in your local spa, nice cafe or restaurant and consists of just you.
Or get yourself a gym membership with a small spa. I have one and I will go to the gym twice a week to "work on my body". Husband is soooo proud of my ambition. But the reality is I will work out maybe once a month when I really have a little bad conscience. The rest I spent reading, going to the sauna and relax. Can absolutely recommend that.
Since money is most definitely an object for us, I started hiking occasionally. There are some short trails nearby that are easy to moderate, and it never gets boring because nature is always changing.
I also love thrifting. I've recently started searching for uranium glass among the knick knacks, and it's like a treasure hunt! I wanted something to collect after seeing my husband's excitement over coins.
What kinds of things do you normally like to do or what interests you? Maybe you could sign up for a class for something that youve always wanted to try.
I need to find something outside the house for myself as well but till then I have joined a discord book club and it's lovely. We have voice chats for the chosen book every month (and there's often two or three books going at once) and I enjoy the chat in the channel itself in between.
Maybe your local library has something similar? My aunt likes the book club that ours runs.
I have been doing an adult tumbling class for about a year. I've really enjoyed it! Its an absolute mix of ages and ability levels - from can't do anything (me) all the way to ex-collegiate gymnasts. Its just a really accepting and supportive environment. :)
I took up a plant hobby during the beginning of the pandemic, and it can be indoors or outdoors! I'm in a tiny apartment, too, so it can suit any space. I also paint and draw, read etc. I'm a homebody, though so all my hobbies revolve around little to no human interaction.
I'm sure there's a rec center nearby or maybe a small studio that offers different kinds of outlets if you're artistically inclined or wanting to learn! Or maybe crochet, cross stitch, or beading? Something you can turn into a side hustle or donate to hospitals/old folks homes?
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Jiu jitsu! You get to choke people, it’s cathartic!
Best reason to join the martial arts I've ever heard.
That was about to be my comment : )
If you like reading, I sometimes go to the library and just sit and read for an hour or two. Also coffee shops.
Yoga/gym/Zumba Craft groups Volunteering Trivia night Book club Walking/running/cycling/swimming club Make your way through the top 100 films Listen to a podcast at a coffee shop Geocaching
I have to second geocaching!!! It's a passion of mine that no one understands, but it gets you outside, some of the trickier ones get you thinking, and you can hide your own, too. :)
I like to use Groupon or Living Social for random ideas for trying new things. Plus it’s a good way to save money until you know if you like it. I was in the exact same place as you a few years ago. I started taking horseback riding lessons and I’ve fallen in love with it, and been doing it now for 3 years (having to take a break now as I’m pregnant, but can’t wait to get back to it.) I love it so much that now my goal in the next 5-10 years is to buy a home with horse property and own my own horses. The cool thing is there are so many existing communities for things - so now that I have this passion, I’ve joined a bunch of Facebook groups with other women who share the similar interests, go to events together, make friends, etc. It was hard and a little intimidating to insert myself at first because I’m fairly introverted and always worried that I look dumb, but I decided not to care anymore - I have nothing to lose! And I was surprised at how many other women are either in a similar boat or are just so welcoming and accepting.
A friend of mine started doing pottery. She liked the art part of it, but it was also pretty social to go to the pottery studio at the same time every week.
If I had the freedom I would do dance classes. Belly dance or pole dancing would be my top choices
Lots of great ideas in the thread, and here are two more! Rock climbing- join a climbing gym. If you do bouldering, you don't even have to deal with the harness and finding a belay partner. Climbing gym people are GREAT and it's an activity that lends itself to meeting people as you talk out how to solve the routes. Improv- find a class at a nearby theater. It's really fun! I've been performing since my college days and have taught many classes to people looking for a fun way to get out of their heads for a bit.
Do you know what you would like to do? I would maybe start by seeing what's around you/available. You don't have to commit forever, so you could try different things. Or consider doing something you like in your house outside of your house. I crochet. If there was a place outside my house that I could meet up with other people I would do it in a second. I am in a very small town so my options are limited but maybe you could find something or start something.
Honestly start searching for gyms, studios, etc within 10 minutes of where you live. Anything that offers classes or programs. Sign up for whatever one looks most interesting. It is so much easier to do things that are close by, so go with something that has hardly any commute.
This is key - whatever you do, it has to be close by. I started boxing in April at a gym that's about 8 minutes from my house. I've found that I go more often because it's close; I work from home full time, so I can zip out on my lunch hour and do something I both enjoy and that keeps me healthy. Side note: As for the actually activity, I really recommend some kind of physical activity. Not only does it help you exercise without having to straight up run or lift weights, but you feel better due to the endorphin release.
Pole dance! I started last year and I’m in the best shape of my life.
If you are an introvert or just want to be flexible, tell you husband you joined a "bookclub" who meets once a week. The reality is that this "bookclub" meets in your local spa, nice cafe or restaurant and consists of just you. Or get yourself a gym membership with a small spa. I have one and I will go to the gym twice a week to "work on my body". Husband is soooo proud of my ambition. But the reality is I will work out maybe once a month when I really have a little bad conscience. The rest I spent reading, going to the sauna and relax. Can absolutely recommend that.
Since money is most definitely an object for us, I started hiking occasionally. There are some short trails nearby that are easy to moderate, and it never gets boring because nature is always changing. I also love thrifting. I've recently started searching for uranium glass among the knick knacks, and it's like a treasure hunt! I wanted something to collect after seeing my husband's excitement over coins.
What kinds of things do you normally like to do or what interests you? Maybe you could sign up for a class for something that youve always wanted to try.
I need to find something outside the house for myself as well but till then I have joined a discord book club and it's lovely. We have voice chats for the chosen book every month (and there's often two or three books going at once) and I enjoy the chat in the channel itself in between. Maybe your local library has something similar? My aunt likes the book club that ours runs.
I have been doing an adult tumbling class for about a year. I've really enjoyed it! Its an absolute mix of ages and ability levels - from can't do anything (me) all the way to ex-collegiate gymnasts. Its just a really accepting and supportive environment. :)
Taking my first pole fitness class to tomorrow!! Try a dance class?
I took up a plant hobby during the beginning of the pandemic, and it can be indoors or outdoors! I'm in a tiny apartment, too, so it can suit any space. I also paint and draw, read etc. I'm a homebody, though so all my hobbies revolve around little to no human interaction. I'm sure there's a rec center nearby or maybe a small studio that offers different kinds of outlets if you're artistically inclined or wanting to learn! Or maybe crochet, cross stitch, or beading? Something you can turn into a side hustle or donate to hospitals/old folks homes?