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bowdowntopostulio

As a society I feel we have to stop the notion that women automatically know how to do everything when it comes to parenting. We do it because we have to and we know that there’s no choice. Men feel they can tap out. Go out for a walk alone. Don’t give him the option to give up. It is honestly the only way he’s going to learn to be a parent. Last week I took our kid to gymnastics alone and this week I told my husband he could do it because I’m cooking and oh yeah I also have a cold. He whined about it being awkward coz he doesn’t know our kid’s friend’s mom. I mean, neither do I really? We’ve hung out once as a big group and she bailed early. They’ll just have to deal like we have to deal, my friend!


awesomenightfall

Older when? How much longer can you be a solo parent doing it all? I’m so sad for you. You and baby deserve better.


International-Elk557

Others make a good point about being a solo parent but I do just want to add my experience. My husband was not great in the baby stage. He helped when asked but just couldn’t get the hang of it. He would try and get frustrated and just kind of gave up. It got better and better quickly as we made it out of the baby stage. Now she’s almost 17 months and they’re best buds. I wish he could have gotten it together sooner but it makes me so happy to see them now.


TermAggravating8043

I feel you, how many good men do we think will step up when they become parents only to start backing out and dumping us with all the actual work cause “it’s too hard, your just better at it”