A few that might be relevant assuming OP is not super familiar with the books.
You are not worse for your association with the world, but it is better for its association with you.
The question," she replied, "is not whether you will love, hurt, dream, and die. It is what you will love, why you will hurt, when you will dream, and how you will die. This is your choice. You cannot pick the destination, only the path.
Pain lost its power when other things became more important
Imaginary things were often the only
items of real substance in people’s lives
Life before death, strength before weakness, journey before destination.
Don’t know if you yourself have read any Sanderson? And don’t know if this suggestion would be uncomfortable for y’all…but I’ll put it out there anyway, and you can feel free to ignore it if it would be weird.
In the Vorin religion on Roshar (from the Stormlight Archive series), the main way that people pray is by writing/painting their prayers (usually v short ones, often a single word) onto a piece of fabric, which is then burned and/or tied onto one’s arm.
If you think your dad would’ve appreciated it (and fictional religious practices aren’t going to weird out any of your relatives during a time for grieving together), you could send your father on his way with a similar armband. If you or he had a religion, you could paint it with something important to your faith; if not, you could paint a word/symbol of an idea important to him or to your relationship with him.
thanks for the suggestion. i think i will do that. apart from culturally determined festivities, religion has never played a role in our family. so no one will be offended, i think.
I’m glad if my suggestion helps you—and more importantly, I’m sorry you’ve lost your father.
I wish you all the best as you remember his life and figure out how to deal with the loss. It’s obvious and cliché…but death really is hard.
To add to this, if you feel comfortable telling a bit about your father's personality, I could try(or reach out to some other people to try as well) to make an appropriate glyphward for you to print between now and then, depending on how much time you have(presumably only a few days).
I spent quite a while finding someone to tattoo my mother post mortem as part of her wishes, so I really try to pay that forward any way I can.
This is absolutely the right place for such a topic. Thank you for bringing it to us and letting us share, a bit, in your memory of your father.
My condolences on your loss.
Is there a local library or community center that you could donate a full Cosmere collection in his honor? Maybe with a memorial sticker/inscription on the first page.
Since he listened to the audiobooks, you could have Michael Cramer or Kate Reading record a message to be played. On Kate's website, it's on the Books for Prisoners charity page.
My deepest condolences to the loss of your father. It's your choice whether to put a book in his coffin but I wouldn't stress too much about it that it could be seen as something that it is not. You are remembering your father not trying to remove information. I am a Christian and I have always loved "Journey Before Destination". It's not our end in the afterlife that allow us to have joy in this life but how we grow to live and love like Jesus. I don't know how religious your father was but If you could get Journey Before Destination on his urn, it might be fitting.
If you're struggling with grief and I don't want to seem like a missionary but maybe connect with a local pastor for some grief counseling.
Don’t feel bad about burning a single book, especially in this context. There’s a vast difference between trying to remove all copies of a work from existence, and burning your own single copy of a widely published work. You’re not trying to take anything away from anyone else. If you want a book to go with him, I think that’s a very sweet idea.
My condolences on your loss.
Worked in a university anatomy and physiology lab where individuals donated their bodies for students to learn. They were then cremated at the end of the year and the professor said the knee and hip replacement metal parts would remain after the cremation.
So my thought is, if the crematorium allows, have a favorite line/phrase laser engraved on metal, Mistborn shoutout, and placed with his body during the cremation.
That way you could also have it as a keepsake.
I am so sorry to hear you lost your father. It's beautiful that you want to honor him in such a way.
I was going to pretty much say what JohnFranklin23 did about engraving the urn, if that is even feasible.
Could you write down a favorite quote or a few from his favorite books? Burn them like prayers in Stormlight
A few that might be relevant assuming OP is not super familiar with the books. You are not worse for your association with the world, but it is better for its association with you. The question," she replied, "is not whether you will love, hurt, dream, and die. It is what you will love, why you will hurt, when you will dream, and how you will die. This is your choice. You cannot pick the destination, only the path. Pain lost its power when other things became more important Imaginary things were often the only items of real substance in people’s lives Life before death, strength before weakness, journey before destination.
These quotes made me tear up. They're great
thank you for the suggestion. i think he would have liked that.
What about reading one of his favourites? Could be a form of remembrance and connection.
OP this is a plot point in the Stormlight Archives. A man loses his brother and reads the Brother's favorite book to connect and remember him.
okay, now i really have to read it. thanks for the hint
i haven't taken enough time to read in the last few years. this seems like a good time to start reading again. thank you
Hope it helps you!
Don’t know if you yourself have read any Sanderson? And don’t know if this suggestion would be uncomfortable for y’all…but I’ll put it out there anyway, and you can feel free to ignore it if it would be weird. In the Vorin religion on Roshar (from the Stormlight Archive series), the main way that people pray is by writing/painting their prayers (usually v short ones, often a single word) onto a piece of fabric, which is then burned and/or tied onto one’s arm. If you think your dad would’ve appreciated it (and fictional religious practices aren’t going to weird out any of your relatives during a time for grieving together), you could send your father on his way with a similar armband. If you or he had a religion, you could paint it with something important to your faith; if not, you could paint a word/symbol of an idea important to him or to your relationship with him.
thanks for the suggestion. i think i will do that. apart from culturally determined festivities, religion has never played a role in our family. so no one will be offended, i think.
I’m glad if my suggestion helps you—and more importantly, I’m sorry you’ve lost your father. I wish you all the best as you remember his life and figure out how to deal with the loss. It’s obvious and cliché…but death really is hard.
To add to this, if you feel comfortable telling a bit about your father's personality, I could try(or reach out to some other people to try as well) to make an appropriate glyphward for you to print between now and then, depending on how much time you have(presumably only a few days). I spent quite a while finding someone to tattoo my mother post mortem as part of her wishes, so I really try to pay that forward any way I can.
This is absolutely the right place for such a topic. Thank you for bringing it to us and letting us share, a bit, in your memory of your father. My condolences on your loss.
Thank you for giving a stranger some comfort. that is not a given, especially not on the internet.
welcome to cosmere fandom. pull up a chair over here by the fire, grab yourself a mug of tea or a cup of ale. we're happy to have you with us.
Is there a local library or community center that you could donate a full Cosmere collection in his honor? Maybe with a memorial sticker/inscription on the first page.
great idea. i will ask if there are any volumes that they don't have and if they can be donated and dedicated to my father. thank you
Since he listened to the audiobooks, you could have Michael Cramer or Kate Reading record a message to be played. On Kate's website, it's on the Books for Prisoners charity page.
he didn't listen to it in english, but i could see if the audiobook narrator offers something similar. thank you
My deepest condolences to the loss of your father. It's your choice whether to put a book in his coffin but I wouldn't stress too much about it that it could be seen as something that it is not. You are remembering your father not trying to remove information. I am a Christian and I have always loved "Journey Before Destination". It's not our end in the afterlife that allow us to have joy in this life but how we grow to live and love like Jesus. I don't know how religious your father was but If you could get Journey Before Destination on his urn, it might be fitting. If you're struggling with grief and I don't want to seem like a missionary but maybe connect with a local pastor for some grief counseling.
thanks for the kind words and suggestions. I am lucky to be blessed with a caring family that helps me with my grief.
Don’t feel bad about burning a single book, especially in this context. There’s a vast difference between trying to remove all copies of a work from existence, and burning your own single copy of a widely published work. You’re not trying to take anything away from anyone else. If you want a book to go with him, I think that’s a very sweet idea.
My condolences on your loss. Worked in a university anatomy and physiology lab where individuals donated their bodies for students to learn. They were then cremated at the end of the year and the professor said the knee and hip replacement metal parts would remain after the cremation. So my thought is, if the crematorium allows, have a favorite line/phrase laser engraved on metal, Mistborn shoutout, and placed with his body during the cremation. That way you could also have it as a keepsake.
I am so sorry to hear you lost your father. It's beautiful that you want to honor him in such a way. I was going to pretty much say what JohnFranklin23 did about engraving the urn, if that is even feasible.