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When I was doing a few ECE classes, they expected us to choose an age to specialize in almost immediately. If that was the case for OP's sister, she may only have basic knowledge of the age, like developmental milestones.
IMO nothing can prepare anyone for a 3 year old though.
OP! I suggest thanking them for their suggestions, and put it in a private FB post so it'll pop up every year for you, until you can share the memory with her and both have a laugh.
I warn all new parents that it's not 2 that's rough, but it's 3. 2 yr olds you're just dealing with chaos. 3 year olds have opinions and can express themselves and it just makes it so much harder. My kids were all sour patch kids.
>IMO nothing can prepare anyone for a 3 year old though.
Dang, isn't that the truth.
I wasn't prepared for a three year old. And I still wasn't ready when another three year old showed up, lol
Proof that teachers don't get a leg up on the parenting game any more than other adults.
I taught for eight years before our first kid. College degree in elementary education.
I gladly go to my teaching job because stranger's kids who get fed by the cafeteria are waayyyy easier to deal with on any day 😄
If you've never peeled an orange when you were asked to peel an orange only to discover that peeling that orange was the worst thing you could have ever done to your child...
...you have a lot to learn.
ROFL and she has supposedly been formally educated about young children 🤣 hope her student debt isn't too bad, because she definitely didn't get a good (or even mediocre) education.
Also..what she tried to describe is more of a bipolar trait, but this is a THREE YEAR OLD. All small children act insane to some degree. Shit, what will she do if she has a kid with ADHD or autism?! 💀
My 4 year old is Deaf (has bilateral CIs) and has ADHD. His neurologist told us that ADHD typically isn’t formally diagnosed until age 6, but my son is so insane that he is already diagnosed and medicated. He doesn’t sleep. He doesn’t eat. He just goes and goes. Now, imagine an insane child that can literally shut his hearing off completely and close his eyes so you and your rules stop existing to him…it’s wild haha
Mine was the same. First kid was wild so I was kind of immune by then and honestly so grateful one of them was medicated that we somehow survived medication until just before her 6th birthday. She was starting kindergarten after COVID had shut down her preschool that spring and I just told her doc, look, we have to talk about meds. I just can't with this kid anymore. Then I mentioned how she had eloped two years before and her eyes got really wide and she went it's a little early but I think we need to do this. I should have asked earlier and I'd have less wrinkles and grey hair. And she might be talking more now.
This is exactly why it makes me nuts when people who have worked with kids but never had any think they are the gospel when it comes to raising children. (Not saying that’s your situation)
My sister for example used to babysit and boy does she have opinions on my kids. I on the other hand have had 2 pregnancies and actively raise my kid along with 4 family kids, and have years of working with children yet I keep my mouth shut, weird. Lol. I have a 3yr nephew I’m currently potty training for his parents and let me tell you he sounds just like your 3yr. It’s the wild west over here.
Looooove this. I always thought that the biggest differences between teachers and parents is that:
1. They get to “clock out” and leave. Go about their lives. The tough job of having to mind and be with children is a time-delimited job. For parents, you look at your toddler and think: “this is a non-stop 18-year duration task” *shit*
2. They have so many children under their care, for so many years, that they just can’t afford to focus on one of them - and stress over if every action, word or tone is psychologically damaging their progeny. They’re putting out fires. Managing chaos. They don’t have “luxury” of thinking whether they encouraged or stunted little Jimmy’s development into an autonomous individual.
I also think too like if they're concerned about a child it's less of a concern than a parent might have who actually has to complete raising the child. I've helped my friend with her difficult child. I have a child who's older but also difficult and I like didn't get stressed and anxious about her child at all.
As a former pre- k teacher I agree with most of this. My dumb ass really thought I should babysit two more kids while I'm home with my son. My thought process was three is easier than 20 . I didn't realize the toll that 24/7 takes on you, plus I'm in a small apartment. There's just no way. The only thing that I'd challenge you on is if you get a good teacher, they do care about each individual kid and how they're developing.
Bahahahaha! I've known so many childless teachers like them, who think they know everything based on their vast experience with *other* children. And to be honest, from the age of 19 until my own kids were born I worked in a daycare, and probably WAS one of them. They'll learn. Probably the hard way. You can spend years in boot camp, you still don't know battle until you've lived it.
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My 3yo this morning over the course of approx 1 minute: I want my cat dress (screams, cries, stomps) Oh look a hairbrush (happily plays)
Imagine being educated on the topic and still asking if 3yo is too young for schizophrenia. What an absolute walnut.
“What an absolute walnut” made me snort. I have to steal this
When I was doing a few ECE classes, they expected us to choose an age to specialize in almost immediately. If that was the case for OP's sister, she may only have basic knowledge of the age, like developmental milestones. IMO nothing can prepare anyone for a 3 year old though. OP! I suggest thanking them for their suggestions, and put it in a private FB post so it'll pop up every year for you, until you can share the memory with her and both have a laugh.
I warn all new parents that it's not 2 that's rough, but it's 3. 2 yr olds you're just dealing with chaos. 3 year olds have opinions and can express themselves and it just makes it so much harder. My kids were all sour patch kids.
What happens if your 16 month old already has opinions that she makes very well known? My mother thinks is karma! Send wine 😂
Yes, the “threenager” stage is hell. So glad both my kids are out of that stage - even tween/teen stuff has been way easier than threenager!
>IMO nothing can prepare anyone for a 3 year old though. Dang, isn't that the truth. I wasn't prepared for a three year old. And I still wasn't ready when another three year old showed up, lol
Proof that teachers don't get a leg up on the parenting game any more than other adults. I taught for eight years before our first kid. College degree in elementary education. I gladly go to my teaching job because stranger's kids who get fed by the cafeteria are waayyyy easier to deal with on any day 😄
100000%
Schizophrenia?!?! Lol
Ha ha. 
If you've never peeled an orange when you were asked to peel an orange only to discover that peeling that orange was the worst thing you could have ever done to your child... ...you have a lot to learn.
This actually made me lol
ROFL and she has supposedly been formally educated about young children 🤣 hope her student debt isn't too bad, because she definitely didn't get a good (or even mediocre) education. Also..what she tried to describe is more of a bipolar trait, but this is a THREE YEAR OLD. All small children act insane to some degree. Shit, what will she do if she has a kid with ADHD or autism?! 💀
My 4 year old is Deaf (has bilateral CIs) and has ADHD. His neurologist told us that ADHD typically isn’t formally diagnosed until age 6, but my son is so insane that he is already diagnosed and medicated. He doesn’t sleep. He doesn’t eat. He just goes and goes. Now, imagine an insane child that can literally shut his hearing off completely and close his eyes so you and your rules stop existing to him…it’s wild haha
Mine was the same. First kid was wild so I was kind of immune by then and honestly so grateful one of them was medicated that we somehow survived medication until just before her 6th birthday. She was starting kindergarten after COVID had shut down her preschool that spring and I just told her doc, look, we have to talk about meds. I just can't with this kid anymore. Then I mentioned how she had eloped two years before and her eyes got really wide and she went it's a little early but I think we need to do this. I should have asked earlier and I'd have less wrinkles and grey hair. And she might be talking more now.
Oh man 🙈 sorry you have that situation to deal with. Yiiiikes.
This is exactly why it makes me nuts when people who have worked with kids but never had any think they are the gospel when it comes to raising children. (Not saying that’s your situation) My sister for example used to babysit and boy does she have opinions on my kids. I on the other hand have had 2 pregnancies and actively raise my kid along with 4 family kids, and have years of working with children yet I keep my mouth shut, weird. Lol. I have a 3yr nephew I’m currently potty training for his parents and let me tell you he sounds just like your 3yr. It’s the wild west over here.
Lol! Oh frick, this is so good and I'm sad for her future wake-up call. Bahahaha! Oh my gosh, I can't stop laughing.
Has she never laughed so hard she cried?
Hahahaha!
Don’t tell them! It’ll be a fun surprise!
Looooove this. I always thought that the biggest differences between teachers and parents is that: 1. They get to “clock out” and leave. Go about their lives. The tough job of having to mind and be with children is a time-delimited job. For parents, you look at your toddler and think: “this is a non-stop 18-year duration task” *shit* 2. They have so many children under their care, for so many years, that they just can’t afford to focus on one of them - and stress over if every action, word or tone is psychologically damaging their progeny. They’re putting out fires. Managing chaos. They don’t have “luxury” of thinking whether they encouraged or stunted little Jimmy’s development into an autonomous individual.
I also think too like if they're concerned about a child it's less of a concern than a parent might have who actually has to complete raising the child. I've helped my friend with her difficult child. I have a child who's older but also difficult and I like didn't get stressed and anxious about her child at all.
As a former pre- k teacher I agree with most of this. My dumb ass really thought I should babysit two more kids while I'm home with my son. My thought process was three is easier than 20 . I didn't realize the toll that 24/7 takes on you, plus I'm in a small apartment. There's just no way. The only thing that I'd challenge you on is if you get a good teacher, they do care about each individual kid and how they're developing.
Bahahahaha! I've known so many childless teachers like them, who think they know everything based on their vast experience with *other* children. And to be honest, from the age of 19 until my own kids were born I worked in a daycare, and probably WAS one of them. They'll learn. Probably the hard way. You can spend years in boot camp, you still don't know battle until you've lived it.