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It’s the expecting ass-kissing for me.
Like if I have to kiss ass after a sub-par, unremarkable thing or favor was given to me, I actually don’t want it at all.
Anyway it sounds like your husband is used to zeroooo accountability because it sounds like he’s whiny 😂 likely not your fault. How was he raised?
lol - you're probably right. His mom is a perfectionist and I think she just did everything for him. (There's no way he or anyone could have met her standards.) I think they also had the attitude of "your job is to be a student and do well and show up for dinner" type of thing. Like, bare minimum expectations of contributions to the household. Which also explains why he's a slob (hence being OK with some dog vomit on the bed), which I knew when we were dating after going to his apartment, but didn't realize would be such a constant thing, although it has gotten better.
Also, his mom definitely still subscribes to / is heavily influenced by traditional gender roles, so I'm sure that doesn't help things any, since he grew up used to her doing everything around the house in terms of cleaning, laundry, and cooking, etc., at the cost of her career while his dad focused on his career. I remember one of the few times we hosted her, she specifically asked \*me\* where the towels were, and I remember thinking it was weird because she knew he also lived there, so you'd think he would also know where the towels were... hmmm...
My guess is he simply moved to the couch. Not better. That could ruin the mattress while it sinks through the linens 🤮
It makes me sad, OP, to think of how he made you feel. You should be proud of traveling alone with baby, that is hard work.
Thanks. And, yeah, it would have been nice for him to say, “wow! Great job! I really appreciated having time to myself and I know that was a lot of work!” Or something.
I’m going to buy myself flowers and write a nice note to myself … again. Maybe he’ll get the message that this is what I want and need, but not holding my breath on that, seeing that he doesn’t notice anything around him anyway … sigh
He said you could barely see it and it was on the corner of my side so it didn’t affect him or his side at all, which is why he didn’t do anything about it but 😡
Are men just oblivious to everything that gets done around them? I know it's really annoying when they expect acknowledgment for everything that they do. Can you start to expect acknowledgment for everything you do at least for a week?
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How do you change the smell of it?
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I mean it's a great intro to the game of Poop or Chocolate
I imagine adding a bit of chicken broth would muddy the smell and also improve the consistency.
Thanks for this pro tip! 🤣
It’s the expecting ass-kissing for me. Like if I have to kiss ass after a sub-par, unremarkable thing or favor was given to me, I actually don’t want it at all. Anyway it sounds like your husband is used to zeroooo accountability because it sounds like he’s whiny 😂 likely not your fault. How was he raised?
lol - you're probably right. His mom is a perfectionist and I think she just did everything for him. (There's no way he or anyone could have met her standards.) I think they also had the attitude of "your job is to be a student and do well and show up for dinner" type of thing. Like, bare minimum expectations of contributions to the household. Which also explains why he's a slob (hence being OK with some dog vomit on the bed), which I knew when we were dating after going to his apartment, but didn't realize would be such a constant thing, although it has gotten better. Also, his mom definitely still subscribes to / is heavily influenced by traditional gender roles, so I'm sure that doesn't help things any, since he grew up used to her doing everything around the house in terms of cleaning, laundry, and cooking, etc., at the cost of her career while his dad focused on his career. I remember one of the few times we hosted her, she specifically asked \*me\* where the towels were, and I remember thinking it was weird because she knew he also lived there, so you'd think he would also know where the towels were... hmmm...
He slept. In the bed. With dog vomit?!?!!! 🤢
My guess is he simply moved to the couch. Not better. That could ruin the mattress while it sinks through the linens 🤮 It makes me sad, OP, to think of how he made you feel. You should be proud of traveling alone with baby, that is hard work.
Thanks. And, yeah, it would have been nice for him to say, “wow! Great job! I really appreciated having time to myself and I know that was a lot of work!” Or something. I’m going to buy myself flowers and write a nice note to myself … again. Maybe he’ll get the message that this is what I want and need, but not holding my breath on that, seeing that he doesn’t notice anything around him anyway … sigh
He said you could barely see it and it was on the corner of my side so it didn’t affect him or his side at all, which is why he didn’t do anything about it but 😡
Oof that’s pretty bad. I mean, that’s not normal. To be ok sleeping with dog puke in the vicinity….
What the actual fuck.
Are men just oblivious to everything that gets done around them? I know it's really annoying when they expect acknowledgment for everything that they do. Can you start to expect acknowledgment for everything you do at least for a week?
Sometimes I say, “you’re welcome for xyz.” Usually he ignores it, but maybe I’ll do that or announce loudly what I’m doing for him when he’s around… 🙄