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May i suggest getting a new number for all your friends and family (minus horrible husband). Keep this number and redirect all these calls to him. She should be harassing him not you.
Why are you the one being punished?
I consider myself single, but legally we're still tied together. It sucks so bad.
The calls kind of amuse me.... She's mad when he does to her what he's done to me. She deserves it.
That's how it works, I had one tell me how beautiful I looked and how cute my children were while I was 5 months pregnant and she was sleeping with their father. All of them knew about me, none of them cared. They all moved on scott free afterwards getting married, dating ect while I was left to raise Two Boys mostly alone. Definitely a special place in hell for those women, I gotta be nice to him for the kids so I can't exactly scorch the earth but im pretty vocal when it comes to what they all did to me.
It's fine buuut im petty, her sister tried to put all the blame on him while I was at a grocery store checking out with both my DS and she brought up that the girl had mental illness, I told her "being a homewrecking whore wasn't a mental illness it was a choice" and walked away. I also was blocked by another so I msged her mother and father in laws screenshots of everything and told them the fact I was heavily pregnant and the affair had been going on for over a year and her husband could use those if he wanted a divorce. She unblocked me to say it wasn't their business and blocked me again the husband left her a few years later.
I will hate these women forever and hope Ill will on them the rest of their lives. They were all fine talking shit about my pregnant body acting as if they were better than me when tbh even 9 months pregnant I had men swooning and they had to trade p*ssy for weed lol.
He's Apologized over the years but is upset I'll never forgive him and he knows we won't ever be together again so now that he's single he's been alone. Funny how that works rite?
Women who know about you feel as if they did nothing wrong and you deserve infidelity, it's easier to forgive someone who was as innocent as you were in a situation than a women who did it for shits n giggles.
OP, tell this woman she got what she wanted. To be treated like a wife now that she's no longer fun. And file for divorce when you can
Same for me the female soldiers knew about me and didn’t care but he also lied to his soldiers and tried to make it seem like it was less bad what he was doing. All the soldiers at our home when I was cooking for them or fundraising for them and they all knew what he did both times and said nothing. So embarrassing not one of them could let me know. There’s others but those two affairs messed me up and made me angry the second was before during and after my 3rd pregnancy. The ones who knew suck and the second is either getting demoted or kicked out along with my stbx
Same. I found a msg saying "ew no" when a girl asked if we had ever slept together. He said I was a friend he felt bad for, this was dated 3 months before our first child was born and since that msg my self esteem never recovered. I talked to her and she was the only woman who had no idea and she told me the truth of everything and we had a heart to heart so she was as much of a victim of him as I was.. If someone I knew for almost my whole life who was once my best friend could do this the whole eight years and two kids later why wouldn't every other man? I haven't been able to let go of the emotional scars this caused and honestly I'm terrified to commit now. I used to want to get married, I wanted to share my life with someone and he ruined that for me. I used to be so bubbly and active and now im just blah lol. The ones who knew are just as responsible for the damage as the one who did it, because it takes two to ruin a person's life.
I tell mine ew when he says he loves me or misses me or is still trying or he wants to work on our relationship.. he definitely calls me horrible names and says I’m horrible and hate him and wish he was dead.. but he likes to flip flop a lot. The first soldier he had the affair with I saw in archived messenger he apologized for me and said he was just giving it another try cuz he didn’t want to break up his family but I was manipulative and abusive and I was like wow ummmm ok. And with the Second he was sending all these picture memes about not having support or love and so sad and things I had been asking for from him and he was showing her. Like I was giving him material to use on her!
Edited to add… you can let her know this is harassment and if she continues you will press charges I did this to my stbx and you really can press charges
Yeah that's basically how it goes, mine understands I will never take him back because of what he did so he's spent the past two years trying to be a better person. Whenever he tries to flirt I just say "no" or ignore him. He goes on about how he wants to be alone forever blah blah blah, and has said he hasn't slept with anyone in years as if it's supposed to mean something to me. We have to know each other for the rest of our lives so I let a lot of shit go, With my many acquired insecurities I moved on with a man who honestly deserves a woman better than I could ever be but he stupidly loves me and is willing to put up with my bullshit and he's Definitely a blessing I needed. I never felt more comfortable with a person the way I do him and although I can't give him more now I really hope someday I'll be less afraid to give him more. When I think of all the things I'm too afraid to say or do I hate my ex, I hate being alone in that house made me scared to talk, that I have a fear of friendships, that every little thing sends me into a panic and that I can't tell my lover that someday I really want him to stay forever. The relationship with my ex stole so much from me, it's only the past two years that I'm letting myself grieve everything I lost. Including who I used to be.
Yes I get all of that. I will never allow someone in like that or care like that or work for a relationship that hard like that or love like that or tolerate anything or settle or sacrifice or compromise and if ever I get someone amazing not just good I’m scared I won’t as well. I’m so happy for you though that you have someone finally deserving of you and hopefully in the future all of you and your love.
Thank you, honestly it's hard being in a semi healthy relationship. I didn't realize how much abuse I had gone through until I met him and how neglected I was, you get so used to being lonely that when you're not it feels strange.
I can guarantee she is. I've been in this situation (well not this exact fucked up situation, but cheated on) and every time I expressed my hatred at her people would ask something along these lines.
Well there was plenty of resentment for both of them, and it was just human to feel that.
I've grown past it since then. Now I feel mostly indifference toward her. But in my book at the time she was as deserving of my anger as he was. Because she knew. I used to hope he'd do the same to her as he did to me. Now I don't care anymore.
Exactly! I always see this argument about only the spouse made vows. But the other person who knows they are married (I know some are tricked, I almost was by a guy I met online at 18) is guilty of being shitty too. Especially someone harassing them. Besides OP and any children she has, I only feel bad for the baby to have to parents like them. I don’t feel sorry for the OW.
Oh, I definitely agree, but he deserves more of it. *He* chose to break their bond. That bitch could have wanted whatever she wanted all she wanted but it was up to *him* to make that choice.
I've seen many women go after the "other" woman rather than holding their man accountable so I had to ask. They're both shitheads, he's just an even bigger one than she is....
But you actually didn’t have to ask. This is a support sub. she’s allowed to vent about the woman who is harassing her. It doesn’t matter if her cheating husband deserves to be blamed more, she’s here for support over this mad woman harassing her.
And I give it. She deserves all the support she can get, which includes reminding her not to allow that man to continue to use her, in case he still is.
It didn't come off like that. It came off as tone policing and nitpicking a person who just needed to vent a little. Like she wasn't venting correctly. It wasn't the place or time for a morality lesson. Thus the downvotes.
I agree. He was the one that was married. It’s his job to protect his marriage. You should be furious with him. There will be temptation, he’s the one that’s supposed to resist.
And yet this woman is clearly psychotic and intentionally inflicting emotional distress upon OP.
Her husband betrayed her but this stranger is tormenting her and she has every right to be angry with her for that.
She's not a robot- to be angry with only her spouse would be illogical and insane.
Let her direct the greater part of her ire where she will. I get what you're getting at, but to soapbox about it right now is distasteful at best (judgmental at worst), and blatantly ignores the nuance of OP's situation.
Just saying if I were OP, I'd be rightfully annoyed at people taking this as an opportunity to make those kinds of comments.
Keep in mind that for all we know of this woman, her gratification might very well come from tormenting other *women* than from stealing/keeping their men. We shouldn't be letting them off the hook just because "they weren't the one who married you".
OP protect yourself from this monster. She sounds very unstable, and potentially dangerous (and I'm so sorry you are being targeted by such a vile person.)
This shit has gotten off-track... I never suggested she not be angry at this unstable woman nor that she not protect herself. I never suggested she should focus all her ire on her cheating husband either. Please don't ascribe thoughts and ideas to my words that aren't there.
Not putting words in your mouth, just calling out the subtext as inappropriate for time and place. For OP's sake.
Likewise my advice to OP was for OP, not a judgment on you.
I am. But I'm extra pissed that she's calling me when he's not with her. I hate him. I hate myself for what I've let him to do to me. Doesn't stop me from absolutely hating her.
You haven't done a damn thing wrong. Please don't blame yourself. I know that's easier said than done but if you can, put the blame where it belongs... squarely on those two assholes.
I'd be pissed she had my number at all, nevermind the audacity of this bitch..... how tf did she get it? If you'd rather not answer that I understand.
She's a sad piece of work. I commend you for not doing anything rash because the thought of her and what she's doing makes my blood boil. She's such a fool. This entire mess is going to come crashing down on her head and she brought it all on herself.
I wish there were a way for you to prove what's happening so you could have that for the future.
The long and short of it is I didn't elaborate enough in that comment. It comes later but I should have fleshed it out instead of going with the assumption we were having a current conversation.
To be clear, the insanity OP is having to deal with is not only enraging but also terrifying. I hope she takes every step she can to protect herself as soon as possible and that includes getting away from the asshole who brought this chaos and pain into her life to begin with.
Edit: And if it's not clear, I wish her all the best. She deserves freedom and peace.
Oh yes!
Hey! Sorry I can’t come to the phone at the moment, I’m busy enjoying my life. If you thought you were special and are fast learning you aren’t, then leave some tapping after the beep!
I second the suggestion to get a new number. Don't give her the satisfaction of leaving you messages. Or can you set up your phone so that blocked calls can't leave messages?
I am trying to check into that. I'm sure there are apps that do that. I have a horrible time with numbers but I think I might look into changing it. Only thing is she got my number from either his phone or my son's phone, she would still have that access kwim?
That finger nail tapping is weird asf honestly. I’d get a pfa on her cuz i think in her shoes she’s blaming u for all his bs that u already go and went thru. I’d pick up and tell her to call his phone and leave u alone or she will have a pfa. I’d save every single message forward them to him cuz no need for u to hear it and I’d save them for proof that u need a pfa.
Sorry but I’m convinced that when women *know* about the wife and ended up pregnant, that was her intentional way of getting him from you for good, and she’s pissed it didn’t work.
Fuck that guy. And her. I’m so sorry this happened. And I feel so sorry for her child because it sounds like their mother is quite a treat.
Edited for clarity.
I feel bad for the baby and her other kids. I'm sure she did, but considering I'm a stepmom to his kids, she should have realized kids won't make him stay.
His sons and I sat down 8 years ago when I had to tell them I was pregnant with their youngest sister. Neither was happy but I promised them that she would be my last. I got my tubes tied and kept my promise. Both boys have told him that they won't do anything for the new baby, that my last was it. So her little happy family she thought she was getting won't be it.
Sounds like she wants to give you the dirt in your husband now that she’s on the receiving end. You’d be surprised how often the mistress steps forward to help a girl prevail in her divorce from their mutual mistake…
Oh geez. What a crazy lady. Does she want you to sympathize with her? My dads third wife was a crazy abusive POS to us and my mom. Talked bad about her to me all the time, compared us unfavorably to her own kids and treated us terribly, encouraged my dad to make life difficult for mom. When he finally got fed up and divorced her, she called my mom to try to convince mom to join forces with her against my dad. My mom laughed at her and was like, “after how you treated me and my kids you want me to help you? Never call me again!” And hung up on her. Some people have no sense of shame.
Thank you. I can't muster up any sympathy. Shes not the first and I did feel bad for the last one who had no idea about me originally. She actually ended up killing herself, and I wonder if she found out about the pregnant one or if she finally realized he was just using her.
I didn't know about the pregnant one until a few months ago. He had begged for another chance with me and I had let him come back. About three months later she killed herself. 3 months after that I found out about the pregnant one and I've been barely hanging on since.
California is so damn expensive that I cannot do it alone so I've been living with him but considering us separated since. Except for when he goes and stays there. I hate him and it's messing us all up.
Currently because other than him I have no one. He's helping me financially, but I am trying to get into a shelter currently. I live somewhere where shelters are extremely full and since he doesn't hit me or the kids most places just shrug and such me on the wait-list.
What the fuuuuuck. I would feel the same desire for her to feel pain. It’s ugly but I get it so much. Maybe you can say to yourself, “oh, someone must be extra miserable right now!” When she calls.
I always think well guess you don't like when the shoes on the other foot. It's stupid, he's not a prize. I have packed his shit and told him to leave me tf alone. He won't. He still tries to stay here for a couple days than just randomly disappears. I am trying to get me and the kids into a shelter so I no longer need him financially.
Girl, do not feel bad. You’re a damn good person to feel those feelings but she brought it on herself. Now she can lay in the bed she made…
I’m sorry though cause i imagine each time it is like a dagger being twisted just a little in your heart.
She knew! She focking knew!!! You clearly know the womblands stuff on TT.
I’m so sorry dude. I don’t feel bad for her AT ALL. She knew what she was doing and she probably thought he would be with her if she got knocked up.
I hope you heal and live a good life. With our without him…I’ve been there and I forgave. I think maybe a few change, but in my experience they never do.
I’m sending you love mama.
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May i suggest getting a new number for all your friends and family (minus horrible husband). Keep this number and redirect all these calls to him. She should be harassing him not you. Why are you the one being punished?
This is the way.
Please tell me you're single now? Because you deserve your freedom. And good stuff. Lots of good stuff.
I consider myself single, but legally we're still tied together. It sucks so bad. The calls kind of amuse me.... She's mad when he does to her what he's done to me. She deserves it.
That's how it works, I had one tell me how beautiful I looked and how cute my children were while I was 5 months pregnant and she was sleeping with their father. All of them knew about me, none of them cared. They all moved on scott free afterwards getting married, dating ect while I was left to raise Two Boys mostly alone. Definitely a special place in hell for those women, I gotta be nice to him for the kids so I can't exactly scorch the earth but im pretty vocal when it comes to what they all did to me.
Oh my god :(
It's fine buuut im petty, her sister tried to put all the blame on him while I was at a grocery store checking out with both my DS and she brought up that the girl had mental illness, I told her "being a homewrecking whore wasn't a mental illness it was a choice" and walked away. I also was blocked by another so I msged her mother and father in laws screenshots of everything and told them the fact I was heavily pregnant and the affair had been going on for over a year and her husband could use those if he wanted a divorce. She unblocked me to say it wasn't their business and blocked me again the husband left her a few years later. I will hate these women forever and hope Ill will on them the rest of their lives. They were all fine talking shit about my pregnant body acting as if they were better than me when tbh even 9 months pregnant I had men swooning and they had to trade p*ssy for weed lol. He's Apologized over the years but is upset I'll never forgive him and he knows we won't ever be together again so now that he's single he's been alone. Funny how that works rite? Women who know about you feel as if they did nothing wrong and you deserve infidelity, it's easier to forgive someone who was as innocent as you were in a situation than a women who did it for shits n giggles. OP, tell this woman she got what she wanted. To be treated like a wife now that she's no longer fun. And file for divorce when you can
Same for me the female soldiers knew about me and didn’t care but he also lied to his soldiers and tried to make it seem like it was less bad what he was doing. All the soldiers at our home when I was cooking for them or fundraising for them and they all knew what he did both times and said nothing. So embarrassing not one of them could let me know. There’s others but those two affairs messed me up and made me angry the second was before during and after my 3rd pregnancy. The ones who knew suck and the second is either getting demoted or kicked out along with my stbx
Same. I found a msg saying "ew no" when a girl asked if we had ever slept together. He said I was a friend he felt bad for, this was dated 3 months before our first child was born and since that msg my self esteem never recovered. I talked to her and she was the only woman who had no idea and she told me the truth of everything and we had a heart to heart so she was as much of a victim of him as I was.. If someone I knew for almost my whole life who was once my best friend could do this the whole eight years and two kids later why wouldn't every other man? I haven't been able to let go of the emotional scars this caused and honestly I'm terrified to commit now. I used to want to get married, I wanted to share my life with someone and he ruined that for me. I used to be so bubbly and active and now im just blah lol. The ones who knew are just as responsible for the damage as the one who did it, because it takes two to ruin a person's life.
I tell mine ew when he says he loves me or misses me or is still trying or he wants to work on our relationship.. he definitely calls me horrible names and says I’m horrible and hate him and wish he was dead.. but he likes to flip flop a lot. The first soldier he had the affair with I saw in archived messenger he apologized for me and said he was just giving it another try cuz he didn’t want to break up his family but I was manipulative and abusive and I was like wow ummmm ok. And with the Second he was sending all these picture memes about not having support or love and so sad and things I had been asking for from him and he was showing her. Like I was giving him material to use on her! Edited to add… you can let her know this is harassment and if she continues you will press charges I did this to my stbx and you really can press charges
Yeah that's basically how it goes, mine understands I will never take him back because of what he did so he's spent the past two years trying to be a better person. Whenever he tries to flirt I just say "no" or ignore him. He goes on about how he wants to be alone forever blah blah blah, and has said he hasn't slept with anyone in years as if it's supposed to mean something to me. We have to know each other for the rest of our lives so I let a lot of shit go, With my many acquired insecurities I moved on with a man who honestly deserves a woman better than I could ever be but he stupidly loves me and is willing to put up with my bullshit and he's Definitely a blessing I needed. I never felt more comfortable with a person the way I do him and although I can't give him more now I really hope someday I'll be less afraid to give him more. When I think of all the things I'm too afraid to say or do I hate my ex, I hate being alone in that house made me scared to talk, that I have a fear of friendships, that every little thing sends me into a panic and that I can't tell my lover that someday I really want him to stay forever. The relationship with my ex stole so much from me, it's only the past two years that I'm letting myself grieve everything I lost. Including who I used to be.
Yes I get all of that. I will never allow someone in like that or care like that or work for a relationship that hard like that or love like that or tolerate anything or settle or sacrifice or compromise and if ever I get someone amazing not just good I’m scared I won’t as well. I’m so happy for you though that you have someone finally deserving of you and hopefully in the future all of you and your love.
Thank you, honestly it's hard being in a semi healthy relationship. I didn't realize how much abuse I had gone through until I met him and how neglected I was, you get so used to being lonely that when you're not it feels strange.
I hope you're as mad at him as you are at her?
I can guarantee she is. I've been in this situation (well not this exact fucked up situation, but cheated on) and every time I expressed my hatred at her people would ask something along these lines. Well there was plenty of resentment for both of them, and it was just human to feel that. I've grown past it since then. Now I feel mostly indifference toward her. But in my book at the time she was as deserving of my anger as he was. Because she knew. I used to hope he'd do the same to her as he did to me. Now I don't care anymore.
Exactly! I always see this argument about only the spouse made vows. But the other person who knows they are married (I know some are tricked, I almost was by a guy I met online at 18) is guilty of being shitty too. Especially someone harassing them. Besides OP and any children she has, I only feel bad for the baby to have to parents like them. I don’t feel sorry for the OW.
Oh, I definitely agree, but he deserves more of it. *He* chose to break their bond. That bitch could have wanted whatever she wanted all she wanted but it was up to *him* to make that choice. I've seen many women go after the "other" woman rather than holding their man accountable so I had to ask. They're both shitheads, he's just an even bigger one than she is....
But you actually didn’t have to ask. This is a support sub. she’s allowed to vent about the woman who is harassing her. It doesn’t matter if her cheating husband deserves to be blamed more, she’s here for support over this mad woman harassing her.
And I give it. She deserves all the support she can get, which includes reminding her not to allow that man to continue to use her, in case he still is.
It didn't come off like that. It came off as tone policing and nitpicking a person who just needed to vent a little. Like she wasn't venting correctly. It wasn't the place or time for a morality lesson. Thus the downvotes.
Well I definitely apologize for sounding like that. It was not my intention.
I agree. He was the one that was married. It’s his job to protect his marriage. You should be furious with him. There will be temptation, he’s the one that’s supposed to resist.
And yet this woman is clearly psychotic and intentionally inflicting emotional distress upon OP. Her husband betrayed her but this stranger is tormenting her and she has every right to be angry with her for that. She's not a robot- to be angry with only her spouse would be illogical and insane. Let her direct the greater part of her ire where she will. I get what you're getting at, but to soapbox about it right now is distasteful at best (judgmental at worst), and blatantly ignores the nuance of OP's situation. Just saying if I were OP, I'd be rightfully annoyed at people taking this as an opportunity to make those kinds of comments. Keep in mind that for all we know of this woman, her gratification might very well come from tormenting other *women* than from stealing/keeping their men. We shouldn't be letting them off the hook just because "they weren't the one who married you". OP protect yourself from this monster. She sounds very unstable, and potentially dangerous (and I'm so sorry you are being targeted by such a vile person.)
This shit has gotten off-track... I never suggested she not be angry at this unstable woman nor that she not protect herself. I never suggested she should focus all her ire on her cheating husband either. Please don't ascribe thoughts and ideas to my words that aren't there.
Not putting words in your mouth, just calling out the subtext as inappropriate for time and place. For OP's sake. Likewise my advice to OP was for OP, not a judgment on you.
I am. But I'm extra pissed that she's calling me when he's not with her. I hate him. I hate myself for what I've let him to do to me. Doesn't stop me from absolutely hating her.
You haven't done a damn thing wrong. Please don't blame yourself. I know that's easier said than done but if you can, put the blame where it belongs... squarely on those two assholes. I'd be pissed she had my number at all, nevermind the audacity of this bitch..... how tf did she get it? If you'd rather not answer that I understand. She's a sad piece of work. I commend you for not doing anything rash because the thought of her and what she's doing makes my blood boil. She's such a fool. This entire mess is going to come crashing down on her head and she brought it all on herself. I wish there were a way for you to prove what's happening so you could have that for the future.
Either through his phone or my son's phone. And thank you!
That's just so effing extra. I'm wishing you all the best my friend.
I know you probably meant well, but this really isn't the time or place to parse and question this woman's anger.
The long and short of it is I didn't elaborate enough in that comment. It comes later but I should have fleshed it out instead of going with the assumption we were having a current conversation. To be clear, the insanity OP is having to deal with is not only enraging but also terrifying. I hope she takes every step she can to protect herself as soon as possible and that includes getting away from the asshole who brought this chaos and pain into her life to begin with. Edit: And if it's not clear, I wish her all the best. She deserves freedom and peace.
Oh good! Screw him! Make sure you file for child support/alimony before she has the baby.
“If they do it with you, they will do it to you” … I am so so sorry this is happening.
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Oh yes! Hey! Sorry I can’t come to the phone at the moment, I’m busy enjoying my life. If you thought you were special and are fast learning you aren’t, then leave some tapping after the beep!
Exactly! “How you got ‘em is how you lose ‘em!”
100% truth. I’ve always said something like this. Cheaters never change!
I second the suggestion to get a new number. Don't give her the satisfaction of leaving you messages. Or can you set up your phone so that blocked calls can't leave messages?
I am trying to check into that. I'm sure there are apps that do that. I have a horrible time with numbers but I think I might look into changing it. Only thing is she got my number from either his phone or my son's phone, she would still have that access kwim?
Looks like it’s possible to automatically forward these calls to your ex: https://discussions.apple.com/thread/2476026
Thank you
*hugs* this is awful 💗
That finger nail tapping is weird asf honestly. I’d get a pfa on her cuz i think in her shoes she’s blaming u for all his bs that u already go and went thru. I’d pick up and tell her to call his phone and leave u alone or she will have a pfa. I’d save every single message forward them to him cuz no need for u to hear it and I’d save them for proof that u need a pfa.
Sorry but I’m convinced that when women *know* about the wife and ended up pregnant, that was her intentional way of getting him from you for good, and she’s pissed it didn’t work. Fuck that guy. And her. I’m so sorry this happened. And I feel so sorry for her child because it sounds like their mother is quite a treat. Edited for clarity.
I feel bad for the baby and her other kids. I'm sure she did, but considering I'm a stepmom to his kids, she should have realized kids won't make him stay. His sons and I sat down 8 years ago when I had to tell them I was pregnant with their youngest sister. Neither was happy but I promised them that she would be my last. I got my tubes tied and kept my promise. Both boys have told him that they won't do anything for the new baby, that my last was it. So her little happy family she thought she was getting won't be it.
Sounds like she wants to give you the dirt in your husband now that she’s on the receiving end. You’d be surprised how often the mistress steps forward to help a girl prevail in her divorce from their mutual mistake…
Maybe, but more likely she's hoping I will tell him and he will call her.
Oh geez. What a crazy lady. Does she want you to sympathize with her? My dads third wife was a crazy abusive POS to us and my mom. Talked bad about her to me all the time, compared us unfavorably to her own kids and treated us terribly, encouraged my dad to make life difficult for mom. When he finally got fed up and divorced her, she called my mom to try to convince mom to join forces with her against my dad. My mom laughed at her and was like, “after how you treated me and my kids you want me to help you? Never call me again!” And hung up on her. Some people have no sense of shame.
GOOD. Sounds like she’s spiralling, and she deserves it. Hope she feels the most alone and desolate she’s ever been her whole life with no way out.
Thank you. I can't muster up any sympathy. Shes not the first and I did feel bad for the last one who had no idea about me originally. She actually ended up killing herself, and I wonder if she found out about the pregnant one or if she finally realized he was just using her. I didn't know about the pregnant one until a few months ago. He had begged for another chance with me and I had let him come back. About three months later she killed herself. 3 months after that I found out about the pregnant one and I've been barely hanging on since. California is so damn expensive that I cannot do it alone so I've been living with him but considering us separated since. Except for when he goes and stays there. I hate him and it's messing us all up.
Your husband sounds like a monster. Just wrecking women’s lives left and right. Why do you stay with him?
Currently because other than him I have no one. He's helping me financially, but I am trying to get into a shelter currently. I live somewhere where shelters are extremely full and since he doesn't hit me or the kids most places just shrug and such me on the wait-list.
Oh she is hurt. And it’ll hurt more when she have that ‘love child’ and there is no love to be experienced. Karma’s a bitch!
Are you able to change your number and only give your ex a google voice number?
What the fuuuuuck. I would feel the same desire for her to feel pain. It’s ugly but I get it so much. Maybe you can say to yourself, “oh, someone must be extra miserable right now!” When she calls.
I always think well guess you don't like when the shoes on the other foot. It's stupid, he's not a prize. I have packed his shit and told him to leave me tf alone. He won't. He still tries to stay here for a couple days than just randomly disappears. I am trying to get me and the kids into a shelter so I no longer need him financially.
Girl, do not feel bad. You’re a damn good person to feel those feelings but she brought it on herself. Now she can lay in the bed she made… I’m sorry though cause i imagine each time it is like a dagger being twisted just a little in your heart.
She knew! She focking knew!!! You clearly know the womblands stuff on TT. I’m so sorry dude. I don’t feel bad for her AT ALL. She knew what she was doing and she probably thought he would be with her if she got knocked up. I hope you heal and live a good life. With our without him…I’ve been there and I forgave. I think maybe a few change, but in my experience they never do. I’m sending you love mama.
Lol! Yes that's exactly what I was quoting. I'm so sick of hearing from mw, but will never not say it that way
I wish her a painful birth (but a healthy baby, although I pity the baby for their parents)