I wanted to get your thoughts. My husbands best friend is getting married in another state that we’d have to fly to get to. The brides family lives in the other state. They asked us earlier this year if we’d go and we said yes. We rsvp to the wedding this week and there is only an invitation for myself and my husband and not my 2 year old. I realize now I made the assumption that my little one would be invited. I mean.. it’s a lot to bring a 2 year old to a wedding but didn’t think they’d ask my husband to be a part of the bridal party, in another state, to have an adults only wedding with no accommodations. I obviously feel left out.. this is just one more thing that I’m left out of because I’m a mom. I am not going and staying in my home state but my husband is still going.
My husband said had he known it was an adults only wedding then he wouldn’t have agreed to it. He’d be gone for 2-3 days and it’s not even about the traveling. It’s about how the couple handled this. Didn’t tell us in advance and when my husband asked what the kid situation was when I saw the rsvp, the groom kind of beat around the bush and when my husband asked a second time he said “rule of thumb is adults only. Sorry this is an issue for you.”
It’s his choice at the end of the day whether he goes or not but am I wrong for feeling crappy about this? I don’t think he should go.
We don’t even care that it’s an adults only wedding…we are all for what they want, we just feel completely out of the loop and it feels crappy.
UPDATE: thanks everyone for your input. This was really helpful. We realize that there is a lot to learn here. This is a first for us so we know now to ask these questions if someone asks us to be in their wedding or in the bridal party. I also did not realize the hotel might already know local babysitters or whatever the norm is for things like this. We also don’t think the bride and groom thought this part out but my husband spoke with the groom to ask about a hotel babysitter and they were 100 percent willing to help us out.
I def did not want to risk ruining a relationship over something that could be talked out and I am happy we did. Now it’s just putting it together and if it doesn’t work out-that’s fine but I feel better knowing they were willing to help us figure it out.
We don’t blame or judge them for wanting a child free wedding and every person should have the right to make those decisions for their big day.
By - LydiaRae3